Beyond 10% Happier: Dan Harris On Meditation As A Superpower, Transforming Anxiety, & Finding Peace In Uncertain Times｜The Rich Roll Podcast

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We live in a universe that is characterized by non -negotiable and ceaseless change.

And if you can relieve your stress through meditation and there are plenty of other modalities for doing so, go for it.

We're experiencing a wild moment in which the world feels increasingly chaotic, irreparably divided, and for many, downright antagonistic.

How we respond or react to all of this, that's a choice.

The healthy version of which requires both discipline and skill, and yet most of us are just trying to survive it.

Doing so without a core set of essential inner tools to manage our minds, to not only maintain in our sanity, but to actually thrive amidst the turbulence.

Here to elaborate on these tools is Dan Harris, a former war correspondent and anchor for ABC News, where he hosted Nightline and the weekend edition of Good Morning America and reported from conflict zones like Afghanistan and Iraq.

Many of us labor under this delusion that we are somehow uniquely dysfunctional because we're having trouble starting a meditation habit or any other habit.

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Get familiar with how wild the mind is so that it doesn't own you as much. After a panic attack on live television, Dan discovered the transformative power of meditation.

He wrote a best -selling book about it called 10 % Happier.

He launched a podcast of the same name.

And along the way has helped countless skeptics realize that meditation isn't about clearing your It's about developing a practical relationship with your thoughts so they don't run your life.

Today, we explore the essential insights Dan has gleaned from his journeys into the deep waters of meditation and the many practical benefits even a brief consistent practice will reliably produce.

There's so much more to this being alive thing that we tend to overlook.

How do we go from rocks to singing opera?

How did we become conscious and like, what is consciousness?

I guess, we can all get 10 % happier and then the interest will compound annually.

And that's really fucking good news.

Today's about you, my friend.

It's good to see you.

I like that. We were just joking, like how we're both losing our grip on like how time works and reflecting on the fact that like the first time you did the podcast was 2014 and then 2018.

So it's been seven, 11 years ago.

and then seven years ago was the last time we did this.

It's crazy. You're the 10 % happier guy, you're the meditation guy, you're sort of the happiness guy too.

But I'm curious because it has been so long since we've done this formally, like there is an evolution that has taken place.

Like you have matured as a human being, you've weathered some obstacles and some difficulties, you've deepened not only your practice of meditation but like your confidence as a teacher, as a public -facing teacher.

And so I guess, like the first question is like, are you more than 10 % happier?

Like does the 10 % compound as interest or is it a static, like, where are you at with this?

And kind of like walk me through, maybe even I'm Russian dalling this right now but like maybe even like for people who don't know who you are, like give us a thumbnail, in the kind of sketch of how you arrived to this place.

I just wanna appreciate that, so many aspects of that question because like it was, it is pretty insightful when you talk about the evolution and I'll say a little bit more about that but the fact that you even notice it, I really appreciate.

Yeah, sure. So just to step back and nest these dolls.

the first thing is that I had a panic attack on television in 2004.

That's probably the thing I'm best known for, which is so sub optimal in many ways.

But if you Google panic attack, I just tested this the other day.

If you Google, panic attack on TV, I am the first result and it's got like 20 million views and you can see me melting down on Good Morning America.

that panic attack led me to meditation and I wrote a book about meditation 10 years after the panic attack called 10 % Happier and.

Which is now 11 years ago right?

Yes, now 11 years ago.

And after the book came out, I was a network news anchor and I didn't have any plans to stop doing that.

And I actually didn't think the book would amount to anything.

And Barbara Walters literally told me, don't quit your day job, so I was thinking this would be an interesting little risk.

It would probably go away quickly and I go back to anchoring Nightline and Good Morning America, whatever.

Anyway, the book came out.

It was way more successful than I thought it was gonna be.

I kinda caught meditation at the right point in the hype cycle.

Just in the mid 2010s, it started to really take off.

And so my book came out at like just the right time.

and so I started a podcast and a meditation app and all this other stuff.

And to the extent that anybody knows who I am now, it's probably like I'm the meditation guy.

But as you pointed out, and I really appreciate you noticing this, I really have evolved as after I followed you into this weird space of podcasting.

And I've done not as many episodes as you, but over eight years, 700 interviews.

I'm still a really dedicated practitioner of meditation and of Buddhism, but I've moved into and this is similar to what you've done like into fitness, and the benefits of nature, and the many, many aspects of the skill of relationships, including your relationship to yourself, and our relationship to food.

And so, I really now think of myself as, in a very similar vein to what you do as investigating like every aspect of doing life better.

In that there is this evolution, like I think you've always sort of seen yourself.

You're talking about your relationship to yourself.

Like you've always seen yourself as this sort of skeptic, right?

Like I'm sort of begrudgingly, like going into this world, I'm gonna tease out some things and I'm gonna share these things with fellow skeptics.

but you're not a skeptic anymore, you know what I mean?

I think you still imagine your audience to be made up of many skeptics and you're very skilled at translating challenging ideas in a digestible way, but the whole like kind of moniker of skepticism itself, that's sort of evaporated, like you're all in here.

I'm all in, you're absolutely correct about that.

I'm all in and in many ways, And I do require evidence.

So in that sense, I'm skeptical.

And if somebody comes to me - Like healthy skepticism.

Yeah, I'm not cynical.

And I think I had a corrosive cynicism that somehow I got over enough to write this, to write the book I wrote and whatever, but I still have high journalistic standards for like rigor.

If you're gonna make a claim to me, I need it to be backed up.

We can get into this at some point, but like I have a lot of problems with manifestation and these claims that through the power of positive thinking you can get or do anything you want.

I just, I think that seems demonstratively false and dangerous and so yeah, I'm a skeptic about things, about claims that lack evidence.

How would you characterize your evolution as a meditation practitioner from the early days of putting this book out to kind of your relationship to it?

I think when the book came out, I was practicing like I don't know, maybe 30, 35 minutes a day.

And then for a while, I actually boosted that to two hours a day.

Wow. Now I'm - In one sitting or?

No, my rule was I can do it in whatever dose as many times over the course of the day.

And there was, in a perverse way it kind of fit into my life because there were many years to where I was continuing to be a news anchor and traveling and doing stories for the news, while also traveling around to give speeches and writing more books and hosting a podcast. So I had a day that was quite varied, involved a lot of time on airplanes and car and Ubers and so I would sneak the meditation into those sessions, into those little interstices of the day.

Now I'm more like an hour a day and I kind of try to do like one big sit in the morning, maybe 30, 45 minutes, and then I do quite a bit of walking meditation, we can talk about that, if it's interesting to you before I go to bed.

So I'm sometimes well North of an hour, but roughly about an hour a day, and it's much saner now because I've serially divested myself of all of my professional responsibilities, I quit ABC, And so I have more time to do that.

And if Instagram has any evidence like you don't live in Manhattan anymore, right?

Like you live upstate somewhere or somewhere else.

So it looks like there's a lot of woods and things like that.

Things have really changed.

I mean, when we first met, I was full on in the news, I had written the book and I really believed in meditation.

But I was anchoring Nightline and the weekend edition of Good Morning America.

And I wanted to keep climbing that ladder.

I never saw myself stopping.

I was also a very dedicated New Yorker.

I married a woman who was raised in Manhattan, and that's what I thought our lives would be.

The 10 % happier part of my life got so big, I couldn't do both things at the same time.

The other thing that happens, the pandemic, and we had a young child, and he was not doing well in the city.

and actually remember the first day, we rented, temporarily rented a house in the suburbs.

And I drove up a day after my wife and son drove up because I was bringing our cats.

And I arrived and I let the cats loose in the house and I went out into the backyard and our son was playing in the pool.

And he got out of the pool to go get a toy on the side of the pool.

And I heard him say to himself under his breath, this is the best day of my life.

I was like shit, man, we're never going back.

And so now we live in all of the things I never thought I would be a meditator and a suburban dad, like that's what I am.

Well, this gets at the heart of one of the myths of meditation, like for the skeptical person out there.

Like, if I start doing this, it's gonna kill my ambition, I'm gonna lose all my money, I'm gonna sit around and become like a couch. It's like, and so you're just igniting all of those fears in people, talk a little bit about like truth versus fiction when it comes to kind of our relationship to the sort of expectations of modernity and kind of how we see ourselves in terms of success and failure.

I wish the technology worked well enough that it made you so happy that nothing matters.

Like I wish that it just made you so relaxed that it was an IV drip of Klonopin for the rest of your life.

Like this is not how it works.

You know, yes, I live in the suburbs and yes, I quit my job at ABC news, but I have a very robust, professional life where I'm engaged in writing more books and hosting a podcast and giving speeches and launching a sub stack.

I have my own little media company and I work probably seven days a week, not full days every day, but I'm incredibly ambitious and engaged.

I think what has changed is, first, I'm dedicating my life to something that I feel is incredibly constructive.

And two, I think, and I haven't totally conquered this demon, but I think I'm in a better place in terms of like, what is motivating me?

if you're listening to this and you desire success, it's just interesting to check in with like, what, why?

And I'm not anti success, I'm very pro success, but what's driving you?

And for me, a lot of it was filling an unfillable hole.

And I think I'm a little less caught up in wanting to win and accumulate and achieve just because it will look good or feel good or make me a ton of money that I don't even know what I would do with.

And I'm a little bit more motivated by, you know, I have a little tattoo right here that says F -T -B -O -A -B, which is like a Buddhist phrase for the benefit of all beings.

And it's kind of off brand in its sincerity, but like I try to be motivated by that.

