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Yeah, that was basically psychology a hundred years ago.
She was like, what's this restaurant?
And let me tell you what happened.
I'm Angela Duckworth. I'm Mike Mon.
And you're listening to No Stupid Questions.
Today on the show, do you need closure in order to move on?
When a lottery gets to over $1 billion, I call a friend in another state and then millions of money.
Mike, we have an email from Shreya Bargava.
And it is something I have long wanted to talk about.
Let's go. Hi, Mike and Angela.
I recently read about the Zygarnik effect.
And wanted to ask, is it true that people remember unfinished or interrupted tasks better than completed tasks?
And could this be extrapolated to human relationships?
Do relationships that have no closure stick around in our heads more than the ones we've been able to resolve and amicably close?
Oh my gosh. Yes. Yeah, your like knee jerk reaction is, yes, when you have closure, it's totally different.
It what leaves your head is out your intuition.
Yeah. And just in general, I love closure.
I appreciate closure. Even the Irish exit drives me insane.
Wait, what's the Irish exit?
It's when someone just like leaves and doesn't say goodbye.
They just slip out of a party.
Why is it called the Irish?
Do Irish people do that?
I actually have no idea.
You look around and you're like, where's the Irish friend I had?
Maybe it's a terrible thing to say now.
I actually didn't know.
It could be, it could be wildly inappropriate.
I've done it before though.
I mean, haven't you done that?
By the way, you go to a wedding reception and you think strategically, I'm going to be super visible.
You're in the line of sight of the bride and the groom and the bride's family and the groom's family.
But then in this moment where everybody's distracted, they're throwing the bouquet or something.
I've totally snuck out.
Have you not done that? No, I agree with you 100% and I've also done that.
I'm thinking about a wedding I went to this summer and the minute everyone was distracted and I made face time with enough people, beeline to the car.
Then it was weeks later that the groom was like, wait, were you there for the dancing?
I was like, oh, yeah, I think so.
Yeah, I was great. That might be your first confession to me of fibbing ever.
Now I have to re-evaluate everything.
We're going to have to get closure on this or it's going to keep bothering me.
But until then, I might be thinking about it.
That is actually the Zygarnic effect.
This email from Shreya asks, is the Zygarnic effect real?
I guess I should tell you what it is.
I don't know that you've heard about it.
But not. The Zygarnic effect is attributed to Bluma Zygarnic.
She was a psychologist and she was a student nearly a century ago.
She studied with Kurt Lewin.
He was a great psychologist himself.
Zygarnic says that she was in a restaurant and she observed that the waiter could keep in their head just like a ridiculous number of orders and drinks and who's getting what and have they been served.
So she's just marveling at this.
She's like, how is it that you can keep all these things in your head?
But then she's even more astonished because, and this is a little bit like myth now, she did write about it.
But I think it's been maybe embroidered as myths are.
We've mythologized all things that are cool.
We do. So maybe this is a bit of a screenwritten ending.
But after the waiter serves everyone's food and serves it correctly, what happens is they finish eating this large group that Bluma Zygarnic is part of.
And one person, legend has it, goes back to retrieve an item that they left behind and this guest spots the waiter and asks for help and thinks that, oh, this waiter who can obviously remember everything would remember where they were sitting.
And the waiter looks at this dinner guest and seemingly has no idea who they even are, much less where they sat and whether they had left something behind.
And so the waiter had kind of like erased the hard drive of memory once the task was finished.
So the Zygarnic effect refers to keeping in our minds unfinished tasks.
And when we have closure, when something is checked off or resolved, then that thing exiting our mind, that's the myth.
Here's a really interesting corollary.
And this is maybe why I believe it because I went to school.
Tell me if I'm way off on this.
I mean, how often did you cram before a test?
You have all this information in your head or maybe not even cramming, but you study, you study, you get ready and then you take the test.
And then it's all gone. I have the closure of having finished the class or taking the test.
And it just flows into the ether.
