Oh my goodness, we are gonna get into it today.
I fear these are the juiciest questions I've ever seen.
And as they should be, because it is that time of the year again, Girl Talk Valentine's edition.
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We've got the most gorgeous bouquet of flowers from Solstice London.
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You guys know the drill.
Grab your snack, grab a cute little beverage, put your PJs on and get cozy, because we're about to listen to some crazy dilemmas, all about dating relationships and self-love, and all of the girl talk advice you need to hear.
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Okay, let's get into the dilemmas.
First up, all of the dating and relationship dilemmas.
Number one, I've got them all on the screen over here.
I've been with him for some time now almost five months and still sometimes I feel I'm not into it.
Yeah, he's not for you because let me tell you from detailed, painful experience I've been through in my life, the right guy will make you feel so unbelievably lucky that you are with him, that you found him, that you were in that relationship every single day.
Why?
Because the right relationship gets better every single day.
It levels up with time.
The more time you spend together, the more experience, the more shared memories, the more you fall in love with each other each day.
If more time is going by and you're still like, I don't really know if I like you.
I'm really sorry to say this is, but you settled.
And I'm going to tell you that I'm going to give you the harsh truth because I needed somebody to tell me that harsh truth.
Many, many years ago, I decided to get into a relationship.
It didn't last long, only a couple of months with a really nice guy, because the guy I was with before him was really toxic and really scary.
So in comparison, this guy just seemed like everything great on paper, you know?
He didn't have any issues.
And time kept going by and time kept going by and I was like don't feel anything really.
And i feel like anything.
I do feel i'm kind of just forcing and i'm really trying to feel this for this person.
Yeah, that relationship crashed and burned and eventually you know what it was actually.
Right before covid hit, i moved back home.
It was my first time being like alone and distant from that relationship, and the alone time made me be like, oh my god, why did i get myself into the situation?
Why am i here right now?
And then i had to break up with him Over FaceTime, by the way, because it was COVID.
And I was like, I just shouldn't have done that in the first place.
And it really taught me this huge lesson that, yeah sure, relationships aren't perfect 100 of the time.
But one thing they will give you, if it's the right person, is certainty.
That man, I can't believe I really got the kind of relationship and the kind of guy or girl that I used to dream about when I was younger.
Because that's the feeling i have in my relationship now that i am three, three and a half years deep into.
We live together and i'm still not sick of this guy.
If you don't feel like you've hit the jackpot for how deep the connection is, how matched and aligned you are, how attractive they are You can do better.
Wow, I really spilled some of my own tea with that question.
We are off to a strong start.
Okay, next dilemma.
Is it bad I know my BF is not handsome, but I still like his personality?
Okay, objectively handsome, like if you feel like your friends maybe think he's not a very good looking guy or whatever.
No like, ignore that stuff, like that, that doesn't matter.
Okay, let's say, maybe he's not six feet tall, so most women are like he's like, he's mid or whatever, and maybe he doesn't have facial hair, so people don't think he's that good looking.
Who cares what other people think?
Okay, maybe you didn't even imagine yourself to be with somebody who looks like him, but if you can't look at him and find some sort of attraction because love is going to do that to you, then he's not the right person for you.
I think personality is so, so important and i used to think this like oh, i feel like i could go out with somebody i'm not physically attracted to, as long as the personality and the connection is right.
Yeah wrong, wrong.
Matter of fact, i'm glad i told you that story and spilled my own tea in the first question because it links back into that.
I wasn't even attracted to that guy and i really went with a personality card and it still doesn't work because at that point you might as well just be friends, i promise you.
You might think you're okay now, but the more time that goes on, you will give yourself the egg is exactly what happened to me.
That chemistry and knowing that you are so attracted to your partner is important because it kind of gives you the certainty.
No one's going to turn my head.
You know, even if I met a model tomorrow, I still know I am the one for my boyfriend.
My boyfriend is the one for me.
Like I love his face.
I love everything about him.
I love everything that makes him uniquely him.
Dilemma number three is going to make me really angry.
Okay.
My boyfriend does not like Valentine's day in brackets.
I do.
Should I just ignore that and have a solo date?
Hello?
Compromise?
I am fuming at this question.
The reason I'm fuming is I've seen people tweet about stuff like this and have this kind of dilemma before, and it confuses the hell out of me.
All this stuff about boyfriends and husbands and whatever, not liking valentine's day.
Therefore, they don't want to do anything about it.
I'm sorry, sir.
What is wrong with you?
