Welcome to a new episode of english vocabulary booster.
My name is lara and i'm a salsa certified english teacher.
Learning new vocabulary usually takes a long time, but we'll do it in a way that's easy, quick and efficient.
In every episode, we'll learn how to use five new english words or expressions so that you too, can start speaking like a native.
So let's get learning.
Good morning, you guys.
I am saying good morning because it's currently 7 in the morning here in Spain.
I decided I wanted to wake up a little earlier than usual to record the podcast, because I thought you know what.
I want to record it in the office.
Finally,
And so you know, I wanted to make sure that there wasn't a lot of noise coming from the street, and And sure thing there's a dog that's been barking since 630.
So, well, you know, if you can hear it, let's just pretend it's part of the story, okay?
Today we're going to talk about pride.
Come on, you're coming in.
No way.
I said I would drive you, but there's no way I'm going in with you.
Is it because of what happened between you and Rose?
What happened anyway?
You never told me.
Forget it.
I get mad just talking about it.
Listen, I don't know what happened between you two, but Rose is... Oh, please.
Spare me your Rose is a really good friend speech because she is not.
I'm telling you.
Okay.
Well, I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt you.
Also, you can't avoid her forever.
You guys go to the same school.
You're gonna have to swallow your pride and move on with your life.
Uh-uh.
No way.
I'm sorry.
What she did was just unforgivable.
Alright again, I know you say she's hurt you, but Even if she did, you need to be the bigger person here.
Show up, go to the party, and be nice to her.
Take the high road, you know?
And pretend like nothing happened?
You know I'm not the kind of person that likes to sweep things under the rug.
Plus, what if she does it again?
What?
If she does what?
What is it that she did that hurt you so bad?
Alright, fine.
You wanna know?
Here, look.
What?
Her profile?
Yeah.
I don't understand.
It's a photo of her, Megan, and you.
Look at the caption.
Hashtag besties.
Okay.
And... And she didn't tag me.
What?
You don't think it's serious, do you?
I mean...
This is some serious teenage drama.
All right, let's look at expression number one, spare me.
Spare me your rose is a really good friend speech because she's not.
If you use the expression spare me, what are you telling the other person?
That they should continue talking or not?
No, when you tell someone oh, spare me, you know this comment or spare me, or even just spare me, that means stop talking.
I don't want to hear what you're about to say.
And why would you want them to stop talking?
Um, I think the expression spare me.
It's something that you often use when someone's been making a point already or they've made that point in the past.
So you kind of already know what they're about to say, but that also annoys you.
And so usually you would tell them, you know like, spare me the speech or spare me what you're going to say um Or, like I said, spare me this comment because it's just gonna frustrate me.
I know what you're about to say.
I don't want to hear it.
Just shut up.
When do you usually use the expression spare me?
When you're annoyed or excited.
Again, you use the expression spare me when you are annoyed.
You, you know...
Maybe not in that moment, but you know that if the other person says something, then you are going to get annoyed.
When was the last time you could have used or the last time that you did use this expression?
Um, so I think it was maybe a couple months ago, when I was here in Spain and I just needed some change in my life.
And so I decided I wanted to go work at a co-working space for a while.
And I wanted to book the place for a whole month, which you know in hindsight, just like Knowing me.
It wasn't a good idea because I changed my mind all the time.
But my boyfriend.
So I told my boyfriend and my boyfriend you know he knows me really well by this point
We've been together for a while.
And he told me, like you know, he was about to say something like well, do you think really, you know, is it a good idea?
Like, are you really going to go every day for a month?
Before he could even say anything, I told him, you know what?
Spare me your comments.
I know what you're thinking.
I don't want to hear it.
I want to do this.
And it turns out I went like two days out of the month.
So yeah, but you know what?
I did what I wanted to do and that's fine by me.
Expression number two, swallow your pride.
You're going to have to swallow your pride and move on with your life.
When do you have to swallow your pride?
When you have to do something you want to do or not.
You have to swallow your pride when you have to do something that you do not want to do.
Something that goes against what you would do in that situation.
And why do you have to swallow your pride from time to time?
Well, you know, pride is a weird thing.
Obviously, it's good to be proud of yourself.
But at the same time, when pride gets in the way of your relationships, you know it makes it hard for you to say I'm sorry.
If you made a mistake, then that's not such a great thing.
So every now and then, even when you know it's your right or you did something right and the other person did something wrong, if you want to keep the relationship going, if you don't want to make a bigger deal out of that situation, it's important to swallow your pride.
And now obviously, swallow means kind of like when you let something pass through your throat, when you yeah, when a food or something goes in your mouth and um to your stomach through your throat.
So swallowing your pride.
Really, it's a very cool image because you get this idea of like you know, just like oh, it's right there.
I got my pride in my mouth.
I want to say something, but I'm going to swallow it.
And I'm not going to say anything because I want to be nice and I don't want to have a fight.
When was the last time you had to swallow your pride?
