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Hello, and welcome to the psychology of your 20s, the podcast where we talk through some of the big life changes and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology.
Hello, everyone. Welcome back to the show.
Welcome back to the podcast.
As always, it is so great to have you here for another week, another episode, another really, really interesting topic that we're covering on the podcast today.
So, yeah, welcome, welcome.
New listeners, welcome.
Old. Before we get into it, I just want to say a really big thank you.
I'm feeling so grateful and so warm and fuzzy recently that we have so many new listeners and so many of you have reached out to me recently to say that you've really been enjoying the content of the show.
And I just cannot even express to you how joyful and happy and grateful that makes me every message, every like, every comment, every subscriber.
It's just crazy to me how much this has kind of grown in the last year and the last few months.
So if you are a new listener, welcome.
I hope you stick around.
If you're an old supporter, thank you for following the journey of this podcast.
It just is incredible to me that there are so many people who are interested in these things and want to listen to some of these explanations and some of the research that I find on these topics.
So a bit of a sappy moment.
But yeah, I just wanted to say welcome to our new listeners.
And thank you for joining us again.
This week we have a really interesting topic.
I'm so sorry. I say that every single time.
So if you are a frequent listener, I feel like I am just, I don't know, on repeat.
I say that every week, but they're also interesting.
But this one in particular was suggested to me on an Instagram poll that I put out.
I do them every now and again, just trying to see, engage what people want to hear.
And this was by far the most suggested topic, which I think is really important to call out before we get into it.
And I'll discuss why later on, but making French friends in your 20s, that's what we're talking about today.
That's what we're talking about this week.
It is such a nuanced topic, something that I think we all probably need to hear and all probably need some sympathy and some support around and an understanding that we're probably not alone.
Just from the number of people who suggested this, I have a feeling that there are probably a lot of you who are going through this experience of finding it really difficult to make new friends as we enter adulthood.
A lot of our friends, as we grow up, as we enter this new chapter in our lives, sometimes fall off the bandwagon.
We find ourselves perhaps the most alone we've ever felt in our lives when we don't have the support of our family immediately around us.
We don't have the structures of high school or primary school or some of those kind of organized activities and daily structures of our lives.
So it's a really important thing to talk about.
I think it's pretty universally accepted that as we get older, it's a lot harder to make friends.
And there is a lot of support for this difficulty, this difficulty of making friends in output.
And I think it's recently been made a lot worse by this pandemic that we've all gone through.
If you started 2020 with a lot of friends and now you're kind of surveying the friendship landscape and feeling a little bit lost, I just want to express that you are not alone.
This has been a really common feeling throughout this period, throughout this weird three years or two years even that we've gone through since the start of Covid.
And although Covid is obviously still a problem, we have come out just in the last, I don't know, six, seven, eight months out of an incredibly strange period of isolation and lockdowns.
And although many of us are no longer experiencing that kind of physical separation and we're no longer living through lockdowns, Covid has become kind of normalized.
The impact of that experience is really long lasting and likely still having residual impacts on our ability to socialize on our lives, our ability to meet new people and recover from what was a period of really intense isolation and physical separation from others.
And I really want to stress, and I will do this again and again throughout this episode, what a universal experience this is for people in their 20s.
Feeling like you don't have the same friendships that you had maybe three, four, five years ago.
Feeling really lonely, feeling really isolated.
I've spoken about this with friends a lot as well and I think a lot of them all say the same thing.
And I think part of the problem with feeling so isolated and lonely in our 20s and struggling to make new friends is that we are faced with a whole spectrum and have so many points and opportunities for comparison, especially through social media.
I know it's been said so many times but the lives of others that we see on social media is not the truth but so often we see influencers or even people we know posting these highlight reels where they're surrounded by people, they're surrounded by friends.
And we might be sitting alone on our phones scrolling mindlessly, kind of thinking to ourselves why isn't that me?
Why isn't that the case for me?
What am I doing wrong?
And I guess part of the point of this podcast is to say that you're not doing anything wrong and this is such a universal experience.
So if you're going through this, I promise you there are so many people out there who are feeling the same if that makes you feel better.
Obviously the unique experiences and the feelings associated with that are in themselves very valid even if we feel very alone in that feeling.
