Hi, welcome back to Eat Your Crest Podcast. I'm G-Soo and I'm Crystal.
All right, so we have a slaying word today. I don't know if we should still call them Gen Z words because
what is it like Gen Alpha is on the coma for something and some of these words are also started by them, but
we do have a word today, but we also wanted to ask our listeners if you all like the slaying word of the week
since we're in the new year, we're still playing around a bit with our themes and
structure, so if you like it and want us to keep doing it, let us know. We'll put up a poll in Spotify
and we'll probably put up a poll on our Instagram as well. So the word that G-Soo actually brought today is
YAP, flash yapping, flash yapper. I think this is such a funny word too because as you've said before G-Soo like
this is a real word. If you look in the dictionary, this is a legitimate word. It's not really slaying in its origin,
but it's been really popular lately. I've been seeing it on TikTok a lot mostly in the comments.
Dude, yeah, the comments on TikTok are so savage sometimes, especially when it comes to the usage of this word
because I feel like they do not hold back and they will make fun of you for yapping. Oh my god. So the definition of the word is pretty
true to its actual meaning, which is talking a lot, but it's definitely a lot more negative of a
context. So on Know Your Meme, I thought this about description was so funny. It says the concept of yapping or someone yapping
became a TikTok meme and it's a way to lightheartedly demean someone's opinions or
alternatively highlight a creator's tendency to talk too much. I've also seen variations of this as with all slang, I guess,
but sometimes if there's someone on TikTok and they're doing like a story time video, for example,
but it goes on for a really long time, they're adding all these unnecessary details, then the comments will always be like,
oh, bros a professional yapper or like bros fluent in yapenies. Oh my god. Holy shit dude. We've evolved. I'm just being like,
this is too wordy. It's like you have to insult them this way. Dude, the yapenies is so funny.
Too good. Yeah, I think it's nice though because the word itself doesn't feel very mean. That's true. It does kind of maintain that more lighthearted tone,
I think at least. So I feel like when I see it used, I can like get on board with it because I'm like, oh, this kind of funny.
It's not too crazy. Like no one's getting really hurt and usually people who get called yappers, they kind of make fun of themselves too a little bit.
They're like, oh yeah, I know. I kind of just like talk about nothing for hours or whatever.
And I've actually heard this word used in real life as well. So some of our friends actually say it.
The first time I heard it was in the context of someone who got pretty drunk one night and then they were talking a lot in the car about like random bullshit basically.
You know, you know, you are drunk and they're just like saying stuff, but it doesn't make any sense. Yeah.
But we were just like recounting what we witnessed that night and then my friend was just like, oh my god, this person would not stop yapping.
Oh my god. And I feel like it is kind of insulting, but it just made it so much more funny rather than just feeling, oh, this person like talked too much.
Yeah. And then the other way I've seen it in real life was like, if someone just has what is called a bad opinion or just an opinion that someone else disagrees with, then someone will usually be like, oh, stop yapping or like you're a professional yapper.
You know, your opinion is invalid basically. Yeah. I've definitely seen that as well. And I think another funny thing I've seen on TikTok is I guess someone like girlfriend talk.
I think. But basically there's like couples or like girlfriends or whatever and they're like, yeah, I'm always like yapping away. I'm like, my boyfriend like making no sense.
And I feel like that's really funny too when it's just like making fun of yourself.
Ah, sure. Actually, I can kind of relate to that because I think I'm going through something right now where sometimes I feel like I'm saying things out loud to James.
But I'm not actually saying them. Like I'm just thinking them. So then I was like in this conversation, I guess, quote unquote with James, right?
Yeah. Oh, well, when I went from point A to point C basically. And then James was answering. So I was like, are you going to answer?
And then James was like, wait, can I get like some context on what you just said? Because you just dropped some random sentence out of nowhere. I was like, oh no.
I was yapping in my head and also externally. So it was like you said point A and then point B was happening in your head. And I said point C.
Yeah, I think it was because I was cleaning. So I was like, doing stuff and I was like distracted. And then I was like, wait, is he even a response?
I realized I just gave him no context. He's just like, wait, why you said something?
Yeah. Oh my god. That's so funny. You know what? I'm a yapper when I'm drunk as well. And I think I'm also a yapper at night sometimes.
