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Our first question today is from Laurel in Columbus, Indiana.
Hello, Minimalists.
I have been thinking a lot about hiking and outdoor living as winter starts to thaw and summer rolls in.
It's the perfect time to reconnect with nature, but I've noticed how overwhelming the outdoor culture can feel when it comes to gear.
Popular brands like Patagonia, Columbia, so many other outdoor stores seem to offer endless things we're told we really need to experience the outdoors.
As someone trying to live more intentionally, how can my husband and I approach summer hiking, outdoor activity without getting weighed down literally and mentally by all the stuff.
How do we separate true preparedness from consumer driven excess and create culture in my home where we enjoy the outdoors simply sustainably and with purpose?
Thanks so much for all you do.
I heard the first thing there about a culture of enjoyment which I think is a great place from which to approach this right?
It's It's funny, I think about hobbies that often require equipment and I think about basketball growing up and you know the guy who showed up to the basketball court with brand new like track suit on and brand new shoes and like a basketball that clearly hadn't been dribbled outside yet and he has like the headband on and the wristbands.
You're like this guy's gonna get slaughtered.
Is that what y 'all used to say about me?
Yeah but you looked really good while getting slaughtered.
Thanks, man. That's why you got slaughtered, they would tell us how good you look.
We've gotta teach this guy a lesson.
You know what's funny about this is there's kinda two ways to approach it.
There's a cosplay scenario, like I just described, where you're pretending, you're playing the role of a basketball player, like if I was in a movie, cast it as a basketball player as an extra, what would that person be wearing?
And yet many of those things aren't required to enjoy the things that we enjoy.
in fact some of those things can get in the way.
However some things are absolutely necessary.
If you go to basketball court you don't have a basketball, good luck playing basketball on the basketball court.
So there are some things that are absolutely essential that enhance the experience of whatever the hobby or the activity or the adventure is.
Now Laurel mentioned hiking in particular and I was just in Sedona, Arizona and I went on this long hike and I didn't bring anything extra for that although I did prepare accordingly I brought the shoes I would wear hiking when I go hiking and Ohio or wherever I didn't need a bunch of excess we brought some water bottles and a backpack that we already had and that was about it was a really long hike and parts of it were pretty arduous and I saw some people who were truly prepared for it you could tell they had hiked a lot but then I saw a few people I saw a of three guys who looked like they had
never gone hiking before, but you could tell because they looked like they were about to go on a hike.
They had all of the accoutrement for that hike.
They had a lot of excess stuff that I imagine, as Laurel said, were weighing them down.
Many of the things actually get in the way.
You put too much stuff in that backpack.
In fact, Savi D, we just did a video about this on Instagram.
We were at REI, and we use it as a metaphor.
Like when you go backpacking, you know to pack the essentials, but you also wouldn't pack an Xbox controller or a coffee table when you're going to go backpacking.
Because those things will simply get in the way.
It's not to pathologize those things, nothing wrong with them, but contextually we know they get in the way.
That's not the problem.
The problem is the things we think we're going to use that actually end up getting in the way.
I saw this group of three girls on that same hike and they...
I saw them on their way into the hike and they were like, they were wearing all of their like nice athleisure stuff, which is totally fine for a pretty simple hike, but they had full makeup on.
And I think I could smell the perfume coming off of them.
I'm like, okay, they don't know what's ahead of them right now.
Right. And we've all been in this scenario before where it's like, oh, I prepared for one thing but didn't expect and I saw them coming back on the trail afterward and the makeup was all either running or wiped off.
And you could tell, this is hot outside, it was sunny, and they were sweating.
And contextually, there was nothing wrong with the way they were dressed, but it didn't work for that scenario.
And so Ryan, when it comes to, you are my friend who has all of the hobbies.
And those hobbies like snowboarding or even skateboarding, whatever it might be, they require accessories.
But sometimes those accessories can go too far.
I mean I really try to carry as little as possible if I'm camping.
It's funny I was actually thinking I'm like if you go hiking really all you need is a water bottle and shoes.
Moriah and I were on a hike it's called the bridge to nowhere amazing hike over in like the Azusa area.
It's an all -day thing it's like 11 miles in 11 miles out.
Wow. So hot and we don't bring too much but we actually ran into someone on that hiking trail who had like no water, they had nothing and like they completely made it.
I mean they probably had a hard time but they still made it.
Was your makeup running by the end of it?
Oh, absolutely. So I was like looking at like this question, I'm thinking about me going camping and I'm almost like, I bet you I could go into those woods if I really knew what I was doing, I could do the same exact thing on a three -day camping trip.
And so the question is like, what, what do you really need to be comfortable?
