Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.
I'm so glad you tuned in today because you're going to learn three ways to brainwash yourself
for greater success and a more meaningful life. And I use the word brainwash on purpose
because I'm going to teach you a system that will help you unlock the power of your mind.
I consider this a superpower. I use it in my business, I use it in my personal life,
I have taught these three steps to tens of thousands of people. You want more success,
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brainwash yourself for success and more meaning in life. And it is such an honor to spend time
with you and teach this to you. Welcome to the Mel Robbins family. I love that you're interested
in the topic and that you're taking time for yourself to learn how to bring more success and
more meaning into your life. That's incredibly cool. And I can't wait to teach you these three
steps to brainwash yourself in a very positive way and unlock the power of your mind and your spirit.
And we're going to be tapping into really cool research from the University of Virginia
as well as my own deeply personal and professional experience using the three steps in my own life
and business to unlock more success, more meaning. And I don't know if you've ever experienced this.
But I find that there is something profound that is available to you and me.
That there's this like deeper experience to feel in the remarkable thing we call life.
You know, the fact is you do have the ability to tap into things that you can't see.
You have the ability to create things and feel things that you can't explain.
Wouldn't it be amazing if every day you just had this sense that life or the universe
that it was all conspiring to help you? That there are signs that yes, you are on the right path.
Things are working out. Well, the research says that it is possible to go through your life and
have a much more meaningful experience. In fact, there is this brand new study. I was so excited
when I saw this that was published in frontiers in psychology and the study is titled. I mean,
check out this title, an under explored pathway to life satisfaction. And you want to know what
that study looked at? It dug into the topic of synchronicity and how creating more synchronicities
in your life is a pathway to life satisfaction. And that's exactly what you're going to learn to do
today. I'm going to teach you three steps to create more synchronicity, to tap into this
extraordinary power that you have, to create more success, to experience more meaning.
And so let's just start with what is synchronicity? Well, synchronicity is basically one of those
moments that you just can't explain. They're kind of magical, but you immediately have a moment
of synchronicity. And it gives you this sense that, wow, I'm being guided like the universe
got its hand on my back. You know, I kind of describe these moments like a holy shit moment,
where you're thinking of your friend from 20 years ago and a minute later, oh my gosh, there they
are. They're texting or calling you or you're in a business meeting. Have you ever had this happen?
You're pitching a new client and you find out that they're from your same hometown. Don't you love
that stuff? In fact, there's a caterer that I use all the time up here in Southern Vermont. His name
is Paul. He works with his wife, Julia. They're absolutely amazing. And he was setting up lunch for
our team on a production day. And my sister-in-law, who happens to be my chief operating officer for
one for three studios, she had flown in from the week. And so we were here in Southern Vermont,
we're filming a bunch of stuff for you. We are all together. Paul and Julia are catering the
lunch and we're all downstairs in the kitchen. And Paul and Christine start chatting. It turns out,
check this out, that Paul and Christine and Julia, they all went to Naperville High School in Illinois
and graduated the same year. What are the odds? And it's such a huge high school that they didn't
know each other. But now they're standing here in Southern Vermont and we're all working and
vibing together. I mean, is that a coincidence? Or is that life telling you something? See, I say,
it's not a coincidence. It's not a coincidence at all. I say it's happening for a reason,
that there is deep meaning in the fact that Christine and Julia and Paul all went to high school together
and they just figured it out while they were standing in the kitchen on a work day while we were
producing like amazing content. Now, if you're someone who's kind of cynical, you might hear this
example about Christine and Julia and Paul and you might shrug your shoulders and say, ah, it's
just a coincidence. Well, after today, you're not going to do that. And the reason why you're not
going to do that is because I'm going to teach you something using research. And it's this,
that you will never tap into the success that you desire or the deeper meaning in your life if
you don't learn how to see the deeply personal meaning and things that are happening around you.
Simply saying, it's a coincidence. Is you declaring, that means nothing. There's no magic in my life.