Oh, yeah, I feel that. I'm the kind of girlfriend to bother the shit out of my partner right as they're comfortable and about to fall asleep.
And like, dude, like blah, blah, blah, blah. They're like, I guess I'll have to stay away for this conversation.
Oh my god. I totally feel that. I'm the type of yapper where if I'm like really into something or like I'm going through something,
transformative in my life. So I'll talk about this later. But right now I'm in jury duty. I'll just like non-stop yap about it.
Like people will try to pivot the conversation away to something more like interesting. And I'm like, we have to go back to me being in jury duty.
Like, I, we must discuss that.
Wait, I think this is valid though because I think out of all my close friends, you're the only one who I know who is legitimately in jury duty.
Like everyone usually either doesn't get picked or they have some excuse and they end up not going.
So I mean, I'm like, keep yapping. Wait, I feel so validated. I've been like literally making people's ears bleed by talking about jury duty lately.
I'm like, oh my god, what is jury duty? Also because I'm Canadian. So whenever I get jury duty notice or summons, I'm just like, oh, I'm not a citizen.
They're like, all right, like fuck off basically.
Dude, honestly, that's the best excuse. And actually, I think you're right. Like I personally don't know a ton of people who have actually served in a jury before.
And I was kind of wondering if maybe the county that I live in just has less people compared to where I grew up, where a lot of our like family friends live in what not.
So that could be a potential reason.
And I think another reason is also because we're like kind of recently working adults and like not students.
Yeah, especially because a couple of those years were COVID.
So I'm not actually sure if they were doing jury duty at the time.
But this is just such a crazy experience for me that I think it's like overtaking the way that I view like like that.
I know that's so dramatic, but I was like texting a group chat the other day.
I was on my lunch break at jury duty.
And I was like complaining about how I had no friends at jury duty basically.
And instead of saying, oh, I'm so lonely. Like no one's talking to me at jury duty.
I was like, I don't have any friends at work. So like sucks or something. And James was like work to be a jury duty.
Oh, this is your so duty. This is work.
I take it that seriously.
Dude, this is why you are selected because they knew they're like, dude, this is legitimate work to her. Like she is here to learn and vote and deliver.
Bro, I'm not gonna lie. Okay, I would be lying if I said that I didn't feel immense joy, satisfaction and pride from being selected as a jury.
I was like, this is probably just because I was one of the last names called and they just want to speed up the selection process.
But I feel like the chosen one.
Dude, it's like the bachelor you got a rose. Oh my god. Yeah, exactly.
That's so funny because normally people are like, dude, please don't choose me. Please don't choose me.
I think I kind of felt like both emotions.
But I truly did feel special when I was selected as one of the jurors.
Yeah.
And I don't know. It has been a very interesting experience so far.
I think you're right. Like a lot of people want to get out of jury duty and honestly for the logistics and convenience of my life right now.
I think that would have been a better choice as well. But a lot of people ask me like, oh, why don't you say this? I heard it helps you get out of jury duty or like, oh usually if you talk about this or something.
You know, they won't want to select you and whatnot. But yeah, I think for me, the inconvenience thing was not big enough of a factor for me to like want to do those things to get out of it.
And plus I was just like curious about it anyway. It's like I watched the show jury duty on Amazon Prime Video and I was like, that could be me.
Or were you running away from your other responsibilities?
Damn. Sorry, that got too real.
Okay, but I wasn't like, you know, pitching myself to be a juror. That's true. Cause I think I remember someone had given a tip like, oh, maybe if you say something along these lines, like you won't chosen and you're like, I'm not going to lie though.
Yeah, I mean, that to me is kind of like, I guess you're not sworn in when you're answering these questions to be like a potential juror or whatever.
It's like, you know, but think about like perjury and like, don't lie in court and like the judge is called like the honorable whatever whatever. And I'm just like, okay, first of all, that's just like scary to break the rules.
And then I guess the other thing too is like, I heard if you are clearly very opinionated, for example, like very traumatized about stuff, then it wouldn't make you like a good fit to be a juror for a lot of cases.
So then that's why they would excuse you. But I guess I don't feel like I'm super opinionated about like a lot of things like maybe when I was younger, but now I feel like I'm just like a very average person.
