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Going through any earth shattering changes.
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Hey, Lindsay, how are you?
Feeling great today, Michelle.
How about you? How's everything?
I'm good. I'm good. Lindsay, so you've moved many times in your life.
Would you say moving is a life-changing experience?
100%, Michelle. 100%. Yes, it's awkward, as we talked about in another episode, the packing.
But then, once you're settling in, yeah.
I mean, it's also an opportunity to change a lot of things, like habits.
It's a chance to start over in a lot of ways.
Yeah, yeah, it's true. Have you ever heard that?
I don't know where this comes from, but they say that moving is one of the most intense experiences you can have in your life, right?
I've heard it's one of the most stressful.
Yeah, that's what I think I've seen that stat somewhere.
You know, yeah. But it's also a good, it's exciting, too.
There's a positive side to it, don't you think?
I think you need to have a positive outlook.
I think it's really about your outlook, because if you, you just kind of have to look at it as a little bit exciting, maybe a little bit funny even, because everything's kind of, I mean, I can talk about this from my own situation right now.
Right. It's in the process of moving.
And if you don't laugh, you'll cry.
So you might as well enjoy it.
For sure, for sure. Yeah, it's a, it's a good chance to learn about yourself.
It's a good chance to challenge yourself.
So we're getting into this question today.
We have a question from Alvis Gutierrez Gomez.
So exciting. And I love this question.
Can I read it, Michelle?
Shall I go ahead? Yes. Okay.
Alvis says, I just found your podcast and I love it.
I might be getting to Greeley, Colorado soon.
So I would like to know if you could talk about moving to a new city and life changing experiences.
Thanks. Yay, our listeners coming to Colorado.
I have to say I'm excited about this.
Is that close to you? Greeley is, I think like an hour north, I believe, of Denver.
Yeah, it's kind of close, but it's, yeah, that's exciting.
Colorado's great. So looking forward to having you in our state, Alvis.
Yes. Okay. Well, good luck on the move.
So Lindsay, when did you move to Denver?
When was the last time you moved?
Oh my gosh. I moved to Denver in 2019 right before the pandemic.
And that was the thing that was challenging.
Yeah, it's been that long.
And we moved in November of 2019.
So it's like, then the pandemic started in March.
So I didn't really have much of a chance to get out and get set up.
Yeah, definitely. That must have been stressful.
And you were also moving around because you had been in LA.
And you had a lot of changes.
So was it hard to get adjusted?
How did you handle that?
Like emotionally? I think I settled in.
We already had contacts and we had family here.
So that helped for sure.
And it helps that there's so much sunshine here.
Yeah. So I could be outside a lot.
And then we got a puppy and that was, that was it.
That did it. That did it for sure.
So today we're going to share ways to talk about how something has completely changed your life.
So talking about these life changing experiences before we get into that, guys, if you haven't just recently we did episode 2256.
That was, is it good or bad to be stubborn?
Sometimes maybe you have to be a little bit stubborn to get through these life changes.
Yeah. And what do you mean by that stubborn, like holding on to your old ways?
Or how would that, what would that mean in the context of moving?
Being stubborn. Yeah. To me, I was thinking of stubborn here more just extra true.
If you're thinking about stubborn in the true sense of the word, it may be not be good to be stubborn when you're moving.
But maybe in some ways it's about just being strong and tough.
So that's how I was thinking of it.
But actually, resilient, kind of resilient, right.
Right. Exactly. God, I love that word resilient.
Yeah. Resilience. So good.
Yeah. Let's give some examples, right?
So what is the first example of how to describe, so we're talking about how to describe this experience of moving, right, Michelle?
So the one thing you could say is the hardest part for me to adjust to is or was, right?
So for example, for me right now, I'm driving more.
I'm not totally in the suburbs, suburbs, but I am not in the city anymore.
At this point, I'm nearby the city.
But I could say the hardest part for me to adjust to is the driving.
Yeah, that's fair. 100%.
That's something I would absolutely struggle with.
Yeah. That is because it's changing more than just the way you get around, right?
It's changing your vision of yourself and how active you are and how you conduct your daily tasks.