And when it comes to outdoor activities, there are endless amounts of things that can be comfortable.
The, but the way that I read this question, like how can I enjoy my adventures and hobbies without getting overwhelmed by the accompanying equipment and accessories?
You can't. Like that's part of the hobby.
So the question is, is like, how many of those accessories can you actually let go of.
The same question could be asked, like, how do I enjoy driving?
But how do I with all the stop signs and red lights?
How can I enjoy LA without the traffic?
It's like you can't.
Yeah. Like that stuff comes with it.
Right. How could you, but you could, I mean, I think about Professor Shawn as an example, he just doesn't drive.
And so like, but that is a sacrifice he has to make.
And that's a great example.
Right. Of someone compensating for the stress that they have with this equipment, they find out another way to do it without it.
So it's impossible for you to enjoy it without the accessories unless you simply just accept that as part of the process.
So I think about snowboarding.
And I was just talking to my physical therapist about this.
He was like, yeah, we want a big sky.
But you know, my wife forgot her bibs and we had dogs with us.
And like, by the time we got on the hill, we were only able to go for a couple hours.
And we were supposed to be there for however long.
And I'm like, yeah, dude, that's kind of the experience that I have with snowboarding.
It's a pain in the butt to get up, to get ready, to get out the door.
But then as soon as I get on the hill, I'm like, oh, this is why I do this.
And this is really amazing.
It's part of the experience.
So it's almost like I plan for those little frustrating bits and accept that that those frustrating bits are part of the experience.
What do they call that?
Type two fun? It's all work in the beginning and then at the end of it it's all fun.
Yeah, there's drudgery up front and there's payoff at the end.
Right. And with snowboarding, it's like drudgery fun and then more drudgery, like getting off the hill, getting back to the car, getting everything loaded up, you know, returning rental equipment, so forth and so on.
So the short answer to the question is it's impossible Laurel and with, if you're not enjoying it right now, it's impossible to enjoy it with the stuff.
The only way that you would be able to enjoy your outdoor activities is either a, accept that this is part of it, learn how to accept it.
That's not enjoyment though.
That's just acceptance or get rid of as much as you can.
And that's how you can go and travel a little bit lighter and do your hobbies with a little bit less stuff.
Now TK, I love what Ryan said about comfort.
He said, that one of the things that make that activity comfortable.
And the truth is, we often think we need more things to be comfortable.
But also part of the activity might mean enjoying the discomfort, the snowboarding, when you, I mean there's a lot of that that's uncomfortable, right?
The same is true with hiking.
When I saw that group of three guys who had on all their brand new REI equipment.
Now maybe they just all went out and bought it because they knew they were taking this trip to Sedona, but they had so much stuff that they probably anticipated would help them be more comfortable, the backpack full of snacks and the double water bottles and the vest with all the pockets and they looked the part.
These three guys also, at least one of them had a ton of cologne on and I could smell it as I walked past them on the trail.
Bends off the Bears.
a special bear, anti -bear cologne.
Nice. And so what I noticed here is that when you accumulate too much, it actually can make you uncomfortable.
It's the heaping on of all of those accessories, the accumulation of accessories that you intended to bring on because in any one individual case, those things might make you more comfortable during this experience but added all up together, you are now swimming in a stew of discomfort.
And the comfort compromises the creativity.
By the way, I need a social experiment or YouTube video or something where you stand at the entry point of all the hiking trails.
And when people come in with perfume or makeup or cologne, you can be like, brother, you don't know what you're in for.
You know, I love, love, love, love, love what Ryan said about how a lot of these things that we complain about or that agitate us, it's part of the experience.
And it just reminds me of how a true expression of your creativity can become something over time when you get stuck on autopilot, something that feels like it's victimizing you.
There's so many things that, there's no reason why we're in that position other than we chose to do it because there's something that we want it.
But after a while, it just kinda starts to feel like this thing you have to do.
Like you chose to go to the amusement park, You chose to go to the hiking trail, you chose to travel to see your sister in a different state.
But then when you find yourself in that line at the car rental, which you chose to rent or in line at the airport or in line for the roller coaster, it's like, man, I got to wait on this line.
Now I have to find a part and I have to do, and you knew all of that before.
All of that was an argument for you to say no to what you wanted before, but you said yes in spite of that.
But when you live on autopilot and you're not taking the time to reflect on your why, And you just kind of feel like you have to do all these things.
And you're kind of a victim of your own creative expression.
And what Ryan pointed out is that sometimes when we just pause and we just express gratitude for the entirety of the experience, we realize, yeah, the unpredictability, the uncertainty, the discomfort, having to carry something, having to put up with another human being, having to consider someone other than myself, yeah, this is all part of that experience, and it's beautiful, and I can lean into that.
