This is the Pursuit of Wellness podcast and I'm your host Mari Llewellyn.
What is up, guys? Welcome back to the show and we are talking. motivation and productivity tips.
We all have had feelings of motivation before, but they don't stay very long.
Motivation is a fleeting feeling and discipline is a consistent habit that allows you to take action even when you don't feel like it.
It's all about building habits that you do regardless of whether you feel like it or not.
This will allow you to do anything in life.
When I first started my journey, I struggled to wake up early because it was new for me.
I struggled to pass up a sweet treat because that was new for me.
I struggled to get to the gym when I was tired or it was cold.
I struggled getting in all my steps. because I didn't want to.
I struggled driving back and forth from New York to Philly to get my degree.
I struggled sitting at the front desk of Orange Theory Fitness at 3 AM.
I struggled with everything. But after a while, I stopped even thinking about it.
It stopped being a choice and it just started to be my lifestyle. things started to feel way more comfortable.
And that's how... it becomes your life, it's how it becomes who you are, your habits become your new identity.
What is currently holding you back? Is it that you need to wake up earlier?
Are you not achieving enough in the day?
Do you need to create more hours in your day?
When I first started my fitness journey and I started all these new habits, at first it was so uncomfortable.
But the more I did it, the more comfortable it became.
The more I kept my own promises, the more confident I got.
What are some things you can do to set yourself up for success every single day?
I am someone who absolutely loves the calendar.
If it's not in the Google calendar, I'm not doing it.
I like to time block. I like to see everything that's happening from workouts to socializing, to meetings, to podcast recordings, to vacations, to flights, every single thing is in my calendar.
What can you do to make things easy for yourself? me every time I went to the gym I needed to bring a plan otherwise I'd end up going feeling confused overwhelmed and leaving early go to the gym with a plan maybe you struggle with nutrition maybe Go to the grocery store with a meal plan and a list.
This was huge for me when I started my weight loss journey. looking up meals that I wanted to make, making sure they were healthy, high protein and writing down all the ingredients I needed, going to the grocery store with a plan. meal prepping on Sunday nights, making sure everything's ready to go.
Get yourself ready and in a headspace where things are easy to check off and easy to achieve.
It's not just about checking boxes, but doing things that make you feel whole.
When I was going through my fitness journey, yes, I was definitely eating healthy, I was exercising, I was doing all the right things. but I also was mentally improving.
I was getting more and more confident every single day. finding happiness in doing hard things.
I think this is a really important piece of the puzzle and finding tools that keep you happy is so important. having the power to control our time, our minds and get the most out of our days.
It's really one of the most powerful tools we have.
I don't do things lightly I don't try to do anything in life.
Like if I'm saying yes, I'm saying yes. And like-
I'm not going to try to work out. I'm working out five times a week and like I'm going to be super disciplined in that.
Day one, I join a CrossFit gym. And it was really intense.
But what I loved about it was the community.
And when you're early on, like y'all, I didn't even own a pair of walking shoes at this point.
I maybe had one pair of leggings and then went to Target and bought the same workout top in three colors. basically a tight bra that then like popped out and was like loose around my stomach.
Yeah, like a peplum. Because God forbid, I felt like a stuffed sausage in every single workout outfit.
Oh. And I'm wearing like extra, extra larges.
Like I didn't even have any association with my size at the time.
But I asked them, I'm like, what sneakers do I need?
What equipment do I need? They're like, you need these no bowl sneakers. brand.
They're like the flattest shoes ever. So I was wearing these all black Noble sneakers.
I had three tops and got a few more pair of extra, extra large leggings.
And I was in there five times a week. Damn.
And that community was something. Well, they like hype you up.
They really hype you up and like they push you.
I mean, it's like – It felt almost like military.
Like you're competing for something. Yes.
Not that I could compete with any of these people.
I mean, truly on the days where it was like run a mile, do 10 handstand pushups.
The modifications that my coaches would do for me was amazing.
But that's... Can you speak to like did you feel any intimidation or insecurity walking into an environment like that?
At first, yes. And my brother would actually come with me.
Frankie was super freaking fit at the time.
Frankie like also goes through phases but like Frankie was jacked at the time.
Really? Yeah, and he... was such a great accountability partner for me because all of my friends at the time were like my party friends.
I wasn't in a relationship and Frankie like was holding me accountable and So that was really great.
