This is an All Ears English Podcast Episode 2339, moving how to connect an English over the stressful moment.
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One of the most stressful moments in life is when you move, but this can also be a huge connection topic.
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Hey Lindsay how are you?
I'm doing alright Michelle.
How's everything going?
Everything's good. Lindsay, do you find moving to be very stressful?
You've made a few big moves in your life.
Moving is stressful.
Period. No argument.
No argument. 100 % it is.
What about you? I mean I've made a...
I'm trying to think of how many times I've moved in my life and definitely it can be stressful, so that's what we're going to be talking about today.
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So I'm getting back to moving, Michelle.
It is stressful. There's no question about that.
Right, yeah, would you say moving is more stressful than, say, going through a breakup?
Oh, it depends on who you're breaking up with.
That's true. That's true.
Let's say a really important person.
breakup. I think probably moving would be less stressful than that.
Just if you feel like you were in love with the person and that feels more stressful to me, because logistics are just logistics.
They can be ironed out.
But people are people and they're in your life.
But I think there are not many other things.
I would say it's probably in the top seven things that can happen to you.
Right? Yeah. Yeah. So actually, there was a poll.
So there's an article.
It's on NAR .realtors.
So that's the National Association of Realtors.
This was from a couple of years back, February 23, 2022.
And they talked about a poll from move .org, and it says, 38 % of the people who took this poll said, and I quote, moving is more stressful than parting ways with a significant other.
Yes. So that's interesting.
So, yeah, I wanted to share that with you guys, but today this is I mean, I think most people have moved.
I mean, listen, that's a generalization, but many people have gone through moves.
And this is just another great topic to connect with others.
I mean, but Lindsay, but why is moving stressful?
I think what's stressful about moving is is that everything is kind of floating at the same time.
You have no anchor.
You have no anchor.
Everything's in boxes.
You don't have a place to cook, because you have to do takeout, because you're closing down the kitchen.
There's no anchor for you.
The home is the anchor.
And when you lose that, it can be a little stressful.
Or when something is not right at home, that can be stressful, too.
But that's another topic for another day, but yeah.
No, it's true. That is true.
the home is the anchor.
And yeah, that's true.
It's not just about the moving.
It's about your living situation.
What's going on. But, yeah, I mean, I recently went through a move and I was living, as you probably saw in my other space.
Yeah, I know. If you've been watching our videos, you've probably seen me in several different locations, I was living in an Airbnb for about five months, and it was really nice, but it was the kitchen was it wasn't somewhere.
It wasn't somewhere where you wanted to spend a lot of time.
So we found ourselves just always trying to go out, not always to eat.
I mean, we tried to cook in, but it wasn't really a great setting for cooking, just so now we're in a house, but it's also just unpacking the boxes.
and so it's just, everything has been kind of, I guess we would say influx, right?
In flux, yeah, completely.
Everything's in flux.
That's the typical move, right?
Again, no central anchor.
And things are really uncertain about where you're gonna be next, right?
Sometimes when we're moving and we're packing up our old home, we don't know what it's gonna be like in the new place.
Right? It's that uncertainty that we can all identify with that brings us all together as humans.
Exactly, exactly. So and you kinda have to figure out your new routine and your new space.
you have to learn to where you're living, how all the lights, what lights, what light switches go to, what lights go like that, right?
But so we're gonna talk about this today.
So here are some vocab words for the topic of moving.
Lindsey, what's the first one?
I thought our listeners know this one.
We'll start with the straightforward one, so packer unpack.
Obviously, you have to do this.
There's no way around it.
Have you unpacked all your boxes yet?
And if you ask a friend to move, this is my opinion.
I have a bias. If you ask a friend to move, you need to already be packed by the time the friend gets over, because I've had scenarios where I've offered or been willing to help move, but you get to their house and you think you're gonna be moving boxes, but no, you're putting things in boxes, which is too
intimate and it's too dangerous because you could break something...it's not good.
It's not good. So when you ask a friend to move, make sure everything is boxed up, labels on the boxes, and all they need to do is walk the boxes outside.
That's just my bias.
I think no. I think that that's a good idea.
That's a good idea.
So here's another one to a tool for two for one.
So declutter or sort.
So similar ideas. So declutter is you're kind of well, you're getting rid of the clutter, clutter, clutter, Lindsay clutter is just stuff everywhere.
Whereas the opposite of clean and empty.
it's busy, right? For example I have to declutter this room before I start packing there's so much to sort out into these drawers, right?
Yeah and sort goes - sort or sort out goes into this because when you're decluttering sometimes you're sorting you're putting things maybe into categories putting things into the suitcase or the boxes.
Yeah and I think the word purge goes in here too as a bonus.
And this is why this is how my parents ran into problems.
They didn't move for 25 years, so by the time they did move, the attic was full of old furniture.
I'm sure this happens to a lot of older couples just packed with stuff from our childhood and because they never moved.
So if you move frequently, that doesn't happen.