So I really, really, really love that.
One thing I did wanna say is she talked about how we go into these stores, and we see all of these things that we didn't know we needed.
And it just makes me think of how funny and true it is that we can literally know that something didn't exist. We can literally fail to know that something existed.
And then 10 seconds later, once we find out about it, we absolutely need it.
Imagine if I told you there's a coffee mug that has the power to actually pull the hydrogen and the oxygen from the air and make the hot water right there in your mug.
Don't you need that?
Patent pending. It's like, I need that.
I didn't even know that existed, but now I need it, right?
And we can be perfectly fine, but you walk into that store and you see something, And you go, oh my gosh, that's so much better than what I have. That's so much more convenient.
I gotta have it. And so, one of my strategies for stuff like this, especially when I'm going shopping for a specific purpose, I'm going to do something and I'm going to look at what I need, is I try to think about what I want at the level of what I can remember and what I think I need.
And I try to give myself ample time for that.
And then I add plus one.
Now, when I go to the store, I know for sure I'm gonna see something that someone's gonna convince me that I need, and I give myself permission to get one thing.
And that's it, that's it.
And that actually provides you with an incentive to really think through what it is you want for you because what we decide when we're left to our own devices is very different than when our senses are bombarded by the collective expression of human creativity directed towards this.
It's like, Oh man, there's just an endless expression of creativity.
There's always something cool we haven't heard of, but what do you need for you?
You brought up a really good question earlier, Josh, as far as like, do I want to play basketball or do I want to look like I play basketball?
And I think about like, uh, you know, the Sherpas in, uh, Mount Everest, it's like, they hike that mountain with nothing, hardly anything.
And then they got all these, you know, people with all this gear and everything and those Sherpas are by far the best hikers.
So it's like the equipment does not define how good you are.
What defines how good you are is how much you love it and how much you invest in that activity.
Yeah, yeah I also think about another question there is what do I not want to carry.
And that was part of the hike when I was out there in Sedona.
I knew we were going on this relatively long hike and parts of it were kind of steep and I knew I didn't want a bunch of excess even though there were a few things that might make me more comfortable here in the studio, if I bring it with me it's actually going to make me way less comfortable.
what do I not want to carry, literally, but also metaphorically, like what is weighing me down mentally about all this and it sounds like with Laurel, what's weighing her down, which by the way, she lives in Columbus, Indiana, which is like the modern, mid -century modern architecture capital of maybe the world.
It's amazing, they'd made a movie about it, it's a dramatic sort of thing that happens in Columbus, Indiana, it's just called Columbus.
And so there's something about appreciating the beauty the city she's in, but in order to appreciate that, you probably don't need a bunch of excess accessories.
As Ryan pointed out, you might be able to get rid of many of the things.
What can I do without here?
Which brings me to the no junk rule.
We use that in our homes all the time.
In fact, Laura, I'd encourage you to download the free minimalist rule book we have on our website.
Just go to theminimalists .com, click on resources there, and you can download the minimalist rule book.
It's 16 Rules for Living with Less, Ryan and I also did the audiobook version of that, so we'll be happy to send that to you if you'd prefer to listen to it.
But the No Junk rule, you look at your home, you say everything in here goes in one of three piles, literally everything I own.
I don't care if you own 100 items or 500 ,000 items, everything you own can fit one of three piles.
It's either essential, it's value adding, but non -essential, or it is junk.
Unfortunately, especially with things like hiking or travel, when we pack a bunch of extra things just in case, Contextually, they may not be junk but in this context, they often are junk or more often than not, there are these things that are non -essential but they add value.
The question is, in what context because yeah, water adds value for my hike but if I need to pack 300 gallons of water, now all of a sudden, it ceases to add value, it actually gets in the way.
And that brings me back to what is essential for this and then what few things do I need that might add value to this, and then for a short period of time, I'll temporarily deprive myself.
I remove that from the equation.
Okay, yeah, as Ryan said, maybe water is really helpful, but can I go on a short hike without water?
Yeah, I do it every day in Ojai.
I'll hike a couple miles, and it's not a problem.
I can drink water before I leave and when I get back home because I don't want to carry it with me.
There's something about, I don't know, I've had this idea of like formlessness in my mind a lot lately and I think about how someone who dresses up to look like the basketball player, they're so focused on form, they're not focused on the activity.
And any activities we do, it's almost like with sports, you know, let's just keep going with the sport analogy, basketball is a sport, right?
Yeah it's like, that is a formless and the best basketball players are formless.
Michael Jordan is Michael Jordan because that's who he is and he loved the game.
No one else can have the same form he has.
And LeBron James the much better basketball player.