It is one day in a year.
Okay, the only thing you have to do on this day is give your girlfriend some sort of attention, a little gift, take her on a date for the rest of the year.
You're going to be doing that stuff anyway.
At least i hope you would.
Otherwise why the, even in the relationship?
If your girlfriend has communicated to you that valentine's day is important to her and she likes it, she finds it cute and she wants to celebrate it As her literal romantic partner, why the hell would you not even do something small for it?
Show up with some flowers, give her some extra attention.
Like, come on, please.
It's a day about love, okay?
A lot of love, is compromise, is sacrifices, is doing something for your partner because it's going to make them feel loved and special.
Honestly, that's kind of like the foundation of a relationship.
When you get with somebody, you have to give them their love language, not yours.
Not everything is about you and the way you want things to be.
If you are not loving your partner in the specific ways that make them feel uniquely loved, you're not being a very good partner.
And so if her liking Valentine's Day is going to make her feel loved, why would you not want to step up and do that?
Let me calm down.
Aside from that yes, you should absolutely take yourself on a solo date, but your partner should be taking you on a date anyway.
Boyf has been taking me on Valentine's dates for years and I still take myself on a solo date a few days beforehand or a few days after anyway.
Because that solo date, that's just something to balance your individuality and your self-love.
But on the topic with your partner, I just really think you should communicate to him how much it means to you and ask him like why can there not be a compromise?
Why does he feel like he's not able to do that for you if that's really gonna make you feel loved?
Because just leaving the issue and ignoring it it's not worth it.
Because then valentine's day is going to come to an end.
You're going to be scrolling on social seeing girls get all the flowers and the gifts and the dates and then you're going to compare yourself, then you're going to present it to your partner.
Not worth it.
You need to speak about it.
Next dilemma is juicy.
I'm stuck between two guys.
I don't know which guy to choose.
One is my ex and the other is my crush.
Girl, don't read your books backwards.
That whole story with your ex, the potential of that relationship, what it's like to date your ex.
You already know that.
You've been there.
The reason you're still even considering him.
Oh wait, pause.
Chai just came.
He's trying to steal my popcorn on the floor.
Chai, are you here for the dynamics?
Do you want to talk to the girlies?
Say something then.
You're a boy.
What should they do about these terrible men that are just not spoiling them?
I know, right?
I know.
It's terrible.
You want to leave?
Okay.
Anyways, the reason that you're still stuck on your ex is because your brain craves familiarity.
It craves being certain about something and knowing how something's gonna go.
And our exes, they give us that, okay?
But there is a reason that person is now your ex.
There's a reason it didn't work out.
Please give this crush a chance.
I'm the biggest believer that the best knowledge on love and relationships and your own standards and what you need from a relationship comes from experience, comes from dating, comes from exploring connections. and even having like romantic conversations with new people therefore i am sending you in direction of this new crush okay i think it's going to benefit you even if it doesn't work out even if he's not the person for you it doesn't matter because you would have walked away with more lessons about hmm this is what i like this is what i don't like in a partner and you will have grown from the experience if you go back to your ex you are doing no favors for your self-respect you were doing no favors for your standards and you were quite frankly just wasting your own time Next dilemma.
What's your take on your friend dating your ex? you know what, don't cancel me, but I'm so fine.
I'm so fine with it.
I'm actually imagining that happening in my life.
It doesn't matter who the friend is, and it also doesn't even matter who the ex is, because I'm so over it.
Even if one of my best friends, the girls I've been friends with for over a decade, I'd be like, you do you, because I'm not here to block anybody's blessings.
We are all grown and we're all mature.
And if my ex wants to get into a relationship with my friend, and not my favorite scenario whatsoever.
I don't want to be close to that person and then them turn up to events that I have with my friends.
But I've moved on.
I'm in a happy relationship.
I'm over my exes.
So much time has passed where I'm like I don't even look at those past relationships with sadness or anger because I'm like it just didn't happen.
And we just weren't meant to be.
And that's it.
And other than that, I don't really have much of an emotional reaction to it.
If that person is truly gonna change for my friend and treat them right and they're aligned in a way that we could never be, oh my god.
I would never want to stand in the way of that, and it's not even something that I would hold against my friend, because they know that I'm over it as well.
I think the only way it becomes an issue is really it's dependent on the length of time.
If you are still getting over your ex, if not even a year has passed and your friend is going after your ex, no red flag, I hate it.
But if it's a mutual understanding, I've moved on.
I don't care about that person.