There's no reason for this, but calling it a sign of something greater is what gives your life
meaning. And these moments matter and they happen in your life all the time. And when you start to
see deeply personal reasons for random things happening in your life, you begin to unlock the power
of your mind. And you tap into something deeper that is available to you right now. See, I could
see that Christine, Julia and Paul as a sign that we're supposed to work together, that even the
caterer is supporting this decision that we're not just sister-in-laws that we're supposed to work
together. And here's the cool thing about learning this superpower of seeing life working for you,
of brainwashing yourself for success and for deeper meaning is that you get to choose what
things mean when they're happening in your life. Why wouldn't you want that for yourself?
Why go through life questioning whether or not you've made the right decision?
Why go through life just shrugging off things as a coincidence? It's just a coincidence. I'm just
going through the motions in my life. Why not see the fact that it stopped raining? And all of a
sudden the sun came out right before your first zoom interview for this job that you really want.
Why not see that as a really good sign that it's going to go well, that you're on the right track,
that you're doing the right thing by putting yourself out there? Why not see the fact that the
song playing in the restaurant, which happened to be the song that your parents danced to, the first
dance song that they're waiting? Why not see the fact that the song is playing in the restaurant
as a sign that the person that you're dating right now is actually a good person?
When the house that you really want to buy has an address, 508, and that just happens to be the
same area code as the state you're moving from. How is that not a sign that this is your new home,
that even if it's not that things are working out for you and just looking at this house is a marker
on the right path of you finding the right home? Imagine. Imagine how different it would feel
if you brainwashed yourself to believe that life is supporting you, guiding you, that you're not
alone at all, that you can see signs that you're on the right path or on the wrong path.
I mean, you felt this sense at moments in your life, right? That there's something larger for you
to experience, some deeper dimension of life that you could tap into. I'm here to tell you there is.
There's this new study that I love that has proven that simply just having the awareness that
synchronicities exist increases your life satisfaction. The study I'm talking about was published in
Frontiers and Psychology and just check out the title of this research, an unexplored pathway
to life satisfaction. I freaking love that, an unexplored pathway to life satisfaction.
And here is how this superpower is going to help you. Number one, when things are really challenging,
you can tap into this ability to see synchronicities at a way to bolster your resilience and keep
you moving forward when you feel like giving up. I do it all the time. Being able to spot signs and
synchronicities in meaning in life and life is really hard. It's like the ultimate hack to continue
the fight, to continue believing that things will work out for you. I mean, even the example that's
kind of dumb of Paul and Julian Christine standing in my kitchen, when I moved here and I freaking
hated it, everywhere I looked, I saw reasons for why this was a dumb decision. Brainwashing yourself
in a positive way allows you to see the positive signs. Even something as crazy as three people standing
in your kitchen that went to the same high school. Why not call that out as a sign that you're on
the right path? It helps you keep going. It helps you stay optimistic. It helps you with your
resilience. And the second reason why you're going to want to know how to use this, and this is a
way that it's made a huge difference in my life, is that everything that I experience
is so much more profound. Because I know that it wasn't just hard work or luck that got me the
results that I wanted or the moments of magic that I've had. I know that there is something
deeper going on, that I'm tapping into in my day to day life because I don't believe in coincidences.
I believe that things are happening for a reason. And when you tap into that and you find evidence
in your day to day life, I don't even know how to describe it. I just want it for you. Do you know
that there are 150 million podcast episodes that have been published? And you chose this one?
And I'm going to tell you why because you were meant to. And if someone that you love sent you
this episode and you made the decision to just click on it and listen to it, it's because you
were meant to. So from this point forward, I want you to listen with a level of intention.
Listen knowing that there is something that you're going to hear that is exactly what you need to
hear at this exact moment in your life. There are no coincidences. Let my voice be the sign that
you needed because I'm on a mission to empower and inspire you to open your heart and your mind
so that you can achieve all the success that you deserve and experience a much more meaningful life.
And there are three steps that I'm going to teach you that you can start doing as soon as I teach
them to you. And these three steps are based on the research of Dr. Bernard Beitman. He is a professor
at the University of Virginia School of Medicine. He's a medical doctor who's trained at Yale
in Stanford and he is the number one researcher in the science of synchronicities, which you know
is the pathway to a more meaningful life according to research. And in his research, he's looked at
the patterns of people who experience a tremendous number of synchronicities. And I consider myself
to be somebody who experiences synchronicities every single day. So I've translated his research
into three specific actions that you can start practicing because I'm serious. I want you to
brainwash yourself in a positive way because this is so freaking cool. Number one, the first skill
that I want you to master is state it and claim it. The second skill we're going to talk about is
mastering your energy and how to use it to your advantage. And the third skill we're going to talk
about is finding a bigger meaning. And look, I know these three don't quite make a whole lot of
sense right now, but when I unpack them in detail, and I give you specific examples of how you're
going to use it. And then I tell you stories from my life about the crazy success and even the
miracles that I've been creating by using these three skills, you are going to be unstoppable.
