This is an All Ears English podcast, episode 2452, how to let others relax with one simple phrase.
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Are you always worried about time?
In today's episode, you'll get one common but simple way to let others know that they don't have to rush.
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Hello, Lindsay. How are you today?
Hello, Aubrey. I'm doing well.
How are you? What's what's going on today?
day. Ooh, not much. I'm getting ready to head up to Idaho for a month.
It is too hot in Phoenix.
Yeah. I can't stay.
I got to get up north where it's cooler.
Yeah. It's going to be a great summer up there.
I hope you have a good time.
Yes. I'm excited. But I have a question for you to start us out.
Okay. Do you ever rush things or are you good at taking your time?
I usually am good at taking my time, but honestly, some things I have to rush.
Like when we bought a house back in 2021, 21.
It was a really crazy hot housing market and the favor was with the sellers, not the buyers.
There was a lot of competition.
So we saw this house and we had to make a bid on it almost right away.
It's not like you could go home and just think for a week.
Maybe now you could in this housing market, but not.
That's a really good point, right?
Something like that, you don't have a choice.
If you take your time, someone else is going to snatch up the home that but you're looking at, right?
You can't, you have to rush sometimes.
Yeah, unfortunately.
And so we know, we don't know if we got a lemon or what we got, but we're here.
So, right. Hey, we make the most of it.
We make the most of it.
It's our house, so it's okay.
This is a great question today, right?
Taking our time. How does this come into English?
So should I read the student question that this episode is inspired by?
Yeah, let's do it. All right.
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Absolutely. Thank you for your questions, everyone.
Yeah. I have a question for you.
To be honest, I've recently been curious about the meaning of, take your time.
If I translate it into my native language, it doesn't make sense.
Could you make it clear for me?
Thanks in advance. Kota Bacash Hussaini from Afghanistan stan and this question was asked on youtube great place to ask a question aubrey absolutely and oh this is such a great question this happens to me all the time if i try to translate directly into the languages i'm learning and things just won't make sense because it's interesting right if you think about the actual meaning of the verb take and then you're talking about time like how do you take time what does that mean it's actually quite idiomatic you know how do we take time where do we take it yes 100 and before we get any further into
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to love it all right good so let's dive into this this is a fantastic question and we use this a lot in English take my time take one's time right yes so first I have a question for Lindsay how many meanings do you think there are in English of the verb take and I'm not talking phrasal verbs okay actual verb take how many means okay if we take phrasal verbs out entirely then we just look at the verb take i would guess 15 to 20.
you're pretty close actually less i'm amazed you are there are ten ten um verbs but then also four nouns several idioms and many phrasal verbs yeah so this is so tricky that whenever you see the word take in an expression it could mean any number of things if it's part of an idiom part of a phrasal verb and then just even the verb on its own has so many meanings.
But so important for connection, right?
If we talk about the phrase take your time, I mean, this can do so much in the vibe, in the interaction and how stressed people feel or don't feel in a moment around you, right?
Absolutely. What a connection skill.
If you see that someone is stressed out, they know that they're taking your time and they're feeling anxious about it to say, it's fine, take your time, is such a great way to decrease the stress in a situation.
It's a really uncomfortable feeling if you're someone that has a lot of empathy, which I think both you and I probably do, Aubrey, to see someone rushing around us because they feel like they're burdening us or something, like to leave a room or something.
It's really powerful to be able to just say, relax, take your time.
There's no rush. Just take your time, gather your stuff, whatever it is, right?
Exactly. You actually just did this for me, Lindsay.
I don't even know if you noticed it.
We were prepping for an episode.
I had to do something quickly and you were like, take your time.
No problem. I've got to do this other thing anyway.
It's such a great way to connect with colleagues to support really instead of all of the things you could say that would make them even more stressed out that they're that you're making someone wait.
Instead, you can use a phrase like this to support them and decrease the stress.
Yeah. And ultimately as human beings, we don't want people to be stressed around us, right?
We want people to feel relaxed so we can connect on that level.
So super important.
Where else should we take this episode, Aubrey?
Yeah. Well, let's dive into, we're going to focus on take one's time today and related phrases.
There are quite a few ways that we say this.
So first of all, let's dive into this one.
It just means not hurry.
Like you're letting someone know they don't have to hurry.
They don't have to be stressed out.
If you say, take your time.
time. Yeah. For example, the concert doesn't start until 10.
So take your time, right?
Yeah. Maybe someone's getting ready quickly.
They're stressed out and you're like, oh, we have until 10, take your time.
Yeah, exactly. What else, Aubrey?
Is there another one or you might say, oh, we're in no hurry.
Take your time, right?