But I know for me personally I really struggled with this at the start of the year.
I really struggled to make new friends.
I think I've mentioned this before but I moved to a new city.
I spent the first five years of my adult life in a college town.
I started uni in this big college community and it was so easy to make friends, it was so convenient.
And then suddenly I was this little fish in this huge pond trying to rebuild a community and rebuild a network and oh my goodness, it was really hard.
And it still is really hard.
I still feel like I'm building that community and I remember my dad, shout out to you dad, he's a big fan of the podcast so if you're listening bot, hello.
But he sent me this article and it was kind of funny at the time but about how hard it is to make new friends in your 20s especially in cities like Sydney or in big metropolitan areas where it just feels like everyone else has already got their group.
Everyone else already knows what's going on, they know the lay of the land and especially for me at that time I had no idea what I was doing.
I felt so isolated and so lonely and in that time and since then I've thought a lot about the universality of this struggle and have really tried to identify in my own mind and through my own kind of contemplation what it is about this decade that leads to such sizable and significant and noticeable
shifts and changes in our friendship dynamics.
And not so much the quality but the quantity of friends we seem to have.
Why is it so difficult to meet people we really relate to?
Kind of the conclusion that I've come to is that as we enter adulthood there are some pretty large shifts and pretty large lifestyle changes that we all seem to experience.
I think that it's pretty normal for you know if you went to uni or even in high school for our friendships to be very convenient and something that is very easy to fall into.
We see the same people every single day if you went to school if you went to uni if you did a trade or an apprenticeship or a diploma.
They're the same people day in and day out and it's really easy to make connections with them.
You probably have a very similar background you're having these similar experiences.
There's often a large number of people you have your pick of the bunch.
I found I don't know if you've had an experience of living you know in a large dormitory or at college but it is like almost just like social steroids.
It's just like socializing on steroids.
It's completely unnatural to have to be surrounded by that many people and it's almost like it's just social overload and if that's your first experience straight out of living from home or straight out of high school or kind of straight out of your teenage years to be surrounded by all these people.
It's a bit of a rude awakening when things start to change and I guess as we get older the places that we grew up or the places we went to for uni no longer fit the identities that we had when we first moved there or when we were growing up there people start to move.
That was a huge thing that I noticed and a big reason why I think we see this decline in the quantity of friends that we have in this decade.
I personally moved and I you know there was so many other people at the same time as me who got up and left to all different parts of the country all different parts of the world and it becomes a lot harder to keep up those connections that we had before then but it also means that there are a lot of people
kind of in these little satellite camps all over the world who are probably in the same boat as you if you're listening to this who are starting you who are trying to re -establish a network for themselves with that kind of I don't know exodus from our hometowns and our college towns the dynamic of our
pre -existing friendship just innately changes.
You no longer see these people every day and with that that convenient element that I discussed is kind of removed.
It becomes a lot more difficult to keep everyone updated and to have those bonding shared experiences that are really the bedrock and the foundation of friendship.
