Best of 2025 (Part Two): The Year’s Most Enduring Insights｜The Rich Roll Podcast

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I have always used people the way other people use substances.

What that has made me into is somebody who can be extremely manipulative.

A lot of people are in relationships and they don't even know what the other person needs.

I think if you want to undertake the act of creation, there will always be a price that you pay.

Hey, everybody.

Welcome back to part two of the annual RRP Best of Festivities.

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We've got amazing things planned for 2026.

But first, let's end the year with a bang.

This is part two of the best of 2025.

And we begin with the incomparable Elizabeth Gilbert.

Sex and love addiction isn't really all that well understood.

And it's still attached to a lot of like taboos and fears.

And I think maybe that's what keeps it a little bit more in the dark.

So maybe talk a little bit more about what it is and maybe how even someone could self-diagnose themselves.

I think the best way to do it is to do this like a qualification and just tell my story.

And I think that people may recognize parts of themselves in it.

I would be loathe to start giving tools of diagnosis for something that can be so subtle.

But I can say this about me.

I can say that what it manifests as in me is a sincere belief that there's somebody out there who I can meet, who's going to make me feel okay.

And that my job is to find that person.

And it's a difficult thing because, of course, culture teaches us exactly to do that.

And especially if you're a woman, you're very much taught that.

That's a story that's as old as the hills that girls and women are taught.

There's an incompletion in me. and I'm going to go find the person who's going to complete me.

That's the sort of soft way to describe it.

The way that I would describe how I experience it is that I have always used people the way other people use substances.

So there are people who I have used as sedatives, and there are people who I've used as stimulants.

And what I want to take complete ownership over as I tell my story is what that has made me into Over time is somebody who can be extremely manipulative.

And that's the sort of side effect of this.

It's like if I don't feel OK and I need to find somebody who's going to make me feel OK, then in order to get that need met, I'm going to have to figure out how to be an operator in terms of how do I have to present.

Like.

What do I have to become in order to get what we call, in some of these rooms lava, which is love attention, validation and acceptance right?

So that's what I'm longing for because I can't generate that within myself, right?

So I need to go get this lava.

Like somebody else has this.

Somebody's the plug.

Like somebody's got this stuff.

I don't have it.

And so what do I have to do?

Like what ends, like any addict, it's like what manipulations do I have to do?

What lies do I have to tell?

What tricks do I have to turn in order to get your eye contact on me and the words that I need you to say?

I need to make you say those words.

I need to make you make these promises to me.

I need to completely abandon myself in order to get you to do this thing for me.

And if I don't get the thing that I need, I'll go get it somewhere else, regardless of what commitment I've made to somebody.

And so when I look at my particular history with this.

What I see is for 35 uninterrupted years, tiny little interruption.

When I went and wrote He Pray Love, there was like a nine-month period where I wasn't doing this, which was actually the healthiest time of my life until now.

I was just going between sedative, stimulant, sedative, stimulant.

This person is extremely exciting.

This person is extremely calming.

You know like okay, now I'm so calm that I can't bear the restlessness and the irritability and the discontent.

So now I have to go find somebody who's absolutely thrilling, who's going to like light me up until they withhold, and then I go insane.

And now I need another sedative and now I need another stimulant.

And this is what I did to great cost, you know, to great cost to me, to great cost to other people.

It involved cheating on people, allowing myself to be cheated on, breaking up other people's families and relationships.

There's a ruthlessness that any addict has, which is what I have to do to get this.

I will do, no matter what it costs me or anybody else.

And I knew my entire life that there was something wrong with me, because I could see that other people weren't doing this.

I think that's something that every addict kind of knows from an earlier age than we can admit, which is like Other people are doing this.

Like somehow other people are just going and having a Tuesday, while I'm out here playing this like high stakes, roulette with my life and with my body and with my heart and with my spirit, bringing other people into danger with me, like putting myself at risk and not being able to stop.

And that low level of self-awareness drives confidence, shame and isolation and loneliness, and you start to compartmentalize it and create this secret life.

Because, deep down, even though you're not ready to confront it, you know that you need to hide and shroud it from everybody else.

There's a line I quote in the book from Gabriel Garcia Marquez, who said everybody has three lives a public life, a private life and a secret life.

And the private life is the life you share with your family and your friends, but the secret life is the life you share with no one.

And addicts.

Secret lives are dark, you know, and the reason you hide your secret life is because it would destroy, if people knew it.

It would destroy both your private and your public life.

Like if people knew what you were up to, you don't even approve of what you're up to.

Next up is inner excellence author and high performance coach Jim Murphy.

We're storytelling animals.

We're all walking around with a story in our head that we believe to be true and are blind to the fact that it was unconsciously crafted based upon the experiences that we've had.

And whether it's positive or negative, it's still a fantasy and it's detached from reality.

And in most cases, with most people, to your point, it prevents us from having a more expansive experience, understanding of what we're capable of or what's possible, but like unraveling that and figuring out how to tell a new story is a very difficult challenge, and you know.

What happened to you is you had to come to the edge of yourself to be able to write a new story, to create a new narrative in your, in your life.

Right, these new neural pathways.

Is that right?

Yeah, but it was.

It was a function of being backed into a corner.

Like pain is the ultimate, like lever for these sorts of things like, short of of suffering some form of crisis, whether it's physical or existential.

You know, would I have made those changes?

It's interesting because and I say this all the time like we have the choice to make these changes at any given moment.

It's just that it's very difficult to do unless you're pressured into it in some way.

And the way I generally think about it is, the moment of change is when the pain of your circumstances exceeds the fear of doing something different.

Right,

You have to confront that fear, or these fears are intention with each other, and which one is winning out is kind of going to dictate how you behave.

On some level, it's this discomfort with uncertainty that we have, like we don't like it.

And we dilute ourselves into believing that we're in control of things.

And if something goes wrong, like we didn't do something right.

And I think, disabusing ourselves of that illusion of control and and acknowledging that uncertainty is just that's, that's just the landscape.

Everything is uncertain.

It's never going to change in that regard.

So that you can detach a little bit and free yourself from self-judgment or all of the unnecessary pain that comes with things not working out the way you would like them to.

Yeah, exactly.

You know what?

One of the things that's such an important topic.

I think now in America there's so much, and around the world, anxiety and fear and tension and so much out of our control.

Yeah.

There's a lot of people that are watching to this now and I think that have this anxiety and this unknown.

What's going to happen?

And I think there's some really powerful things that they can do when you're afraid of the future or whether you're a pro athlete or anyone.

And there's some questions.

Do you want me to share those with you?

Yeah, please.

Well, the first question is, are you willing to face your fears?

Yeah. we can get into also, cause I went through a very traumatic moment as well.

And I've kind of prayed a lot that um, that myself and people that I love don't have to get to the point where we get to that major trauma to fully surrender, which is the power right.

In AA and the power that you talk about and the power that I talk about, this surrender to a power greater than yourself.

And so first asking yourself, am I willing to face my fears?

And, and then am I willing to face any feeling?

This is a big one because most people are not willing to face any feeling.

They're willing to physically do a lot of hard things.

And um, but there's some feelings that were like no, I'm not going to.

If that comes, it's.

That's the worst.

I'm not going to be there.

I'm But if you're willing to face any feeling, now you've got some control and some power.

So what is the process of doing that, like summoning the courage to face that?

Is there like something that you have learned or divined.

That is a practice to cultivating that disposition.

Well, I can tell you about this experience I had with some pro athletes that had a mental block.

So when you have a mental block, then you're constantly thinking about it all day long, and it could have ended their careers.

And so I worked with these pro athletes, and when you have this fear, it starts with a feeling.

It's like a panic attack.

It starts with a feeling, and then it goes into out of control, right?

And so the feeling is what we want to – we're going to go look for that feeling.

And I got that from Conor McGregor.

He talked about when he was first a new pro athlete and how he got into the ring or the octagon and he had all these nerves.

He's like, what is this feeling?

This is so uncomfortable.

And then he started to go and look for it.

He's like, now I go into Madison Square Garden and I kick butt.

And so I was like, yeah, we need to go look for the field.

We can't run from them.

We got to look for those feelings that we're afraid of because that's our teacher.

Because when you come to the edge of your feelings, where you're most uncomfortable, that's where you can grow.

And that's when you can become someone you've never been before.

Now we hear from my favorite authority on productivity, Oliver Berkman.

One of the the tools towards that end is this idea you have of asking yourself like, what if it were easy?

Um, I think I first heard Tim Ferriss talking about that.

Maybe it was with you.

I don't remember.

And I just remember thinking that's just an outlandish proposition.

You know it's just like I can't imagine, you know like, just take any, create any, any project or whatever, like in my example, like writing a book or whatever.

If I'm not like, if I'm not just, you know, bleeding out at the end of it, then you know I just didn't work hard enough on it and and it's not going to be as good.

Like creative projects don't work that way.

Um, but the notion that uh, I could, it could be a different experience, is deeply confronting to me, because it brings up all of those presets around um, you know, effort and achievement, and uh striving, et cetera.

And there is this indelible equation in my mind that my best work is, is is is inextricably tied to, you know, my capacity for suffering.

And in, like in the people pleasing, I mean, me too, right.

But, like in the people pleasing, it's so weirdly self-centered in a way right, it centers you instead of the work.

