Novak Djokovic: “I Never Felt I Was Enough” The Secret to Turning Your Self-Doubt Into HUGE Success (Use THIS Method Today!)｜On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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Not having success is not an option. I have to succeed.

It's basically a matter of existence, a survival of my family.

The world's number one male tennis player.

He's won 14 grand slams in a glittering career.

Novak Djokovic. You've been through so many injuries, losses.

Oh, oh, oh, I heard himself. What has Novak Djokovic done?

What goes through your mind when you lose?

I just wanna be left alone. What has it taken to become Novak Djokovic?

It's a consistent practice. It's prayer work, mindfulness, meditation, conscious breathing.

It requires more responsibility from you on a daily basis to prepare yourself for the biggest battle.

When did you first become aware of that feeling of not being enough?

I kind of get emotional about it because it's still deep inside of me.

Do you feel like in your career you've achieved everything you set out to as a tennis player? when you reach your 30, you start counting your days to your retirement.

38 this year. How far can I go? How long can I push my own limits? the number one health and wellness podcast.

Jay Shetty. Jay Shetty. The one, the only, Jay Shetty.

Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the number one health and wellness podcast in the world.

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I'm so excited to have my friend, the incredible human, Novak Djokovic.

Novak. Thank you, Jay. You are... I mean, you know what?

I'm so grateful to have you back and my heart is so full. because you were one of those rare people that had seen one of my first ever videos We'd reached out, we'd connected.

We were talking a lot at the time. You were going through a really fascinating place in your career.

You were recovering from an injury. Right.

It was a different mindset. You were just on the cusp of... becoming the greatest of all time.

And you took a chance on me in so many ways.

And I'm eternally indebted and grateful to you for that.

So thank you for coming on then and coming back now.

Jay, thank you. It's a great pleasure to see you again and to be able to talk to you.

Thank you for... kind words in introduction as well.

Reflecting on our first conversation in 2019, I don't think I took a chance because we talked about it just before we started officially recording you know when you you are connected with yourself and with your emotions and when you feel someone deeply and look in someone's eyes and you understand instantly with your instinct, with your intuition, whether this person thinks good or thinks bad or has the right intention, has the heart at the right place.

So I could see that from the first moment with you and that's where I felt the connection.

And even though we haven't seen each other for a few years, I'm just so glad that we're able to connect now and you led me through the list of all the guests that you had in the last almost 300 episodes. in the last five years and I couldn't be happier for you and for your wife and for your entire team.

Amazing. Thank you, man. And you gave me my first Wimbledon experience.

I got to see you play. How was that? It was amazing.

I mean, are you kidding me? It was like, and you crushed, you won, obviously.

But it was just such a brilliant experience to see you play after getting to understand your psychology.

And I think that's what I've respected about you over time that, you've really worked hard on your internal game as much as your external game.

And I think you're one of those few rare athletes that have raised the consciousness by working on your own consciousness.

So today I want to dive deep into that. And I want to dive right in.

I wanted to start by asking you like, What has it taken to become Novak Djokovic?

Like, what has it actually taken to become you internally.

You mentioned that I took a lot of the time and attention to dedicate myself to the internal work and you know I've been blessed and really lucky in a certain way to be surrounded with certain people very early stages of my career and my life that have directed me into this direction of self-care of holistic approach, of multidisciplinary approach to the preparation, to the prevention, to the recovery, both physical, mental, emotional.

And at that time, because I was so young, I didn't understand that. it didn't need to be explained to me in depth at that point.

I trusted, you know, my tennis mother as I like to call her, passed away 13 years ago, but she was the one that really introduced this holistic concept to me.

I was going, obviously, to school, and then I was only nine years old. and 9-10 and I was training with her maybe two or three times a week individually. tennis and then I would have group sessions and my parents were trusting her enough to allow her to participate directly into my upbringing, basically.

So she also educated me off the tennis court as well.

So she took me very often at least two times per week to her house. where we would look at the tapes of all the greats both male and female tennis players.

That's where my impersonation started. still to this day ask me, when are you going to do the imitations, impersonations, and I haven't done it.

I've done it early in my career and it was fun.

It was viral and people liked it. received a little bit of an evil looks in the locker room.

And I kind of felt like, you know, maybe I'm stepping over the line.

So that's why I stopped. That's where it started and I was like, I was really trying to adapt all of the great things that I could see.

And I have a kind of a photogenic memory and I'm a very visual person.

And that was something that was kind of expected, that is kind of common as well, what you do with kids, you know, or with young athletes.

You watch videotapes, you try to analyze, you try to talk.

But then she had me listen to classical music.

And she said, it's very important that you do that almost on a daily basis.

Listen to classical music. while you are writing your journal, while you are preparing for bed, or any time of the day, but particularly those times.

And, you know, I liked it. I didn't understand... the purpose of it, but you know, I liked it.

And so we would look at the tapes and we'd listen to this music and then we would read poetry And then we would do a visualization practice.

At that time, he was not presented to me as such, but she would just say in a very simple way that would be understood by... a boy, a 10 year old boy, just close your eyes and think about how you want to play tennis and think about when you're happiest.

So it started at the very early age. I'm so eternally grateful to her for instilling this in me and teaching me you know, how to see life basically and understand that tennis is not As an individual sport, of course, it's also different because you don't have anyone to replace you if something goes bad during the match, you have to figure out a way So I think it requires more responsibility from you on a daily basis to prepare yourself for a biggest battle. internally and also externally, of course, with your opponent and with everything that is happening around.

So it taught me to really understand that tennis is not only about... hitting a tennis ball over the net and counting score and dreaming about these achievements and winning Wimbledon as our holy grail of tennis.

But it's more than that. And I can use tennis as a platform to evolve into a better human being.

At that point, I didn't understand that, But then as I was growing older and becoming more mature, I started to understand the importance doing all of these practices and I started to expand on each of these topics that I was going through with her.

And then I started going into yoga, I started going into the movement, into Orthodox Christian, I'm very proud of my religion, but at the same time, I am very open to embrace anything that can teach me from other religions and from the spirituality as a whole.

So I'm very curious by nature. So I was really always looking for new ways improve myself and improve my life on this planet, you know?

And I was very lucky to basically have that space also from my parents.

It's a kind of a self-discovery through the self-care, tennis really consumed most of my life.

I mean, still does, not to that extent, of course.

I mean, I have... I have two kids, I have family and other businesses and other things that interest me.

I'm balancing right now between tennis and the other stuff and I'm kind of making that transition slowly.

I still play professional tennis and I still experience my worst self on the court and my best self. going back to your comment at the beginning where you said, you know, you're one of the The athletes that really have immersed himself into the spirituality, into understanding the holistic approach and so forth and and the mental health i would say yes but I'm still surprising and shocking myself on how much I actually need to still work on that and I still quote unquote, don't know enough about that world.

And it was really hard for me to accept that.

You know, I thought, since 10, I basically started working on that and growing the foundation, but it has evolved and has... transformed so much for me in terms of how I see myself, how I see the world.

And I thought maybe when I was at the peak of my career, And I felt like I'm unbeatable.

And I feel like I could do anything. You know, I kind of walking on the water.

We all experience that in our own lives in certain way and it's a great feeling. but then the ego takes you places where it's hard to come back from.

And maybe you shouldn't come back from that.

Maybe you're trying to find a balance, find the optimal measure that really works for you.

But it took me time to really accept the fact that what I have learned, what I have mastered. and what I'm doing on a daily basis for the last 20 years or more, is not necessarily a guarantee that I'll always find a way and that will always work for me in this particular situation. time of my life and circumstances that I'm facing.

So that's, a huge revelation for me because, and I'm still trying to get a grasp on it and understand all of these factors that are in play that are challenging me on a daily basis.

And When I talk from this perspective, it's a beautiful journey that I'm trying to embrace.

