Hello everybody and welcome back to the psychology of your 20s, the podcast where we talk through some of the big life changes and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology.
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It is great to have you here back for another episode.
Today we're covering a really valuable idea in psychology and one that has become increasingly, I would say more recognized, maybe you've seen it on your TikTok, on Instagram, in the news.
It's this idea of hyper independence.
I am so fascinated by this concept because I think independence is possibly one of the most celebrated traits in our society, particularly in Western cultures.
We love the idea of people who are self made, who pay their own bills, who solo travel, who appear like they don't need anyone but themselves.
And I think a healthy level of independence and self confidence is amazing, it's something that we should all strive for.
But when it goes too far, we enter the territory of hyper independence.
This is this extreme discomfort around allowing others to help us, to step into our lives and maybe make it easier we become so invested in our self -reliance and our self sufficiency that we push others away and we self isolate.
A lot of the research nowadays says that hyper independence is actually a trauma response or a survival trait that a lot of us have adopted due to early childhood experiences, feeling like we needed to grow up way too quickly or being consistently let down by others, particularly our caregivers, but also romantic
partners or friends.
These experiences are so distressing that we turn to extreme independence to avoid having to rely on others or trust them out of that fear of being hurt or let down.
And a lot of the time I think society somewhat encourages this behavior without realizing what it actually means.
This has so many complex interactions with how we pursue relationships, how we approach our work.
It may come as no surprise that people who are hyper independent are more likely to be seen as over achievers, but also how we experience love and trust.
It's also really interesting because hyper independent people are actually more likely to seek out codependent partnerships, which if you listened to our episode on this, you'll know is equally as complex and maladaptive.
It really goes to show how much our attachment influences the people that we choose to be with, not just romantically, but the friends we choose to have our relationships with family.
So today I want to talk about the role of hyper independence as a trauma response and explore some of the origins of this behavior from emotional neglect to a parentification, abandonment, and early relationship experiences, of course, but also the role of individualism and cultural expectations.
We're also going to dive into how we can achieve a healthy level of independence through exposure therapy and inner child healing, an all time favorite of mine as we know.
This is a jam packed episode, but I will admit some of the research and studies have definitely called me out and really made me pause and examine perhaps some of my own hyper independent tendencies.
I think you'll be surprised by how many of us actually fit this profile.
So without further ado, we are going to explore the psychology of hyper independence in our twenties and how we can recognize this behavior and heal.
So let's get into it.
You know, I love having a cheeky drink with friends post work or a beer with dinner, but this year I have committed to completing dry January to start the new year off fresh.
And to really kind of kickstart the lifestyle I want to have for the next 12 months.
Heineken 00 is the perfect companion for this journey because it has 0 .0 % alcohol.
So I can still socialize, enjoy myself, get out there without feeling like I'm missing out.
Plus it genuinely actually tastes very, very delicious.
My fridge is now stocked with Heineken 00 and friends of mine will even join me for an evening or for an afternoon going alcohol free.
If you are also taking part in dry January this year, or just looking for your new favorite drink, Heineken 00 is it.
Heineken 00 is available at your local Heineken retailer or for delivery at Heineken .com.
You must be 21 plus to purchase, enjoy Heineken responsibly and good luck with dry January.
We typically see independence as a great thing, a really admirable asset or personality trait, especially in our twenties when I think independence is something we're all striving for, to be separate from our parents, to be creating our own identity, building our own unique path.
A lot of the positive associations we see attached to this are really valid.
To be independent is to be more sufficient, have a healthy sense of your identity.
You pay your own bills, you take care of yourself.
You don't rely on others for emotional reassurance.
That's something that I think we can all get behind.
However, too much of a good thing can sometimes be bad for us.
And with anything that is excessive or unbalanced, when independence goes too far, perhaps due to a trauma response or early learning experiences, we have this hyper independence or what we also call counter dependency.
When we are hyper independent, we have a drive to need no one and a fear of depending on people at the heart of which is this inability to trust or a genuine fear of intimacy.
Hyper independence, it's more than just self -reliance.
It's this unwavering insistence on autonomy.
These kinds of people, they are unwilling to or maybe unable to depend on others.
We want to do everything alone.
We have been implicitly taught that we cannot trust others.
