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Terms apply. It feels selfish sometimes to be happy.
It's hard to figure out to be happy. There's no logical reason why we shouldn't be happy.
It doesn't make sense. Jimmy, you don't do a lot of interviews.
What does it feel like to be on the other side? out there is hard.
I started in radio. You're already halfway hidden and nobody sees you.
You don't have an audience there to not laugh if you're not funny.
When everyone's... firing you, letting go of you, telling you this isn't a great idea.
How do you hold on to an idea when everyone's telling you it's terrible?
Pure delusion. Has talking about your emotions always been something that you've found challenging?
I feel like I've matured a lot thanks to my wife.
In what way? No, don't ask her. Oh, she's standing.
She wants to be asked. All right, before she gets up here, Jay, I should just say...
You've been very open about your son's heart condition.
And that's been something that I imagine is extremely difficult. to stop and think about someone else and their child.
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Jay Shetty. Jay Shetty. The one, the only, Jay Shetty.
I am so excited to be here tonight at the Greek Theatre in LA with the one and only Jimmy Kimmel.
Make some noise, everyone. Thank you. Thank you for having me, Jay.
I want you to know that my first question, as it always is, because I'm interested.
I was watching you. And when you had people stand up and you said, stand up if you've ever worried about how you looked.
And I was thinking, I was wondering, because like, I couldn't see the audience if anyone didn't stand because I think everybody, and if there was a person who's never worried about how they look, That's the person I want to hang out with after the show.
They said, what is the dress? You know, what is the, because I want to fit in.
They said it's elevated casual. I was like, all right, well, okay, I'll find something that seems to fit that category.
And then I come here and you are dressed like Adam Sandler.
I'm not wearing shorts. I'm not wearing shorts.
Is this technically elevator? What is it elevated from?
I don't know what this is, but I assume it's- This is what you wear to go to 7-Eleven.
There's nothing. This is just casual. This is not.
This is just level casual is what it is.
Jimmy, this is not the roast of Jay Shatner.
I think you're at the wrong... I was told differently.
I think you're at the wrong event. I think we're going to see you at...
Stand up if you've ever eaten a whole pizza by yourself.
Jimmy, we're three minutes in and you started roasting me already.
I'm sorry. It's my nature. I was telling you, it was confusing to me because you're talking to these people and everybody's got these great stories and You're hypnotizing them with your eyes.
I know what you do. You know like 85% of this audience is here in the hope they might get to have sex with you, right?
That's why I showed up. So how does this go, Jimmy?
How does that work between me and you? What, sex?
Yeah. Well, when a host and his guests fall very much in love. they go into the dressing room and I'll show you from there.
Yes, that's right. My wife would not approve.
Thank you so much. That's the only reason.
Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Jimmy, you don't do a lot of interviews, but you agreed- No one wants to talk to me.
You agreed to do this one. Why now? Why here?
And what does it feel like to be on the other side?
First of all, My wife loves you. And so I become exposed to you, your magic.
We have some mutual friends. And really, I said to my wife, I said, hey, Jay Shetty asked me if I would do his show.
I said, what do you think? She said, well, I'd like to hear you on that.
And I said, all right, well, you're not listening to me at home, so maybe...
Maybe we can accomplish something tonight.
We'll make some magic happen. Where is she?
Is she here? She is here, but I don't know where she's sitting.
She may be... Oh, there she is. If you guys just want to write on a card what you think of her, we'll hand them to her after.
Thank you for making this happen. Jimmy, let's start there actually.
You know, tonight has been all about what we don't do because of what people think of us, the things we worry that people are perceiving about us the judgments, the criticisms that people have of us.
Talk to me about a time in your life when you really felt like imprisoned by that, if ever.
Oh, very much so all the time. Not just, I mean, really, honestly, like if I'm at an event and I'm not. dressed properly.
I feel, in fact, I went to a wedding recently.
A very good friend invited me to be in his wedding party and And he was not great with the details of the party.
But again, another dress code situation.
This one was... Festive attire, which means nothing to me.
And I was in the wedding party and I wore what I thought was festive attire and I showed up and everyone else was in a black suit.
And so I'm the idiot in all these wedding photos.
And I feel uncomfortable with the simple things like that.
But, you know, putting yourself out there is hard.
And I'm not talking about... show business necessarily.
I think that there are a lot of people that I've known over decades years and years who are really good at something and you try your best to encourage them to do that thing that they're good at.
And they're either going to do it or they aren't.
