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Get started at betterment .com investing involves risk performance not guaranteed From the New York Times this is the interview.
I'm David Marchesi In Bill Murray's new movie the friend which is based on a great novel by sacred Nunez He plays Walter Walter's best friends with Iris played by Naomi watts Through a surprising course of events Iris winds up having to take in Walters Great Dane And by the way, Iris lives alone in a modest apartment in Manhattan, so not exactly ideal for a dog the size of a small horse and not exactly nice of Walter.
Like so many of Murray's late career characters, Walter is funny and charismatic, but he's also kind of a jerk.
He's resentful and self -centered, and he's caused some real damage.
Now I'm a huge Bill Murray fan, and I sometimes imagine those more recent roles as kind of like alternate world versions of the the comedy characters that made him a superstar.
Because Peter Venkman in Ghostbusters or Phil Connors in Groundhog Day depict just two examples, and they could be selfish and even cruel, but in the end they always get away with it.
Maybe this is a little too much cosmic thinking on my part, but it's almost as if latter -day Bill Murray characters are suffering the karmic payback owed to his earlier ones.
That tension between being beloved and leaving damage behind him is something that's come up in Murray's off -screen life too.
Just a few years ago in 2022, he was alleged to have behaved inappropriately with a female staff member on the set of the film, Being Mortal.
She said that he straddled her and kissed her through masks, which they were both wearing as part of COVID protocols.
The production was shut down and eventually they reached a settlement.
And further back, directors and co -stars like Gina Davis, Lucy Liu, Richard Dreyfuss and Harold Ramis, have said Murray was, to put it lightly, not always the easiest to work with.
So how do all these sides of Bill Murray fit together?
Well, at a hotel in Manhattan, accompanied by my producer Annabelle and a publicist named Charlie, I got a chance to find out.
Here's my interview with Bill Murray.
I'm David, nice to meet you, how are you?
I'm good, thank you.
You know this is going to last 60 to 90 minutes?
I did, yeah. This is Annabelle.
Hi Annabelle, I'm Bill.
Are we on TV or is it just talking?
Just talking. Oh, good.
Got a coffee for you.
All right, you guys want anything?
They asked you if you want a cocktail.
You want a cocktail?
I'll look inside. I'm just moving stuff.
Yes it is. Please have a seat at the table.
and I will just adjust this, to keep you comfortable?
We were just on the dog -ist. Oh, I don't know about that.
I didn't either until this week, which is, I don't know if it's a podcast, a TV show or a scam, but there's a guy that walks around with TV cameras and takes pictures of dogs on the street and films it and says, can I take a picture of your dog?
And starts talking to the dog owner and gets all this information and all this life about people on the street and their dog and how they live with their dog.
What kind of dog it is.
That seems nice. Yeah.
It was pretty cool actually.
Yeah. Would it be helpful if I gave you a little spiel at the beginning, like about what we're doing?
Do you feel like you need some - A spiel.
A spiel, yeah. A spiel.
Give me a spiel. So this is for the New York Times where we have a recurring feature we call the interview.
I know you're doing this at the end of a long, tiring, probably, kind of tedious day.
So I appreciate that you're doing it.
It's okay, I can do it.
I mean, we're just talking.
We're just talking.
It's not like I gotta work.
I don't have to get particularly dressed up.
I'm sorry, what's your name?
Annabelle. Annabelle, I'm sorry.
I'm bad on names. That's all right.
Okay, you don't want, like, cookies or anything like that?
Do you want a drink?
Would you be more comfortable?
No, no, no. Okay, you're good.
Would you like a drink?
You know, I kind of, but I don't want to bother anyone.
Hey, Charlie. What kind of drink do you like to have at this time of day?
Do you want some, like...
Why not? It's just we three, four, But we can make Charlie drink too.
Maybe like an Old -Fashioned?
That's my second. If he can make a lion's tail, is it a real bartender kind of guy?
We don't know. I'll take an Old -Fashioned after if he can't make a lion's tail just because that's my name.
Yeah. It's a bourbon drink also.
So we're going to be the same ballpark.
All right, perfect.
Annabelle. Are we ready to start?
First, can you tell me what's in a lion's tail?
We just ordered drinks.
It has simple syrup, least important.
It has lime. It has Jamaican dram.
And it has bourbon.
And it's cold, it makes it cold.
Sounds good. It's tasty.
