These are my personal opinions.
Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well -being.
What do you do when somebody knows the past version of you and they treat you like that they treat you like the person you used to be but you're no longer that person that's the dilemma with family and it's something I ran into with a couple family members that I had to show up as a different person to them and it was hard it was very difficult because when people know you all your life and then you're a different person the next time they see you but they don't treat you like a different person what do you do how do you respond to that now the easy answer is just be yourself.
Just be that person and then see what happens but they know your triggers, they know your buttons, they know everything about you because they've known you all their lives.
Again, that's with family.
Family knows who you are or they believe who you are because to them that's who you are and who you've always been and who you'll always be.
And I noticed this with people who they themselves don't change they have been the same person all their life and they expect other people to be the same person as well.
And maybe somebody somebody might listen to this show and say I went to high school with that guy.
How different is he now?
He used to be a Joker.
He used to be a long -haired hippie skateboarder.
I don't know if they use the word hippie but they see me differently now just like you know we all grow up we all mature in different ways well some of us mature in different ways and some of us keep some of our quirks and qualities and I believe I still have the same sense of humor although it's matured it's not so much toilet humor anymore and I think people who knew me back then might hear this podcast and think who is this guy like if they didn't know who I was on the air and they just started listening to me they wouldn't say hey this this sounds Sounds like Paul it sounds like that kid I
used to go to school with.
And when you make changes in your life and you improve yourself and you go through healing and personal development and if you're like me you moved away from your hometown and started seeing more of the world.
And when you see more of the world, you have a broader worldview, typically.
You meet more people.
You are exposed to more culture.
I really haven't traveled outside the US I did once but it wasn't far and I wasn't there long and it was mostly inside of a building but uh I haven't seen other cultures and I imagine as I do that when I get older maybe when we travel a little bit we're looking forward to traveling Jessica my passport looking forward to it and when I do that I think it's going to expand my my worldview and Then I see people that I grew up with people in my family people that I went to school with Never left their hometown.
Not that that's a problem But I do wonder if they are Traveled if they are cultured if they have been exposed to more things I mean not everyone but some people don't do that some people just Keep that box that they live in and stay in that box and have a certain mindset and that's unfair.
It's unfair for me to say that because not everyone that doesn't leave their hometown feels that way or thinks that way.
It's just that I noticed that more in people that haven't expanded their worldview in ways.
Maybe they went to college and they stayed in their hometown.
Believe me, I thought about moving back to my hometown.
So it's not a matter of, hey, if you never left home, then you don't have an expanded worldview or you're not open -minded, it's a matter of other people and how they see you and how you see them.
I have friends from high school that have tried to reach out to me and talk to me and they're telling me things and and talking to me as if high school never ended and it's hard for me to connect with some people.
So, if those people are listening right now it's not that I've become some big shot podcaster It's not that at all I'm not but I've changed so much that I I don't know the people that I used to be with I know them as who they were just as they probably believe they know me as who I was but I've changed just like you listening to the show me have changed and so when you have people from your past who haven't changed and you have it can be awkward it could be awkward now I I will say I am projecting my own insecurities a little bit, so anyone listening that knows me, I'm projecting a little bit
because I've always been, believe it or not, a little shy.
I've been a little shy, and also I have embraced my introversion.
I really enjoy being alone.
I really enjoy being disconnected from almost everything and just being with myself, And I also enjoy good company.
I enjoy intellectual company.
Now I don't want to make this all about me, but I'm putting that out there as a way to embrace yourself.
Embrace who you are.
Be comfortable in who you are and be comfortable in your own skin so that when somebody from your past comes along and treats you like the person you were in your past and you're not that person anymore to be comfortable in your own skin the skin you have today the person you are today this is something i know in a scary way had to learn in a scary way i had to face family members that i either believed were going to hurt me or hate me or both i had to face one relative and i thought he was going to hurt me when I decided to be myself.
That doesn't mean I said, you're a big jerk, you know, I didn't put him down or anything.
I just decided to honor my boundaries.
And I've told this story before, but my stepfather showed up at the door, at my mom's house, and I wouldn't let him in.
