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and I cannot wait to dig into this topic of being the hero of your own life.
And you know, there's this one thing that you may not know about me. When I'm not busy creating
episodes of the Mel Robbins podcast for you, you want to know what I'm doing. I do a lot of research
and my production studios, one four three studios, we develop courses and custom trainings and
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And one of my favorite things to do when I'm thinking about the episodes that we're going to create
for you or I'm researching a new project is I love to find and teach frameworks that come from
different disciplines and figure out, hmm, how can you apply this thing from engineering or from
neuroscience or from business strategy to your personal and your professional life? And you might
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master the skill of taking action. So you can stop thinking about what you want and actually
take the steps to go do it. Today, I'm really excited because you and I are going to dig into one of
my all time favorite frameworks for thinking about life. And I cannot believe that we haven't
talked about this on the podcast yet. It's called The Heroes Journey. And if you've ever seen a
Disney movie or a superhero movie or you're a fan of the Avengers or Lord of the Rings or Harry
Potter or Toy Story or books like a court of Thorn and Roses like I am, then you are also a fan
of this framework called The Heroes Journey. So let me explain what it is. The Heroes Journey
is what is called a story archetype. And that's just a fancy way to say that there's this outline
or this series of steps for any movie or any book that tells the story of a hero. And the
journey that the hero has to take in order to discover their true self and their true calling.
And what they ultimately find, whether it's Luke Skywalker or it's Nemo or it's Frodo,
is that when you go on this journey to find yourself, you end up also saving the world.
And I love this framework and it's something that I use in my own life. In fact, my therapist
and coach Anne Daven, she uses it all the time to help me understand where I am in the journey
of my own life. When she brings up The Heroes Journey, what she's doing is she's pointing out based
on the steps of The Heroes Journey that I'm just at a point in the struggle that every single hero
goes through. And when she does that, I'm like, oh my gosh, that makes so much sense and I don't
feel so lost. I feel like the challenges that I'm experiencing have a purpose that they're part
of the path that I'm meant to walk down. And so today, you and I are going to walk through some
of the steps of The Heroes Journey and how you can use this story archetype as a framework
to learn more about yourself than ever before. Because the hero is within you, whether you believe
it or not, your life is trying to pull the hero out of you. And the only way you find out more
about yourself is if you go on this bigger journey. Not necessarily to save the world like the
Avengers do, but perhaps to save yourself. And in doing so, you'll ultimately save the world
around you. So what exactly is The Heroes Journey framework? Well, it was created by Professor
Joseph Campbell. And he was a brilliant mythologist who spent his life studying the stories of
religions and myths of culture around the world. And he had this huge epiphany that there is a
common pattern in all of these stories that we love, that there is a narrative that goes way
beyond time and culture and the geography of where the story's coming from, that in every single
story about a hero, there's the exact same patterns of steps, things that are universal about
the human experience. And that's what he called The Heroes Journey. It's a narrative structure
that follows the hero as they embark on an adventure, face challenges and trials, undergo personal
growth and transformation, and ultimately return home to their community with newfound wisdom
or a valuable new treasure. And it's what you see in every single movie that you love. In fact,
when Star Wars came out in 1977, it was unlike anything any of us had ever seen before.
The story of Luke Skywalker blew the world away. And here's a very interesting fact that you
may not know. Can you guess who George Lucas considered his inspiration and his mentor?
That's right. Professor Joseph Campbell. See, The Heroes Journey isn't just a pattern that
happens to pop up in all your favorite movies. The Heroes Journey is the reason why the movies
and stories and myths that you love become popular in the first place. You and I absolutely
love The Heroes Journey because it always begins with striking out from the safety of your home
and searching for your true calling and your larger power. And today, you will realize that this
is the story of your life too. Because you and I are going to break down the framework of The Heroes
Journey to help you understand exactly where you are right now as you are living it. And by the end
of our conversation today, my mission is not only to get you to really embrace the simple truth
that yes, just like Luke Skywalker and Milan and Frodo, you are the hero of your own life.
And there is a bigger calling for you. But I also am on a mission to make you think about what
that calling might be for you. Because the Heroes Journey isn't just about storytelling or mythology.