So we push those close, vulnerable relationships away.
We refuse help or assistance, both emotional and physical.
Importantly, I think there's a crucial caveat here.
Hyper independence, it's not a diagnosable mental health condition.
It's a stress response more often than not triggered by exposure to ongoing or acute distress, or some kind of emotionally charged situation.
So how does that kind of show up in our behaviors in our everyday lives?
There are five key signs or indicators of hyper independence that I want to discuss.
Firstly, it feels really uncomfortable or unnatural for you to ask for help, specifically due to this fear of being a burden.
Hyper independence creates this sense that anything we need, we should be able to do for ourselves.
If you're feeling sad and upset, we can take care of that.
We can sell soothe, we can manage it.
If we need help moving or building furniture, we can't ask for help because it may burden someone else.
And what does that say about our own abilities and our ability to take care of ourselves?
You know, if we're struggling financially, even if we need extra assistance, we're not going to ask for that.
We're going to get another job or budget excessively.
Not only does asking for help feel entirely unnatural, it's actually really uncomfortable because it contradicts this identity that we've built on being entirely self reliant.
Emotionally, we may have difficulty with vulnerability and trust, and therefore have limited emotionally close relationships.
Vulnerability requires asking for help.
Trust means believing that someone has your best interest at heart, and will fulfill your needs.
None of which aligns with our self image as an independent person.
There's this voice in the back of our head saying, I really don't need anyone.
I can do this alone.
And that voice comes from a fear of being hurt.
And so we use hyper independence to protect us from intimacy and vulnerability, and that's going to require us to open up to someone else.
I think it's no surprise that especially in romantic relationships, this can come from previous experiences with betrayal, maybe due to cheating or lying, even heartbreak.
So after those experiences, because they are so unpleasant, our brains go the complete opposite direction.
If love and intimacy, if relying on someone else brings pain, well then relying only on myself brings liberation, it brings peace.
We know though, that that's not always true.
This links to the next indicator, which is that you naturally close yourself off to others, and you're suspicious when people try and that suspicion or hostility may actually be because you don't actually trust yourself.
What if someone does provide you with something you can't give yourself?
What if they do fulfill some unmet need and then they leave and you can no longer fulfill that need yourself.
The whole system kind of falls apart, the whole self concept.
You can no longer solely trust yourself, and so you make it impossible for anyone to ever get close enough to challenge that belief system.
That emotional withdrawal is a massive indicator of hyper independence.
The fourth indicator is that you're an overachiever or a workaholic.
Your performance and success works to further support the belief that your hyper independence is a good thing because it correlates with productivity and output.
It could also be that you struggle to delegate because you don't trust others, or maybe you focus on your career or academics because you're scared to let yourself have a life outside of those things.
You keep yourself preoccupied because you want to have that excuse to cancel plans and a pretty socially admirable excuse as well to not spend time with loved ones or to be by yourself for long periods of time and academics and your careers.
They're a really great excuse because it's a very socially acceptable but what it's concealing is that you're actually avoiding situations that require dependence or asking for help and letting people in.
And finally if it's not already obvious you prefer to do things alone and on your own schedule and you find that other people slow you down.
You don't want to wait for others.
You're on the girls trip, no one else wants to come with you to the museum or whatever.
Not only does that not bother you but you prefer it.
It's like a sigh of relief and I think sometimes this comes off as arrogance or even introversion which it isn't.
It's a trauma response to push others away and be self -contained because you have learnt that you can only rely on yourself and you don't want to be disappointed by those close to you.
But when you isolate yourself you're also repressing your emotions and neglecting your needs.
You may believe that your hyper independence is keeping you safe but those close to you, those who care about you deeply, they want to be able to reach out.
We understand that community is valuable and when you create that distance it really puts you in a place of solitude.
We're going to discuss that in just a second but if you relate to these signs it may be indicative of hyper independence.
It's important to remember that it is a spectrum though.
Independence is good but when it comes at the expense of healthy meaningful relationships, of trust, of asking for help that is when it's in the territory of hyper independence or counter dependency.
This is in contrast to codependency in which we see people have this unhealthy need for approval and love and comfort of someone else to feel secure.
While someone who is hyper independent focuses on securing their own needs, sometimes at their detriment and becoming entirely self -sufficient, someone who is codependent will consistently place the needs of others above their own in order to satisfy that deep desire to be attached to another person.