That's the first time I had ever honored my boundaries and even protected somebody in family from a person that was very dangerous at least he had been dangerous in the past and here I am answering the door seeing him for the first time in many years and having to face him and honor myself meaning stand up to him and say no instead of I'll do anything you ask I wouldn't use those words but that's how I felt most of the time no matter what he asked I would do because because I didn't want to incite what I call drunk dad behavior.
I didn't want him to be violent or aggressive, which is how I remember him.
I remember him doing those things when he was drunk.
I never saw those behaviors when he was sober, but I definitely remember seeing them when he was drunk.
So that was my memory of him.
And there's a good example.
Has he changed? Do I want to find out?
I don't. I don't really want him in my life and I know that he was dangerous to my mom, so I decided not to let him in that day.
And that was choosing to be comfortable in my own skin, even at the risk of getting hurt.
I'm not giving you that advice.
I'm saying there's a point that might need come where you stand up for yourself, stand up comfortable in your own skin, saying what you really want to say.
There might be a point where you have to do that with somebody from your past or in your present that only knows the old you.
Because the old you may have responded differently to whatever is happening in the world and whatever that person says to you.
But will you stand up in the new you proud to be yourself and say what you would say no matter who it was?
That's the...that's so hard!
That's so hard! At least it was for me.
It was so hard to stand up to my stepfather that day because I honestly believed that it was going to get physical, but I really wanted to be myself And I did not want to compromise that.
And that's a place that I stepped into knowing, and this is my own belief, knowing there was danger.
It turns out there was no danger at all, but I knew it in my mind that this would be a dangerous position to take.
So I stood up for myself, I stood up for my mom, I said, I'm sorry you can't come in.
And the punch I expected to come or the push or whatever it was never happened Because I made it all up We do that sometimes we just make something up and so we don't go forward with whatever we want to do in our lives We just make it up like well, this bad thing will happen.
So I won't do it So that's who I was with him my whole life and my whole family is pretty much like that They don't want to incite his behavior because they think his behavior is dangerous and it has been many times in the past. And so I said, I'm sorry you can't come in.
And he just shrugged his shoulders and said okay, and then he left. What?
What just happened?
That that was not what I expected.
You should have seen me.
I was a little tense.
I said, I'm sorry you can't come in, and then I waited and it was only a matter of nanoseconds, it was very short but in that period of time in that short window I was in a state of...
what's next? I was sort of like wide -eyed in my mind.
Not physically. I was just, I was present physically.
But inside my mind I was thinking oh crap here it comes, and it never came.
And that was the hurdle I needed to overcome in order to get to a new place in life a new position in life and to feel comfortable being myself around that person and I had to do the very same thing with another relative I had to not it wasn't dangerous but I had a feeling that this other person would probably hate me for what I'm about to say because I usually say yes so I don't have to deal with the stress of confrontation, because I used to be afraid of confrontation.
So this relative and I were talking and I had to say something that they probably weren't going to like, and that would probably make me look like the bad guy for the rest of our lives together.
If I ever saw them again.
And I said it and I don't think they liked it.
And I lost contact with them for a while then regain contact and everything seemed okay and great, and then I lost contact again.
But as far as I'm concerned, I stood firmly in my beliefs, in my values, and said what I needed to say because that's who I am.
And I put myself on the line and said, I'm ready for the firing squad, so here's my stance.
And this person, again didn't like what I had to say and I survived.
Meaning I got through the moment and because I got through the moment I am okay being that person again in front of this particular person I'm talking about I'm okay being me in front of them and it feels pretty good because now I don't have that hanging over my head.
It's not a dark cloud that follows me and I think uh -oh I don't want to run into that person again because if I do I'll have to...
what? Not be myself.
I don't want to not be myself.
You shouldn't want to not be yourself and I don't think you do want that.
If you're listening to this show you probably want to be yourself.
You probably want to learn how to be yourself in every situation so that you aren't faking it.
You aren't putting on a mask, a persona, a facade.
You can get through the moment, the day, the year and be okay because you embrace who you are.
And when you embrace who you are, people start to get to know the real you, the new you.
Because if they don't know the new you, and they only know the old you, they're only going to treat you the old way.
So when you start showing up as the new you they'll have no choice but to treat you the way you are today and respond to you the way you are today or be so averse to it that they can't talk to you anymore or you lose that connection you lose that relationship and that can happen.
You can and will lose relationships if you embrace the new you and others don't.