I know I can do better than them.
Whether you're single or taken, then cool.
The ex is up for grabs.
I don't care.
I don't need to control what that ex is doing or who they're dating.
Another factor in this is if your ex did something really bad, like they cheated on you or they just were toxic or like really, really disrespected you.
I also think that's a red flag because even if time has passed, you know with your friend it's like if you really care about me as a friend.
Why would you even entertain the first conversation with somebody who treated me in such a bad way?
Like you shouldn't even be looking in their direction for you to be able to have the first conversation, to be able to get to the stage where you guys are dating, because that's gross.
Opinions on talking stages grow up and take me on a date.
No, because why are we texting?
Why have you not met yet?
I hate it.
I don't get it.
I don't accept it.
As a society, we've gotten to this point.
I would never know, but...
I was in talking stages like as a teen and in my early 20s.
And then I got to the point where I was like, actually, I hate this.
And this is so unnecessary.
And before the rise of like social media and sliding in DMs and stuff, this didn't exist.
You liked somebody, go on a walk.
Fine, if you don't want to go on a date, go on a walk, go meet, go have a real life conversation.
See what your energies are like.
See if you're aligned and you match, please.
Unless you are young and in school, then okay, fine.
I get it.
At the same time, why are you dating?
But if you can't even meet up, like after school or like go on a walk or something, I just don't get it.
I don't get it.
You don't get the right vibe from texting anyway.
And I feel like the guys that love talking stages.
It's just an early sign to like bare minimum behavior, in my opinion.
I think like one initial conversation, maybe texting for like two days.
If it's gone to two days, wrap it up.
When are we seeing each other?
What's happening now?
Because I cannot.
It's a reason why I've never been on dating apps ever.
Cause I'm like the thought of just texting.
So I just rather meet somebody in real life.
I actually didn't meet boy in real life.
We met on social media.
We were talking like nonstop back-to-back texting for three hours.
Within three hours, he was like, let me take you on a date.
Done deal.
And we're still together to this day, so the theory works.
If my boyfriend is always busy with work, how do I stop feeling needy of attention and feeling insecure?
You have to make sure that your relationship and your boyfriend is not the center of your universe.
You need to be the center of the universe.
And if you don't want that, then you need some sort of fixation or some sort of hobby or passion to be the center of your universe.
You will be so entertained, so passionate.
You'll be filling your cup without needing his presence.
That time will fly by and you won't even realize.
In the same breath.
It is totally okay to like feel the weight of your partner being super busy and not being able to give you that quality time, especially if something like that is your love language.
If it is getting to a point where you feel like you two get less time together than like the average couple would, then it's definitely worth it to communicate something.
He's completely in his right to like put his career first and focus on that and whatever, but a very healthy compromise could be if he gets home at like 5, 6 p.m., then you're playing a board game together or you're having some deep conversations together and you're just giving each other one-on-one like direct attention and communication rather than just being chill with it and not being intentional just scrolling on your phones or just doing things around the house and whatnot that's literally what boyfriend i do if we have super busy schedules or we've been away from each other for a few days the first thing we do when we're reunited let's go on a walk long walk have a conversation catch up about everything we play scrabble sometimes instead of watching tv just so we're giving each other more attention I like this one.
Should you change for your partner or potential partner to what he would like more?
Listen, your partner should make you feel so safe being your most authentic craziest goofiest, cringest self that you've never felt more confident or self-loving in your life, that you are literally surprised and shook each day, that you're like whoa, like this is a part of me that i've never shown anybody, or this is these are things that i would have never told anybody or that i've always been embarrassed about, but when i do it, not only do i feel safe and confident to be able to to share it with him and that he receives it really well, but he makes me feel loved, even when i am sharing these things that i found it difficult to love myself in those moments, but he's like healing a part of me because i'm so myself, i'm more myself than i've ever been.
That is it.
That is the goal.
Therefore, why would you change when really, it's about feeling so loved that you would never need to change?
At the same time though, i think the only change necessary in a relationship is changing the way you communicate, changing your toxic traits, changing the things and the ways that you sabotage yourself, your partner, your relationship, your ability to grow closer, to take your relationship to the next level.
Those are all things that we need sacrifices compromises, communication and change in order to be able to grow with your partner and love them correctly, and i've always been like this my entire life.
Whenever i get into conflict or anything, i'm not like a big fighter and i'm not a big talker.
I just kind of go silent and i get a bit sad and, being in this relationship with boyf, he really communicated to me that it's so important for us to have an open dialogue the second that something happens so we can fix it sooner.