And I think you can be motivated by that and still be really successful in worldly terms. It's just a difference of two motivations, extrinsic motivation, like the approval of strangers and like status and all these sorts of things or maybe finally your dad is gonna give you the pat on the back that you've always wanted, all that kind of shit, right.

Versus the intrinsic motivation of like, I wanna feel like my life has meaning, how do I get that well serviced to other people, like the benefit of others, of course, is like the pathway to that.

So it's just, it's not a lack of motivation.

It's just a qualitative difference in where that motivation is generated from.

I think it's really well summed up.

And I think it can still end up with some of the trappings that many of us want.

I have a nice house, a nice car and I can afford nice vacations, but I'm not like a, and I like nice stuff.

I mean, I do. I've been raised in a capitalist context and I have learned through making lots of mistakes to be a businessman.

It's just that I recognize that when the engine is being fueled by extrinsic stuff, it just doesn't feel as good.

It doesn't work as well.

And actually when I'm being motivated for lack of a less gauzy term love, that's a cleaner burning fuel.

Like I wake up in the morning and I do this super cheesy thing of when I open my eyes like, all right, my goal today, I say the same thing to myself every day, my goal today is to make awesome shit that helps people do their lives better while working on the relationships in my life, including my relationship with myself.

That is incredibly powerful fuel for doing the enormous amount of work that I do.

And I don't think this is passivity or resignation or never wearing leather again and moving to a monastery in upstate New York.

I have no beef with any of that.

But if the people, if we're trying to address in this portion of the conversation, a skeptic who thinks that meditation is gonna make you lose your edge, I just don't see that happening.

You're a cultural Jew, right, correct me if I'm wrong.

But you know, kind of a secular guy.

That goes hand -in -hand with skepticism.

And also correct me if I'm wrong, but there has been kind of a gravitation more and more towards a Buddhist kind of lens on meditation.

There's all different kinds of meditation, traditions and practices.

Why is it that you have kind of selected this as your sort of discipline of choice and what have you learned from that tradition?

I mean, it's kind of who I fell in with, right.

When I first started getting interested in meditation, I was reading books, I just happened to be reading books by Jewish Buddhists.

In fact, the first book I read was my wife gave me a book by this guy, Dr. Mark Epstein, who's a psychiatrist in New York.

There's a lot of Jewish Buddhists.

Yes, there are. Yeah, and we can talk about what the pieces are for that.

I'd like to know, because it is, I've made that observation and super interesting.

Anyway, go ahead. I'm happy to talk about it because I have a lot of thought.

I mean, I'm very close with these folks and I am one now.

So I was reading Mark's books and then I called him up and it was like, I basically asked will you be my friend?

And he said yes and so we're still, I mean, I was still very good friends.

I met him and then I met Sam Harris, who I know you know and Sam, who I knew at that time, this was in like 2008 or nine, he was not out really as he didn't have a meditation app or anything like that at this time.

But he had spent many years in his youth as an avid practitioner of meditation.

And during that time had become friends with teachers like Sharon Salzberg and Joseph Goldstein.

You can tell from the last names that these are Jewish people.

And Sam introduced me to Joseph and Sam got me into my first meditation retreat.

And so I basically ended up knowing a lot of these Jewish Buddhists and now I know a lot of non -Jewish Buddhists too, but I fell in love with the tradition.

Somebody, I'm going to a dinner party the other day and in a couple of nights in advance, the organizer sent out a note, I think you were actually invited to this party, but you can't come, Jeff Krasnow.

Oh, that's right. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And Jeff sent out an email saying, as a conversation prompt, what's the best compliment you've ever received.

And the best, I can think I can, I know exactly the best compliment I ever received.

I was on a 10 day meditation retreat during the pandemic, and it was not at a retreat center, it was like a friend of mine, we just used his summer home in Maine and we brought in a teacher to teach us, which is a very we're very lucky to be able to do this.

the teacher's name is Alexis Santos.

And at the end of the 10 days, the aforementioned Joseph Goldstein, who's this legendary meditation teacher and a very close friend of mine, showed up just to kind of hang out with us for a few days.

And when he arrived, he asked Alexis, how did Dan do?

How was his meditation?

And Alexis said, Dan loves the Dharma.

And that is about the truest thing you can say about me.

Tell me more about that.

This tradition that can be practiced as a religion, And millions of people do and that's beautiful.

I'm totally fine with that.

But this tradition is really a science of the mind.

And many of its observations and practices have been maybe validated as too strong a word. Well, in some cases, the practices have been validated through modern neuroscience.

And there's a lot of overlap between the way modern physicists view the universe and the way the Buddha did.

And so that it's consonant with scientific, the scientific worldview.

I was raised by scientists, I'm married to a scientist, I'm not good at math, so I did not become a scientist myself.

But this inherently sort of rational, logical set of ethical precepts, and mental exercises, which is the way I practice Buddhism, is incredibly beautiful and helpful.

And, you know, the Buddha himself was not a god or a prophet or anything like that.

He was a mortal man who died of food poisoning in his 80s.

And literally said to people, Do not take anything I say on face value.

Come see for yourself.

Test it out in the laboratory of your own mind.

So there are some metaphysical claims in Buddhism.

And I have no evidence for any of them.

And therefore, don't pound the table in their defense.

I Okay, maybe We're reborn, but I don't know.

However, what I do know is that doing the practices of training your mind through meditation and trying to behave in ethical ways has transformed my life.

And I think at a time in human history where we appear to be on the precipice in many ways, to the extent that I can muster any optimism about the future of the species, it's not necessarily that I think everybody who needs to be a Buddhist, but some of these inner technologies that were developed in the Dharma and in other spiritual traditions, and that that appears to be the root towards salvation if there is any for us.

The popularity, the mainstreaming of meditation is just skyrocketed from the days in which you first launched your book.

I mean, the timing of that book was like perfect.

but in the interceding decade, like it's just exploded.

Like very few people are not familiar with what it is anymore, nor are there kind of like weird hippy hangups around it anymore, like in that's by dent of your previous app and like we're gonna get into that, but all the apps out there and it's just part of the discourse, right?

But I think within that, there's still a lot of growth in education.

I think most people probably think about meditation as like a stress -relieving hack or a way to like reduce your anxiety or perhaps be a little less reactive, a little more present in your life.

And the inquiry kind of like stops there.

So maybe talk a little bit about the more expansive kind of experiences that you had and take it beyond those kind of base level benefits.

You know, I want to be honest that there may be people in the Dharma world or in the meditation world who disagree with what I'm about to say.

But I have no problem if you're using meditation as a stress relieving hack.

We're stressed. And if you can relieve your stress through meditation and there are plenty of other modalities for doing so, go for it.

I think that's beautiful.

And so if you wanna just nibble around the edges of this thing, whatever works for you.

I am dogmatically non -dogmatic.

And I think if you're curious about what resides is at the deep end of this pool, there's an enormous amount there.

Look, we live in a universe that is characterized by non -negotiable and ceaseless change.

And when you can't adapt to the greying of your beard as I look at you or the greying of my hair as I look at myself in the mirror, if you can't adapt to the change in culture and politics, if you can't adapt to the fact that everybody you know and everybody you love is gonna die, if you can't adapt to these very hard facts to say out loud and facts that we spend most of our lives trying to deny, you're gonna suffer, and there are practices out there that can help you ease into this reality of ceaseless change, And they can help you see that the self, the inner rich, the inner Dan, that we spent

so much of our time trying to build up and defend, actually isn't there on some important level.

Right, now that's a very hard to grok esoteric truth.

So let me see if I can put it in a way that would make it actionable for anybody right now.

And I'll take this Joseph Goldstein.

When you're in the grips of a very powerful emotion, generally, linguistically, we say, I'm pissed or I'm anxious.

What if you just switch the terminology to there is anger or there is fear?

Then you're not so identified with the emotion, you're not claiming it as your own, which has one great Buddhist monk said, that is a misappropriation of public property.

You can then work with it.

You can view your emotions as meteorological patterns, a storm that comes together because of a variety of atmospheric conditions and can be worked with.

And that is just hugely liberating.

And so I'm just giving you a little bit of a taste of the way the Buddhists view the mind.

And that's quite different from focus on your breath for a minute or two and then every time you get distracted, you start again.

That's basic meditation and it can be really helpful.

It can give you some distance from your inner chatter.

But that's just the first step in a really rich path that I personally have only taken a few steps down.

There are many, many people out there.

Again, I'll go back to Joseph Goldstein who'd been practicing for 60 years.

He does three months of silent meditation a year.

He's on a silent meditation retreat, I had to sign up right now.

He's the goat. He's the goat.

He's like the all time goat, right?

I mean, there are lots of goats out there right now because here locally in Los Angeles, Jack Kornfield, who's an old, old friend and Confederate of Joseph lives here.

Judy Goodman lives around here, Sharon Salzburg.

Sharon, she's the loving kindness person.

There's the Dalai Lama himself.

And then there's all there are all these Tibetan lamas whose names we don't know because they're not out there writing books, who are, as a friend of mine once said, it's like, there are these Socrates living in the mountains of Nepal, these incredible minds out there.

So, what has given me so much faith, and by faith, I don't mean the blind adoption of views that I can't prove, but confidence, that's what I mean by faith, confidence, And that's the way it's generally translated in the Dharma.

What's given me so much confidence in the value of this path is just meeting people who are different.

Like you spend time with Joseph Goldstein, he doesn't trail pixie dust out of his rear end.

It's not like he's, I've spent a bunch of time with the Dalai Lama.