He's got his own form.
Yeah. And that's at every good basketball player.
I mean, Larry Bird, like all of them have their own style.
They have created their own form, but they didn't do it by focusing on the form.
Yeah. Yeah. Reminds me of Nolan Ryan's fastball when he was pitching in the eighties.
And I remember hearing about his fast ball.
I went to my mom and said, I want to buy fast ball.
And she's like what?
I thought the ball is the thing that made it go faster.
That's awesome. As opposed to Nolan Ryan was the thing that made it go faster.
And so last thing I'll leave Laurel with here is a new way to think about it.
We know about wanting what you have as opposed to getting what you want, but in a weird way wanting what you have is the shortcut to getting what you want.
If you want what you have, then you've already gotten what you want.
The question here for you is what do I want out of this hiking experience?
Maybe I want to go rucksacking.
I do want to carry 50 pounds with me because that's going to improve my ability and to hike long distances and it'll increase my strength, etc. But for most of us, we don't want to carry the excess with us, and when we carry that excess with us, we're actually getting more of what we don't want.
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What's the question of the week this week?
What activities bring you joy and what material things are an essential part of those activities?
Ryan, before we get to our pithy answers here, I want to hear from some of our simple tins.
Bama, what did our listeners have to say?
Steffi said, I do fitness boxing, yoga and Krav Maga, which requires gloves, mats, tape, sportswear, water bottles, and so on, but it's really fun and it helps me relax my body and mind.
Every piece of equipment has its place and does not get in the way.
I think that is the essence here of what we're talking about.
Every piece of equipment has its place and does not get in the way.
Now a fun little experiment, Ryan, might be like, okay, are there is there anything here that I could actually go without for a short period of time.
Now some things you know, most likely not.
You try to go snowboarding without the snowboard. I don't even know what you call that, falling?
Yeah, falling, rolling down a hill.
What's interesting is like the Krav Maga, you know they didn't start that sport with those things.
Okay. That's just what we use now.
Explain what Krav Maga is for the uninformed.
It's a martial arts type.
I think Mallory could probably explain it more.
I'm not as familiar with Krav Maga - But it's martial arts, right?
It's martial arts. I mean, what this immediately makes me think of is when I first started doing jiu -jitsu that requires a uniform because the uniform is a tool and a part of the martial arts.
You are grabbing the lapel, the collar, the belt, the pants as a way to actually spar and roll with other people.
And for me, I had just one uniform and I was training multiple times a week and you have to wash it every time you use it because it's clean and it needs to smell nice.
And it got to a point for me where I realized, oh, I need more of this.
Right. This is something that will actually help me and be less stressful for that.
Then you look at stuff like camping.
It's like I've had a shiwi for like a 10 year period.
I've never used it before.
What's a shiwi? Oh my gosh.
Okay. So for, for females that go camping and it's uncomfortable because you have to just kind of like squat in the woods, it's like a funnel that you use to where you can, you can stand while you do that.
And that was something that was brand new and was gifted to me and I camp all the time, but I've never used it.
So it's like, I don't think I need this to augment my camping experience.
But I do need a second and third gi because that is what's required of that hobby for me.
But yeah, so anyways, Krav Maga, yes, very cool.
There's a bunch of different martial arts that require a bunch of different things and depending on how seriously you want to take that and train it, yes, you can get the mats that are safe for you to be able to practice your drills and things, you can get the tape that helps your hands when they are calloused or cracked open or what have you.
But it's good to be aware of that as you go and use what you need when you need it and tap into that community.
Hey, does anybody have any extra tape?
I rolled my ankle last week, can I borrow some?
Like that's where that's really helped me with these hobbies that can be a little bit of a slippery slope because you suddenly need all of these things to make it more and more comfortable.
But discomfort is part of that process.
Right, Ryan, don't you like the fact that we were born with built -in hewees?
Yeah, lucky you. Yes, hewees.
I don't need to pack anything extra, but she brings up a really good point.
Needing an extra ghee or two ghee, whatever you need, let's say, how many do you have now, two or three?
Okay, so you have three and that's what you found to be appropriate for you.
Now let's say I gave you 30, would that add 10 times more value?
And add 10 times more laundry, that's for sure.
Right, right. And I think the same is true with Ryan and snowboarding.
Now you can own multiple snowboards because there are different occasions or Savvy D has a skateboard. Imagine you have more than one skateboard, don't you?
It's honestly getting out of hand right now.
I seriously like last week I had maybe 35 skateboard decks in my closet and I just got a box from one of my sponsors of 12 more, which is such a good problem to have and I'm blessed to be able to have that problem.
But at the same time, I'm like, man, I gotta like get storage for this.