But when you're... immersed in the dark moment, it's kind of hard to really get out of that.

Yeah, no, I love what you're saying because in the Gita, the ancient text of India, it it's spoken on a battlefield.

And the idea is that you're always on a battlefield.

And as you said, on the battlefield, You see the best of yourself and the worst of yourself.

And often people said that to me when I moved to LA, everyone's like, why do you want to be in LA?

There's so much. There's so much illusion here.

And I said, well, actually, I feel like I'm on the battlefield here.

So I see the best of myself and I see the worst of myself.

And the worst of myself reminds me to keep going and to keep working on myself.

And the best of myself allows me to share my message with the biggest megaphone in the world.

And so it's that dichotomy of actually when you're looking for spiritual growth, You want to be in a place that reminds you of your weaknesses as much as your strength.

Because if you are only reminded of your strength, you just have your ego.

And if you were only reminded of your weaknesses, well, then you would be depressed or disheartened.

And so that balance is really interesting.

As I'm listening to you, I'm thinking, Do you feel like in your career you've achieved everything you set out to as a tennis player?

Yes, and more than that. And at the same time, I still want to do more And I know that that comes in a big part from a good place. meaning from a place of purpose, inspiration, motivation, love for the sport, passion for the sport. passion to make people happy when they watch me, if I'm doing that,

And I have a feeling that I am by still actively being on the tennis tour and having my tennis career, active tennis career, I'm still spreading that light By playing tennis and inspiring younger generations, that's something that comes from a good heart, a good place.

But what comes from maybe, I'd say, not necessarily a bad place, but less of a good place, I have identified that as well is my feeling of not being enough.

Thank you. And that goes back to my very, very beginning of my life and my relationship, particularly with my father. and not being... not doing enough, not being good enough, etc., etc.

So... So now that I'm talking about it, I kind of get emotional about it because it's still deep inside of me.

And it's kind of the battle that I also go through often.

Because a lot of people, even closest people in my life, ask me, what more do you want?

You have achieved everything. What do you want?

Why do you keep going? And I tell them the good part that I told you. that I still really strongly feel it's inside of me.

I feel like as long as I have the capacity or ability to compete for the biggest titles in my sport, I want to keep going.

And also, partly the part that I didn't mention, that inspires me to keep going is to test my limits mentally and physically.

Because when I was starting to break through into professional tennis, I remember when you reach your 30, you start counting your days to your retirement.

Like after 30, You know, that's it pretty much.

Even though there were some exceptions, like Jimmy Connors, the legend of our game, he played, I think, semifinals or finals of US Open when he was 40, still dominating the tour.

So there were very few exceptions. Nowadays it's different.

Why? Because I think the care for the body has improved so much.

I mean, now not only top 10, or 15 guys or girls on the tour have like multiple people in their squad to take care of them. you have top 50 people that are taking care of them.

It's due to the improvement, of course, of the conditions for the players We earn more across the board.

So it gives you, it allows you to hire more people that would take care of your body.

It's also a kind of a curiosity from my side.

How far can I go? I'm 38 this year. you know, how long can I push my own limits and I don't feel like I do have limits and I feel like the limits are normally constructs in our mind.

I've seen the episode you did with Brian Johnson the other day and then he talked about, you know, he's by a lot of people's opinion, very extreme. but you know, he dedicated his own entire life to getting the data and understanding what are the best conditions for the longest living life that he can have for himself. which I think it's something that is admirable and I give him huge credit for that.

I understand because as a professional athlete, the care for your body and your mind and your the devotion to the daily habits is so tough because When you want to change a certain habit, science says it takes at least 21 days, right? for the brain to start growing new neurons that are reprogramming.

But if you don't have the right environment, that's... going to be very, very challenging.

So that was also one of the things that I wanted to reflect on And your question is the environment is the one that can be very stimulative to you.

It can be really supportive or it can be pulling you down.

So it's super important, even though we always encourage ourselves to be independent in terms of what we do, what we eat, how we sleep. how we lead our lives and what we do and how we can live the best version of our lives possible.

But at the same time, We are social beings.

We are very tribal beings. And even if it's a smallest community, we still want to belong to that community.

We still want this community to support us, even if it's one person or two.

But it's super important in the end of the day, because making tough choices, these are tough choices, because society, when you go out there, super majority of the places where you go to eat or People that you see, it's a kind of a vicious cycle and they lead their life in a certain way that maybe doesn't coincide or correspond to your choices that you want to make, the new choices or maybe the new changes So it's really hard, you know what I mean?

Living in the big city and deciding you want to go through transformational journey.

On a daily basis, we're being exposed to something that is contrary to what you're trying to achieve.

I feel like it's reinventing yourself constantly.

You know, for me... I've had this kind of upbringing, had the great foundation, And I've achieved incredible things.

I was dreaming of becoming number one in the world and becoming a Wimbledon champion.

And that was my dream. I achieved that dream within two days. won Wimbledon and at the same day became number one in the world in 2011. in front of my family, in front of president of Serbia who was there.

I mean, it was... with the welcoming of hundreds of thousands of people on the way back, it's just... you know, once in a lifetime type of experience.

And when When you do something for the first time, obviously that big, it's just like you're flying to the moon.

It's a kind of an out-of-body experience.

But then I felt like I had to set new goals At the time, 2011, I was 23 years old, 24.

Okay, what do I do next? You know, I feel like I'm at peak of my powers and So then I want to win multiple slams.

Then I want to win all slams at once. Then I want to win gold medal for my country.

Then I want to make history. and so forth, so forth.

So I think goal oriented mind, particularly in sports, but also in business or anything really.

I think it's super important because the clarity, from my experience, is something that is essential to have also peace of mind and to have a calm heart that you know what you're doing and that you set your goals your short-term goals, your long-term goals and you know exactly the strategy that you need to implement to achieve them. and you surround yourself with the people who are supporting you, but also people who are telling you what you don't want to hear. you know, giving you constructive criticism or maybe giving you non-constructive criticism and then putting you very down, but that's also part of the journey.

It's also learning how to get up. like a phoenix and rise and try to develop a thick skin, so to say.

So it's a constant process, really. I don't see myself... fully satisfied, if that's maybe a shorter answer, because I have that part of me which is like, I think I can still do more.

But the other side of me is like, of course, I'm fully set.

I'm happy and I'm proud. And in a way, I can't wait one day for me to reflect on everything.

But while I'm steering my active career, I don't have time. has the longest season of all sports.

Starts January, ends almost end of November.

And of course, I earned my right in a way to be selective with tournaments where I play.

So that's what I'm doing. I'm not playing as much.

I'm focusing on the big ones. And I'm trying to incorporate all of these other things inside of my career and basically expand the platform and, and use my voice for other things than just the tennis court.

And I'm super blessed to be in a position that I am.

But as I said, it's a constant journey and process.

Yeah, I really appreciate you being honest about your experience with your father because I think that Pretty much anyone who goes off to do something successful externally All of us and everyone was channeling some sort of internal inadequacy or an internal feeling of not being enough, as you said.

And I wanted to ask, when did you first become aware of that That you had that feeling of not being enough.

Right. And how have you helped that evolve in the healthiest way possible?

What has been that journey of... almost having to live with it because it's there, but not letting it be your guiding light.

Well, you're right. It makes sense because I think if you use it as the right fuel, it can actually serve as a great motivating factor, right?

It can push you, it can you know, stimulate you to extract the most amount of necessary energy on a daily basis to achieve your goals and to basically live your dream.

I think for me, it started really as something that was inevitable as a part of the environment that I was in.

I touched upon that a little bit in our conversation five, six years ago, my upbringing with several wars and sanctions and embargo and poverty and everything.

From a very young age, I was basically forced to mature very quickly because I'm the oldest of the three brothers.