It says, like what really matters at the end of this process is that i've totally like dragged myself over the coals and feel awful and exhausted, as opposed because i won't feel satisfied right, or like i really gave it my all unless i do that right, as opposed to even if it doesn't matter that, if it's making it better right right, whereas i think ultimately, when most of us are doing these kind of things, if we stopped and thought about it, We would want to produce the best work that we could produce.

And if it happened to be not grueling to produce it, then that ought to be.

But how is that possible to be great?

Well, this is why you were able to accomplish that in the writing of this book.

Well, I'll tell you what, it certainly got. more more of it got produced the more that i remembered and understood the value of this allowing it to be easy so the tim ferris version of this question is something like yeah what would this look like if it were easy um elizabeth gilbert has a really lovely like idea of allow of sort of having the courage to allow something to be easy and that to what you're saying right it sounds like it It's on some level scary to think like, you know, what if it doesn't involve like drawing blood?

And that doesn't mean that there aren't difficulties, right?

It doesn't mean, it's not like some form of positive thinking, where you're going into it saying like I insist that this is going to be incredibly simple or incredibly straightforward.

It's more like you're like, I'm not going to start. from the mental posture that this has got to be a a fight this is where i get a bit sort of impatient sometimes with approaches to creativity that are all about like you know battling your way through resistance and just showing up and getting your ass in the chair and all this stuff like i think it can have a role but you know the metaphor that i've used somewhere i think is like if you if you like barrel up to somebody in a bar looking for a fight who who wasn't planning to have a fight like you you'll turn it into a fight right you'll you'll get a fight by sort of approaching reality and that kind of okay like let's let's do combat uh and and in fact things just go more easily if you allow the possibility that they might go more easily and you know it's i'm not sure it quite i'm not sure that the semantics are quite clear here but you can almost even difficult things you can approach with a spirit of ease right nobody's suggesting that a really difficult conversation in a business setting or a relationship setting or nobody's suggesting that like bad things happening to people you love is is going to be easy in the sense of fun or anything but you can sort of not go into it like muscularly braced for it to be horrible and find that actually that's the way to to make it go uh more smoothly even if it's sad or stressful or awkward or you know unpleasant in some way it doesn't need to be like combat meditation has been very helpful uh to me with respect to that issue because it helps you notice how insane you are Yeah, right.

And you're, and when you begin to like realize like you're just running all kinds of crazy bullshit in your head all the time, like then you're able to see with a little bit more clarity that

Quite often, you know.

I'll just speak for myself like I'm my own worst enemy, you know, because I'm running some tape without conscious awareness that I'm running it.

And if I could just either stop the tape or get out of my own way and be in that state of allowing like, then stuff comes forth like, especially with anything creative, like you know I'm usually like you know I'm like stopping the flow through, like my conscious urges.

And if I can just Relax into it and be in that space of allowing, like it percolates to the surface naturally.

Yeah, I think that's very uncomfortable.

Right.

No, totally.

And definitely my the hardest part of this for me.

And I write about this in like the third week primarily of the four week structure.

But like the degree to which meaningful action is a question of getting out of the way, of letting the action happen, as opposed to needing to stand behind it, and like push it forward is yeah, for a certain kind of person anyway, it's like much harder that part, because it involves, you know, it's really where not trying to control everything becomes so salient.

We continue our best of series with author and columnist for the atlantic, olga kazan.

Basically, nothing is predestined.

So I will say that.

So 40 to 60 percent, let's call it half of your personality is inherited or like or genetic.

Right.

It's influenced by your genes.

However, like no one is exactly like their parents.

Right.

Because you. get those genes and then they combine in unpredictable ways.

No kid looks exactly like their parents or acts exactly like their parents.

You can't always place like, oh, this is from mom and this is from dad.

Our genes kind of combine in unpredictable ways.

And then they kind of interact in unpredictable ways with the environment.

And the environment is really what exerts a powerful influence on your personality.

So if you're, you know, a kid who is a little bit introverted and you spend a ton of time reading, and then you, you know, become this like professor and you end up giving a lot of talks and like These are all, these things are all going to influence your personality, kind of, as you go along in life.

If you happen to smile a lot and you attract a lot of people to you and you make a lot of friends, you know those friends will kind of influence your personality as well.

So I wouldn't say that anything is like oh my dad had depression, so I'm going to have depression and there's literally nothing I can do.

It's more like OK, you might have a personality, you know, proclivity toward that, or you might have it be kind of drawn toward that to some extent.

But you still have a fair amount of wiggle room, depending on choices that are made for you by your parents in childhood and then choices that you make yourself, you know, in your early adulthood and throughout adulthood.

I mean, that alone is so empowering to know.

It's a very hopeful message, you know, in which we have quite a bit more agency than perhaps we really understand.

Yeah.

And I mean you see this, with anyone who's ever, you know, quit drinking or completely changed their friend group, or changed their job or gone back to school.

You know, sometimes people just have these like bursts where they're like I'm going to do something completely different.

And then that or you know, Either their personality changes and it leads them into a new situation, or they're placed in a new situation and it then changes their personality.

I often think though, in those contexts, I wonder is it a desire to change your personality that motivates like a major life change, like a career change, or something like that?

Or is it a betrayal of your personality?

Like you're walking around like acting in a certain way, but you're like, I'm not happy.

I feel like I'm living someone else's life or this is not for me.

I can feel it.

To me, it feels like.

That's almost like a costume that you're wearing.

Like you've betrayed your personality and your personality is like you're, like the authentic version of you is has been muted and repressed and is has had enough.

Right.

And is like, come on, like we need to like go over here.

Yeah.

So my therapist.

One of the things she would always tell me is like that I have like a true self and an anxious self, and that my anxious self is always like undermining the things that I want.

Um, so I, I do think some people do that.

Like they end up in a situation that they assumed was right or that they assumed was what they should be doing.

And then um, you know, sometimes it's because we don't believe that we can change, that we continue doing things that are counterproductive or um, just not a good fit for us or not a good fit anymore.

Like you also change over time and what was fun when you were 22 is not maybe fun when you're 42.

Yeah. have you, uh, are you familiar with, uh, internal family systems like IFS?

Yeah, I had them in here.

Like from his perspective, like there's, you have all of these person like voices and personalities and all of them are, are, are trying to, you know, perform on your behalf and, and all these various ways and they're competing, you know, but, but, recognizing them and honoring them like oh like hey you know my neurotic five-year-old self like i know that you're doing that because you feel like you need to to protect me and i'm so thankful for that but like it's cool like we're good like you can oh you can like chill out you know yeah i think yeah and there is like um yeah there's an element of personality change to that is like is like which side of yourself do you want to present in a certain situation?

I talked to one another podcaster who has this like alter ego that she kind of like puts on when she has to do some like business transaction, like when she has to talk to her agent or something she's like.

And now I'm a like successful businesswoman.

And she kind of trots out that side of herself which is you know not who she is day to day.

Everything that you talk about in the book and you go through is is very action based.

You know, it's, you have to do things, you have to get out of your comfort zone.

And it it reminds me of of what Susan David you know.

Susan David, like this.

She's this amazing professor of psychology and her whole thing is like discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.

And, and I think who was it who said in your book uh, something around confusing um, for being like a a a, basically like I can't remember exactly what it was, but basically like being a betrayal of your personality.

Like if it feels uncomfortable, like you shouldn't do.

You shouldn't do it because I'm not, you know, I'm not the kind of person that does that kind of thing and disabusing people of that.

Like, if you want to grow change, evolve and engender your life with like, more fulfillment and meaning.

Like it demands that you get out of your comfort zone.

So don't confuse that with something else.

Yeah.

I mean look, everything that you do that's new is going to feel uncomfortable the first time you do it.

I mean nobody you know who has a baby like, goes home from the hospital that first day and is like I feel totally at ease with this.

I feel confident.

I know exactly what to do with this baby.

I feel like a natural born parent.

Like everyone is like a total nervous wreck.

Can't believe like they were allowed to leave the hospital with a baby.

You know is like Googling how many ounces at what time.

You know it's anything you do initially is going to feel very, very uncomfortable.

You know, the first, like I said, 10, 15 times I did improv, it was extremely uncomfortable.

And I think part of it is just like if you have a value or a goal that's on the other side of that discomfort, you can't let the discomfort stop you.

You have to just kind of persevere a little bit until it becomes more comfortable.

You know, we see this like most explicitly and literally with exercise where, like the first time you run, it's like super uncomfortable and you're like why do people do this?

And then you get good at running and suddenly it's like glorious and euphoric.

That happens with, you know, mental things, attitudinal things, too.

I found it in my notes.

It was it was Sonia.

She said just because it doesn't feel natural or comfortable doesn't mean it's not authentic.

Yeah, exactly.

Yeah.

And authenticity, like the way we think, like people think of authenticity, is just what feels good to me.

Right.

And so I would caution against letting that be your guide to everything you do, because not everything that feels good to you is the best thing to be doing at the time.

And not everything that's you know healthy or interesting or that's going to help you grow is going to feel good at first.

This is Mark Brackett, psychologist and expert on emotional intelligence.

Let's think about this for a minute.

Ideally, we have ultimate control over everything that happens in our lives and we don't need to regulate.

Everything is exactly the way Mark wants it to be.

That doesn't happen.