Yeah, like very, very average. So then I feel like it's also maybe one of the reasons why I was selected. But yeah, that's true. Cause I think sometimes people are like, dude, just say this like random, egregious opinion and you know, they'll tell you to leave.
Okay, the thing too is this isn't like a one on one interview with the judge or like the attorney when they do this election process. There's an audience of 80 to 100 people in front of you.
So yeah, so it's like people are like, oh, you know, act like you're crazy or do this. It's like, can you do that comfortably in front of 100 people? Like that's tough for even, you know, someone who is that opinionated.
Yeah, whoa, okay, I had no idea. I thought it was just like they put you in a room. And I for some reason I always imagine it like those rooms and in movies and TV shows where it like a detective questions you.
They like interrogate you exactly. And then they're like, all right, you need to either go home or like get back in line. We might think you.
I think the setup too is the interview, maybe 15 or 20 people at a time, people interviewing you are like the judge, the attorneys on both sides, et cetera.
There's like a super scary bay lift staring at you. And then in the other seats, there's kind of like an audience, but they're really more like other perspective jurors. So they're just waiting to be a part of the like 15 to 20 that get called to get question.
It kind of feels like you're on like a show or something maybe because I recently watched Jerry duty. And I feel like because it's such a serious and like high pressure environment, I feel like the opinionated people around me were trying to like throttle or you know be defensive about their opinions and try to minimize them a little bit because it kind of feels like you're on the stand you're being put to trial.
And I can totally see that all these people are judging you basically. And you're like, fuck, I can't say the wrong thing. I guess they see who crumbles under pressure.
So maybe if you just burst out in tears, they'll be like, all right, like send her out.
Yeah, but it's actually been a very interesting experience. Honestly, I think one of the hardest things for me is I haven't been exposed to the courtroom environment very much. So it's all very new, which means the memories are like the rules are like things that I know about it are very limited.
So the one thing I'm constantly thinking about when I'm injury duty is judge Judy, you know, with like the angry judge and she's always on your mind. Yeah, I'm always like damn.
And then the other thing I think about is I don't know if you ever watched the Amanda show.
Yes, Amanda vines, right? Yes, yes. Do you know the segment? So she used to do a bunch of skits, but she had one particularly that was in a courtroom.
And she would play the judge basically they would have like a fake scenario or something for the courtroom. And she would always ask the two attorneys to approach the bench, I think is what it's called.
And then she would just slam their hands into the drawer. So I don't know if you remember that.
But that was like one of the iconic things from that skip that the dancing lobsters. So I'm just sitting here in like a very serious trial. And I'm like thinking about these two things.
And I'm like, I need to stop thinking about it.
I'm just going to get my hands. Yeah. Oh, that's so funny.
Okay, would you say jury duty? The show is pretty accurate. I think I would have to rewatch it just because when I first watched the show, I had no basis of what it actually should be.
So maybe once this whole process is over, I'll go and rewatch it again, but it's definitely pretty similar, I would say so far.
Okay, good to know. After you told me, I was like, I should probably watch jury duty. This sounds interesting. Maybe I'll get educated.
Yeah, but honestly, my life this year so far after we got back from our travel plans has been jury duty as you can clearly tell because I will not stop yapping about it.
Anyways, enough about me. What have you been up to lately, Crystal?
Honestly, I've been up to, I guess, quarter life crises in the end and beginning of each year.
It's usually kind of like quiet, less busy in terms of work and also social life sometimes because I feel like people tend to be traveling.
During this time, I just felt very unmotivated, low energy, lethargic, and I was like, damn, what's wrong with me? Is this seasonal depression? Sometimes I'm just like, wow, I'm just going to lie in bed all day.
And I guess we kind of talked about this last year a little bit too, but I guess the idea is like a lot of things that we do is stuff that we've been doing.
There's not as much new stuff around. And so it's really easy to just kind of do nothing and let the days blend together.
You like lose sight of everything. You're like, oh god, what day is it, what week is it?
But then like deep inside, you're like, I want to do something. I want to get up and get inspired and do whatever is fun and whatnot.
Wow, sorry, this is like so depressing. I think actually, I'm sure a lot of people, I mean, definitely including myself can relate to that though.