But the dude's literally pro.
Yeah. Yeah. And so my point is though, let's say, so let's say you have 30 skateboards.
if you brought all 30 to the skate park in one day, what's that going to do for you?
Now that'd be a dilemma.
He would be the most popular person they're hitting on skateboards.
Right. But if you tried to use all of them, we'd know now you have to pack it all in the car.
You're doing a bunch of things that are superfluous.
Ryan, if you brought five snowboards to the mountain with you, four of them are gonna get in the way.
Of course. I mean, yeah, I mean, it's even like with the snow equipment, I bought like overalls and like a nice zip in jacket.
It's like a whole system that when I put it on, I'm like, Oh my God, this is a game changer.
But it was a game changer because like, my butt wasn't cold all the time and it really protected me from moisture and like it, you know, whatever.
But for decades leading up to that, all I had was like a fleece and uh, some crappy snow pants that got wet really easily.
I'd wear jeans underneath of them, but I still snowboarded just fine.
Very lucky and privileged to be able to buy this $500 zip -in system because it's expensive stuff, and I am grateful to have it.
But the truth is I don't need it, and I would still snowboard without it.
That's that second category, the things that are non -essential, but they do add value to the experience.
However, part of that is through experimentation.
Sometimes you have to rent these things before buying them if they're really expensive to see whether or not it makes sense, because what happens is, you buy the thing and you don't get the value you thought you were going to get on it.
Just like when you buy a shirt and it looks way better on the mannequin than it does on me.
Not Ryan, it always looks better on Ryan than it does on the mannequin.
But when you buy something you imagine, it's going to add all this value, and then it doesn't.
And so what we do is we keep holding on to it because we're holding on to the imaginary value of the thing instead of being willing to let go of the thing that doesn't actually add the value we thought it would.
Man you know I love about Ryan and, and, and his embodiment of this principle is truly what gives meaning to things is he is always willing to try to find a way to do something he wants to do even in the absence of the things we're all told we need in order to do them.
I believe he would find a way to try to go skateboarding even if he didn't have a skateboard. I don't know what that looks like, but I think he's the brother that would try, and he doesn't even have to win, according to anyone's idea of winning.
I think he'd be like, I'll go with you guys skateboarding and I'll just run around and jump around as you guys skateboard. But he would be there, he would try something, he would have a good time, and he would never be the guy to say, well, yeah, I didn't try that thing that I wanted to do because I didn't have the things.
And he would do that in a way that wouldn't require him to be dishonest about the importance of those things and the role that those things play, and I just think we need so much more of that.
What you're describing is the the man who invented parkour.
You're telling me Ryan like, basically, oh, I'll just go and jump around over things without the skateboard. And then I got my Heelys.
Team changer. He just has one, though, so he skates on the right foot really well.
Did they literally make shoes with like grind, like grind plastic.
What do you call those?
To grind a rail like they have little inserts plastic that kinda come to a triangle on shoes.
I guess it would be for parkour.
Like literally you could just like with your shoes grind a rail.
It's insane. You definitely would have done that as a teen.
Parkour is like the most minimalist thing you could do cause it's literally just you and your environment.
and it's like hiking and it's so easy for us to over -complicate that.
I love that thought, too, Bama, because what you're saying there is like, what's the minimalist version of X?
And that's always a great question to ask.
It doesn't mean you have to do it or want to do it.
But you're like, hey, I'm at the skate park and I don't have a skateboard today.
Well, what's the minimalist version?
I could borrow one, that's a minimalist version.
I could rent one, okay, maybe, if there's one available, right?
I could go to Craigslist, see if there's one that's super cheap right now I can just play with.
or maybe how would this look if I got rid of the equipment all together?
That's what I loved about TK when he said, you know, I love about Ryan.
I thought he was gonna say his BDE, his Big Declutter Energy here.
He's always willing to let go.
We need to have a little dick joke with this thing.
Post -production theater, you can add the dings in throughout the episode.
I can't wait for the private podcast. So good.
Anyway, let's so we got let's do one more listener here and then we'll talk about our pithy answers perry had something for us perry said trying to live sustainably brings me a lot of joy and for that i need various things like reusable bags a sewing kit jars that i can bring to bulk food stores a set of travel cutlery and a travel mug so i can avoid avoid using single use items this is one of those things where if we play dress up with this with sustainability it can be far far worse now this isn't perry Perry understands like, I actually use these things.
But I also understand the desire because we want to live responsibly.
We want to live sustainably.
We all wanna be card carrying members of the good person club.
And we wanna do our part.
And so like, yeah, I have this mug here in front of me that's reusable that I use every day.
