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Hey friends, it's Rosie here.
Welcome back to Radio Headspace.
The other day I was sitting at my dining table surrounded by papers highlighters, half-open notebooks and at least three different to-do lists competing for attention.
I had just gotten back from New York.
We were there for the premiere of a docuseries I was an associate producer on called Balance.
A project about perimenopause that means a lot to me.
We'd done press, panels, interviews.
I'd been on for days.
At the same time, I was in the thick of midterms.
Clinical work patients, emails you know the usual layering of responsibilities that somehow all decide to peak at once.
Now, I don't know about you, but I've always heard you seem really tired, as a polite way of saying you look terrible.
I laughed it off and said, I'm fine.
It was automatic, immediate, zero pause, just, I'm fine.
But the truth was, I wasn't fine.
I was stretched.
I was proud and overwhelmed at the same time.
I was grateful and tired, capable and worn down.
And instead of me saying any of that, I defaulted to the socially acceptable script, I'm fine.
Being real sounds simple, until it isn't.
There's something about admitting we're tired that feels like weakness.
There's something about saying I'm overwhelmed that feels like failure, right?
I've noticed how often I use fine as a bridge word, not a lie, exactly.
I think it's more a survival mechanism, a way for me to keep things moving, you know?
To avoid discomfort, mine or someone else's.
That afternoon after my friend left, I noticed how heavy my body felt.
My shoulders were tight.
My eyes were burning.
My nervous system was still buzzing from New York, while my brain was trying to memorize clinical frameworks, and underneath All of that was a simple truth that I hadn't said out loud.
I'm tired.
Psychology has a term for when our inner experience doesn't match our outer expression.
It's called emotional incongruence.
And over time, that mismatch wears on us.
Being real isn't about oversharing.
It's about alignment.
It's about letting what's true inside of us exist without immediately editing into something more acceptable.
That night I tried something small.
Instead of pushing through, I sat for a moment and said quietly, I'm tired.
And it makes sense.
Not, I shouldn't be tired.
Not, other people have it harder.
Just, I'm tired.
And something softened.
Because being real doesn't demand action.
It demands acknowledgement.
Sometimes being real sounds like I'm proud and I'm exhausted.
Sometimes it sounds like this is a lot.
Sometimes it sounds like I don't have to prove anything right now.
The paradox is this.
When we're real with ourselves, we become safer for others.
If I had said to my friend, yeah, I'm tired.
It's been a lot.
That would have invited connection instead of performance.
It's noticing when you default to fine and gently ask what's actually there.
So here's something you can try today.
At some point, maybe when someone asks you how you are, maybe when you're alone, pause for just a breath.
Ask yourself, what am I actually feeling right now?
Not what's appropriate, not what's efficient, but what's true.
Name it silently.
Tired, excited, overwhelmed, content, lonely, grateful.
And let that be enough.
You don't have to fix it.
You don't even have to explain it.
You just have to allow it.
Because being real isn't about being dramatic.
It's about being present.
And if you're looking for some extra guidance, check out the mindful activity.
Honor your authentic self in the app.
That's it for today, friends.
If you enjoyed today's episode, you can find me on Instagram at Rosie Acosta.
If you've ever said, I'm fine, when you really weren't, you're in good company.
Maybe today we practice telling the truth, at least for ourselves.
I'll see you back here soon.