I had not thought about that, Mike, but I think that would be an excellent demonstration of the Zygarnic effect.
For me, what is salient is being a professor.
Sometimes I will put up a slide in my class and it will be like verbatim.
The main point of the last class, sort of like a goal is defined as blank.
And I think to myself, well, class was only a week ago.
I spent three hours in every possible way demonstrating these definitions.
My students love me. They love this class.
They have readings to do on this subject.
And I am sometimes astonished at the sub 100% accuracy of these easy to me questions.
But one could argue that if you are just like, oh, great, that class is over or I've taken that quiz, like I don't need to know that anymore.
I mean, the Zygarnic effect is narrowly speaking about unfinished tasks.
But you could also just say, like, you know, someone tells you a pass code or a phone number and you're like mentally rehearsing it in your head.
And then you like type in 724 and then you have no idea afterwards.
And sometimes I can't even hold on long enough until I need to.
I know. But okay, so Blemazigarnic lived a century ago and she had these observations.
But let's just say that Blemazigarnic was not running a lot of randomized controlled experiments.
She was going to restaurants.
Yeah, that was basically psychology a hundred years ago.
She was like, what's this restaurant?
Let me tell you what happened.
So more recently, two social psychologists, EJ, Messi Campo, and Roy Balmeister, they had the idea of doing an experiment to see whether Blemazigarnic was right and whether it was really true that unfulfilled goals persist in our minds until they are fulfilled.
And then they exit. I'll just give you an example of one of the studies they did to show that there really is a Zygarnic effect.
They said, you know, the thing is that when you're doing something and you have to keep it in your head like 724, 724, 724, it's like an unfinished task, it eats up cognitive bandwidth.
And it gives you by the way, an idea of why the brain doesn't actually remember 724 after it doesn't need to because you want that cognitive bandwidth to do something else.
We only keep in our minds active what we need to.
And so they just ran these clever experiments where, for example, they gave people something to read that they needed to focus on like a passage from a novel.
And if you had had a task assigned to you that you had not yet completed that you knew you were going to have to do afterwards, you were more likely to mind wander and to understand less of what you're reading.
I mean, the analogy would be if I go to a meeting and I know that there was this one thing that I wanted to email before I went to the meeting, but I ran out of time.
What they found in this experiment is that you're a little distracted the whole time.
You're doing this intermediary task by the task that you have not yet finished, but you know you have to.
But is that not everything in life?
I mean, how often do you finish everything that you need to do?
Yeah, I mean, I keep a pad of paper by my bed.
And as I'm going to bed, the lights are off.
I've already fallen asleep and I wake back up and it's like, oh my gosh, didn't do this.
Close my eyes. Wake back up.
Didn't do this. Okay. So you write things down on the pad before you go to sleep.
Right. So then in the morning, I'll remember to do them.
But when have you gone to a meeting in the toilet?
Okay, wait, wait. I want to go back to the pad.
Yeah. Okay. Okay. I think that's doing two things.
One is when we write things down, it's just externalizing memory.
Yes. You're not going to forget the five things that you were supposed to do that you didn't do that you need to do in the morning.
Great. But the other thing is you're keeping those things out of the buffer of your head.
So you're allowing yourself, for example, I assume to like just go to sleep and not be 724 or 724.
And that's what Macy Campo and Balmyster found in a way, it's like the antidote to this kind of preoccupation we have with unfinished tasks.
Because you're right. Mike, this happens all the time.
But also all the time, we make plans.
And what they found in these experiments is that if the volunteer in the experiment who was being subject to the zygarnaq effect, if they had an opportunity to write about a thing that they were supposed to do, basically write down a plan, then they didn't suffer from the zygarnaq effect.
So the idea that you have of keeping that pad of paper and a pen at your bedside, and I keep, as you know, like this $1 notebook, you know, those cheap composition notebooks.
I have this system where on the right side of those pages, I take my notes, they're all stated.
I can go back to my lab notebooks from my very first year of graduate school because I have them all.