So these are similar phrases where you can give someone sort of the gift of, if they're assuming they're in a rush, they're assuming they don't have time and you use this phrase to let them know you can take your time yeah we often say it as a response right what do we what do we mean by that aubrey as a response to to something else yeah let's show a role play to see how this looks as a response i'll start us out okay i'll try to get ready quickly i know we're supposed to be there by five oh take your time okay yeah so i'm responding to you because you've said that you believe there's some kind
of time constraint right exactly right and so often it's this is how we just use it to respond to someone to let them know and we might be agreeing they need to rush you know you're not saying no problem i don't mind being late we can be there until seven but you're just saying take your time just to yeah make sure that you know you shouldn't be stressed out right and this is the fun part sometimes it's used in a sarcastic way yes to apply if you want to tease someone or or you actually are impatient um and someone is being slow with something tell us more about that aubrey yeah so let's show
this in a little mini role play here because yes we use this a lot sarcastically to be funny sort of teased but also to let someone know like you're being slow right yeah a little passive aggressive i would say a little bit aggressive all right i'll start us out with a little role play here uh the flight boards in 20 minutes and you're stopping for coffee oh it'll be quick okay sure take your time and i got it from your tone of voice too right take take your time.
Right. There's a little bit of a warning in that tone of voice of we could miss the flight and it could be your fault.
Right. Exactly. Like you're saying a lot with the tone and the words.
Right. I'm saying like, I really am not OK with this.
You're going to make us late.
It's all there in just the tone.
OK, well, take your time.
Exactly. And what else do we need to know here when we're using it without sarcasm, Aubrey?
So because this is used often sarcastically, If you do mean it, if you really want to let them know it's fine, take your time, you need to provide more information so that no one assumes you're being sarcastic.
The context will be important.
Often you can tell from context.
So if I wanted to let you know, oh, actually, we have time for you to get coffee, I would say something else.
Let's look at this role play, how it could look if I'm not being sarcastic.
Okay, so you're being genuine here, like you're actually not worried about the time right exactly exactly so same situation our flight is boarding pretty soon you you get in line at starbucks maybe right and so then i would say oh you're stopping for coffee oh i'll be quick okay take your time the security line is short so we're fine yeah i 100 agree with that i think it's really important to add and even to the extent that when we did the last role play i felt a little awkward just saying take your time right The first one that we know, we should say more to make sure they know you're not being
sarcastic. Yeah, exactly.
Yeah, that's here. If I just said, take your time, right?
You're shopping for coffee.
I'll be quick. Take your time.
You might wonder if I'm being passive aggressive.
Is she being sarcastic?
Because the tone, if it's not obvious, then there's ambiguity.
You're not sure. But the more context you can provide this where I say like, Oh, security line short, we're fine.
Then, then, you know, I'm not being sarcastic.
Yeah. Aubrey, are you someone who's very time conscious in the sense that you're always kind of aware of the time or are you someone who could just, I don't know, maybe show up to a party late and not realize it kind of, because some people just don't have that much of an awareness in their, in their personal lives of time, which can be a question.
I had to sort of think about this while you're asking.
Usually I am very time conscious.
I don't want to be late.
I don't want to make people wait on me.
I feel really terrible if ever I'm late to a meeting or miss an appointment.
I feel badly. So, I try to really be cognizant of the time.
But lately, more and more, if I don't have an alarm on my phone or check my calendar every few minutes without even meaning to, I'm going to misthink.
There's just so much going on with all my kids and everything.
So, I've started to keep my phone with me and I'm setting alarms all day long so that I don't miss anything.
I don't want want to be late.
Yeah, for sure. I mean, there's also a cultural element here too, right?
In American culture, we're told that time, well, there's a lot we could say about this, right?
That life is ruled based on time and schedules, whereas other cultures, it's ruled based on relationships a bit more.
The time of a meeting can be flexible depending on how much of the relationship we need to build and that could affect the next meeting, but that's okay in some places, right?
Whereas it's not okay here and there's a whole lot we could talk about with That's such a good point.
This is really fascinating because often in the United States, relationships are built because you are respecting someone's time.
And when we feel that from someone, that creates the connection like, okay, they're respecting my time.
Interesting. Yes. Very interesting.
Versus in another place in the world, it might be more about not adhering to the time, right?
There's not a strict schedule in which we can have this meeting.
It's more flexible.
Wow. Okay. And that might create a bond or it's like, oh, they know they can count on me to not be worried if we're late.
So yeah, that's a very cultural.
Interesting. All right.
I wanted to share a couple of similar phrases.
phrases really quickly.
We also say no rush.
Same thing, right? No rush.
We got plenty of time.
Same meaning. Yeah.
Love that one. So for example, I know you said you'd submit the draft by today, but no rush.
Yeah. So if ever there isn't a hard deadline, if at work or in everyday life, it's always, this is such a great way to alleviate stress for people.
We all have so much going on.
Anytime you can let someone know that you don't need it urgently, there's no rush.
Take your time. let them know it's always totally and that that helps people to understand what's really important and what's more flexible even though we have you know we have timelines and deadlines for everything it's never that everything has to be done on that date that we say it does right some things are more flexible than others and then sometimes there are things that really do need to be done on that date because someone else is waiting for it or something so if we're prioritizing everything at the same level we don't know what needs so this is always really valuable if you can let someone
know no rush take your time do right another one is no hurry if you say like oh I got to the restaurant there's an hour wait so no hurry maybe you text this to someone you don't know they might be rushing they might be worried or they're in traffic if you can let someone know this it's just like a gift you're giving them to no longer be stressed about the time to sit back and relax and exhale for a second right Right.