But you know it'd be bad if I just bought this because I wanna be the type of person who's sustainable.
But then I just never use it, it sits on a shelf.
That happens all the time.
Where we buy the canvas bag that's like the environmental equivalent of buying a thousand paper bags?
No problem at all. If I'm gonna use it 2 ,000 times, I just saved a thousand paper bags then, right?
But if I just go buy all the nicest canvas bags or all of the Stanley cups were such a big thing a year ago and it's like, okay, nothing wrong with those things, but am I actually going to use them or do I want to appear to be the type of person who is sustainable?
Yeah, do you guys think it'd be a useful sort of litmus test to ask yourself, hey, where do I want to be comfortable?
And where am I willing to be uncomfortable?
Yeah, and maybe even a third question on top of that.
Where do I want to be uncomfortable?
Because that's where TK and Ryan make me super uncomfortable, especially Ryan, we're together in private, very, very uncomfortable.
Where do you think I'd get it from?
Dad? Oh, I love when you call me Dad.
Oh my god, so where was I when I was even saying here?
I don't know. Where do you want to be uncomfortable?
Because like, yeah, you go to the gym, you go to the gym, and you expect to be uncomfortable.
I go swimming every day and the last 10 laps are always the ones that are the most uncomfortable for me to do.
But that's where I want to be.
Where do I want to be uncomfortable?
I mean, when we're bored, I mean like really, really bored, it's because we're so damn comfortable that we're uncomfortable, and we crave some adventure in the form of the discomfort of uncertainty, the discomfort of risk.
And maybe the shortcut for that, Ryan, sometimes is I'll just go buy the accessories for the thing that I want to do, and then it feels like a proxy for actually doing that thing without doing it.
If I dress up like the basketball player or the hiker or whatever you want it to be, whatever sport you're going to play activity, hobby, et cetera.
If I dress up like that, then I don't even have to do the thing.
I was cosplaying the whole time.
It's almost like to answer your question, Teague, it's almost like for me, I just accept being uncomfortable, like, and I don't even realize it.
So it was snowboarding.
It's like I was so uncomfortable with like bad equipment that I was just like, oh, this must be part of the experience and like hiking and sweating and, you know, feet hurting and whatever.
Oh, this must be part of the experience.
And so it's not until like, maybe I'm introduced to something, like, you know, I bought that zip and stuff because my clothes were falling apart.
I'm like, oh, it is possible to be more comfortable.
So I guess what I'm trying to get at is, it's for me, it's not a measurement of like, how much discomfort I'm willing to have. I just accept that, like, this stuff is uncomfortable.
And if it's too uncomfortable, like when my clothes are falling apart, then I'm going to go look for some comfort, you know, that makes any sense.
to explain to them.
How about you, listeners?
What activities bring you joy, and what material things are an essential part of those activities?
We have a lot of chat going on in the Patreon Community Chat.
You can let us know over there.
Patreon Community Chat, by the way, is free to join.
Even if you don't subscribe to the Minimalist Private Podcast. So give me something pithy, TK.
What activities bring you joy, and what material things are an essential part of those activities?
All matter matters.
Uh -oh, wait, wait, what?
My 50 quote is, All matter matters, but only spirit makes it sacred.
I love things and I want a world filled with things because it's things that makes the concretization of ideas possible.
It's things that makes it possible for us to embody our values.
It's things that make it possible for us to express our creativity.
Things bring us together, we connect over food.
we say, let's get together over coffee.
Guys, watch sports and debate over it as a way of saying I love you without being too direct about it.
We need things as a kind of medium through which we can channel our love and conduct our creativity.
And I love connecting with people and I think things make that possible.
And it's not so much about pursuing the absence of things for me, it's about sort of introducing that sense of meaning that comes from recognizing that things These are how we say, I love you, to one another, you know?
Right, and there's something about the using of the things that's really important here.
The things are not the important things.
It's how we use them.
They're part of the experience.
Do they enhance my experience?
Do they magnify the experience?
Do they amplify the experience?
Because yes, just having a basketball in your closet doesn't connect you with other people.
In fact, it disconnects you even from yourself.
It may even disconnect you from others.
The hoarding of too many accoutrements, The hoarding of things gets in the way of the very thing that we hope to do, which that's my pithy answer here.
The things are not the important things, but I've got one other one for you as well.
Happiness cannot be acquired.
It can only be uncovered.
We often seek happiness externally as though if I bought the snowboard. I bought the basketball.
I bought the skateboard. I bought the jiu -jitsu gi.
That's going to make me happy or fulfill me.
It's not. but it's also not going to do the thing for you.
Now I do imagine there's a time when certain equipment and accessories, paraphernalia, the things that do enhance the experience.