You know, at the at the times earlier today, your costar in The Friend, the dog, was in the building getting its photo taken Well, he is a striking dog.
He's 150 pounds, he's a great Dane, his name is Bing, Bing, and he lives in Iowa, about 40 miles from Des Moines.
After a nationwide search, he was chosen as the dog of the moment.
He was not wearing a tight sweater or anything, he was just the most capable dog.
He was an extremely well -trained dog.
and beautiful to look at, of course.
And he's magnificent.
I think you only have one or maybe two scenes with Bing in the movie.
But I felt like even in that brief time onscreen, it looked to me like you kind of got a kick out of the dog, and in a weird way it reminded me of, bear with me, of Larger Than Life, the movie in which you co -starred with an elephant, And then not to insult children, but I then watched, re -watched What About Bob?
And there's a dinner scene and it looks like you're just enjoying making the kids laugh.
And it made me wonder, what's fun about working with sort of non -professional actors or unseasoned actors?
Okay, that's a good, hard question.
And I gotta drink a little coffee before I try to answer that, let's see.
Well, the elephant and the dog are unusual in that they're consistent.
They have their nature and that is it.
They're in their nature all the time.
So the elephant I had an extraordinary time with, and I always say, it's the only coaster I ever cried over when I left. I gave her a bath with a hose and I cried like a baby because she was the most beautiful co -star I ever had, the smartest co -star I ever had, and the only one I miss.
She was extraordinary and incredibly intelligent, unbelievably amazing.
You could sense the intelligence.
Absolutely. Absolutely, where you kinda go like, uh -oh, just the one on four legs is ahead of me.
So that's a challenge to show up.
Every time I'd look at that animal, I would be reminded like, well, Ty's being Ty, why don't you try and be Bill and see if you get it going?
Let's go. It was like that with her and with the dog, with Bing, the same thing.
If something happened to you, if something actually occurred to you, and it happens in the movie where things happen, scenes take place, and you see the dog react to it.
I get when I first saw the first cut of it, I said, are you kidding?
Is this dog like Stanislavski?
How the hell is this dog doing this?
It was crazy. The dog actually, come on in, it's an emergency.
So, um, it was kind of, it was fun for me to be meeting the dog because I was really meeting the dog.
So I was being authentic anyway.
I wasn't being like trying to be a certain way to get the dog to behave a certain way.
I was actually meeting the dog.
Well, cheers. Cheers.
We just have some drinks here.
I hope our bosses don't care about this.
Wait. Can I ask maybe a bit of a question that comes at kind of an angle to what we were just talking about, but when you're talking about being and the elephant whose name was...
Ty. Ty, and how they play the scene and how they're sort of consistent.
When you are in a scene with a human, are you also looking for consistency from the person in that scene, or what are you looking for?
No, I know that sounds like how could you like it in an animal and not a human?
My greatest fear or one thing I'd try to not exactly forbid but try to avoid is, in a movie you do a bunch of takes, you try it a few times, and you do it differently because either you didn't like it or there was a mistake made, an error the cameraman must change the light, something different.
You do it sometimes you can do it just to get into the feel of it takes you a few to get going.
I feel like the way I was taught or educated as an actor was there's a sense of play and you can't possibly recreate that moment that just happened a minute ago.
Why try? I'm puzzled by people that wish to recreate that performance that just happened a minute ago.
I want something brand new.
This is the one that counts because this is the one we're in.
This is where we are.
I mean, I want you to show up is what I want you to - That's the consistency I want.
I want you to really be in your own skin, and me and my skin.
So we're both doing our best. You're always trying to, my brother, Brian described it well as actors don't really compete.
They just say that has an ugly feel to it competing, But how about if I go here, can you match that and go here and can you go here?
You keep elevating the scene and you keep adding more dynamics to it.
More color, more energy, just different kinds of energy.
You just keep trying to play a game and you get to a level where it's really great, and then you're seeing a great exchange between a couple of actors.
When did you realize you were good at improvising and being in the moment?
Well, I'm not the best improviser.
I mean, I can do things, but there are people that the real games of improvisation, I never really went as deeply into that as some people.
There were people even back in Second City that were far better than I was.
I was never great improviser, but I could do something.
and I could do something.
And I don't know what your question is anymore.
I got lost in the tunnel.
Sorry. When did you realize you were good at doing something?
I started talking about Second City because I did have a moment at Second City.