And sometimes for them, You saying they're good at it is enough.
That's enough for them. And they don't want to threaten that idea.
They don't want you to ever think, oh, you weren't good at that.
So they leave it. And I think that's – to me that's so sad that people will do that because I do think that –
There are so many people who know they have this potential or this talent or whatever it is, and they just... they don't use it because they don't want to be proven otherwise because everyone in their little circle thinks it, and they don't want to change their minds.
And I know that's an inelegant way of saying it, but...
You just really need to do it. You have to do it.
And I, for me... I was fortunate because I started in radio.
And when you're on the radio, you're already halfway hidden and nobody sees you.
You don't have an audience there to not laugh if you're not funny.
So you just kind of have to assume you were. you keep going.
And I was able to take baby steps from being on the radio to to being the sidekick on a game show, to being a partner on a comedy show, to eventually doing my own show.
And I'm not sure if I would have been able to take that big leap I was fortunate, really genuinely fortunate, very lucky to have been in a situation where I could take those steps one by I won.
Oh, yeah. I mean, it's just, a lot of it is luck, you know?
That's the other thing that is a sad truth, but a lot of it is luck.
Now you have to be ready. when you get that moment where you are lucky, when you have that moment of fortune, You have to be prepared and you have to do whatever it is that you need to do to accomplish whatever goal you would like to accomplish, but still luck is a big part of it.
Yeah, I want to get to that but I want to go backwards a little bit because I read somewhere that you actually grew up wanting to be a scientist.
No! I don't know where you read that, but that is false.
Okay. Was I farting into Ziploc bags and leaving them?
Under my sister's pillow, yes. If that's what you consider to be science, I wanted to be a scientist.
No, science was never my thing. I wanted to be an artist when I was a kid.
I liked to draw. That was my thing. I wanted to draw.
And you were good at drawing? Yes. What would you draw?
I draw my classmates, which they never liked.
I would draw anything, superheroes when I was a little kid, caricatures of people.
I draw my family. I draw David Letterman on the television as I was watching him.
Pretty much I still to this day, if I'm if I have a pen and a piece of paper, I'll just scribble whatever whoever is sitting in front of me as we're sitting there.
Wow. And so you'll still do it today? I do, yeah.
Have you done it on the show ever? couple of times it's hard to be funny and draw at the same time they're like they're totally different parts of your brain They definitely got that wrong.
The media never gets anything wrong, right?
Yeah, I know. In this case, it's your fault.
In this case, it's yours. Yeah.
I'm always fascinated by what people wanted to be when they were growing up and then what they end up becoming because I think there's so much hidden in childhood And there's so many experiences, so many things we hear say, the subjects we study at school.
But you've had this history of, of pranks always being a central pillar.
And for most of us, maybe you did a few pranks when you were a kid.
How many of you did some pranks when you were kids?
Any pranks? Yeah? All right, a few of you.
I did a lot of pranks when I was kids, but sometimes you leave those behind, but you actually lost jobs sometimes. because you did pranks on your colleagues.
Yeah, bosses. Bosses, right. Is this gonna be where I crack open this Juni and there's a cockroach in it or something like that?
Because you planted it. The sabotage. There's a prank. love pranks I think the reason that I love pranks is because I grew up in a family that that would scream and yell when I did something and I got a great reaction out of it.
I mean, really, if you don't want to be pranked, Just don't react.
That's the way to go. But I grew up, my Aunt Chippy is a very loud woman.
She is on my show regularly. We are still, she's 85 years old.
Most recently, I started by putting little explosive in her cigarettes and. tying cans to the back of her car and she would go to work or she'd be in the casino in Las Vegas smoking and Pow!
The cigarette would blow up. And then she'd call and curse me out over the phone, and I loved it.
And, um... Now that I have a TV show, I'm able to escalate, so...
A couple of months ago, this has been a dream of mine since I saw those Waymo cars. she doesn't know about these.
She lives in Las Vegas and she's never seen a self-driving car.
So I had a guy pretend to be a chauffeur in a Waymo car, pick her up at the airport.
He gets out of the car. He opens the door for her.
He says, I have to you might have to use the restroom and then we'll go.
She's like, yeah, no problem. Go ahead. He closes the door of the car, and off it goes.
And there was some real concern that this might kill her because she's 85.
So I wrote to each of her daughters, my three cousins.
I said, listen, here's what I'm planning to do your mother.
And I need your permission beforehand because I don't want to kill her on TV and...
If I do, I need someone to blame. Within seconds, they all said, oh, definitely do it.