I have two younger brothers. So as an oldest son to my father, I was basically kind of in a position where I had to be informed very early on, particularly the age of 11, 12 when we had that bombing and the war, and sanctions that state that we are in as a family or as people of my country. the situation, the circumstances, my father had to bring it forward to me in a very clear, mature way.

So, one of the most impactful moments of my upbringing in my childhood is when he brought 10 Deutschmarks.

And I've said this story many times. which is equivalent to $10.

And he said, this is all we got for our family of five is living in a super small apartment that's where it hit me it was like okay now I have to take the means in my hands as a 12 year old boy, in whatever way I can, at least what I can do is support my mother, maybe from some of the burden that she has during the day of taking care of my younger brothers.

And that's where it also hit me that not having success is not an option.

Like I have to succeed. It's basically a matter of existence, a survival of my family.

So I think it started there. And then over the years, it has... obviously transformed or evolved into different kind of form.

But I think that and also my relationship with my father, oftentimes because of maybe lack of patience of my father of people around because everyone saw that I have a talent.

I was coming from Serbia that had no tennis tradition, no tennis culture.

We are a nation of team sports. We are definitely a We love sports, but team sports.

And at that point during nineties, It was about survival.

People were watching sports, but there was not much support for the sports.

It was particularly not tennis. a very expensive sport at the time.

I chose the most difficult sport for my parents in most difficult time. for our nation and for my family.

So oftentimes I wouldn't travel because we didn't have money And then, you know, obviously, as you can imagine, Tennis Federation didn't have, you My father had to go and beg and then he was also borrowing money from... unfortunately, even some criminals at the time during nineties.

And then they would, you know, they would tell him it's, funny story right now, but at the time it wasn't funny particularly for him. he would go and he said, first time I was going to go to United States.

I was 15 years old. I was going to play big junior events here like Prince Cup and Orange Bowl.

They're the biggest ones under 16 and under 18.

And also, more importantly, I was going with my father, hopefully, to... get the sponsorship or get recruited by one of the big agencies, IMGs or whatever.

So he went to us for money because we didn't have, so he went to us for $5,000. so this criminal people that you could borrow money from because banks obviously would not give it to you.

And then they said, you know, he asked them, you know, how much are you in rush?

And he's like, listen, I'm asking this money from you because of my son.

He's playing tennis. We're going in America.

I'll return this money. within whatever they agreed on, one or two months, whatever it is, three months.

He says interest rate was 15%, but because you are in rush...

It's 25. So my father was like, okay, you know, I'll take it.

Because I have no other options. And I can only imagine the stress that he was going through and trying to turn this money where people were really car chasing him. shootings in our capital town, stuff that my father went through, you know, to really not only survive himself, but to actually allow all of us to live and protect us and to allow me to live my dream and to play the most expensive sport at the time for my country. is something that I'm eternally indebted.

I cannot, there's no money or there's nothing that can return the favor, so to say.

So of course my father's always my hero for that and my champion.

But, you know, feeling of not enough because of that stress and what things that he was going through. it was hard because he was giving me also hard time if I wouldn't play well and it's like and then I understood but at the same time I was afraid I knew what I have to do, but you know, it's hard for me to deliver it when you need, it's like, okay, you need to win no matter what type of situation.

He wasn't telling me that, but that's how it felt.

And it felt like that for years. So that's why I say that the success that I have achieved is not only due to my father or my parents, or myself, it's also the divine higher force.

I strongly believe that there was an intervention And there still is.

There's higher forces in power that were... helping me in some of the most difficult moments in my family as well.

I am a man of faith and I really truly believe in God and the higher spiritual force that intervenes in the most difficult moments if you open your heart, if you pray and if you believe in it.

So I felt it on my own skin. Jay, to be honest, I really don't know how I won certain matches.

I cannot explain it. Even with my team, after I would finish a Grand Slam final, against Roger Federer in 2019, Wimbledon, when he was a far better player I saved some match points and I came off the court All stats were going his way.

I won the match. And I just said, you know, and I wasn't... playing well, I wasn't feeling well on the court and I was just like struggling and scrambling and trying to stay out there, stay alive.

And I won in the end in one of the most epic finals in history of tennis.

And then... You know, I told to my parents and my family and my team and my wife, I said, I don't know how I won this match.

I have no idea. At the same time, I do know deep inside that there's that... connection happening and that there's also that help.

So there's a mix of things. It's really hard to explain.

Sometimes there's this divine power that really...

If you allow it, if you believe it, that really... helps you come out of trouble and achieve things.

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8. Thanks for taking a moment for that Now back to the discussion What has been your... point of connection or practice with that higher power that keeps you connected?

What's been that for you There's so many different traditions and different methods.

What's been the method for you that you find especially in those moments that you're able to tap in, because I find that if you're able to tap in in really difficult times, it means you're doing something in good times because it doesn't just suddenly turn on when you need it.

So what has been your particular practice, method, system or theory that's kept you connected.

You hit the nail with It's a consistent practice.

So it's prayer work, mindfulness, meditation, conscious breathing. visualization, presence, basically many other things as well that just...

NLP or you know, there's a lot of different techniques that I have been practicing and trialing always with myself before I would recommend it to someone else.

And over the years, I've developed my own formula that changes. depending on the feeling, depending on whether I'm on the court, whether I'm at home, practice, whatever it is that I'm doing, but I try to do it when nobody's watching.

And sometimes I verbalize things. Sometimes I don't.

Sometimes I write things down. Sometimes I just internalize.

It just depends. But I think most importantly in the end is that you are doing something.

I'm actually reading this book. One of the books that I'm reading currently is The Power of Surrendering and Letting Go.

It is an amazing book for me at the moment because because of my upbringing and because of my character and because of my life story, hard for me to let go.

It's hard for me to surrender. unless it's through the higher power.

But I'm still working on how to surrender and let go of certain things in relationship with close ones or my relationship with tennis or if I lose a match or a tournament, if I go through a crisis period and how to not hold something that pulls me down or regret or...

It's a constant work, but I feel like if you devote the time on a daily basis, whatever works for you, you had some of the most amazing guests on your show that talked about from neuroscientists to doctors and nutritionists and talked about the healthy habits.

So I don't want to be talking as them as I'm not an expert, but In my field, or so to say, in my own life and experience, I feel like I'm an expert because I have... tried and developed so many different things over the last 30 years and And I know what works and what doesn't in a way.

But going back to the very beginning of the conversation, it's not, again, a guarantee that it will keep on working for the rest of my life.

But I know what will is my dedicated time in a day to this practice, mental practice, physical practice, of course, activity. practice that I'm doing in the gym outside and tennis court, or when I'm not training, I still do stuff.

I still do some yoga practice. I still do stretching.

I still do breathing. I still, I love the Qigong, and the Chinese traditional medicine or Chinese tradition practices.

I think they're super good and important that you can do even in your chair.

There's always, there's ways and it's incredible nowadays in internet and I mean, is access to incredible things.

All it takes is a willpower to do it and the desire to say, okay, I'm consciously making this decision to change my life for better.

And I'm going to start with small steps, super important.

It's hard. you have so much judgment in this society, in this world, right?

It's really hard for people as we talked about the environment. as much as effort you're putting in and then you come with your friends or, or whatever with your family members, and then they start to judge you because you're starting to act weird because you're not normal.

You're not conforming to the norms of the society, whatever they are, because it's quite relative.

You know, we're all different. But you know, the norms of society are not really healthy ones, otherwise we wouldn't be where we are as a world ecosystem as a whole. and as people and what we are doing to our planet, et cetera. there's a lot of awakening happening and it's great to see that change. but it's not easy for people, and I understand that.

And it's okay not to feel okay. We heard that many times as well.

And sometimes, as I said, accepting and embracing for me and letting go of the fact that I cannot find a solution something that happens in my brain, in my mind is also fine. of being in a dark place for as long as it requires is also a humane thing.