It's a metaphor for the human experience, for your experience. And it mirrors the journey of
discovery and growth that you undertake in your life, whether you realize it or not. It's a guide
to understanding change and transformation. And it gives you the insights that you need to overcome
any challenge that comes your way. It is the path to reaching your true potential. And we're going
to talk about the stages of the Heroes Journey and how you apply them to your life. Both to provide
deeper meaning to your past. But also, and this is where it gets real fun, to provide a roadmap
for your future. So let's start at the beginning. In Joseph Campbell's research and scholarship,
there are 17 levels to the Heroes Journey. But today, you and I are going to focus on the four
most important ones, the ordinary world, the call to adventure, crossing the threshold,
and the midpoint. And so let's start with the very first phase of the Heroes Journey. And that's
called the ordinary world. And let's think about, you know, kind of some of our heroes and our
favorite movies and stories. Because when you first meet the hero of a story, where are they?
They're living a normal, boring, irritating life, right? I mean, you may not remember this from
Star Wars, but when you first met Luke Skywalker, do you remember where he was living? He was living on
the desert planet Tatooine. And he has no idea who he really is or what the potential of his life is.
He's just living a boring life on some desert planet. He's completely unaware of the enormous
world that is out there and he's rolling it. Same thing with Malone. She's living in China and her
soul duty, remember this, was to bring honor to her family by getting married. She has no idea
who she really is or what the potential of her life is or what lies beyond the little town that
she lives in. Or what about Lord of the Rings? Same thing, right? Frodo. Where's he live at the
beginning of the movie? Oh my gosh, he's there with his big feet in the beautiful shire. He has
no desire to leave it. He's completely unaware of the world that's out there. He's never left the
shire. Are you kid? He doesn't know he's the person that's going to save the world. Neither do you.
So how does the ordinary world, this first step of the hero's journey apply to you? Simple.
You have no idea who you really are and what the potential for your life is. I mean, how could you?
You only know what you know based on the life that you're living right now. Same with me.
The life you're living in this tiny little part of the big wide world. And that's okay. That's okay.
I hope our conversation today makes you open your eyes a little wider, makes you look around and
consider. There's an entire world that you have yet to discover. And there is power and bravery
inside of you that you have yet to tap into. And let's think about the next part that happens in
every movie. This is the call to adventure. It's the moment when ordinary life is suddenly
disrupted by the call to something greater. Now in the Lord of the Rings, you remember when
this happened, right? Frodo. He's sitting there in the shire. He has no intention to leave
who shows up, Gandalf. And next thing you know, he's hearing all about the one ring and
modor and all the world that is about to be destroyed. Holy cow, talk about a call to adventure
or Milan. Milan is told she's not worthy of a husband. Remember that. And so she wants to find a
way to make her parents proud. And she thinks, oh, wow, I know I'm going to make my parents proud.
That could be going to war in my dad's place. In Star Wars, Luke discovers a message that's hidden
in the droid. Remember that little projected message, which leads him on the path to becoming a Jedi.
Now let's talk about you and step two of the hero's journey, the call to adventure. Now Luke and
Frodo, they were both lucky enough to have someone actually give them these calls. But your life
probably isn't going to work that way. That said, the call to adventure is all around you
right now. And there are four things you must know in order to recognize it. And before we get to
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back. It's your friend Mel and we're talking about Joseph Campbell's The Heroes Journey and we're
focusing on four specific steps of it. And you just learned the first one, which is the ordinary
world. And now we're about to jump into the second one, the call to adventure. The call to adventure
is all around you and there are four things you must know in order to recognize it in your own life.
So here's the first thing. Number one, the call to adventure will not likely come from someone else.
I mean a robot isn't going to come and project a message to you. A wizard is not going to show up
at your front door and be like, come on now. We got to go save the world. This isn't someone coming
to you with your future on a silver platter saying, you're the chosen one. That's how it works
in the real world. It works that way in the movies and we love it. But this call to adventure
is something you have to be open to and be willing to see for yourself. And here's one way you
can start to open your mind up to this. Ask yourself this question. What is your life trying to tell you?
I'm going to ask you that question again. What is your life trying to tell you?
If you really sit with that question, you'll notice that your life is trying to nudge you
in a certain direction. There's something you can't stop thinking about. There's some sort of
sign that keeps showing up. There's something that you've wanted to do, but you haven't done it.