And then I got to the point where I could hold myself accountable and like I had partners in – that community that like knew my name, knew what I was up to, knew about like what I wanted to accomplish.
And I have always been someone who wanted to surround myself with people who were doing more and doing better.
And it's really motivating. I always say in business, I never want to be the smartest person at the table.
When I was signing up for CrossFit, I definitely wasn't walking in there wanting to be the fittest person in the room.
So it was really cool to see these like literal athletes doing the same shit that like I wanted to do.
Kind of like me looking up to the IFBB pros in bodybuilding, you were around these insane athletes.
Like shoot for the stars, be around the best.
And I would crush myself in those workouts.
Damn. I was going for it. Like really, really going for it.
And then after that year – I, question.
Yes. Did you go into your journey saying, I want to lose 85 pounds?
No, I never thought 85 pounds was possible.
I had been overweight my whole life. I was the heaviest kid in my first grade class. why and what happened in first grade, we were all put on a scale in front of each other.
No, no. Oh my God. That's the type of thing that you never forget.
And yeah, I'm literally... 23 years later still remembering this moment of being the heaviest kid when I was in sixth grade.
I won't forget little moments of like my doctors growing up saying like, Sammy, you're only 13, you shouldn't be carrying this much body fat.
Just across the board, so many moments that were so telling.
So no, I never thought that like who you are seeing here today was a possibility. for what I could look and feel like.
I think a lot of people move their body to look a certain way At this point in my journey, I was addicted to movement because it made me feel a certain way. because it was fulfilling a promise that I was making to myself, because it was allowing me to get to know myself to a deeper level than I had ever learned before.
And it wasn't about how hard the workout was.
It was about walking away and feeling like my cup was full, not empty.
And I think a lot of workouts can kind of empty your cup.
Totally, totally. And I do think like the discipline you learn from an intense...
Workout like a CrossFit. I mean, I was super intense for a while with my workouts.
Perhaps that's what we needed at the beginning.
Because it teaches you pure discipline. Discipline is self-love.
Like you'll hear me say that all the time when you learn. self-discipline that is the number one form of self-love.
Because if you can't show up for yourself, how are you going to do great things for yourself?
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I think fitness taught me everything I know about work ethic.
Like it is the reason I'm able to show up at my job every day.
Because you just show up. You know what I really want everyone to hear?
If you have the privilege to move your body You are doing your entire life such a disservice by not embracing movement.
And if you haven't found the movement for you, keep looking because it exists.
I agree. It is such a privilege. It is the best form of therapy.
What happened for me after class passed was COVID, we were in a pandemic.
There were no more classes. I became obsessed with walking.
Hmm. Yep. I think a lot of girls are using, like, even if they don't like working out, walking's there.
Walking is a gift. You get to go out. side.
You get to get sunshine in or just fresh air in.
You get to have it stack all so many other things you love.
You get to invite your friend or call the person who makes you happy.
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Whatever you want to do, you can do while walking.
If you have legs that move, walk. It is a gift.
Oh my God, I'm obsessed with walking. I still walk.
10 to 20 case steps a day. I'm obsessed.
Guys, Sammy walks like. 10 miles a day and does calls and gets her whole day done.
My team knows like If I want to be as mentally active as possible, I should be moving.
I had a few internships throughout college and my memories of these internships were me shaking like a leaf, terrified my boss was going to talk to me. hiding in the bathroom, feeling like I didn't know what was going on.
Like I had zero, zero, zero confidence in myself and what I thought. didn't even really know what I wanted.
And then, I worked at Orange Theory Fitness.
I was at the front desk getting heart rate monitors thrown at me, ducking, sweaty towels, cleaning toilets.
It's funny because of course I was unsatisfied with that, but it taught me so much.
I'm so grateful I had that little season.
I'd show up at 4 a.m. to open up the studio.
That was mid-fitness journey. It was a way- Which is also a crazy level of discipline, if you think about that.
Insane. I used to be insane. Like I know I still have it in me, but it's funny when you're in like... like hitting rock bottom and feeling like I have. to fix this like I do not have a choice it's crazy what you can do Honestly.
When do you feel like you found that first oomph of confidence?
It was the second that like I realized I was not wavering on my plan.
When I kept showing up at the gym, when I kept waking up at six in the morning, when I kept eating the food, I was like, oh, I'm not quitting.
Like I was afraid, I think for the first couple months that I was going to quit. because I had quit everything else I'd ever done.
And then the second I realized I wasn't quitting, I was like, oh.