We will have this election and I'll get this job and this person will work for me, and this will happen and everything just works out.

Not going to happen.

I can't control the world.

I can control some of the situations.

I cannot go into the you know, office of this person who really is mean.

All you can control is your behavior, your relationship with your behavior.

Yes.

But ultimately think about it like our.

We would be in kind of this emotionally great place if everything just happened the way we want it to happen.

Right.

Can't rely on that.

All right.

So then, just to to backtrack a little bit, we've given ourselves permission to feel, and everyone else too, whether we love them or not.

We've clearly labeled our feelings and there's a whole like lessons in there.

To do that, we have recognized that we need to deactivate our systems and have more mindfulness and be more present.

We have cognitive strategies.

We can be kinder to ourselves and our brains and reframe and engage in that spatial and temporal distancing.

And then we do need social support.

Sometimes, you know you just need a good friend to talk through things with.

And I have a few people in my life that they're like my go-to people to problem solve with.

And it really makes a difference because they're the emotional allies, you know, out there.

And we have to find those in our lives, because no one.

I have an expression, it's not my expression, but I use it, especially for kids, but all of us, no one should worry alone.

Never worry alone.

And then comes those cognitive strategies that we just talked about.

Then, I'm sitting by myself.

I mean, how many times have we traveled to give speech?

I did this one presentation recently.

I had to get there.

I was in Spokane, Washington, and I was coming from New York.

I was in Denver for 12 hours.

And I just, by nine o'clock at night, I had to call the people and say, it's not happening.

I'm just not getting there.

And I want to go home.

And they're like, well, maybe I said there's no morning flight.

It's just I have to let you know it's not going to happen.

I'm very happy to do this through technology.

I'm very good with my Zoom presentations.

And then I was online with it person trying to change my flight and she was not helpful and, like you have to call united, i'm like i'm not calling united.

Like you're right here, like yeah, you just no, i can't switch it because you're trying to go back to a place you didn't start from.

I was out of my mind and i didn't.

I couldn't control it.

I had no one to talk to.

I sat in my seat, i did a few breathing exercises.

I'm like mark, you know, this feeling is impermanent.

Like this is a really rough moment.

You want to be a lunatic right now.

Don't go there.

How is the best version of yourself gonna respond?

And I just sat there and I paused.

And I'm very proud of myself because I actually got what I wanted.

I knew that everything wasn't gonna work out.

They said you couldn't get on this flight.

This wasn't gonna work out.

I'm like, I'm gonna figure this out.

I'm gonna figure this out.

I just sat, took a few deep breaths.

I looked at the monitor.

There was one flight going back to LaGuardia.

I came out of Newark.

I went to the LaGuardia turn you know they, whatever that's called by the gate and i looked at this person that was there and i said i've had a really, really long day and i know that it's really difficult to do the change, but i, my hunch is that it's my, it might be possible.

I just i've been here for 12 hours.

I would love to get home tonight.

There's that last flight, can you make it happen?

And there went.

She put me on the flight and so my point of that, of sharing that story, is that, like emotion, regulation really matters.

Like it helped me like take a really crappy day and kind of get the outcome that I was hoping for.

If I were my old self, I would have been like Adam.

I would have been like you gotta be kidding me.

I'm a million miler.

Let's just go.

And that would not have gotten me.

She would have been triggered.

I would have been triggered.

She would have been like, I'm not helping this guy.

He's a jerk.

Instead, I went to my little corner, did my breathing exercise, engage in my positive self-talk, envision the best version of myself And thought about what that person could do in that moment to get the outcome.

I don't know.

It doesn't feel like magic to me.

But the solution presents itself because you have the clarity of mind and the grounding to not be reactive in that moment.

I no longer cared about the person who wasn't helping me.

I cared about, A, I always joke, I am the director of the Center for Emotional Intelligence.

I do want to have like- Yeah, the pressure's on, right?

So I do want to be the person that I'm supposed to be, which I'm not always.

And in that moment I took that meta moment, which is, I said, I'm going to build that space between stimulus and response.

I'm going to go here and I'm going to deactivate and find my solution.

And I can tell you that I have trained millions of people at this point on this technique and it really works.

But you have to practice it.

And I'll say one thing about this just before you ask another question, which is it can be a prevention technique too.

So in that moment, it was very reactive.

I'm like, Mark's freaking out.

Mark's going to go breathe and do his meta moment.

But when my mother-in-law was living with us and I knew it was gonna be rough in the mornings because she wasn't going home and I wanted some freedom.

When I come down the stairs to have coffee, I would envision the best version of myself before meeting with her for coffee.

So it can be forward-looking is my point as opposed to always in the moment.

Yeah.

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All right, let's get back into the show with a clip from author James Fry which, I have to say, was an absolute firecracker of an episode.

If you missed it, check it out.

I now think about moving forward like, OK, shorter books, right?

You don't have the endurance.

Refine that process.

57 days.

Okay, the next one, i'm going to try to do 45 right.

Can i refine it more?

Can i prepare better going in?

Can i come out of it better?

One of the things i really learned with this book and it's interesting thing about taoism and and ancient texts is, after the experience of how i wrote this, it also fundamentally changed how i believe i can live with the tao and how i can exist in it.

And so, whereas before The idea of being in an almost permanent state of woo-way-woo, or thinking, not thinking, was some delirious dream that I now believe I can get to that and live in the Tao much more.

I told you on my way out here.

You know I meditated for 30 minutes before I left the hotel and then for the entire hour I drove out here.

And the meditation out here was a different kind than the morning one, right?

The morning one was this.

Absolute silence.

The one coming out here, I talked about how the music I use to manipulate.

I now believe I can use music to take me straight into the Tao, right?

There's certain music that reacts to me emotionally that puts me into that state.

And so, as I was riding out here, I had headphones on, and the Uber driver must have thought I was crazy, because I'm essentially like I'm meditating.

Trans dancing in the backseat.

And I'm moving.

But what I'm really doing is just allowing all the gates to open, just to be as free and as non-thinking and to let my body and my mind and my soul go to wherever they want to go, to some place where I.

All that exists is the moment of hearing music and know that I'm moving and knowing that the world is alive.

I suppose the next level of this, as it applies to how you write books, is to inhabit that state and be able to create without it.

Without the exhaustion part.

You know what I mean?

Like can it be, you know?

Can it be a joyous, you know, state of freedom in which it's flowing naturally, but not paying this toll?

Yeah, I don't think... Do you think that's possible?

I don't.

Yeah, I don't think it is either.

I think I always...

I think if you want to undertake the act of creation, there will always be a price that you pay, that your soul pays, that your heart pays, that your consciousness pays.

Your bank account with the Tao pays right.

But I think there are ways, and as I've said, I've spent a lot of my life trying to figure it out, ways to do it differently or live in it differently or manage it differently.

And You know.

Earlier you asked like what is my day-to-day life like in terms of managing my mental and physical health?

And it's been a long process of trying to find my way into this permanent state of being not being right.

Of focused, disciplined happiness, if that makes any sense of utter acceptance of everything right.

One of the reasons I can deal with depressed And I don't care.

It's because I just accept it.

People I don't.

Why should I care what some guy says about me?

Why does that matter in any way?

It's his right and his job to say mean things about me.

So why should I expect anything else and why should it bother me?

Also, you know, your job is to create things for people to talk about.

And there are other people who have their job is to, you know.

Comment on it and usually that's gonna include some negative stuff like this is that just goes with the job.

One of the things that's been fun about this one and this will get kind of weird is the inside baseball fights of it right.

Like and and and.

So when the New Yorker wrote that article about me, it was the seven page Yeah, and it had a picture of me at a country club wearing a big platinum rope, standing in front of a Ferrari fancy car, Yeah.

So the Times of London, which published an article two days later about my event in New York, which had an entirely different, polar opposite, position to it, used a picture from the same event, except it was pictures of me going like this right.

And in a way, that was also a statement from the Times of London to the New Yorker, those places.

And so when you know you're doing that, when you know you're getting them to fight with each other over you without doing anything, like then I'm doing my job right.

Next up is Joanne Molinaro, creator and plant-based cookbook author.

I think the way that I did it was actually not bad, which is I cultivated a hobby.

You know, I was in a job that in retrospect, was sucking my soul.

The amount of anxiety that I had walking into work every day was so toxic and so unhealthy but I just kind of was like oh, that's just everyday life.

That's just normal, right?

That's being an adult.

But I stayed in that job for nearly 18 years.

But during that time I cultivated a hobby that gave me some respite, that allowed me to invest pennies, sometimes into my creativity, pennies into creative Joanne, artistic Joanne and perhaps even entrepreneurial Joanne.

I mean, sometimes I couldn't do it at all.

You know two, three weeks at a time where I was on trial, I couldn't do anything right.

But I think let's do a hobby first, because sometimes people know that they're creative and know that they're artistic, but don't actually know how best to manifest that creativity.

Is it by being an artist?

Is it by being a photographer?

Is it by being a sculptor?

Is it by being a cookbook author?

They don't know.

They just know that they want to do something.

So hobby is such a non-committal, non-intimidating way to figure that out about yourself.

How do you feel most fulfilled when it comes to self-expression?

And while you're doing that, you're also saving some money, putting some money aside, because that is an integral component to dream chasing.

We live in a capitalistic world, whether you like it or not.