We did a whole episode on this you know this kind of dynamic a little while back but interestingly something I didn't mention is that the independent behavior of hyper independent people can actually be highly attractive to people who are codependent because it provides a sense of security and structure
and self -sufficiency that they lack and are therefore craving.
However once in a relationship if one was to form between a hyper independent person and a codependent person sometimes we see this actual this role reversal.
No one quite knows why there are a couple of theories out there that what these people are really looking for is the comfort of an opposite.
Someone who can allow them to relinquish the control that either their codependence or hyper independence has given them.
The partner offers everything they cannot offer themselves, represents what they cannot offer themselves and in order to kind of ignite a romance they attempt to emulate that other person's behavior leading to this kind of dynamic shift.
Regardless I think both hyper independence and codependence are what we would call maladaptive.
We're specifically focusing on hyper independence in this episode and the reason psychologists and therapists see this pattern as particularly unhealthy is that we all still have some basic need for social connection and trust and vulnerability.
That need does not disappear regardless of how much we try and actively suppress this instinct.
And so there's this element of our emotional and mental well -being that is not fulfilled and need that we're kind of subconsciously denying ourselves because we value independence and we value being able to detach from others and kind of burrow into our own thoughts and our own feelings.
I think it's interesting because people who are hyper independent are often very attached to this aspect of their identity.
What's also true though is that these people still experience really profound loneliness.
They experience poor self -esteem and their relationships often lack that emotional intimacy.
I think hyper independence really shares a lot of commonalities with emotional unavailability in this way but not because these individuals don't want to be close to others but because they cannot give up that self -sufficiency.
Studies have shown that this kind of behavior likely stems from a few core experiences particularly childhood trauma that has taught us to trust ourselves and only ourselves to get through life.
Often that mistrust comes from a place of deep hurt that has taught us this fallacy that no one can be trusted with our happiness or welfare.
There are three distinct types of trauma that it may be in response to and that I want to focus on.
The first is emotional neglect, parentification and abandonment.
As children we have a lot of emotional needs, physical needs, social needs, mental needs that need to be fulfilled in order for our brains to develop and our social skills as well.
When our caregivers, normally our parents, don't sufficiently respond to those needs by shutting down our emotions, by a failure to provide encouragement or emotional unavailability, being totally absent, being overly busy or just not showing up for us when they said that they would, children learn
that people are unreliable.
Studies have shown that when we experience this kind of neglect there are reduced levels of oxytocin in the brain.
This is incredibly valuable for organizing our neural circuits especially in response to recognizing and being able to respond to emotions and social bonding.
So as a result, children who are raised in an environment where their caregivers do not provide them with the right amount of emotional stimulation for oxytocin release, they are more at risk of emotional detachment and emotional impairment, perhaps contributing to this hyper -independency.
From a learning perspective, this child also learns that their emotional needs will not be met unless they meet them themselves and that others will inherently disappoint them, leading once again to hyper -independence.
Similar to this is what we call parentification.
So this occurs when the role of the parent and the child is almost reversed such that a child takes on the role of parent, they provide their parents with an unnatural level of emotional support, maybe they have to worry about money, they're responsible for taking care of their siblings, keeping the house
clean, worrying how they'll get to school, or the child is forced to take on this role of mediator or a most often seen with the firstborn.
And in certain cultures, normally the firstborn daughter, because they are the ones who are more conditioned to be the emotional anchor for the family.
Sometimes parents don't realize that they have made their child their parent and they're not realizing the burden that this place is on their children.
More often than not, it's generational and actually we see this a lot with people whose parents have gone through a divorce, especially if the divorce was hostile.
The children end up becoming the messengers for either party and they're kind of exposed to a developmentally inappropriate level of emotional responsibility and they feel like they have to give up their needs, particularly their need for emotional security and stability for the sake of their parents'
wellbeing. That is so hard on our young brains and we unconsciously adopt this parental level of responsibility.
We grow up way too quickly and as a response to that, in response to that environment, we become hyper independent as a coping mechanism, as a trauma response to our circumstances to protect our young brains, to respond to our environment appropriately, to kind of keep the peace.
You become the parent, you become the adult way too young.