Savvide I'm wondering with you was there a time where having fewer skateboards or maybe a less ideal skateboard actually improved your skating at all?
I mean right now I kind of have an overabundance.
Yeah right but was there a time in in your childhood where you were learning to skate And this is a sincere question.
I'm just wondering, was there any stumbles or sufferings that made your skillset a bit better?
I mean, I think there's beauty in when you're first starting out skating, you just ride the shittiest piece of wood.
It's just like a plank at that point and you're riding it for a year straight and it's just unacceptable.
Right. But if, like, when you're able to do a trick on that, then when you have a brand new board, it's like, you can do anything, you know, I feel like there's something beautiful about that.
Yeah, no, I mean, it makes me think of my first snowboard and how I just thought that it was supposed to go that fast down the hill and that hard to ride.
And then I got my second snowboard lately, going to snowboards in my life.
And the second one.
It was exactly what you're saying.
Cause like I had practice so much on that crappy board. Then I got the board that actually, you know, maneuver well, had like good grip to it.
Literally like the tag on it was like you know, pop, pop, a higher and don't catch edges and like all this gimmicky stuff I'm like, as I'm using it, I'm like, oh my God, I can pop hard. I'm not catching edges as easy.
And like, and I can be, I am a better border because of it, but it's almost like what he's saying.
There's a beauty in like using a crappy piece of equipment and getting good with it.
And then you get a good piece of equipment and you know what to do with it.
I think sometimes there's the opposite of that too.
I think about when I bought a guitar, my first guitar, when I was 26 years old.
It's still the guitar I have now, that Taylor guitar that I've had for almost two decades.
And I bought it because the novel I was writing, the main character was a singer songwriter.
And so I'm like, I need to at least embody him and better understand.
And I went and started playing guitars and I didn't like it very much. And then I played this specific Taylor guitar, I was at the Guitar Center in Dayton, Ohio, near the Dayton Mall, and I pull off the shelf and I just start playing and I'm like, oh, I want to play this, not, I have to learn this, I get to play this, and so sometimes when you find the right accessory, I don't need 100 guitars.
I have one guitar that'll probably last me for the rest of my life unless I break it, and I get to play it as opposed to that's the thing that I feel like I, I guess I'll play that.
That makes me think, how I bought a mandolin not too long ago, and I'm about ready to get rid of it, dude.
Cause I don't enjoy playing it.
It's like I should've bought, I didn't want to get a full guitar.
And I talked to Peter Dornan.
He's like, get one of those little mini guitars and I'm like, no, I'm gonna do the mandolin cause like the scales and like what I'm realizing is like, I just don't like playing a mandolin.
So same thing with a surfboard when I lived in LA, like I surfed and then when I moved, you can't surf in Montana, I mean, I guess you can on.
Yeah but but I'm not that avid of a surfer.
Yeah. That's just it.
So I gave it away like actually it was much better giving away than if I took it with me I was throwing axes and the dude who was showing us like you know you tip him at the end and he had told me how he just moved to LA and how he wants to surf I'm like I'm leaving LA and I have a surfboard I'm like this is your tip I'm gonna bring it to you tomorrow and he was so jazzed.
That's amazing! Everything yeah it was awesome.
And imagine if you held on to that and you're like well I need a storage locker for it now you're paying to hold on to the thing that's no longer serving you in case there's extra time so I imagine the other question here like what things can I own that will make this activity more enjoyable and what things are actually going to make it less enjoyable less comfortable less desirable for me and we get back to Laurel's question or some of the questions that are coming up I think That will be the theme here is like okay yeah there are some things that I need but what are those things serving I'm
not just buying the things to own the things to play the role to cosplay as some sort of basketball player or jiu -jitsu player I am owning these things because they enhance the experience of the very thing that I want to do.
Give me something pithy Ryan to round out the lightning round.
Where's my answer? Here it is.
Joy is the default state that requires us to avoid unpleasant activities so as Josh was saying, it cannot be acquired, it is always there and it has to be uncovered.
I mean, a baby is born with joy and if someone is not experiencing joy, it's not because they need to do more things, they need to figure out the things to do to bring them joy.
It's really looking at like what am I doing in my life that is covering up this joy and it is removing the activities, it's not doing more activities.
right? What's gonna bring that joy out of me because it is the default state and we've simply covered it up with a bunch of clutter, alright?
That's almost the end of page one, we still have an entire switchboard of colors to talk to, but first, real quick, for right here, right now here's one thing that's going on in the life of The Minimalist, we have some upcoming Sunday symposiums, will be in Orange County this month, a brand new venue.
Savi D and I were just out there, he found the most amazing venue in Orange County.