And I wonder if it's also just the contrast, like the weather I know is a big factor for anyone who's on the Bay Area, the weather here has been very, very gloomy and like rainy.
I think more so than prior year, January's maybe. But I feel like since the holidays and especially like the last quarter of every year is always so crazy and vibrant and busy.
It's like the first quarter of the next year always feels so dull.
Yeah, I don't know. It's interesting. I was like, wow, am I having a quarter life crisis? I don't know what to do.
I feel like it's sometimes hard to have the activation energy. Get up and do something.
And I think maybe it's also a suburb thing sort of in order for us to go do stuff. We could have to like get up, go to our car and drive like 20 plus minutes to wherever.
Like even target, which isn't even that far is like 20 minutes from me.
And then you have to worry about like, oh, after drive another 20 minutes back home, it starts being like, oh, if there's something that I want to do, is it worth the commute kind of.
And then there's a lot of cost benefit analysis almost in the suburbs, especially in the big because it's so big, right? Right.
You're like, is it worth it to like go up to whatever city or like go to whatever restaurant, drive back and spend an hour or two driving to have like a 30 minute meal or something like that.
Or like have do a like one hour activity. That kind of stuff has been on my mind a lot where I'm like, oh, you know, why is it sometimes hard to do things?
Or why is it easier to do nothing?
Oh, dude, actually the way that you kind of framed and described that makes me wonder.
So I also live in the suburbs now, but for a very short period of my life, I lived up in San Francisco for a little bit.
And during those times, I lived in apartment buildings, right?
I feel like the interesting thing about our apartment buildings was you could always kind of look into just the way that the layout was you could always kind of look into someone else's apartment.
And I feel like that's like somewhat common ish in a lot of big like densities. It's just like you can walk on whatever street and sort of look into someone's home if their lights are on the evening.
I just remember any time, you know, we would finish at work, I would take the bus home in the evening and on the bus, I'm like riding with a lot of these people and then on the walk to the apartment.
There's like a bunch of people walking around me. I can look into people's apartments, see what they're up to, see people in restaurants, et cetera, et cetera.
And I think that was one of the first times where I really felt like, oh, I wonder if this is why like cities are actually considered communities.
Because in the suburbs, I'm not really looking into people's homes, you like rarely see someone outside, you know, to be able to look into a restaurant, you really have to be like on a busy street or something.
I think you have to be more intentional about it, whereas in the city, people are just around you and it's like normal.
I think it's so funny that looking into other people's homes and like their windows, you're like, oh my god, is this community? You're so right.
But okay, but it's so accurate though, isn't it? It's like a guilty pleasure that everyone does.
That's true. I mean, like in New York, literally the high line is known, you walked down the high line and looking to people's windows.
Oh my god, that's so funny though. You're like, oh my god, this is community. I'm like neighbor. I love you.
And I'm sure they were also looking through your windows. Oh, yeah. And they're like, neighbor, I love you back.
Holy fuck.
So I guess until suburban homes also have windows that make it easy access for pedestrians walking around, I feel like it's just a little bit isolated. Like you truly don't see anyone unless you commit to seeing someone that day.
Yeah, you're so right. I think suburban are definitely very private.
People are living in single homes, single family homes. Our walls are not attached. You don't know about your neighbors unless you specifically go out and try to meet them.
Right.
And you know what your neighbors are up to? Like you hear shit from the like the ceilings and the floors and the walls. Like why is my neighbor moving so much furniture today? Like what's going on in their life?
Do I remember at one apartment unit? I felt like I could describe the exact cleaning schedule of my upstairs name. This person back gives at these times of the day.
I thought one of my neighbors one time, I was like, for some reason they're like rearranging their fucking furniture every other week or something.
Either that or they like deep clean every week. It's like there's a lot of more than just footsteps going on up there.
It's kind of interesting because you know, we're like laughing about it now, but I feel like these are things that I used to find so annoying about apartment life.
Like I would be like, I can't wait until we move out and live in like a single family home or something because life would be so quiet.
But it's sort of like be careful what you wish for because it truly becomes very quiet. Yeah. Very quiet.
Yeah, like silent.