Definitely do it. So we've got a sick family, but a fun family.
But talk to me about when you weren't you didn't have the resources to pull it off your own show and you were losing jobs over pranking your bosses.
First of all, where does the audacity come from?
And second, how do you keep doing it? I believe it wasn't just once.
I wouldn't call it audacity so much as I would call it stupidity.
I thought that I was a dish jockey. I did a morning radio show and I worked at a lot of radio stations in a lot of cities in If you've lived in a city, I've probably had a job and been fired in that city.
And each time I thought, The bosses would be on board with the idea that the listeners would think it was funny. if I was torturing them because then they could drive to work and go, I love hearing these guys screaming Screw with their bosses.
I wish I could do that, but I'm enjoying it through them.
And they never liked it at all. They would tell me they were going to like it when they hired me.
And then when it happened, they hated it.
Just dumb stuff. Once we were golfing and I unlatched their golf bags on the back of the carts.
And then forgot about it for like six holes.
And then ran over their golf clubs. once I completely smashed the inside of I had a hot dog.
It's a long story, but there was a hot dog that he –
Didn't eat and he threw in the garbage and every night I would sneak in and put it in his drawer in his desk.
And each day he'd open his desk and there'd be a hot dog in there and he didn't know why.
And he'd throw in the garbage again. And then each time I would get in there and I'd put it back in the desk.
And then he started locking his office. So I climbed in over the, You know, the offices have that kind of really cheap ceiling.
I lowered myself in, and as I lowered myself, Completely, the desk collapsed, the shelves collapsed.
It looked like the Northridge earthquake had happened only in his office.
I knew that I'd be fired if he found out.
So I just got out of there and locked the door.
Put the hot dog in before I left. And never mentioned it again.
I don't know what he thought happened, but eventually they'd fire me.
Eventually they'd have enough of my nonsense.
How did that conversation go, the firing?
Was it a conversation or you just got a message like...
What did that look like? Well, it would go like this.
Of course, there were different situations, but generally it would go, so you know how you work here now?
Tomorrow, you won't be working here. And in fact, we're going to get a box.
We're going to go in your office. We're going to get all your shit and we're going to walk you out to the parking lot.
I have to say, to this day, I hate firing people. crushes me to fire somebody, even if they deserve it, even if they've done something bad because I've been fired so many times.
And it sounds funny. These stories are... I get that they're funny, but...
It wasn't funny at all at the time. You know, I was making like $18,000 a year.
Then had to go home and, first of all, tell my wife at the time that I'd been fired again for being an idiot. that we're going to have to pack all our stuff and move to Tucson.
And that happened over and over and over again. until eventually I found a radio station here in LA, KROQ, that valued my... commitment to nonsense.
And I also grew up a little and I learned like, okay, Don't call your boss's wife at home on the air. and dig into their personal life.
Those kind of lessons. Those important lessons that you learn along the way.
And I was able to keep that job until I got a job in television.
I love your commitment to the prank. I have some things going on right now that would blow your mind that I can't even talk about because...
They're bubbling. But what my thing is, my wife does not like when I – my wife, I got her a –
Did you know you can get a personalized license plate for anyone's car?
No. How does that work? Explain that to me.
Well, what you do is you fill out the forms and then you forge the person's signature at the bottom.
And you write on the thing what you would like their personalized license plate to be.
In my wife's case, I made it Weeby Jammin'.
And then the license plate came in the mail and I went out in the garage and I screwed it onto the car.
And I waited until she came out to the car and she wasn't happy.
But I've done that with a lot of people.
My band leader who plays the saxophone, I made one that says Senor Saxxy.
I put that on... His car. I got the idea at a U2 concert.
Somebody had a license plate. It said U2 fan.
I thought, oh... Okay, maybe I'll do that in a bad way.
What's a firing conversation that went wrong?
What's the worst time you've fired someone and you're like, oh, I shouldn't have done it like that?
Oh, well, one time it went on for like three and a half hours.
It was me hugging and them crying and...
Just kind of going around in circles over and over again.
And until finally I was like, all right, I got to go pick up my kids.
So wait, you fired them, then hugged them.
Oh, yeah. Right. Yeah. There's always some hugging involved.
Yeah, it's, you know, it's not great. I got fired one time and I'd been fired now so many times I knew what was, I knew it was coming.
Because the way you know is they stop yelling at you.
And once they stop yelling at you, you're in trouble.
They're like, forget it. We don't need, why bother?