And I need you to realize that you've got to be willing to start to look for this call to adventure
because if you don't pay attention, you're going to miss it. Now the second thing you need to know
about the call to adventure in your life is it can come as a very positive signal
or it could be a negative one. And here's an example that you might be able to relate to of a
negative thing that represents a call to adventure. So one of my best friends, Jody, she and I have
been literally friends since the fourth grade. Well, she has lived in Santa Barbara for years
and all of a sudden her rent started going up. She recently left a job she didn't like. And she
has just felt like some things been off about where she lives. And then both of her parents
ended up in the hospital at the same time. Talk about a wake up call. She had this instinct, this pull.
I should really move back home to Michigan. I mean, I don't know how much longer my parents are
going to be around. I'm so far away. I really feel like I should move back home to Michigan.
That right there is her call to adventure. Rent going up, leaving a job you don't like,
all of a sudden something changing with her family. That's an example of what I'm talking about.
And how much more positive do you feel if you look at that situation and you frame it as a call
to adventure? Very different than feeling like life is breaking apart. Let me give you now a
positive example of what could be a call to adventure. And this is like a small thing.
My husband, Chris and our daughter, Sawyer, when it's snowing outside and it's the winter months,
they go to this mountain nearby and they do what's called skinning up the mountain, which is you
take these skis and you put these sticky things on the bottom of them and you basically hike up a
mountain, a snow mountain with your skis on it. And then when you get to the top, you take the
sticky things off and now you can ski down. And Chris is organized as whole group of people that
meet in the parking lot and they now do it twice a week during the winter. I feel pulled to do it.
But I'm scared of it. I'm not in great shape. I'm not as good as they are at this, especially
thinking about pulling into a parking lot where Chris is organized this group and there's 30 or
40 people there that do this all the time. But here's the thing. As I think about this, I feel the
pull. I could see myself as somebody that gets up super early to do that as somebody that has that
level of adventure, of somebody that's doing something that's that cool. And I'm using the word
pulled because that's an example of a call to adventure. For you, you might feel pushed
or you might feel pulled. Could be positive, could be negative. Both are a call to adventure.
The third thing I want you to be aware of is that it can be big or it can be small. I am so
moved by the number of you who listen to this podcast around the world and write to me and say
that simply taking on something new or bringing back something that I used to do, that it's made you
so happy. It's made a part of you come alive. It's made you tap into something deeper, like taking a
painting class or writing every day in your journal again or just the instinct that you have,
that you want to make your life a little bit better. These are all examples of small things
that are calls to adventure for you. And number four, and this is super important, it is so easy to
refuse it. So easy to refuse it. And I think this is why we identify with characters in our favorite
movies who are the reluctant hero. You are the reluctant hero in your own life, just like Luke.
I mean, do you remember what happens at the beginning of the movie? He's bending over this robot
as he's trying to fix it and all of a sudden this message pops out, you are my only hope. You are
my only hope. And you remember his rough response? His response was not like, where's the first flight
out of here? His response was, I don't think that I can do this. Like, I hate the empire,
but there's nothing I can do about this right now. I got stuff I need to do on my desert planet.
I don't think this is meant for me. Isn't that what you say, too? That there's nothing I can do
about this right now. See, whenever you find yourself in a place where you feel kind of stuck,
or you feel like you have to stay where you are for the betterment of the people around you,
even though you don't want to, that's a sign of this tension between the call to adventure
and staying where you are. Luke always felt so different from who he actually is. He always had
this inner turmoil between who he is on the desert planet and who he knows he's being asked to be.
And I think that's so relatable because it is the human experience, right? That you don't know what
you're meant for. So you stay stuck in this tension and you never leave the comfort of your ordinary
world because you don't know where to set out to. And so I'm going to keep coming back to this question
that I asked you just a few minutes ago. What is your life trying to tell you right now?
This may be exactly where you are in your life right now. They're reluctant hero,
resisting the call, refusing to acknowledge that there is something more. Maybe because you're afraid,
or you're not sure what more is. Will that tension? That right there is evidence that the call to
adventure exists right now in your life. Because whenever you say I'm stuck, that's a way for your
soul to say, can you answer the call to adventure? Give me out of this neighborhood, get me off this
planet, get me out of this little village. We got something to do. There is a hero inside you and
ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, when you feel stuck, that hero inside you is trying to
rattle the cage and say, wake up, we got stuff to do. And so here's how you are going to use
Joseph Campbell's framework, the hero's journey. Start labeling these moments of tension as a call
to adventure. That breakup, that heartbreak you feel, guess what that is, call to adventure.