These are, they're flesh and blood human beings who have nights where they don't sleep well, or wake up in a bad mood, or get bitten by a mosquito and they don't like it, but they are handling the vicissitudes and vexations of daily life in a vastly different way.

And that's really compelling.

That's really compelling.

There's a lot in what you just shared.

I mean, I think to tease out a few ideas, the first being this notion that you can be an observer of your own emotional state and not self identify with it is like a superpower, right?

There's a dualism in that, I think a little bit that gets tricky, but that alone allows you to kind of self -regulate in a really powerful way.

And there's an immediacy to that too.

Like my introduction to that idea was like in AA, like feelings are not facts or emotion, just be present with the emotions.

If there's one thing emotions do, they always change.

And if you can just observe it and detach a little bit from how you feel about that, which is like layering more emotion and on top of that emotion and just allow it, because I think in our lizard brain, we think we're gonna die, right?

It's gonna kill us.

And so we tense up and we react, but to be that observer and allow it to pass, and when you've had that experience of like, oh, it went away or a change, it shifted, these are shape shifting all the time, right?

It's an amazing skill that's worthy of developing.

You can do it in just little ways in your life.

I'll just give you, This is another thing from Joseph Goldstein.

I was having lunch with him a couple months ago and I was joking about how I'm constantly like lifting ideas from him and using them in places like this.

And he's like, hey, I stole it from other people.

We're part of, I use this phrase that I love.

He's like, Who owns the IP?

Exactly. He said, we're part of a lineage of thieves.

And I love that. We are part of a lineage of thieves.

And great, I'm not a great master, but great masters have been building upon the wisdom of the people before them for a long time.

So in that spirit I'll give you, just in case this sounds like impossibly ethereal to people, try this, the next time you have a desire to check your phone, to eat a sleeve of Oreos, to say something that's gonna ruin the next 48 hours of your marriage, whatever, the next time you have a desire see if you can stop and watch it for a second.

you will notice that desire will come and go, and on the other side of that is immense freedom.

It's like you've been released from the jaws of a shark.

Oh yeah, this desire which felt like monolithic.

It was coloring my view of reality.

I need this fuckin' Dorito, I need it.

And then it would just be cool with that for a second.

You know, see how it shows up in your body, watch it come, it will go, because everything goes, and then what's left?

What's left is something new, but it is not gonna be that desire anymore.

And that's freedom.

When people on the spiritual path talk about freedom, I mean, this is, I think, a big part of what they're pointing toward, the fact that we spend so much of our lives enthralled, ensorcelled by this inner dialogue and these powerful emotions and we're just buffeted by it all the time.

We have no way of stepping outside of it.

And that is what meditation and I think on a deeper level, moving into the Dharma can do for you.

And honestly, I think that's just the beginning.

So I just got back from South by Southwest, which is this incredible conference held in Austin every year, where I had the privilege of sharing the stage with my friend Baratunde Thurston for this panel on the art of interviewing and why long -form conversation still matters in our bite -sized content world.

And it was super fun.

And Austin, of course, is just great.

One of my favorite places to visit, the food, the people, the energy, Barton Creek, Town Lake, I love it there.

But this time I didn't stay in a hotel like I've done in the past. I stayed and in Airbnb, this fantastic house that I shared with members of the Voicing Change team, which made such a huge difference in the whole experience, allowing us to connect better, share our experiences, and really deepen the richness of the conference in this beautiful, more communal setting rather than all being separated in boxy, nondescript rooms. And all of this left me thinking about how our living spaces can serve multiple purposes, especially when we travel, and how Airbnb is this very cool and practical way to

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To put the hat back on of the meditation averse or the newbie or the, you know, less informed, that person is the person who typically says something like, I tried meditation, you know, my mind was attacking me, I can't sit still, like I'm a bad meditator.

Not realizing that that is the practice, it's like to just draw attention and notice like how your mind is operating, right?

It is about your relationship to your own mind and the more that you can notice that that's the beginning stages of being able to like exert some agency over that.

So you're actually very effectively meditating if your mind is going crazy, if you're simply noticing it.

A 100 % and I think one of my big jobs now on the planet is just to point this out to people There are millions of people out there who are interested in meditation or aware of its benefits, but they're not doing it.

And one of the reasons they're not doing it is they have fallen prey to this pernicious misconception that in order to meditate, you need to clear your mind.

You've probably heard me make this joke before, but clearing your mind is impossible unless you're enlightened or you're dead.

That is not the goal of meditation.

The goal of meditation is to get familiar with how wild the mind is so that it doesn't own you as much. So in the moment where you sit and try to focus on your breath and then you inevitably notice that you're planning a homicide or thinking about what's for lunch, many people tell themselves, oh, I'm failing at this, I can't do it but actually that moment is proof that you're doing it right.

What you want over and over and over again is to have a collision with the voice in your head, at your inner narrator, so that you don't act out all the shitty ideas that your narrator is serving up to you all day long, and that's a superpower, that's mindfulness.

There are these practical real world kind of impacts and benefits that you can realize from this, but you set it yourself, like the real purpose here is to develop a relationship with your own mind.

And then to even take that a step further to recognize the true nature of reality, right?

And now I'm gonna see from Sam Harris in the Waking Up app, like, you know, from his perspective and the way that he teaches, it's a practice of learning how to wake up from this dream in which we perceive our surroundings as real but in fact are not, and that includes this whole notion that we are a self.

Like, and we can go down that rabbit hole, we don't have to.

But the point being the more adept you become at this practice, the more profound the questions and the answers become.

There is no endpoint to this, but the more fascinating and revealing it becomes.

And so I guess where are you at with the non -dualism aspect of this and sort of convening with reality as it actually is and disabusing yourself of this idea that you were actually Dan Harris to begin with.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, it breaks your brain right to think about it.

It's hard to talk about it and I sometimes worry about talking about it too much because it can seem off -putting or frustrating to people.

But I'm foursquare in Sam's camp.

I was listening to his app this morning.

He's right about all of this, that the notion of non -duality, which is we think there's some tiny little homunculus this of Rich behind your eyes, in between your ears, peering fretfully out at the world, but it's all just nature, right?

I love this phrase, there's a Burmese master, Sayada Utaijaniya, and he will have his students occasionally drop this phrase into their minds in their meditation, this is nature.

Like we feel in our marrow like we're separate it from the universe.

It's me, Rich, in here navigating this hostile world, but every thought you have, every embarrassing instinct is just an expression of the universe.

It's all nature. You are not separate from the world, you are nature.

And what Sam is pointing at in his app, which is an incredible resource, the Waking Up app, what he's really trying to get people to get in touch with is this dualistic view of the world.

Like I am noticing my breath, I'm talking to Rich, it is true on one level, right, it's true.

You and I are sitting here and I'm in my body and you're in your body.

But on some really deep and actually quite accessible level if you're doing the right practices, you can see that it's all part of nature, it's all part of consciousness.

And I think Sam has designed a really good app to kind of gently get people there because it's very frustrating to hear people talk about non -duality, and we do it a lot on my show, and those are the episodes I'm always the most worried about, because it just takes a while to get it.

And if you don't get it, it can be annoying.

It's very difficult to get.

Basically, this idea that everything is happening in our head, and disabusing people of the idea that you even have a head, like, just to even conjure that and wrap your mind around that is almost impossible.

But I think the way in and the way that Sam kind of gently tiptoes you towards this is the practice of noticing thoughts as they arise and getting people to understand that this is happening on its own.

Like you're not willing a thought to occur.

These thoughts occur.

So from whence do they come, you know what I mean?

And that, I think, gets you into this sense of connectedness and oneness.

and then that, what is free will?

Like all of these, there's a domino effect here that requires some understanding of quantum physics and neuroscience and the like, which means, I mean, to me, I interpret that, it just gets more fascinating, because this is like, what is even happening?

Like I mentioned to you, Annika Harris was here the other day and she's got this fantastic new audio documentary series, Lights On.

And in that, she talks about the trippy kids, It's like the kids who are like, when are the adults gonna actually tell us what the fuck is happening?

You know what I mean?

And we kind of live our lives blithely kind of ignorant and unaware and incurious about like the nature of like all of it.

Yet we live our lives.

I think, well, I'll speak for myself.

So much of my life is just consumed by the mundane and we're shutting out the majesty of the universe and we're living, you know, sometimes it's described like we're living in mansions, but we're spending our whole time under the stairs on the first floor.

There's so much more to this being alive thing that we tend to overlook.

And just starting to play around with contemplative practices like meditation, not dual meditation, which is part of the dharma, but it's also part of other traditions.

It can be like mind blowing in a really nice way.

I just, But it's intimidating for somebody who's like, new to this or just trying to get their feet wet?

Well, let me, so I'm glad you said that because let me just throw a couple of little practices that might make it less intimidating, because I always like to try to take it out of the clouds and put it here on planet earth just for, especially if you're new.

One little exercise you can do, this also comes from Joseph, is just, in the course of the day, every once in a while, notice that you're thinking.

and I've just had a thought and the thought is, I need to go to the bathroom, okay?

That's I don't actually have to go to bathroom, but hypothetically, you just had that thought.

And then just do this little move in your mind of like, go look for that thought, where is it now?

Like what happened to it, what is a thought?

Just exactly like, what's a thought?

Where is it located?

Where is located, where does it come from?

Where does it go when it's done?

That gives you a sense of the mystery of consciousness that we know that the lights are on for ourselves.

We know that we know stuff.

In other words, I know I'm taking in the visual information of you across this table from me right now, but I don't know who's taking delivery of that package.

Like who's the knower.

So just looking for thoughts is just a nice way to like kinda knock on this door.