And I am a new woman and I've been like this for oh my God, maybe nearly two years.
Like we had these conversations way early on and it's never a thing now.
And I can't believe.
I went through so many dating stories and so many relationships where I was like that.
But I've really changed that part of myself to benefit the both of us.
Another example of changing is like not always giving your partner your love language, but changing the way that you give love so it's more suited to them, because that's the most loving decision you can make for them.
But if they ever make you feel like you need to change your appearance or change your personality or change the way that you do things that you love or that are so authentic to you, red flag.
How do I stop tripping over my words with guys?
I end up looking very clumsy slash awkward.
Take them off the pedestal.
The only reason we ever get shy or clumsy or awkward about anything is because subconsciously and like low key, we think it's above us or we're losing confidence in a situation because we don't believe that we are equal or matched to it.
You have to change your mindset in order to show up like that bitch and be like Why would I ever be shy of having a conversation with you, with a man?
You're just a boy.
You're a boy.
That's all he is.
It's just literally another human being.
Nothing more important than that.
It doesn't need to be a big deal.
You're tripping over your words, because you're overthinking it and you are placing too much importance in what that guy or what that person is going to think about you, or that they're judging your every move or every word because you are secretly and subconsciously fighting for their approval and their opinion to choose you and want you.
But if you've already decided, I already love and want and choose myself, regardless of your opinion.
That's always going to stay the same.
There's no reason to ever feel clumsy, awkward or shy in those conversations, because you've already got so much love to come back to within yourself.
When you already know.
These are my values.
This is what I bring to the table.
These are all the things that I love about myself.
You may be rejecting me from this conversation or not wanting to pursue things with me does not change that.
There's nothing to fear in that conversation ever again.
Okay, last question for the dating and relationship section, so it doesn't get too long.
What's the difference between healthy dating standards and superficial ones?
First of all, I think it's completely fine to have some superficial dating standards.
In fact, I think that makes a very balanced standards list.
Obviously, superficial examples are like somebody's height.
You know, guys are always like maybe their type is blondes or brunettes or whatever.
If that's your type, you know, you do you.
That's what you're physically attracted to.
But the like, proper standards that we should be prioritizing and having more of are value-based standards.
What does this person enjoy?
How do they communicate?
How would they treat their future children?
What are their values in a relationship?
How do they show love and how does that match to how I show love?
What are their opinions on this certain topic that I'm passionate about and can we align on that?
How do they handle negative situations or emotions or conflicts?
What are they like with their family and with their friends?
I think that's very telling in a person.
Do your paths in life that you envision for yourself match?
Do they align?
Are they going in the same direction?
Because really that's ultimately going to decide whether you're compatible and can be together long term.
What is your mindset?
How do you think a relationship should go?
How do you think love should be shown?
Do you want someone that's more ambitious?
Do you want somebody that's like obsessed with travel?
Do you want someone who's really independent so that you can focus on your career and everything you've got going on?
Those are the questions that need to be answered.
Okay, we're in the second half of the video now.
All the self-love questions.
Dare I say the most important ones.
Don't you click off now, okay?
Because these are juicy and important too.
First question was being single on Valentine's.
I've spoken about this so many times before.
I think I've got like multiple videos on my channel about single on Valentine's and self-love.
So definitely check them out because I don't want to repeat any of that knowledge.
Matter of fact, I am so well-versed in this that I did write an entire book about self-love.
It's called Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers.
And there's actually an entire chapter in this book about being single on Valentine's.
So let's switch it up for the video and let me just read you a little bit of the book.
Here we go.
It's chapter nine.
Valentine's Day will be your favorite event.
Life is the occasion.
Okay, I'm gonna start with this little paragraph because I think it's an important mindset shift when it comes to being single on Valentine's Day.
Even if you never meet your person, this is a holiday.
By this I mean Valentine's Day.
This is a holiday that celebrates love.
The problem we encounter is the fixation on romantic love.
Yet there are so many forms of love, friendship, family, mankind, self.
Yet we fail to see the love we already have in our lives, because there's only one form of love promoted on this day.
It's down to you to change the narrative of a day that could easily have you wallowing in self-pity to instead, one that makes you thankful in self-love instead.
For example.
Maybe it's not that there aren't enough good men in the world, it's the circumstances of my current life reflect the necessary timing of it.
When I meant to have something, I will see it clearly.
Here's another section.
After mastering a mindset of self-love, Valentine's Day felt like another birthday to me.