So here's what we're going to do. Let's take a brief break. And while you do,
think about something for me, okay? I want you to think to yourself, if Mel
is right. And if what she's about to teach me actually works, if I could tap into greater success
and more meaning in my life. And if I could see a sign, some sort of confirmation today
that I'm on the right track or that I've made the right decision, what would that sign be?
And begin to open up the space for something more meaningful to happen to you today.
Okay? So I want you to think about that over the break. And I'll be waiting for you
when we come back. Stay with me.
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Welcome back it's your friend Mel and today I'm teaching you three ways to brainwash yourself for
greater success and a more meaningful life and I'm using the research from Dr. Bernard
Whiteman at the University of Virginia who is the number one researcher on the science of
synchronicities and I'm using that research to teach you three skills that you can master. These
are skills I use every single day and you better believe I also use this to build momentum and to
create massive success. Now before we went to the break I asked you to think about some area of
your life where you would love to see a sign some sort of confirmation that you're on the right
track or about a decision that you're making okay that it's the right decision and as we continue
talking I want you to hold on to that okay so that you can make what you're learning today deeply
personal and relevant to something that matters to you okay awesome so let's start with the first
skill and the first skill is you have to state it and then claim it when it happens. Got to state
it and then claim it when it happens and as simple as it sounds to state something that you want
it's not that simple because you also have to claim it when it happens and by claim it I mean
you have to be able to silently say to yourself check that out I made that happen. Yes maybe I do
have a superpower this is pretty cool based on the research the reason why this is the important
skill to state it and claim it is because people who experience synchronisities are higher in what
is called referential thinking which means you have a belief that things happening around you
have to do with you meaning you're responsible for it and I want to give you a super simple example
of what I'm talking about this is something you can start practicing today to state it and claim it
okay so let's just take an example that you can relate to let's say that you're at the store you're
at the supermarket and holy cow it's a long line I mean really long line and boy you wish another
line would just open up here's how you're going to use this first skill you're going to state
what you want so as you're standing in this long line and I want you to just put yourself there
I mean you got a cart full of stuff there are probably seven people in front of you you're thinking
to yourself oh my gosh why are they have so few people working when are they going to hey hey stop
you have a superpower state what you want stand there and say to yourself I want a line to open up
it's really that simple I want a line to open up and then when it happens don't just shrug your
shoulders and go that's a coincidence I guess I'm lucky new claim it put a smirk on your face
and say to yourself and then check that out I mean that happened that's pretty cool that's not
a coincidence claim ownership for creating the energy shift and creating that magic and this is hard
but here's what I want you to understand about the unexplainable or quantum nature of all this
see when you're standing there with your cart full of stuff and there's seven people in front of you
and the line is snaking all the way back down into the aisles and everybody else around you is
getting agitated and starting to complain and you have the guts and the clarity and the confidence
to state with intention I want a line to open up you set something in motion see right now you're
not using this power correctly I want you to start stating what you want before it happens I have
this story to share with you so 24 years ago my mom and I went to the world's largest antique
market it's in western Massachusetts it's called Brimfield antique market it is so freaking cool it
happens I think the second Tuesday through Sunday of every May July and September okay it's like six
football fields of stuff and so my mom and I go to this and our daughter Sawyer was a baby and I
had her in the baby Bjorn and before we walked in to Brimfield I stated what I wanted I said I
want to find a red and white quilt in the traditional shaker style like an antique quilt and if you
don't know what a shaker style quilt is it's like one of those old fashioned traditional quilts
that you know are in big white squares and triangles very geometric and as I stated it I want
to find a red and white quilt in the traditional shaker style I could picture it in my mind I knew
exactly where I wanted it to go in my house and as I started to walk toward the market I kept
stating to myself I'm going to find that quilt today not I want it I'm going to find a red and
white antique shaker style quilt and by stating it I am setting something powerful in motion now I
looked all day I mean we must have walked 40,000 steps I looked at vendor after vendor and quilt
after quilt and there were lots of shaker quilts lots of red and white ones but nothing really hit me
but I kept saying I am going to find the perfect red and white antique shaker quilt I just knew it
I stated it I kept stating it and we were getting near the end of the day and we're heading
back to the car and we're passing some of the final stalls as people are packing things up and