If you are so comfortable in your own skin and others aren't comfortable with you being comfortable like that.
If others aren't comfortable with you being yourself, because who you were doesn't necessarily exist in its full form the way you used to be, but who you are now is who you are.
Can you show them this new you?
And I know there are people listening right now that say, I could never do that with my parents, I could never do that with my sister, my brother, this person, my uncle.
I couldn't do that with these people.
What about the person in high school who was a bully?
Who knows if they've changed but can you face this person as the new you?
I'm not saying it's easy.
I'm not saying I'd even do it.
I don't really care to have some of the bullies in my life, in my life.
Why bother? There are so many other billions of people out there that aren't that person.
So, I can invite somebody else into my life instead of rekindling with somebody that maybe was a bully, maybe was mean to me, maybe didn't like me or did like me or made fun of me, whatever.
I don't really have to have those people in my life anymore.
Now this isn't to say that there isn't some value with having people from your past in your life, because you share a history and when you share a history there can be a camaraderie of some sort, and when you have that you can feel a little bit more comfortable and safer being yourself, assuming they're comfortable with you being the new you.
Now again, let me just say this.
to anyone listening that knows me, I'm probably not talking about you because why would you listen to this show?
If you haven't changed, this probably isn't your show.
This probably isn't something you really care about because I've noticed that the people who reach out to me want to make a change of some sort.
The people who listen to me, the people who write to me, there's some sort of change that they want to make or some way they want to handle a situation.
I just want my opinion on it.
And one of my opinions is to be comfortable in your own skin to the point where you're willing to face people from your past and be yourself, this new person and find out what they do.
Because when people embrace the new you, you can be comfortable being yourself around them.
And there is a risk.
Like I said, there's a risk in being yourself.
If you be yourself and someone doesn't like the way you used to be, it's possible that they felt more in control with the way you were.
That they felt more comfortable with themselves with the way you were.
Just more comfortable in general with who you used to be because that's who they remember.
But if they have opened their mind, if they have expanded their world and they are willing to accept you as the person you show up as today that's a different story.
So who in your life does that?
Who in your life shows up as an open -minded person that says hey whoever you are I support that because I care about you and I want you to do things that are right for you.
I want you to be happy and make decisions that make you happy.
So however you show up is good for me because that's what I want for you.
If that happens with anybody in my life, I'm all for it.
If that happened to you, wouldn't that feel pretty good.
I mean, if you really want a connection or relationship with this person.
It would feel pretty good to me.
If somebody reached out and said, you know, I don't know what you've been through or who you are today, but I just want to find out if you're okay and you're happy.
Wow. Thank you so much for reaching out and saying that that's so nice.
Thank you so much. And then I feel pretty good about myself because they are honoring me honoring myself.
And that's where I really ground inside myself is I like to be around people who honor me honoring myself.
Whatever I honor in me, I feel good when people honor me honoring that.
I don't have to over explain that.
I think you understand, But this is why some romantic relationships work and some don't Some romantic relationships, there's one person that might not like what the other person's doing or saying Or how they think or when they go to bed at night or how much junk they leave on the floor or whatever There's one person that has a problem with that.
And so they make that person's that that one person has a problem makes that other person's life miserable You're always so messy and why do you go to bed so late and on and on and on and so you don't feel like you can be yourself in that kind of relationship.
Because the other person is always mentioning how much they want you to be who they want you to be.
If somebody wants you to be who they want you to be and you're not comfortable being that person you'll find misery pretty quickly And you may bury that.
Some people bury the misery.
They don't wanna deal with the misery, they just wanna say, well, all this other stuff is great.
So I don't wanna worry about the miserable parts.
I wanna focus on the good parts.
But they bury the misery, they swallow it down, and then they have to deal with that in some way later, either by themselves or it comes out in passive -aggressive ways or destructive, overt ways.
So when you're carrying around some misery, you have to deal with it eventually.
You have to deal with it and it usually comes out in destructive ways like I said.
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In my opinion, the goal is to be comfortable being yourself.
And when you are, people have to get used to this person.
It's sort of like my story I told a long time ago, and I've told several times, but I was at a job once about 15 years ago or so, and the boss was putting everyone down.
Boss was going around the room saying, what are you going to do?
What are you going to do?