I had a moment on the stage where I set a line, I spoke a line or I played part of a scene.
And at that moment, I've said, that was good.
That was as good as people do.
At that moment, I could do this for a living.
I knew I was good enough to do it for a living.
Do you remember what the moment was?
Nope. But something clicked.
But I remember the moment.
That's the key is that that's when I went, okay, I can do this.
I can relax, not relax, just relax, but I can also go for it now.
And I can really dedicate myself to it.
And my understanding was on Friday or something, you were in Japan for a baseball game or something?
well I wasn't playing but yeah I was there.
You weren't playing, you know.
And now we're here in New York and then tomorrow you're going to Austin to play with your band.
And yesterday I was in Raleigh, at the NCAA basketball game.
Which game are you at?
It was UConn and Florida.
Hell of a game. Hell of a game.
It may have been the national championship game.
Yeah. And this is all related to the idea of sort of being present and in the moment.
So, learning that you, Bill Murray, were just sort of gallivanting around, it fits in with this idea of you as a guy who's following his bliss, wherever that leads.
What are the ways in which being present and open in life are different or similar to being present and open as a performer?
Is it all the same game?
It's absolutely, I think it's absolutely the same game.
And for me, I shouldn't say the luxury, but the bliss of it is that my job is a strong reminder of that being present thing.
I can, you know, bamboozle my way through a day or miss a day or blow a day or waste a day, but when I go to work, I know that there's gonna be a document that says, this is where this character was?
Was he here or was he not there?
It's going to be like a deposition.
You have to swear to tell the truth the whole time, is this real?
This is going to be proof.
It's going to be proof of how much I showed up.
It's lucky that I have that job because I don't know how often I'd be doing it.
You mentioned this gallivanting thing, I'm very much aware of the Carly Simon song, You're So Vain.
Whereas she says, you charted a lirjet in Nova Scotia to see the total eclipse of the sun. Someone that she's describing is like a pompous ass.
I think, okay, how do you say, well, I'm going to go to Tokyo and then to Raleigh, and then to New York, and then to Texas?
and not be just like a tumbleweed that's just like trying to have all these different experiences and has no ground.
So how do you do it?
Well, some of the things I actually have to do well.
Some of the things I have to do well, I can tell myself, okay, as long as I know that when I go here, I will be forced to make an effort to show to reenter my body as much as possible, to be what, you know, people nowadays call present, you know.
So I don't feel like...
I could feel like a total twit doing all those things, but if I work hard, I don't feel that way.
Did you always have the desire or maybe it's a need to have that sense of presence or is that something you consciously...
No, I didn't always have it.
No. I didn't always have it.
So where does it come from?
Not consciously. I mean, I may have wanted to, sort of, express yourself as yourself and be sort of unique or your own thing.
But I never thought of being that way until I had a little bit more understanding about what that way might be.
Some sort of way of living where it's not all exterior, there's an interior.
I know a couple people who lost parents fairly early and you lost your dad at 17.
And I think for them, it set them on a direction, you know, where they realized there's certain things they want from life.
Do you think your dad's passing put you on a particular path?
Yeah, I do. I think I had two events in my life.
That was one, and the other one, which I wasn't completely aware of when I was young, was when I was about four or so, my younger sister contracted polio.
And I wasn't kind of aware of what was happening, but all of a sudden, you really become like, not exactly an afterthought, But you're not like the you're not the primary worry anymore at that point.
I was already the fifth child so somehow some part of me realized Okay, this is Something's got it.
I I'm kind of I gotta really get going here So I learned to read when I was four I remember fighting over the comics with my brothers going you can't even read night and then I proceeded to read all the comics Tony It's like oh So then did he give you the comic then I had the comics.
But, so then I became, I had to sort of like start operating.
I had a great birthday when I was five.
I got like a Davy Crockett bicycle with a rifle sheath and a rifle that came with it that loaded on the frame of the bike.
It had saddle bags.
I got a Coonskin cap, I got a Cubs jacket, and a Cubs hat, a baseball, and a bat.
I never had another birthday until I was 13.
That was the end of that.
That was the moment where I had to do that.
Then when I was 17, when my father died, that was another thing where there went a family income.
Whatever life we were with nine kids by that point was going to be even more crimped, you know, because there just wasn't gonna be, you know, kind of really money for college and things like that.
And even though I was smart enough, I never studied ever, you know, couldn't make myself.
