What if you could walk into any room and instantly command respect without saying a single word?
Today I'm revealing three simple tips to charm effortlessly and leave a lasting positive impression. welcome back to speak up the podcast for high performing introverts including you social introverts where we reveal the charisma and communication secrets of A-listers so that you get the recognition and the opportunities you have earned.
I am your host, Laura Camacho, your magical communication and executive presence coach, godmother, and strategist.
And by the end of today's short episode, you will know how to apply Robert Greene's power law of number 30 to project confidence and charm without effort and You'll learn subtle body language shifts that signal competence and credibility instantly. and a simple voice exercise to lower your tone, which increases your executive presence.
So we're diving into the game changing topic of how to charm without effort and to appear effortlessly impressive.
And these tips are inspired by this book I'm sure you've heard of, The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene.
It's a classic. And law number 30 says, make your accomplishments perfect. seem effortless.
And I'm going to share three practical tips to help you with this to shine in any room without breaking a sweat.
Let's get started. So first of all, like why effortlessness?
Like why making it look easy, right? That's a legitimate question.
And as introverts, we often overthink how we're perceived in professional settings.
And maybe we overthink about that in all settings.
We sometimes feel the need to prove ourselves by working harder or speaking louder or saying more.
But here's the secret. True executive presence come from projecting ease and confidence, not strain.
Robert Greene's law number 30 teaches us that people are drawn to those who make their accomplishments seem effortless.
And if you think about it, we find that massively attractive.
For example, if you see a performer on stage and she's singing, And it seems so natural.
And so you try it at home and you sound like a baby camel crying for his mom.
Why? Because that light and breezy approach like you're having a good time.
That attitude signals mastery, control and charisma.
When you appear unruffled, you stand out as someone who's got it together.
And that's magnetic in the workplace. So how do you pull this off when you're overthinking, highly conscientious? kind of second guessing yourself a lot.
I'm gonna break it down into three actionable tips that you can use starting today.
And tip number one is the art of selective visibility.
If you've coached with me when I explained this, you're going to remember.
Selective visibility is shining the light on your accomplishments or your team's accomplishments in a very subtle, pleasant way.
We often just avoid the spotlight at all costs, but Law 30 reminds us, what you don't say or don't show can be as powerful.
So, You don't need to be that annoying person who is talking about every detail of their work or their project or... how late they stayed.
No, you're going to choose moments to showcase your wins with subtle, effortless confidence.
I'm about to tell you how to do that. Let's say that you just led a successful project and it doesn't even have to be like a major milestone.
It could be that you resolved a problem that had been bothering a lot of people for some time.
So what you do is you just casually mention in a meeting, oh, I'm so pleased that we hit this target ahead of schedule.
I'm so pleased that we finally got Mr. Difficult on board with this proposal.
I'm so glad that we signed on. I'm so excited that the team really achieved this thing.
That's good news, folks. And there's one thing that we don't have enough of in this world is good news.
If somebody asks you how you're doing, I'm doing great.
I'm so happy that we just accomplished this thing. in your one-on-ones with your boss, in your skip meetings, any opportunity.
We're talking about 15 seconds, right? You just broadcast the good news because it is good news.
And it doesn't have to be something that you did personally.
It can be your team's win or people that work for you.
And it can even be shining the light on other people.
But this is a natural way of it sounds natural anyway, it may not feel natural, that you're planting a seed that you are effective without sounding like you're trying so hard. you're just sharing enough to be to impress maybe they're going to ask you for more it's kind of like leaving a really beautiful book on the table people want to pick it up.
So the next time you have a meeting that you think you might have a chance to share one of your wins or accomplishments, Think about it ahead of time and just, you know, practice saying, oh, how are you?
You know, John, I'm doing great. Thank you.
I'm so happy we got this done. You will be amazed at how much more people respect that understated competence and that reminds people that you're a high performer.
So that's good. All right. So that is what we call Selective visibility.
Number two is about non-verbals. I'm just gonna hit on some of the most impactful non-verbal that the signals that convey poise, relaxed, effortless you know you do not need to dominate the conversation you don't need to dominate the meeting You just want to come in with the right body language, tone, and energy.
So Robert Greene's law number 30 emphasizes that effortlessness, which is such a curious word, but it's about perception, right?
And so that is what people pick up from your nonverbal cues.
So first of all, Don't be rushed. And to do that, you have to have a tiny break between meetings because otherwise you're rushing to the next thing.
And rushing is the opposite of effortlessness.
And I know there are times that you have to rush.
I'm very guilty of that. When you come in slowly, you've got all the time in the world, it leaves an impression of massive confidence.
Definitely do not fidget. Some of you like... vibrate your legs or your hands or you play with pens.
This makes you seem nervous, even if you're not even aware of it.
It's very distracting. So you want to stop doing that.
You want to walk into a room. You want to greet people.
You want to sit down in a relaxed posture.
But make sure to maintain eye contact without staring at people and deliberate hand movements.
Now, not flailing your hands when you speak, but using your hands To gesture makes you more interesting to listen to and to watch.
And finally, one last nonverbal thing. A lower voice pitch sounds more... executive.
So if you have a high voice like that, one trick is to say hello.
Hello to get you down a notch or two. Lower voice is more pleasant to the ears.
And it also conveys thoughtfulness and control.
So before your next big meeting, practice.
Breathe in deeply. Maybe lower your voice.
If you're any kind of musician, you can just talk yourself down.
Approaching a meeting with a lower tone of voice, it's a small change that has a big impact.
Definitely don't fidget and don't rush. All right, tip number three, let others amplify your wins.
Isn't that cool? Let others do your PR. Now, they're not going to do it, though, without any prompting.
It's not that you're going to ask them. You're going to use the law of reciprocity.
So you want other people to speak well of you.
And that is... The most powerful praise of all is when it comes from other people.
And we hate self-promotion. I know. I get that.
But instead, with your friends, you can even agree like, what should I tell them about you in this meeting?
And you can like intentionally say, Share credit if anybody on your team does something you definitely want to put the spotlight on them any kind of group collaboration Shine the light on others and if you're related to the project, it will also shine back on you.
And simply the habit of praising the actual accomplishments of other people It will get around.
It will build your reputation. It will build your executive presence.
You want to be in the habit of noticing the accomplishments of others and yourselves.
So thank a colleague or someone who works for you publicly.
Say, I'm so excited how so-and-so got this thing done.
It was super hard. and it was just so impressive.
So there you have it, three tips to charm without effort and appear effortlessly impressive.
So you've got the selective visibility, which is I'm so pleased that I accomplished this thing or my team accomplished this thing.
You want to perfect your nonverbals, no vibrating.
Slow down, lower your voice, And finally, amplify the winds of other people and that will come back to you.
So there you have it. Go forth, practice one.
In the show notes, I have a scorecard that had just came out I think last week.
Based on the four pillars of my executive presence mastery system, it's designed to help you pinpoint what's holding you back and and what to focus on next to build your executive presence.
So there is a link in the show notes to the executive presence scorecard.
It's not the self-assessment is a handout with the 10 qualities where you can grade yourself.
This is different. You actually will get a score here. by taking the tests online.
Anyway, have a fantastic day and I will catch you on the next episode.