That lay off you didn't see coming, call to adventure. The jealousy that you feel as you watch
your friends move forward with their lives, whether they're moving across country or they're going
to graduate school or they're moving in with a significant other or moving out for that matter,
call to adventure. And if you're like me, I am looking ahead at my life and Chris and I are going
to be empty nesters this fall. Now I can sit around and worry about what I am going to feel like
as an empty nester when Oakley heads off to college or I can see this as an amazing call to adventure.
A whole new journey is about to begin. A journey where I will only discover what's possible
by going through it. I mean, how cool is that to think of changes in your life as an opportunity
to see changes in your life as a moment and the ability to find yourself, to become the hero
that you need to discover some power inside you that you didn't know existed. And by the way,
you can only find by going through this journey. And you know what's interesting about the hero's
journey is that if you look backwards at your life, especially in moments of challenge,
you can see many heroes journeys. You can see how going through something brought out the hero
inside you. It offered up this opportunity for growth and discover some sort of treasure
that you didn't realize was there. What's so cool about using this as a framework because my
therapist does this all the time. I'm constantly writing down the notes that she tells me as we're
having these conversations is that you can use this framework moving forward. You can stand where
you are right now and say, okay, my life is great, but I'm in an ordinary world, right? There's a call
to adventure. And when you open your eyes and you see tension or feeling stuck or you feel the pull
or the push and you frame it as a call to adventure, now you're ready for stage three in the
hero's journey. And that is crossing the threshold. Now, this is the moment where the hero
leaves behind the safety of the ordinary world and ventures into the unknown, fully committing
to their journey of transformation. Now in Star Wars, Luke leaves his planet and he goes on this
new quest, Mulan. She leaves her home, remember in the middle of the night, she even disguised herself
as a man to sneak into the army's training camp to take the place of her father in the war?
Lord of the Rings, crossing the threshold. Frodo leaves the safety of the Shire. I even remember
that moment where they stop and turn to one another and say, we've never been this far.
And then they set out on their journey and cross the threshold.
It's the moment that you move from thinking about the bigger picture for your life to actually
taking action. Now, my friend that I mentioned, Jody, she crossed the threshold. She packed up her
house in Santa Barbara. She loaded up her car. She got her bulldog into the passenger seat next to her,
drove across country and moved home to Michigan. She's going to live with her parents. And she texted
me last night. I just arrived for my next adventure. She moved back home and she's turning the
upstairs of her parents' house and do an apartment. Why? Because she felt pulled to, to take care of them.
Now they never asked her to do that. And I'm sure now that she's crossed the threshold,
she's probably gone, oh my god, what the hell have I done? And here's the thing. It's not just
the physical act of leaving a place. If you say to yourself out loud, I want something different.
That can be its own kind of commitment. That can be its own threshold that you cross.
You could submit an application. You could step into the gym for the first time. You could throw out
all the alcohol in your house. You could make the doctor's appointment. In fact, just sitting down
in a common mature way and expressing a boundary about something that needs to change.
That's a way that you cross a threshold in a relationship. And yeah, it is hard, as I mentioned,
to see the call to adventure. But you want to know what's actually more difficult than recognizing
that you're called to do something more. It's actually committing to it. Crossing this threshold
is the most powerful step, in my opinion. Because it's a huge turning point in the hero's journey. And
once you do it, there's no turning back. It's a declaration of intent. It is a bold and courageous
act. And this is why you hear me talk about taking the first step or getting started or signing up
or saying what you need to say out loud all the time. Five, four, three, two, one, take the action.
Because it's bigger than just that first step. If you look at the courage that it takes for you
to answer the call to change, to be greater, to do something that scares you, this stage of crossing
the threshold is no joke. Because you can live for years with that tension knowing that you're
meant for something greater and never do anything about it. And this is the part of the hero's
journey where most people fail. Because there is no journey until you take the step and you answer
the call and you cross the threshold. It's when you commit to yourself and to the journey that
you're officially on the journey. Not by thinking about it. I mean, think there would be no
star wars if Luke just stayed on the planet and thought about it. There'd be no Lord of the rings.