We're firing them in three weeks. But I went in, and it was me and my partner on the radio, and they sat us down.
They said, listen, you know, we're going to go in a different direction. you know, all that bullshit that they say to you.
And this is probably best for you guys too.
And I'm thinking, no, it's not. And then they gave the whole spiel and they were nervous.
And I said, listen, here's what we're going to do.
We're going to come to work on Monday morning and and we're gonna pretend like none of this ever happened.
And there was a long moment of confused and terrified silence.
Yeah. And then I started laughing and gave him the finger and left, I think.
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And back to our episode. On a serious note, what's beautiful about that is you were able to hold on to a really authentic part of self-expression that was your comedy, was something you found funny, was something that you really believed it was something everyone would find funny, you didn't give up on that.
You were able to hold on to it and find a place eventually that allows you to pull off these crazy things.
How did you stay true to that when everyone's firing you, letting go of you, telling you this isn't a great idea or it's pushing people the wrong way.
Like, how do you hold on to an idea when everyone's telling you it's terrible?
Pure delusion. Just, like, a lot of the things I thought were so funny weren't even funny.
Like, they weren't funny. I wasn't that good at my job.
And I think that's an important thing too, because I look back at these jobs and I go, well, it wasn't all their fault.
You know, like on one hand, I feel like maybe they should have recognized that I was always a very hard worker and that I did have some talent, I think.
Every one of them would tell you that. But on the other hand, like I was kind of crazy, you know, I was doing antisocial things. and they didn't get it and they didn't want to deal with it.
They were adults and I was this asshole, you know, this kid. and they didn't want to deal with it.
But I do have this thing where I just kind of figure like, well, if I think it's funny, then surely there will be other people that think it's funny and it applies to other people too. you know, one of the best things about my job and really about even when I was on the radio is I've been able to identify and help other people who I saw as talented and who didn't quite know how to do it or or make their way in or stay there once they got in.
And that to me is very, Even just putting my Aunt Chippy on television, right?
I'm not the... I'm not the first person to put one of their relatives on television, but I just kind of looked around and go like, Well, I think she's funny.
And so I think other people will think she's funny.
And the same with my uncle Frank, her ex-husband, who... was my security guard on the show before Guillermo was there, and then they were there at the same time.
He was just this weird... very neurotic, very anxious, former cop from New York who only arrested six people in 20 years.
And... Had this strange outlook on life where... he would take $200 out of his ATM at the beginning of the week and And then he wanted to have zero dollars in his wallet at the end of the week.
And it had to be that way. And so if he had any money left in his wallet on Sunday, he'd just give it to people like strangers.
He'd just hand it out to people. And he was always doing this like weird stuff.
And I, you know, at one time my band leader on my show is my best friend since I was nine years old we grew up across the street from each other and And I didn't know my relatives were funny until he thought they were funny.
I was like, oh, they're annoying. They're always yelling at each other.
It's like, oh, they're coming over. I said, my Aunt Chippy and Uncle Frank are coming over.
Oh, can I come? I was like, what? He's like, oh, they're hilarious.
I was like, they are? And that clicked for me.
I was like, oh, yeah, they are hilarious.
And it turned out he was right, and I've just kind of operated – by that principle for my whole life.
Yeah, talking about family, you just became a granddad too, right?
I did. My daughter Katie had a baby, a baby girl.
Probably should have gotten more applause for that, but... Thank you.
I feel like almost killing my Aunt Chippy got more applause than having a...
A granddaughter. But yeah, we're very excited.
She's what? Like, maybe like... Eight days old or something.
Yeah. Yes. Smoking already, which we're concerned about.
How does that feel? What is that like psychologically, internally, mentally?
I feel like... I don't know. People seem to... think like, first of all, people approach you cautiously in a way about it.
Like, Oh, so you're having, like, I'm going to be upset about this.
What kind of an asshole would be upset about this? having a grandchild, but I guess people don't want to be thought of as old.
And I don't really care that much about that.
I'm just excited to have a little... And also being a grandparent, I think is going to be, first of all, an incredible way to get revenge on my children.
Tell me how. What are the pranks that are brewing?
Not even pranks, just... All the things they did to me that they're going to say, I know they're going to go.
Don't give – please put them to bed before 11 o'clock.
Don't give them a bunch of Reese's Pieces.
And I'm going to nod just like my parents do.
And then I'm going to do all the shit they don't want me to do.