Other things happen as well people get into relationships as we enter our early and mid -20s it becomes a lot more normal for people to meet their partners to become partnered up and spend more time with them and also spend more time at work and if I don't know maybe you're lucky enough to be in a work
environment where you're working with your close friends I'm jealous of you if that's the case but it's often the case that you've you know maybe you've got this group of friends and everyone works different places everyone moves and you no longer have those shared experiences that are really fundamental
to deep lasting friendships and with that shift from you know either studying or being young and having fun and moving into full -time work there's that element of exhaustion and work schedules to kind of navigate and a robust kind of large social life and social circles that takes a lot of energy and that's
not something we all have kind of room to spare at this age another thing that I saw that I thought was really interesting was you become more picky especially when your time is already limited which is why you might see people starting to drop off it goes without saying I think hopefully that people
change we are not going to stay the same people we were 16 17 18 for our entire lives our brains aren't even like even close to being fully developed at that stage and the people we are then it's probably not the people we are now and I think this also relates to my point before about people moving
on and getting into relationships but our context our lives change and more innately this decade is incredibly formative in determining who we are what our values are what we love doing and sometimes this doesn't always align with who we thought we were three to four years ago or even three to four
months before our friendships like I said they're founded on shared experiences but they're also found on founded on I think shared values and shared hobbies and shared kind of activities and enjoyment so as we kind of start to develop and branch out even further and discover who we are in this decade
it really does make a lot of sense that the people you were friends with perhaps when you first started uni or when you first finished high school you probably aren't going to be feeling the same feelings towards them now it's really okay to outgrow people but what can come with that can be really intense
feelings of isolation and loneliness and of course the desire to make new friends who you can relate to and share memories with here's where the psychology comes in we are all innately intrinsically social creatures social interaction time and time again it's shown in so many studies and a right amount
a proper amount a balanced amount of social interaction is as fundamental to our well -being as things like a balanced diet or getting sleep or not you know putting our bodies under stress with alcohol or other substances getting the right amount of social interaction feeling that your social interactions
are also fulfilling and meaningful that is a huge contributor to your health and to your lifestyle so if you are struggling to make friends at the moment or you're feeling like you're just not at a place in terms of your friendships that feels particularly healthy you're probably right there was this really
interesting experiment that they did where they had these lab rats and these rats were given water and they were also given this kind of pipette water bottle that was filled with heroin okay you're probably like what the heck where is this going but it was really interesting what they found was that when they
had rats who were provided with other rats in their cage they had their little rat friends and they had room to socialize and they had the opportunity to interact and keep themselves entertained with other members of their species those rats had absolutely no reason to touch the heroin because they
were receiving the dopamine that their brain required to function and they were feeling i guess happy or fulfilled enough that they didn't need that external stimulus their brains were healthier they had more neurons but the rats who were isolated and put in their cage themselves they abused this drug
until they basically died their brains had less neurons and they were just less developed their brains were less developed they slept less they but they would lie around more they weren't as active and i think this really shows although it's you know an animal study in this all these debates in psychology
around whether animal studies are comparable or comparable to humans i think it's a really important and fundamental thing to share here it's completely okay if right now you're struggling with friendships and you're feeling really really shit about it and you're feeling really almost probably depressed
or really anxious or really sad that experiment proves this when we don't receive the dopamine and the stimulation that we need and we require from our social interactions the impact of that on our health and even on our neurons is really profound and can lead to some pretty long -term impacts and there
was this other study that i found so fascinating and it basically concluded that not having enough friends not feeling like your social network is expansive enough feeling isolated and feeling lonely can cause the same neural response as being in physical pain or experiencing extreme grief so i really
do sympathize with you if you're struggling to make lasting or good friendships in your 20s i think this whole first part of the podcast is just to tell you you're not alone there are so many people who are going through this it is a universal experience to notice really significant changes in the dynamics
of our lives and of our friendship circles but it's definitely something that psychology and kind of a broader positivist philosophy to life can you know it kind of tells us that it's something that we can work on and that our social interactions and our social lives not only are they fundamental but there's
something that's within our control okay i feel like that was a little bit of a pity party i'm so sorry it's everyone um i think i feel like i feel like i've spent the first half of this episode kind of sympathizing and trying to address the stigma and normalized struggling to make friends in adulthood
but that is not necessarily the most practical or helpful thing to do so what i want to do is spend this next section really honing in on tangible things that i think help us make friends in our 20s from my experience moving to a new city you're trying to re -establish community the biggest thing i think