I think I can do anything. So for me at the time, working at Orange Theory and showing up at four in the morning and sticking to that was a challenge.
I had never done anything like that before.
I would skip class in college. I wouldn't show up to internships.
You had no accountability. No. For yourself?
No. Like I really didn't hold myself to a high standard. showing up at Orange Theory and cleaning the toilets was like, I am fulfilling a promise to myself.
And it was during that time. I'm serious.
I'm just picturing you like deep in your toilet being like, this is for me.
This is for the greater good. My future self is so grateful.
It's kind of crazy. And sometimes I go in a gym and I smell the cleaning. smell of the same cleaner I would clean the toilets with.
And I'm like, oh my God. Like that was kind of the crux of my work ethic.
And I was getting my degree at the time.
And I remember my Instagram. began exploding while I worked there.
And the trainers at the gym coming up and being like, oh my God, like what happened?
Like. How did you do that? Will you say that I trained you?
Like they wanted to be involved in it. And I had a fear of quitting. orange theory because I was like no no no this is my normal job like this this can't go anywhere It took me a minute to kind of take that leap of faith.
It's funny looking back. I'm like, how did I push through those years of not leaving the house, not leaving my computer, just working, working, working.
I didn't have anything to lose. I was like, let's just freaking go.
It's Orange Theory or this. It's cleaning toilets or this.
You've got to try. You don't know until you try.
That's what my dad always taught me. Right.
And now look where we are. I've noticed just even in my comment section or online, a lot of people feel like life is happening. to them, not for them.
And that victim mentality is really prevalent today.
And it's something that I went through too on my journey.
Before... going through what I went through, I would look around for people to blame or situations to blame feeling like a victim.
And I think taking responsibility and looking inward is kind of the first step on that journey for many people.
And then one of the big things that really changed my life was... when I understood or when I learned that you can choose how you feel.
The outside event is going to happen. But we all have, like you and I could have the same thing happen to us and you would go, wow, thank God.
Like that really. move me in a good direction.
And I could still be sitting here going, gosh darn it, that's so unfair.
Why'd that happen to me? It's not the thing that happens that really determines...
Whether it has value or not, it's your way of looking at it, your way of perceiving it.
And it is very easy to be a victim. There's so many... shows on TV that you watch, you know, victim this, victim that, people blaming.
I think we're in a time right now where so many people are pointing the finger at other people. and trying to say, you're the reason I'm not successful, or you need to change, I'm fine.
And when we truly take responsibility, it's not easy.
It's so much easier to be a victim. So that's the challenge.
But when you go against the grain, And you just say, look, I take responsibility. for anything that happens to me and I'm going to use it in a way that makes me better. your life changes and you become powerful.
And what my book was about is how do you shift reality?
You shift reality by taking responsibility.
And when you do that, reality starts to bend in the direction you want it to.
And I have a quote in the book that, and I do this on my emails too, average conforms to reality.
Oh, that's bad. Everyone says it's bad. Yeah, that's bad.
That's average, right? Greatness creates a whole new reality.
What I like to do is when you focus on a result, at the beginning of the year, we should say, not just my intention to fix some part of me, but what do you want to create?
What do you want to create in your life?
Stop focusing on what you want to fix. Nobody's broken. here.
And so what I like to do at the beginning of the year is come up with three, usually three or less, but big things I wanna do during the year that would really be fun.
For no other reason than I just want to create that.
I would love to create that. not because I'm broken, I need that to feel better about myself, but then you focus in on that.
And then when you focus in on it, You visualize it, right?
You use your imagination. Einstein said the imagination is a preview of coming attractions.
And so you just get in and you go, I really love creating this.
I see it, I feel it, I believe it. and then you start to notice, is there a part of you that's not in love with it, like really going for it?
Even though it's really cool, there's part of you that might not have the level of self-esteem and the subconscious like, oh, you know, I don't know.
This must, it might be too much or I'm not deserving or it's too hard.
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The subconscious mind is tapping into what are you really seeing?
What are you visualizing? Are you seeing yourself fall short?
Are you seeing yourself enjoying it and and really now having this amazing thing that you've created, what does it feel like?
Do you feel confident? And the other thing you have to notice is the subconscious in love with what you want to create.
If it's not, you won't get it. So you've got to do some reprogramming of the subconscious.
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When you talk about visualizing what we want, what are the steps we need to take after the visualization?