And because he was upset that the latest product wasn't making enough money or something like that.
And so when he came to me, I pretty much said, I'm going to do this for you.
So you'll stop yelling at us, which was passive aggressive, but damn it.
I really wanted him to lay off.
he was not being nice and everyone was very uncomfortable shifting in their chairs and that was the first time I well yeah it was probably the first time I actually stood up to my boss in front of other people I've done it in the past in private but in front of other people because he was just going over the line and so I thought to myself who do I want to be right now what do I want to say right now?
Who am I at the deepest level?
And what can I do and say that I can look back at and say I don't regret that because that's how I felt.
That's what I was thinking and I don't care if I get fired for this because it is in alignment with who I want to be because I deserve respect.
I deserve to be treated kindly and fairly, and so to see him treating others with I would say disrespect he was being harsh, he was being intimidating, and I didn't like it and I know they didn't either because after I said that and I didn't get fired surprisingly, but after I said that I had at least one or two co -workers come up to me and say, I'm so glad you said that.
We were all feeling that.
We all wanted to say something but we didn't I'm so glad you said and suddenly I felt like I'm I don't know what to say I guess they admired that quality they admired that somebody stood up and that wasn't my goal it wasn't my goal is to stand up and have everyone admire me and look up to me it wasn't that at all it was how I felt in that moment and I think what my co -workers saw was somebody doing what they wanted to do but didn't.
I think that's what happened at least with a few of them.
Somebody stood up and said what they wanted to say.
I didn't stand up but I stayed seated but the point was, I said what I felt.
That is what I call perfectly congruent.
The thoughts you have, the feelings you have. When you act upon those thoughts and feelings and express those thoughts and feelings that is in alignment with who you are at the deepest level and when you can perverbally or physically stand up for yourself and say no that's not right.
I don't want to be treated that way.
I don't appreciate that.
If that's the words you need to use or whatever you're going through.
When you can do that, it's like a fulfillment inside of you.
You fulfill something that maybe has been missing, or maybe needs some sort of closure.
Like during that moment when the boss was walking around the room, saying these things and making us feel intimidated, I felt like saying something about it.
I felt this, I don't even know what to call it, something nasty, I felt something nasty in me.
It was sort of like a, what a jerk.
I had this feeling that this guy's being a jerk.
And then I think I asked myself the question and this is something I still ask myself today.
And I don't know how I said it back then, but I said, what would I do or say if I had absolutely no fear of the consequences?
That was my question.
What would I do or say if I had absolutely no fear of the consequences and that's what came to mind?
Well, I'll do this so you'll stop yelling at us.
And he said, oh, you think I'm yelling at you?
And then he moved on, he didn't even address it, he just moved on.
And it didn't create the backlash.
I thought it would, thankfully, but maybe not.
I mean, maybe if I got fired, it would really prove what a jerk this guy is, and I'd be okay with that.
But maybe he was just having a bad day, which is fine, and he was taking it on and, maybe he was afraid because the money wasn't coming in, I certainly give him that leeway, but I felt good in myself it didn't matter what he was going through I felt good in myself because when you have this lack of closure when there's something unfinished in you, like the feelings and the thoughts that I had needed to get out of me they needed to be expressed and if I did not express them where would they go I would swallow them I'd put them back and then I would walk around with that misery for the next X weeks
years who knows those things would just stay inside of me and they would be unfinished business and that unfinished business is the repression of thought and the suppression of emotion and in my life that has always transformed into the first stage of depression.
And I'm not saying I had depression a lot I'm just saying I have watched that happen I felt that happen inside of me.
First thing I do is repress a thought and then I suppress the emotion and then I don't do anything with it so I swallow it.
I stuff it down and it usually compounds on top of those other thoughts and emotions that I never expressed.
And I keep pushing it down.
And believe me I've had physical issues with my stomach because of this.
I mean talk about a physical manifestation of something going on in your life.
That's what happened to me.
I had stomach issues I had stomach pain things would burn I couldn't eat any of the things I used to love because it would burn my stomach especially if they were acidic.
And so I had to get over that because I was holding a lot of anger.
And after I went to the doctor and I went through some other stuff I finally realized all the anger that I was holding onto was causing this because I felt it.
I could watch my downward spiral every time I swallowed something because I felt it.