And I think that's one of the, that's the circle of life, you know, but it's fun and it's exciting and it's strange to see my daughter as a mom and I think that for me is that it's not really about how I feel because I've always felt like the same person I feel like I'm the same person I was when I was nine years old.
But to see like your daughter holding a baby and smiling is...
People know it's great. Yeah, absolutely.
Give it up. It's beautiful to hear about that because, yeah, I have no experience.
You have no grandchildren? I don't have kids.
No grandkids. And it's really fascinating watching someone you love grow into becoming someone else.
Like you said, it was strange. watching her do it.
What are you noticing in her that feels that way?
Well, she's breastfeeding, which she'd never done before.
You know, she's... Just seeing my daughter is very funny.
All my kids are really funny. My daughter, Katie, is very funny.
She's got a very strange sense of humor.
She's an artist. She makes these funny ceramics.
Her name is Katie Kimmel. You could see her on Instagram and she.
You will get, you will understand what I'm talking about.
She does, like today she sent me, like I sent her a text this morning and I said, You're not posting enough pictures of the baby on the stream.
And so she just posted a bunch of pictures of the baby screaming and crying.
And the baby's wearing a onesie that says, I'm 11 years old.
So I know she's not going to be a traditional mom, but... just seeing her be a mom is, is, uh, it's just funny.
It's, it's, I think it's like anything.
Like when I try to remember how old I am, I don't know if you ever forget how old you are.
I have to remember how old my sister is and add three years.
That's how I get to it. And just seeing my kids become adults and both of my older kids are married and having to... pay rent and to and be a husband and a wife is weird.
It's just weird. You know, it's great, but it's weird.
They obviously inherited your comedic gene, it sounds like.
Yeah, I wouldn't necessarily... classified as genius, but they are very funny and just very good people, I think, more important.
No, funny's more important. Let me rank it.
Hold on a second. Yeah, funny, definitely more important than good, but both important, super important, yeah.
What? What's a part of you that you didn't want them to inherit?
My nose. I didn't want my daughter to have my beard for sure.
My anxiety, maybe. Of course, you know, kids... they inherit that whether you want them to or not.
But I think anxiety, yeah. And I think like growing up without any money adds a measure of anxiety, but then you realize like, You know, my older kids, I didn't have any money when they were growing up.
And now my younger kids, I do. It's interesting because they somehow managed to get to the anxiety.
Like they find different paths to it. It has nothing, it turns out it doesn't, like for me, like when I was a kid and I loved to draw, I told you, I would get like a set of pens for Christmas and I would never want to use them because if I use them, they'd run out.
And so I'd have these pens that I never used.
And eventually they just dry out because we lived in Las Vegas.
And what a terrible thing. So now you know what I do?
I buy a million art supplies, and the house is like a Dick Blick, you know?
My house is just full of these art supplies.
And I know that I will not live long enough to use all this stuff, but knowing it's there makes me feel like I've conquered that anxiety in some way.
By hoarding. By hoarding. So the reason why anyone else can't get art supplies is Jimmy Kimmel.
That's right. Yes. Walk me through what anxiety really feels like at this point now in your life, how your relationship with it's changed. over that time from going from being anxious about not having money, not having resources, not having a job?
What does that look like? As the externals change, what happens on the inside?
Well, it's a lot simpler when you don't have any money because the things you're thinking about are Do I have enough cash in my checking account to have lunch today, to get a $20 bill out, and it's like,
Ooh, I have $21 and 18 cents. Great. You know, and that's significant.
Certainly. But again, then you might end up in a position where a lot of people rely on you for a lot of things.
People will come to you with very serious needs, serious requests.
Your relationship with people changes. It's hard to navigate that.
It's hard to even... find people to talk about it with.
There are, as far as I know, no books on how to handle it and wind up having these kind of, like, intimate conversations with –
Famous people you don't even really know that well.
I mean, like, I know a guy who... is a real like family guy who's a very wealthy guy, is a very famous actor.
And I said, how many houses have you bought for your family?
And he thought about her for a second and he goes, 17.
That was my reaction too. And you get...
You can't be the nephew anymore at that point.
You're the person that people go to when they need something.
And it can be a lot. It really can. I mean, I shouldn't complain.
Now I sound like I'm complaining. Oh, Jesus.
We all have problems, right? I mean some of them are just different than others.
Yeah. What do you do about that anxiety?
What do you do with it? Just buy more houses?
For the most part, yeah. Yeah, it depends, but I'm hopefully getting better about it because –
It's hard to explain to people when they want money, but your relationship with them is more important than that money.
