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Play it cool with these English idioms.
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Hey Aubrey, what's shaking?
Not much. How are you?
I'm feeling good today.
I'm feeling good is getting warm outside,
so I need to cool down.
A propos, we're talking about the word cool a little bit.
Are you good at keeping your cool, Lindsay?
It really depends, honestly, on how strong my meditation practice is
in any given week, ready-given month or season.
So I can tell you that.
I can imagine that.
That makes a huge difference.
Yes, same.
Yeah, because meditation really calms you.
They say it creates that space between the stimulus
and the response, and that's exactly what it is.
When you lose your cool, you kind of lash out,
you react quickly, and meditation expands
that essentially freedom of mind.
Oh man, I love that.
I'm so excited to go into some of these phrases today.
We use the word cool in so many amazing phrases.
You just heard a couple of them.
Keep your cool.
Lose your cool.
But this was actually inspired by a recent conversation
that you and Michelle had when you were talking about
saying, stay cool.
And you mentioned, you're like,
does anyone ever say this about the weather when it's really hot out?
Maybe we should ask Aubrey.
Yes.
We do.
In Arizona here, we'll say, stay cool when it's really hot out,
meaning like, whoo, avoid the heat.
You are our go-to resource for warm weather vocabulary.
Yeah.
I'm curious.
I know a lot of our listeners also live in very hot areas.
I'm curious if you say something like that too.
Yeah.
When you say goodbye, it's like,
stay cool or stay out of the heat.
Right.
I bet they do.
I would love to hear from our listeners maybe over on social.
But tell us a bit more about where else our listeners could go
to get more amazing content.
Yeah.
I was just, I was like, Lindsey, this came up
because when Jessica and I recorded the quiz for that episode,
I brought it up in the quiz.
I was like, Lindsey mentioned in the episode.
And I'm here to answer, yes, we say, stay cool.
So it was sort of bonus content for quiz takers.
And that happens a lot that, you know,
we will mention a term or sort of go past something.
And then in the quiz, we break it down.
We'll have an interesting question.
And there's quite a bit of bonus content there.
So if you're not a subscriber, you're missing out.
So you should subscribe to get those quizzes.
Yes.
I know. I wonder if our listeners even know what we're talking about
when we say the quiz.
There's all this extra content that you might be missing
if you are not subscribed.
So this is available at this time over on Apple Podcasts.
Right.
This is our Apple, our all-ers English plus offering.
So listen to Apple Podcasts to be able to get that.
All right, guys.
Good stuff.
Awesome.
Yes.
And you can sign up for a free trial.
Check it out.
So I know you're going to love it.
So yeah, it's so fun.
Just kind of love recording this.
Yeah, five minutes, right?
Three to five minutes, I think it's about five minutes
after every episode.
And then it's another angle on the topic.
And most importantly, we check your understanding.
Right.
How well did you understand?
How well you understood and get some extra insight
to some of the vocabulary host trivia,
which is always fun.
We pull out and see if you guys remember
some interesting things that we share here on the podcast.
They're really fun.
Try it out.
Like Aubrey said, you can do that trial,
seven-day trial.
And actually, I think it's a 30-day trial.
I think it's a 30-day trial.
So I can't lose.
I'm losing.
All right.
Good stuff, Aubrey.
Let's go into today's vocabulary, though.
What do you think?
So these phrases are so great for connection,
because we often need to talk about emotions
if we are keeping our cool and then apologize
if we lose control of them.
So this is a really important connection skill.
I'm excited for you guys to get the vocabulary
to be able to do that in a very native natural way.
Yeah.
So the first one, actually the first one,
I don't use much.
But I bet you might use this sometimes.
Keep a cool head.
All right.
Or keep your cool.
Those kinds of, I saw this one in sort of a list of idioms.
Keep a cool head.
And the more I thought about it, I don't hear that very often.
It's maybe a little outdated.
I think instead we say, keep your cool.
Wouldn't you agree?
Well, yeah, I agree.