Another one is, and you kind of made an oblique reference to this is just to imagine as you're walking around that you have no head.

There's a book that I'm familiar with.

Yeah, Douglas Harding's book.

Douglas Harding's book is called On Having No Head, and Sam and Joseph both recommended this to me early in my practice.

And it's just a really cool, just little thought experiment.

What if you had no head?

What's happening there?

Because that can help just that.

And again, don't push too hard at this.

Just play with it gently.

But what it can do in a very interesting way, imagining that you have no head, is to dissolve the barrier between you and the world.

And again, I wanna recognize, as you've said before, these can sound like big and to be little cute heady ideas.

And so the trick is to have just little contemplative exercises that help you get in touch with what is probably the greatest mystery, which is that we know we're like, how do we on this planet go from, I heard Jack Kornfield say this once, how do we go from rocks to singing opera?

Like, how did we become conscious and like, what is consciousness?

These are really interesting questions, they have a direct bearing on your understanding of your life and how you lead your life, but it's a lot and so it's helpful to start small.

Yeah, Sam's way of entering into this is to first let you know that everything is perception.

Like you're over there, I'm here, I can feel the gravity kind of anchoring my butt in this chair, my foot feels one way, and we locate these things in time, but these are all like neural signals, but what is the raw data?

Like, can you kind of disconnect from those, this pattern that we have in our mind that this means this and this means that.

And to just kind of transcend that and realize, like I'm perceiving you as over there, but like that's just a perception of reality through this filtering mechanism that we have in our mind that we mistake for being kind of an authentic version of what is actually real.

What it leads you to ultimately is humility.

And I think it leads you to many places, but one place where I think it leads you is a kind of humility about how confident you can be in anything you know.

And I know we live in a time where it's been described as a pandemic of certainty and everybody - Yeah, you shared a little quote the other day from Bertrand Russell on that, didn't you?

Something like the problem is right now the worst people are the most cocksure and the best of us are not - Yeah, and the worst tend to have the most power.

And that's because we've created a world where the algorithms reward certainty and outrage and fear -mongering.

And in fact, the best way to come to understand your life, to understand the universe, to understand the way the world's working is to have some intellectual humility, is to have some open -mindedness.

And by the way, that correlates with lower anxiety, increased sense of meaning and purpose.

It's also Adam Grant has written a book called Think Again, which talks about how open mindedness and the willingness to second guess your reflexive conclusions can make you more successful.

And so, again, whether you wanna investigate the nature of consciousness, whether that's interesting or not, what all these questions lead us toward is something very practical, which is not being overly confident in every little thought.

that flits through your mind.

Yeah, in other words like the more you kind of dive into the deep end of this, like the more kind of astounding and difficult to grasp it becomes.

And that's where you find the humility.

Like, Oh, I thought I knew what was going on.

I actually don't know anything basically.

And I think the benefit of that is putting you in close contact with your relationship with uncertainty.

Like you mentioned uncertainty earlier, Like we're so hard wired to resist uncertainty, but the truth is like, everything is uncertain.

And I've had all these experts come on here and they just talk about, it's like, if you can just accept uncertainty and develop a healthy relationship with that, using humility, you're gonna be able to comport yourself more consciously and more positively.

And I think right now also to your point, like, this is an incredibly uncertain time.

And I think that we're meeting it with tremendous amounts of anxiety and fear.

And that metastasizes into all kinds of like negative errant behaviors that are serving nobody, right?

So maybe talk a little bit more about like our current moment I mean, you've been kind of pretty forward facing public facing and how to counsel people about how to conceptualize what's happening right now and conduct themselves in a way that's a little healthier and kinder.

Do you think it would be helpful for me to give like, I have two thoughts that are coming to mind, very practical ways to like manage uncertainty.

Do you think that would be a helpful way to go?

I think so. Okay, well, so first one idea is gonna involve meditation and the other won't.

Basic mindfulness meditation really involves sitting comfortably, closing your eyes, picking one thing to focus on, usually your breath, but it can also just be any sensation from your body or sounds in the environment.

And then every time you get distracted, you start again and again and again.

So you're trying to concentrate on one thing, and then your thoughts will invade.

Eventually, you'll wake up from the distraction, blow to the kiss and gently escort your attention back to the breath or whatever you've chosen to focus on over and over and over again.

This sometimes frustrating, sometimes stupid feeling exercise can really help with uncertainty because you start to be okay with whatever you're feeling.

The goal of meditation is not to feel any kind of way.

It's to feel whatever you're feeling right now and be cool with it.

Uncertainty is really uncomfortable.

It produces a lot of physical sensations in the body.

It produces a lot of fear based forward projecting thoughts And what a basic grounding practice like mindfulness meditation can help you do is learn to be a quantum mess with whatever's happening, which is a great place from which to take action.

So actually I'm gonna give you three.

I mean, that's a superpower.

It's a superpower. So I'm gonna give you actually three.

I said two, but I'm gonna give you three.

Three ways to handle uncertainty.

So the first is like just to learn to sit in the middle of chaos and be okay with it.

The second is taking action.

So this is I'm not about passivity.

There's a great expression.

It's not mine. Action absorbs anxiety.

So yes, we should take action, whatever your political beliefs are, whatever your major concerns are, doing something about it is a great way to restore your sense of agency.

And what mind state do you wanna be in as you're taking action?

Do you wanna be overwhelmed by fear Or do you wanna be in a more equanimous mode?

Let me just say about taking action, it doesn't even have to be relevant.

Like if you're upset about politics in America right now, you don't even need to join a political campaign, volunteer at a soup kitchen.

Just increase your utility quotient with the people in your life.

Those things are incredibly helpful, not only to the people around you, but to you.

And so it's a great way to counteract the exquisite discomfort of uncertainty.

And I'll just give you a third, quickly.

This is another phrase that I love, but it's not mine, never worry alone.

This being a live thing is not a solo endeavor despite the individualistic messages we get from the larger culture.

It's a team sport. It's always been a team sport.

That's how we're designed.

The reason why we as an animal rose to the top of the food chain is not because we have wings or claws or fangs or anything like that.

It's because we have this, speaking of superpowers, has this capacity to cooperate, collaborate, communicate.

That is our superpower as a species and yet we are encouraged by the culture to go it alone, to bootstrap, to keep your nose in your phone all day long.

But if you wanna make it through uncertain times, either like from a macro sociopolitical standpoint or just from your own life, which is gonna be filled with all sorts of ups and downs, call your mom, like call your friends, do it with people.

And you know, from the program, like that is the, I'm not an expert in the sobriety, various sobriety communities, but one of the super powers is doing it with other people.

And there's real brilliance in that.

Yeah. I really like that.

I mean, I think with equanimity, you're able to identify the opportunity, Everything that's happening is actually neutral until we apply our perspective, right, and we label it as good or bad or whatnot.

And equanimity gives you that distance to kind of detach from labeling or judging events as you see fit.

And I think recognizing everything is an opportunity for your growth and evolution.

And if you apply that perspective to it, then you can find the next right action that is in service to yourself and in service to other people.

And I think, you know, to your point of activism or getting involved or whatever, there is a, I'm curious around how you think about motivations there, because if you're doing it out of a place of anger or that certainty, right.

If you're certain that you're right and you're out there fighting, like are you any different than the people you're fighting against?

Okay, so this is controversial.

And so, I'll step gingerly, but I'm gonna argue and this kinda goes back to the beginning of our conversation that it is important to be motivated by love, even for the people you think are doing a lot of harm.

Okay, so that some people might be recoiling at the sound of my words here.

I mean, who's gonna recoil at that?

Well, because many people when they hear me talk about having compassion in divided polarized times, they say, how you, and there's some legitimacy to this pushback.

you're a wealthy straight white guy.

You're not gonna be as impacted by some of the things that are happening on a policy level in DC right now, you're recommending that I operate from a place of love.

Well, that is, you know, I think this is an overused term privilege, but this is privilege in its most extreme form.

I see. And I get that.

And all those things are true about me.

And if you look at our contemplative traditions, from Jesus to the Buddha, to Gandhi, to Martin Luther King, if you look at science, modern psychological research, it will show you time and again that hatred and anger are not clean burning fuels, you will burn out.

If you're motivated by love, it just keeps you, it is what is gonna help you stay resilient in the face of the ups and downs.

And so what do I mean by love?

Well, it's very clear when it comes to loving the people you're trying to protect.

I think it's semi -clear when we talk about self -love, like protecting yourself, but loving the quote unquote, bad guys, that's a bridge too far for many people.

And so I just wanna be clear that compassion or love for Donald Trump if you're on the left or Joe Biden if you're on the right, doesn't mean you're inviting these people over for dinner, it doesn't mean you're co -signing on their behavior.

It just means that you are not...

You can define it in the negative.

It's just non -hatred.

You can take all the same actions to counter the forces that you object to.

You can take all the same actions, the same firm steps from a place of love as you would from a place of hatred, but the color of your mind will be different while you're doing it.

Your resiliency will be stronger.

And so I'll just end this little rant with a good story that Sharon Salzberg, a great meditation teacher and one of the premier purveyors of love and compassion in Western culture.

She tells the story about being in India in the 60s and 70s, when she was just getting interested in meditation and she was hearing all these teachers talk about love and compassion and whatever.

She was like, well, what if I step outside and somebody tries to mug me?

And the teacher, whoever she was talking to at the time said, you can very compassionately smack them with your umbrella.

And so just to be clear, you can be really tough.

You can be fierce and uncompromising in your actions at this dicey moment.

But it doesn't need to come from a place of hatred because that's not good for you.