all of a sudden I noticed wait a minute there's a quilt I see it folded up underneath those
cutting boards over there let's go check that out so we walk over we remove the cutting boards
off the top of this thing and my mom and I start to unfold it and it was really cool but here's
the thing it had some stains on it it was kind of tattered like you know some of the squares were
pulling off and the person that was working the booth walks up and said now this is a very rare
antique quilt because this is considered a wedding quilt and I said well what is that and they
said well in this town it was the tradition that everybody in the town when somebody got married
would sign the names of all the people that were attending the wedding for the young couple that
was getting married and so here I am my mom and I we've got the quilt all unfolded and we're looking
at it and you know I'm kind of looking past the stains and the tears and you could notice all this
handwriting on the white squares and it literally I'm not kidding looked like you know that handwriting
from like the declaration of independence that like super scripty thing that looks like somebody
wrote it with a feather and my mom's going oh my god look at this old fashioned curse if this is
just so cool and I'm like yeah look at some of the names and all of a sudden as I started looking
closer holy cow the last names on the quilt over and over and over soyer soyer Joseph soyer Emily
soyer Sarah soyer Frederick soyer the hair on my arms stood straight up my mom was like oh
oh my gosh soyer's name is all over this quilt we have to buy this thing this is unbelievable
you know I'm sure the quilt dealer doubled the price and his mind in that moment
but there is zero doubt that I was meant to find that quilt I mean here's the thing
is it a coincidence that I look all day and underneath cutting boards heading to the car
I spot a quilt out of the corner of my eye we unfold it and I look past the tears and the stains
after rejecting quilts all day long only to find out that my daughter's name soyer is the last name
of half the people who have signed this quilt as a wedding gift 200 years ago for somebody
that is not a coincidence I made that happen I stated what I wanted when I got out of that car
eight hours before I kept stating what I wanted all day long even though it wasn't happening
I kept stating what I wanted even when the quilt was in my hands and I believed with every ounce
in my body that it was going to happen and I made it happen I was meant to find this exact
quilt at this exact time while I was with my mom visiting from Michigan wearing my daughter whose
name is soyer which is half of the names that were on this 200 year old quilt that stating it
set this in motion and here is how you can start to apply step one before you go shopping anywhere
and you're pulling up to some place and you don't know exactly what they have in stock so let's
say you're pulling up to like a marshals or a tj max or a flea market or garage sale I want you
to take a beat and create a little scavenger hunt for yourself this is how you tap into the superpower
okay first you're going to state to yourself without knowing what's actually in there what are you
going to find what are you going to find are you in front of a garage sale and you want to find
an antique compass are you sitting at a flea market and you want to find an old I don't know
latter are you sitting in front of tj max and there's a particular something you would love to find
I want you to play this game where you start to state it to yourself I'm going to find X
and then I want you to visualize this moment where you do in fact my colleague Amy just did this I
kid you not with her daughter Jane last night so last night they pulled into tj max and Amy was
already stating what she wanted she wanted her daughter Jane to find a dress for this dance that's
coming up at the high school and of course parking space right up front why because when you state
what you want you set something in motion and so what is that parking space is it a coincidence
or is it a sign you get to choose Amy says that's a sign that this is happening that things are
going to work out that they are in fact going to find this dress in this store so she turns to her
daughter Jane and says so what do you want to find and Jane says well I need a dress for the winter
formal and I love the dress that I have but it's a summer dress so I would love a dress just like
that one but only in a different material so that I have something for the winter formal Amy's
like great she starts stating it to herself we are going to find that dress the perfect dress is
going to be in there so they walk into the store she's set this in motion and they can't find
anything you know how sometimes tj max it's hit her mess right like that's the fauna going in
there you don't know what you're going to get it was like they had stopped selling dresses but Amy
was doubling down and she's saying to herself we're going to find a dress we're going to find the
perfect dress we're going to find the perfect dress and then all of a sudden Jane calls to her
from clear across the store and says mom mom I found the rack Amy heads over to her she gets there
it's like a pathetic sad rack you know a sad look a dress on a rack I mean they're barely
clinging to the hanger but Amy was setting things in motion we're going to find this dress I just
have this feeling this is going to happen or we're going to do this they go through the whole rack
absolutely nothing Amy was even trying to sell Jane on a few of them Jane's like nope nope nope nope
nope Amy's not giving up we're going to find that dress and all of a sudden she looks out of the