If Frodo was still just laying around and eating good food in the shire, there'd be no Mulan.
If she was like, okay, I guess I'm not marriage material. I guess I'll just die single in my
parents house. No, at some point you have to not only answer the call, but you have to begin it.
That's what it means to be on the journey. And speaking of a journey, I want to make a hero's call
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Terms apply. Welcome back. It's your friend Mel and you and I are talking about Joseph Campbell's
the heroes journey. And we just talked about the powerful step of crossing the threshold. And now
you have come to the midpoint. This is where you've left the ordinary world. You have answered the
call. You've crossed the threshold. This is where the work begins. This by the way is also where
the magic happens. It's also where you tend to find your mentors and your allies because once you
set off on this journey, you ever notice that all kinds of people start to show up to help.
It's pretty cool, right? But here's the thing about the midpoint. It's also where there are so
many challenges along the way. And it's also not the end of the journey yet. See, this point signifies
the second half of the movie, right? And you're probably going to spend the second half of your life
on this part of the journey too. I mean, this happens in all the stories that we love, right?
In Star Wars along the journey, Luke faces challenge after challenge after challenge after challenge
and one ally after another shows up. And same thing happens to Milan, including a huge battle that
she thinks is the final stand, but it isn't. And in the Lord of the Rings, holy smokes. I mean,
just think of how it twists and it turns and Frodo and his companions also are facing challenge
after challenge and increasing dangers. And just when you think it's about to all end,
boom, something unbelievable happens. And in the movie world, this second act is so long.
It just keeps going. I mean, could how many battles are there? How many challenges? How many times
will they get a fall down? Well, it's testing your strength and your resilience. And you also get
glimpses of success, little wins that keep you going. And here's the thing about the midpoint.
Don't you dare turn back. Do not do it. And in your life, the midpoint in your journey could show
up in so many different ways. It could be a series of challenges or setback. It's the moment that
you may question yourself. You know, I think of my friend Jodi who just moved back and I imagine her
kind of pulling into the driveway, moving in with her parents who were both recently hospitalized. Can
you imagine how she's going to face the challenges? I mean, you can imagine how she's going to question,
is this the right decision? What the heck am I doing here in the middle of Michigan? What is going
on? This is not what I thought was going to happen. And she's going to have this long time where
it feels like she's not making progress or she's not going to break through and she's not going to
understand where is this all leading? But it's always leading somewhere, isn't it? And that's the
hero's journey. And the same is true for you to trust that it's leading you somewhere, to trust
that when you answer the call, you will be rewarded at some point. That's the midpoint. If you're
sitting there holding yourself back and you're telling yourself, it's too late or my life is so
busy, I couldn't possibly fit in this thing that I want to do. You're wrong. You're absolutely
wrong. You can go to grad school. You can move across country. You can start that business. You do
have the time and you can fit it in. And I want to share a personal story with you. My husband,
Chris, for example, he was in this stage for a long time. When we first got married, he decided
that he wanted to get his MBA. He answered the call. He crossed the threshold. And then the midpoint,
holy smokes. Do you know he earned his MBA from Babson? By taking one class at a time, it took
the man seven years to complete his degree. Do you know how many times he thought about quitting?
He would come home from class at night after working all day and be like, I am literally twice
as old as everybody in the class. In fact, it took so long that all three of our children were born
while he was in the MBA program. He thought about giving up all the time. This staged the midpoint.
This is a slog. And you want to know what? We all face it. It's part of the hero's journey.
You know, I'm in the middle of a slog right now. I am writing a book. I am so excited about the
book. I answered the call. I crossed the threshold. I've been put in pen to paper. I'm also not
down with the manuscript. And I am spending every single weekend, all weekend. And every single
evening just slogging away. In fact, this past week, I sat in a chair for three days straight.
I could not write a single word. I felt like I was at that point in the Lord of the Rings where
Frodo is at that weird, disgusting pond at the base of Modor or Modor or how are the how you say
that scary mountain that he's going toward? Just bluck, it's not working. Why am I here? This is the
part of the writing and releasing of a book is not sexy. I'll feel like a hero. I feel like quitting.