If you're fighting the good fight, you're still fighting It's sort of a tangential idea to that on some level, I guess.

Are you saying that - But I guess it gets to motivation.

Like if you're fighting out of anger, if you are standing up for a cause and that's coming from compassion either towards the person who is your opposition or the people that you're, you know, representing in that campaign or whatever, like it's hard to get your head around that.

like it's very anti -Western.

The way I'm arguing it is just practical.

I want you whoever's listening to this to be as effective and happy as possible no matter what you're trying to do in your life.

And I just don't see any evidence that anger and hatred which are natural, and you're gonna feel them, I feel them.

So I'm not saying you gotta be some sort of saint for whom these emotions never arise, But if you're using that to fuel all of your actions, like you will burn out.

And you see a lot of this in the activist community, real burnout.

So I think a kind of omni directional compassion, which starts with yourself taking care.

I don't think we should go straight to like generating loving kindness for our quote unquote, enemies.

That's probably not the place to start.

But start by, you know, wanting to take care of yourself and then broaden your circle of concern to the vulnerable people you're trying to protect.

And then you can, and this is kind of the ninja move here, include the way the Dalai Lama does with the Chinese include your quote unquote enemies not because you want them to succeed in whatever objectionable thing they're endeavoring to do, but because it's in your best interest It allows you to access the full creativity of your brain if you're not locked in the kind of hatred that literally, there's a reason why we call it blind rage, high conflict, anger, hatred, this has been shown.

It reduces your peripheral vision, loving kindness, basic friendliness, again, not being a doormat, but just basic, well -wishing benevolence broadens your peripheral vision.

This is some of the work of Barbara Fredrickson.

That's fascinating and instructive.

Hard to do, but as a north star in these difficult times, notwithstanding my admitted privilege, I recommend it.

Well, all you have to do is look back on the great leaders who faced great opposition, who practiced this.

it's Gandhi, it's MLK, it's the Dalai Lama, it's Jesus Christ, these are the people that we most revere and why?

Because they were the embodiment of that very thing that feels so difficult to connect with, but obviously, these people who exemplify it, like they resonate throughout history for that reason.

Yeah, and the Dalai Lama was asked, You know, like what, was it appropriate to kill Osama bin Laden?

And I might be mangling this.

So my apologies to His Holiness or anybody who's a Tibetan scholar.

The HHDL. My understanding is that he said, yeah, you know, there are moments where self -defense in the form of violence is necessary.

So it's not always turn the other cheek, but it doesn't, your mind does not need to be colored by hatred and rage, which is not going to allow you to function at your highest and best. Well, I wanna trade notes on the Dalai Lama, you had this opportunity to go to Dharamshala and spend time with him, you're making like a documentary out of this, yeah.

I made a little, a free course.

Oh, you did. Yeah, like the Dalai Lama's like guide to happiness.

So walk me through this whole experience, I'm fascinated, all the way from like arriving in Dharamshala, your impressions, your preconceived ideas of what your experience with his holiness was gonna be like and the reality of that and kind of like what you took away from it.

Well, I have been, speaking of privilege, now, this is real privilege, I have interviewed him four times.

And so the time that I went to India a couple of years ago was the fourth time I'd interviewed him.

Oh, I didn't realize that.

And so I had met him before, but I'd never been to India and seen him in his natural habitat.

I had interviewed him twice in the States in person and then one time on Zoom in the middle of the pandemic and then a fourth time in person in India.

What was unique about the fourth time I went is that I actually spent a lot of time in his orbit.

And I'll just pick out one detail that I think is interesting is as we said before, I mean, I retain some skepticism in Tibetan Buddhism, there's a lot of metaphysical claims. He is the incarnation.

Yeah, like the reincarnation of the Buddha and all of that.

The 14th Dalai Lama.

The 14th reincarnation of the highest Lama in the Tibetan tradition.

And so I don't know where I stand on rebirth because I have no direct evidence of any of this.

And, you go to Dharamsala, there's just lots of like religious activity, People bowing to him and being blessed by him.

And a couple of things are interesting that are coming to mind as we're speaking.

One is, first of all, he just does not take himself very seriously, which is really interesting.

There's so much pomp around him, but when you spend time with the dude, you ask him, do you ever get mad?

Absolutely. Would you ever kill a mosquito?

Yes. He makes fart jokes.

like he's just a pretty embodied normal dude in some ways, and there's something going on with him.

Like when you are seated across from him and you're getting his full attention, when somebody has trained their mind toward compassion in that way and you're the object of their gaze, I know it's a little dualistic, but when you are being fully held by an individual's attention who has spent 80 years cultivating warmth, that's a real experience and I don't know how to fully explain its power, except I saw things that were very interesting in his presence.

A friend of mine who was with me on this trip, well, a couple of friends with me on this trip.

One was a hard -bitten TV news cameraman who I brought to film my encounter, who I had covered mass shootings and war and natural disasters with, Tommy Kay.

And he had no idea who the Dalai Lama was beyond just knowing the name.

And the first day in India, the first thing he did was, and this is an atheist too, the first thing he did was shoot two hours of the Dalai Lama greeting locals and giving them blessings.

And when he was done, he put the camera down, wept, and hugged me and said, this is the most meaningful thing that's ever happened to me.

Thank you for bringing me to India.

Wow. Just watching a guy hug other people.

And another guy was on the trip.

Like, I don't wanna say his name, but somebody who was in our crew, after I interviewed the Dalai Lama, was given a chance to have a picture taken with him.

and this is a guy who has practiced zero Buddhism.

He'd done some Qigong, right, but he's not a Buddhist. And he kneels next to the Dalai Lama because the Dalai Lama is sitting and this guy kneels down to have his picture taken and the Dalai Lama reaches over and grabs his hand.

And what ensued was 15 minutes of weeping and wailing and hurling himself onto the ground and I guess what you would call a psychic break, but this is like a highly educated buttoned up professional dude with no religious background and I'm still friends with this person and he doesn't even remember it.

He got zapped and he does, he just kind of remembers like me consoling him 15 minutes later And it utterly upended his life.

But came home and made all these changes in his personal life, has gone back and had another audience of the Dalai Lama, very similar reaction where he, like it just kind of upgraded the software of his brain.

So long way of saying, we talked a lot about having an open mind.

I am a scientific materialist on some pretty basic levels and I do retain some openness to there being things that we don't understand and that he might be an embodiment of that.

That is wild. That is really wild.

I mean, that would be, that's what's called darshan, right?

Basically a transmission of energy.

I mean, what is the rationalist science -minded, fidgety, skeptic make of that?

Like does it just like sort of inform your humility or give you a sense of awe and wonder that maybe something else is going on?

Like, how do you make sense of that for yourself?

Both. Definitely gives me a sense of awe and wonder that there may be more going on than science is aware of.

It nudges me into that space of not knowing.

Here's a great little, I'm always a fan of giving people things they can do in their mind and little practices that you could put to use in your own life.

There is a great Zen master whose name I'm sure you know, Thich Nhat Hanh, Zen master, died a couple of years ago.

He would tell his students to just get in the habit of asking themselves one question all the time.

And that question is, am I sure?

I love that question.

Because it's especially for me.

I was an anchorman, we're supposed to be sure.

My job is to like, intone from the thunder from the mountaintop about like what is true because it's written in the fucking teleprompter.

Are you sure? Like, are you sure?

It's great, like when you're looking at the political scene or the world scene like that guy's a bad guy.

Am I sure? Like is it worth just investigating that continuously?

A reconsideration as a way of life?

To be clear, there's a difference between your values and your opinions.

So I'm not saying you should question whether cruelty is okay.

But, you know, to be in the habit of like, when it comes to your opinions, holding them much more lightly, that's very healthy.

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I'm still thinking about like the wailing and the weeping.

You know, that's like, we didn't, I didn't witness anything like that when I had the privilege and opportunity to visit.

But I do, like when I reflect back on it, it's a weird mishmash of like, strange contrast, because on the one hand, like you're in Dharamshala, and it's like, clearly this is a, you know, a magnet for seekers.

You know, people from all over the world, like congregate to this place for a reason, and there's a center of gravity to it.

But it's also, you know, junkie vendors selling shit, you know, like this is like all the India craziness at the same time and there's like power lines that are like basically draping, you're afraid you're gonna get electrocuted and all that, right?

And I don't know where your experience took place specifically, but we were in this kind of like a ballroom that was adjacent to his domicile, right?

And we had to go through incredibly intense pat -downs.

Like you think, it's like TSA times 1 ,000 with the most intense, you know, security check, which I understand, you know, it's like, this, you know, perhaps the greatest, the world's greatest living spiritual leader, right?

Like, and then you go in and you're in this room and it's sort of cool, but it's sort of like a Marriott ballroom with like, you know, like maroon upholstered chairs.

And you're like, okay, like here we are, you know?

And then, you know, his monks bring him out and they put him in like this, what looked like kind of like a beaten up lazy boy chair.

So there's like all this humor.

I'm like, this is hilarious.

And I was with this group and I'm sitting next to Rainn Wilson.

I'm with Dwight Schrute from The Office.

And I'm like, there's a surreal aspect of the whole thing that maybe is, allows me to inhabit a little bit of that Dalai Lama energy of like, am I supposed to take this seriously?

Am I allowed to like have fun with this?

And then you see this joy and you're like, I think he's giving us permission to laugh along with him.

I think you're absolutely right.

Side note, I'm feeling slightly guilty because I haven't there are a million questions I wanna ask you and I've dominated the mic.

Well this is you're the guy.

We are. No one needs to hear from me Dan, trust me.