Let me just say that it's really hard for me to swallow my pride.
I'm sure in like some conversations with either my mom or my sister sometimes if I don't quite agree with them, I'll sometimes just swallow my pride and be like you know what.
I don't want to get into this.
Forget it.
But yeah, that's swallowing my pride is not something that I can do very easily.
Expression number three, be the bigger person.
You need to be the bigger person here.
If you are the bigger person in a situation, does that mean you act more or less mature than the other person?
If you are the bigger person in a certain situation, that means that you're acting more mature than the other person.
And what is the benefit of being the bigger person?
Well, in a situation if two people are, for example, in a fight and one of them is being very petty, just mean and not behaving in a good way, you can decide to be the bigger person and decide to act in a mature way and you know it's gonna help you resolve the conflict and um.
So yeah, it's just a.
It's always a good idea to.
If the other person cannot be mature, at least you have to try to be the bigger person.
And sometimes it's really hard, because if someone does something mean to you, you kind of want to do something to get back at them.
You kind of want to do something that will hurt them back.
And it doesn't matter how low you have to go to hurt them, but that's not going to help the situation.
It's going to hurt someone else.
It's not going to help you either because you're going to feel bad about what you did.
So you might as well be the bigger person.
Is it easy for you to be the bigger person during an argument?
I think during an argument is when it's really your chance to be the bigger person.
Because you know it's very easy, when you're talking to someone you're angry, to say something.
Really mean that maybe you don't fully mean.
But you know, you say something mean, I see something mean back to you.
So yeah, it's really important in arguments to try and be the bigger person.
And I think I've gotten better at it.
I used to kind of like be on the same maturity level as the other person, but I've learned that I just especially during arguments.
It's so much better if you act like you know the bigger person, because you're gonna come out of it winning no matter what.
Just you know it's always nicer to Be the more mature person.
Expression number four, take the high road.
Take the high road, you know.
If you take the high road, do you act morally or not?
If you take the high road, yes, you act morally.
So you act in a good way, in line with your principles.
When do you take the high road?
When other people are acting morally or not?
Taking the high road implies that there are two types of roads.
One where people do not act morally and one where people do.
And that is the high road.
So you kind of, you know, you look at everyone from from a higher position, so to say.
So really, when you say take the high road, you say that you are choosing the path of good behavior as opposed to what someone else is doing.
You really use it to compare it, to compare your behavior to someone else's behavior.
That's not very good at that moment.
Do you believe it's always a good idea to take the high road?
Yes, absolutely.
Just like it's important to be the bigger person in a situation, it's always important to take the higher road.
It doesn't matter how people around us are behaving.
That shouldn't be affecting us.
I'll give you an example.
Say that I am competing against someone and this person is cheating.
Well, obviously I want to win too.
And I could do the same thing they're doing.
But I think it's important for me to choose to take the high road, do things the right way, do things in the morally correct way.
Because you know what?
Even if they win and I don't win, I'm still going to feel good about myself.
So at the end of the day, this is what's really important.
It's not about what we achieve, but how we achieve it.
Okay, this is getting really deep.
It's like a self-help podcast right now.
No, but you know, it's important to stick to your principles and do the thing that is right.
So anytime you get a chance, always take the high road.
Expression number five, sweep something under the rug.
You know, I'm not the kind of person that likes to sweep things under the rug.
If you sweep something such as a problem under the rug, does that mean you address it or not?
No.
If you sweep something under the rug, that means that you do not address that problem right away.
And if you sweep something under the rug, will it likely be forgotten forever?
Well, no, unfortunately, that's the thing about sweeping something under the rug.
You know what happens when you sweep, I don't know, dust under the rug?
What happens?
It's still there.
Like, we know it's still there.
We may not be able to see it, but we know it's still there.
And it's gonna come out.
Sooner or later, as soon as you lift the rug, all the dust is gonna, you know, fly up into the air.
So...
Yes, it will.
You know, if you sweep a problem under the rug, it's eventually it's going to come out again.
Is it a good idea to sweep something under the rug?
No, I totally I.
I do not believe in sweeping things under the rug.
Um, I know that a lot of people do it because I I hey listen, I used to do it.
I grew up in a family where everybody swept everything under the rug, every little thing.
They would not talk to each other, they were just like all right fine yeah, you know what?
I'm gonna remember this for later.
I'm not gonna say anything about it right away, but I'm gonna.
I'm gonna remember this and you know, and it's gonna come out at some point and I'm gonna be angry about it, and I think I've learned through time that it's so much better if you have a problem with someone, just just tell them.
Tell them right away.
There's as bad as things can get if you get into a fight or, you know, even if you do not talk for a little while, whatever.
But it's so much better to have things out there as opposed to sweeping things under the rug where you know there's still tension between the two of you.
And, you know, that sooner or later, you're going to have to have that conversation.
So, yeah.
Yeah.
Trust me, I know for a fact, not a good idea to sweep things under the rug.
And that is it for today.
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