I felt me suppressing an emotion and pushing it down there and then my stomach hurting.
And I made the connection.
I said, oh, that's what's going on.
How do I fix this, Paul?
And the day I started honoring myself and expressing where my line was, what's acceptable to me and what's not, my personal boundaries is the day that my stomach started healing.
And that changed my life too because I'm expressing everything, It's all coming out of me.
So not only does that help with any physical manifestation of all the symptoms I was having, but it also helps me emotionally and mentally.
It improves my wellbeing and because I know that there will be manifestations that I don't want if I don't get these things out of my system, they stay in there and they affect my wellbeing, my peace, my comfort, my overall happiness, and I could never be fully present with the people in my life and be present for myself today.
And when you are not present for yourself even, then your mind is always on something else, on someone else, and how are they gonna react and how are they gonna feel?
What are they gonna think of me?
You can't be fully present in your own body, in your own mind.
It's racing and it's going to different thoughts and you're just putting it out there.
It's like in the wild.
That's where your mind goes.
It's in the wild. I don't want to do something that would affect this person.
I don't want to do something that makes them angry.
I don't want to do something that makes me look bad.
That is not, in my opinion, living life to the fullest. It is letting go of a lot of this stuff.
And how do you let it go?
You just start being who you really want to be.
Paul, that's dangerous.
Yes, it is. and it can be really dangerous with certain people and you have to ask yourself why am I with a person that makes it dangerous to be myself?
Why am I with that person?
Why am I around that person that makes it dangerous to be myself?
And I'm not victim shaming or blaming here, that's not it at all, I'm just making sure you considered that if you haven't before.
If you are around someone or know someone or connect with someone, or your co -worker, somebody that you see on a daily or weekly basis, and they make it dangerous to you whether emotionally or physically.
If they are dangerous to be around because you can't be yourself with them, then I want to make sure that you question why they are still in your life just in case you haven't questioned that before.
And I know sometimes we have no choice, we feel like we have no choice, they have to be in our life.
And there's nothing I can do about it.
And this is something that you know, we have to face if we are in this situation, we have to face that?
And then ask ourselves?
Yeah, but who do I want to be?
That person's in my life, There's nothing I can do about it.
So who do I want to be?
Because that's two separate issues.
They might be related.
Yes. But that person's in my life.
Who do I want to be?
Well, I want to be somebody who can speak up and express myself and say back off because you're you're too close or you're in my personal space or you're trying to control me then what happens when you do that oh I don't even want to go there that's what somebody might say I want to go there I don't want to know what happens when I do that I already know that person's dangerous to be around and so this is where you might have to make different decisions in your life maybe you can be your new true authentic genuine self with this person in your life or maybe you choose not to because you do have a choice
I just choose not to have toxic people in my life and I also choose to be myself and see who sticks around and who doesn't and when I choose to be myself those who stick around are usually the best kind of people.
They are the healthiest kind of people, because they're not judging me for who I am, they're just allowing me to be who I am.
Because I feel so comfortable around them, I want to be around them more.
It only makes sense when somebody honors you honoring yourself, you want to be around those people more.
And the people that try to form you or mold you or treat you the way you used to be or the way they want you to be, you usually don't want to be around them as much if at all.
So when you honor yourself, when you be yourself, you risk relationships and then you have to ask yourself if that relationship didn't last, if it didn't survive me being me, if it didn't survive me being myself, how could I have possibly kept that relationship anyway, because there was already a tension there.
There was already a stress, and even if you love that person, I love that person.
I hope they honor me honoring myself.
I hope they let me be who I am.
If they don't, then that tension is always there.
It's a difficult relationship to keep.
I had somebody write to me and say, what if this person is in my family and they are at gatherings and they talk about me with other people, and yeah, that's a valid concern.
Let's just say that you stand up for yourself, you speak up for yourself, and this other person doesn't like the new you, doesn't want you to be this person or has a problem with that, and talks about you behind your back to other family members when When it comes to that, I look at it in two ways.
One, you still be yourself with that person because they have to learn acceptance.
They have to. If they can't accept you, then they will never change and when you learn acceptance, meaning you accept who they are and that they'll never ever change.
Hopefully that's not true, but you just accept it.
They'll never change.
So that's where they are.
So I have to accept it.