It is very hard to chase dreams if they are not capitalized, if they are not funded.

I'm not saying you need a lot of money, some.

And that is the way that I did it, which was I had a hobby and I socked money away little by little by little, to make sure that, if ever the day came where I would be given the runway, and To really chase that dream that that runway would be fully funded for as long as possible.

I think underscoring the hobby aspect of it is really important.

Like at the outset of this, and perhaps even in its early full blown states, it still wasn't like oh, this is my path out of this career.

It was just something you enjoyed doing.

And I think you know when you mentioned that, you know people don't even know what their creativity looks like.

I think that translates also into like not even knowing what their hobby would be.

So I think it begins with just indulging your curiosity, or first even paying attention to your curiosity.

Like where does it naturally gravitate towards?

Where do your eyes kind of like wander?

And just drawing some kind of present awareness to that. and honoring, like noting it.

Oh, that's interesting.

Like, you know, when I open up the newspaper, why do I always pull the style section out first?

You know, when I, when I should be reading the business section or whatever like, instead of saying well, I should read the like, oh well, there's something there.

Like, why do I, you know, why, why do I always kind of like do these things?

And If you pull that thread, maybe there's a hobby if you continue to pull.

But I think it's just making this conscious decision to honor your curiosity and say, this is valid.

And if you continue to do that, there's always meaning on the other end of that.

Whether that looks like a full-blown career change is a different question.

But I think to the extent that if you're in a certain situation in your life where things like meaning and fulfillment seem elusive, that might be a path towards a little bit more of it.

I think the other big thing is to just do it.

I mean, I think people sometimes are so enamored with the perfect manifestation of their hobby or their dream or their creative enterprise that it actually prevents them from taking that very first step of doing it.

You know,

And it doesn't have to be pretty.

It can be extremely ugly.

Well, it's not going to be.

No, exactly.

Like, it's not, like, you can't, Get caught up in that.

Like the first thing you write that all these things are going to be terrible.

They are going to be so cringy.

You're going to look back and you're going to hate them and you're going to be you're going to hate the person who created it.

But if you don't do it, you'll never grow.

You'll never see what you could have become.

And the thing is, if you put the word I'm chasing my dream on this project, if you label it as It's too pressurized.

Exactly.

If you label it as this is my future.

This is my next big thing.

This is my next career.

This is the first step towards transitioning out of this job.

I hate.

If you do that, you will almost certainly never start, because there is so much anxiety that you have just injected into it.

Whereas if it's, you know what, this style thing is actually kind of interesting.

I wonder...

Maybe the next time I go shopping I should try pulling out a couple of pieces that I wouldn't normally and see what happens.

Maybe I'll take a picture of it.

If you just do it that way and cultivate it as just a hobby, all the pressure sort of disappears from it.

And the more you enjoy it, the more you're naturally going to invest in it.

And the more you do that, the more you know stuff shows up to point you what the next thing is to do.

But again, you don't get to know any of those things in advance.

You don't.

You do have to take a leap of faith in yourself.

Now we hear from the amazing relationship expert, Jillian Tarecki.

You know, it's the question I get the most, like the top three questions I get the most.

How do I know if it's time to go?

So low hanging fruit first, because I think it's important.

If there's any abuse, any violence of any kind, you get out.

There is no plan B. You don't give them a second chance.

It's done.

And you get help.

Aside from that.

And let's say you're invested.

This is not someone you've been dating.

So I think I think I should answer it like if you've just been seeing this person for like three months and you're not sure if this is it, or like you're married or you're in full partnership.

Let's start with the full partnership.

Often, when we are thinking about if we should stay or go, we're thinking about one person, and one person only ourselves.

We're thinking about what we're not getting. the needs that are not being met.

And we're not thinking, how am I, how have I been as a partner?

Am I meeting their needs?

Do I even know what their needs are?

You know, it's like remarkable to me.

And maybe this is you know.

I don't know if you and your wife have done this, or maybe this will be a fun thing for you guys to do later tonight.

But a lot of people are in relationships and they don't even know what their partner needs to feel loved and important cherished, to feel like they are important to them, to feel like they're growing together.

They just don't know what the other person needs.

The needs are unstated.

They're unstated.

Yeah, you said this amazing thing.

And uninvestigated.

I love this phrase that you use, which is Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments, which kind of gets at the heart of that.

That's it.

If you don't bring your voice to what those needs are, you can't expect them to get met.

And when they're not met, you simmer with all sorts of resentment that just sours everything.

Yes.

So, before you leave, you have to ask yourself first of all do I know what, if there were three things that my partner can do differently and they were to do it, would that be enough?

Cause I've spoken to people and I said, okay, let's say they made all these changes.

They did a, B, C, and D. They did all the things that have been missing.

And I've had people say, you know what?

I still wouldn't want to be with them.

And then you kind of have your answer.

Then you know.

But oftentimes it's like if there were two things that they could change, would that be enough?

And a lot of times people are like, yeah, I just need these two things.

Okay, so now we can work with that.

Then there's, do you know what they need?

And how would you rate yourself as a partner?

And can you try meeting their needs for about 30 days?

Can you try just being yourself, thinking about meeting their needs and being the partner that you want to be, and seeing if something magical happens?

Because often it does, believe it or not.

If you pull the ripcord before performing that experiment, you're jumping ship too soon.

You're jumping ship too soon.

In the context of a newer relationship, though, how is it different?

I think it's different because if you're seeing someone for three months and you're not sure if you want to really build with this person,

I think values are so important.

I wish I'd learned this at a much younger age.

Like what's most people don't really take the time to figure out what's really important to them.

And I think that having, you don't want to be the same thing, same as your partner.

That would be so incredibly boring, but you want to have some core values that are the same.

You know, you want to have, you don't have to I mean, preferences are one thing.

Yeah, sure, it'd be nice if you both ate the same way or went to bed at the same time.

These things help.

But you can have all those things on point.

But if you don't share core values and what you believe a life well lived is, it's never going to work.

So you got to ask yourself, does this person...

Do you feel like you can build a life with this person?

Do you feel like this is someone who you could really trust?

Do you respect them and do you feel respected by them?

We continue with another icon, none other than legendary broadcaster Katie Couric.

We're not exactly in the best moment when it comes to funding medical research.

Oh, my God.

I know.

We're going to have to talk about something fun eventually because this is such a bummer.

But no, I'm glad you brought it up because it's super important for people listening.

Yeah.

So, yes, the NIH funding is being cut, I think, by 40 percent.

And you know, much of my adult life after I lost my husband to colon cancer and my sister to pancreatic cancer has been spent really focused on cancer research raising money for cancer research, getting to know a lot of scientists, increasing awareness.

And you know I started Stand Up to Cancer with some other pissed off women who were just very frustrated at the pace of progress.

So I have been in this world, you know, not like scientists have, but I have gotten such a deep, profound appreciation for what these people do and how tirelessly they work day in and day out and how hard it is and how complicated these diseases are, not just cancer, which is like a million diseases and a million different biologies, but all these neurodegenerative diseases and heart disease anyway.

And the fact there's so much wrong with cutting medical research in this way.

Not only Are we in a huge inflection point with AI you know merging with basic biology and other, you know immunotherapeutic approaches.

And you know, I know you are interested in medicine and I want to talk to you about this actually.

But I'll talk to you in a minute.

To pull the rug out from under these scientists to stop, and patients, stop clinical trials.

It is such a disservice to our country.

And we're also already witnessing a significant brain drain.

Scientists aren't going to stay here if their projects aren't funded.

You know, France is saying, come to France.

Other countries are saying, we will fund your research.

It is so foolhardy and disgusting.

But there is a move on Capitol Hill with I think it's pretty bipartisan to try to reinstate some of the funding into NIH.

That's good to know.

I mean, that's the other thing.

When you grow up in DC, you grow up around kids whose parents were scientists at NIH.

Like a lot of my friend's parents were researchers at NIH.

And, you know, listen, that was a long time ago.

And I'm sure there's, you know, some bureaucratic bloat and all of that.

But the idea that these people are somehow, you know, co-opted by big pharma and are, you know, working at the behest of these scientists corporate interest for their own personal enrichment is kind of insane.

Like these, people have devoted their lives to science and they are immersed in these research projects that are expensive and complicated and take many, many years.

And a lot of this has been interrupted and disrupted.

And so a lot of that science is lost.

And it's quite tragic for anyone who is depending upon you know cures and therapies for you know whatever they're suffering from.

It's a travesty.

Honestly, it's a travesty.

And some of these clinical trials have been either shut down or delayed.

And you know when you're sick.

I know very well from my husband and my sister, and when you're sick, You know every day matters and you're just praying.

I remember when Jay was sick and he was diagnosed with stage four colon cancer and it was bleak.

The prognosis was very bleak.

But I was just every day perusing the Internet like praying.

Is there something going on?

I would call like these pharmaceutical companies in Israel.

I called Bert Vogelstein, who's discovered the Ashkenazi Jew gene at Johns Hopkins.

He was not very encouraging, but I do love you, Bert now.

But you weren't that nice back then.

But anyway, you know, just desperate.

And I know what it's like.

I know what it's like just saying you know anything.

Please just do anything that will extend my life.

You don't even have to cure me, extend it.

So I can go to my daughter's wedding or I can be at my child's fifth grade, You know, kindergarten graduation.