Similar to what you said earlier, a lot of suburban streets are very quiet in terms of like the people bustling about. There's not really people bustling about.
They're like rustling occasionally, occasional rustles. Right.
Okay, you know what's actually crazy. One time I was coming home and it's kind of late. It was like 2 a.m.
And I just see this old couple jogging in the neighborhood and I was like, whoa, it's fucking 2 a.m. Like what are you guys doing?
Yeah. And now that I'm thinking about it, I'm like, whoa, is that they wanted so much peace that they're like fuck it.
We're just going to run in the middle of the night, fuck the daytime running. There's too many cars. We didn't want it to dead silent.
Dude, I'm not going to lie. I'm just imagining you having witnessed a robbery or something.
So I'm literally envisioning a criminal chasing some poor lady and crystals like, oh my god, like they're jogging.
She's like screaming for her life.
Oh man, hopefully that wasn't the case because I saw them again the next week.
I was like, wow, this is a thing for them talking along.
Dude, that's kind of like wild though.
It's 2 a.m. jogging.
Yeah, and they're like, they seem like maybe 50s around their 50s.
I feel like people in the older generation like to sleep early.
Kind of kind of their thing, like early and like get up early, but I was like, okay, 2 a.m.
Either they slept at like 6 p.m. or they are not like they haven't slept yet.
Holy shit.
And either way is like crazy, right?
Is this what happens when you live in the suburbs for too long?
Oh my god, maybe there are like, let's shake it up.
Let's start sleeping at 6 p.m. and we're talking about 2 a.m.
I think it's also interesting contrast actually living like the suburban American lifestyle and contrasting it to the Asian lifestyle.
Especially in like Japan or Korea, which I went to recently.
Things aren't even that popping until like 12 a.m. or something and people are out until like 5 a.m.
But here it's like, I feel like after 9 p.m. I like rarely see movement out on the streets on my house.
Oh my god, yeah.
But I guess I feel like my experiences have been like within cities.
So then usually because it's so dense in Asia, it's all like apartment buildings and pretty crowded.
So I don't have any experience with like suburbs in Asia.
Have you ever seen suburban Asia?
I guess when I visit my grandma, it's not necessarily like the bustling part of Busan.
It's kind of like a residential neighborhood.
There definitely is like significantly more quiet than being on the streets of like Hongdae or like Tokyo or something.
I think there's still a little bit more movement there.
Like I wouldn't be super afraid to like walk out to the convenience store by myself at like 10 p.m.
But here I would probably never do that.
Oh my god, that's so true.
It's like past 10, it's kind of like, oh, like should we even step foot outside?
Dude, when Amazon packages get delivered by 10, I'm like, oh my god, should I even open the door?
Should I just get it tomorrow?
True.
Like it's on your literal doorstep.
It's like, yeah.
Well, I definitely still feel you on this luggishness of this time of the year.
But I do feel like there is always a little bit of an interesting, almost like a collective mindset that I see sometimes.
So yesterday you and a bunch of our friends were over at our house for a good buy party for a friend who's moving.
And I kind of felt like we had one of the most like wholesome and kind of like sweet nights that we've had in a while.
Like I wouldn't say it was like fully wholesome, but I felt like it was kind of a family vibe.
Oh my god.
You know what I mean?
Yes.
I totally get what you mean.
After I got home, I was like, wow, that felt really wholesome.
Yeah.
And like our activities were relatively wholesome. We fit some drinking games in there, but like overall, you know, the vibe was still wholesome.
Right.
No one was trying to haze anyone and like, nothing got out of hand.
We all just like had a really good time together.
Yeah, you're right.
It did feel kind of family like.
It was just like, wow, this is so nice.
These are some of our like longest standing friends.
At least on my me and James's side, but like you've already been a part of this friend group for a long time as well.
So yeah, I don't know.
The vibes are really good yesterday.
Yeah.
And I was actually thinking about it.
And I think you're totally right in the sense that like people just have a little bit less crazy social schedules right now.
And people maybe aren't feeling similar emotions to us.
Where it's like, oh, it's like kind of slow, bordering loneliness and like, rest, I guess.
So then when you have these gatherings, it just feels a lot more special and intimate and people maybe open up a little bit more.
It's like interesting, right?
