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Hey there, Aubrey. What's going on?
Hi, Lindsay. I'm great.
How are you? Good. Aubrey, I have a question for you.
You ready? Yes. So, Aubrey, have you had any mom wins lately?
Anything? Yes. Yeah.
I had to write notes for my kids that their teacher gave them before state testing.
And I put jokes on the notes and they loved them.
That's so cute. Every day at school, they're like, we loved the joke you wrote.
They were showing them to all their friends and bragging about how funny their mom is.
And that's a huge win for me, for my kids thinking I'm funny.
Yeah, that is awesome.
So what was one of the jokes, for example?
Okay, well, one was, what is a witch's favorite test?
And what? A spelling test. Nice, nice.
I see what you did there because witches cast spells.
Exactly. So a lot of them were puns like that, but really fun.
And I would illustrate them.
I had like a cauldron with the the witches and their brooms around the cauldron.
Super fun. That's so fun.
That's so cute. I mean, I'm sure that it also made them feel more relaxed about their test, right?
Oh, I think I'm like, I got to remember to do this because usually it's just like, you're going to do great.
I love you. I like looked up jokes about tests.
That's so cute. I love that.
That's so funny. Oh, guys, we love it.
This episode is all about connection, any kind of connection, right?
We want to build connection with people in our lives.
So hit the follow button because our our philosophy here is connection, not perfection, right, Aubrey?
What does that mean to you?
Connection, not perfection?
Well, you don't want to be stressed about little mistakes that you're making.
It should be much more important to you who you're connecting with in English, right?
Take that chance to have a conversation.
People you're talking to, they don't mind if you're making little mistakes with pronunciation, grammar. They just want to connect with you.
Yeah. Connection should never be hindered by mistakes, and it never has to be, Okay, so that's our philosophy.
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And we have a question from Sophia.
Excellent. Yeah, you use this phrase at the end of that there, you said, I see what you did there, which is perfect.
So yeah, let's, let's hear this question.
Want to read it for us?
Yep. And this comes from the YouTube channel.
Channel, by the way, guys, don't forget, we do have a YouTube channel, you can go over there and watch this episode being recorded on video so here we go so she says hi I'm Sophia I love learning fun and natural English expressions from the podcast I have a quick question when I joke around with my friend she often says things like not necessary or I see how it is pretending to be mad at me but in a very humorous way I'm wondering if there are other similar ways to respond sometimes I find it challenging to keep the joke going or turn it back on her but I still want to give some kind of playful
reply. Thank you so much in advance.
Wow. This sounds like a C1 level skill.
I love it. Absolutely.
Yes. And I love that Sophia has this relationship with someone in English where you're teasing, you're being playful, you're using these fun expressions to pretend to be mad, but in this humorous way.
So we're going to share three ways that we do this in English.
I first want to touch on the not necessary.
That's a little different, right?
If you have have offered to do something, or then we might be like, not necessary.
And sometimes you will see this, they'll almost say it like angry at you for even offering, right?
So that's a little different.
We're going to go into the, I see how it is.
And then also I see what you did there.
These are very fun ways to be playful in English.
Yeah. And it's a really good point that Sophia is making.
When someone hints that they're going to be joking around, your tone kind of needs to to change in a way.
You need to become playful, right?
And we need to know how to do that.
I mean, that's not something our textbooks have taught us how to do, right?
Exactly, right? When Lindsay said, I see what you did there, it would be very strange if she says, I see what you did there.
Or whatever you can sound annoyed or angry, your tone really needs to be playful and fun and upbeat.
Yes. So, we're going to get some vocabulary resources today and talk about tone of voice too, because it matters just as much as the words that you choose.
So, Aubrey, what do we need to know?
Yeah, so let's first dive into our first phrase today is I see how it is.
This is really fun.
Here's an example. If I'm playing volleyball and someone tips it really short where I can't get to it, I might say, OK, I see how it is.
And that's sort of me implying like I'm going to do the same to you or criticizing them a little bit for sort of a cheap move, right?
Or like underhanded.
I'm like, OK, I see how it is.
And just so we're totally clear, what is it here?
What is it? What is I see how it is?
Yeah, this is like a chunk, right?
Idiomatic. It means like, I see what you did.
I don't really like it.
Yeah, I see what you did.
Or like, I see how the situation is.
I see what we're doing here today.
I see what's happening here.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
It's like you're just basically saying like, I've caught on.
I'm on to you. Like, I know we're not playing by the rules or something.