I don't know.

And or that can help me until something better comes along.

But, you know, how can something better come along when they've just aren't funding the science?

It's so it's maddening to me.

Next up are two of the most popular people on the entire Internet Rhett and Link.

These behemoths are sort of collapsing under their own weight.

And in in that collapse, there is this emergent you know kind of thing happening right now that I see you guys, you know as sort of the tip of the spear of

Yeah.

Over 3000 episodes of the show.

The thing that has remained consistent was our connection with each other and our connection with that one viewer on the other side of the lens.

So it was very, It's always been intimate in that way.

The production value would increase and we'd add writers and producers in order to free up our time off camera to pursue other projects.

But when we sit down behind that desk it's two friends who have known each other for 30, now over 40 years.

And it's real.

And we created an environment where we're comfortable being increasingly more of ourselves over the years and valuing that connection.

And that's irreplaceable.

So I think that the instinct that we needed to create something that was a touch point, we underestimated the power of that connection.

And so yeah, it has turned into this bustling studio in Burbank where people wear many hats and express themselves and Pursue their own dreams.

It's a fun, very challenging thing to run.

But we work hard and not lose sight of that.

The heart of it is this friendship.

Yeah, it's all contingent upon you guys maintaining a very real friendship.

Yeah, it is.

Because it will collapse under its own weight without that, right?

And so, 40 years.

You guys have been friends since you were little kids and made this blood oath.

You know, and had to- Literally we did.

Draw mythical creatures when you were in, you know, time out at school or whatever.

Like walk us back to the, you know, humble beginnings of- It's like you know- rock bands.

How have you sustained this?

Like most bands, can't you know?

Like people you know, the human condition is to, you know, not be able to sustain something like this.

Yeah.

Well, it all goes back to 1984 and Ms.

Locklear's first grade class in Buies Creek, North Carolina, where we were both held in from recess for writing profanity on our desks.

We don't really remember what we wrote, but in the mythology of our creation myth it has become damn and hell damn, misspelled as D-A-M because that's funny.

Right.

And we immediately connected and we're in a really small town where there's, you know, when Campbell University is in session, there's a thousand people, I think, in the entire town.

And we are essentially side by side from first grade to 12th grade as best friends, and there's people who rotate in and out of the friend group, but the two of us become inseparable.

And then when we start in middle school, getting attention for doing things together, either just in front of friends or, better yet, you get up in front of the whole class and or you oh, there's a video project where you get to go and you get to do something on video to show to the, your eighth grade class.

Or the talent show oh, the talent show.

That's where the that's the opportunity.

Right before you get, right before summer, if you were in seventh and eighth grade, you could submit a talent and then, like friends and family, everyone show up, fill the auditorium and they'll be thinking about you all summer.

Oh yeah, unless you blow it.

We lived for that.

But if you perform, if you take I'm Down With OPP during the fall festival and you change it to I'm Down With Halloween and change the lyrics, they'll be thinking about you all year.

So we started getting this positive feedback, this attention that we craved.

And eventually yes, when we were about 14 and sort of heading into high school.

That was when We were out in a cow pasture that we would go out to to chase cows as one of our main pastimes.

And there were two rocks out in this field.

There was a big rock and a little rock.

And we developed this system where if you're sitting on a big rock, you could talk.

But if you're sitting on the little rock, you can only ask clarifying questions.

And so we would just like a training ground for a good podcast.

Literally creating a show.

And that's how we learned how to communicate and listen.

And we started just talking about dreams and they were very. nebulous dreams of essentially we want to do something big together.

We don't know what that's going to be like.

Our form of entertainment, like what an entertainer was to a couple of boys in Buies Creek back then was the guy who would come to our school dances.

And he was a DJ, but he was also a magician.

It's like that was a full-time entertainer to us.

We had no concept of going to California and being in media.

We couldn't tell you what media was.

I wanted to be a weatherman because you get to be on TV.

You're on TV.

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A lot of people will ask me, well, what do you think the Maha movement is getting right?

And what I always say is the Maha movement, they largely get the problem right. right?

And that's why it's so effective.

They really have tapped into something in a very bipartisan way across the board that we all feel, because you know, maybe we can talk a little bit about how this, like this left to right change in wellness, has happened.

But many of us in public health have been talking about these same problems that Maha is talking about right.

We do have a lifestyle related chronic disease issue.

That's why I got into this field and started studying chronic disease prevention.

You know, a decade and a half ago.

We do have a food environment that is nearly, by best estimates, 70% ultra-processed food.

And there's a reason for that.

And we do have systems that are not built for us to be healthier.

They're really built for corporate profit and for the profitability of them.

And so those truths are there, and they really latched onto those.

The issue is that they got the causes of those issues largely wrong.

And when you get the causes wrong, you're going to get the solutions wrong and you're going to miss the mark on the solutions.

And your solutions either will be kind of benign and not make any impact, or they'll be harmful in some cases.

So right now we see things like, you know, fluoride bans in certain states.

We see mostly, I think Maha's solutions are really largely around like getting food dyes out of foods and getting these like ingredients out of foods.

While we're focused very much on that and we can all agree like Maybe we won't all agree, but I would say that the vast majority of us would be completely fine with getting synthetic food dyes out of our food.

Like no one's really advocating for synthetic food dyes, right?

They're largely a marketing tool for these food corporations to sell more foods, particularly to children.

So there may actually be some place there where you know you remove the synthetic food dyes, the food is not as bright and kids eat less of it.

We don't have data to suggest that's the case, but I could see a scenario where that could happen.

Like I'd love to I'd love to see that happen.

But the problem is, is that let's be honest about why we're removing the food dyes.

It's not because, for example, the United States regulatory system is allowing them in our food and all of the other regulatory systems are banning them around the world, because that's just not accurate.

And it's not done for safety reasons.

And that might be surprising to some people who are listening that those food dyes aren't banned in places like the EU or Canada or Australia.

Like they're completely allowed there.

Where I say the Trojan horse aspect of it is because we're very focused on this issue, right.

This food dyes or the seed oils and French fries in fast food restaurants.

Meanwhile, you know, the foundation of our public health institutions are being gutted and we're rolling back environmental protections and we're cutting billions of dollars from healthcare access and food nutrition access and all of these things that are the foundation of ensuring a healthy public in the United States are really being eroded because we're so focused on some things that really there's not a lot of evidence to suggest are going to make a measurable impact on our health.

Yeah, there's a dissonance between rhetoric and reality.

Like all of the energy is going towards the discussion around food dyes and you know beef tallow at.

You know Shake Shack or whatever Shake and Steak.

And what's interesting or curious about that to me, beyond the obvious, is the fact that I mean, first of all, like to your point, like no one, no one's in favor of these dyes.

Like, yeah, get rid of them or whatever.

But it's a distraction because ultimately, whether that dye is in the food or not, it's still a bad food that you shouldn't eat.

You know, like it's not part of the healthy diet at all.

So it's like, oh, let's let's let's get super excited about, you know.

The fact that M&Ms doesn't use this red dye or whatever, they're still M&Ms.

So why are we even talking about this?

It's such a 0.001% of what's important to talk about when it comes to these issues.

And the misdirection aspect of it is that it distracts us from focusing on what's really important which are These initiatives, these policies, what research is being funded that's really going to drive these public outcomes in a positive way?

On the one hand, it's almost like we're in favor of regulation because we want these dyes.

The only way you do that is by passing regulations that regulate food and pharma.

But at the same time, behind the scenes, it's all about deregulation, so that these big corporate entities can do what they want to do, which is basically double down on their corporate interests, and not be impeded in doing so.

Next up is the queen of clean beauty, Greg Renfrew, founder and entrepreneur.

On the subject of the consumer lack of awareness or ignorance, um, about these things.

Uh, what is it that you want, you know, the consumer to know?

Well, I think, with respect to my industry, the beauty and personal care industry, I want people to know that the that beauty secrets are bullshit.

I mean, it's all bullshit.

I mean, just think about this.

I mean, I'm, you and I are both, you know, getting older, right?

I have wrinkles on my face, right?

I just do.

Wrinkles aren't a problem.

They're just a thing that the beauty industry is telling you is a problem, so they can sell you product.

I mean, let's just start there.

I mean, really.

Yeah.

There's like a wrinkle is just part of the aging process.

And every single person in the world will get a wrinkle at some point.

And it is not a process.

It is just part of life.

The entire industry of like, building things, like oh, if you, you know, use this, you're going to have the fountain of youth.

I mean, it's all bullshit.

So I think that you know one.

I want people to understand that, like there's no cream that's going to get rid of your wrinkles, right?

They might improve the moisture in your skin.

You might feel a little bit more radiant.

That stuff is true.

But nothing's going to change things.

That's one thing.

Two, don't believe what you see on a label.

You've got to do your research.

You may not choose to want to do the work, and that's fair.

But if someone says it's all natural or clean or whatever aloe based, or you know it's got made with pomegranate seed or whatever, like there's always, it's just insane how creative uh these things get, like oh, infused with this and like special, it's like they.

There's all kinds of crazy descriptors you know to make you think that there's some scientific breakthrough happening.

Of course, not of course.

And they'll say things like preservative free okay well, that's.

There's no way that if you buy a product and it's sitting on the shelf, you're For a year or two without having to be refrigerated and doesn't expire in a couple of weeks.