It's like not even to say that we just sat there and talked about like deep things on our mind or anything, but it just felt very intimate still.
And maybe it's just like our mindset together with somewhat like that.
And I went on so true at one point because one of our friends brought a karaoke machine.
And so we were like, oh, yeah, let's karaoke.
But then like we couldn't find the right charger for the longest time for like the speaker.
And then one of our friends was like, all right guys, it's time to sit down and talk about our feelings.
And then someone was like, you know, I'm going to go pick up some cups.
I'll be like back.
We're like, oh God, let's play rage cage.
But I mean, honestly, like as this friend group, we've done that a lot of times, like, you know, just sat down and talked about feelings.
But I guess it was we wanted to keep the vibes lighthearted and positive.
And it just continued throughout the whole night.
This is a successful evening.
I've actually been thinking about this kind of stuff a lot.
So it's like one of the recurring thoughts that I keep having this year is about acting our age.
I know it's like such a weird phrase.
And I feel like oftentimes it is like a very negative and kind of like judge mental or like, you know, labeling statement of like, oh, you better act your age or whatnot.
But I guess I've just been feeling like I can sort of see the maturity in us.
And like, you know, the people we love around us.
And it's one of the years where I feel like I've seen it so much more clearly.
I see it a lot when people bring up things that are maybe sensitive topics or I see it when people are sharing stories about tough things that they're going through and talking about how they handled it.
I'm like, wow, I've known you for X number of years.
And you or me two, three years ago, even would not have acted this mature or we would not have reacted this way or we would have had the capacity to like process these things as well as we are now.
And it's kind of like a privilege, I think, to be able to see that transitional process and a lot of people because it's not something to take for granted to like, no people for a long period of time.
But I just feel like it's so cool to see people blossom this way.
And it's like, we're not even 30 yet.
So see this so early or like, even at this age, I feel like is really interesting.
Yeah, that makes total sense. And I think that people will more often than not surprise you with their maturity in general.
And I think you're right, especially with long time friends because you kind of have an image of them, especially when it's like, you know, all the way back from like elementary school or whatever.
And then you're like, oh my god, like I totally forgot that you and I have grown up actually like we're so much more mature now like we have some semblance of what we're doing.
Definitely. Maybe one of the times that I've really felt this last year mid December, right before me and James were traveling.
We did like a hot pot night with everyone and I feel like usually these kinds of nights go like a very specific way. There's like a certain pattern to be nice, right.
But this night we like had hot pot. We sang karaoke for a little bit. And then we kind of like split up to like some people were still karaokeing some people were continuing to eat hot pot or like going back to like revisit it later and things like that.
And I just had this really weird feeling that I could now see us doing this exact same thing like this exact style of night when we were 40 or 50.
But the kind of nights that we were having say like two years ago, I feel like there was like an expiration date to these kinds of things.
Not to say they're like super crazy, but you know what I mean, right. Just like very late nights and like things that like people in their 20s like to do. But this I felt like was very much like I have seen my parents do this with their friends.
And I was like in high school. This is something very special, you know, yeah. I was just about to say the meme is that you know the Asian family friend parties is the parents karaoke and the kids are like on their laptops of where playing maple store or something.
And I'm like, oh, shit, that's like what we're doing now. We literally had dinner and like saying karaoke. I know. Although last night we fit in some drinking games. We did a little bit of rage cage where the funniest thing was when we were scheduling everything the day before and you're like Chris are you down to play rage cage and I was like, yeah, sure.
But like not too much rage right like calm cage. I left so hard. It actually was indeed like kind of calm. Yeah, it was chaotic, but in a calm way. Yeah, exactly.
It's hard to describe. It was just like really well contained. Right. Yeah.
People were cheering each other on. I think everyone was like excited to play and everyone was down as well because it was also not scary because it was like, okay, we're gonna pour like as little as we can in each of these cups. Everyone lost gracefully as well.
I keep saying this, but it was just really good vibes.
I think that's true though. Like we've definitely played rage cage a lot, even with like the specific group of friends. Well, I feel like it's a commonly occurring game.
But yesterday it kind of felt like it was fun because of the people we were playing with and not because the game itself was like fun.