This is the midpoint. And I'm experiencing everything that heroes experience in the movies that
we love for literally 50% of the movie. The ups, the downs, the questioning of your ability,
the unexpected challenges. And here's what the midpoint does. It requires something of you.
It requires you to keep showing up, to keep digging deeper and deeper and deeper within yourself,
to keep surprising yourself and to keep going. It would be so easy to quit. But don't you dare.
The movie would be over. The journey would be done. I mean, it is called the hero's journey,
not the hero's finish line. So you're not finished. In fact, you're never finished. I mean,
that's the point of your life, right? And that's my big message to you right now. You are not finished.
You have so much more strength and resilience and ability that you haven't even tapped into yet.
And you won't unless you keep going. Because as you keep facing these challenges in your life,
in this midpoint, yeah, you'll have lots of little wins. But it's through facing the challenges
that you discover what you're meant to discover about yourself, whether it's Luke defeating the
Empire or Frodo destroying the ring and saving the world, or you finishing the manuscript,
or getting your masters, or settling into that new stage of life and creating it to be extraordinary.
You'll figure it out. I mean, every single movie that you love ends with the hero of the movie
figuring it out. So let me stop and ask you. What did they actually figure out? What did Luke figure
out? What did Frodo figure out? What did Milan figure out? If you look back at your own life
and you think about the most challenging things that you have ever faced and lived through.
What did you figure out? You figured out who you are and what you're capable of.
And you may not think you're changing the world when you go back to school, or when you
do pack up your stuff and leave your job and move across country and back in with your parents.
You may not think you're changing the world when you answer the call for adventure that's
calling to you. But what you are doing is changing yourself. See, the hero at the end of the story
always comes home, home to themselves. And what's interesting when you go back home to where you
began, if you've ever experienced this, of going back to your childhood home, what's so fascinating,
if you've ever gone back to your childhood home, isn't it interesting how small it feels?
The reason why it feels so small is because you realize when you go back that you've
outgrown it, that when you left, you changed, you grew, you learned something about yourself
that life tested you, that you discovered something by facing this challenge,
by answering the call and you surprised yourself with your ability to face new things and a new
place that you never thought you'd be capable of doing. So whenever you come back to where you
came from, you will be confronted with the fact that it stayed the same, but you haven't.
And maybe what you're recognizing as you listen to this is that there have been many, many
heroes journeys that you've already learned from in your life. When you left home for college,
when you discovered your strength after a relationship ended, when you overcame a health
challenge or handled an unexpected setback or layoff, you pushed through grief and learned how
to live with it. You moved to a new place and found a new community. Or maybe you look back
and you see that you're a totally different person today because of the habits and the changes
that you committed to and started over a year ago. And look, you and I might not be fighting the
empire or truly saving the world. But every single day when you wake up, you're facing your own
battles, you're in the trenches, you're doing the work, you're in the midpoint of some journey
that you're on and you are stronger and braver and more resilient than you know. That's what makes you
the hero in your own life. So if you're sitting there feeling like, yeah, things
are a little ordinary. I am a little bored or maybe you're realizing that tension isn't tension at
all. It's telling you something bigger and you need to stop ignoring it. You need to see it for
what it is. It's a call to adventure and it's time for you to answer the call and begin the journey.
And I can promise you this. You already got me as your ally. I may not be as good looking as
Gandalf, but I'm going to be there right by your side on your hero's journey. And in case no one
else tells you, let me be the one to tell you. I love you and I believe in you and I believe in your
ability to create a better life. And when you commit to doing that, you not only discover the hero
inside yourself, but you create a better world. I'll talk to you in a few days.
Today, I'm going to... Hold on a second. That was good. There you go.
He was living on the desert planet Tatooine. Is that how you say it? Tatooine?
You only know what you know based on the life that you're living. Same with me.
And the dogs that are barking. I might not be as good looking as Gandalf.
But I'll be there by your side. Okay, you ready?
I'm so into this. Excellent.
Oh, and one more thing. And no, this is not a blooper. This is the legal language. You know,
what the lawyer's right and what I need to read to you. This podcast is presented solely for educational
and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist and this podcast
is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist,
or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I'll see you in the next episode.
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