And very playful and friendly way to let someone know that you don't love what they did but not you're not like super upset no so like here's an example you're shopping with a friend and there's only one pair of shoes left yeah and maybe you want it she takes it you might be like i see how it is right and this is a playful way of being like maybe i wanted those shoes right because we've done episodes i mean we did an episode of on the word doormat before right remember when we talked about that yeah so you you have to say something like when someone does something a little sneaky but you're gonna you're
fine and you're gonna maintain the relationship and it's fine but you have to say something right you're gonna have to have said oh would you like these shoes if not i'll take them right so you should say something exactly exactly yeah um or you ask a friend to hang out but they say they have a date right so there might be a little bit of like maybe you had sort of planned something informally before and they scheduled a date you want to push back a little exactly right you should be like okay I see how it is as you're sort of saying like I see that you're prioritizing dating over me which this is maybe
the most common way we use this because we get it right like okay you need to be dating but like what about me what am I chopped liver exactly yeah that's a good expression too we should investigate where that expression comes from.
We totally should like to know.
Yeah. Stay tuned for that follow -up because that is a fun phrase.
It means like, why am I nothing?
Am I not worth anything to you?
But yeah, really, we're being playful about it.
We're not really mad.
Yeah. It's almost like the skill today is how to call someone out without really calling them out, you know, without attacking them or really being serious about it.
Exactly. Which what an important connection skill, because you don't want to let people just like do things you're even a little bit upset about without saying anything but you also don't want to seem like you're really mad about something that's not that big of a deal exactly let's see how this works in a role play so let's get into it all right i'll start us want to hang out friday night a bunch of us are going to a concert ooh fun i wish i could i actually have a date that night oh i see how it is oh come on you know i'd hang out with you guys if i could yeah i'm just playing i'm excited for you
let me know how it goes Yeah.
So normal. This, this conversation is very natural, very typical.
Okay. Exactly. Right.
And this is, it's a really interesting way to, if, if you invite someone somewhere and they say no, even if they give you a reason why you're also sort of letting them know that you are sad, they can't come, but in a playful way.
Right. It's interesting.
No, that's a good point.
Cause if you invite someone and they just say, I can't come and you go on, okay, you're just like, good.
I didn't want you there anyway.
way. You didn't really want them to come.
There's so many things you could say that would sort of give that impression that you don't mind that they can't come.
You don't want to do that.
That's right. Exactly.
But there's a lot of good because this can also be used when someone really is upset.
So for example, let's say a friend says they can't hang out and then you see them with another friend at the movies or something.
And then they're like, I see how it is.
Then it would be like, oh, they're really mad.
So it really depends on the context.
You want to avoid using it if you really do have a reason to be angry that would create awkwardness yeah it makes me think of high school like trios of friends right well is when the two hang out you know or maybe even adults too absolutely there may be a time where something like that happens but you would not want to create this awkwardness by saying that and calling them out in public like maybe have a conversation with them privately later like that hurt my feelings but I would would really avoid this.
This could hurt a connection for sure.
Yep. Be careful. There's always, it's a double -edged sword with these more advanced, precise phrases, right?
We need to have the context right.
Make sure it's the right tone.
There's a lot to think about here, Aubrey.
Exactly. Just say it when you're not really upset.
If you're really upset, don't say this.
Nice. Okay. Next one.
I see what you did there.
So this one's more about when someone makes a joke and you are acknowledging that you get it, right?
Kind of? Would you say?
Yeah. I feel like there's two ways.
That's the first way we use it.
Just like you did at the top of the episode, acknowledging you got a joke, let's show a mini role play what that would look like.
Yeah, let's do that.
Here we go. Yes. What do you think of this logo?
Oh, I see what you did there.
The U looks like a smile.
I love it. After someone makes a joke or a pun, then we're just pointing out that we see it, we appreciate what they've done.
Yeah. But the other way we use this is when we're sharing that we think something is impressive mmm I love that yeah what would that look like Aubrey how could that okay oh so this I've flipped him here so that one I just did was what would be impressive right I'm showing you oh I see what you did here you've taken the you and made it a smile I want to tell you I think that's impressive I'm impressed by what you did yeah then the other way like at the top of the episode where it's a joke let's do an example there maybe you're at the zoo yeah exactly and someone says I'm very happy happy to be
here with you." Oh, and you're like looking at the bears and be like, I see what you did there.
A little pun. Right?
Like a pun. It's fun.
Yeah. Or the thing could kind of be both.