I mean, I know that even keep your cool, though,
has been around since I was a kid.
I remember adult saying that.
Well, yeah, but I still hear that, right?
I still hear keep your cool.
I know what it means.
Keep a cool head.
I just feel like people don't say that as often.
But we do still say, keep your cool.
I love it.
Yeah.
So if you find yourself getting worked up,
getting upset, getting angry, getting anxious.
So when we say cool, is that an antidote
to any heightened emotion, or is it more getting angry?
Is it the opposite?
Good question.
It really means to stay calm.
But it could definitely be about anger or even just
jealousy, excitement, could be any emotion,
where you're getting a little worked up, anything,
where you would need to stay calm or panic.
It could be panic, right?
Like if you're an elevator and it drops, right?
Keep your cool.
Don't be panic.
Absolutely.
So for example, you might say, you may find yourself
getting worked up, but be sure to keep a cool head
or be sure to keep your cool.
Yeah, I like that.
Because that's how we can make logical decisions.
Yes.
It's a very kind way.
If you see someone getting agitated,
angry, really afraid, just be like, OK, keep your cool.
It's not patronizing, right?
I would prefer someone say this to me,
rather than like, don't panic, don't get angry.
Keep it interesting.
Right.
It's always better to say a positive sentence
than a negative instead of saying, don't do this.
Don't do that.
Say something positive in a way.
I try to keep my cool, but it's difficult
when I see someone treated unfairly.
Right.
This is very true for me.
Right. I'm usually able to keep my cool.
But every now and then, if I see unjust treatment of someone,
I feel myself lose my cool.
And I'm like, why?
That's good.
That's good.
That's just anger of like, God, I have something must be done.
Yeah, I love that.
I love that.
Yeah, that's why personal visions and the things we stand for
in life, we need to be in touch with that.
For sure.
Really good stuff.
So what's number two?
Number two is play it cool.
Sounds like it would be the same, but it means a little different.
It means to act naturally.
It can be like, you know, don't get nervous, don't panic.
But it also could just mean like, I think of this,
if you like saw a celebrity, like you might say,
I think that's Brad Pitt walking this way.
Play it cool, guys.
Right.
It means like action naturally.
Don't go crazy.
Don't swoon.
Don't swoon.
That's a good bonus for today.
Don't swoon.
Don't freak out and run around him and ask him for a photo.
Play it cool.
I think of this when I think of dating and someone says,
oh, I'm going to play it cool.
I'm not going to return their phone call right away.
That kind of thing.
Right.
Like someone.
Give a little time before you send a text.
Right.
Cool.
Right.
Right.
Exactly.
Yeah.
In a job interview too, right?
I tried to play it cool in the job interview,
but I'm not sure how well I did just trying to show that
you're not nervous or, or, you know, desperate.
Right.
Or just play it cool.
Yeah.
Or just that you maybe you really want the job, right?
You really want that job.
It looks like the dream job for you.
But you can't really show that because you need to kind of make it look
like you have other options.
Like it's kind of a little, you need a bit of that aloofness, right?
Exactly.
Exactly.
You're attractive.
You can be excited.
You can definitely let them know that you're interested.
You're excited about the job.
But if it can come across as too much,
if you don't have any aloofness, like it will feel like you have no other options.
You don't want that.
Right.
So that's where that would make sense playing it cool a little bit.
I might add more details though.
If I said that, right?
Play cool in the job interview just to say exactly what you were trying to do.
Because it's more obvious to me in dating or seeing a famous person
than it is in a job interview, I think.
Yeah.
This would definitely be part of a conversation, right?
You're then going to share like how it went exactly what you said or did.
Yeah.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
MoDo.
Okay.
And number three, Aubrey, what is it?
Yes, to lose one's cool, which means to lose your temper or get really angry.
It's really just the opposite of keeping your cool.
You lose your cool.
Yeah, for sure.
And be careful with the spelling guys,
bonus between loose and lose.
