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Good morning.
This is Laura.
Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Today's tip is that feedback is about the person giving it.
It can be helpful or unhelpful.
But it is important to keep it in perspective.
I recently reread Tara Moore's book Playing Big, which has lots of helpful tips about finding your voice and becoming more influential.
Moore reminds readers that feedback from your target audience is incredibly helpful.
But with feedback in general, you have to keep in mind that it is simply telling you about the person who is giving it.
Nothing more.
Here is one quick exercise Moore suggests as a way to realize this.
Think about a book you read recently that you enjoyed.
Now, go to Amazon and read the reviews.
Read a five-star review and read a one-star or two-star review.
Because for almost every major book, there are going to be some of both.
Sometimes these polar opposite reviews can even be talking about the same thing.
Someone thinks the characters are wildly inventive.
Someone else thinks they're unbelievable.
All that feedback really tells you is that the first person likes characters who require a little more imagination and that get you into a different world.
The second likes characters that you feel you already know.
Now, neither is particularly right.
It might matter which reader is in the target market, but you don't really get to stand there in a bookstore or library and dictate who picks it up.
Now, if you'd like to get your book published by a particular publisher and the editor who acquires your kind of fiction likes characters in a certain style well, that feedback will matter if you want that particular outcome.
But with a lot of feedback to each her own.
Now, if you get a lot of a particular kind of feedback and it resonates with you, incorporate it.
If you get a lot of feedback that doesn't resonate with you, but those people aren't in your target market and aren't decision makers in whether your project sees the light of day well, feel free to thank people for their feedback and move on.
I think this is so important.
Because I have seen people try to adjust their entire style based on say, one review left on a podcast.
I have seen people wither based on one critical comment on their outfit or something like that.
Once upon a time, people could only give such feedback in person.
Which tempered the comments a bit.
Once you are over the age of eight or so, very few people will flat out insult someone to their face.
But online, people can become playground tyrants again.
Now, again, this isn't to say some feedback isn't helpful.
I have had incredibly helpful editors in my life.
I've also had not so helpful editors.
I've had readers give suggestions which changed my whole insight on something.
It is truly a beautiful thing.
I have also had readers give what sounds like really horrible suggestions.
So you just have to realize that feedback only tells you about the person giving it.
It tells you if they liked your work or they didn't, or something they thought worked or didn't.
It doesn't fundamentally say whether your work is good or not.
When you realize that you feel free to incorporate what is helpful, but keep your sense of self and control over your work when it isn't helpful.
There are a lot of critics in the world, so best to keep that mindset.
In the meantime, this is Laura.
Thanks for listening.
And here's to making the most of our time.
Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast.
If you've got questions, ideas or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at LauraVanderkam.com.
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