Yes. Right. I was with a friend and we were at one side of this big shopping complex.
And we needed to get to the other side and she said, oh, should we take the car?
And I said, no, no. I said, I said, I need to walk.
I need to move. I can't do that.
So yeah. But you can also talk about things you're excited about with moving.
Yeah. So yeah, how could you say that?
OK, you would say I'm most excited about or I'm most excited for.
So for example, I'm most excited about making new friends, right?
So when you do move to a new place, it's a really cool chance to build your social circle.
Right? That's pretty cool.
Yeah. And it can be intimidating, of course.
To me, the biggest thing that I've learned now is I think about my closest friends that I made in the last place I lived.
And what I realized is it didn't happen overnight.
You know, you might make friends, but it just takes time.
I think, how did it happen where a friend becomes someone you meet a couple of times and then all of a sudden over time, then they feel you feel so close to them and you're messaging them all the time.
You're very close and it just kind of happens, but it doesn't happen right away.
So what I've learned actually as I've gone into new experiences where I am now is I don't get too nervous.
I don't get upset or I don't know.
I don't put too much pressure on myself because I know that it takes time.
Maybe I met somebody nice.
Okay, maybe we talked, maybe we didn't.
I don't know yet who will be the close friends.
Yeah, you just can't know.
So you can't kind of rest all your hopes on, oh, this is definitely going to be my friend.
Maybe not. Maybe it's that other person who maybe doesn't seem as interesting at first, but eventually that person is more interesting.
It's so true. Yeah, so you can't put too much pressure on yourself when you're trying to meet new people.
That does just take time.
I love that. That's a good perspective, Michelle.
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Okay, there's a couple of other structures that we can have for our listeners to use.
As our listener moves to Greeley, Colorado, or anywhere else our listeners are moving.
What is that, Michelle?
The what? Let's just teach us first this vocabulary word, earth shattering.
Yes. Earth shattering.
What does that mean, Lindsay?
It means big changes. This indicates something major is changing, like the earth is moving below you.
Right? Changing in your world.
You could say something like, the blank is earth shattering.
You could tag on something, if you want to talk about yourself, you could say for me, or you could say for us, or my family, or whoever it is.
For example, I could say this isn't true, but the change in climate is earth shattering for my family.
Yeah. Would you say, Michelle, here's a question.
Is this mostly for more negative leaning things?
Or could it be for, let's say you won the lottery?
Our lottery win was earth shattering.
What do you think, actually?
I think so too. I think so too.
It's just something that's a big deal.
Yeah. A big deal. It's a big deal.
Yeah. But I think it tends to be more towards kind of like more negative things usually, but it could work for positive things too.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Or what's another one, Lindsay?
This is a little bit more just literal.
Yeah. The biggest change is, like the biggest change is the prices here in this new place I live.
Everything is so much more expensive here.
For me, the biggest change in Denver is the air is so dry.
I mean, it's incredible how different it is from the East Coast.
You need to put moisturizer on five times a day.
And it's crazy. Do you? It's really not dry?
It's so dry here. It's so dry.
So when you grow up in one region, like for me, the East Coast is usually pretty humid.
So lots of moisture in the air.
You move to the mountain west.
That could be a big change that you might want to talk about when it comes to that moving.
Yeah. Right. Yeah. Very interesting.
And guys, this could apply to many things.
You know, here we're talking about moving because that's what our listener is talking about, but this could apply to anything.
A change in a job, a change in school, change in routine.
Really these are very useful expressions for sharing how you feel about these.
Yeah. I love that. And do talk about it, right?
Open these topics with people.
Be open because everyone, many people are going through a change that maybe you don't even realize they're going through a change.
They just may not be talking about it.
A smaller change, whatever it is, then you opening up that topic will make them more likely to want to share too.
So that's connection right there.
Right. Right. Exactly.
Because it can show a little bit of your vulnerability if you're expressing your honesty about how you feel about these changes.
What is it there's an expression that the only thing that stays the same is change or something?
The only constant is change.
The only constant in life is change.
Yeah. The only constant in life is change.
Yes. Yes. I love that expression.
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