Instead of celebrating turning another year older and reflecting on the life I've lived, this day became a celebration of the courage I had for starting a relationship with myself.
See, it's so cute.
Like it's truly something to be celebrated.
I'm gonna go later down the page.
It's excitingly challenging too.
As soon as February arrives, my yearly self-reflection begins, and I think of all the ways I can implement the new confidence I've developed since the previous Valentine's Day to make the next one even more extravagant for myself.
I'll leave it there because I don't want to spoil the whole book for you.
This is actually the limited edition book.
As you can see, she's so cute.
She's very like Valentine's coded.
It's a limited edition.
So when it's gone, it's gone, but there is an OG version.
It does still have that exact chapter in it about Valentine's day.
And that's available worldwide on Amazon.
Your local bookstores is even available for free on Spotify premium as an audio book.
It's on Kindle too.
So yeah, but this edition, which is only available on Amazon and not worldwide, actually has two extra chapters in it.
Next question.
How do you practice self-love and self-obsession during arguments with boys?
Girl, me having the argument in the first place is me being self-loving and self-obsessed, okay?
Because if I was a people pleaser and if I didn't love myself, I would just let it slide.
I would not speak up for what I believe in.
I would not speak up for what I want.
I would not put him in his place, but not treat me right now i'm joking, it's never that intense, but it's true like if we have a disagreement or we don't see eye to eye, i am confident enough in myself to be like actually no, i don't like the way you did this and these are my expectations, or i think that we should do this instead.
Long story short, if you didn't have any self-love, if you weren't obsessed with yourself, you'd just be giving into what your partner says because they're your entire universe instead of you being your entire universe.
Also, I just want to change the word argument because me and boy have a very big belief.
We don't believe in arguments.
It's just a disagreement.
We don't insult each other.
We don't raise our voices.
We don't do any low blows or anything.
It's just, okay, we're not seeing eye to eye.
Let's communicate.
You stand up for what you believe in.
I'll stand up for what I believe in and we will come to a solution together.
Next one how to maintain your individuality while being in a relationship.
The perfect question, and i've actually got a whole detailed video on this on my channel.
Okay, hit the gym, have a club or a class or an activity that you do that is just yours, have things or thoughts that are just yours, like keeping a journal, keeping a diary.
You take up calligraphy.
I'm just saying that because i took up calligraphy And it's like it doesn't have to be something you share with your partner all the time or that you do with them.
It's literally just yours.
Maybe you do something just with your friends and it's like your own little girlfriend thing that you do together, away from your relationship.
And that's cute and that's good.
And that's you having a balance.
When it comes to this question, I think my first answer is always right now, as who I am with everything I have in my life and the way that my life is laid out.
If I was single right now, what would I do?
That's truly how I've kind of worked out my life, especially since moving in with Boyf, because I lived alone before.
I was like I don't want this life I've built for myself to change too much just because I'm in a relationship, because it shouldn't.
So I know, when I was living alone I would wake up first thing in the morning, I would go to the gym.
Now, sometimes I go to the gym with Boyf.
If he wants to go at another time, I'm still going.
I'm going on my own.
I know in the evening or on the weekend, I want to go out.
I want to see my girls.
I want to go for a dinner and catch up with them.
I still see my friends.
I try my best once a week, every single week, to be super consistent with balancing my friendships as well and not letting those fade away just because I'm in a romantic relationship.
Think about your life while single and then ask yourself how much of that am I still balancing right now?
Or how much have I given up and sacrificed because I'm making my relationship too big, of a portion of the pie that makes up my life?
And I always say, you know, that it's a pie that's your life.
You have all of these different slices and sections that you need to be catering to, whether it be career, your self-development, your family, your friends hobbies, so on.
Being a self-loving and secure girl has reduced the number of men approaching me.
It's harder to date.
Amazing.
Perfection.
You are literally in the perfect place right now and everything is going to happen for you.
Like you were literally on the brink of success.
Basically, if you are looking for a relationship, if you do want to date men, rejecting you or getting less attention than you used to means you did it.
You did it.
You changed your mindset.
You changed your energy, meaning you are no longer an energetic match and you are no longer aligned to the low vibe men, bare minimum men situationships, talking stages that you used to attract before you had any standards or self-love.
Once you choose yourself and you realize, actually, I don't need anyone.
I just want the right person.
You stop attracting those people.
You'll find less people in your DMs.
I've gone through this.
I know so many other people that go through.
This is truly just an energy, energy and alignment game.