Maybe that's another episode for another day, Aubrey.
Very common mistake.
Yes.
It can be a real challenge sometimes in writing and speaking, pronouncing, reading.
Okay.
So what's the sample sentence?
You could say sometimes I lose my cool when I get really upset about something.
And this doesn't have to be a full-on explosion temper tantrum.
Just be like, I just don't stay as calm as I would like.
Right.
Exactly.
Or you could say, I'm really sorry about yesterday.
I totally lost my cool.
Now this might be a situation where you just blew up.
You stood up, got upset, walked out.
Yes.
I love the idea of walking out because you might not say anything.
But if you were angry and got up and left
when it was an awkward time to leave,
you could also apologize for losing your cool.
You got so angry that you left when it wasn't a good time to leave.
And also, this doesn't have to be just about physical.
You left a room.
You could also be an email you sent.
Right.
What is that?
Rule.
They say you should wait 24 hours before sending an email.
If you're angry person at all, give yourself time to calm down.
Time to get your cool back.
Yeah, for sure.
For sure.
Yeah, good stuff.
All right, what's number four?
All right, and this is what I should have said.
But I was trying not to give the spoiler too early.
We wouldn't say get your cool back.
We'd say cool off.
Give you time to cool off.
This is number four.
It means to become less angry time to calm down, cool down.
Yeah, I like that.
I need to cool off.
So for example, his coach pulled him from the game
and told him to cool off.
This, you'll see a lot, right?
We went to a basketball game not long ago
and I saw this happen a few times.
The players will get really upset
and they start fowling each other at a basketball game.
So the coach will pull them and you see them.
Tell them, take a minute to cool off.
Oh, interesting.
Good practice.
That's important for sure.
Yeah.
Or I felt myself getting angry.
So I took a beat.
So I took a beat to cool off.
This is interesting.
I took a beat.
What do we mean here?
Yeah, this is sort of newer slang.
I was wondering if you picked this up.
Yeah.
I'm hearing people say this more and more.
Like take a beat.
Take a minute to say like,
oh, I took a beat to cool down.
Just means like you took a little bit of time.
Oh, okay.
Interesting.
Good to know.
You're very tuned into the younger slang here
with your kids' obri, right?
You're hearing it.
That's true.
Inagers.
It's good.
It's good.
Yeah.
So, again, I feel like this is one.
I think it did start with the teenagers
and now I'm hearing it more.
Podcasts, TV shows.
There's one reality show where they're like saying it a lot.
So it's kind of trending.
It's trendy.
It's a neat.
I took a beat.
Love it.
To cool off.
Okay.
So we're going to put all this into a role plays.
We make it come to life and make it real.
Right?
So.
Yes.
This is a fun one.
You and I are in Bali on vacation for this one.
Like you want to come.
Bali.
I'm a bit slow.
Thank you.
We're a one minute vacation.
I love it.
Let's do it.
I'll start us out.
Sorry about yesterday when we were running late
and I lost my cool.
Oh, no worries.
I was surprised though.
You're usually pretty good at keeping your cool.
We all have our moments, I guess.
I'm glad you gave me some time to cool off
before we went out.
No worries.
Hey, is that Margot Robbie?
Oh my gosh.
I think it is.
Play it cool.
I'm sure she doesn't want people approaching her on vacation.
I have played.
I love it.
It had to be somewhere cool that we were vacationing
where Margot Robbie might also be on vacation.
Yeah.
I love that.
That's so funny.
And Bali is very cool.
I've always wanted to go to Bali.
I haven't been either.
But I've heard it's amazing.
Oh, I'm sure.
All right.
So here, we're on vacation.
And I was surprised.
You surprised me because you lost your cool.
So you said, sorry about yesterday
when we were running late and I lost my cool.
Do you, I guess maybe at the end,
I'll ask you what is the situation
in which you're most likely to lose your cool.
It's an airport, for example.
So think about that for a minute.
I'll be okay.
I'll think about it.
Yeah.