It's also part of our life. I can see there's also a narrative that I don't really necessarily like or support. in our let's say wellness mindfulness space well-being space where it's presented by certain people in such way that you can only think positive thoughts and there's no room for negative thoughts. that, you know, every picture or video they post online is smiling, it's great life and so forth.

I mean, that's not possible, right? I mean, cannot convince me that there is a single person on this planet, even a monk, in Tibet that is meditating 24-7 or an Orthodox Christian priest in a holy island in Greece that is 24-7 praying. you know, peace isolated in the cave that is not experiencing some negative thoughts.

And I always go back to what one of my friends told me that he's also... mental coach and I worked with him for years and he, One of his teachers is Zen Buddhism teachers and he goes to the temple in France often to his teacher and he asked him in one of the first times that he was there doing retreats and spending time at the temple.

He says, how are you so calm? How is it that nothing really ravels you or unsettles you.

Like you always... so serene and you don't have any negative thoughts and he said the answer from the teacher is that He says, it's not true.

He says, I probably have more negative thoughts and more challenging experiences thoughts and emotions than you have.

The difference between you and me is my training and my ability to not stay in that state and in that emotion for a long time.

So I stay in it for seconds and you stay in it for who knows.

So I think there's true wisdom in that. And it's all about practice, everything.

I mean, brain is a muscle like any other. even consciousness that comes naturally to us.

I mean, we are... conscious spiritual beings.

We are souls on this planet, in this body.

But in order for us to connect with our true self, we need to go through these layers the constructs of the society that has developed us in a way has shaped us.

And that requires practice on a daily basis.

And that's not easy. Look, it's not easy not... switching on your phone or your TV the first thing in the morning, but doing something that is maybe not as healthy, but... being devoted to that practice or during the day having that little one, two, five, 10, 20 minute rest time and comprehension time.

It's not easy to do that. especially for people that didn't develop that kind of habit, it doesn't come naturally.

I mean, even though I don't like giving advice as we talked about it, but I like to share something that works as a suggestion, something that works extremely well for me.

And this is crazy that even in the 21st century, we are even talking about this as a hack.

It should be like an everyday thing that it's a natural, most natural thing is to spend time in nature. listen to the birds chirping listen to the wind feel the wind feel the I mean if you're by seaside or oceanside, walk by the water or any water or a pond or... lake or just be without a phone and in nature Let the nature do its job and heal you.

And there's so much more power to that than we actually think.

And I felt like in the darkest moments when I really don't want to do any of these techniques or anything, all the time indoors, I just go out and I just go out and preferably walk uphill because I feel like when you walk uphill, your heart rate, raises, obviously.

And because of that effort, you're even more present.

So even less... time for your thoughts to consume you so you're like fully present and then when you get to a certain point high at the top, you feel good about yourself because you've done something You're in the nature, you're dedicated time to yourself.

So I feel like that's super powerful and it's oftentimes very underestimated.

The reason why I love hearing about your practice is just because I think I think an athlete's mind is one of the most unique places on earth because when you're dealing with extremes every day, and every week and both extremes of being number one and then losing a game and everything that goes on. the toolkit you have is one of the most versatile toolkits.

And that's why I asked that question was just to understand what you do.

I was going to ask you, like, I feel like one of the most challenging things, and you probably remember this.

When you are the new kid on the block and you're playing all the legends, And today you're the legend and you're playing the new kids on the block.

And it must be such a fascinating experience to go through.

And when you talk about the power of letting go, and the power of surrender.

I wanted you to talk to us about that. What did it feel like when you were the new kid on the block and you were playing your legends that you looked up to, and now you're the legend, you're the number one, playing the new kids on the block.

What does that mentally look like? It's a completely different feeling, obviously, and different perspective.

When you're a teenager coming up and then you're in a dreamland when you are... just sharing a locker room with the legends of the game or the guys that you look up to, your biggest rivals, they are becoming your biggest rivals later on, but At that point, they're heroes.

They're like, my gosh, I mean, these guys, I've seen them on the TV and now I'm here.

Who is that for you at that time? I mean look, my idol growing up was Pete Sampras.

And even though Pete's game and my game are quite different, I don't know, I love his demeanor.

I love his ability to cope with the pressure. and how he was coming up with the best tennis when it mattered the most.

And that was kind of a sign of a greatest champion.

He was holding a record for most slams. and weeks number one, et cetera, for a long time until Roger came and Rafa, of course.

And then of course paved the way. And then, you know, looking up to them As well, even Nadal is only a year older than me But he made a breakthrough earlier than I did.

So already for a couple of years, he was on the tour when I started coming in.

And he was already number two in the world, multiple slam winner and et cetera.

So, of course, it was kind of a surreal experience for me. try to enjoy it and embrace it, but at the same time, I felt like, okay, it's great to share the court with these guys, But I want to beat them.

I want to get the biggest titles. I want to be number one.

I want to dominate. So I think that the first kind of that wave that I was riding on helped me to win my first slam when I was 19 in, uh, Australia, Australian Open in 2008, and then I

I won a couple of big tournaments and so forth.

I reached number two in the world. But I still wasn't number one.

And then I had a three-year period. I didn't win a slam.

I was winning some big tournaments, but I couldn't win a slam.

These two guys were beating me in every big match.

Feather and Nadal. I changed rackets, you know, team members.

I did everything I can to kind of find the right formula.

And I was struggling physically as well.

I wasn't, you know, that's where I actually I had my transformative journey nutrition-wise where I took out the gluten and dairy products and refined sugar.

Up to that point, I was eating all of these things thinking, well, I'm eating relatively healthy.

I thought, you know, that's what I know.

But then, you know, when I started working with his doctor and he pointed out, you know, you have strong gluten intolerance, messes up with your gut. got to take that out.

You got to take out the dairy product because that creates a lot of inflammation in your body.

You might be able to eat it. later on, but not now.

And refined sugar, absolutely no. So that was a huge change, but I committed to it.

And then I felt... that affected me, in fact my mental clarity, my recovery was much better. my decision-making on the court was better, et cetera.

So that helped a lot. And of course, mentally as well, I was working on certain programs that I had from, you know, that were kind of not really very positive and not really serving the purpose on the court of winning a match.

So that year, 2010, 2011 is when I experienced a huge boost of energy and transformation and that change an unbeaten run of 40 plus matches and had three slams and became number one and had won the best season of my life.

And that's where I, everything started going in the in the upwards direction for me and learning Also from these guys and the matches that we've played against each other was something that was extremely important for me at the time.

I was, of course, trying to consume as much as I can this energy of the center chord and everything.

And it was overwhelming at times, but I was also... very thorough in my analysis of the matches afterwards, even though I don't necessarily like to watch matches that I lost, but you know, Kobe Bryant, used to talk about this a lot.

And when I was talking to him personally about that, Because I tell him, Kobe, I really don't like watching myself... perform bad or when I lost and it just gives me this cramps in my stomach. and I don't like it.

And he said, even if it's just specific intervals of the match that you lost. that you want to watch, that you definitely look at that and you need to analyze that.

You need to go through that cramping feeling because...

That's where you learn from those mistakes and that's where you have an opportunity to rectify that. the next tournament or next match and so forth.

So that helped a lot. And I do watch the matches that I lost and highlights and certain parts, but I never watch the last point.

I don't want to watch the point where my opponent fist bumps and raises his hands.

Just maybe it's, I don't know, it's a superstition or not, but...

But it's just some kind of a feeling that I have.

But yeah, I just... those rivalries really shaped me into the person I am, into the player that I am.

And definitely grateful for everything that I experienced with these guys.

And now the flip. now when you're playing the younger players?

Well, now the flip is obviously an interesting experience for me because when Federer and Nadal and Murray, my biggest rivals, retired, actually most recently uh in the in the last year or two part of me left with them And I really feel that because... And I thought, well, it's not going to be... difficult for me to kind of shift my attention in terms of who are my principal rivals on the tour from them to someone else.