If people, going back to the logo idea, I mean I think it's kind of cool, our logo is the Statue of Liberty holding an iPad and headphones.
So it's like American culture and then listening to a podcast, right?
It's kind of cool. Yeah.
So, someone could be like, I see what you did there, right?
Right. Or even using all ears English as the company because it's this cool idiom.
Yes. We're all ears, right?
Yes. I bet a lot of our listeners have been like, I see what you did there.
I see what you did there.
Right? So, it's kind of impressive if I don't say so myself and it's also kind of a joke, a little bit of a pun.
Play on words. A little bit of a pun.
Play on words. Exactly.
Love it. Absolutely.
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Okay, Aubrey, we're back with a role play.
So we are at the beach. Fun.
All right. Want to start us out?
Mm -hmm. Oh, okay. Yes.
Isn't that Maggie with the blue hat over there?
Oh, you're right. It is.
I see how it is. I invited her, but she said she had plans.
Well, it looks like she's on a date.
Maybe she didn't want to tell us.
Yeah, maybe we tease her too much about her dating life.
They look pretty serious.
Yeah, they're like two birds in love.
A couple of tweet hearts.
Oh, I see what you did there.
I had to look up like a corny joke because I couldn't think of anything for this role play.
I needed one. I was like, yeah, I don't use puns very much. but once in a while i'll come up with one but then it's not really like i'm not speaking in that moment or there's no platform to share it and it's so disappointing you know yes no one's around to hear it i love it when they happen accidentally sometimes you'll say something and realize it's a pun you'll be like no pun intended but also see what i did there yes yes yes i love it we should do another episode we should revisit puns i think michelle and i did one years ago but we haven't talked about them in a while so that'd be a good one
to come back to yeah i'd love that let's go over the role play I first said oh you're right that is Maggie I see how it is I invited her but she has plans so this is interesting because I could potentially be upset about that she told us she had plans couldn't come and then we see her at the beach yeah I couldn't say this to her imagine walking up to her and be like I see how it is you're on a date you said you couldn't hang out with us never would I do that I could say it to you yeah I mean you might do that depending on your personality and your relationship you might escalate but that's really
saying like we're going to fight now not really but making it awkward creating a lot of drama i mean maybe if someone's cheating on someone right that kind of scenario then that person is confronting the person right yeah maybe they might say that to someone um i don't know if you'd say i see how it is i think you'd be like how dare you yeah how dare you sure sure because i see how it is still a little playful right even when you're mad yeah maybe if it's very early stages of dating and you're not exclusive yet because some people have that whole scenario they're dating a few people the first
few days you haven't had the talk yet maybe you want to keep it playful and joking and act like you don't care right but you are bringing up the topic and you're why you run into them in public with another person like i see it how it is it's fine yes yes exactly so again depending on when you drop this it could have very different meanings right exactly and then at the end you You used our other one when I made this cheesy joke, a couple of tweet hearts, because a bird makes the sound of tweet, but we usually say sweet hearts.
You said, I see what you did there.
Yeah. And it's good to have this as a resource, this phrase, because when someone makes a pun, we should say something, right?
Maybe we could laugh, but we should say something.
We can't just go on.
I agree. It would be really awkward if you just don't say anything, especially if they're looking at you like, did you get it?
Did you pick that up?
They want an acknowledgement of their pun, right?
Even if you're like, good one.
Roll your eyes. People that come up with puns, they want to be acknowledged, right?
Because they're proud of their pun.
Yeah, exactly. What's another episode we should check out, Aubrey?
Anything? Well, here's what's interesting.
You'll note in the title, we had three ways because the third one I wanted to share is tell me how you really feel.
I love this one. But I found an episode that we did on the Business English Podcast, 295, was what should you do when a coworker is rude to you.
And we were discussing strategies for handling workplace rudeness and we taught that phrase.
Like, wow, tell me how you really feel.
It's a lighthearted way to address like overly blunt or critical remarks.
So you can go to the Business English Podcast, check out that one for details on this third way to connect.
I love that. Guys, open the search bar, type in business English, the yellow will come up.
Hit the follow button on that show.
And where should we leave our listeners today i mean this is clearly about connection this episode absolutely today's phrases are great for building connection but also like lindsay was saying be careful with the intonation and the context because it could hurt the connection if you use them at the wrong way or if you say them in like a monotone they need to be fun and upbeat and for the most part don't say them when you're really mad about something yeah really high level episode today love it all about connection aubrey we'll see you in the next one all right have a good afternoon okay take
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