Finally, we have abandonment.
When we are let down by the people who are meant to care for us, we learn to become self -sufficient in order to A, survive, but B, to not be disappointed.
That's where this idea of hyper independence as a trauma response really comes from.
A trauma response in psychology, it's an emotional response to an event or a series of events that enter our sense of security.
I think there's this misconception that these have to be incredibly intense and catastrophic, like a war or a serious death or injury.
That's not true. Things like emotional abuse, neglect, they leave just as permanent psychological scars.
Also, our brains are all incredibly unique.
I always say this, but it's worth a reminder.
Trauma is subjective and when we experience a traumatic event that is particularly triggering or damaging for us, our body and our mind responds by entering survival mode.
This is also called our fight, flight or freeze response.
The mind is going to wait till after the dangerous past to try and find a way to explain that event and neatly tie it all together or consolidate what you've experienced.
When it cannot do that, when it cannot find an explanation or a place for that memory to be put in our brains, we experience those lingering impacts and a sense of distress or impaired behavioral patterns such as this self -sufficiency.
It's also possible to have what we would call a delayed emotional response.
Maybe in the years that have followed perhaps your parents divorce or the neglect, you didn't notice your hyper independence, but then you enter into your first relationship or you start dating and begin to recognize some of those signs that we talked about before.
This is I think especially the case if the relationship mimics the dynamic that you had with your parents.
Perhaps this person never shows up for you, they're emotionally unavailable or they do something that breaks your trust.
This just reinforces all of that childhood learning and it can result in delayed hyper -independency.
The opposite is also true.
Someone showers you in love and affection, they consistently show up in your life, they celebrate you, they provide security.
That can be equally scary because you've learned to do things alone.
You have adopted this mentality that you don't need anyone.
So the love shown by this person causes you to really question everything and it makes you scared because it's the not the truth that you've accepted, it's not the reality that you know.
I think it takes a lot from us to give up our hyper independence because for so long it has protected us, but what does that kind of come at the expense of?
So I really want to discuss that next, specifically the long -term consequences of hyper independence as well as some of the maintaining factors specifically around the role of culture and social psychology.
So all of that and more in just a second.
You know, I love having a cheeky drink with friends post -work or a beer with dinner, but this year I have committed to completing dry January to start the new year off fresh and to really kind of kickstart the lifestyle I want to have for the next 12 months.
Heineken 00 is the perfect companion for this journey because it has 0 .0 % alcohol so I can still socialize, enjoy myself, get out there without feeling like I'm missing out.
Plus it genuinely actually tastes very very delicious.
My fridge is now stocked with Heineken 00 and friends of mine will even join me for an evening or for an afternoon going alcohol free.
If you are also taking part in dry January this year or just looking for your new favourite drink, Heineken 00 is it.
Heineken 00 is available at your local Heineken retailer or for delivery at Heineken .com.
You must be 21 plus to purchase, enjoy Heineken responsibly and good luck with dry January.
So far we've explored what causes hyper independence to emerge, especially as it relates to a trauma response.
But I also want to look at some of the maintaining factors as well as the psychology behind I guess the healing work and the way that we can move forward.
One of the biggest factors that exacerbates hyper independency is culture and societal context.
In psychology we have this distinction between individualistic and collectivist cultures.
In a collectivist society the needs of the group are more important and people I guess are often asked to sacrifice individual benefits for the collective good.
Their identity and the group identity are equally valuable.
However in individualistic societies what matters most is individual success, is freedom and independence.
Societies with this kind of individualistic culture we kind of we treat people as autonomous and we prioritize personal gain and uniqueness and in these types of societies such as the US, the UK, Australia, many western societies, hyper independence is often overlooked and rarely challenged because people
are allowed to exist as unique self -reliant humans without challenging kind of the group dynamic and the general good.
We see this a lot especially with the western idea of exceptionalism in which devoting every hour of our life to our career, neglecting personal relationships, not asking for help, that is seen as admirable.
But we also know that that is very much maladaptive.
Whilst this response or behavioral pattern may leave you feeling safe and secure because you're not challenged by vulnerability or close relationships, what drives this hyper -independency is an avoidance mindset, avoiding intimacy, avoiding trust, avoiding vulnerability, avoiding help, avoiding company.