So I had to sort of figure out how to get by in life.
You know, so, And there are all these urban legend stories that I'm sure you're familiar with, of you know, you showing up and playing kickball with on Roosevelt Island or, you know, commandeering a golf cart in Scandinavia somewhere.
Or there's the one where people said you would come up behind him on the street, put your hands over their eyes, and then when they turn around, you tell them no one will ever believe you.
And I realized in preparing for this interview that those stories don't seem to pop up anymore.
And I wondered if you...
did you stop doing that sort of stuff?
Did you change your behavior?
Did the world change and it felt less fun to do?
Did it start to become the expected thing?
Well, that's a really good question because that legend thing is now preceding me.
It's now all around and I don't know if any of these things are legendary, truly legendary, but I'm probably a little bit tentative about the same nature of engagement a little bit.
But I don't feel like I'm afraid to go outdoors.
Like I was out in Tokyo the other night and I thought to myself.
You know, if this were America, I'd be really conscious about some idiot like making this a YouTube thing.
But I just thought, this is really fun, I'm having fun.
So it was good for me to go back to Tokyo.
I hadn't been back there since I made the movie in Tokyo.
Lots of translation.
One of the reasons I went back from the baseball game was an excuse to get back and I reconnected with some friends that I'd made back there and I was very happy to do that.
What sort of memories kicked up for you in Tokyo?
What kind of memories from the old days?
You obviously went back there to feel something.
Well, I went back there and crashed into these couple of guys that I knew back then that were the Kings, the Wizards of Tokyo back then, and still are.
They still are and still having an amazing amount of fun.
The second night, I just went to the one fellas place who's like a known wizard. What do you mean wizard?
Well, I think wizard is someone that has figured out how to transform like a moment into something bigger and larger.
So just to spend four hours in this home and see all the things he had and the music that he was playing, all of it was like, what is that?
What the hell is that?
Then he said, ''Oh, here's something that I sent you that was returned to me, this extraordinary book which came, what was the book?
It's a book of photographs.
It's about, he's a famous Japanese photographer who's now 80 some -odd years old and still takes thousands of photographs.
It's more than encyclopedia.
It's just an incredible document.
And the fact that it got returned to him, it may have come back to him twice.
It includes a big piece of tape on it that says, Government Sucks.
So, I had to carry this thing with me.
He was going to ship it to me again.
I said, no, no. I'll carry it.
Well, anyway, I realized I'm going through customs twice, theirs and ours, with this big sign on the box that says, government sucks.
And I thought, well, there's a profile.
You know, I might get questioned here.
Wait, I want to ask you a couple more questions about The Friend.
But before I do, I want to tell you a quick story.
Your costar in The Friend, she's really the star of the film, Naomi Watts.
Ten years ago, I was supposed to do an interview with her and I got off the train because I was going in to do the interview.
And my phone buzzed, and it was my wife, and she had gone into labor with our first child.
So of course I just got back on the subway, went back home, furiously getting our go -bag ready.
And then my phone rings.
It's a number I don't recognize.
And I think, well, maybe it's a doctor or something, I pick it up and I say, like, agitatedly, hello, hello?
And I hear, hi, this is Naomi.
So, I don't know a Naomi, who, who are you?
And she said, I'm Naomi, I think we were supposed to do an interview now, and I said, Oh God, I'm so sorry.
And then she was so nice.
And was like, no, no, go, just hang up immediately and go.
And then we named our daughter Naomi.
Oh, well... The last part is not true, but everything up to that is true.
Thank God. That's funny.
Well, that sounds like a person I know, yeah.
She was very sweet about it.
She's great. I always appreciated that, but...
So did you ever get it done?
Have a child? Well, you did that, obviously, but...
Oh no, a colleague of mine pinch hit for me and did the interview.
But so the Friend is, you know, it's a beautiful novel.
It's about a woman played by Naomi Watts, who is sort of a pivotal figure in her life.
Right. Walter, played by you, dies from suicide.
This is all what happens in the first couple minutes of the movie, so I'm not giving anything away.
And then, uh, Naomi Watts's character has to take care of Walter's dog, which is a giant great Dane.
Uh, so what was interesting to you about this project and the role of Walter in particular?
Well, um, Naomi called me up and said, you know, these folks would love to have you be in this thing, you know?
And I said, okay, you know, get me a hard copy of the script.