You're not aligned to that anymore.
Meaning now you can just go along, focus on yourself, do what you want to do.
As long as you have your list of standards and you know what you want, that will come to you and you will attract it.
Trust me.
Self-love, self-worth and self-confidence.
It's like this magical natural filter in life that filters out all of the people and all of the situations and things that aren't meant for you.
That's why I encourage it so much and talk about it all the time and wrote an entire book about it, because it will literally change your life so much more than like people know.
People think self-love is like, oh, you're single now, so you're going to love yourself.
No, it literally helps you with manifestation.
It helps you in your dating life.
It helps you in your career, the amount of money that you can attract.
It helps you be happier in your mental health day to day and so many more reasons.
Is it self-loving if sometimes I want to be casual with a guy and he does too or is that toxic?
No.
It's giving Samantha from Sex and the City vibes.
I love it.
As long as you know what you want and you've communicated that with each other, you're exactly on the same page.
There are no like blurred lines or anything go you slay like, get yours.
What you're doing right now deciding i want to be casual because that's that's just what i want, that's my preference or that's what fits best into my life, with everything else that i do is amazing, because you're not bending your desires to make somebody else feel more comfortable or to try and do all the normal thing, and this is what the majority of people do.
I think it's so powerful what you're doing.
If you don't want a relationship, go you.
How to get over the want to be chosen?
Very simple, this one.
You start choosing yourself.
Say it with me now.
You start choosing yourself.
I grew up with the need to want to be chosen.
Oh my God, so bad, so badly, so desperately, because I didn't decide what my worth was, and I didn't decide what my value was.
I was never intentional with that.
I never gave myself the time to figure out what I loved about myself and what I appreciated about myself, and to even engage in my self-discovery to know oh, this is who I am.
You can go your entire life not knowing who you are if you never just pour a little bit of time and attention to try and see who you are, to try and find out, to try and sit with yourself for a bit, and you can't love somebody if you don't know who they are.
So that's my first tip.
But the second that i did do all of that, i was finally able to choose myself and appreciate myself, and anybody else's opinions didn't matter anymore, because it's like i've spent more time with myself than you ever could.
I had a whole year that I just dedicated to self-love and obviously now I do so many things and I'm in a relationship now, but I also balance my self-love as well and you know it's part of my lifestyle.
But at this point, after so many years, I've given myself so many things I've wanted in this life and I've showed up for myself so many times in this life that why would I ever care about anybody else's opinion?
How is that valid?
Like I now have so much self-trust and so much self-respect because of what I've given myself whether it be support or success or whatever that my opinion becomes the most valid.
It becomes the most important.
I become so confident in my opinion.
Basically, why would I care about somebody else's validation when I am extremely validated by the way I treat myself, by the choices I make, by the life that I live, speaks for itself.
That's all for the self-love questions.
There were so many others, but I've answered them already before in old Girl Talks.
So definitely check them out here because I never like to repeat the same info.
So if you want more self-love questions, they're always in literally every single one of these, not even just the V-Day ones.
I've also got dedicated self-love videos on my channel.
See, because I've spoken about it so much, that's why the section was shorter today.
Definitely check these out because they are all so important.
And if you really want to dive deeper, obviously I've got a full on self-love book.
But thank you for being here and thank you for watching.
I hope you all have a gorgeous Valentine's Day, whether that be with your partner or alone.
I mean...
If you are with your partner, it should also be a loan.
You should also be doing something for yourself, like buying yourself the damn flowers or giving yourself a pamper evening, or even doing a journal entry on what you appreciate about yourself, how you've grown since February 14th 2025 versus February 14th 2026, because you deserve it.
And i think this month and this holiday i love, because it's just a good set date and reminder to think about the love that you have in your life, not only for yourself, from your family, from your friends, from your colleagues, from anybody that supports you.
So yeah, and this is me showing my love and my appreciation for you guys, thank you for supporting me, thank you for being here.
I'm so proud of you and i appreciate you and I'm giving you so much love because you keep giving yourself love by showing up by reading the books, by listening to the podcast, by watching the videos, by putting the inner work in, by showing up for yourself.
Remember that because it's something to be celebrated.
Have an amazing Valentine's Day, guys, no matter what your plans are.
Comment down below what your plans are.
I think it would be so fun for everybody to find out what each other's Valentine's Day plans are.
I will, if I remember, check the comments.
I really hope I remember to comment.
I will comment my own, I swear.
And I will see you same time next week for a brand new video.
Bye.