And whilst we may have kind of superficially positive relationships, because we fundamentally do not trust others, then we are unable to form those long -term meaningful partnerships.
Even in marriages, I saw this really interesting fact, someone who is counterdependent or hyper independent, they'll continue to hide core aspects of their emotions.
They will resist asking for assistance and will be reluctant to open up even from someone that they've married.
They're going to avoid situations requiring deep emotional connection because that requires the possibility of being hurt.
That requires the possibility of challenging this belief that maybe they are not self -sufficient, that maybe they can't do everything on their own.
I think we can all see how this can create a pretty unfulfilling life, especially since we are social beings, we have evolved around this idea of community, around this idea of a social structure that helps others.
Relationships by nature are also interdependent, so to have successful long -term relationships, some aspect of our hyper independence is going to have to be relinquished.
So let's discuss some of the ways that psychology and therapy might help us heal this tendency and restore a healthy level of independence or a healthy level of dependence on others.
We're going to discuss three tips.
Firstly, addressing trust issues and attachment style, the value of inner child healing and recognizing what triggers you and when you need help.
Addressing trust issues and attachment style, it involves understanding that interplay between our past experiences and our current emotional patterns.
Trust issues, simply put, are this persistent lack of confidence and faith in others.
They are a fear response, and they can't be challenged overnight, sadly, but they can be through a gradual process of exposure to situations that may trigger your hyper independence, specifically emotionally vulnerable situations, times when you need to ask for help, combined with positive reward and calming
techniques. This intervention is actually mainly used in treating phobias, it's called exposure therapy, and it involves a gradual exposure to an event that creates anxiety at small levels and we increase the anxiety it creates over time whilst combining it with something positive, whilst combining
it with calming exercises so that that stress response, so that that hyper -independency is not triggered.
So, this could involve slowly sharing personal experiences, delegating responsibility, or relying on someone for support.
Every time these experiences go well, every time you learn that you can trust those around you, that they will show up, that life is maybe easier if you let people in, you unlearn those lessons and that trauma that has convinced you that self -sufficiency is the only way to get through life.
However, it's also important that we don't go too far, like we spoke of before, hyper -independent people are often more attracted to people who are codependent because they like the responsibility of managing the relationship and feeling like they can be autonomous because the other person won't question them.
That codependent person just wants to make you happy.
We're working towards interdependency here, not codependent, so it's important to make sure that you recognize what your kind of boundaries are that you can still say no so that you don't swing in the opposite direction.
I think emotional extremes are also a massive indicator of a trauma response or of hyper -independency so making sure that you're like okay, this relationship, I might be going a little bit too far, maybe I've just decided to attach myself to one person because I can trust them, that's like hyper -independency,
like spicy hyper -independency almost, like you're still hyper -independent plus one, plus this one additional person.
We also know that one of the root causes of hyper -independency is having to grow up too quickly.
You've become an adult way before your time, so to heal the current version of ourselves, the hyper -independent version of ourselves, we also need to heal those previous versions.
That includes our younger childhood self.
This is where inner child healing becomes really useful.
The essential premise is that we have all experienced hurt in some way and in order to heal our adult emotional scars and beliefs, we need to get back to those foundational experiences that we had as children and we need to begin treating ourselves as if we are the parent, as if we are caring for that childhood
version of us. It goes by another name and that's called reparenting and I think that's the crucial idea here.
We have to be the parent that we always deserved, whether you had a healthy example of what that should look like or not and by loving this version of us unconditionally, by deliberately and consciously healing them, giving them perhaps what we did not have as children.
We address the things that we most want to change about our adult selves.
There are a few ways that we can do this that are specific to the emotional wounds most attached to hyper -independency, so emotional neglect and parentification also abandonment.
Firstly, engage in play.
Give yourself the opportunity to be childlike, especially if that that ability and that opportunity was taken away from you when you were younger.
Watch movies from your childhood, go on the swings, make fairy bread, pull out, you know, a board game, some Uno cards, buy yourself something ridiculous and fluffy, a toy, a chocolate sundae, just because you want to.
Let yourself have those innocent childhood experiences that maybe you were not allowed to have when you were younger.
Secondly is to be messy and to be vulnerable.