Like that's not preservative free.

That means that that person went in and pre-preserved the raw materials, extracted them.

And because of sort of loopholes, like they can claim that to be preservative free.

Because they didn't, they weren't like the actively preserved.

It was preserved before they put it in the bottle or whatever.

Correct.

It's that kind of thing that people just don't realize.

And it's the same with the food industry.

And I always say that the beauty industry drafts off the food industry.

So what is happening there, we're going to get next.

And so I always just say to people if there's one thing you can do, shop fragrance-free, because at least you know you're removing a lot of the chemicals of concern that don't have to be listed, no matter which brand it is.

We will.

We always list the ingredients, but people don't list it.

But just know that you know, what you see on the label isn't necessarily what you get.

And that's okay if you're not trying to buy a clean or natural product, but if you are, you need to do your homework.

And what are the common chemicals of concern and why are they concerning?

You know, I think there are a whole bunch, but a couple that you will see often on labels are some of the parabens the methyl or ethyl parabens.

You'll see things like EDTA, the PEGs Um, obviously formaldehyde, but it never shows up as formaldehyde on the label.

But those things, and there they are.

You know I talked earlier about phthalates and I think that anything that mimics your endocrine system and disrupts it can be really harmful in terms of your reproductive health or your neurological health.

So I think that what I always say to people is like look, I'm not a scientist and I don't have all the answers or understand half of these chemicals, most of these chemicals.

But what you should know, first and foremost, is that many, many tens of thousands of chemicals have been introduced into commerce in everything from electronics to food, to beauty.

And less than 10% of them have ever been tested for safety and human health.

And so you're dealing with the wild, wild west.

And so when you're making decisions about things you're putting in your body and on your body, just err on the side of being cautious.

Like you'll put a seatbelt on when you get in the car, but you'll just put anything any lotion or potion all over your body and your skin's your largest organ.

So if you're thinking about you know your longevity and your long-term health, know that while it may not react in that moment, you might not see a huge rash breakout.

It may have long-term impact and we may not know that.

Maybe that one ingredient is okay in isolation, but how many products are you putting on your body every day when you brush your teeth and you shave, and you put deodorant on sunscreen and makeup, and how do those chemicals interact with one another with your body?

Yeah, there's a.

There's an interesting irony in that, in that um, amidst all of this institutional distrust that's occurring right now uh, we have almost a reflexive, unconscious trust when it comes to all of these products, assuming that smart people at the company have tested all of these things and that the FDA is overseeing all of this and it wouldn't be on the shelf and available to buy unless it has been vetted and tested and approved for human health and safety.

Yeah, that's it.

It actually surprises me It even with my own friends when sometimes they'll say something like this is clean.

I'm like, have you been listening to me for the last 10 years?

Like, are you kidding me?

This is not clean.

This is not even remotely clean.

But somehow you think it is because it has like a leaf on the packaging or something.

And you think it's like this thing.

I think that the burden of proof, like the presumption is upside down.

Right.

It has to be proven harmful.

It's assumed.

It's assumed safe until proven harmful, rather than having to be proven safe prior to being able to be available as a commercial product.

That is true.

This is Andy Galpin, my very favorite performance scientist.

I changed this probably 10 years ago.

I remember I was, you know Brian McKenzie?

I do.

So I was at Brian's house and he was talking about that exact thing.

And I was like, oh, that's really interesting.

His endurance programming was all based, failure was defined as technical failure. breakdown, right?

Not volume, not time, not anything else.

It was a, when you break down technically, like that's your number.

There's no point in continuing to run further or whatever at that point.

Yeah.

And then, like two days later, I was in Colorado with Lauren Landau, strength and conditioning coach.

Tremendous guy.

Um, he was with the Broncos for a long time.

Now he's at Notre Dame and he said the exact same thing, but not from the endurance perspective.

And he was going through different drills he was doing.

And I was like, how am I not doing this?

Like immediately was like, oh, this is the most ridiculous thing ever.

And so we've pretty much used that almost exclusively since then is we will always define not always most of the time we define fatigue or endurance or failure as that point of diminished technical breakdown right.

You're going to like your posture will break and like you'll come back.

But when we see whatever we're defining as a major technical breakdown, then that's the limit.

And so, in fact, I got a text on the way here.

One of our guys is preparing for a fight in China.

And he told me last night he had a PR in our endurance work.

And this is an paradigm piece that we do for rounds.

And those rounds are cut off with technical breakdowns.

So this is a posture.

When he's leaning forward and the head starts flopping back and forth and his elbows start flying up.

That's when we like cut him.

And he doesn't know this, by the way.

He just gets arbitrarily told he's done.

He has no idea why, right?

We can't because then he'll just hijack the system.

And he won't listen to this.

What are you doing?

Why are you?

Yeah, yeah.

He's like, no, we're done.

He's just like, okay.

But we got an extra round out of our stuff last night, which is now the third week in a row.

We've added a round.

And I'm like, great.

So what this is showing me is he's holding position better at the same or higher levels of fatigue.

Intuitively.

He's subconsciously holding this.

And then when he gets really tired, he breaks.

Phenomenal.

And then we see that in his actual skill training.

So yeah, that's a very big part of our stuff, especially when we are pushing close to competitions where volume and intensity are high, calories are low, stress is high.

You're just like you're asking for a recipe there and you're looking for any excuse to dial something in.

And that for him, for some of our other athletes, it's honestly not as big of a deal.

But the really practical application of this for the everyday person is next time you're in the gym and you're thinking I'm going to go to failure on this lift.

Failure isn't, you know, when you can no longer get the bar all the way up by doing whatever you have to do.

You know moving your body around to do it.

It's as soon as you can't hold perfect form that you're done, right?

And I think the other gem within that is that the most important thing in advancing your fitness goals is consistency.

Like you talk about this consistency over intensity and everybody loves to, you know, talk about their, their, their monster workout or their massive lift or their incredibly long, you know, weekend run or whatever.

And that's all fine, but it's only as important um, as you know, as the rest of your program and how it fits into that.

Right.

So quality, um, Like volume being limited by the extent to which you can express it with quality.

100%.

And my rule is always, if I'm being consistent, like less is always more.

Because you're not just training for the day, you're training for the week and the month.

And the idea is to be able to get up and do it again the next day and the next day and the next day.

And the minute you start, kind of inappropriately, stepping over the line and doing a little bit too much because you feel good that day like, just because you feel good that day and you want to go for it doesn't mean that you should.

If you have a greater goal that you're working towards because that can come at a cost, that's going to undermine your ability to express yourself physically the day after, when that was the day when you really were supposed to do that other kind of workout to advance that.

With our athletes and our non-athletes, because by numbers, I coach more non-athletes general population people than professional athletes.

With all of them we have very specific.

You can set this up however you want, but red days, days that you're going to like go after it right, and it doesn't always work like that, especially for non-athletes.

It's like i'm running a company and i've got a family, like this thing okay, great.

But we will have that plotted for the month and ideally at least for the quarter as well, and so when we get to a spot where that person goes, i'm feeling great.

Today i want to go after it.

Well, we know what's coming up next week and we know what came up came the week before, and so we can look at and go.

Yeah, if you want, go ahead, or we can go, no chance Why.

Because either we did a ton last week or we got a whole huge set coming up next week or next month or whatever.

And so we're trying to really make an intelligent decision about when to fly and when to not go.

All that is orchestrated, whether this is just on subjective high you know, hard day, medium day, light day or we have direct measures with a bunch of physiological variables and other stuff.

We have a combination of super high technology and No technology sort of people.

So you have some plan there.

We continue with the soulful two-time world champion surfer, John John Florence.

So if I was Mike Gervais, I would ask you, what does mastery look like for you?

How would you define mastery?

I don't think, yeah.

Do you think in that context?

I kind of do, but I kind of don't.

I don't think you can ever really become a master of anything.

I feel like it's just endless.

And I feel like mastery for me is like, I'm really into the internal thinking in the mind.

Because I feel like once you get a handle on that, You'll never have it perfectly, but you'll be able to apply it to anything that you do.

And so I think that's mastery within itself.

It's just being able to get a handle on your internal self.

Mastering the self is the key to mastering anything else.

Anything you apply yourself to.

Well, you're not going to master anything if you're not a master of your own mind.

Exactly.

Yeah.

If you're just kind of completely acting at random, then I feel like the things you do are going to be at random.

How do you define success as that evolved over time?

Yeah, definitely.

Like it's funny, when i was competing and going for my first world title, i was like okay, world title, that's it, that's what i want.

That's like the once i do, that that's, i've done it.

You know like i'll feel good, and then it's.

It's just the craziest thing, because you hear from other athletes and stuff.

They accomplish these huge goals.

But when you like i accomplished with that and then i finished and you wake up the next day and everything resets, you're like why am i the same guy?

You're like i'm the same, nothing's changed like, and so you kind of just keep going on about your day.

And that actually was like pretty hard for me because i was like i just chased this whole life thing thinking that this would like i guess, like solve all my issues, and then you win and then you finish it and you're like everything's exactly the same, Okay.

Now how do I cope with that?

And so like figuring out how to cope with that and then like come back again and maybe like okay now, why am I competing?

What's the point?

You know?

Cause you could go into that mode of just like, I accomplished it.

I'm done.

Like there's no, no, there's no reason for me to do this anymore.