corner of her eye couple racks over there's a bunch of pajamas guess what she spots in the middle
of the pajamas that's right there was a dress there that someone had randomly stuck on the
pajama rack so Amy darts on over and it was as if the dress that Jane had at home the one that
she loved it was as if all of the little birds and mice and Cinderella came in with their bows
and their ribbons and made it even better just like that this halter dress with a circle at the top
and it was black and Jane was like oh I don't know and Amy said we got to try it on and now Amy's
like we found the dress we found the dress the dressing room was closed coincidence I don't think so
not when you said something in motion she can't try it on which means what the universe is telling
her this is your dress trust take it home and try it on and sure enough when they got home and
Jane put on the dress it was exactly what she had wanted did Amy create that of course she did
she set that in motion and this is way more than a story about buying a dress this is way more
than a story about how you create a successful shopping trip did you hear the meaning in the story
like how much richer that scavenger hunt became when you walk in with this spirit that everything
is working out for you without the skill of stating what you want and the knowing that you're
setting something powerful in motion not only would this not have happened because they wouldn't
have seen the dress over on the PJ rack but it opens you up to experience life at a completely
different way and right now you're walking by opportunities that you're not even open to seeing
and they're all around you that's why this is so cool here's another way that you can start
practicing using it so anytime you go to a networking event or a party or any place you're going to
meet new people I want you to practice stating what you want before you walk in I'm going to meet
somebody really cool tonight I'm going to meet somebody that can help me with this job search I'm
going to meet somebody who can help me raise money for this company I'm starting I'm going to
meet somebody that needs to buy a house and I'm a real estate agent who is looking for customers
set it in motion set it in motion by stating what's going to happen before it happens and then when
it happens claim it I made that happen I made that happen the point here is to brainwash your mind
to believe that something good is going to happen before it does because when you do that
your mind conspires to help you that's how you unlock the power of it your mind spots the
dress on the pajama rec it spots the quilt underneath the cutting boards it zeros in on the one
person standing in the corner who has this interesting vibe about them and you don't know why it is
but for some reason you feel pulled to walk over to them and you've said you're going to meet the
person that you need to meet and they turn out to be the exact person that you needed to meet and
you sell them the house or they introduce you to the person at the company that you've always
wanted to interview at and look do you always find the dress no do you always meet somebody who
happens to know somebody that you needed to maybe not but going into these situations believing
that something good is going to happen it changes your entire experience of it and let me tell you
this how does expecting the worse help you how does expecting I'm never going to find anything
they never have a lot of dresses how does that help you find a dress how does walking
into some sort of event saying there's a wasted time I'm shy I mean to read I never
meet anybody that you just got to think how is that going to help you meet people that could change
the course of your career or your business or your life say I think you're so afraid to want
something and not have a turnout that you stop yourself from setting it in motion you won't even
allow yourself to state and declare that it's going to happen and when you don't do that you close
yourself off to everything that's possible see I'm teaching you right now how to stand in the
present moment and start to connect dots forward to see the path to see that the world and the
universe and the powers that be have your back and are conspiring to guide you another cool thing
about learning how to do this is you can also do this in reverse if you really look back on your
past with an honest look you will see how all the dots of your life connect you to this moment
for example you can see now in this moment why that painful breakup had to happen
why that school you got rejected from had to happen if that breakup hadn't happened you would never
have met the love of your life you would never have faced the things that you needed to heal in
yourself if that relationship had not ended and you can also look backwards and find these moments
where you now realize oh my god even back then even back then my life was trying to guide me
because I just knew that that relationship had to end six months before it did I just knew I was
making the right decision you know those moments where you can look in the past and you're like oh
my god I just know it in my bones that's a moment of synchronicity because when you just know it's
true you are finding meaning in something where nobody else does like that moment you just
knew it was the right school do you know it was a just know it moment that brought us to
Southern Vermont our son Oakley didn't want to go to the public high school outside of Boston where
his sisters went and he just campaigned and campaigned to tour the public high school up here in
Southern Vermont where his grandmother lived and when he stepped on that campus he just knew this