Allow yourself to cry openly, to not always check everything off your to -do list, make space for the mistakes that you weren't allowed to make in childhood.
That is essentially saying, I did not get the opportunity perhaps to make mistakes, I had to be on guard, I had to be self -reliant, I had to look after others and so all of that innocence, all of that freedom, all of that room to be messy and vulnerable, those were experiences that perhaps I didn't
have when I was younger that I'm going to recreate and give myself as an adult.
I think also when you feel your inner child seeking out love, especially when you feel loneliness or longing, give them what they crave, not for your current self, not for that version of yourself that might be really scared, but for that inner child who needs you to have their best interests at heart,
reach out to a friend even if it's difficult, ask for help because that's what your inner child needs.
It might not be what you think you need, but you're not the focus here, it's about what that inner version, that childhood version of yourself needs and practice radical self compassion.
We talk about this quite a bit on the show because it is so powerful.
When you find that you've failed, when you've been rejected, when you feel unhappy with yourself, take note of your inner dialogue and self -talk and imagine that your five -year -old self is sitting in front of you right now and you're saying those things to them.
You would not yell at this five -year -old version of you.
You wouldn't tell them that they're useless, that they're worthless, that they're stupid.
So why would you say these things to yourself now?
I think that when we become conscious of the fact that this version of us still exists, needs to be reparented, needs to be protected, our approach to our current versions of ourselves become a lot more fulfilling and a lot more peaceful and gentle.
Finally, I would say recognize what triggers your hyper -independency and I think in those moments, those are the times you most need to ask for help.
We have to remember, hyper -independence is a trauma response, so it's often going to be activated during times of excessive stress or emotional intensity when our mind resorts to that deeply ingrained coping mechanism because in the past, it's proved that it worked even if it's at the expense of your long
-term well -being. But it's your job to replace this behavior with a more positive one and recognize what kind of situations are catalysts for you shunning, assistance for you isolating yourself.
Maybe that's an argument with a partner or a friend, maybe it's when someone says they're really busy, maybe it's when someone doesn't show up for you.
When you know that you're going to isolate, go out instead or ask others to join you whilst you're studying or you're busy at work.
When you know you're going to be maybe hostile towards others and you feel this urge to push them away, let them in, let them know what you're going through.
When you need help, ask for it, even if it's not from someone in your life, maybe it's from a neighbor or even someone online.
It's all about those small steps.
As we always say, you've got to feel the fear and do it anyway.
Your future self is going to thank you for breaking out of this pattern.
I guess the final reminder for the day is that hyper -independence is going to convince you that being alone, doing things alone, is better, is safe, is secure.
But that is not always the case.
And like I said, we evolved around this idea of interdependency and community.
It's important to know that it's not your fault, I guess.
This comes from traumatic experiences.
It comes from emotional neglect or events that caused you to grow up way too quickly and learn that you could not trust others.
But as we get older, it's also important to revisit some of those childhood or early patterns of behavior that have continued with us into adulthood and check in with ourselves to see if they're still doing what we need them to do, if they are still what is best for us in this current state of life.
So I think that that is all we have time for today.
I really hope that this episode kind of provides you with a better understanding of this.
I love seeing TikToks and Instagram videos and whatnot around psychological concepts, but I do often think that it ignores some of the deeper understanding that we need.
So hopefully this provided you a little bit of that.
And if you are someone who is listening to this being like, damn, this really called me out.
I think that I am hyper independent.
Well, now you have some steps.
Now you have some ideas of where to go from here.
Definitely left me a bit shook when I read some of the research specifically around the attraction to codependent people.
I was like, wow, that describes every relationship I've ever had.
So you are not in this boat alone, but I do really hope that you enjoy this episode.
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See you then. This year I've been really rethinking my relationship with alcohol.
And so I decided to commit to dry January to really kickstart 2025 and just test myself.
Heineken 00 is the perfect companion for dry January because you feel like you're still participating when you're out for dinner with friends, out for drinks whilst you're still meeting your lifestyle goals.
I'm a big beer fan, so I also love the taste of Heineken 00 plus being alcohol free.
You can enjoy whenever refreshment calls.
Heineken 00 is available at your local Heineken retailer or for delivery at Heineken .com.
You must be 21 plus to purchase.
Enjoy Heineken responsibly and good luck with dry January.
