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So, when I had started my healing journey, maybe over a decade ago, I remember a time where I was sitting in my therapist's office feeling completely frustrated.
I had been doing the work for months, therapy, meditation, journaling.
And I remember saying, when does the big breakthrough happen?
Where's my dramatic movie montage moment?
My therapist smiled and said You know what, if you've been healing this entire time, but you've been looking for fireworks, when healing actually sounds more like a whisper?
And I sat there, realizing I'd been waiting for healing to arrive, kind of like a pizza delivery.
Fast, obvious, and with a clear, your order is ready notification.
When in reality, it doesn't necessarily happen like that.
We've been sold this idea that healing should work like fast food, that we should be able to order up our breakthrough, pay our emotional dues and get our transformation in 30 minutes or less, guaranteed hot and fresh.
But healing isn't like fast food.
It's more like growing a garden.
You plant seeds.
That first therapy session, that moment of self-awareness, that book, that shifted something in you.
You water those seeds. with daily practices, small choices, tiny acts of self-compassion.
And then you wait.
And while you're waiting, magic is happening underground that you can't see.
Roots are growing.
Foundations are strengthening.
The healing isn't in some future dramatic moment.
It's in the micro-moments that were happening all along.
Maybe we respond differently to our parents, we're kinder with our self-talk or we're able to let go of little moments of irritation quicker.
That's healing too.
Back then I thought healing would look like this cinematic scene where I'd suddenly understand everything about my childhood, forgive everyone who had ever hurt me and emerge from some metaphorical cocoon as this perfectly self-actualized human being.
Instead, healing looked like this.
That Tuesday morning in my mid-20s, when I woke up anxious about a school presentation, Instead of letting my mind spiral into worst-case scenarios, I noticed what was happening and said to myself Hey anxiety, I see you, and thanks for trying to keep me safe.
And then I made my coffee and got ready for school.
It was such a small thing, but it was the first time I'd talked to my anxiety like a friend instead of an enemy.
And that one afternoon, when my mom made one of her classic passive-aggressive, yet loving comments And instead of snapping back or stewing in resentment for days like I used to, I felt that familiar heat rise and then I just let it pass through me.
I changed the subject and moved on.
No drama, no big confrontation, and no three-hour analysis session with my friends afterward.
Or that evening when I was scrolling through social media and started comparing my messy life to someone else's highlight reel.
And I literally laughed and closed the app.
Now, not because I transcended all human insecurity, but because I had caught myself in the act and chose differently.
The old me would have spiraled for hours.
These moments felt so ordinary that I almost missed them entirely.
Where was the profound realization?
Where was my I'm healed certificate?
But here's what I realize now.
Looking back, those tiny moments were the healing.
That pause before reacting, That was years of therapy working.
That boundary I set without guilt, that was my self-worth growing.
The moment I chose self-compassion over self-criticism.
That was my nervous system learning to regulate.
It was like my therapist had said I'd been looking for fireworks, when healing actually sounded like a whisper.
The thing about micro moments is that they're easy to miss if we're not paying attention, when we're so conditioned to look for the big, obvious changes that we overlook the quiet revolution happening in our daily lives.
So here's a few things to begin to notice in your everyday life, that signal that change is happening.
Notice when you pause before reacting to something that would have triggered you before.
Celebrate when you set a boundary, even a tiny one, without feeling guilty about it.
Acknowledge those moments when you chose curiosity over judgment about your own feelings.
Pay attention to when you comfort yourself the way you'd comfort a good friend.
These aren't small wins.
These are the actual substance of transformation.
And you want to know what's wild?
Sometimes the biggest healing happened in the most unremarkable moments.
When I was brushing my teeth one evening and I realized I hadn't had that familiar knot of anxiety in my stomach for weeks.
When I was driving to work and I noticed I wasn't rehearsing imaginary arguments in my head anymore.
When I was having a normal conversation and I realized I wasn't monitoring every word for signs that the other person was upset with me.
I learned that healing isn't a destination you arrive at.
It's a way of moving through the world that you practice one tiny moment at a time.
So if you've been waiting for your big breakthrough moment, I want to invite you to look a little closer at your everyday life.
Maybe you've already been healing and it just doesn't look like what you expected.
Maybe that moment when you chose to rest instead of push through exhaustion was profound.
Maybe that time you disagreed with someone without apologizing for having an opinion was revolutionary.
And maybe those three seconds when you felt proud of yourself instead of immediately minimizing your accomplishment was everything.
Healing doesn't have to be dramatic to be real.
Sometimes the most powerful transformations whisper.
And if you listen closely, you might realize you've been healing all along.
Well, I'll leave it here for today.
Thank you so much for being here and listening.
And I'll see you tomorrow.