How do we make it a reality? I've got three big ideas in the Breakthrough Code. is you've got to focus on less and then obsess.
I really want it to be more of a subconscious obsession.
I want you to train your subconscious to naturally be looking for answers and actions and things like that.
The second thing you've got to do And by the way, the way that you do that is you see it, feel it, and believe it a couple times a day.
You see it. So you're visualizing it. I actually like more the word you're imagining it.
Like I'm imagining myself in this. And sometimes I talk myself through it.
I'm imagining myself. accomplishing this and loving this and having so much fun doing this.
So that might be helpful versus just trying to see it, see it, see it.
Some people say they can't. visualize. So imagine, imagine it.
Just say I'm imagining it. And then that kind of takes the The stress off having to see it so clearly, you're just imagining it.
And then you're feeling it. And then the next step is you've got to upgrade your story to upgrade your life.
So the way you think about who you are, what you're capable of, that's an action you have to take.
You've got to say, all right, what part of me has to die in order to create space to create an upgraded version of me or a new version of me, the version that I wanna move forward with.
We want to stay the way we are, but have our life get better.
It doesn't work that way. If you want to advance and create more, The old part of you can't do it.
Now, here's the good news. You're under no obligation to be the exact same person you were five seconds ago.
You can shift, you can change. It takes courage and also The subconscious mind will fight to stay the same because it's trying to protect you Don't wander off too far, Mari.
You know, stay the way you are. Come on, it's great. but we wanna create, we want to do more.
So we've got to let part of us die Right?
Part of our personality, not part of our body, but part of your personality, part of the way you think, Part of the way you view the world has to go away in order for a new part to come in.
And then after you've done that... Then you've gotta take effective action.
You've gotta pack your day with effective action.
So if you and I work, let's say eight, nine hours in a day, but you are twice as, and we're trying to get the same thing. but you're twice as effective with your actions, like they're really moving the needle.
And you're even doing some things that you don't necessarily... at least right now, you probably will love them later, but you're doing some things that that I'm avoiding, because I don't wanna do that, right?
But you're doing it, but we're still only working the same amount of time. you're going to get there twice as fast.
I might not even get there. You said you have no obligation to be who you were five seconds ago.
Yeah. I love that. And it was something, you know, reflecting on my fitness journey.
I think I fully knew what I was doing. Now I have more verbiage about my journey.
But I had to stop believing that I was a failure and someone who was average. and someone who was overweight in order to move forward.
I just spoke about this on a solo episode I did, but I almost convinced myself I was an athlete. in that moment because to get myself to the gym and do hard workouts every day and eat clean, I had to tell myself I was training for something.
And I fully like took that on. I love that.
And I still, like if I wake up at, five in the morning to go work out, I'm telling myself I'm an athlete.
I'm doing my training. I feel like we have to really change the way we think about our identity.
Absolutely. Yeah, we always revert back to our identity.
Back when I was working with Tony Robbins, there were studies that we were looking at that would watch people or that would observe people when they were losing weight, trying to lose weight.
And most people will lose weight when you try to lose weight.
You lose a little bit, sometimes you lose a lot.
And then typically what happens If you do not change your identity, you revert back to your identity.
I'm a person who overeats, right? I'm a person that doesn't like working out.
So I love, and same thing with cigarette smoking, right?
Or when you're smoking, like if you are a smoker who's trying to quit, If you see yourself as an overweight person who's trying to lose weight, you will lose weight and you'll probably quit smoking but then eventually Your willpower is not strong enough to fight against your identity.
You just will lose that battle. That's when we say upgrade your story, we're talking about upgrading your identity. who you see yourself as.
I love what you did. I'm an athlete. And you know what? said that your body was probably or your subconscious mind was probably bs you're not an athlete but then you've gotta keep at it, and you've gotta stick to that story.
Most people will start out, okay, I'm an athlete, like two days, three days.
They say most people, when they set intentions for the year, by the second week of February, gone, like the majority.
It's true. The gym clears out after two weeks for sure.
Yeah. because they had this intention, but the intention didn't match the story of who they really thought And then I knew one person who I respected. who was sober and it was a it was a woman named Karen who was like an older sister to me.
She worked in this nightclub that I was a bar back at when I was like 16.
And her and I just... And she would always just take me in whenever I was down and out.
Like if I was strung out. And just like I needed to like be somewhere that was not in the street.
I called her because I knew she was sober.
And she was like, wherever you are, Stay.