Yeah. Yeah. Or just no hurry.
Take your time. Totally.
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Okay, Aubrey, we are back.
And is there one other little phrase that our listeners should know today?
Yeah, this is sort of a bonus phrase we're going to add that when you're saying take your time, take one's time, often we'll add the word sweet.
It's sort of an expression to take one's sweet time.
It means to do something slowly or leisurely without rushing or feeling pressured.
We also sometimes use this sarcastically, so you have to be careful, right?
Oh, take your sweet time.
It's like, why are you being so slow?
Loaded meaning there, right?
Loaded meaning for sure.
Here's an example. They're always late, So I'm going to take my sweet time getting ready.
Yeah, it's interesting how adding sweet adds a little more.
There's something there of like you're either annoyed or like you're intentionally being slow for some reason.
Yeah, it's a little sassy, isn't it?
Yes, it is sassy. I'm going to take my sweet time.
Any other sample sentence, Aubrey?
Yeah, you might say, my dog is never in a rush when I take him outside to do his business.
He always takes his sweet time.
This is my neighbor.
She's always like, she's out there at least an hour.
An hour? Oh my gosh.
Yeah, they can take advantage.
They know what they're getting.
They know that you have to wait for a walk because we're going to be outside a while.
They want to sniff everything first. Yeah, it's so true.
Should we go into a role play, Aubrey?
Yeah, let's do it. You and I are siblings on a family vacation at the Grand Canyon in this role play.
Oh boy, all right. Here we go.
I'll start us. Lindsay, we're all waiting on you.
Get a move on. Relax.
Look at this view. I'm taking my sweet time.
I want to enjoy every moment, and mom said we're in no rush.
You know what? You're right.
Who knows when we'll be here again.
Let's take our time.
And that's always a good reminder when you're with family or friends and you just snap into the present, and you think, hey, let's be present here.
Right? Absolutely. Yes, I find myself doing this where I'm like, I'll have an itinerary, and we need to get to the next thing.
So I'm not enjoying the moment.
You're like, look at this view take time to be present yeah that's what concerns me about heavily scheduled trips where everything is planned out it would yeah you know so I like to strike a balance but then if you only have a week for a trip you know in my 20s when I traveled South America with a backpack I had no agenda I was just okay let's check in at the hostel let's go do this let's sit in a cafe for three hours but it's not as easy now I know right now you're more aware of what you're missing if you're you're sweet time at one place because you only have so much time to pack everything
in. It's true. All right.
Let's review the role play.
So first I said, relax.
Look at this view. I'm taking my sweet time.
I want to enjoy every moment.
And mom said, we're in no rush.
Okay. Yeah. So if I said to you, like, take your sweet time, Lindsay, that's for sure being sarcastic, right?
I'm really saying, can you please be faster?
But when we say this about ourselves, like you did here, we're just saying like, like, I'm going to take time to enjoy this moment.
You could say either I'm taking my time or I'm taking my sweet time.
Yes, I love it. And then what did you say, Aubrey?
And then I said, you know what?
You're right. Let's take our time.
I also wanted to highlight when I first, when we first started the role play and I said, get a move on.
Do you say this, Lindsay, to tell someone to hurry?
Move on. I do sometimes.
Yeah. Get a move on.
Get moving. Let's go.
Yeah. It's kind of a fun expression, right?
Like, okay, we're in a hurry.
Get a move on. Four words, guys, separate.
Get a move on. Kind of a weird chunk.
It's a good one. It's a good one.
And then at the end, yeah, again, you said let's take our time.
Yes. Love that. I think I love it when I meet someone who embodies this fully, you know, people who just live a little bit of a slower life or a more mindful life.
I feel like just being around them, I can learn a lot.
Yeah. My grandma was really really this way.
Her name was Lova. She passed away, but she really took time to enjoy the little things, the little moments, and she would name them, right?
She would be like, look at this beautiful flower or look at this adorable baby.
And she would sort of bring you into the moment with her.
She was really amazing about that.
Or she'd be like, sit down with me and enjoy this cookie.
She's like, this is delicious, right?
Instead of letting things passerby.
That's so smart. That's Mindfulness 101.
She was a Buddhist. I can tell.
She was a Buddhist at heart, for sure.
I love it. That's beautiful.
That is something to learn.
I mean, I feel like that's my takeaway for today.
Now our listeners have this phrase, but what's really important is not the words or the grammar. It's how we make people feel when we say that to them.
Right, Aubrey? Absolutely.
And if you have that opportunity to let someone know that they do have time or you don't mind waiting.
If you can use one of these phrases, you know, no rush, take your time, that really is valuable.
It could really lower someone's stress about a situation which is huge.
And it could change the way you see the world.
I mean, you could rush past a rose bush or you could actually look at it right and really see smell it and fully take it in.
Yeah, we say take time to smell the roses and it's so true if you're on a walk, take Take time to enjoy the beauty of the earth.
Don't just rush because you're thinking about the next thing you have to do.
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All right. Good stuff, Aubrey.
You have a good day.
I'll talk to you soon.
You too. See you next time.
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