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[How to Properly Use 'May' for Well-Wishes in English]-[AEE 794: How to Wish Someone Well in a Greeting Card in English]

All Ears English Podcast · B1 · 2017-08-21

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Understanding the Usage of 'May' in English Well-Wishes

In this episode of the All Ears English podcast, hosts Lindsay McMahon and Michelle Kaplan address a listener question regarding the specific use of the auxiliary verb "may" in phrases like "may all beings be happy" or "may you be healthy." The listener, Ana Paula, noticed this structure in meditation guidelines and was confused because "may" usually functions as a request in conversational English. The hosts clarify the distinction between the functional use of "may" and its sentimental, literary application.

The Functional vs. Sentimental Use of 'May'

In everyday conversational English, "may" is typically used to make polite requests, such as "May I have seconds, please?" or "May I have dessert?" However, the hosts point out that even in these cases, modern speakers often prefer using "can" or "could."

Conversely, when "may" is used to express wishes for someone—such as "may you be happy" or "may you be peaceful"—it shifts into a sentimental register. This usage is not meant for casual conversation; rather, it is reserved for specific, structured settings. The hosts note that this form is "very Hallmark" and is primarily found in:

  • Greeting Cards: Used to convey warm, formal sentiments, such as "may this special day bring you memories for years to come."
  • Weddings and Graduations: It is common to hear these structures in speeches, for instance, "may you find your purpose" or "may you always know the value of hard work."
  • Songs: The hosts cite lyrics from Bobby Vinton, such as "may you always walk in sunshine," to demonstrate how the structure is used for its rhythmic and poetic quality.

Why It Should Be Avoided in Daily Conversation

Lindsay and Michelle emphasize that using "may" in a conversational context to wish someone well is "just kind of weird." They explain that even if you want to be supportive, saying something like "may you pass your exam" to a roommate would sound unnatural or overly dramatic. It creates a distance because the phrasing is inherently performative or written, rather than conversational.

Better Alternatives for Everyday Situations

If you want to express well-wishes to a friend or colleague in a natural, spoken way, the hosts recommend more idiomatic expressions. Instead of using the "may" structure, you can use:

  • "I wish you the best on your exam."
  • "I'm pulling for you on that exam."
  • "Knock them dead on that exam."
  • "Best of luck on that exam."

Key Takeaway

The essential takeaway is to recognize the context. While "may" is a beautiful, evocative word for written notes, formal speeches, or song lyrics, it does not belong in your daily spoken English. To maintain a natural and confident speaking style, reserve these "may" phrases for sentimental writing and opt for more direct, conversational expressions when interacting with friends and family.

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Take a breather.
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That's so cool.
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It sounds like I need to do a meditation so I can read.
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📝Key Phrases

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what's on your plate
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what's on your agenda
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This is an All Ears English podcast, episode 794 How to Wish Someone Well in a Greeting Card in English.
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