Just those of the listeners know I'm going to interview Rich for my show immediately after this.

First of all your description of it was spot on.

I've been in that room and the vibes are exactly as you described.

And second, my job, and I did not expect this is the way my life would go, is to interview the greatest spiritual practitioners alive.

And what I can tell you as a common denominator among pretty much all of them is a sense of humor, seeing the absurdity of life.

The word that Joseph Goldstein, who I always come back to, the word that he uses the most when we're talking about the mind is ridiculous.

Give me an example of that.

Well, just I'll come to him with some whole story about the way my practice is going or what should be happening.

He'd be like, that's just one time actually, we were talking about work.

My attitude about work and how I had the sense that in order to get anything done, I needed to be like in a clench all the time.

And he was like, the good stuff doesn't come from the clench and your idea that you need that in order to get anything done is like that's just you being stupid.

I plead guilty to that.

So you can't sit and look at your mind for decades without developing a sense of humor because the mind is ridiculous or there's one great expression that Joseph Lyfe, the mind has no pride.

It will do anything.

The ego is just constantly coming up with stories and interpretations and excuses and justifications and ancient resentments, to be able to kinda relax back into it and out of it rather to relax, to take a perspective sort of a warm, non -judgmental, removed perspective on all of this, a sense of humor is just really helpful.

I'm curious, with so many years of devoted practice, like, are you able like to pretty consistently, like, drop in like, more quickly?

Like, does it get easier?

Are you able to, like, progress is the wrong word, but, you know, kind of inhabit that space of capaciousness and, you know, not zero thought, but maybe less thought more quickly and effectively and reliably?

It's not so much about, you know, clearing the mind of thoughts, it's more like, can I wake up to where I am right now?

Can I just wake up out of the dream of thoughts and just like feel my butt in the chair right now and look at your face and hear the my vocal cords vibrating like just to drop out of this normal mode that we're in of projecting to the future or ruminating about the past and and just arrive right now over, and over, and over.

Yes, the hardest part of personal growth or spiritual development for many of us, the hardest part is to remember, to remember, like we listen to a great podcast like yours and we hear amazing advice, but then our old habits reassert themselves.

So the hard thing is to remember to do stuff.

To remember to do this smart stuff we've heard from contemplative traditions or modern science.

and what meditation has allowed me to, it's a practice in remembering, remembering to wake up.

In fact, the word mindfulness in the ancient language of Pali is S -A -T -I Sati.

And one of the translations of that word is remembering or recollecting.

And so I'm just better at remembering to wake up and to not take my thoughts so seriously.

Deny me sleep, put me under pressure, bully me, whatever, can I forget?

Absolutely. Do I retain the capacity to be a schmuck?

Absolutely. So I'm not perfect at all.

One of my little jokes is some gurus teach from the mountaintop and I teach from the fetal position.

You're like, I'm definitely like a flawed dude who's making mistakes and trying to be open about all of the shit I'm dealing with as a way to be useful to other people.

I'm not enlightened.

I don't have that to offer.

All I have to offer is, like I'm a guinea pig.

I'll go deep on this stuff and I'll learn as much as I can.

And I'll try to extract like very practical nuggets for other people.

That's my way of being useful.

How old is your son now?

He's 10. 10. How old are your kids?

They range from 17 to 29.

You're a different life stage, is a 17 year old still home?

Boarding school. Okay.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. But close by, not far away.

And then 21 year old who's in college.

and then 28 and 29 year old who are gonna be moving out soon, but still live at home.

They had moved out, COVID, they moved back.

They're still at home.

That's actually kind of nice.

It's been fantastic, yeah.

I really like having them, but yeah, different stage.

But I'm curious around the parenting piece, like is any of this like percolating down into his young mind or how is this gonna play out?

Well, it's funny because, So we only have one kid and we had a protracted infertility struggle.

And I am obsessed with this kid.

And I really I take them with me every it's very rare that I'm here today without him.

So last year, he missed a month of school because I I travel with him, we go everywhere together.

So we've been all over the world together.

And so he could probably deliver my speech because he's heard me deliver it so many times.

That being said, I am very careful not to like push meditation or anything else on him.

The only thing I push on him is like, you can't be an asshole.

If I catch him being unkind, which we're all unkind, sometimes, then I'll bring the hammer down.

But I don't push meditation on him.

Because children, as you know, are wired to reject all the shit their parents say.

That being said, I found out a couple of years ago that he was teaching his classmates how to meditate.

And, you know - It's a big, proud moment for dad.

Yeah, well, so he freely admits that he doesn't actually do it himself.

He just likes the attention.

Whatever gets you there.

What I found out, the way I found out that he was teaching the other kids to meditate was that the principal of his elementary school called my wife to say that the high school had heard that there was this kid who teaches meditation.

And would he come and teach the senior class?

That's right. He's 10.

So, it was nine at the time, or eight, I don't know.

So I went with him and he taught, he guided them in loving kindness meditation.

It was unbelievable, and so I was obviously very proud.

And I don't know what his practice is like.

I don't know what my wife's practice is like, cause I've learned to not, if you invite me here and put me in this beautiful studio, I love it.

But I really try not to push it on people because that's very annoying.

I wanna talk about another evolution that you've been on.

I kinda opened this talking like the evolution of Dan Harris as a teacher, as a human, as a meditation practitioner, but the other piece is professional.

Like you've been through the fucking wringer, rather, with your business.

And it's this arc of kind of being under the umbrella of the behemoth MSM legacy media, all the way to you doing your own thing on substack and having to reinvent yourself.

And it's been an arduous number of years that have really brought you to your knees and made you kind of like put your, what you've learned from meditation into actual practice.

So can you just give us a sense of what it was like, what happened and what it's like now?

Sure, yes. If you like schadenfreude, it's going to be a fun story for you.

Let me say that you may notice my tone changing a little in this.

And I want to be totally candid about why that is.

So generally speaking, I am like a no guard rails type of person.

Like you can ask me anything and I will talk about it.

You will hear me being slightly more careful because I'm going to talk about a legal process in which I uncoupled from the co -founders of a company that I was in.

And part of why I'm being careful is because it involves the legal process, but also because there's some structural unfairness, they don't have a podcast, they're not invited on other people's podcasts.

They have their own version of these events and don't really have a chance to say it as loudly as I do.

And so I don't wanna abuse that privilege.

That caveat being issued - Disclaimer, yeah.

Yes, I was with ABC News for 21 years and I retired about three and a half years ago and I retired in order to keep doing my podcast and also keep working on a meditation app called 10 % Happier.

But you started the podcast when you were at ABC and so there was some IP stuff there, right?

So there was a lot of...

ABC was very kind to let me go in the middle of my contract.

I think it's very rare for somebody to go, I can't think of an incident where a well -paid anchor has gone in the middle of a contract and said, hey, you don't have to pay me anymore, can you just let me stop working here?

But there was this complication of the fact that they owned my podcast and they were willing to let me leave with it but I did have to pay.

In the process of my leaving the podcast, I transferred the ownership of that podcast over to my company.

And that company, so the podcast was called 10 % Happier, the company was called 10 % Happier.

And that company's primary mission was a meditation app that I was very proud of.

And it really poured so much of myself into and had brought a lot of my meditation teacher friends into like Joseph Goldstein and Sharon Salzberg.

And so it was just like I considered it like my baby.

Truth of the matter is I had co -founders and investors.

And so it wasn't like just mine or me or anything like that, it was a group effort.

And there were creative and interpersonal and financial differences among the co -founders that ultimately resulted in my leaving.

And that was a three -year separation process that for me was agony, not only because I was losing this company that I poured so much of myself into, but also because it exposed many of like the less beautiful aspects of my own mind, anger, fear.

And I made, you know, so many dumb mistakes in the process.

But I you know, I learned a lot.

Ultimately, in, we were able to consummate a deal where I left the company, the company changed its name, they still have a meditation app, but it's just not called 10 % happier anymore.

I have my podcast back for the first time I actually own the podcast. Or I will in a few days from this recording.

And I'm starting again.

As an experiment, I launched a substack and I don't know what that will grow into.

I have my own little team now that I really get along with.

And so, I feel after some very dark years, I feel really optimistic about what's coming next and I have lots of thoughts and dreams and aspirations about like what I can build.

And it was really brutal.

And there were two little mantras that Joseph gave me during the process that really helped.

One was don't side with yourself.

And I love that, because I was really locked in the story of being the victim.

And it was really helpful to just be like, All right, no, these guys who I know to be decent human beings have their reasons for what they're doing.

And I would sometimes like talk to ChatGPT to try to really inhabit what was in their minds and to try to get ChatGPT to make the case to me from their standpoint.

Like Steelman their - Yes, Steelman, yes.

So that really helped.

And I also, you know, I have this like primordial thing around bullies.

When I was a kid, I was both a bully and was bullied and I felt bullied.

I don't think that was their intention, my counterparties at all, but I felt bullied and so that made me like, there's this great expression, if it's hysterical, it's historical and so like I was hysterical at times for some historical reasons that I felt.

It was kind of jabbing at some of my ancient vulnerabilities.

And so the other little expression that Joseph uses, and this gets back to our compassion discussion is love no matter what.

And now that does not mean give up the negotiation, hand over my IP, stop fighting.

It just means can I try to conduct this negotiation from a standpoint of, to the best of my ability, goodwill.

And so to this day, when my mind kind of enters the default mode of resentment or whatever, no, this is a dead end.

Don't side with yourself.

Love no matter what.

Everybody's got this vapour trail of past causes and conditions, past trauma, all their ancestral stuff.