Sometimes you play it because you're like, oh, I like to play rage cage, but yesterday I feel like it was funny because it was like us that was playing it.
Yeah, I think even just reflecting on the last handful of years, these gatherings just have evolved so much in terms of like the purpose and intent that we bring to these gatherings, I guess.
I feel like there's such a want to like catch up and like see how everyone's doing and get a little bit more comfortable and cozy with everyone versus, oh, we should hang out kind of thing.
Yeah, I think that's fun group was ever like not close, but at least for me, I feel like there was some sort of evolution in the last few years.
You know, I think maybe another thing that contributed to this all. Like you said, the gathering was kind of to celebrate and say goodbye to one of our friends who's moving out of state.
Not that we'll never see her again, but it's just like, oh, you know, like it's going to be sad that she's not in the Bay anymore. And maybe somewhere so consciously that's like a reminder of our being adults, you know, like people move, people like come and go, but they're still precious friends.
It was like a celebration of our friendship. And then that's what like kind of contributed to like the mood.
Yeah, actually, that's a really good point. I feel like this friend in particular too is really, really good at gathering people and rallying people to hang out. And she has definitely kind of been like a cornerstone of the front group in terms of like getting Bay area people to actually commit to something.
So her leaving, I think, is going to be a huge transition for us as well, probably.
Yeah. And I think you're right. It isn't just thing to think about it that way because I felt like these things felt so much more emotional for me when I was younger.
This is going to be a little bit weird to describe because I'm not trying to say that I don't feel sad about this friend moving.
But I guess I now feel more happy for her that she's moving versus when I was younger, I think I truly felt sad when people moved away.
You know what I'm talking about? I think so. It was more like, oh, I'm going to be sad that this person's gone. But now it's more like, oh, I'm so excited for this person to go like, it's like more of a outward viewpoint versus like an inward looking viewpoint.
I think that's exactly right because even when we like graduated high school and people kind of dispersed into whatever cities that they were initially going to, or I feel even when you had moved to New York for a little bit, feel like the primary emotion that I felt when someone was moving was like, oh, this is like a devastating loss to me.
And I know that's also selfish, but I think I just maybe was more selfish back in the day. And that's probably also when our lives weren't fully cemented or maybe we just are senses of self weren't as strong yet.
So then it truly kind of was like, oh, my life and my identity are like an average of these 10 people that I'm closest to or whatever.
Yeah, but now it's like, you know, we each kind of have our own like bubbles and pods of like our own lives. And we just have the privilege to like hang out with each other when we can.
So then when, you know, close friends move away, like it's still sad and it still is like sort of a loss or like maybe a void in your daily routine or whatever. But at the end of the day, it's like, I just feel more happy for that person than I am sad.
Wow, wow, character development. Yeah. I think also maybe what helps is now that we're a little more established. It's clear to us like, oh, hey, if I plan well and like, you know, save up some money, I can go travel to this place and hang out with them.
And they can do the same like they'll probably come back for the holidays to hang out with family anyway. And then like, it's like a now that we've experienced these things more. It's like, oh, I know what to expect now.
And I know how to navigate these situations better than when it first was happening.
Dude, actually, you're so right because that I think about it. I distinctly have a memory of in 2019, one of our friends had moved up to San Francisco.
And even that I was like, oh, my God, like, we're never going to see her again. Like, we're not going to be able to hang out with her that much like this really sucks.
And we were just in like South Bay and free month, which I feel like it's not even that far like, you know, it is not, but even that I was like, oh, my God, this is such a loss.
I think you're right. Now it's like, I know that even if someone lived right next door, it's like still sometimes hard to like find the time to hang out with people.
So it's not always about distance. I feel like it really is about, I don't know what it's about, but it's just hard.
I guess dude, life is hard. I'm with you on that.
So I guess one last thought for me in terms of like the, I guess intrusive thought of like acting or age is as much as I do feel like there's a positive aspect to it where I like thinking about it because I'm like, wow, we are kind of acting like we are in our late 20s.
The weird aspect of that a little bit is I kind of find myself trying to define what it means or looks like to act like we're 27 28.
Yeah.
And I feel like I'm starting to kind of form an opinion about what I feel like 28 is supposed to be like.