But you know, it is. It is tough because I'm used to these names, these guys, these faces for 20 years.

And then new faces come in. And it's normal, how can I say, evolution of our... sport and it's normal that you have new generations that are kind of come in and dominate the tour I'm experiencing something I have never experienced before, but that's also fine.

You know, I'm trying to embrace this journey and... But also I think... what is very important to me personally and what I have expressed directly to all of my basically rivals currently today, the young guys. who are going to be the carriers of the tennis for the next decade, is that I'm here for them. to share my experience, even though it's difficult because we're facing each other. but I still feel that in a way that's also my role, it's also my responsibility.

And it's also a great opportunity for me to do that because it really fills my heart with joy that I'm able to convey my experiences, my knowledge, whatever that I can from my journey to a new generations because naturally the tennis should get better.

And we all want tennis to get better, to be better. want somebody to break my record in the future or all of the records.

Why not? I mean, this is how it should be. if I can contribute in a way where I can say, hey, aside of the barriers that we created in the rivalry, if you need help with I don't know public relations if it's you know, marketing, if it's dealing with the outside world as well, that is very difficult, dealing with anxiety, we all have that.

We all know how it is to feel alone. You let yourself down or you let other people down.

Mental challenges in a high-level professional sport are 100% present with everyone.

It's just a matter of how you deal with it, who you have in your support system that can help you.

So I feel like it was great when I was able as a kid to ask some of the the guys who were playing at the top level, you know, some of the questions that were interesting me and that, Just hearing from them two or three sentences of how they think that they were dealing with it and how that affected them was huge to me.

Even if you heard it from someone else, but just hearing it from them, It just has this resonant power and impact.

And it did help me a lot. I didn't have it from my top rivals at the time, But I had it from some guys like Ivan Ljubicic, for example, who was a fellow Croatian tennis player.

And he was number three or four in the world at that point.

And then I was breaking through as a teenager and we shared the same tennis coach.

He influenced me in a positive way to like, change the racket or string pattern or strings and all of these small details that you might not think that are maybe relevant, but you hear it from them,

And then you're like, okay, now I'm ready to make the decision because I trust what he tells me.

Because, you know, he's a testament to what he's...

Preaching, basically. It's so interesting because I love that you offered that.

I was talking to Carmelo Anthony recently, the basketball player from the Knicks. you know, very successful Hall of Famer and he was telling me that in basketball he doesn't find the young players being that open. to coaching and guidance from the senior players?

How do you find it in tennis? more open?

Did you get people coming back and saying, Novak, I have loads of questions for Yeah, I would agree with that with Carmelo because also in tennis, because it's an individual sport as well, it makes it even more... isolated solitude sport where you are focused on your team and you create your own environment community and you're like excluding everything else. which is understandable to some point.

Contrary to, let's say, basketball, we do share in the locker room.

So we're sitting next to each other or warming up next to each other, playing finals for the biggest tournament, which is crazy to think about it you know whereas you know obviously the basketball or football soccer you know these guys they don't and see each other until they're actually on the court. you know, look at each other, send each other looks, our team members send each other looks in the locker room and stuff.

So the battle starts already there. So from that point of view, it's kind of hard to expect that they would come and say, hey, look, you know, give me something. advice how can I beat you but that's what I'm saying like there's many more other things that can be very helpful outside of the court.

And yes, there are some young players that are how can I say, open, more flexible, more curious, And I think it's maybe not so much about that, but it's about how shy... or how courageous you are to really break that boundary and not be afraid of coming to me or to someone that you look up to and say, Hey, can I ask you a question?

You know, more often I would get questions through their team members to my team members to me.

Yeah. And so, and then I would approach them and say, hey, you can, you know, you can talk to me.

There's no problem. Yeah, but you know, I don't want to bother you and stuff like this.

So yeah, I think it's very nice if you have that exchange, even if it's a short one.

Because the level of appreciation and respect, which I think is... ultimately the most important thing in sports, you know, yes, we all want to win.

Yes, we all want to be the best. Yes, we all want to make records in history, but appreciating what your fellow athlete goes through. compassionate, being compassionate and empathizing with him or her And respecting the process is something that is more eternal in your heart, in your soul, and in the eyes of all the other people than any achievement or any success.

I mean, that's at least how I see it. I love that.

I couldn't agree with you more because I always try to remind people that the only person who can truly relate to you is that person.

Like your competitors are the only people who can actually relate To what it feels like to be you because your team, they can't fully relate.

Of course they can relate. They... play tennis and they understand the game, but they don't know what it feels like to be in that locker room before you go on, to be at the net when the score is not in your favor,

I talk about even in our industry, like I like to be friends with everyone in my industry.

And I like to connect with anyone that you genuinely get along with.

Because for me, I'm like, you're the only person who understands what it feels like to interview people, to get the public criticism, to have the scrutiny, Be careful about what you're saying to whatever it may be.

And if I'm not friends with you, I have my friends from back home in London who I loved and my best friends. but they don't know what it feels like to do this.

And so in this part of my life, there's a difference.

I wonder with you, you've been through, and I want to talk about some really pivotal moments You've been through so many injuries, losses, all of that.

At this point in your career, when you've achieved so much, you've been through so much, what goes through your mind when you lose now? but I just want to reflect on what you said on the industry because I think it's super important.

Yeah, please. And that's the mentality, the right kind of mentality and the philosophy of... instead of division, it's unity, it's collaboration, it's understanding, it's support, it's respect, it's appreciation, it's coming together, it's growing industry together. understanding that you are all, yes, you are competitors,

I mean, even in your industry, you compete for the audience and so forth.

And there's a lot of podcasts out there.

And it's understandable to a certain point that there are certain... formulas that you developed and tools that you want to keep to yourself, which is 100% understandable.

But at the same time, overall in a general perspective of things, we are part of the same industry, we need to grow, we need to grow this awareness.

So that's how I also see it for tennis. in sports, even more so competition, and the kind of a fierce mentality is so prominent to the point where, like, for example, in basketball, I love basketball.

You know, Serbia is a country of basketball, is our national sport number one.

And you have... or intentionally. Maybe in the midst of a battle, under the rim, fighting for a rebound hurts somebody. and you elbowed somebody, okay?

And that somebody's down and you can see him in pain, and you don't come and give him a hand and say, hey, man, sorry, let's go.

I don't see how that exposes your weakness because I think that's in the center of everything.

It's like, don't show your weakness, don't show your vulnerability, be strong, be tough, whatever.

Of course, we have to be tough, be strong, be whatever, be fierce in terms of like wanting to win and finding a way to win.

But that doesn't mean that we can be also human beings that... hey, if I did something to you in a contact sport like basketball, if it's a foul or something like that, hey, you just give him a hand one second and says, whatever, let's go, let's keep it going. that doesn't mean that you will not battle in the next minute again.

So that's the part which I don't really understand fully or don't support it, but that's why I feel like coming together and really showing that respect, even if it's, before the game and after the game, it really resonates with people. it does send overall a good message and I think it improves the sport and brings people more together.

Now to your question about losing a match, right?

Yeah, like at this stage of your career, I feel like you've obviously, we've talked about it, you're satisfied. succeeded you've come back from like being down on points like and I'm trying to get into your mindset just where it's at today and how it's evolved over time like What does it feel now when you lose, have an early exit?

What does that feel like now compared to before?

As hard as it was before, yeah. Sometimes there is no rule.

Sometimes it takes me... hour, sometimes half a day, sometimes a day, sometimes a week to go over the loss.

I mean, It just really depends. But right after the match...

I would, if I have to reflect shortly about a match with my team, but I just want to be left alone.

I just have to go through my process. I don't like the... the chitchat, the small talk of trying to lift my spirits up right after the match.