And if I came out of the womb of whoever I'm disagreeing with, and live that life, I would probably do exactly the same shit they're doing.

And so can I just view everything through that lens?

And that's been really helpful, especially as we've now entered this really tumultuous political period.

Like, there are people out there who are beliefs that I find abominable.

Can I just like, I can counter them to the best of my ability, but just seeing that there's the reason why people arrived at that point of view, it just lowers the temperature and makes me less hysterical.

Anyway, did I answer the question?

No, I think it's perfect.

Like it's this gift actually, as hard as it was like from a Joseph Campbell kind of hero's journey perspective, like you're the reluctant Luke Skywalker who has to have a panic attack to get dragged into this meditation stuff to begin with.

You build up this thing, you get knocked down And at the bottom of the second act, you go through this experience that brings you to your knees.

And that's all for a reason, to like prepare you to be a more embodied, vessel of this message that you carry.

Like, is this guy for real?

Like, well, let's test it.

You know what I mean?

Let's see what he does when we put him in this situation.

And whatever happens, he will emerge from that, like more fully formed and more capable to actually walk his talk, right?

It makes you a better teacher, it makes you a better kind of ambassador of this movement.

My wife always reminds me, like every man is right from his own perspective and I fucking hate that, right?

Like who wants to hear that?

But it's true, like people behave for a reason and if you go back through the course of their life, it all makes sense why they're behaving the way that they are.

And for you to have to confront like those historical wounds that get inflamed is this opportunity for you to like confront that and heal it so that it doesn't continue to do that.

And whether you call it God, the universe, just the design of consciousness, whatever label you put upon it, like the pattern -making mind inside, in between my ears, like can see like this logical thread here that helps me make sense of, you know, the whole thing.

I love that. And the only thing I would add is that, you know, from the Joseph Campbell Heroes Journey stories, like to understand that everybody else is the hero of their own story, right?

So like, yeah, this is my perspective, but, you know - That's the beauty of it.

Yes, absolutely. We all get to have our own - Yes!

Thing, right? And that's what don't side with yourself kinda nudges you toward, you know?

Like I feel right from my perspective, but I know the people I was negotiating against to be deeply decent human beings and they've got reasons for believing they're doing the right thing and the more I can inhabit that, you might worry that that's gonna make you soft in some ways.

It doesn't, I don't think.

It just switches you from rage and retribution as the engine to like, no, let me try to do the right thing for me and for everybody else.

Yeah, I don't know that I'd go so far as maybe that you're like, you can look at it right now and be grateful.

Can you say that? Or do you need a little bit more time?

Cause you're still kinda in it.

I am still a little bit in it.

You and I are recording a couple of days before or like, what is supposed to be the end, end, end.

So I am a little bit in it.

And if I get, you know, if I get worked up, I can spit hot fire, as they say on the Chappelle show.

And yeah, I actually can now start to feel some gratitude.

I was actually having a conversation with somebody who was involved with the company the other day, a very wise person who was involved with a company and is no longer involved.

And he was the first part.

Many people had said this to me, but he was the first person who said it and I believed it.

He was like, this is for the best. This is for the best, for you, specifically for you, Dan, this is for the best. And I was like, ah, yeah.

It sucked but I actually think that's probably true.

I think it's pretty clear.

Like when I look back across your career, like you had this amazing opportunity to be at ABC for 20 years.

you've built this career and the skill set, right?

That is portable, but you were living under this sort of protective womb of salaries and all of that kind of stuff, right?

And it's a kind of growth arc to be able to be like, do I need that?

What part of that is ego in my state?

What is it that I'm actually doing?

And maybe you were forced into some of these things, but to also kind of have the courage to be like, what happens if I go over to sub stack and like, what does that register with my ego as somebody who used to host Nightline, but also I get to like control my whole universe and like build it the way that I want to, and it's a reminder that this is about service and this tattoo that you have on your forearm.

And in short shrift to be like the number one person on sub stack in your category, like in the health and wellness category, pretty quickly, it's a whitespace, that you've kind of moved over to.

So this is my home, I'm gonna build my thing here, people will come and they're coming.

And that has to give you a sense of gratification that even being at the highest level of ABC News probably didn't.

It does, because it's mine.

And when you're at ABC News, it's like you're never really using your own voice.

There's somebody in your ear all the time.

Yeah, and I mean your whole career as a public figure, you've been able to just be yourself.

Yeah, but like I would I would have happily gone to ABC News if they would have had a choice.

Right, exactly, but there's some beauty in that and there's some beauty in working at ABC News too.

It's all fine, but the demerit to being in the MSM is that there's a kind of, you can hear it watch the news.

is there's a way we all talk and you have to pretend to not have any opinions and you can't use the word fuck for sure.

And so the ability to like own my stuff and truly be who I am, like a little experiment, I actually think you just naturally do this, but for me having come out of the news business, which is kind of performative and has a certain falseness baked into it because you're in a suit and tie and supposed to be very serious and I'm looking at the camera, you know, really, you know, authoritative guy and, you know, there's a certain amount of persona in that.

I've really tried to make it so that there is no difference between the way I am in this conversation in public and the way I will be when we have lunch together or the way I am with my son or my wife to really just collapse that so that I am as holistically honest as I can be.

And I fail at this, but that's kind of my north star.

What can you say about what's happening right now with respect to institutional legacy media brands?

I mean, this is the center of the culture war, right?

Like the decline in trust in legacy media and also the fracturing of the business models So all these anchors like yourself are trying to renegotiate their salaries right now and are getting a kind of heavy dose of reality.

Like the good times are no longer.

And when you think about what it takes to run a news bureau and like all the people involved, like the sort of revenue per employee, like it doesn't balance out anymore.

And podcasting, low overhead, you could do the same things.

You don't have the legal department.

There's a lot of kind of checks and balances and protections, et cetera, that don't exist. But what is your kind of sense of what's happening, where it's going and where kind of things like Substack are headed?

There are a couple of macro trends, all kind of converging.

One of them is, as you said, the business model for the mainstream media, both print and radio and television is falling apart.

And that's largely the result of the fact that we've had this communications revolution, new forms of media, rising up social media, podcasts, now things like substack and Patreon.

And so the advertising dollars are just going elsewhere and the eyeballs went elsewhere first and now the advertising dollars are following them.

And so the model is really falling apart and then you look at the cable aspect of this too, where I don't know how much you know about the cable business, but if you were CNN, for example, you were getting paid not only by the advertisers who advertise on your show, but the cable companies were paying you for the right to carry your feed.

And so that model is falling apart too, because people are cutting the cord and leaving cable.

And so it's a really brutal time in the industry that I left behind.

And I have a lot of compassion and for the people who are kinda stuck, start losing their jobs or don't know how to translate their skills to whatever's coming next.

It's really sad and scary for many of my former colleagues.

It's a little interesting.

I feel really lucky because when I left three and a half years ago, they were, especially among the older generation like my mom and stuff, they were like, so wait a minute, you're leaving network news for a podcast. Like what, why would you do that?

And now it actually kind of makes sense because we have, there's a name for what we do now, it's called the creator economy.

And Mr. Beast is more famous than any news anchor, especially with younger people and is making more money than any news anchor or movie star.

Well there's a lot of people more famous than the most famous news anchor.

What are the numbers, like in terms of like, how many people are watching nightly news broadcasts.

They're quite a bit lower.

I mean, David Muir, who, and I'm gonna name my bias here because I'm a fan of his, and he's got the number one newscast at ABC.

And I think it's like seven to 9 million people a night.

That's a huge number in this day and age - Yeah, that's higher than I would have thought.

Much higher than CNN numbers.

CNN numbers have taken a real hit.

The morning shows, like back in the day when I had, unluckily for me, when I had a panic attack on GMA, the audience was between five and six, now it's between two and a little bit over three million.

So yeah, the audiences have gone down.

It's just really hard. And I think you're just gonna see, we already are seeing it and we're gonna see even more accelerated salary cuts, cutting of entire, cuts to entire teams. It's a brutal time.

And I can tell you, I mean, you and I were in the creator economy which has so many amazing benefits to it and so much freedom, but it's also got like lots of ups and downs.

And you and I are not business people by nature.

We're creators by nature, but we're forced into like navigating relationships with large companies who sell our ads.

Although you don't do that, I do.

We're in relationship with Meta and our Facebook and Instagram feeds and I'm in a relationship with Substack.

And so it was cozier when there were just a few employers and you get paid a bunch of money to do that.

Yeah, well what goes around comes around, right?

Like, ultimately, don't these things sort of mature and then start to look more and more like ABC News.

I mean, on one level, like we need to be able to trust some form of institutional media that is robust enough to have teams of fact checkers and kind of ethical, journalistic principles, et cetera.

Like it can't all just be some stack of stand, right.

Like we've kind of eroded our trust in those institutions.

So either they need to figure out a way to re -engineer it, or there needs to be new institutions that have those things built into them.

Otherwise, like it is this weird wild west situation And, you know, whereas if somebody, you know, defame somebody in the New York Times, like there's repercussions for that, if they do it on sub -stack, well, probably not, right?

Like, so where does that leave us in terms of getting our footing?

And, you know, it goes back to the uncertainty thing, but on some level, like to cohere as a society, we have to have some agreement about like, what's actually real.

I 1 million percent agree.

And you were kind of getting at this when you first asked the question and I kind of whiffed and didn't answer you.

But you're totally right, this is a huge problem.

As amazing and exciting as this, let 1000 flowers bloom aspect of the creator economy is, where the barriers to entry to becoming a media personality have basically gone away.

Anybody can start a substack or an Instagram feed or a new podcast, that's amazing.