And so, and I got a copy of the book, so I read it and the fact that Naomi was attached got me to look at it in the first place very quickly and so forth.
We made a movie called...
Saint Vincent. And had a good experience.
And we liked each other professionally and then we became friends.
I don't know what your question was.
Why did you do the movie?
Why did I do the movie?
So I did the movie because I thought it was good, and I liked the idea of being asked to help, so if someone asks you to do something, you're a little bit more wow, someone I like.
As an actor, I love it because you're reminded of what the rule was.
there are this great director at Second City, Del Close said, you're worried about how you're coming off in a movie or a scene or something like that.
You just think about making the other person look good.
And whenever I forget in a movie, and sometimes I'll be working with some intimidating thug actor, actress, and I go like, oh God, I got to deal with this somehow.
And then I just go, okay, I'm just going to make this one look good.
Everything changes when you do that.
After the break, Bill and I talk about a darker chapter in his career.
I don't go too many days or weeks without thinking of what happened and being mortal.
Yeah. Can you say what happened?
Yeah, I can say what happened.
I think I'm allowed to.
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To play today's puzzle, Go to the athletic .com slash connections There's an anecdote about Samuel Beckett in both the film the friend and the book It's sort of a famous anecdote about Beckett where he's out walking with a friend, and it's a beautiful day.
And the friend says to Samuel Beckett, like something along the lines of, isn't a day like this enough to make you glad to be alive?
And Samuel Beckett says, someone go as far as that.
And I wondered about how a line like that jibes for you, because it seems to me to capture something about you, both the sort of awareness of the beautiful aspects of life, and then there's also a melancholy to it.
Because I really think a lot of your best dramatic work touches on some real melancholy, like Lost in Translation, Rushmore, of course, St. Vincent.
Do you relate to a line like that?
Well, uh, you know, I came from the second city, you know, and, and we didn't consider ourselves comedians.
Although our shows were funny, we consider ourselves actors.
So that's really took it seriously, that that's, that's what it is.
And if you're a good comedian, you're a good actor because it's the same process.
You have to be able to read a straight line to get a joke, to get a laugh.
If you can't read a straight line, you're not going to go very far.
I don't want to compare it to Gallagher.
If you're just pounding, smashing watermelons, that's not for everyone.
But for one thing, there's just as many funny movies written as there once were.
Comedy used to be king.
Comedy used to be king.
Comedy's came out in the summer, If a movie was funny, it would run the whole summer.
That was how it was.
You'd be like, have you seen such and such?
It's funny, and then you'd go, and it would run the whole summer.
Then it became like a Marvel summer.
It became like if you've seen Mr. Fantastico or whatever the hell.
No, whatever, yes. So the movie industry got away from making those funny movies.
It's just inevitable if you stay alive and you keep working, that you have to do something different.
But Megan, these, you know, I don't want to sound obvious, but you know, these movies that have melancholy in them, there's definitely funny things in them too, you know?
And you have to be able to, like there's a scene in the Lost in Translation where there's this melancholy guy, he's in this bar on the top of the tallest hotel in Tokyo and he's drinking to get drunk, and he meets this young girl in there, and he's drinking to get drunk, and he's dressed in a Tuxedo, and he's just come from doing this horrendous commercial shoot.
But he plays this whole scene, and then he turns his back, and you realize his jacket is all pinned together in the back.
So it fits perfectly in the front for the TV camera.
But he's so oblivious, So fleeing from the horrible reality of his life, he doesn't even bother to take the damn pins out of the back.
He's forgotten they're even there.
So that's kind of the unknowing of what's funny about your own life, is amusing when you do see it.
When you do see what a fool you make of yourself or how blind you are.
That stuff's funny, and I appreciate it in my own life.
And it's kind of great to show it, and it's great to show the obliviousness of it on the screen.
Your part in The Friend, in a way, reminds me of some other relatively recent parts from your career, in that he's sort of a charismatic, charming guy who's also been sort of a selfish ding -dong.
Sort of what? Selfish ding dong, is the way I put it.
And I just recently saw something where you had done a Sundance interview with Elvis Mitchell, who was a film critic for The Times for a long time.
And he brought up the film On the Rocks.
And I thought, oh, the On the Rocks character and Walter, there's some similarities between them.
And in your interview with Elvis Mitchell, you referred to taking on roles like the On the Rocks role as a kind of penance.
And I thought, while penance could mean making amends, it could mean punishment.