is fear and insecurity of course there are obviously physical factors you know if you're living out in a rural community it might just be there aren't many people around you but often the journey to making friends in our 20s is a psychological one so i thought i would kind of do my research and compile
a bit of a list of tips um so if you are someone who's struggling right now how can you perhaps shift the dial and make some new friends in your life the first kind of tip or strategy that i think i really took to heart when i was in a similar situation and really kind of going through it and feeling
quite lonely was to be okay with being alone that is a very simple thing to say i know five very easy words to come out of my mouth be okay with being alone um and i'm hoping that no one is exiting right now being like oh this is stupid advice but as simple and basic as it may sound as useless as it
may sound i think and this is just a personal opinion being alone and being secure in your loneliness is one of the most important lessons that you need to learn in your 20s at the end of the day you really only have yourself like you might have family you might have friends you might have a partner
um you might have work colleagues i don't know what's going on in your life but you i'm hoping that you have a support network but at the end of the day you really are all by yourself and your company is the most important company that you can share and how you feel about yourself your opinion of yourself
is the most important one you can have in your life no matter how much you love others um how much you enjoy spending time with them if you're not comfortable sitting in your own thoughts being able to take yourself out for dinner being able to do things by yourself no relationship is ever going to
fulfill your friendship relationship otherwise because you cannot be surrounded by people at all times and the more you try and distract yourself um by you know making i think very shallow friendships or going out or being around people the more i think you're going to struggle to make authentic friendships
and the more that your kind of fear of loneliness is going to accumulate so i'd say one of the biggest tips and biggest things to work towards if you're struggling making friends is to maybe just prioritize being alone for a while and see that as an opportunity rather than as a massive downside or rather
you know as a massive bummer like having an opportunity to be alone with yourself is so you know away from your phone that is actually quite a blessing in this day and age when we're constantly connected when the world is you know overpopulating with people if you live in a big city there's always someone
around so something that i did when i first moved to this new city was i like and i still do this to this day is i make sure i leave an afternoon or a morning or some part of my week where it's just me i'm focused on checking in with myself and building a relationship with myself as if i was another
person and i found that when i got more comfortable with being able to be in my own company and do the things i wanted to do even if no one else wanted to come that's when i just kind of started meeting people because i was doing what i wanted to do which meant i was attracting people who thought the same
way in those situations but i also think it's really crucial if you if you you're looking around you like i don't have the friendships that i want leverage those casual connections i cannot stress this enough someone you met at a party once message them do it like literally what is the worst that can happen
they'll say no like you're back to square one like leverage those casual connections reach out to people you've met once or twice reach out to mutual friends and if you are in a new city ask your friends if they know anyone um honestly i have met one someone who i think will be one of my closest best
friends for life through um through this method one of our friends from we both lived in the same city prior to moving to sydney and one of our fabulous friends phoebe if you're listening love it a bit she literally was like this friend gracie out my friend gracie now is moving to sydney i think you
guys would get along and put us in a group chat together and the rest is history now we are like so close we see each other all the time we have these really deep conversations so that is an amazing method message your friends if they might know one know someone if you've got people already in a city
or people who you live in the same city with who might have a different friendship group to you be like is there someone that i should know do you think there's anyone that like you think i would really get along with like can you invite me to things with them or can you like kind of set us up and the chances
are if you're really good friends with that person you're probably going to get along with the people they're friends with as well the other thing that i think really kind of changed for me and made me more comfortable in this city made me feel like i had community was work connections you've got to
make friends at work you never know what kind of things you'll have in common just because you work at the same place or for the same company like it's insane to me how many people i've met who i worked with and you know if they're the same age as you you're probably going to have at least a couple
things in common and even if they're not the deepest friendships and you know you don't know maybe you're going to meet your best friend even if they're not the deepest friendships and the deepest connections it still feels really nice i think to know that there are people who care about you and people
that are around you um okay i'm going to spend a little bit of time on this next tip because i think that it's probably my most practical one most applicable and what really helped me from a personal experience okay you need to commit you need to commit to something pick one two activities or hobbies
you really enjoy or something that you think you might enjoy you don't even have to love it yet and i want you to do them every week two three times a week once a week minimum but do it every single week stay committed and i do want to stipulate with any good thing it's going to take time so don't expect
to be like making or meeting friendship soulmates within a day or two but activities and hobbies are like gold standard the best way to meet people because you know how you know how easy it is to talk to someone if you see them every week if you see them three times a week at you know your boxing class