Usually, you're purging things from other eras of time.
Like this thing from 5 years ago, our kids have grown out of it.
We're going to purge it or give it away, right?
Right, right. Right, right now, exactly.
And that's, yeah, my parents, they downsized and they got rid of so much stuff.
And I had to go through my things.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's hard, but Lindsay, do you think it's better to declutter and purge things before you move, like as you're packing up or as you're unpacking?
Oh, I think definitely before you pack things up because you don't want to move and pay to have a moving company move things that you're not going to keep, I think.
So I would do the purging first, and then pack what's left over.
Don't you think? I think.
But unfortunately, my, when we were moving, we didn't quite have time to - You don't have time.
Yeah, yeah. Well and also we were living in and I have two kids.
So you know you try and get rid of something and it just bounces back to you.
Now I'm doing a lot of the purging and it's quite an event.
No, that's good too.
I mean, purging takes a lot of time.
You can see an entire Saturday just flash before your eyes when you get into that purge mode, you start at eight a .m.
and before you know it's like seven p .m.
You've been purging all day.
So if you don't have the time, you have to be in the mood.
You have to be like you have to be in the right mood, so all right.
And now we're just saying moving day, or sometimes people say moving day or move in day.
So this is a big day.
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Okay, Michelle, we have a few more key phrases that our listeners know to be able to have that connection conversation.
Big topic here, right?
Deep clean. This would go along with purging.
Sometimes you want to do a deep clean in the new place before you move in.
We did this when we moved into our current house.
We had it professionally cleaned and painted.
just because someone else is live there, and you just want to, I don't know, you just want it to feel brand new.
Right feel fresh. And then the last one is packing supplies or moving boxes.
So, do we have any extra packing supplies like bubble wrap or moving boxes?
I'm getting ready to move next week.
Yes. Love it. So let's get to the important thing, which is why is this really such a big connection topic?
Michelle? Well because because it is so intense and people know it is such a big experience in your life because it doesn't happen every day well unless you're maybe like a sports star and you keep getting traded.
But because everybody can relate to this topic this intense emotional topic to relate to people ask them about their experiences.
Also a good way to see if the friend needs help with moving, but it's just a very universal topic in my opinion.
What do you think, Lindsey?
Yeah. And I also think it's a real moment where you could find out who your real friends are and to be honest, I think at some point, people just decide to start hiring movers, which is probably a rite of passage in life.
Like you're just, it's enough.
At that point, you're going to hire movers, but there's a period of time in most people's lives in their teens and twenties and after college, maybe thirties, forties, like you still rely on and your friends to help you move and when you ask someone to help you move what do they say?
We find out a lot about our relationships in those moments.
Exactly, exactly. That's such a good point.
So should we do a role play?
Sure, let's do it Michelle.
So here I just moved and you are my friend.
All right. Okay. All right, so how was moving day?
Oh stressful. I had a really deep clean place.
the place I left and the one I moved in to as well.
Ooh, that's a lot. Yeah and I have packing supplies and moving boxes everywhere.
I've barely unpacked anything.
I would just start decluttering once you unpack to make sure you don't have too much, also just sort things by room.
Yeah, you'll get there.
I know, thanks Michelle.
Ooh, it feels really overwhelming when the movers have gone away, the moving company has dropped everything in your front hallway.
And you're just looking at those boxes.
But again, this is a very human experience.
The vast majority of people are going to move at least once in their lives.
Right. And so we can relate here.
So what did you say first Michelle?
So I said how was moving day.
Mm -hmm. And then I said, oh stressful.
I had to really deep clean the place I left in the one I moved into.
That's not good. Not going to have to clean on both sides.
no, no, no. And then you said, yeah and I have packing supplies and moving boxes everywhere I barely unpacked anything and then you said I would just start decluttering once you unpack to make sure you don't have too much right and so yeah so you're doing it on the other end which yeah if you don't have time
on the front end you're doing it on the back end makes sense yeah and then I said you also just sort things by room so how do I get organized.
But it's also kind of exciting when you walk into a new home, and you have a chance to kind of paint the blank canvas.
Yeah, right. And decide how you want things to be arranged, and it could be something new, it could be similar to your old home, it's exciting at the same time.
So there's a lot of emotions running a lot a lot.
So that's why it's such a good connection topic, I think.
Yes. Guys, if you haven't already head over to Episode 2324.
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And I think that's the takeaway is these are big moments.
Moving is weddings, getting married, maybe having a child, moving to maybe your permanent home, let's say, big moments in life.
So you want to share them and not just big moments.
Even if you're just moving from one apartment to a next, the next you're going to be in.
Other people have done it.
they felt that level of stress.
So connection topic.
Alright, Lindsay. Well thanks for chatting about this with me today.
And guys, let us know if you're going through a move.
Good luck. I'm curious how many of our listeners are going through a move right now.
Very interesting, right?
Alright, alright. Take care, Michelle.
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