What would it mean to say taking on a role is like a form of penance, and did that apply to Walter also?
I think those definitions are accurate.
The one I would kind of lean toward myself is that you have to suffer to play it.
Like it's not to play a complete jerk or, What did you call it?
Ding dong. Selfish ding dong.
Selfish ding dong. That's why I didn't hear that.
I'd never heard those words together.
It's pretty sweet. I liked it.
So to play a selfish ding dong, and this is gonna go sideways for a second.
In this movie, the friend, I'm someone that's had three wives, and one of my wives is such a horrible creature that I finally ran into her not at work just a few weeks ago.
And I said, I'm sorry, I gotta say, I'm so glad you're like a human being.
I thought you couldn't possibly be that good as a horrible creature without being a horrible creature.
So that really was great acting.
But for me, dependence is like having to live and be the part of that person that you really have to make people uncomfortable.
You really have to make people uncomfortable.
And even though it's only acting and it's even though it's only for a minute, it's real.
You really make people feel it.
And to do that, you can't cheat.
You can't be sort of nice, you can't be like a method idiot and be like mean all the time.
You know, I work with those fools, but you have to be really consistently a selfish ding -dong in the scene and you have to be unrelenting and when you really bear down on someone if you're doing it well enough it really, you really hurt someone, it really hurts you really, they really feel that hurt because you're doing it to enable them to express the hurt on for the camera you know so you're it's rough it's rough And you all got to take a deep breath and exhale afterwards.
And you know, like, get over here.
You know, that was just, you know, that wasn't us.
That was that, you know.
And it's, you know, it's, if you don't do it that hard, you know, you're kind of cheating.
You know? Yeah. Is it cathartic for you?
Like to somehow grow from that experience.
Yeah, you can feel that too.
When you, when you've performed as a horrible creep, You know that,"Hey, I have been that horrible creep.
I have been that horrible creep and not seen it, and not been aware of it.
And if you're really seeing it, if you're doing it in the scene, you're really, you're doing it well, you're seeing it." You know, something that also stood out for me with the film, and it's connected maybe to what we're just talking about.
There is a parallel between Walter and you in that Walter in the film has been accused of some inappropriate misconduct.
And a couple of years ago on being mortal, there was some, you know, it was described as inappropriate misconduct.
I mean, surely those parallels occurred to you.
Were you, did you think about them during the film or were you trying to work through something?
I mean, I don't go too many days or weeks without thinking of what happened on being mortal.
Yeah. Can you say what happened?
Yeah, I can say what happened.
I think I'm allowed to.
I tried to make peace.
I thought I was trying to make peace.
I ended up being, to my mind, barbecued.
Someone that I worked with, that I had lunch with, on various days of the week and so forth.
It was COVID, we were all wearing masks, and we're all just stranded in this one room, listening to this crazy scene, and I don't know what prompted me to do it.
It's something that I had done to someone else before.
I thought it was funny.
Every time it happened, it was funny.
I was wearing a mask and I gave her a kiss and she was wearing a mask.
It wasn't like I touched her, but it was just, I gave her a kiss through a mask, through another mask to another person.
And it wasn't – she wasn't a stranger.
And you said, you think about this often.
Well, it still bothers me because that movie was stopped by the, the – whatever they call the human rights or H &R of the Disney Corporation, which is probably a little bit more strident than some other countries.
But – and I, you know, it turned out there was like, pre -existing conditions and all this kind of stuff.
I'm like, what? Why was anyone supposed to know anything like that?
It was like, and there was, there was to be no conversation.
There was no conversation.
There was nothing, there was no peacemaking.
Nothing, nothing. And just this went to this lunatic arbitration, which I recommend anyone out there, anyone ever suggested you go to arbitration?
Don't do it. Never ever do it.
Cause you think it's like justice and it isn't.
Do you feel like you learned something from that experience?
Um, you know, I think so.
I mean, I, you know, you can teach an old dog new tricks, but I just thought, it was a disappointment.
It was a great disappointment.
Cause I thought I knew someone and I did not.
And I thought it was, I certainly thought it was light, I thought it was funny.
And to me, it's still funny.
the idea that you could give someone a kiss with a mask on.
It's still stupid. It's all it was.
And we're talking about a movie, Being Mortal, which is a wonderful book.
By Atul Gawande about death and dying.
And the subject matter is gruesome.
It's about a man whose father is dying before his very eyes.