I'm going to send my boyfriend. And she called her boyfriend Marcus.
And Marcus showed up and... Marcus changed my whole entire life.
He introduced me to the Certainly sobriety, but he introduced me to the world of wellness through fitness and nutrition.
So at this point, did you enter a program or was it like a self-directed program? program the night that I spent with Marcus that first day he sat down with me and he just said I just want to he's like Just tell me your story.
And at that point, no one had really asked me that question, right?
Tell me your story, like what is it? And of course, like I wanted him to think that I had had it like like the worst life ever right like i was like it's probably lying you know trying to sound tough All those things, but he didn't say a word for like four hours.
And then when I was done, when I kind of had gotten to date, and today...
He was like, okay, I'm going to help you.
That was it. And he's like, this is what we're going to do.
And he had no judgment. He definitely had made some notes on the story.
But he wrote me a plan and it all happened this day.
It was nuts. But basically the plan that he kind of drew out for me was...
He's like, this is what I want you to do.
I don't, I'm not going to chase you and I don't, care whether you choose to do it or not.
Because there's enough people that I've worked with to see how this how successful this kind of. system is to know that like, you're only going to do it if you're ready.
And it sounds like you're ready, but I just know that I'm not gonna chase you around to do this.
So he basically said, look, I want you to wake up as early in the morning as you can.
I don't know what that looks like for you, but like.
If you're waking up at 4 o'clock in the afternoon now, which I'm sure you are, try to wake up earlier than that. and the first thing you're going to do when you get up in the morning is you're going to stand up you're going to turn around you're going to make your bed As soon as you make your bed, you're going to go into the bathroom and you're going to brush your teeth, wash your face, put on your contact lenses. take a piss, and get on your knees and ask God for help.
I don't care if you believe in God. I don't care if you have a bad experience with God.
I don't care if you think somebody's listening or not, But like you need help, dude.
And you don't know how to ask for it. Your version of asking for help has led you to this point.
So like we're going to kind of change direction.
And then right when you're done with that, do as many pushups as you can.
When you're done with that, you're going to put on a pair of sneakers and you're going to get out of the house immediately. take a walk, probably not jogging anytime soon, but like get out and walk around, walk for five blocks and then come home.
And when you're done with that, I want you to make a big bowl of oatmeal and you can add whatever the hell you want to it. but you need to start putting positivity into your body nutritionally. in the beginning of the day, so you create a nutritional win.
And I promise you it's going to make a difference.
Right after you do that, I want you to go to this 12 step meeting.
Get there. It's gonna be weird. Introduce yourself. tell them who you are and why you're there.
And then right when you're done with that, I'm going to train you. how to be a man and that's going to be in the rings of Muay Thai.
And I was like, what the fuck is Muay Thai?
I have no idea what you're talking about. but he was just like, come meet me at this gym.
And I'm thinking like, as he's saying this, I'm kind of like, gym, pushups, walking.
I'm like, yeah, but I'm like, I haven't like exercised in in 10 years.
Are you like super skinny at this point?
I'm like bloated and swollen and just uncomfortable.
So then he says, you know, we're going to train.
We're going to train for two hours every day.
And after we train, you're going to have chicken and broccoli.
And then you're gonna take a nap. You're gonna go to work.
You're gonna have chicken and broccoli again.
And you're going to go to bed as early as you can.
And right before you go to bed, you're going to drop on your knees.
You're going to say thank you. rinse and repeat.
And that's the plan. you were basically on the brink of death, like you needed this rigorous discipline plan.
And it honestly reminds me a lot of myself before I went on my weight loss journey.
I ended up losing 90 pounds. But when I was coming, I dropped out of school.
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Asking for help is like, the key. And believe it or not, you know, Specifically, when you ask others for help, it empowers them.
You know what I mean? Like when the boss or the owner or the whatever asks someone for help that's not in that position. that totally fires them up, you know, like makes them feel like needed yeah you know and so I really I feel like the prayer for me was like the first step into like giving myself grace and the ability to ask for help.
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I feel like that's such a great start what role did fitness play at the beginning of your sobriety journey like how did it help you heal Obviously, I've chosen not to use drugs a day at a time.
Fitness saves and had saved my life in that moment.
When Marcus knew what he was doing, I don't know how, but he just did.
And he brought me into this Muay Thai community.
And he was like, this is where you're going to spend a lot of time.
Because you need to be able to redirect the energy that you spent. destroying yourself into building yourself.