But on the left side of these pages, which are often blank.
If I'm in a meeting or doing something, I'm in a main task.
But in my head, you know, you ever have those little thought bubbles and you're like, oh, I forgot to my milk, right?
Like, oh, I have to email that person.
I have maybe 4,000 of them a day and it's very distracting.
So I have all these plans.
And as soon as I write them down, they're out of my head.
I don't have to remember 724, 724 because the next time I open my notebook, it's just there for you.
So part of it is this externalization of memory.
And that allows us the quote unquote closure of that task, whether it be done or not, so that we can then focus on what's right in front of us.
Yeah. I think that the way to think about it is your brain is doing what it needs to do.
It's prioritizing. And the brain is relieved of the responsibility of keeping something in its working memory, like the kind of active memory of the brain.
Because you know that you've written it down, you know you've made a plan and you don't have to worry about it anymore.
This is somewhat argue, one of the great leaps forward for human civilization.
When we have writing, it's a way of externalizing all the things that you don't have to like keep in your working memory and frankly, even in your long-term memory, because you can go look it up.
But this general idea is, yes, you can free up the brain to do things that it more urgently needs to do because you have externalized.
Right. But Mike, when it comes to the zygarnic effect, I think in a way, the more interesting thing is what happens emotionally.
And my favorite thinkers on this are Tim Wilson and Dan Gilbert.
And they are psychologists who have this idea that we all have like psychological immune systems.
What? I know, right? Meaning, so me, keep me healthy psychologically.
Yes. Just like the body regulates its temperature and its blood pressure and its metabolism, we also regulate the processing of emotion.
Oh my gosh. Yes. Right. Sometimes we're so, well, I should not speak.
I am so bad at that. You? I think you're so even killed.
But I think all of us have moments where we get thrown off base.
Yeah. The times when I think I'm least regulated emotionally, maybe, are the times when I have so much to do.
And I am feeling immense time pressure.
And I just need people to be efficient.
And do their job and do it well.
And I don't have a ton of time to explain or walk through or be patient.
And those are the moments when I have the greatest regret because maybe I've acted inappropriately because I'm so under time pressure and other pressures.
So in such a stressful situation, in one word, what would you describe your mood or your emotion as?
Deep frustration is probably the emotion that explodes out.
Okay. So let's think of a time recently where you are stressed and people around you were not doing what they needed to do when they needed to do it.
And you got frustrated.
And then I want to ask you, you're not frustrated now, right?
So tell me the story of what happens with that frustration.
So I recently was going through an experience where I was supposed to meet with this person.
This unnamed person. And I needed an introduction to this person from somebody else.
And it just never happened.
I talked to the person. I said, hey, will you set up the meeting?
Didn't do it. Hey, I need to have this meeting.
Didn't do it. So I'm growing increasingly frustrated.
And I think I'm going to send them a text that's kind of loaded and darn it.
Just do your job type of thing.
Yeah. And instead, I waited.
And then the next time I saw the individual, I said to them, hey, we're supposed to be having this meeting.
Can you help me understand?
Are you avoiding it because you don't want me to meet with that person or you feel threatened by my involvement there or you don't care?
I just need to understand why are you not doing this.
And I forced the conversation for them to then explain because I think so often we don't want to have an uncomfortable conversation or we don't want to tell them the real reason.
So we just avoid. So did you get the explanation that you wanted?
I got the explanation. This person just said, hey, I don't think it's the right time.
I'm working on this through them.
I think that will be better off if we do it this way.
Okay. Maybe we disagree with strategy or maybe I agree with that strategy, but regardless, I'd never been told that strategy.
And none of us on our side had.
So we got some level of closure.
Yeah. And then what happened to your emotion?
Were you as frustrated before and after the explanation or did your frustration diminish?
Which is what Tim Wilson and Dan Gilbert, you know, that's their big theory that emotions linger when there's lack of closure.
And emotions end when we do have explanations about what's going on.
Yeah. What happened for you?