or at the climbing gym or at your marathon training club i don't know these are all sports related you can do whatever you want you know at your art class there you go i did life drawing and i met so many people because once you become you know a regular face that's when you start kind of like having
conversations with people and discovering the other things that you have in common you know there are some people that you're just going to click with but in general i really believe that relationships and friendships require steady intent and commitment and investment and that's what this tip kind
of does like if you pick you know one thing for you to do every single week and you're always there chances are those people are going to be there at the same time as well and if you keep showing up and you keep kind of putting yourself out there and showing your face and being vulnerable um i feel
like sooner or later things start to click and when you are in that kind of position get their contact information add them on instagram right away like you've seen someone at i don't know your pottery class be like oh hey i see you here a lot what's your name blah blah blah have a little small talk
have a little chat and get their number or get them get their instagram i find that instagram is really really good and if you are someone like one of my friends who i've done this too oh my gosh please don't leave me please don't think this is like incredibly awkward but i've made friends doing this where i've
gone to something week in week out um seeing the same people and just gone up to them and been like oh hey and added them on instagram you know reacted to their stories a few times just like kind of showing that you're there and getting them to think about you um and bada bing bada boom you might have a new
friend um and i think the reason that i love this tip and i love the idea of committing to an activity committing committing to a hobby and doing it every week is that friendships don't just happen um actually in the belief that they happen that there are this organic miracle can actually hinder our
chances of making friends i don't know if you're someone who thinks this i used to think this but i would just kind of walk through life and being like the people who are meant to meet me will meet me and in some ways that is really true but you know if you're sitting at home every day being like oh
if it's meant to happen it will happen chances are it's probably not because you're not putting yourself out there enough for those opportunities to come on by and there was this really interesting study that i read about when i was researching this episode and it found that holding a belief that friendships
happen based on luck and based on you know this kind of magic magical run -in or destiny it actually was related to more loneliness um and a greater sense of isolation whereas believing that friendships take effort um was actually related to less loneliness in this study and on a similar note i think
uh it's okay if it takes some time and if you don't have an immediate you know rushing connection with someone that you should listen to the stalemate's episode if you want to hear more about this but a friend of mine once said to me when i first moved here he was one of the first people that i really
met in this city and something he said to me i think i was complaining to him like oh i feel really lonely like i don't have enough friends and he was like you don't want to rush friendships because the best things in life take time and the best relationships take time to grow um and he also mentioned
he also said i'm trying to remember what he said because he said it so beautifully but it was kind of along the gist of like you should be deliberate in deciding the people who you're going to surround yourself with it's important to not just rush into that and collect whoever you want whoever's available
real friendships take time and it's time that will be worthwhile in the future it's an investment because if you just you know meet whoever you meet with some random person i'm like okay i've chosen this person i'm going to commit to them like it's great to have acquaintances and everything like that but there
is something deeper and more special about a friendship that you've really worked towards and you've taken time to build a connection with that person because you because you really like them because you notice that there's something quite unique and special about them um i think on another note but really
similar to that idea of being vulnerable and committing and investing in hobbies and activities putting yourself out there don't be afraid to just grow up to people and start talking here's the thing most of us have been taught and learned and trained socially to be polite to strangers and to be polite
to people even if the situation is awkward so although there may be like an initial awkward moment if you go up to someone and start talking most of the time that kind of weird social etiquette to not be rude and just walk away means that you'll probably end up having a really engaging conversation and this doesn't
have to lead to a magnificent long -lasting friendship maybe it will but more importantly it will allow you to kind of practice putting yourself out there and being yourself and having interesting conversations and in these situations you really do have to believe that people will like you back this might also be
the case of you know you've rocked up to a social event and you don't know anyone but you have to always expect the best i think many of us see ourselves as passive agents of our kind of social worlds and our social lives waiting for someone else to reach out to us and introduce themselves but if you're
struggling to make friends right now i know it's really hard but you have to embrace the idea that you are in control and you're in control of your social world and who you choose to have in your life more than you think and the more intentional you are about connecting with others the more that you're
going to benefit the more reward you're going to see one study kind of examined this group of students and they examined classmates perceptions of the social environment that was their classroom and people in the class perceived it really differently so the researchers asked these kids was the social
environment you know did you feel warm in this room like did you feel warm and comfortable or did you feel cold mostly the kids who perceived the social environment to be positive those who engaged with others those who introduced themselves to others they were the ones who were like oh this environment