Oh, and I don't know if this is like the start of me becoming like a grandma shaking my cane on my porch being like these damn kids or whatever.
But I guess just because I am thinking about the growth of the people around us and myself and James, of course, it just sometimes highlights things that I see people doing when I'm like, oh, this is kind of like early 20s or like maybe closer to mid 20s behavior.
Yeah, that makes sense because it's like us as a collective is kind of character developing together. Right. But if someone is like maybe falling behind because of, you know, circumstances or whatever, it becomes a little more noticeable.
I think also sometimes seeing young people like having so much energy and like doing all these things. I'm like, whoa, are you guys not tired?
Dude, that's so true actually.
I guess like one of the easy examples to me, I feel like I used to be quite vain, not in the sense of, oh, I thought I was the best looking person in the world, but it's just like appearance and like these kinds of things were 50% of what I was thinking about all the time.
I feel like it mattered to me significantly more back then.
So then now when I see tendencies like that and people, I'm just like, oh, shit, that totally reminds me of me like a couple of years ago.
I guess it's like our parents when they're always like, oh, like looks fade, you know, don't just go after looks or whatever you in the dating pool.
Like the younger you are the more you're like, no, I want like a beautiful friend, whatever.
Yeah, we're becoming our parents.
I know.
Yeah, I guess I just feel like because I am thinking about like, we're so much more mature now because we do this.
I think that, you know, we're like the most mature people ever, but it's like there's specific factors and things that I can point to where I'm like, oh, I'm more mature now because I used to do whatever, whatever, or like things like that.
I feel like it goes the opposite way as well.
Certain things stand out to me because it is something that I would kind of consider immature, you know, because it's sort of like the opposite of what I would consider mature.
Or it's like something you used to do that you've like learned from. So you're like, oh, this action shows that someone hasn't learned from it quite yet.
Right. And I feel like the reason why it's, it feels more new to me too is I feel like when you're younger, it's kind of more about personality differences.
So I would attribute something to someone's personality versus like their maturity.
I feel like that wasn't something that I was constantly thinking about sort of. And now it's like, especially as you kind of move through life and it's many stages with different people.
You see like the average growth rate.
Not to make this like a whole fucking thesis, but it's just like you can kind of tell when it's not about personality anymore. And it kind of is about whether you've matured or not. So I know it's a little vague. But I think just the fact that I'm thinking about concepts like maturity.
I'm like, this makes me feel like I'm a billion years old, like truly giving my cane right now.
Yeah, but you know, that's just a maybe it's a late 20s thing. You just think about these things. We were more experienced now. And I think like things are finally like some things that, you know, maybe your parents said 10, 15 years ago. And you're like, oh, shit.
I guess they were kind of right. We'd like see more perspective because of living through more stuff now.
I think that's exactly right. And I kind of wonder maybe life is sort of about like the bulking and cutting process. Like you know how bodybuilders are like people who lift a lot. They'll like sometimes go through periods of like huge growth and, you know, like gaining mass or whatever.
So they'll like you know, fuck ton of workout a lot. And then they go through the cutting process. You know, you get more lean. You like diet really hard calorie restrict, etc.
I feel like in some ways there are some times or certain years in my life where I've grown a lot and by growth not just like real growth, but I mean like expanded my world view and like opened up a lot to a lot of new things.
And then there were years in my life where I feel like I really streamlined things that I enjoyed things I wanted to do and really prioritize and like focus on cutting down on things that truly matter to me. So I feel like there is kind of like that up and down in terms of like my past years.
So I wonder what kind of year this will be.
What was last year then. That's a good question. I think last year for me maybe was bulking. I can totally say that. I think I was maybe about bulking as well.
I felt like I did a lot of new things even despite like wedding planning and stuff. But I don't know. I'm kind of getting like cutting season vibes from this.
Maybe because like if we did a lot last year then now it's like, okay, let's you know, bring our focus back in on what like what we want to do this year and stuff.
Well, always fun to yap about our random deep thoughts and crises. I feel like half of it is yapping. We're just like saying the same thing to each other and we're like, yeah, totally.
In there, there's some treasure. We're like, oh my god. We're like, that was so do you. But for our listeners out there, you should tell us if you had a bulking year or a slimming year.
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