I would say that my frustration with the lack of action diminished and then a new frustration grew that either I did not present myself in such a way that this person felt they could be fully honest with me or frustration that they didn't feel that.
So it was kind of a mutual, hey, if I'm not being the kind of person that you can talk to, then I need to fix that or you need to give me feedback or let's figure that out versus just avoidance.
So I'll try to give an accounting for like how emotion works and when we continue to feel frustrated when we stop feeling frustrated.
So like the idea of you being frustrated with this colleague, according to this theory that once they explained to you why they didn't want to have the meeting, at least a certain kind of frustration should have gone down because you're like, oh, I get it.
Now you could have a new frustration, but that new frustration is because now you don't understand why you don't have the sort of relationship where they wouldn't have just told you in the first place.
And when you get closure on that, the prediction is that you'll again feel diminishing of that frustration.
So our emotions go up and down with closure or lack thereof.
Still to come on, no stupid questions.
Can closure get in the way of happiness?
Why is it so intriguing to have a secret admire?
It's because like you have lack of closure.
Now back to Mike and Angela's conversation about closure.
So Mike, by the way, I want to say this applies to positive feelings too.
The idea is that our feelings linger, whether they're positive feelings like joy or negative feelings like frustration.
They stop when we have a complete accounting for what happened.
That makes perfect sense to me in negative emotions.
This doesn't make sense to you for positive emotions.
For positive emotions.
I mean, do I want closure on joy?
I feel like I want that to keep going.
Yes. Oh, that was so beautiful.
And now closure and I know you feel joy.
That seems terrible. Yeah.
So let me tell you about one of their studies where they asked college students to read text messages from other students.
In this case, they were students from the opposite sex who had evaluated them positively.
Now, if you were uncertain about which student had actually written the message, then your positive mood lingers longer than when you do know this reminds me in high school.
We used to have this Valentine's Day fundraiser every year.
And you could send carnations to someone, right?
Yes. Okay. I was going to say that's what we did too.
It's always carnations.
It's always carnations.
It's so cheap. Dime a dozen.
Yeah. Exactly. Maybe literally.
So, you know, you could, of course, sign the note or you could choose not to.
Or you could put like an admirer or whatever.
Exactly. You know, why is it so intriguing to have a secret admirer?
It's because like you have lack of closure and, you know, explanations bring an end to emotion.
And I think you're right, Mike.
You might not want that.
So, no, that makes sense.
When you phrase it that way, like I get it, I also think, and maybe this is not at all the same thing, but part of playing the lottery, they always say is not actually about winning the lottery because the chances are so small.
Yeah. But it's when you buy the ticket, there's this anticipatory effect where you think about all the fun things you could do.
And it brings so much joy just thinking about like, oh, this would be amazing.
And then it doesn't happen.
But nobody ever actually expects it to happen anyway.
And that whole time when there's lack of closure, you get to marinate in your low probability fantasies about what you're going to do when you win the lottery.
Exactly. And it's actually really, really fun.
You have never played the lottery, Mike.
Mon, I live in Utah. It's actually illegal here.
But I wait, what? You can't buy lottery tickets in Utah.
You don't have a lottery in Utah.
We do not know. Can I just say that I need to move to Utah because a lot of these, okay, this is a totally different topic.
But I think lot of these exploit the general human inability to understand low probability phenomena.
They're kind of evil. TPH.
I actually agree. And obviously all the data shows what you're saying is that they're almost a regressive tax.
So all of the moral arguments that I agree with are why lottery's are bad.
So now I'm going to confess something that you're going to win a lottery against to over one billion dollars.
Yeah. I call a friend in another state.
No. And then my hands of money.
You do not seriously? Only because I feel like I've been caught right now.
Holy, holy. But only because I just think it's fun to have the opportunity to just fantasize for a little bit about everything.
I know I'm not going to win.
Yeah. But it's almost like paying the $10 to go see a movie.
I pay $10 to spend three days thinking about what I would do with the lottery winnings.
