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Hi there.
Welcome to Radioheadspace.
It's Doris.
The other night I caught myself wide awake at 2 am replaying a conversation I had earlier in the day.
At first it was just one small thought.
Did I say the wrong thing?
But then my mind ran wild.
Suddenly, I was imagining all the ways that person might have taken it, rehearsing apologies I hadn't needed yet and even making up arguments that hadn't happened.
By the time I became aware of what I was doing, I had gone down 10 different worst-case scenarios and I was exhausted.
The wild part, I still didn't feel any closer to clarity.
This kind of mental spiral, what we often call overthinking, isn't just random.
Psychologists refer to it as rumination or cognitive looping.
It's when our minds try to solve uncertainty by thinking harder.
We rehearse, replay and overanalyze, not because we want to suffer, but because it makes us feel like we're staying in control.
The problem is overthinking doesn't always lead to clarity.
It often leads to exhaustion, indecision and anxiety.
Mindfulness invites us to trade control for presence, to stop trying to figure it all out and instead tune into what's actually happening right now.
It's not about ignoring the problem.
It's about creating enough space from the noise to hear your own wisdom again.
I remember this one moment I had to make a big decision about a career opportunity.
It looked good on paper, but something in me felt unsure.
Instead of listening to that, I started spiraling.
What if I regret not taking it?
What if I take it and I fail?
What would people think if I said no?
Am I playing it too safe?
Am I not being grateful enough?
I was journaling, texting friends, making a pros and cons list.
But no matter how much I thought, I didn't feel any closer to an answer.
Until I paused.
I took a breath, closed my eyes, put one hand on my chest and one on my belly.
And I asked, what do I know right now, not in my head, but in my body?
Now the answer wasn't loud, it was quiet, but it was there.
You're scared. but you always know what feels aligned.
And that moment of presence, just a few seconds, did more for me than the two hours of mental gymnastics.
So if your thoughts are spiraling and you're caught in a loop of what ifs, here's a few gentle practices that you can try.
First, notice the physical cues.
Overthinking often shows up in the body.
Shallow breath, jaw tension, a racing heartbeat.
Catching these signs helps you recognize when you're mentally overloaded.
The second thing to try is interrupt the loop.
Try naming the moment, then breathe a slow inhale and an even slower exhale.
Even one mindful breath can help to break the circuit.
The third thing to try is shift from thinking to sensing.
Ask, what do I feel in my body?
What do I hear right now?
What's one thing I can see touch or smell?
This brings you out of the story in your head and back into the moment.
Finally, allow clarity to unfold.
Not every answer needs to be forced.
Sometimes wisdom comes when we stop trying so hard to figure it out and simply feel it out.
The mind loves to think.
That's its job.
But not every situation needs to be solved.
Some just need to be sat with.
So if you're overthinking today, take this as your permission to pause, to breathe, and to soften.
To trust that not everything needs to be answered right now, and the ones that do will come.
Because sometimes the wisest answers aren't figured out, they're felt.
Thanks so much for listening and being here with me.
I'll see you tomorrow.