We needed to expand a bit because last time we were in Orange County there are people sitting on the floor on rugs and all this other stuff and it was a great intimate experience.
We're still keeping this under 200 people.
We found a venue that we would really enjoy, so we hope to see you there.
We'll also be in LA in June, in Santa Barbara, in July.
You can get your free tickets.
Get them before they sell out, they always do because they're free over at sunday symposium .com orange county la or santa barbara we hope to see you there all the details over at sunday symposium calm and speaking of live events malabama is going to be in germany next week yes i am yes i am so stoked about this you guys i've been planning this trip for 15 years with my dad and it's finally the stars have aligned we're going to go together and i wanted to take a moment to just thank all of the people that have been emailing me and giving me an opportunity to practice my German and communicating
with me in the fams chats.
So for anybody that is in the Germany area during next week, I'm going to be just kind of meeting with folks at a beer garden in Cologne.
We can grab a beer, say hi and quiz me on my German, meet Papa bama, I guess if you want it to.
It's a very laid back thing just as an opportunity to say hi and you get to see my face, which I don't show often as a voice actor.
But really stoked to meet everybody.
So if you're interested in you want to meet up, you can send an email to podcasttotheminimalist .com and we'll send you the details once we pick where we're going, what time we'll be there, but try to find something that's going to fit everybody.
And we just have a beer and have a good time.
That'll be the week of May 12th.
And yeah. So any one who's in Germany or might be in Germany if you're interested, just send an email to podcast at TheMentalists .com.
We'll get that over to Mallory and you can meet her in person.
And Papa Bam was really cool too.
He's so cool. I'm so stoked.
He's literally a rockstar.
He does not speak German but he's he is going to smile the whole time nonetheless.
He's bringing his translator so that's even better.
I see. You speak the language baby.
We're good. All right, well, you can see us in Southern California, and you can see Bama in Germany next week, we hope to see you there.
Bama, what else you got for us?
Here's a minimalist insight from one of our listeners.
Hi Josh, TK, Mala Bam, and everyone behind the Minimalist podcast. This is Carolina calling from Australia and I'm a patron subscriber.
I'm sending a message to comment about how minimize for neurodivergency.
One thing that I did when I was diagnosed with ADHD four years ago, I did, and it helped me immensely was minimize social commitments, so clear my calendar, and being quite intentional about how I spend my weekends, spending time in nature, and definitely rethinking about how environments impact me, and that might be donating things, but also moving things around, packing things away, not comparing yourself with others.
Because I find minimizing noise was very important and by noise I mean other people's opinions.
Like I also deleted social media because I found social media was one more thing that made my attention go to a place that I didn't feel was productive because of time blindness.
I didn't realize how much time I was spending on these platforms. So the moment I deleted all my social media, my life became increasingly better and more productive.
Carolini, thank you so much for that thoughtful comment.
Coming up on page two, I want to talk to both of you, TK and Ryan, about your thoughts on minimizing social commitments.
I think we're getting appreciably different answers because Ryan is the extreme extrovert, TK is an introvert and so they can duke it out and form some sort of data on there on page two.
But for anyone else who has a listener tip or insight about this episode or any other episode, you can send a voice memo to podcast at the minimalists dot com.
So we can feature your voice on the show up next page two and the page three.
But first, let's take a quick pandiculation break.
We'll be right back.
Alright that's the first 33 % of episode 489, we'll see you on Patreon for the full maximal edition with Ryan Nicodemus, which includes answers to a bunch more questions.
Questions like, how can I declutter if my job requires me to hold on to a bunch of just -in -case items?
Should I buy new luggage if I need more room to pack my travel essentials?
and what do people do to reverse the philosophy, mindset, and practice of minimizing too much, plus a million more questions and simple living segments over on The Minimalist Private Podcast on Patreon.
Big thanks to Ryan Nicodemus for joining us in the studio today.
Thanks for having me.
You can check him out at ryannicodemus .com, his mentoring messages there whenever he sends those out.
You can check him out here on this podcast. Whenever we, he's in California will drag him back in the studio whenever he's here.
That is our minimal episode for today.
Big thanks to Earthing Studios for the recording space.
On behalf of Ryan Nicodemus, TK Coleman, Malibama, Post Production Peter, Spire Jeff and Spire Dave, SavvyD on the board, and the rest of our team...
Oh and Mariah is on the couch here today as well.
We have our studio audience of one.
My name is Joshua Fields Millburn.
If you leave here with just one message, let it this love people and use things because the opposite never works thanks for listening y 'all we'll see you next time peace bye everybody every little thing you think that you need every little thing you think that you need every little thing that's just feeding your greed oh I bet that you'd You'll be fine without it