I was just like, just give me some time.

I need to isolate myself, go in my room, go outside, walk, whatever it is. just blow some steam out.

And then when I do that, then I'm ready to talk, socialize and stuff like this.

I don't know whether that's something that is good or not. in general terms, but that's just me.

I feel like it's really hard for me to digest that I lost the match.

As I said, sometimes it takes longer, sometimes shorter to get out of it, but I do need definitely like few hours to not see anybody.

Like I hug my kids, if I say my kids, you know, my kids sometimes within those few hours, they get me and they're like, Daddy, we have to do this.

You have to take me there and stuff. So kids... have that permission to come into my space, but you know, anybody else, I just need some, some time.

And I, I just feel like it's sometimes is necessary to have that.

And in solitude, is not necessarily bad.

And I feel like we all need to learn how to embrace being in in solitude and enjoy being by ourselves.

Doesn't mean that we have to go to total extreme, But it has to be balanced and optimal.

But we need to create that time for ourselves because...

Also being bored is good. You know, being bored, This is something very interesting that I also see with my kids, particularly with my son.

He keeps on telling me he's 10. And he's like, Daddy, like he just recently told me a few days ago, we were... at my parents' place countryside by the lake.

And we were alone and we were playing different.

We were playing ping pong. We were doing some kayaking in the lake.

And we played some football, soccer. So we kept a quite active first few hours of the day.

And then I was doing something else. I don't know what I was doing.

And then he comes up to me. He's like, daddy, I'm bored.

And then I had him sit down with me and then I said, But son, it's okay to be bored sometimes.

First of all, you had a great active morning and you did a lot of things And second of all, when you're bored, It doesn't mean that you have to instantly take a book or a screen or anything else.

You need to also learn how to be with your thoughts.

And if you're not comfortable being bored indoors, go outdoors.

Sit on a chair and have some drink. and just look at the sky.

And I think that's much easier said than done.

And I really would love my children to be able to be okay with being bored because that's the time when you're actually most creative or That's the time when you can manage your thoughts and everything that you have been suppressing by distracting yourself with phone, with whatever it is.

They don't have, my kids don't have phones.

They're 10 and 7. And that's another conversation, but it's a struggle, but it's important.

I think it's super important, particularly for them at this young age, understand and develop a connection with nature, with outdoors, with activity, with all these things.

And then It's inevitable, you know, soon it will come a moment where they'll have the screens and well, they're blend into the society's norms.

But at least I'll be comfortable as a parent that I done what I can to instill some of the foundational things in them that they will appreciate maybe not now, but later on in life.

I think also when I lose a match, I want to be distracted by something.

I want to have my phone. I want to... watch something, read something, I wanna distract myself.

And that's one of the bad habits that I have.

So it's a battle for me. And normally how I win this battle is just go outside.

And I either don't take my phone, I'll leave it.

Or if I take it, I'll just... If I'm in the city, I'll just listen to something, listen to Jay Shetty's podcast on purpose.

Or I would do something, normally I would listen to music. you know, relaxing just to kind of calm myself out prefer not listening to anything and just being immersed in whatever is outdoors and trying to find a park. trying to find anything natural.

And I think that helps a lot, but I do need my time.

Yeah, that's reaffirming for me because if I'm having a tough time, I've always found that being alone I have to first make sense of how I feel about something before I hear everyone else's feelings. because otherwise someone's feeling won't satisfy me.

Right, so even if someone said, and I assume that's what you're saying, if someone came up to you and goes, oh, but Jay, but everything's gonna be all right.

It's like, if I don't feel that, and if I don't believe that, it doesn't matter how many times And of course the intention is good for that person, but it's hard for you to see that at a given moment.

So I agree with that. And I think to the point of distractions, I don't think that necessarily distractions are 100% super negative.

And I'll explain. I think that for a lot of people, they need... a moment, however that moment lasts. it looks like they're distracting themselves, like when I do it.

But what I do is just... bringing myself back to that center, whatever that is, okay?

And then I'm ready to do some other practice of, breathing or whatever it is, or I can socialize, I can start speaking with people. and do other things.

So I don't feel it's necessarily bad unless you don't have any control of it. unless it just carries you into hours and hours of playing games or being on social media, of being...

If it's that, then it's not good. Yeah. Then it's not good because then you're destructing your own Well, what you're doing is you're disrupting the pattern.

So instead of being there and then you're just playing the game again in your head And being down on yourself and being negative.

Right. And so you're disrupting that pattern with the distraction.

And then that's a good thing. because then you don't get into that spiral.

And it's not like you're checking what people said on the comments.

About the game. Right. Right. You're disconnecting from the game.

I'm disconnecting. Yeah. Well, The thing is that if you're on social media, which I do have a tendency to go to social media as well, like right after, even though I don't want to, but part of me wants to.

It's also where I find some short clips of... what happened in the match and then kind of like analyze what happened and how I, why I did what I did or. whatever I could have done better.

And then I see... you know, this obviously there's this shocking headlines like Djokovic is out, you know, he lost.

I mean, what a shock early, blah, blah, blah.

And then I get pissed off and then I just switch that off, right?

So I don't even get to the comments or section or anything like that.

Then I just leave it for whatever time. And then what you're doing is you are... changing that state you're in.

Because if you are... really wired in that moment, you are like almost going to burst. it's not good.

I mean, how can you have a rational... conversation with anybody if you're in that state And then normally in that state, if you start making decisions when you're hotheaded, not good as well.

I think that these are the ways of, if you can, like cool yourself down.

And then, I mean, a cold shower is something that I also do sometimes when that I think also helps with kind of, um, biology and I feel like physiology just like helps my mind my brain calmed down and then I'm able to address topics that I want to address.

It's almost like what it takes to emotionally regulate.

Yeah. And if you go straight into analyzing the game or talking about it, You're actually heartbeats going up.

You're breathing shallow again. you're replaying the missed shot, and all of a sudden, you're just bombarded by all the same emotions again.

And you've got to sometimes just calm that down before you can do that effectively.

It makes a lot of sense. Exactly. But what I love hearing, which is what I love about all my favorite athletes, and you're definitely...

You know, when I think about my favorite athletes, you're in tennis, Cristiano in soccer, Lewis Hamilton in F1.

People sometimes will make fun of Cristiano online for still crying when he loses.

I love that. Like as a fan, I love that.

Like I love to see that he's crying after all this time.

He's the number one goal scorer in the world.

In my opinion, he's achieved everything he possibly could.

He's played amazing for his country, same way as you.

But it's like, he's still crying. And the game's not even...

It's not the Champions League anymore. He cares.

Yeah, he cares. Exactly. He cares. And I agree with you.

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This is the point that we discussed on particularly men professional sports, there's no room for vulnerability and because that shows weakness. weakness exploits you and when something exploits you then you are vulnerable to you know lose you the match or game or whatever it is.

I mean, that's the narrative. When you're crying, you are...

Yeah, you're often regarded as a very weak man.

And I have had the same view for quite a long time, I must say.

And I changed that about 10 years ago. my upbringing, there was no room for emotions.

That was just like serious, I have to do my job and I have to be successful, no room for error, et cetera.

But it also comes from, I think, my home where I didn't have that relationship where when I would cry, I would be with my father, especially, that I would feel safe.

I would not feel that. And so I had to not cry and be tough.

And then I have to, I kind of close myself, you know, and to the point where I wasn't able to express myself emotionally. at the time when I started dating my girlfriend at the time, my wife, It was hard for me to express what I feel.

Even though I'm a very talkative person, I like to communicate.

I feel like I'm very approachable in that sense.

But for a long time, that was a narrative, particularly in men's sports, as we talked about it.

So I do like that about Cristiano as well, because in the end of the day, you know, he's giving his heart out on the pitch for his team, for the fans.