And that's really fun. And then you get closure that clearly it didn't work.
Yeah. As you're saying, the positive emotion goes away.
But it was a really fun three days.
And I'm okay with that. And you don't totally know you're not going to win.
Well, I'm pretty sure. Pretty sure.
Right. Yeah. You're no quantitative idiot.
But you also know that the probably isn't zero.
So I think relatedly one of my favorite studies that to Wilson and Dan Gilbert ever did, they have the study where they approach students undergraduates who are studying in the library.
And they give them an index card.
And the index card has a dollar coin attached to it.
So it's kind of like cool and unusual.
Yeah. Now the shoe conditions in the uncertain condition, the card conveys this vague information about the source and purpose of the money.
It's signed by the smile society.
And just says like we like to promote random acts of kindness.
But it's sort of like what?
I'm in library. You just handed me a card.
That's the uncertain condition.
Then there's the certain condition.
Students in the library, they get handed index card.
It's got a dollar coin taped to it except now each of those elements of information are preceded with a very helpful question.
Instead of just the smile society, which you're like what?
It's preceded with who are we?
The smile society. And then instead of just getting we like to promote random acts of kindness, you get why do we do this?
We like to promote random acts of kindness.
And it asks the question for me to maybe anchor me in understanding or okay, I see that.
So that's the clever little experiment.
So I'm going to give you a little closure now because you may have guessed what's going to happen.
Because I need closure.
I'm a first name closure.
Yes, let me give it to you.
So Tim Wilson and Dan Newall about the zygonic effect.
In fact, that was one of the inspirations for their theory.
And the prediction would be that when you do have this closure where you're like, Oh, I know why I got this dollar coin.
And I know who these people are that the positive emotions would end sooner.
And that's exactly what they found.
So these students who were studying library and getting these cards, then they were approached by another experimenter a few minutes later.
And they were asked to complete a survey.
And those who had received the certain card, meaning the card with the questions that explained everything that was going on were actually in a less positive mood than those who had received the uncertain card.
That's so interesting.
So you're exactly right, Mike.
You can use this to make your negative emotions go away sooner.
And you can use this to make your positive emotions linger if you can find ways to for stall or delay closure.
This is so interesting.
I mean, there's this Valentine's book that we always read as kids called somebody loves you, Mr.
Hatch. Is this the mom family?
Yes, this is the mom family.
Gosh, I want to be part of this family.
I'll mail you this book.
It's an awesome book. But there's this older gentleman lives alone, never had a family.
And he gets this big box of chocolates that says somebody loves you.
And it talked about how before he ate the same crappy sandwich every day and ate alone at his job at a shoelace factory and had no friends.
But shoelace factory. I mean, they portray this as a very sad situation.
But the point is the guy's life completely changes because quote, somebody loves you.
But he doesn't know who, right?
Yeah, right. He's like, maybe it was the person I buy the paper from.
Maybe it was someone at work.
Maybe it was the neighbors.
And he becomes so involved in his community.
And he starts making brownies and inviting people over and all this.
And then the postman comes back and says, Mr.
Hatch, I'm in a lot of trouble.
I delivered this to the wrong house.
Wait. And then what happens?
Gotta read the book. Just kidding.
I'll tell you what basically happens is then the postman tells everyone in town, hey, I made this mistake.
And then it ends with this beautiful like everybody loves you, Mr.
Hatch. And they have this party.
But the whole thing that changed his life in this very short fictional children's story to be clear, not knowing who, quote, loved him.
And therefore, he went on this journey to find out could it be any of these people and it opened up a whole new world to him of like opportunity to build relationships and anticipation of positive things.
A little bit of mystery, Mike Mon.
A little bit of mystery.
It goes a long way. Look, I do want to give you some advice from John Gottman.
John Gottman is the most famous couples counseling slash how to have a good relationship.
So what does Gottman say?
I'm going to read to you from the science of trust, emotional attunement for couples.