And I love this is how I would say.
If I'm apologizing for being a little short tempered,
a little snippy, this is probably how I would say it.
Sorry about yesterday.
I lost my cool.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
Sorry about yesterday.
I lost my cool.
I like that.
Sounds good.
Sounds clear.
And you're not overdoing it on apologizing either,
which is kind of good.
Exactly.
Exactly.
We're keeping it kind of like, and it probably wasn't
something super huge.
It might be the kind of thing where you don't even
remember me being upset.
It's like, oh, that was nothing.
No big deal.
But it was enough that I felt like I needed to apologize.
I lost my cool just a little bit.
I love that.
And then I said, no worries.
I was surprised, though.
You're usually pretty good at keeping your cool.
And we're still in the lose your cool.
Keep your cool.
Exactly.
These are opposites.
And yeah, it's interesting.
This is a compliment, right?
To tell someone, you're usually pretty good at keeping
your cool.
Just means you're usually pretty level-headed.
You're not one to lose your temper easily.
Love it.
And then what?
And then I said, I'm glad you gave me some time to cool off
before you went out.
So whatever had happened, you gave me some space
so that I could cool off before we had another interaction.
We probably didn't talk about it again until I apologize
the next day.
That's a good idea.
I didn't really think about what maybe I had done
to make you angry.
Yeah.
You were running late.
You were maybe why you were late.
And I was like, let's go.
Oh, good stuff.
And then you said, oh my gosh, I think it is.
Play it cool.
I'm sure she doesn't want people approaching her on vacation.
And this is definitely a time that I would use this.
If I saw someone famous, we're like, play it cool.
Hack natural.
I love it.
So what is that?
What is the scenario in which you're most likely
to lose your cool?
Is it airports?
Is it traffic?
Is it traffic?
I was about to say, I feel like heavy traffic,
which has happened a few times, especially on vacation
because you have a limited amount of time.
So to be stuck in the last time we went to a rocky point,
there was probably a two and a half, maybe three hour
line of cars that we were stuck in to get into the border.
And it was sad because you want to be beach by noon,
leaving the morning.
And it's so nice to be able to get to the beach.
And instead, we got there at five or six.
And so we felt kind of wasted that first day
because we were stuck in traffic.
And there's nothing you can do.
You're helpless.
It's such a bummer.
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that.
That is rough.
Yeah, not good.
Not good.
It happens.
But even then, it's tricky because really losing your cool
is snapping at people and losing your temper.
And I think back, and I didn't.
I was just like, this is a bummer.
I'm sorry everybody, but what are you going to do?
It also depends on your personality.
So you were just disappointed.
You were bummed out.
But some people would just get upset about any driver
moving in front of them.
And they would lose their cool in that scenario.
I'm pretty chill.
I'm pretty.
You know, when I do lose my cool, like I said,
in one of those example sentence, if I see unjust treatment,
if I see someone, sometimes I've seen people complain
or be sort of cruel to someone working at the coffee shop,
and it's just a teenager, I'll stand up for them.
Like, hey, you know what I mean?
Because then I do kind of lose my cool.
I'm like, I feel like I need to defend this person.
That's great.
I love that.
So good.
All right.
This has been a good episode.
I'll break guys now.
You have the vocabulary to talk about your own personality.
So I think our poll question today is probably
going to be something about your personality, guys.
As listen, do you lose your cool easily?
Yes or no?
Right?
Yes.
I want to know.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
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Yeah, I think that's the takeaway for today
is what we said earlier.
This is a really succinct and lightweight way to apologize.
If you get upset, you don't need to sit down
and have a whole breakdown.
Oh my gosh.
I'm so sorry.
If the relationship doesn't merit that
or the scenario doesn't merit it,
you need something more lightweight.
And this is it.
Just say, sorry, last my call.
No problem.
Move on.
It's much cooler that way.
Absolutely.
I love it.
All right.
Good stuff, Aubrey.
I'll see you in the next episode.
Take care.
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