was where he was supposed to be he knew it he couldn't explain it but he knew it was true and he stated it
I'm going to school here and by doing that he set something in motion he did that at the
beginning of eighth grade and for an entire year his father and I were like no you're not no you're
not no you're not but guess what the universe had other plans because Oakley Robbins had set this
sucker in motion and he was willing it to happen and we find ourselves here trying it out
freshman year giving it a whirl he set that in motion without him stating it without him having
that just knew he felt something and he gave the feeling he felt when he walked on that campus
meaning this is the place for me you have had those experiences in your life maybe you just
knew that a certain person was the right person they were your person or you just knew oh my god I
got to get out of this situation you left and found another job at next year you know the company
folds you didn't get on the train and everybody got sick on the train and you didn't know why you
couldn't explain why but you just knew see when you stand in this moment and you look backwards and
you see these just no moments that's also evidence of deep synchronicity happening in your life
that your life is telling you something that things aren't a coincidence
stated and then you claim it that's skill number one whether you're practicing this before you walk
into a store or a meeting or you're just going through your day-to-day life saying I'm going to
get confirmation today about this decision I'm going to see a sign whether it's a number or an
animal or a song or I'm going to see a tattoo or somebody's going to say something something's
going to happen and the reason why it happens is because you set it in motion by saying I'm going
to get confirmation now the second skill of this positive brainwashing now that you understand
you got to state it and then you got to claim it when it happens is mastering your energy
and using it to your advantage and I am going to explain exactly what I mean by that because this
exponentially increases your success with this skill you set it in motion and holy cow what I'm
about to teach you with your energy creates a title wave so don't you dare go anywhere because I'm
going to teach you how to create one in your own life when we return.
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of the stuff that you experience when you learn the three skills that help you brainwash yourself
in a positive way so you can experience greater success and deeper meaning in your life you deserve
this please make sure you share this with people like the other thing it's really cool about this topic
is that the more that you're around people that also do this the more you amplify each other so
this is a great thing to share with people that you love now you and I have already covered skill
number one which is this idea of state it and then claim it that you need to state what you want
as if it's happening so that you set it in motion now let's talk about the second skill
which is you've got to be able to then align your energy with what you want and in order to teach
you how to do this I want to go back to the example that we started with which is let's go back to
the grocery store where you're standing in this long line there's seven people in front of you
you got your cart full of stuff the line is like winding down and back the aisle and you're starting
to feel what you know normal people feel you're getting angry you're getting frustrated you're
starting to look at your phone you're starting to gripe to yourself oh yeah why don't they have
more people up here can't they see how many people are here it's going to take forever I got
I got things I got any to do well or or or or or or sure you can do step one when you're in that
state grumbling and looking at your phone you can state a line is going to open up but if you
keep looking at your phone and you allow yourself to stay angry and frustrated uh it's not going to
happen because your energy doesn't match what you just set in motion see you can state a line's going
to open up but if your energy is frustration it blocks it from happening so you not only have to
be able to stand in that line and state that a line is going to open up this is going to get moving
but then you have to align how you feel in that moment with it actually happening this is what I
mean by mastering your energy researchers call this high vitality but I want you to think about it
in a common sense way okay so let me ask you a question does the energy that you're feeling
right now is it consistent with the thing that you stated actually happening because if it isn't
consistent with the line opening up or you finding the dress or the quilt magically appearing
or you getting the job interview if it's not consistent with that happening you got to change it
and here's how you can hack it just imagine that it's happening right the line opens up you find
the dress you meet someone at the event who literally works at the place that you want to have a
job interview at how you feel how you got to feel when you spot that dress the perfect Cinderella
dress over on the pajama rack like you want the lottery how you get a feel when the line right
next door to you opens up and three people pull out of your line and then you scoot up in your line
and magically everything's moving again here to feel freaking great awesome bring that energy to how
you feel right now I'm dead serious about this before you walk into the store I want you to not only
state that you're going to find the perfect dress I want you to feel the energy of what it's going
to feel like when you do before you go into the networking event I want you to not only state that