And I think that's where I really started getting into that mode of like Oh no, I'm kind of going on this bigger picture longer full life.

It'll take my, my whole life.

And I'll probably never accomplish, like really getting to know myself and master myself and the decisions that I make.

So success then is a commitment to self-mastery.

Yeah, I guess so.

Yeah, commitment.

I guess it's a commitment.

I think that's a really good way of saying it.

What's really funny is every single person who's achieved some you know audacious goal has the same story.

Like you know, this is like because you have to be sort of insane, you know, to chase these things and to achieve them, and driven in part by thinking that this is going to fix whatever broken part you have.

You know what I mean.

And every single person will say and then I did it, and then I was the same guy and it was so disappointing.

You know, I was like I don't.

You could listen to a thousand versions of that story on a thousand podcasts and read a million books, but but we all sort of think that we're going to be the exception.

Like, yeah, but not for me.

Like, you don't understand it's going to be different.

It's like this really will fix me, or or then.

But it sounds like where the maturity is and what you learned was you learned from that and thought well, winning a second one isn't going to fix it.

Like a lot of people just get on that hedonic treadmill like, oh well, it didn't fix me, but that's because there's this other thing yeah yeah, maybe if i do this your whole life, you know, but to like learn at a young age, like that's not the solution, it's an inside job and there's another focus of my attention and energy that's going to be required if i want to solve that dilemma.

Yeah, and and i think that's where it really helps me through like i bring up the injuries because i just felt like that was such a big part of my road to this last world championship, but like It allowed me to go into those and be like OK like, like I said before, like I'm just kind of changing what I'm doing, but I'm still going after my same life goal, you know, and it allowed me to do that really well.

And then I healed and I'm like OK, now I'm competing again and I'm going to put my mindset back into this again.

And you're always building this one thing no matter what you're doing in your life.

Right.

Process over outcome.

Yeah.

Well, it's good that you love surfing.

Yeah.

Right?

Yeah.

It makes the process part a lot easier.

Yeah, it does.

You know.

Next up is Jungian psychotherapist John W. Price.

I was told by a Jungian analyst that I worked with years ago.

She was a professor of mine.

When we were speaking in one of our classes, she mentioned a young woman who Who was sexually abused through much of her early life.

So by the age of 9 or 10, she had a pretty significant alcohol dependence.

9 or 10.

Hard qual.

So this was a horrible sexual abuse.

The way that Priscilla spoke about it.

She said that she was drinking anywhere from half a bottle to a bottle of vodka a day.

I'm sure supported by some of the adults in her life.

So this is as bad as it can get.

And so at 16, the abuser was no longer in the home.

And yet she still had the alcohol problem.

The alcohol dependence, I should say.

Okay.

So I would argue that's not wrong.

That was based in her need to do everything that she could to numb out from the catastrophic mistreatment that was happening.

An almost appropriate adaptation.

Absolutely.

To survive.

Absolutely.

You know, just an absolutely overwhelming trauma.

Yeah.

So then, how do you take somebody who, for the formative years of their life, has connected with this substance and And it has helped them navigate their development?

And how do you then, because now the alcohol is killing her.

And that's an extreme image of what happens to us all.

That we have these early adaptations about.

Think about when you were in a relationship and you got your heart broken and you determined that you will never love again.

Mm-hmm.

Or you were sexually violated and you made a proclamation about others in the world.

This belief becomes ingrained.

I will never do that.

Or they will never hurt me again.

Or I will never have this happen.

We have these agreements.

It's a contract with reality.

So the sacred refusal is when we eventually recognize that we have to go through a process of grief and begin to unravel our connection with whatever that adaptation is.

And oftentimes it's done so in a trauma or a crisis.

That this is what in AA would be referred to as a rock bottom.

That you have to hit that and eventually say, this is no longer tenable.

I have to consider something else.

I don't know what it is.

So I will surrender over to a process that I can't possibly fathom.

But I'll trust you enough hopefully, that you will guide me through that process, saying it to the community, or to the sponsor, or to the therapist or whomever it may be.

So...

Sacred refusal is an opportunity for us to ritualize that process where we can honor the adaptation.

We can commune with it in a way that recognizes its value in our lives, that it served a great and holy purpose in a lot of ways.

But now we need to, on some level, kill it off and surrender it to the forces and the powers that be.

And I think that process takes time.

And in the best of times, it would be done with a ritual.

But again, if you're not surrounded by elders who've gone through this experience and can find ways to ritualize that process, you're kind of left going at it alone.

And that can be a scary and terrifying experience.

And Um.

That's why in therapy, one of the things I help folks do is try to recognize that the both end of the dance.

Thank you.

And I set you free.

And now I go through a stage of disorient what I call disorientation where my favorite example here is a hermit crab.

And I thought about the hermit crab early on and come to find out they actually do this.

The hermit crab outgrows its shell and it, has to go looking for a new shell.

And, of course, the moment of transition from the old shell to the new shell is the most vulnerable time of its life.

Yeah.

And the second thing that I thought was really fascinating when I started looking this up is that it also goes through a phase of adjusting to the new shell, because it doesn't quite fit right.

And so it's got to take time to grow into that shell.

So this is a stage of liminality. the in-between.

And our ego's need for control, for clarity, for certainty.

We suffer the burdens of ambiguity, anxiety and ambivalence.

And during that stage, just not intellectually necessarily, but just our bodies, our Shaking and kneading ground.

You know, I need my familiarity.

We're in the uncomfortable transitional phase of the unknown.

And so disorientation is a stage that really needs a kind of midwifing.

And you need somebody to sit along and reflect for you where you are in your journey.

Or else you will regress into patterns that existed and were very effective before.

Hence the nature of our entire addiction treatment process.

Next up is another icon.

You know her as Malala.

Yes, that Malala, the activist and Nobel Peace Prize laureate.

When I had anxiety and panic attacks and flashbacks of the attack, I was introduced to therapy.

That changed everything for me.

So I was hoping that you know that through sharing my story, I can help somebody out there who might feel anxious lost, who might not know that they could ask for help.

I wish I had heard a story like this.

And I wish I knew that therapy is okay and you should ask for help sooner.

So I'm hoping that this can help somebody out there.

The mental health journey that's baked into the story.

I mean you didn't have to be as open and honest about how that unfurled as you were, like your first panic attack was in the aftermath of doing your first bong hit.

I'm sure when people read that they're going to be like, oh my God, just envisioning you doing that.

I know.

I thought that was going to be the beginning of my journey, exploring and experimenting things.

But that became my first and last bong experience, because it just didn't turn out how I expected it to be.

I remember that night because, you know, it became a scary night.

I was initially like with my friends.

We were just chatting about college life and we were in the college gardens and they showed me bong and I said oh like, what is this?

They said, you know, it's sort of weed, you try it.

And like first attempt, I coughed.

On the second attempt, when I inhaled it, I felt it just went all inside my body.

And that's when it took a sharp turn because my body froze.

I could not even move.

And immediately I thought I was reliving the Taliban attack.

And I felt that I was going to die.

It's that time, in this induced coma, that I experienced after the Taliban attack, where I could not understand what was happening, if I was awake or asleep, if I was alive or dead.

And in that whole night after this Wong experience, I was sweating, shaking, terrified.

I wanted to scream.

It was like truly, truly a nightmare.

And I could not sleep.

I could not sleep because I thought if I closed my eyes, I would die.

And it took me actually months to seek therapy.

So for like this flashback and then panic attacks started, I was not being myself anymore.

But my college friends actually saw that something was not okay.

And then one of my friends said that I should see a therapist.

And she told me that it's okay.

Like a lot of students see therapists.

And yeah, so seven years later after the attack was when I started therapy again.

And you had to overcome whatever narrative you had in your mind about what therapy meant in order to walk into that first visit.

You know, they ask you, how are you feeling today?

And what does that make you feel?

I just thought they would never understand my experiences.

So when I went to my first therapy session, I thought I would be given all the medication that would make all of these problems go away.

And I was waiting for some treatment for it to be fixed.

But I learned that it was actually a process learning how Your thoughts and emotions are different from the actions and just understanding that you know this is actually PTSD and anxiety.

That's what my therapist told me that, you know, it can happen.

I think for me the most disappointing or painful part was that it was happening after such a long time.

I thought that I had overcome the attack.

It was a story of the past.

And somehow it all came back like as if it just happened all over again.

That was really painful to process.

And I just hated that.

I was like, I wish it's not PTSD.

I just did not want to have PTSD.

But these things can affect you.

And I think it's important to raise awareness about it.

Because you thought that that would mean that you were weak, or because it was going to be so much work to get to the other side of it.

I think it was both.

I actually... felt that I was not living up to the expectation of being brave and courageous.

I thought I had somehow failed how I was supposed to be.

And I was like really proud of myself before that.

Look, survived a bullet.

Look where I am.

I'm fighting for all girls.

And suddenly seven years later, I am shaking.

I'm getting scared and frightened, you know When.

I cannot even figure out.

What is it that's making me scared?

Am I failing if I feel scared?

And I redefine bravery now.

I think it is when you still stand up despite the anxiety, the panic attacks, the doubts, the trauma.

I call it true courage now, true bravery.

We continue with the historian and author Rutger Bregman.

There's no place like the United States when it comes to ambition and entrepreneurialism and that sense of possibility.

