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Welcome to the A to Z English Podcast. My name is Jack and I'm here with my co-host
social and today we have a topic talk I believe.
And this is the tuna fish sandwich debate.
And social, I have no idea what this means. Please enlighten me.
Jack, I came across this and it's kind of popular amongst American
netizens in the group that I found. So a girl was commenting
about how she gave her money to go buy a cheese sandwich
with all of the fixings, which for Arlesons you don't know means you know
lettuce, tomato, mayonnaise, whatever.
And she very specifically said she wanted that
ham and cheese sandwich. So he went to subway. She gave him money
for both of their sandwiches. And I believe she wasn't feeling well or
something. So anyway, he went alone. So he went and bought a sandwich
and he bought himself something different. And then he bought her a tuna fish
salad sandwich, which he also likes. But he knows she doesn't like tuna
and she doesn't really eat tuna. But he likes tuna.
And he brought her the sandwich and told her that he brought her the tuna fish
sandwich because he just wanted her to try his favorite sandwich even
though he got himself something different as well. So the commenters were
divided on whether she should be grateful. And she was actually saying she was
grateful anyway, but that it kind of annoyed her. But she ended up feeling grateful
that he went and got the sandwiches. Or if she should be upset
that he got her something she didn't ask for with her money that he liked that
he knew that she wouldn't really like. So what do you think, Jack?
Yeah, this one is this is very, here's an expression
sus like suspect. Suspect. Yeah. Yeah. Suspect.
To me, it's like weird or kind of suspicious. That's what it's suspicious.
Suspect. Suspect. Suspect. Suspect. Suspect.
This reminds me of an episode of the Simpsons
where Homer buys Marge a bowling ball
for her birthday that is exactly like
sized for his hand and his fingers. So basically he buys her a present
that she will never use and doesn't want and that he wants and that he will use.
And she is supposed to be grateful for that.
And this is like this is just pure manipulation.
You know, like this is just this guy wants to eat all of the sandwiches
and he's got his sandwich that he bought for himself.
And then he knows that she's not going to eat the tuna sandwich because she
doesn't like tuna. And he's trying to frame it as like I'm
it's like it's it's it's it's just it's like kind of like a gaslighting
almost like like I'm I'm giving you the exact opposite of what you want
and and make and and you're enforcing you to say thank you for
for me doing it's just like it's it's awful. I mean it's it's in the grand scheme
of things it's not a big deal it's just a sandwich
but I would be you know greatly annoyed and I know my wife would be really
annoyed if she told me I want this sandwich and then I showed up with a
totally different sandwich containing an ingredient that I know she doesn't like
and then saying oh but this is my favorite sandwich you got to try it
it's like well then why don't you buy that your favorite sandwich for yourself
and give her some of yours and buy her the sandwich that she wants
like that's what and a dog would do this is what a child would do is what this
guy did so she's married she's not married or she's dating a
a child not a not a man yeah yeah okay good we're on the same side of this
debate a lot of men in the comments were saying
wait because he went and got the sandwiches but what did change to you if he
if he was buying it with his own money
no it wouldn't it wouldn't change because like again like
she she specifically asked for a sandwich a ham and cheese sandwich
and you're showing up with a tuna sandwich it's like
you know kind of like if I ask you to buy me an americano
and you show up with a macchiato or something it's like
oh no I didn't want the you know extra 300 calories of sugar or whatever I
just wanted a plane americano it's just it's just it's kind of like I guess the
the sandwich is irrelevant it's more of like are you listening to your partner
are you you know are you paying attention and are you do you understand
their wants and needs and desires and are you putting those
desires above your own desires to have basically two sandwiches and she has
none you know I mean that's the that's the the manipulation here it's like
it's like a scheme I'm gonna find a way to eat my sandwich and your sandwich
and you're gonna like it you know like you're gonna say
it's it's like it's twisted it's it's it's diabolical you know I know and the
crazy thing to me is that I I bet he had his wallet on him and he could have
just put on himself an extra tuna sandwich with his money
sure and gotten her what she wanted but he was like nah I'm gonna use her own
money especially it's like to get myself something I want
but I agree with you I don't think it would have changed regardless like it's
like if someone asks you because especially when you're in a long-term
partnership and especially if you get married and stuff
usually it becomes both of your money right so it doesn't really matter it's
just it comes down to are you listening to the person do you care about what
they want or are you a selfish you know jerk
behold yeah exactly why yeah why can't you why can't you buy your
girlfriend a sandwich when she's not feeling well
it's like come on dude yeah selecting money from your girlfriend I mean that
that really tells everything that says everything that needs that I need to know
right there is that the guys took the money from her and not only that but
he's gonna buy himself a sandwich with her money it's like
sorry sorry lady but you you have this guy is not a keeper you know throw
this one back as there's plenty of fish in the sea yeah
yeah it's funny because you actually said oh yeah he was sweet to get me food
so like he gets a pass I was like well how how many miles did he walk to get
the sandwich what I'm in that situation is make the person go either one
yeah I mean if he drove then I can I would just that I wanted or you're giving him
that money back pay for sandwiches that I don't want
yeah no I'm I'm yeah I'm I think she should have
she should have been annoyed with him I don't know how angry your can get
over a sandwich I don't think you should start world war three you know in the
relationship but it's just like another little it's saying another little
little like sign that this guy's a total loser you know that's that's what I
have that's the way I interpret it and I'm sure there's probably a million
other ways that he's a kind of a loser in that relationship as well so I'm
curious to know what you would have done if you had been on the receiving end
of getting a sandwich you didn't want like would would you make the person go
back how would you ask for your money back or would or would you call them out
or would you lightly say thank you and in your mind that's that's an
interesting point that loser I got to cut them loose when it comes to me there
is no sandwich then I don't like so you know I'll eat anything at any time
you know it could be a horse meat you know sandwich I probably eat it you know
and I wouldn't say anything yeah it's not it doesn't the situation doesn't fit
well with me because there's nothing on the subway menu that I wouldn't eat
maybe if I got a vegetarian sandwich it should be like a little disappointed but
still eat it you know I wouldn't complain you know but in this case I think she
should be slightly annoyed because he's trying to be manipulative you know
and it's obvious and he's trying to get her to actively participate in the
manipulation and be like you know be grateful for a trick that he's pulling on
her so you know I just I don't appreciate the I mean I appreciate the effort on
his part to try to get away with this in a twisted way I kind of appreciate it
but but I hope that she sees through it and it doesn't fall for the
the silliness of this of this guy's excuse he's right right yeah so this wouldn't fly
with you and what would you do would you send the person back for a sandwich would
you ask for your money back or would you just quietly accept it yeah leave a
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