you're going to meet the perfect person tonight that is going to help you I want you to feel the
energy of what it feels like to meet somebody who has the perfect connection for your job search
and as you're standing at the grocery store in this line a mile long with a cart full of stuff that
you need in order to get home to make for dinner and you state that that line next door is going to
open up I want you to summon the energy of what it will feel like when the other lane opens and
things start moving again like magic and you want to know what's super cool is the more that you
practice this and the more that you master your energy the faster you start going through your
day-to-day life in alignment with everything that you want see there's a reason why so many
cool and meaningful things happen in my life I'll tell you why because I've figured out the secret
the secret is move through your life setting things in motion and then match your energy to be
aligned with it act as if it's already happened bring that energy to it it's not faking confidence
you're in alignment and it takes time and it takes a little bit of practice and I've been doing
this for years this is a superpower and so I want to give you a little hack that I used in the very
beginning to start to build the skill of quickly mastering your energy and learning how to shift it
very very simple just listen to music okay seriously I'm this really works like a charm when you're
done listening to this go create a playlist that puts you in a fantastic mood like I'm talking
the kind of songs that no matter what is going on in the world if this song comes on you can't
help put a little pep in your step you find yourself swaying that's the kind of playlist I want
it is a mood shifting playlist and I want you to find about a dozen songs and if you can't find
it even one even one is good enough but if you can create a playlist that as soon as these
songs come on you can't help but feel happier you can use this playlist your advantage there you
are standing in line at the grocery store pop in the earbuds put on the playlist shift your energy
state what you want boom you're in alignment superpowers engaged you can play it as you're driving
to the store thinking about the dress that you are going to find you can play it as you're going
to the networking meeting thinking how cool it's going to be when you meet that person who's
going to introduce you to that person and all this stuff is going to fall in your lap this is
going to be incredible and as you're listening to the music and you feel your energy shift pay
attention to that shift it feels a certain way because if you can create it while you're listening
to the music you can then teach yourself how to create it even if you're not listening to it
and that's what I do all the time when I state something and I put it in motion I master my energy
and I set that title wave in its direction an energy alignment is what amplifies your success
and the meaning that you're going to feel as you're doing it and that brings me to the third skill
that pulls it all together and the third skill is find a bigger meaning this means
that you believe that the synchronicities around you the things that you're setting in motion are
a means of guidance from something that's much bigger than you that literally when the line at
the supermarket opens up that it's a little wink from the universe I see you I'm here for you
and here's the fastest way for you to start to practice this skill of find a bigger meaning
I want you to think about somebody that you love who's no longer with us okay is there some kind
of sign or confirmation that always makes you believe when you see it that they're here with you
that they are in fact watching over you I'm going to give you an example let's say that a hummingbird
always reminds you of your mom when a hummingbird shows up on a really important day I want you to
see that as a sign that your mom is in fact here and you may have had this experience I know a lot of
people write in about this that a loved one shows up for them in the form of an animal or a number
or a certain song or a flower in fact this just happened to me yesterday it was our daughter
soyer's 25th birthday and that same colleague Amy she pulled her a card and the card that she
pulled had an eagle on the front of it and an eagle has always symbolized my father-in-law Ken
how cool is it a coincidence absolutely not how cool that he showed up on her 25th birthday
how freaking cool and I also want you to start practicing this on days that are not important
because that will take this skill of find a bigger meaning to a much more profound level so let's
go back to the example of your mom and a hummingbird so that I can explain this to you I want you to
say that you're going to see a sign from your mom today so that you set it in motion and that
brain washes you in a positive way it unlocks the power of your brain to help you look for it
the second thing you're going to do is align your energy what does that mean that means I want you
to master an energetic shift and go through the day to day expecting to see it like how cool is
it going to be when you see that hummingbird maybe you're going to see the hummingbird in real life
maybe you'll see one on social media maybe you'll see it in a magazine or it'll be on a tattoo
on the person that is working in the restaurant tonight or maybe the restaurant tonight
their special dessert is hummingbird cake which happens to be my father's favorite cake which means
in my mind he must be thinking about me right now I did and when it happens allow it to be a sign
of something bigger of a bigger meaning in your life that a force is guiding you whether that force
