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[The Art of Fluid Friendship: Alexis Ren and Ali Michelle on Evolution and Growth]-[Alexis Ren & Allie Michelle: 3 Ways to Stop Putting a Guard up in Love & Why You Need to Change Your Mindset On What Success Means in Dating]

On Purpose with Jay Shetty · B2 · 2024-08-12

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The Power of Fluid and Evolving Friendships

In this episode of On Purpose, host Jay Shetty welcomes guests Alexis Ren and Ali Michelle to discuss the profound nature of their lifelong friendship, the founding of their wellness community "We Are Warriors," and the importance of allowing personal growth within relationships. The conversation serves as a masterclass on how to maintain deep, meaningful connections while navigating the inevitable changes that life demands.

The Origin of a Lifelong Bond

Alexis Ren, a prominent entrepreneur and mental health advocate, and Ali Michelle, a best-selling author and holistic therapist, share a "super-secretistic" origin story. Meeting at the tender age of 11, their bond transcended typical childhood playmates when Alexis’s mother passed away. Ali’s family stepped in and essentially adopted Alexis, cementing a connection that moved beyond friendship into the realm of family. This shared trauma and subsequent healing process became the bedrock of their relationship, teaching them how to communicate through the "hardest way possible."

Embracing Fluidity and Avoiding Labels

One of the most striking takeaways from their discussion is the concept of "fluid friendship." Both women emphasize that they never held each other "hostage to a specific version" of themselves. While Alexis pursued a traditional path in Hollywood and Ali focused on travel and holistic healing, they never judged one another’s choices.

Alexis humorously notes their complementary dynamic: "I’ll take care of our outsides and she takes care of our insides." This division of labor, paired with a refusal to box one another into rigid labels, allowed them to grow independently. They highlight that society often forces people into binary categories, but their success stems from the fact that they never tried to "change one another."

Navigating Triggers and Growth

Jay Shetty brings up the difficulty of allowing others to evolve, noting that humans often have a "resistance to other people growing." Alexis and Ali agree that they frequently "trigger each other" due to their differing personalities. However, they possess the wisdom to recognize these triggers not as threats, but as opportunities to move "through that ego and then into the growth part."

Their philosophy is rooted in the idea that if they disagree, they state their truth immediately: "I disagree with you, but I absolutely respect your decision." This radical honesty, combined with a shared devotion to a "North Star" that is bigger than their individual egos, allows their relationship to remain resilient. They cite the wisdom of long-term couples, noting that a successful partnership—whether platonic or romantic—requires recognizing that the person you are with is constantly transforming.

We Are Warriors: A Legacy of Healing

Their collaboration, We Are Warriors, stands as a testament to their growth. Born from a desire to be the "big sister mentors" they themselves needed, the community focuses on fostering self-growth and strength for women. By guiding others through their own subconscious patterns, Alexis and Ali have turned their personal healing journeys into a tool for others. As Alexis notes, the community is essentially a "love letter" to her mother, integrating the holistic health practices—like meditation and breathwork—that were so instrumental in their own development.

Conclusion

Ultimately, Alexis and Ali demonstrate that the secret to enduring relationships is not stagnation, but the active support of each other's evolution. By prioritizing honest communication and refusing to hold one another to outdated versions of themselves, they have created a partnership that is both grounded in history and open to the future.

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