And in my opinion, there were and continue to be real benefits to having institutions that have journalistic norms, have standards and practices departments have lawyers on staff, who take the mission of journalism, the calling of journalism seriously, and what we have now is an existential threat to the health of our democracy, which is, we can't even agree on a basic set of facts from which to have a debate.

And that is deeply problematic if you're looking to me to figure out like what the answer is I don't know, but I think you've correctly diagnosed a grave problem.

I suspect that at some point, the larger creators who are in the kind of journalistic news space will mature to the point where, then there is some legal liability and they are gonna have to have a legal department and they're gonna realize like, they can't print whatever they want because they're so large and somebody will hold them into account and like I said earlier, then they start to look like what they were trying to kind of transcend in the first place.

Maybe, I think that's possible and I also, as you're speaking and I'm just kind of extemporizing here, I just wonder whether market forces might dictate some of this in that right now, people seem to be moving away from the mainstream media and toward more partisan voices who I've sometimes heard referred to as conflict entrepreneurs, who just inflame our differences.

But I wonder over time, whether there won't be a reassertion of a thirst for objective is such a hard term, because I think it's actually not something we can achieve, but yeah, something closer to traditional purveyors of information.

I wonder if, because I can feel it in myself, I try to listen all across the spectrum and I just, you know, I so often want a source that's gonna succinctly sum up to me what everybody's saying about the outrage of the day so that I'm not just sucked into believing what the mainstream media is saying, which I, you know, obviously I have a lot of sympathy for them because I was part of that.

Matt Taibbi, who is a writer that I sometimes deeply disagree with, but is a very smart guy and I do read him.

He once described the modern news media chaotic environment as like, he compared it to whaling.

Like you catch a whale, you bring it ashore and then all, and that's the story in this case, the story of the day.

And then all these people descend upon it and they take one part for burning lamps and another part for food and another part for whale bone - Whatever, you're just taking the various parts of the story, and so Ben Shapiro is talking about one aspect of it, and Pod Saves America are talking about another aspect of it, but it's very hard to like, get a holistic understanding of the whale of the story, and I find a deep thirst I really want to consume from many perspectives, and it's very hard to find that, and I can imagine people moving into that space and creating a really good business.

I think that's inevitable.

I think as media and our attention becomes more and more atomized, like we don't have a monoculture anymore.

Like there is very few things other than like the Super Bowl or like maybe a gigantic Marvel movie, like kind of capture everyone's imagination and attention at the same time, like even current events don't do that in the way that they used to, they tend to divide us more than they unite us these days.

and our sources, our information silos are so dispersed and bespoke and individual just to us that at some point I do feel like there's so much...

It's an infinite scroll, right?

And the need that kinda comes up is like, who's helping me curate this?

Like, where's my compass in all of this?

Who can I trust that's gonna guide me or watch this, don't watch this, pay attention to this, everything else you don't need to pay attention to.

Like I think those people are the ones that will kind of percolate out of this, boiling pot of hot water to fill that need.

Then you're starting to see some companies emerge doing this, like the 1440 newsletter is a good example of this pretty non -partisan, Tangle is an interesting newsletter when they really try to wrap things up from all sides.

And so I can see smart players starting to move into this space.

the question is whether the market will reward them.

Meanwhile, we should all remind ourselves like your meditation teacher said to like, are you sure you're right?

Like we're all reading stuff that lights us up because it's confirming our bias or whatever.

And the responsibility is on our own shoulders to like break out of that, read other things, have some humility, entertain different perspectives.

Do you remember the phenomenally successful advertising campaign that ran in the late nineties and early 2000s against smoking?

They were TV commercials aimed at young people trying to wake them up to the fact that cigarette companies were selling them something dangerous and trying to pretend it was cool.

And so they appealed to this kind of revolutionary spirit that a lot of teenagers have. And I sometimes think about that as it pertains to this discussion, like don't be suckered.

Recognize that there are very powerful forces, not only in the news media, but among social media purveyors who are designing their algorithms to piss you off and make you scared, and to incite in you hatred of the other.

So don't be suckered by that.

Just the way we shouldn't be suckered by Marlborough trying to tell us that the ultimate avatar of masculinity as a cigarette smoking dude riding through the high plains.

I'm kind of making this up as I go, but I feel like there's something there.

Does any of that land for you?

I think so. I think so.

Well, let's like end this with perhaps some kind of takeaways around meditation.

Like this is supposed to be a conversation about meditation for that new person, or for maybe that person who's had fits and starts, can't make it stick, like really sell it here?

Yeah. Like what are some things that, you know people can take away, keep in mind that might encourage them?

So I really, I went back recently and I've listened to and I know you've been doing this on your podcast where you make masterclasses, where you go back through like the best people on any given subject.

And I went back through and listened or I looked at the transcripts of all the best experts we've had on habit change, and I know you've done a lot on this too.

And I was just trying to like sum up for myself of what do we know about how to make and break habits?

Because it's really hard. And to say that it's really hard can sound discouraging because somebody listening to this might be thinking, well, I wanna start a meditation habit and you're telling me it's hard. That's not the best place to start.

But it actually is the best place to start because many of us labor under this delusion that we are somehow uniquely dysfunctional because we're having trouble starting a meditation habit or any other habit, but actually just to know that it's hard for everybody is really useful.

So that's one piece of good news.

You're not alone if it's hard. The second piece of good news is that there are these strategies that have been developed in modern psychology and modern psychological research that are really helpful.

And one of them is start small.

And so with meditation, as with any other habit, like setting your sights really low, making it so easy that it's like hard not to do.

I really recommend that.

So one of the things I recommend is like one minute counts.

And I would add onto that, make it daily -ish.

So if you tell yourself you're gonna do something 20 minutes every day or 30 minutes every day, it's just you're gonna miss a day.

And you want some like a steam release valve.

You want some elasticity in the system.

And so I think if you set the bar low one minute, two minutes daily -ish, that is a great way to get things going.

Another thing is self -compassion, which is just the ability to talk to yourself the way you would talk to a good friend.

So now I think most of us, if we say we're going to start meditating and then we do it for a couple of days and fail, We berate ourselves.

But actually there's a lot of evidence to show that if we can talk to ourselves the way we talk to our kid or a friend, oh, yeah, that's fine.

You missed a couple days, just start again.

And actually, if you use your own name while talking to yourself too.

There's some evidence from Ethan Cross who I think you know.

Yeah, he was just here recently.

Fascinating guy from the University of Michigan who's pioneered the research into something called distance self talk where you use your own name.

Or I'll talk to myself using the word dude.

Like dude, yeah, you've missed a couple days of meditation.

I know that seems hypocritical for somebody who's a meditation evangelist, but like just start again, you're good.

Learning how to talk to yourself that way in the process of habit formation, a ton of data to show that it's really helpful.

And then the third thing I'd say as it pertains to meditation and also to any other habit you're trying to make, if you can, try to make it a team sport.

Because there's all this research around social support for any habit, Like if you're in a run club, you did a lot of Ironman, which is a group or ultra marathons, which are group activities.

You may have trained by yourself, but maybe you didn't.

And I think having people around you who are encouraging you and holding you accountable and making and creating a kind of jet stream that you can ride on is really helpful.

Also making a fun. Totally, totally.

Making a fund is huge.

And the best way in my experience to make something fun is to do it with other people.

You have guided meditations on your Substack.

Yes. So people can find that there.

That is the hub for everything that you're doing.

Yes. Danharris .com or you can go to Substack and search for my name.

There are guided meditations there.

I'm also we've talked about Sam Harris.

I've also been doing some partnership with him and I'm posting some content on the Waking Up app.

And so actually there's another link, wakingup .com slash 10%, T -E -N -P -E -R -C -E -N -T.

If you sign up for Waking Up through that link, it supports me and my team.

There you go. But it's a great app wherever you sign up for it.

The cool thing that both Sam and I do is if you can't afford it, we'll give it to you for free.

And to me, that just feels good.

I would love to have people with me on Substack or with me and Sam on waking up, but if you can't afford it, the most important thing is that you get the meditation.

Awesome. And the podcast, 10 % Happier, available wherever you enjoy your podcast. Yeah, awesome man.

Dan Harris, I think you're more than 10 % happier.

I didn't answer that question.

You asked me that right at the end.

Can you put a percentage on it?

Very quickly. I have no percentage to put on it, but you said does the 10 % compound annually?

And absolutely it does.

And the amazing thing is, and this is a through line in your work, that like happiness, physically, psychologically, it's like, these are the skill that you can develop in many, many ways, including meditation.

And so, we can all get 10 % happier and then the interest will compound annually and that's really fucking good news.

That's awesome, man.

Well, thank you, dude.

That was great, man.

Thank you. You're a pro, I love it.

You're a gift, and I think your teachings are really important.

There's a need for it right now in a kind of a heightened way, so I am here to support you, and I appreciate the work that you do.

It really is meaningful and impactful for a lot of people.

Thank you, brother, right back at you.

You're welcome here anytime, I'll come back.

You don't have to wait seven years.

Cheers. Peace. Thanks.

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[댄 해리스: 명상, 마음의 과학 그리고 삶의 기술]-[Beyond 10% Happier: Dan Harris On Meditation As A Superpower, Transforming Anxiety, & Finding Peace In Uncertain Times]

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마음의 혼란을 다스리는 기술: 10% 더 행복해지기

'생각'이라는 폭군으로부터의 자유

불확실성의 시대, 명상과 행동의 조화

자비와 연민: 가장 강력한 연료

습관 형성을 위한 현실적인 조언

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