And then sometimes you realize like, oh, wait, their relationship with me is not more important than the money.
And that's when you have to reevaluate the relationship.
That's tough. Yeah, it's hard. That's really, really tough.
I mean, yeah. Is there someone in particular or someone specific that you think about when you share that?
My wife. She's sucking me dry, Jay. How much do I get for this?
Do I get paid? No, nothing. No, shit. No, she made you do this for free.
No, there's no one in particular. It just comes up.
It happens. In my... Small journey with it.
I've definitely experienced that as well.
Losing people that you thought you were close to.
Yeah, realizing what standard or frequency of relationship you had with someone.
And you put them up here and you thought you had this bond and actually you realized it was just... based on finances or access or whatever it may be.
Yeah, and sometimes you get an email from somebody you went to the sixth grade with saying, Asking for a huge amount of money for something nonsensical.
It's not even for a charity. No, never. Never.
It's crazy. Any crazy requests you can share?
You know, yeah, I've had a lot of razor requests.
I mean, you know, people think you can wave a magic wand and make all their problems go away, and it's not true.
Even if a lot of times you give them what they want, they still have to deal with whatever got them there in the first place.
So, you know, trying to keep that in mind I think is important, but...
These are not the kinds of things that occur to people when they're in a pinch.
Yeah, absolutely. You've been talking about your wife a lot tonight.
And how long have you been together? We are celebrating our 12th anniversary in July.
We've been together... I don't know, like 16 years or something like that.
That's beautiful. And I believe you met on the show?
I did yes. We met on the show. My wife is the executive producer, one of the executive producers of the show.
And we made love, and I asked her to marry me.
So it wasn't you and your guest. It was...
I got right to it. Yeah. No, she was not a guest.
No, it wasn't like us. Yeah. It wasn't like us.
A bit different. Yeah. This is terrible.
This is terrible. It won't be that bad. I'm very gentle.
This is all my... This is what all my British friends worry about LA being like.
This is what they all worry about. You mean all the friends who got buggered in boarding school are worried about.
No, they're all like, what are all the parties in LA like?
And they're going to be like, what's Jimmy Kimmel actually like?
And I'm going to have to show them this.
Yeah, let them know, invite them over. apart from the pranks, what have been the, there's a lot of people out here either looking for love who've, We're still searching.
You know, everyone always says it's always hard to date in LA.
Yeah. Is that true? I think it is. I mean, I've never really been in that position.
I've gone from one long-term relationship to another but certainly people close to me and my life, I've seen them have a really hard time and even like think like, well, maybe I should move back to Chicago and that kind of thing.
And I go, well, wait a minute, but there's.
They're just people here and there, whatever.
And obviously the apps have changed that a lot.
Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, I guess, depending on what your intentions are.
But... Yeah, sometimes I feel bad for people because it does seem to be hard.
Yeah, what's been the secret for your connection?
What's been the secret sauce to the 16 years and the 12 years of marriage?
Left to my own devices, I'm not great, okay?
But my wife is very good. She will say...
She wants to, I'm just checking in with you.
And I'm like, what is this checking in? She probably learned it from you.
LAUGHTER That sounds about right. There's four check-ins.
There's one every week, one every month, one every quarter, and one every year.
And I get nervous. I'm like, well, what are you checking in about?
What am I, a motel? She's like, no, just how are you?
How are you doing? I'm like, oh, I'm fine.
What did you hear? I don't know. I have a very, I have tunnel vision, you know, like I got stuff I need to get done.
And I want to get it done. And sometimes I forget there are other human beings around me that, um, you know, would like to check in from time to time.
So I've learned a lot, and I'm still not great at it, but I am... better at it than i was and i feel like i've matured a lot thanks to my wife and in what way In what way have I matured?
Oh, Jesus Christ. You don't get away with saying a statement.
I knew you would do this, Shay. I knew it.
I knew coming in here. What ways have I matured?
Um... Now when we hold hands, I don't take hers and put it behind me and fart on it. anymore.
And that's a big step for me. Alright, let me get serious here.
It's hard. I make jokes when I'm confronted with a serious situation.
No, don't ask her. I don't know if she wants to be asked.
Oh, she's standing. She wants to be asked.
I need a mic. All right, before she gets up here today, I should just say, I haven't matured, I was lying.
I just wanted to sound, I wanted to fit in with the podcast.
Oh, this is what it was, yeah, right. I sit on my lap.
Yeah. Not going to sit on your lap. I'm not going to sit on your lap.