And it's about how couples can build a healthy, trusting relationship.
And he says negative events in couple relationships are inevitable.
Yes. The way relationships fail is through something called the zygarnaq effect.
If a couple's negative events are not fully processed, that's what he calls attunement, right?
Like getting to closure.
If they're not fully processed, then they're remembered and rehearsed repeatedly, oh, yes, turned over and over in each person's mind.
Then he says that you find some way to get a kind of closure by attributing blame to the other person, the kind of spirals.
And he says the potential role of the zygarnaq effect is colossal.
If we engage in attuned processing, right, getting to closure of a negative emotional vent or a reddable incident with our partner, we will only foggily remember it.
The details will become hazy and the event insignificant.
On the other hand, if we dismiss and avoid processing a negative emotional vent, it will not disappear.
It will fester ready to be triggered again.
Gotman continues. This is why attuning, right, getting closure to a negative regrettable incident is so incredibly important.
Like the V&E's waiters in zygarnaq's cafe, if partners avoid processing the incident with attunement, the event and its negative emotion will lie inside each partner like an improvised explosive device and IED ready to explode if inadvertently stepped on.
Let me give you an amen and a howl.
Yeah. Going back to a relationship I had, this is 215, 20 years ago.
I don't know. It's a long time we go.
Anyway, this person lived in New York.
I lived in Arizona. They said if I move out to Arizona, can we date?
They moved out to Arizona.
Didn't talk to her for a year.
Wait, why? I don't know.
I'm just dumb. I don't have a good reason.
But the point is that we then did date and this fight came up over and over a minute.
Oh, the fight about like what happened.
But then you didn't call me for a year and then you didn't call me for a year.
So like I don't know how to take, I'm one's advice on this because I was like, I don't know what else to say.
I was wrong. I'm sorry. You're right.
But it wasn't a sufficient explanation then for this anonymous person.
Okay. See, this is what I guess we're getting to.
There was never closure.
This is not why it didn't work out, but it never ended.
We never got closure. And I guess what you're telling me is I am responsible because I never gave sufficient explanation probably because there wasn't sufficient explanation because I just didn't.
I don't know. Maybe either you didn't fully understand or your explanation wasn't a complete enough explanation for that person when I was in French class in high school.
And I'll never forget it.
My teacher, Dr. Rowland, said in French, of course, to compronsre, say, to part le nez, right?
To understand is to forgive.
And I never forgot it because it's so true to understand is to forgive.
Not to understand is not to forgive, right?
And if anything, I think we can generalize because this is true for positive emotions too, right?
To compronsre, say, to finit, which I mean, I hope this is correct in French, but to understand is to have it finished, you know, whether it's good or whether it's bad.
Yeah. And Mike, I wonder if we might ask our listeners if they have an experience of closure or the lack of closure and what it means to them.
So if you have such a story, Mike and I both would love you to record a voice memo in a quiet place with your mouth close to the phone, email us at nsq at freeconomics.com.
And you'll get closure by listening to yourself on a future episode of the show.
And Mike, let me also add that if you like this show and want to support us, the very best thing you can do is simply to tell a friend about no stupid questions.
You can also spread the word on social media or leave a review in your podcast app.
They can also send it to someone who ghosted them and say, Hey, listen to this.
I need closure because I can't move on without it.
So why don't you give that to me?
Thank you very much. Yeah, but you can send it from a random email address and sign at the smile society and, you know, they'll know idea what's going on.
And then they'll be ruminating about it forever and ever.
But let me get some closure on this conversation, Mike.
We, I think, have given some closure to Shreya about her outstanding question.
I guess for me, you know, you started off by talking about the Irish exit from weddings and so forth.
I guess I want to ask you, do you feel like this conversation has changed anything that you might do in the future at a wedding or otherwise?
Well, as I mentioned, I love closure.
I'm someone who I think generally needs closure or appreciates closure.
