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Not only can you not be perfect, but it's actually worse for your kids.
I feel like discipline is so controversial.
I think if it is all feelings are welcome, all behaviors are not.
Should everyone be apparent?
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a big part of your five principles.
So I think if you can write down like set a timer and for five minutes and write down the story of who you are as a parent that your child is going to explain to their grandchildren.
Oh, wow. Oh, just five minutes, who are they describing and then circle the words that really keep coming up and make that your mission like this is my mission statement as a parent and I now know sort of my north star.
And within that framework, I'm going to reflect and decide if it's still working or am I overcorrecting so like for example, if one of the things that keeps coming up is I want to be present, I want to be present, I want to be present.
And the way you're translating it is you're not missing a game to the point where your child doesn't know how to enjoy themselves without the audience to the point where it feels like they are so the center of your universe that they are worried that you are not a person without them.
And then you would want to pivot and say, I can be present without being invasive, you know, but I think that that's the easiest way is to check into how is this.
I mean, in a scientific paper, you'd say, how's this operationalized and in life, I would genuinely do that exercise regularly like kind of every year and check in and the other thing that I think is very interesting about it is if you figure out kind of what your mission statement is like in this is this parent or in this household, if you're doing it with your co parent
or again, you can keep it to yourself.
And as your kids get older, if you say to them, my mission in this as a parent is this, you know, these three things were really important to me.
What do you think my mission or our mission statement is and if your kids come back to you as they're older and they're and you're like kindness, empathy and presence and they're like education, persistence and money.
It's okay, but then it's a moment to say, huh, there's one two things happening here either I'm not parenting in the way that I mean to because the messaging is clearly not getting across or I'm not honest with myself about what I'm really going for because there's no right or wrong.
But it's more like how do I keep checking in with it so that that reflection is taken into action.
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So interesting how two people can have the exact same experience with the same parents yet respond so differently.
I played a lot of sports growing up and my mom would be taking care of my sister and really with my dad show up and I took that and I have a good relationship with my dad now and I took that as a sign of I got to decide who I wanted to be.
And it's been probably one of the best things that ever happened to me that my dad didn't show up because I had no one to impress apart from myself.
Yes. And I love that because till this day I make decisions based on not completely I have challenges too, but I make whole wholly I will reflect on decisions as to how do I feel about this because I'm the person that I have to live with and I think that's one of my favorite qualities that I've been able to gain in life.
But I also know a lot of people who've been through the same thing and they've just feel abandoned they feel discouraged they feel like no one was ever there for them they weren't able to learn self validation in the process.
And it's almost like as parents when you're trying to over correct is that you don't know how a child is going to respond to your presence or your absence.
And I think we can kind of get into a whirlwind around that I like what you're saying this idea of actually reflect with them totally is such a beautiful way as they get older of like what does that mean.
And I think that requires such a maturity on a parents part because it's hard to do that it is it is but then you get to also model for your kids this thing that we wish maybe was modeled for us reflection.
And also just to your point about the different responses and I write about this in the book and this is a big part of the literature on developmental science but temperament really is real and I like how Dr Thomas Boise talks about it as orchids, dandelions and then later folks said to the study tulips.
But it's like a way of looking at how the environment influences you that's kind of you're born this way right you come into this world has nothing to do with anything that your parents have done you you are responding to the wind in a different way than the next child.
And so an orchid is going to thrive in certain sunlight water and soil but we've all or maybe not all of us but I certainly have tried to raise orchids and they're like it's like a stump because I just wasn't I wasn't sensitive enough to that particular flowers need and so I I learned about the plants that needed less.
And I could fill my house with those but you can't do those kids and so like a dandelion child and these are real like they study these orchid babies for real like as babies not as actual flowers but just label them as orchids and dandelions and a dandelion is probably going to grow with just like your basics on light water and soil your basic love connection and some
boundaries and rules and they're they're going to go to the game not go to the game.
It's that they're going to be fine but if you if you have a kid that isn't thriving and that's happening then it's also it's very courageous it's very vulnerable but asking ourselves like what do I need to give in order for this flower to bloom and it's going to be different for every child so it's not like you have one way to parent and that's it but you know and it's not as
exhausting as it sounds it's more just like okay this one because you see it pretty quickly like as you get to know your kids you're like this one notices the sound of the air conditioning more easily this one does not notice if anything is going on like they're just sort of moving around the world and nothing's getting to them other kids are like this tag is itchy it's
temperament it's not because you know the parent was over coddling it's like it you can amplify these things of course like you could take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take a kid and you can take
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and turn that sensitivity into beautiful empathy and creativity and curiosity and thoughtfulness but you're still dealing with the same sensitivity so I just think that recalling that you could go through experiences like not having a parent come to your game and no let's say you have a kid and you're like my dad never came to the games and this is why I'm kind of amazing
at knowing what I need and knowing that I'm not doing it for everybody else and I'm not performing to please a parent but then if your child says can you please come to a game yeah you can't apply that you have to say yes but I think what would be great is that you know in your heart yes I'm going to go to some of those games but I don't have to go to all those games in order for this child
to thrive and that's the gift of the lesson that you got from your father.
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I love that. I so appreciate the nuance of that and the sensitivity of that because I think that's where we trip ourselves up.
Or it's like, oh that's the lesson I learned.
I don't need to go to any games.
They'll learn independence because that's what I learned.
They are different. They're an orchid or whatever else it may be.
And that lack of sensitivity and that lack of connectivity with them and noticing their temperament and noticing their environment that they need is often what happens.
And I also find that there's this kind of what you were saying with this idea of when we're noticing these things in them when we notice inadequacies or lacks in a child in what we perceive to be an inadequacy.
It's because we're having this feeling of we're inadequate because we haven't been able to have them not have that issue.
And I find that we're trying to solve it so that we can solve that inadequacy inside of ourselves and then when it doesn't solve and then we keep thinking when it must be me.
What's me? How do you process that door?
What's a what's a healthy practice to have when that seems to be a recurring theme?
And it's really interesting because as you were saying that I was thinking about what really pisses me off.
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