And that ultimately needs to be respected because the guy at his age, 40, after everything he has achieved, still going, still wants to win. in a league that is far weaker than the best leagues in Europe,

But he still has this champions mentality and he'll always have it as long as he's playing.

So yeah, absolutely a credit to him for that.

And I do resonate with that. And I cried. many times after my losses in the locker room, but also on the court. particularly after Olympics, like losses at Olympic games for my country or Davis Cup when I play for my country, that's like, even stronger intensity of emotions that you go through. because you're not playing for yourself only in that way.

I mean, when I play all the tournaments, I always represent my country, here in this official team competitions or Olympics, it's even more emphasize the importance of your country, of wearing those colors on your sleeve or in your heart.

So when you lose, you're like, you're so down and the whole world collapsed.

I'm very happy that I was able to win the gold medal for my country last year in Paris Olympics because there was a long... time dream of mine and the Olympic games are just so special.

You know, every four years, I know LA is the next one, obviously.

My wish is to be able to play LA. I mean, hopefully I'll be still playing to be able to participate.

Yeah, I hope so too. It'll be fun to be able to just watch you locally for once.

For sure. And we got the Soccer World Cup coming to America too, so it's an exciting time.

But no, I love hearing that as well, just like...

When you're playing for yourself, you let yourself down, you let the fans down, but When you're playing for your country, you let the country down and No one wants to let their country down.

No one wants to... Everyone wants to... represent well.

And I think sometimes at a national level, athletes get it really tough to when you lose for your country.

Yes. It's one of the hardest feelings because... yeah, it's a different emotion.

And I think we forget as fans and followers, you forget the human experience.

No, for sure. I mean, look, we are very... blessed as athletes on the highest level to be able to play the sport that we fell in love with because if not all but super majority of Professional athletes play those sports on the highest level because when they were kids, they wanted to play tennis, basketball, football, whatever, they fell in love. and it's a love and passion for the game that got you going.

So it's important to state that because we are for sure fortunate ones, but at the same time, we feel that through sport, we are able to connect with people and people are able to connect. with the virtues that sport and the values that sport represents that help them in their everyday life.

I think that's not something that has been talked about a lot.

Why is it that our sports are so popular?

Why is it that people... relate to athletes, it's because of this grit, because of this battle.

We all go through internal battle on a daily basis and in sports we can Of course, admire the features of an athlete and the skills and the talent and the ability but at the same time, we also identify ourselves with those athletes.

We feel like... wow, you know, this game or a match it's in a way a condensed daily life or a condensed life into an hour or two or three where you start at the beginning you're even, then you end up, you know, winning or losing.

But in the process... journey of the match and the game, you're going through ups and downs, And particularly in individual sports, you mentioned Lewis Hamilton, another great legend. you're going through that battle of trying to that inner battle where you go through your doubts, your worries, your fears,

So all of these elements are part of everyday life of everyday person.

And that's why I feel like people relate to sports.

And also, when they go to see sport live, particularly, but also...

When they watch it on TV, I feel they're able because they they are so connected to the community of that club or that athlete or whatever it is, they feel like all of their problems stop. at least for those hour, two, three hours that they are watching.

And they feel like they can also... when they're watching.

I mean, that's my observation and experience with tennis fans, for example, or I mean, Of course, I've watched basketball and football live as well, or the other fans of the other sports, that's where they feel like they can... free themselves of the emotions and the burdens that are kind of wearing them down.

And sometimes it really goes to an extreme level where people start really or swearing and fighting and throwing stuff at the the athletes and behaving really bad like hooligans.

And that's obviously a part that I don't support. but I can see that there's a lot of people that are like, That's why after a game, they either feel drained or they feel energized.

They either feel like they have... kind of like collected that energy from the stadium or they feel like they're completely like a deflated balloon. because they've been through crazy intensity of the emotions and whatever,

They relate, they follow every point and every second of the game.

And then in the end, of course, if the team loses, it's a big difference than when they win.

But it's just that identification that happens that I feel like it's super strong and why sports are so important for the society and why people regard it as something very popular and important for them.

And I'm really glad you're having that conversation because I think it can have... even as a kid, like I grew up playing sport never know, good enough to play any semi-professional, even professional level.

Sport created discipline in my life, even as someone who wasn't.

You know, that prolific at sport created discipline, created teamwork if you were playing a team sport, created timeliness. created commitment, created showing up.

There were so many healthy, valuable, masculine.

Right. traits as well that were so important and of course for women as well and It's interesting what you say about it going the toxic side because I think it was the last...

Euros or the World Cup, and there was this statistic about how domestic violence in England goes up if England lose, but it goes up even more if England win.

Because people drink more when they win.

And that's just so shocking that you see that connection too.

And that's why I think it's even more important to get these positive messages through Sport Out. so that we don't have that kind of a statistic because, and that's specifically to do with football, soccer.

Yes, of course. but it is super important I think but in football it's far more extreme than in tennis in terms of the tennis fans are fans and, you know, the kind of like, uh, following and being such a ultra devoted fan.

I mean, they literally live for that the entire year. which I think is beautiful when you see choreographies of some fans in the basketball games or football games.

And it's just, it's arts, it's beautiful, you know, and then this energy when thousands and tens of thousands of people start singing together.

For their club, I mean, it's an incredible feeling.

That's why we all love being present to experience that because ultimately human beings love to experience things Because that fills our life.

And sports allow us to do that. They allow us to experience some incredible enthusiastic... exhilarating type of uplifting energy, joy, But it also, the sadness or anxiousness and stuff and and so all of these emotions that you go through It's just an incredible school of life in some way.

But you're right, you know, it also teaches professional sports, teach a great deal of discipline. the never giving up spirit that I think it's important for people.

Because today in the society, because... a lot of people look to conform to be comfortable to you know there's always something that I can do differently they don't finish things so it's important to kind of remind yourself to be devoted and not give up and believe that you can achieve something that you set yourself up to.

So yeah, sports definitely send those values.

And you're right, it's important to always emphasize that.

Yeah, one of my favorite stories actually of that never give up mindset was Vanessa Bryant tells this story after Kobe Bryant tragically passed away.

And she said that Kobe played through a lot of games especially finals when he was injured.

And she would ask him and say, why are you playing when you're injured?

You should just not play like it's okay.

And he would say that, If I don't play, there's going to be a fan out there who's saved up to watch this game and they can only come to one game in their life because it's expensive to get seats.

And they saved up to watch me play and if I don't play, they won't see me play.

And so I'm going to play through an injury and I'm like, When you hear stories like that of athletes doing incredible things, you think, wow, like...

That's the power, that's the motivation.

I was going to ask you, I mean, you've played through and overcome some bad injuries.

What's the worst injury that you ever had to overcome to be able to come back at the top?

I had a surgery of my elbow back in 2017 and I've kind of had that injury for a year and a half and I tried with I don't normally drink anti-inflammatories.

I don't like those tablets. cortisone shots or anything like that, I feel like that's only... masking the problem, but sometimes In tennis, we sometimes play five, six days in a row.

And you have no other option. And if you want to stay alive in the tournament, you have to do it.

So I've done it. for like a year or something with playing under these pills, like every single match. to the point where I didn't feel pain anymore.

Sorry, actually, I felt the pain even if I was taking the full dose of anti-inflammatories and that was the sign for me, like, I have to operate this, I have to do something different.

I made a kind of a little bit of a vow to myself and a promise that I will not. operate myself throughout my career, will not make any surgery.

And I felt I let myself down. I cried for days that I accepted to do a surgery but surgery was done very well.

You cried for days. Yeah, because I felt like I let myself down.

I said, I wanted to go throughout my entire career without having one surgery.

But it happened and I had an arthroscopic intervention on my knee last year.

During a match in Roland Garros, actually fourth round, I won in five sets after four and something hours.