Right,

This is where you come to build things, and people encourage you to do that and celebrate that spirit.

But it's also this place where My feeling is our very precious relationship with quote unquote liberty, like our personal liberties, feels a little out of balance.

Essentially, we only get those liberties because we share this collective responsibility.

And we don't really talk a lot about the responsibility piece, but we spend a lot of time talking about our liberty to do what we want to do whenever we want to do it, you know, in an unbridled way.

Right.

And so how do you look at all of that and make sense of it?

I think that if you look at American history there are, there's this continuous fight between two notions of what liberty is.

There is indeed the shallow view of freedom that is very common today, which is just the freedom of leave me alone.

Let me do whatever I want.

You know, let me just follow my own passion, you know, fulfill my own desires.

It's the Gordon Gekko greed is good kind of freedom.

And I wouldn't say that that is entirely bad.

I think you need a decent amount of that in a healthy liberal society.

But I think we've moved way too far in that direction.

And now we got to go back to an older, more deeper conception of what freedom is actually like.

And that's the freedom to bind yourself.

That's the freedom to make sacrifices.

Today, we often say that we're living through the second Gilded Age, right?

The first Gilded Age was the late 19th century.

And indeed, the similarities are so striking.

There's a fantastic book by Robert Putnam about this.

And in that book he pulls a great trick where he gives a whole description about the corruption, the immorality of elites, people dodging their taxes.

Um, you know basically the decadence of that time, and you think like he's talking about today right, he's talking about 2025.

And then he's like no, this is actually the late 19th century that i'm talking about.

Um, You also had these big robber barons, you know, that made massive amounts of money on their monopolies.

Back then it was trains.

Today it's AI.

But again, the similarities are striking.

What we're experiencing now is not new.

Yeah, yeah.

So that was also the shallow conception of freedom that was dominating in the US.

But what came after that was the progressive era led by people like Louis Brandes, the people's lawyer, who ended up on the Supreme Court.

But most famously, one of my great heroes in history, Theodore Roosevelt, the historian, the president, who set things like and I'm paraphrasing here to complain about a problem and not propose a solution.

That's called whining.

Uh, he has this famous quote about it's not the critic who counts, but it's the man in the arena.

You know, the person who actually tries, who falls down and stands up again, who just keeps going, and who's not one of those whiners who always stands on the sidelines but never, you know, can say like i actually tried, i actually did something.

America's original conservationist.

And the Boy Scouts got started in the early 20th century, also as a reaction to that era of decadence.

It's so interesting.

The similarities are everywhere.

And I feel that we're now at a crossroads where we can go further down this really dark path.

And I think it could be way darker than it is right now.

I think we can really move into an authoritarian era.

I've spent quite some time studying revolutions like the Russian revolution.

What you see when you study 1917 is not people who are super excited about the communists taking over.

No, not at all.

People thought Lenin was an idiot.

They really didn't like him, but they were just utterly apathetic.

They were like, you know, We hate the Tsar.

We hate the royal family.

We hate the incompetent liberals who replaced them.

We hate everyone.

You know what?

We'll plug out.

And sure, Lenin, you take over.

You won't last for six weeks either.

But six weeks became 70 years.

And I really worry that that could happen in the US as well.

People are increasingly apathetic and Yeah, there are some people weren't as distracted then as they are now.

We've got we've got like design.

Big tech is the new big alcohol industry, basically.

So the problems are real.

And as are as are the threats.

And yet you're able to hold on to hopefulness.

Well, and that's like history gives me hope here because.

After the Gilded Age, we got the Progressive Era.

So it was a double movement.

It was a bottom-up movement of people joining unions, political parties, saying enough is enough.

But it was also a top-down movement of elites who were like hey, let's not just check our privilege.

Let's use it to make a massive difference.

And I think that's what we desperately need right now.

Like across the West, we have been betrayed by elites from the left to the right.

I mean that's the one thing that, In my view, MAGA and Trump is absolutely correct about is that we've been betrayed on a pretty massive scale by people who should have known better.

And what we now need is what I'd like to call a kind of skin in the game, elite like people who don't just whine and moan, but who actually practice what they preach.

And instead of just pointing fingers, they're like okay, this is a problem and this is what I'm doing.

Now, do you want to join me?

Mm-hmm.

We're almost done, but not before putting a pin in things, and we're going to do it with Tig, the comedian, Tig Notaro.

What is going on with mental health more broadly, like within the comedy community?

Like, do you have to have some kind of mental health situation going on to be an effective comic?

See, I don't believe that— Like, you seem pretty balanced and grounded.

Well—

I've been working at that.

Like I said, I wasn't and I don't know who I was before 2012, but I've never believed that you have to be miserable or struggling to be funny.

Like depressed or neurotic?

No.

Like all of those tropes?

I really don't.

I think that when people like to put that on comedians or musicians or artists or whatever, I really all I can think about is everybody's dealing with that stuff.

Everybody's got cuckoo parents or anxiety or depression.

We're the ones with the microphone.

And so it's easy to blame us like, oh, They're going through a lot.

People can look at artists and just kind of be like wow, they're miserable, they're depressed, they're struggling.

They're just wearing it on their sleeve.

Right, right.

Because if you go next door or you talk to your mail carrier or the pilot of your plane, you're going to find cancer alcoholism depression, everywhere.

It's everywhere.

We just have the microphone.

And I feel like it's not that you have to be miserable and depressed.

It's you have to be living a real life, I think, in order to get material.

And I'm not like living a real life to get material, but you have to... Be in the world.

You have to be in the world.

Yeah.

But I don't believe that you have to be a miserable person.

What is your writing process?

How do you know when something is funny?

I think it's just an extra sense.

It's funny going to dinners or parties where it's not entertainment or comedy people and they're like a comedian's here.

Oh, I better watch what I'm saying.

Oh, I'm going to end up in their set.

And, and I'm like, no, you're not like chances are you're, you're not going to end up in my set.

Um, it's so not that interesting and you're not that funny.

Well, it's not even that it's just, it's so rare for me.

I mean maybe, and there probably are comedians that everything strikes them or they are looking for bits, but I'm just hanging out with people.

And if something happens that extra sense, I'm like, ah, that could be, that's funny, you know?

And it's, it's never necessarily the obvious thing.

And I'll just make a little note on a napkin and, um, and revisit it.

But I don't, A napkin.

That's your, that's your process of napkin.

Like I had Birbiglia in here and he like brought a notebook and it's sitting here and he's like oh, I don't go anywhere without this.

You know, he's like, oh, you know, I've got a seventh grade education, so I've got a paper napkin.

Birbiglia's got you know, but yeah, I don't.

I don't sit down and I always say if, Not if, but when I die you're not going to find the lost writings of Tig Notaro.

The papers.

The dirty crumpled.

In some library, the papers of Tig Notaro.

Yeah.

A bunch of napkins.

What are you, assembling these napkins?

How does it find its way from the napkin onto a page, onto some kind of set that gets worked on?

I wish I knew, Rich.

I don't know.

You don't know.

There's no method.

No.

Sometimes I find a napkin and I'm like, tube sock?

What was that about?

And I'll be like, Stephanie, did I say something about a tube sock?

And she's like, I have no idea.

I'm like, wow, okay.

But I also have that faith that if something is really funny, it's going to It'll come back around.

Yeah.

It'll pop back up because whatever it was about that tube sock.

Well, it'll it'll it'll happen again.

But yeah, I just I'll just try different things out.

And if it sticks and I remember it, then it feels worth continuing to work on.

Are you somebody who is regimented, like OK, you know, this is the time of day where I sit down and we're like, how does that work?

I do all my writing.

Which is like, let's just dispel that illusion right now.

There isn't, this is, you know, this is, I think it's a violence on people.

We're all walking around trying to like be balanced.

It's nobody's balanced.

No, no.

But I'll, I'll tell you what, I have way more balance.

That's what I'm saying is like, I don't think it's balanced.

It's, it's, groundedness and presence in what you're doing and making sure that you're, because you're never going to be able to show up and have all of these things in proper order every single day, especially when you have kids and you're married and it's complicated professional life.

Like yeah, so we hold ourselves to that standard, and then we feel bad about ourselves, where I think the solution is really like okay well, this is what I'm doing right now and I can't control the external world and I'm just going to be focused on this.

And okay, with the fact that, you know, these other things are not getting attended to right now, for sure.

But all of the things that i can control of, like you know, whether it's what i'm eating or how much work, how much time i'm spending away from how i'm working, i do have control over that and um, and you know, my cancer could return um, But you don't have control over that.

I don't.

But what I do have control over is investing the the the time and energy into I exercise every day.

I I believe I'm eating a healthy diet.

Certainly throw some cupcakes and cookies in there.

But yeah, I that.

I'm sure there's no peak balance, like you're saying, but the place that I've gotten to now I would say I'm happier and more fulfilled than ever on a very genuine, real level and in a present way.

Mm-hmm.

I mean, come on, you guys.

What an incredible year.

I really hope you enjoyed this reflection in the rear view and found these last two episodes uplifting and inspiring.

This podcast has been an amazing journey for me, and I'm just so grateful that you're on it with me.

I look forward to growing and learning together in the new year ahead and can't wait to see what we have in store.

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We did it.

Thank you again for all the love and support, and I will see you in 2026.

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