is your higher self and intuition or there's a religious connotation or a spiritual one or a
person in your life who's passed on because this force is there and it is guiding you
and using these three tools you can strengthen your connection to it not just on important days
but you can make every day feel more important because you do and that will create more success
and more meaning in your day to day life you know I can give you another example of how I have
used these three skills in 2017 when I first published my book the five-second rule I did it as a
self-published author and there were a series of things that happened because I just didn't know
I mean this was the first time I had ever self-published a book I was brand new to the publishing
game and so you know I had worked really hard on this but for the first month that the book was
published it was a complete and utter failure I mean like a total disaster I'll spare you the back
story but basically there was some sort of glitch in the inventory software with Amazon and so
when the hardcover book launched it was listed I'm not kidding as out of stock for the first 30 days
of the book launch just think about that you have spent 18 months writing this book you've spent
almost a year putting together a marketing plan you go live you tell everybody to buy the book
and because of a glitch in Amazon's system when it goes on sale no one can buy it I wanted to give up
I wanted to just fold it in right there I I just could not believe it but let me tell you what I did
I used the three steps that I just taught you to tap into something bigger to brainwash myself
in this moment when there was nothing but evidence around me that this was a disaster
and the first thing that I did is I kept stating what I wanted this is going to be a best seller this
is going to be a best seller this is going to be a best seller this is going to be a best seller
and then I kept every single day oh my god I kept trying to master my energy to align with that
goal okay let's just fast forward a year when this is a best seller how are you gonna feel okay
and I kept tapping into it and I would wake up every single day and I would do step number three
there must be something bigger going on there has to be something bigger going on that I cannot see
there is no way that I work this hard I'm a good person there's no way that this doesn't work out
I refuse to believe that and I just kept stating it I kept stating the five second rule is going to
be a best seller even though you can't buy the hard cover right now the five second rule is going
to be a best seller even though I screwed up all the marketing the five second rule is going to be
a best seller for that month I just kept on marketing the book even though you couldn't buy I kept
delivering my speeches I would wake up every day and the feelings of failure and depression and
anxiety and embarrassment would be there and I would flip on the music and I would shake that off
and I would turn on the energy to match this belief that this book somehow some way was going to be
a best seller and I kept reminding myself something bigger must be happening and these three
skills kept me going there were no signs for 30 days straight no hummingbirds no eagles no
angel numbers no nothing but I believed something bigger must be happening and sure enough
30 days later something bigger revealed itself see because my traditional book launch had failed
and nobody could buy the hard cover everyone had bought the audiobook from audible
and a month into my book launch using the three skills that I just explained to you to brainwash
myself in the middle of a professional crisis and business disaster I kept going I kept waking up
and moving forward I kept acting consistently with what I had said in motion and I learned that my
audiobook had become a best seller on audible and not only that the five second rule has gone on to
become the most successful self published audiobook in the history of audible and it also led to an
unprecedented partnership that my production company one four three studios has with audible in
fact we're in the middle of our seventh original production in less than four years none of which
would have happened had that computer system in Amazon been working properly all of which by the way
was meant to happen and I set in motion I set in motion because I stated it would be a best seller
I mastered my energy and aligned it with the belief that it would and by relentlessly reminding
myself that something bigger was happening for me and that's what kept me going and because I kept
going it kept people going to Amazon which kept people buying the audiobook which I didn't even know
was happening and the rest is history there's a totally different way to go through life
to approach your business and your career and it begins with these three simple steps
state it state what's going to happen and then claim it when it does master your energy align it
with what you want and it creates a tidal wave that makes it happen and keep finding the bigger meaning
because it's there just waiting for you to tap into it your life and your mind and your spirit
is conspiring to help you and using these three steps you can unlock all of that power inside of you
to create it and in case no one else has told you today let me be the first person to say that I
love you and I believe in you and I believe in your ability to not only create a better life
but to tap into this superpower and experience greater success and a much more meaningful life too
I cannot wait to hear what you do with this one already I'll talk to you in a few days
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