He gets uncomfortable when we talk about serious things.
He's definitely maturing in that area. I don't see any evidence of that.
I'd like to say first of all, I'm very proud of you coming here and being here.
Oh, thank you. I think that's mature of you.
Oh. Okay, there's that. Jimmy is incredibly self-deprecating, if you can't tell.
And that's his defense, which is beautiful and wonderful, and we all get to enjoy it.
But I get to... tell people how wonderful you are.
And I love to do that. And I think one of the most beautiful things you've done in evolving as a human is... sharing your story regularly on the show, fighting for healthcare for children. fighting for people.
I think maybe you went from being a little more inward to outward over the last decade of your life.
And I think it's been beautiful to witness.
Well, thank you for bringing it out of me.
You're welcome. Thank you. All right. You have a lot of more work to do, though, so.
Jimmy, Jimmy, now it's your turn. We need, you know, turn this into a session.
Yeah. Okay. Now it's your turn. Please. Well, first of all, is it just me or does it suddenly smell like toast?
It does. You're having a stroke. He's having a stroke.
It does. Okay. Oh, wouldn't you love that?
Well, you know, I'm always amazed at how easily these kind words come out of my wife and not just for me, but for others like you, there's nobody you'd rather have. give a toast at your birthday dinner because she really, speaks from the heart and speaks very beautifully and is makes people feel really good.
And I don't think there's any better quality than that.
Thank you. I love you, and I love you. I love you too, Molly.
Thank you so much. You're welcome. Which one of us do you love more?
Well... We'll see how the night goes.
I love your wife, too. All right, goodbye.
Give it up for Molly, everyone. Thank you, Molly.
Good guys. Thank you. Oh, you really put me on the spot there, Jay.
Whoa, she saved you. She saved me. She saved you.
I mean, you know, I would put you on the spot, but she saved you.
Yeah, no, you're right. She did. Okay, so now we're going from couples therapy to individual therapy again.
Has talking about your emotions always been something that you've found... challenging, not useful.
On that spectrum, Talk to me about that.
What spectrum is it? What does that look like?
Well, I think my dad's the same way because I hear my mother yelling at him about it.
But, yeah, it's very... You know, I can write a nice letter.
I'm good with that. But there's something about... expressing myself in a very honest way that is difficult for me.
Why is it? The answer's within, the answer's not within.
It's within? Shit. Only you can answer that.
There's a lot of stuff in there. I'm not sure I want to go rummaging around.
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Now let's dive back in. When was the last time you felt like you accessed that part without a letter?
And you were able to share that part of yourself.
Oh, about 86 seconds ago. But your emotions, your emotions, not about someone else, but how you feel about something. about someone else.
Well... No, no, not how you feel about someone else, how you... feel about your own emotions or feeling an emotion that may be uncomfortable or difficult or challenging.
When was the last time you feel you did do that?
With our therapist last Friday at... 9, 18 a.m.?
It's easier with the therapist. You know, I was listening to you with Bert Kreischer.
Yeah. Had him on your podcast. Yeah. And he said something.
He said that after... after he and his wife go to therapy, he declares a winner.
Do you do the same thing? No, but I like that a lot.
Who wins? You know, I don't think anybody wins, really.
No. I think it's just helpful. I think it's really a good thing.
I find it very uncomfortable, but I'm never...
I'm never not glad that I did it afterwards.
I think it's just a good thing to talk. I mean maybe it's the reason why we can talk as humans because we're supposed to.
And I think it's good. And I think a lot of guys don't like – to go to therapy and then they're looking for somebody who's going to be on their side and They're looking for a referee more than a therapist, and that's probably not the way to go in it.
I will say from my own personal experience that I recommend it both individually and together.
And I think that it's helped me a lot in my life to sort things out, you know.
And I think what you do is very helpful for people because, I mean, obviously there are a lot of people here just trying to figure out who they are and how to go about their lives and how to be happy.
And it's hard. It's hard to figure out to be happy.
I mean, there's no logical reason why we should be happy.
It doesn't make sense. There are so many people suffering and there are so many sad and bad things happening.
It feels selfish sometimes to be happy. It's like, oh, you know, Yeah, great.
Things are going great for you. But look what's, you know, kids don't have lunch.
And I think that it takes a lot to. to remember that that's not good for you and it's not helping anybody.
And if you really want to do something, do something.
Don't just worry about it. And so that's something that I think is important.
And I also found that sometimes people want advice and sometimes I want advice.