I was winning set and a half comfortably. in the last 16 round and then i felt the click it was something it was very weird And I never had an injury of the knee, luckily, at least that severe.

And then I started to play, but I could not stand on my leg and I was playing through the pain.

Then I invited a physio and a doctor And then, you know, he was touching me in this spot where my meniscus is.

And I felt, wow, that's very painful. like what do you want to do and I said listen you know I want to I want to give it a shot I want to try just give me strongest painkillers you have right now because I'm on the court full stadium, I can't just, I wanna try.

So that's what he's they've done. And after.

30 minutes, they start kicking in and I was kind of surviving in this 30 minutes and then...

The pain went down, the pain was still there, but I went through it and I won the match.

And I actually finished the match with pretty good feeling.

I still had pain, but it was pretty good feeling.

And I was like... Confident for my quarterfinals, it was coming up in two days, but the next day I went for an MRI and I saw I have a ruptured... meniscus and basically had to be operated.

So I pulled out on the tournament and I did that operation.

And the Wimbledon was coming up in three weeks.

And then my team was, I still remember that conversation with my team on the rooftop and on the back of that story that you told me about Vanessa and Coby know vanessa was telling kobe why do you play don't play like it's it's a normal protective advice from a dear person in your life. same I got from all of my people, from my family members to my team members and my I remember my physio that I'm with for the last 20 years told me, yeah, you know, it's normally like four to six weeks and stuff like this, but you know,

We had some miraculous recoveries from some athletes, la la la.

And my physio was sitting on the rooftop of our hotel and all team was there and he said, I know you. to not even think for a second you'll play Wimbledon.

Like that's out of the question. Wow. and I didn't say anything.

All the team members agreed, I didn't say anything.

Actually, one thing I said, I said, I understand what you're saying.

But please, for my own mental sanity because it's Wimbledon because it's always been a dream tournament, the most important tournament.

Let's just see how it goes in the next two weeks.

Because I have three weeks of the tournament and I can pull out three, four, five days before the tournament.

So I have like two, two and a half weeks to play around.

At that point, I was with crutches. So long story short, I've dedicated so much time in a day to recover.

And it was like a... task for me to prove even the closest people in my team and family wrong that I can recover.

And it was really a mission. And I recovered and I played finals.

And I lost last year finals in Wimbledon.

And then I, a week after that came to the Paris back again and played Olympics and won the gold medal.

So it was the best period of my 2024 season is when I actually had a post-surgery, because something clicked in my head where He triggered me, my physio, and said, do not even think.

And for me, what I heard is, Okay. Thank you for giving me the task because now I have a challenge on my hands.

Yeah. All I needed is that. And actually that's what I need now.

I feel like in this phase of my career when I'm trying to motivate myself and keep going and stuff, I need a challenge.

I think athletes in the highest level after so long, they need to feel their challenge.

They need to feel that they are playing. a game, even though it's our job and everything.

But we need to feel like somebody is going to say something, you want to prove them wrong.

Michael Jordan in his last dance was talking about it.

He's like, even if I didn't have anybody in the crowds talking crap to me, but I still picked someone and selected him as an enemy.

And just because I needed to create that enemy inside of my head to get me going.

So I actually relate to that, even though I don't... necessarily always look for enemies in my every match in the crowd, but I had...

Quite an experience with tennis crowds over the years in my career.

Oftentimes when I would play with Nadal and Federer, most of the times I would have most of the stadium against me. it would be challenging, but that's also part of why my mental health, Toughness is as it is in a kind of a hostile environment. played most of my matches and big matches and I kind of had to find a way to to win a match and to use that energy as my fuel and not, have it wear me down.

What does that take to do that? Because it sounds like that scrutiny is worse than an injury, what's worse?

That kind of hostile environment, hostility or injury?

Look, injury is the biggest enemy or an opponent of an athlete.

You can't do your job You can't play your sport if you're injured. which proves the point of self-care even more of how important it is and how significantly you have to address that and approach that in your daily life. as an individual athlete particularly.

But at the same time, hostile environment is not ideal.

I mean, you always want to be playing where you're celebrated cheered for of course you know it lifts you up in the tough moments when you're down and just But I learned somehow in the hostile environment to thrive.

And I've seen that, you know, with like Kobe did it as well, right?

LeBron. Other athletes as well in their respective sports talked about it and in football they experience it a lot.

People can relate to that. I think people always feel, even the average person constantly feels like their work's a hostile environment or wherever, like what allowed you to use it as fuel consistently over that time to the point where people were cheering when you finally win.

Well, there are a few things. First, I mentioned that already, is using that... as a fuel to prove somebody wrong.

And that requires... work mentally to be able to transform or transmute that energy or that cheering. that is against you to convince yourself it's for you.

So I was saying this years ago. after I was playing Feather in one of the Wimbledon finals.

They would cheer Roger, Roger all the time, basically.

So I've... was convincing myself, and I managed to convince myself, especially in the second part of the match, they were cheering Nolan or Novak, Novak.

That's what I was hearing. Wow. That's cool.

And then my mind was playing games, but I wasn't allowing it to play games with me that basically was like, what are you talking about?

I mean, they're saying Roger and I'm saying Novak, but I was like, no, no, no, they're saying Novak.

Novak, Novak, Novak. So I was using that as my own force and my own fuel.

And then, but that's, It is possible. It is possible, but you need to work on that and convincing yourself in something that is different from the reality that is actually happening. or basically in other words, creating your own reality,

Because in the end, that's a more philosophical question and spiritual of whether this is all one reality or it's a different reality.

We all experience different forms of reality of what's happening. creating your own reality and convincing yourself and basically training your subconscious mind that this is exactly what you want to hear.

It is possible, but it takes an effort. But it goes a long way because for everyday person, you can tap into that subconscious mind that basically controls 95%. of your 100% daily life while you're awake.

5% is only, I mean, I was shocked and that's science.

That's not me saying it's science that is saying that 5% is only conscious mind.

I was shocked when I heard that. It's like, how in the world are we then able to live how we want to live, where we are actually on autopilot. most of the time.

And that explains the multitasking, that explains why we can text and drive and drink and speak and do five things at the same time is because of the subconscious.

But subconscious is basically reacting to what you are, are instilling or uploading in that program.

So I feel like when I was introduced to that culture, subconscious mind science, I was You know, I felt like I've changed myself and my own perspective on things and how I approach life and performance and relationship.

And I could see that and I still make mistakes and I still do plenty of mistakes, not on the tennis court or outside in relationship and everything.

I'm more conscious and more aware where it's coming from and why I did it.

And I'm going to keep on doing mistakes, but I'll try to reduce those.

And I feel like being in control is something that we all want to be in.

Like we want to control our thoughts. We want to control our lives, our partners that we want to, But it's not possible and it shouldn't be the case.

Like you can only control what you can, which is your own personality. process internally and then how that comes across what I speak to you right now and what you think in your mind and how you hear my words is I can't control that.

You know, I can only hope that I am emitting right kind of energy and vibe to you and that we are creating something nice.

That's what I feel like we all get trapped a lot is like, No, I'm going to prove you the point of what I was saying and I'm going to tell you why you are causing this in me and so forth.

So putting always a blame to someone else.

And I mean, I can feel that with tennis is that I can instantly... see the mistake when I actually say it's my coaches folder, it's my physio's fault or my fitness coach's fault or it's whoever's fault for me losing a match or me playing this way.

So, always remind myself, hey, take the responsibility in your hands.

Take the means in your hands. You are... in control of your life, maybe not fully because there's always this destiny or divine purpose of us being here and the karma from past lives and et cetera, that's another conversation, but What you can control, focus on that.

The other things is just, you know, it's in God's hands and it's in the hands of other people. and how that all interacts.

But I believe that when you're training yourself to think good thoughts and It comes back to you.

It's the law of attraction and The law of giving and taking and it comes back, you know, you become what you think, right?

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