Then you're able to let it go.
That's just who they are.
Well, they're talking about me again.
That's who they are.
That's part one. Part two is, yeah, they're gonna talk about you maybe, and if they do or when they do.
Other people know you well enough because now you're showing up with integrity, meaning of integrity in yourself.
You are of your character.
You are being yourself.
You are honoring who you are inside, and you are showing up that way.
When you show up that way.
and people get to know that new you, they see you as authentic.
They see the real you.
They don't see the scared you, they see the real you.
I mean scared as in oh I hope somebody else doesn't spread rumors about me or talk about me doesn't matter doesn't matter who does that.
What matters is that you show up as yourself in front of these other people so that this other person can say all they want And they're the ones that are gonna look crazy What you said that about Paul.
It doesn't make any sense.
He's not like that at all.
At least the way I know him That doesn't that doesn't register with me.
I better go ask him that's what should happen because people who honor you honor yourself and support the decisions you make that Make you happy are going to ask you about things that don't make sense Hey Paul this person said this about you is that true I could say no but you know I don't know why they're saying that but I know who I am and you know who I am so I don't know what they're talking about it's easy it's easy because you're authentic and you have nothing to hide and when you have nothing to hide people know that they feel it they can tell that you're showing up authentically this is what happened
at that job I was telling you about.
I spoke up and people started talking to me differently after I spoke up against my boss and said, you know, because you'll stop yelling at us.
And after I said that people came up to me and they were more likely to entrust me with information.
They were more likely to uh, see me as somebody that is on their side.
And again, and I didn't do it for those reasons that just happened.
They just saw me differently, they treated me differently and it felt real, it felt authentic, it felt, it was no longer a coworker situation, it was, I honestly felt like they could look at me and say, this guy's a straight shooter.
Whatever he says, I believe.
That's a good feeling to have when somebody puts all that faith in you and trust in you and they see you as a trusting person, and that feels pretty good because that's who I want people to see me as, but I don't wanna convince them, hey, I'm a trusting person.
I show it in my behavior, at least I try, and if they trust me after that, then I see them as accepting me, who I am, and that feels pretty good, and when you can do that with people that are close to you, people that are in your family, and there are some family members that see you one way and there are other family members who want to see you the other way and keep that perspective of you for the rest of their life.
There's nothing you can do about it except be yourself and as long as you continue doing that you're going to find the majority of people will prefer you to be this genuine authentic person.
And there will be a small minority of people that don't like the new you that don't want you to be the new you and they're going to try to take you down a notch and keep you there.
And so the question is, who are you going to be with them?
Who will you be with these people in your life that don't want you to rise above who you were?
Evolve because that's what you're about, right?
Always improving yourself, always trying to learn more, trying to heal the past, trying to forge a new future for yourself.
Whatever it is that you desire, you're moving toward. You will be able to get there faster if you choose to be who you really are and who you really want to be especially around the people that never want you to change.
If you find those people, if you have those people in your life, well if you get along with them great.
Don't change a thing.
But if you don't and you always find that tension in between, because you you can't be yourself, then maybe something I said today will be helpful to you.
Thanks so much for joining me today, I appreciate you listening to another episode of the Overwhelmed Brain.
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And if you wanna show on how to navigate the difficult relationship, I'm talking about manipulation, emotional abuse, control, all the in the weeds kind of stuff in harder to deal with relationships, head over to my other podcast called Love and Abuse.
I've been doing that since 2019 and you'll find it helpful if you're in that kind of situation.
LoveAndAbuse .com And if you happen to be the difficult one in the relationship, first of all, I'd admit that to yourself.
Or you may need to find out if you're the difficult one because I know some people are questioning that about themselves, am I the one that's causing all these problems?
Well, you can sign up for the trial of healed being over at HealedBeing .com.
And you'll get the first four lessons free and a couple of Q &A's.
And you'll you'll know pretty quickly if you are the difficult one or not, because I've people will sign up and say well this isn't me at all and I say good it might be the other person but you can find out over at healedbeing .com and with that always keep your mind open because that's how you make the best decisions.
Be firm in your decisions and actions so that you can create the life you want.
Always take steps to grow and evolve.
You are powerful beyond measure and above all and this is something I absolutely know to be true about you.
You are amazing. you