And at that time, we were shooting at the Hollywood retirement home.
You're there with people of your own career that are not working anymore.
But many of them are invalid.
You're there with people and you're surrounded by them and you say, and somehow you're still healthy enough to work and their extras, they're just extras or just witnesses.
And it was, I felt like a, you know, I had an even more of an obligation than usual, like, okay, to make this, like, fun, you know, I spent a lot of the day, and when you're dealing with this mis-, this painful material all day long, part of what my job has always, I've felt my job has always been is to keep the mood light, is to elevate to just leaven this a little bit, you know?
Like this is the job is not easy.
The job is not easy.
And you know, when you're doing a story, that's really about pain and misery, everyone can get pained and miserable and you don't want that, you want to like, just say, Hey, we're still in, we are still in this, we're still who we are.
we're not dying like this man is dying in the movie.
We're living a life and we have a great opportunity here to live it.
Let's go. The day before this, we had mariachis at lunch singing and La Bamba.
I got up and sang La Bamba with the band.
And it was just, we're trying to make this, you know, a little bit more bearable, you know, life can, is, and should be hard, you know, it should be challenging, you know, it's hard enough without getting miserable.
You know, there's sort of a central mystery, for me, about, and this sounds too high -falutinism, There's something I don't understand about you.
I'm not going to pretend there's a central mystery.
Well, you're not alone there.
I don't understand something about me, most of it, yeah.
You know, you describe wanting to bring lightness to set, but there are, you know, they're easy to find, a handful of rough stories about you on set.
You know, winging a glass ashtray at Richard Dreyfus' head.
Well that's not even true.
Okay. So you can tell that story as much as you like, but it's never going to be true.
I did fire a glass, but I threw it at the ceiling.
We were in a townhouse on the side of What About Bob, and I did not fire it at anyone.
I threw it up in a far corner of the townhouse, kind of assuming it might break upon contact with the ceiling and the walls, but I didn't throw it at anyone.
If I'd thrown it at Dreyfus, I'd've hit him.
In Geena Davis's memoir, she said, Geena sorta - Outrageous.
Dressed her down. Outrageous.
But I don't need to go through the list. Yeah, yeah.
Well, you're also talking about...
And you know, when someone has an episode like mine on this being mortal thing, the world goes searching for more proof that this person is a monster, an absolute monster.
Well, I've had interactions with hundreds of thousands of people over 40, 50 years, hundreds of thousands of people.
Now, you can come up with half a dozen.
You probably, if it really worked, you probably come up with a couple dozen, but you're talking about - You're saying they're not representative.
This is my life. I am engaged all the time.
I'm not complaining about it because I hate people that complain about it.
But I don't walk down the street the way that you can walk down the street.
I walk down the street and people go, ''Hey, you.'' I miss walking down the street like you walk down the street.
Yeah. I miss it, but it's never coming back, so I deal.
Most people I have just an okay experience with.
Some people you have a spectacular experience with, but my percentages are no different than yours.
If you meet 100 people, I need 1 ,000 people.
Out of your 100, 75 of them are forgettable, maybe 80.
Then there's a handful that are wonderful.
Then there's a handful that are unpleasant and miserable.
You live in New York.
You're going to have some oddballs.
I have the same numbers.
I just have lots more.
What you just described, the inability to walk down the street, anonymously like I can walk down the street, How did you figure out how to manage that in a way that didn't make your life feel impossible?
It's a continuous process.
It's not like, oh I figured that one out.
Because I'm not the same person now that I was 20 minutes ago.
I'm not. And you can have a different point of view about it.
You can get so you just hide from people.
I've walked down the street with a hat down over my head, glasses on my eyes.
I love COVID. I loved COVID because I could just walk down the street with a mask down my face.
It was fantastic. But I've been all kinds of ways about it and it's a continuing development.
I used to spend so much energy.
People would say, ''Can I take your picture ?'' and I would, the kind of ass that would say, it's may I take your picture, you know?
Do you know how many times I said that to no avail?
Absolutely no avail.
But I wasted a whole lot of time that way, you know?
And doing stuff that, so to make it acceptable on my stupid terms, you know?
Let me just try to like make life more like I like it.
But you know what? Screw it.
Do people curse on your show?
Yeah. I'm doing a fine job of holding back I think, But I keep wanting to say not still kids.
Currently, I'm in. Now, what I do for a living is I take cell phone photographs.
