Welcome to English as a Second Language podcast number 158, Shopping with My Wife.
This is English as a Second Language podcast number 158.
I'm your host, Dr Jeff McQuillan, coming to you from the Center for Educational Development located in beautiful Los Angeles, California.
Today's podcast is going to be a story about me going shopping with my wife.
Let's go.
One thing I dread more than anything else is going clothes shopping with my wife.
It's not that I don't like helping her buy new clothes.
It's just that I have no fashion sense.
My wife always asks me, what do you think of this one?
And I always answer with something like, that's nice, or that looks good on you.
That usually satisfies her.
But sometimes I get harder questions like, which one looks better, this one or the other one?
It's a hard question to answer because whichever one I pick, she will follow up with the question I dread the most.
Why?
The truth is I don't know why.
I don't know if it's because of the color, the cut, the hemline, or the fit.
I might have an idea, but I can't put it into words.
One question I do know the answer to, though, is, do I look fat in this?
The answer to that question is always, always no.
In this podcast, you are going with me as we shop for clothes with my wife.
I begin the story by saying that one thing I dread more than anything else is going clothes shopping.
To dread D-R-E-A-D is when you are not looking forward to something, when you really dislike something.
You don't want to do something, but you probably have to do it.
For example, I dread going to work on Monday morning means I really don't want to go to work, but I know I have to in this case,
Well, I dread more than anything else going clothes shopping, going out to buy clothing with my wife.
It's not that I don't like helping her buy new clothes.
It's just that I have no fashion sense.
A couple of things about those sentences.
It's just that that construction, that use of those expressions is very common in English.
It's not.
That means this.
What I'm going to say is not true.
It's just that now I'm going to say something that is true.
So, for example, in the story I say it's not that I don't like helping her buy clothes.
That means I do like helping her buy clothes.
That isn't the problem, however.
The problem is, and then I say, it's just that I have no fashion sense.
It's just that is followed by the real reason or the real problem.
So someone may say to you in a different situation it's not that Minnesota is very cold in the winter, it's just that I prefer to spend my time in Hawaii.
So you are saying well, the problem with Minnesota isn't the cold, the problem is that I prefer to go to Hawaii.
That's a similar use of that construction.
It's not that.
It's just that.
Well, in this case, the problem is that I have no fashion sense.
Fashion, F-A-S-H-I-O-N, and sense, S-E-N-S-E.
Well, you know fashion means the way or the kind of clothing that people wear.
We say something is in fashion.
That means it's popular.
Many people are dressing that way.
A fashion sense is a consciousness, an ability to know what looks good and what doesn't look good.
So someone with a fashion sense can say oh, that color is a good color to wear with this other color.
But someone like me with no fashion sense could put on green and purple and think oh, that looks okay.
So I have no fashion sense.
And that's what we mean by fashion sense.
Someone who knows the knowledge of knowing which clothes to wear.
My wife always asks me, what do you think of this one?
And I always answer, that's nice, meaning, yeah, that's okay.
Or, that looks good on you.
And of course, to look good on someone means that the clothes look good on them.
The clothes are attractive. that the person has a nice look about them in those clothes.
I say in the story that when I tell my wife that's nice or that looks good on you, that usually satisfies her.
To satisfy her means she doesn't ask more questions.
She thinks, oh, okay, I accept that.
She is satisfied.
The noun there would be satisfaction.
Well, my responses usually satisfy her, but sometimes I say I get harder questions.
Of course, a hard, H-A-R-D question is a difficult question.
So I get more difficult or harder questions when she asks which one looks better, A or B.
And I say that's a hard question because whichever one I pick, meaning whichever dress, in this case, I select A or B, whichever one could be either one.
Another way of saying whichever is it doesn't matter which one I choose for either choice.
She will follow up with the question, I dread the most.
To follow up, two words, F-O-L-L-O-W, U-P.
To follow up means to do something after someone else has done something.
That you want more information, for example.
You can follow up with a question.
Sometimes we use that verb by itself.
I'm going to follow up on our meeting today means I'm going to call you again or email you again about what we talked about in our meeting.
Well, in this case my wife follows up with a question means after I answer her question, she asks me another question.
And the question that I dread the most, remember dread means I hate, I dislike the most, is why?
Well, I say in the story that the truth is I don't know why.
The truth is is an expression we use when we are trying to be very honest with someone else, maybe telling them something that we wouldn't normally tell them.
So, for example, my wife says, do you want to go over to my sister's house?
And I say, well, the truth is I'm really tired.
I'm telling her something I may not say otherwise.
Or I could say the truth is.
I don't like your sister's dog, or whatever the reason is.
In this case, the real reason I can't answer my wife's question is I don't know the answer.
I don't know why I like something.
I say that it could be because of the color of the dress, for example. the cut, C-U-T, of the dress.
The cut is how it is formed, what shape it is.
That would be the cut of a piece of clothing.
When you buy jeans, for example, blue jeans, you can get them in a boot cut, B-O-O-T, a boot cut.
Boot, of course, is a kind of shoe.
And a boot cut means that the pants fit very straight on your leg.
They're cut very straight.
You could also get a wide cut or a loose cut.
Whatever kind of cut it is, it's the shape of the clothing.
The hemline, H-E-M-L-I-N-E, all one word, is the bottom of the dress in this case.
It's where the dress ends.
That would be the hemline.
So when people talk about dresses and skirts that women wear, they may talk about how the hemline has been going up, meaning the skirts have been getting shorter.
The hemline is the bottom where the skirt or where the dress ends.
I say that I don't know if it's because of the cut, the hemline or the fit.
Of The fit means how well something looks on you.
If it's tight, is it too loose, is it too tight?
These are all ways of talking about the fit.
If it's just perfect, we say that's a perfect fit.
It's not too tight, not too loose.
Well, I end my story by saying that there is one question that I always know the answer to, and it is always the same answer.
If my wife says, do I look fat in this?
Meaning, does this piece of clothing make me look like I am fat?
The answer to that, and if you are a man, you know the answer to this question, it is always no.
Doesn't matter what the dress is, it's always no.
If you don't know the answer to that question, then you're probably not married or don't have a girlfriend.
Now let's listen to the story, this time at a native rate of speech.
One thing I dread more than anything else is going clothes shopping with my wife.
It's not that I don't like helping her buy new clothes.
It's just that I have no fashion sense.
My wife always asks me, what do you think of this one?
And I always answer with something like, that's nice, or that looks good on you.
That usually satisfies her, but sometimes I get harder questions like which one looks better, this one or the other one?
It's a hard question to answer because whichever one I pick, she will follow up with the question I dread the most.
Why?
The truth is, I don't know why.
I don't know if it's because of the color, the cut, the hemline, or the fit.
I might have an idea, but I can't put it into words.
One question I do know the answer to, though, is, do I look fat in this?
The answer to that question is always, always no.
The script for today's podcast was written by, of course, Dr Lucy Saye.
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From Los Angeles, I'm Jeff McQuillan.
Thanks for listening.
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English as a Second Language podcast is written and produced by Dr Lucy Say, hosted by Dr Jeff McQuillan.
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