And the beauty of getting into a fitness protocol of some sort... especially when you're struggling in life, is... no matter how you slice it, if you commit to it every single day you get progress.
So there's very few things that you can do on a daily basis or four to five days a week, where every single time you're done with it, your steps further than when you started in an hour and a half period of time, hour period of time, right?
There's very few people that will get done with a workout and be like, You know, like people walk out of a workout of any kind, it could be yoga, it could be walking, it could be running, it could be lifting weights.
It could be Muay Thai, it could be anything.
And you're done and you're like, yes. And so what I was taught there is, We have the ability to create wins.
Yeah. Nutritional wins, awesome. You feel good after eating a healthy meal. physically and mentally.
You feel good after a training session, physically and mentally.
You have the ability to control that. We can control maybe 5% of our lives.
Whenever there's another person or thing in our world, we've kind of lost control.
That person can hate us. can't control that.
That person can say something that's going to impact us.
We can't control that. That person can take a swing at you.
Something can happen. We have very little control over the things in our lives.
However, when it comes to what we put into our body and how we move our body, in most cases, we do have control.
And if you can make those things wins, now the ability to commit becomes easier.
There are these things that I think are important to say because it's been so real in my life and I call it the three C's.
Commitment is the first C and probably the hardest of all the Cs. commitment is, is the gateway to happiness, right?
Like, You want something? The only way to get it is to do it.
Period. Like there's one way to get from want to have and it's to do, right?
And that means commitment. Just commit, right?
And then with enough commitment consistently, you will build confidence because commitment really does breed confidence.
You know, people... will say to me, oh my God, you like eat the same thing all the time and you do the same things all the time.
And I'm like, yeah, but I get better and better every single time like it just gets better and better and better I get stronger and stronger and stronger.
I feel better internally. you know, like with the things that I do.
So commitment breeds confidence. And there's a big difference, I think, between confidence and ego.
You know, like people think, oh, confidence, like...
That guy's got a lot of confidence. That girl's got a lot of confidence.
Really, there's a difference between confidence and ego.
In my opinion, confidence gives you the ability to make better decisions.
Because if you don't have confidence, you're always on the fence.
It's coming from self-love. Coming from self-love, right?
So self-confidence is super-duper important.
The way you develop self-confidence is you make decisions that are ultimately going to impact self.
And that's where self-love self-care comes in.
So commitment, confidence, and then with enough confidence, you know.
Courage is inevitable. And so the commit. confidence, courage, sort of trifecta has really kind of like established this.
If I'm not... I'll check myself and I'll be like, all right, dude, are you committed?
If you say you're going to do something...
You got to check yourself and see, are you actually doing it?
Because if you want this thing and it's not coming easily.
And let's backtrack and see what step we're missing.
You know, the fitness component of my life like my body really changed quick.
You know, within like the first three months of training with Marcus, I was like a different human.
It really gave me purpose. Right. And I think that is ultimately what fitness did and has done for me.
You know, no matter what's going on in my life, I can rely on fitness as a way to win.
And I think humans in general We're wired to want to win.
We just are. We do want to win. And it's not like be the best.
It's not like win the race. It's just like...
A little win. Keep your own promise. I love that.
It just goes a long way. The wins that we control, the little ones are the ones that make the biggest impact.
Because typically the big wins, you can't do alone.
You require other people. Like Bloom. Right.
Like the big, huge win. Right. Massive win.
How many people do you think it was required to create it?
Hundreds. Yeah. You know, the little wins are the ones that like actually get us in a position. to have the confidence and courage to do Bloom.
100%. 100%. I think that's such a great thing to say here for people listening who maybe want to be an entrepreneur. or whatever have these big goals, if you can... show up for yourself, sleep well, eat well.
Even if work's going badly or something, it's out of your control is going badly, you can show up and control those things and make sure they go well.
Totally. Beginning of a new year, right?
Like, people make all these commitments, all these resolutions.
And by the way, like, I'm not one of these guys that says, oh, screw New Year's resolutions.
I'm like, no, actually make them. Make them.
Why not? Put something in your path. to work towards.
Nine out of 10 people, if they fail once, They just stop, you know?
And like, I know for my life like the only one thing again that I have to do perfectly is just just get back on just get back on Thank you for joining us on the Pursuit of this show please rate and review and share with your loved ones If you want to be reminded of new episodes, click the subscribe button on your preferred podcast or video player.
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