I think on the negative side, it motivates me to be kinder and make sure that my explanations are thorough and that we're, you know, if some closures needed that we're there, I think actually the most fun part of this conversation for me, though, is thinking about the joyful effects that can come from also maybe not giving closure on happy things.
I think that's a really beautiful thing about random ex of kindness.
Maybe you're just like, this somebody loves you, Mr.
Hatch type idea that there's so much joy that you can create out of this as well.
Do you know what my very favorite thing is about this conversation?
That you're going to just pause there and end and then we'll have no closure.
I'll tell you next time.
No, stop it. No. Dot, dot, dot.
No stupid questions is produced by me.
Rebecca Lee Douglas. And now here's a fact check of today's conversation.
In the first half of the show, Mike and Angela wonder about the origin of the phrase Irish exit or Irish goodbye.
And they wonder if it's offensive.
It's certainly not a compliment.
The expression is supposedly based on a stereotype of Irish people over imbibing.
The connotation being that they would be too intoxicated to say goodbye before leaving a social event.
Another theory is that the phrase was inspired by the mass Irish immigration during the 19th century potato famine.
However, the idiom is primarily American.
In Great Britain, rudely leaving without saying goodbye is referred to as taking a French leave.
And in other parts of the world, it's leaving the English way or the Polish exit.
It seems that whichever country you're in, there is sure to be a xenophobic way to describe this particular behavior.
Later, Angela tells the story of how psychologists Bluma Zygarnik observed that interrupted tasks are more remembered than completed ones.
Angela adds that the restaurant anecdote is possibly more folklore than fact.
And indeed, she's correct.
According to a 2018 biographical review of Zygarnik's life published in neurosciences in history, it was actually Zygarnik's mentor, psychologist Kurt Lewin, who was inspired by the working memory of a waiter, not Zygarnik herself.
We should also note that while experimental methodology wasn't practiced in the way that is expected of academics today, there was more to this research than just going to a restaurant and observing the waitstaff's behavior.
Zygarnik and Lewin conducted an experiment involving 164 subjects who were asked to perform a series of tasks that were either interrupted or completed.
It was in that study that the Zygarnik effect was officially documented.
Finally, Mike and Angela reminisce about high school Valentine's Day fundraisers, in which students could send one another flowers.
They guessed that carnations were commonly used for this tradition because of how cheap they are to buy in bulk.
The reason may partially be financial.
Carnations are notoriously less expensive than other popular Valentine's flowers, like roses or lilies, although they're not literally a dime a dozen, as Angela suggests.
However, it's also true that carnations have been used throughout history to represent love.
In the Victorian era, a red carnation was given to express admiration.
Dark red conveyed an intense love or yearning.
A striped carnation signified refusal, and yellow meant disappointment or disdain.
That's it for the fact, Chuck.
Before we wrap today's show, let's hear some thoughts about last week's episode on the difference between high achievers and overachievers.
Morning, Angela and Mike.
In episode 184, if you're talking about if people are doing too much or not, and you mentioned staying at work past five, and then calling that person a slacker if they don't do it, period.
I know that's not exactly what you mean, but I don't think that's the right way to look at things.
If you have a salary job and you're supposed to work until five, that's it.
Go home. If you feel like you need to stay or you're going to get some extra reward for staying that late, then do it.
But if your job pays to you till five, I don't know why you'd give free time.
It just doesn't make sense to me.
Thanks. Hey, Mike and Angela, I wanted to say that I identify so deeply with Mike's friend, Kristen, on 80% role.
I've actually used the same phrase to describe my own philosophy over the years.
In my mind though, it's primarily just an expected value calculation.
As an example, I go up to the gym and give 80% effort 100% of the time.
My husband on the other hand gives 100% effort every time he works out, but because that's such a high mental bar for himself, I think he only goes 10% of the time.
So I end up 80% fitter and he ends up 10% fitter.
I guess at giving 100% effort, 100% of the time would be a better outcome.
Didn't both of these scenarios, but in my experience, it's pretty rare for somebody to hit without being an overtreater bucket.
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