Sometimes people who are asking you for advice don't really want to, they don't want advice.
They just want something. And yeah, I always think that when you're really down, when you're when you're feeling low and when you're looking for answers, helping other people is always helpful. a help it always makes you feel better so if there's a situation where you're feeling worthless or you're you know you're feeling unloved or whatever the best thing you can do is to help someone else because you And for yourself, not even for them.
It's almost a... a selfish thing to do and i think it always works i agree i love that i love that um Jimmy, you've been amazing tonight.
We end every On Purpose interview with a final five.
These questions have to be answered in one word to one sentence maximum.
So Jimmy Kimmel, these are your final five.
The first question is, what is the best advice you've ever heard or received?
Well, it's not be yourself. We learned that earlier.
Listen, listen. That's the best advice.
Who did you hear that from? I heard it from a priest.
Yeah. A friend of mine who's a priest. Yeah.
I said, what do you do when people come to you and they say, you know, my, my son is dying and I don't believe in God.
And he said, I just listened to them. Good advice.
Speaking about that, you've been very open about your son's heart condition.
And that's been something that I imagine is extremely difficult.
Well, not anymore because he's doing great.
But it was, yeah, for sure. What helped you at that time?
What helps you in such a difficult, dire situation?
Well, number one, Children's Hospital here in Los Angeles helped me.
The support, the support from family and strangers.
And... I'm a religious person. I grew up going to church, Catholic, and all those things.
And I think that the... thoughts and prayers that gets thrown around a lot people when they say they pray for you that's To take... a moment of your day to stop and think about someone else. and their child.
It's... It's a small sacrifice, but it's a meaningful one.
Whether you believe in prayer or not. I just think it's powerful and meaningful.
And I know that's more than one sentence, but...
That's the answer. Thank you, Jimmy. Thank you so much.
That was actually just question number one.
I just snuck another one in there. Question number two, what is the worst advice you ever heard or received?
I don't really have an answer to that. I think that the worst thing you can do, and I've done it, and it's something that I've learned, is to... is to lash out.
You got to take a beat. and think about what you're saying because you'll wish you had.
So sometimes there are people that just want you to – bring down the hammer of Thor, and that's not usually the way I go.
I like that. All right, question number three.
What's the first thing you do in the morning and the last thing you do at night?
Oh, brush my teeth. You mean besides pee?
I guess, uh, yeah. you know, we have, uh, you know, we have an eight year old and a 10 year old in the house.
So He comes in our eight year old and pounces on us in the morning.
And I just like to snuggle with him. And then he wants us to come to bed with him at night and put him to sleep every night. and we know that we shouldn't do it every night, but we just want to, and we want to get in there with them.
Most of the time, we're very easy to convince.
Those are the best in the morning with the kids in the bed and then again at night with the kids in the bed.
I love that. All right, last two questions.
Question number four, what's something that you used to value that you no longer value?
My parents. No, I love my parents. You know what?
I don't drink much anymore. I used to... I never had a problem or anything like that, but I've just...
It's less interesting to me now. Why is that?
Because I'm so high all the time. We call that California sober, I believe.
All right, fifth and final question. We ask this to every guest who's ever been on the show.
If you could create one law that everyone in the world had to follow, what would it be?
It's the golden rule, do unto others. That's it.
That's the whole thing. That's all you...
If we all did that, we'd be doing great.
Yeah. Yeah. Jimmy, we've got one special segment to wrap it up for you.
Okay. I want to show you… Something behind you, if we can get the first one up, take a look.
That's me. What advice would you give to your younger self?
To that self, that younger self. To young Jimmy Kimmel in the seventh grade?
Play the saxophone instead of the clarinet.
You're never getting laid. I love it. Can we get a second up?
Looking very dapper. What does Jimmy Kimmel need to hear right now?
Get away from that young boy. You mean me, right?
Both of you. And then let's get the last one courtesy of my team.
You know, honestly... I never even thought I'd own a suit, so I'm ahead of the game right now, I think.
Was that AI me in the future? Yes. Oh, why is my beard the same color as it is now?
You're aging well. You're aging well. What do you hope? you'll feel about yourself at that age?
I hope I don't look like that, number one.
I do hope I have that much hair. I have a feeling I am going to be replaced by an AI me at some point. in the future, I hope I wind up like my grandfather.
And by that I don't mean dead, I mean just somebody that everybody thinks of and loves.
Give it up for Jimmy Kimmel, everyone! Thank you so much.
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