was really warm and i found it really welcoming whereas those who kind of kept to themselves they were the ones who were like oh i felt like this class was really chilly and really clinical and unwelcoming and it's normally the people who do take that leap of faith force themselves to be vulnerable
and engage with others that also believe that others will be just as open to meeting them as well and it's that philosophy again you have to be intentional about connecting with others but you also have to believe that others will want to meet you and that people will like you back this is just such
a weird anecdote but i feel like it's appropriate here you know i'm promoting this idea of you know going up and talking to strangers and a little bit of stranger danger obviously not choose your time and your context but i remember i i sorry but i remember i one time i was like at a i like a chicken
shop i think i was buying like chips i'd been like out with my friends and they were these like guys and this girl sitting at this table and there was something that we had in common and i just like went up and started talking to them and we ended up talking for like 20 minutes next thing you know like
they like were inviting me to this like party they were having and now we're really good friends and of course there's been so many instances where that's happened and i've never heard from them again or we batted each other on instagram and now we just watch each other's stories but there are those
beautiful kind of diamonds in the rough those beautiful experiences where it's worked out really well where everyone was kind of on the same page and that's the other thing if you're really struggling to make friends there are other people out there who are feeling the same way who probably want social
interactions and deep meaningful friendships just as much as you and if you meet them it's probably likely that you'll connect and that you'll be able to kind of form a relationship with them i think back to that point that i made right at the start about social comparison it's very easy to see the world
and to see other people as having it all and everyone you know already has all the friends they need and everyone's already super content and you know very popular and has everything that they want they've got the friends that they want that's not the case like this is such a universal experience and i
feel like everyone could do with more friends everyone could do with more love and relationships and connection in their life so putting yourself out there like the worst that's going to happen is someone's going to say no um and if you've got a fear of rejection maybe that's really scary for you um
but i would challenge you to do it anyway because the reward from that is just so much greater than the risk or greater than the cost i also want to say and kind of take a moment to really recognize that um i think that this experience of trying to put yourself out there and make friends is very different
for different types of people um we're obviously all very unique we have different personalities we have different attitudes and ways of seeing the world and one of those ways is um as an extrovert or as an introvert i obviously you know run a podcast where i talk into a microphone for an hour a week
so i would say i'm pretty extroverted um and that's where i think my perspective comes from but i also understand that there are probably a lot of people listening to this who are quite introverted and for who like a lot of these kind of challenges or tips would be really really difficult um but i also do
believe that there are so many people in life who will love us who we haven't met yet um and as challenging as it might be to really be vulnerable and to put yourself out there there are ways to do that in a way that makes you feel safe and doesn't you know kind of spike your social anxiety or doesn't
exhaust you even joining things like bumble bff or online groups or just committing to something one day a week even if it's just for an hour i feel like that's why organized sport is so good you're there for an hour and then you can opt out or opt in to further activities um but i do recognize that making
friends can be a lot harder for some rather than others and it is like a unique and personal struggle for each of us and something that we have to kind of navigate and figure it out for ourselves but we live in such a social world and surrounded by so many people it's impossible for you to go through
life and go through the next you know five ten thirty years of your life and not run into someone that you really like or run into someone whose company you really enjoy and something that i was kind of always repeating to myself was like the people that i knew five years ago were like i the people
that i know now were not people that i knew five years ago sorry so you never know who you're gonna meet in these next five years there's so many people in the world so many opportunities to make exciting long -term even short -term friendships but friendships that really fulfill you and contribute to
your well -being so if that's kind of the quest and the personal journey that you're on i wish you love and i wish you luck and strength because i know it can be quite difficult but i also challenge you to follow some of those tips like go up and talk to people commit to a hobby leverage those mutual
connections those casual connections like just ask people for their instagram just invite people to do things like worst comes to worst they say no like and then you know it's not meant to be or you try again and you could always have a flourishing gorgeous friendship with them so anyhow it's kind of turned
into a bit of a pep talk now but i hope it's helpful for you if you are struggling with this at the moment and if you're really finding it quite difficult to build friendships at this stage in your life i've said it before probably many times in this episode but i'll say it once again this is not an experience
that you're having alone it is so universal and i think it's important to also recognize that this decade of our lives is one that is defined by chaos and change and shifting dynamics and that compounded with you know we just went through a pandemic like pandemic in which we were forced to be physically
separate and isolated and you're doing a great job you're doing such a great job whoever you are with what you've got going on so thank you so much for listening and i really hope you enjoyed this episode i've got a bonus paid content episode coming out this week as well so if you want to hear that you
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