That's what I do for a living.
I'm not an actor, I am a donkey that is photographed with people who don't know how to operate their own cell phone camera.
That's what I do all day long.
Do you feel - I mean, I understand.
A lot. You do it a lot.
I do it a lot. And it's just, that's part of, and I don't think any, I don't regret it.
I don't resent it. It's like, this is what I do.
And it's so simple.
And I've realized how much energy I was wasting with all that - Resisting it.
With the resisting it.
Yeah. It was just crazy how much, and when it finally hit me, I went, oh my God, what a jerk.
How could you have been a jerk for that long?
Yeah. You know. Have you found a way to get fulfillment out of this new job that you've recognized that you have?
Yeah, you know, I thought about that actual question while I was sort of answering.
It's not so much fulfilling as people are - Oh, so you got teary -eyed.
I didn't mean to - I'm good at it.
I've gotten pretty good at it.
And people, most people recognize when they see how skillful I am with this reverse, that Oh my God, how did you do that?
How did you do that?
You know, well, because I've done it thousands of times that that's how I got good at it.
It's like, any, like a guy who fixes pipes got good at it, you know.
This thing is six hours long anyway.
We're almost done. We're almost done.
What you said about being a different person in one moment than you were 20 seconds prior?
Are we getting anything done here?
I'm having a good time.
Are you having a good time?
This one over here is the cypher over here.
This one here, this one.
Oh, Annabelle? Yeah, nothing.
Well, she's doing her job.
Is she medicated, or is she a?
I'm watching the levels, you're sounding crazy.
Oh, you're watching the levels.
It's all about the levels with this one.
Well, it's all about the levels with a lot of us.
What was I saying? You were saying something.
So you're a different person from, you can be a different person in the present than you were 20 seconds ago.
Do you like that feeling or is it destabilizing to think that 20 seconds from now, I could be a different person?
Well, I only like it if I see what a horrible, well, it's not fair.
If you see what you're up to, you should like it.
you know, whether it's, you're being horrible or you're being wonderful, if you see it, that's great.
Score, you know, score one, get it, you get a star for that.
Because the awareness is what's important.
Yeah, the awareness of like being what you are, you know, that has value.
That's being awake.
There's no value to being just rolling through.
You know, you don't, you know, they just put you in a grave at the end, you didn't do anything.
I wanna finish with a little section from the novel, The Friend.
I'm just curious, Somehow I knew he was gonna read aloud.
At some point during this thing, I knew he was gonna read aloud from something.
Do I give that vibe?
The kind of guy who isn't a recitation?
Well, I don't know, you didn't have any of your own poetry, which is a big plus, but go ahead.
Wait for it, wait for it.
Wait for it. This is right near the end of a novel.
What we miss, what we lose and what we mourn, isn't it this that makes us who deep down we truly are to say nothing of what we wanted in life but never got to have. So my question for you is, what haven't you gotten that you wanted and what did you get that you wanted?
Well, I don't know what you say first. Say the sadder one first and let's end on an up note.
Well, the sadder one is I haven't gotten And I got to, you know, I really think about, you know, I don't want to really sound too uh, too damn special here.
I haven't gotten where, uh...
I'm active all the time.
Active meaning aware?
Yeah. I haven't gotten...
so that I'm much more of a person, a being than I am now.
I haven't gotten there.
But what I have gotten was the opportunity, the knowledge to like, hey, there's a way to do this if only you had the guts or the inner resources to do it.
If you were just tougher on yourself, if you were just more demanding, not so lazy, not so unconscious, you know, all it is, but you can rally, and the rallies are extraordinary.
The rallies are great.
The rallies are great, and they give you hope, and it's the hope for a rally that really keeps me going.
I really hope for a rally, all the time.
You feel one coming on?
This is a rally. Thank you very much for taking the time to talk to me.
Thank you, this has been a nice time here.
That's Bill Murray.
The Friend is in theaters nationwide, starting April 4th.
This conversation was produced by Annabel Bacon.
It was edited by Alison Benedikt, mixing by Sofia Landman, original music by Dan Powell, Alicia Beitoupe, and Marion Lozano, photography by Phil Montgomery.
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Special thanks to Rory Walsh, David Karthus, Renan Borelli, Jeffrey Miranda, Nick Pittman, Maddie Masiello, Jake Silverstein, Paula Shuman, and Sam Dulnick.
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