So it's mid-January.
The confetti is gone.
The new year, new you adrenaline has metabolized.
The inbox is full again.
The kids are back in school or work is back in whatever normal means now.
And the calendar is just once again doing that thing where it looks like someone played Tetris with your time and won.
And somewhere in the background, there's a familiar question starting to surface.
Am I doing this right?
Should I be further along by now?
Did I already kind of miss my window?
If that's you, I want to start by offering something deeply unsexy but incredibly useful.
Nothing has gone wrong.
In fact, this moment right here, right now, is exactly where meaningful change either becomes real or quietly slips back into maybe next year.
Because most big goals, they don't fall apart on January 1st.
They fall apart right around now, when early enthusiasm fades and real life steps back in and says cool love, the new routine.
Anyway, I brought snacks and chaos.
Not because you lack discipline or desire, but because the goal is being asked to carry more weight than it ever should.
Over the last three episodes in this new year series, we have dismantled some powerful myths that you need a quote clean slate to begin again.
That you need rigid resolutions to change.
That you need more achievement to finally feel like enough.
So today we're doing something a little different, adding in a special fourth bonus episode where we're taking all of that grounding and compassion and clarity and using it to build something real.
I'm going to walk you through a framework that I've developed and refined over many years that I call success scaffolding.
It's kind of a way to make big, meaningful goals, not just inspiring, but also sustainable and humane, not through pressure, not through self-critique, but through a structure that can actually hold a human life, your human life.
So excited to share this episode with you.
I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project.
Hey, so welcome back.
So over the last three episodes we have been laying a bit of a foundation for the year.
That is honestly a little countercultural.
We started with the myth of the clean slate, this idea that, in order to really begin again, you have to erase who you were.
We talked about doing the opposite.
Bring your whole self forward, using the last year as data, not a verdict.
And then we explored what I call the unresolution a different way to approach, change direction instead of dictate, experiments instead of edicts, and review instead of judgment.
And in the last episode we talked about the year of enough, stepping off the I'll be happy when treadmill and letting enough be the fuel instead of lack.
The second one is how am I relating to change?
And the short answer here is as a living process, not a pass fail test.
And finally, what am I using as fuel?
And the answer here is not shame, not scarcity, not the belief that I'll be worthy quote someday.
Which brings us to today.
Because once you've done that grounding work, you still might be holding a question that sounds kind of something like okay, that all sounds great Jonathan, but I still wanna actually quote do something.
I still wanna move the needle on something that matters.
I still have a dream or a longing or a goal that feels important to me.
Yes, exactly.
And just to be clear, Thank you so much for joining us.
I wasn't disciplined enough.
I wasn't motivated enough.
I didn't want it badly enough.
But if you step back, what you see is that most of the time, people aren't failing.
They're trying to build something meaningful with no structure, like attempting to construct a second story deck with positive thinking and a Pinterest board.
You know, which, look, I respect the optimism here, but also please don't do that.
Don't do it with your deck and don't do it with your life.
That's why I developed Success Scaffolding.
It's a framework for building the structure and support that makes meaningful goals achievable in a real life.
I've shared it in January for a number of years now.
I still believe in it deeply.
I still use it.
I still update it.
I still refine it as I learn.
What's different this year is not that we're suddenly throwing goals out the window.
It's that we're pairing goals with everything we've talked about in the first three episodes of this series.
And, by the way, if you haven't listened to those, you're more than welcome to just keep listening to this success scaffolding episode.
You get everything you need right here.
And then by all means, I invite you to go back and listen to those, because they'll give you really beautiful grounding in how to enter something like a big goal with just so much more humanity and self-compassion.
And one more point that I'll share here, and this goes for all of these four New Year's episodes.
We will be providing a one-page sheet, a PDF that you can download.
There's a link in the show notes.
It's completely free.
So if you want to download that, it'll have all the key ideas and prompts where you can kind of do the work, do the exercises.
Or, if you want, you can hit pause and just kind of do them in real time throughout this episode, your choice.
So if you want to just listen along and then, when you're done, just click on that link in the show notes and you can grab your one page PDF to go through this at your time, wherever you want.
So what we're doing here is we're not building scaffolding on top of self-rejection or perfectionism or scarcity, or the fantasy that you need to become someone else.
We're building this scaffolding on top of integration, experimentation and this assumption of enoughness.
And that changes everything.
So here's what we're going to do today.
We're going to choose one meaningful goal, one big, bold goal for the year.
And then we're going to build a scaffold around it using what I call the seven Ps, the essence of success scaffolding.
And now as we do it, I'll guide you with examples.
I'll give you prompts.
I'll give you ways to make it real.
And if you've heard this framework before, you'll still get value here, because we're placing it inside kind of a different container, one that is kinder, more human and more sustainable.
Cool?
Okay, so let's build.
So before we dive directly into success scaffolding, though, we need something to build it around.
And that is one singular goal.
And I know some of you right now are thinking Jonathan, I have somewhere between four and 17 goals minimum.
I know, I get it.
That is my default too.
My brain is like why have one dream when you can have nine dreams and then feel vaguely guilty about eight of them?
So We're not going to do that today.
We're choosing one big, bold goal.
Now, bold is not code for impossible or grandiose or a complete personality transplant.
Bold simply means it matters.
It stretches you.
It would create a ripple effect if it moved forward.
Simple as that.
A good way to start, I found, is with actually your good life buckets.
Your vitality bucket.
Now, this is all about your body, your health, your energy, your nervous system, your relationship with movement, rest and nourishment.
So that's one of the three good life buckets.
Your connection bucket.
And this is all about relationships, community, belonging, intimacy, repair, play, friendship, love.
And then finally, the third good life bucket is what we call the contribution bucket.
And this is often about your work, your service, your creativity, your craft, your voice, your impact, your contribution.
So the three good life buckets can be incredibly helpful in figuring out what one big, bold goal you want to center.
So take a moment and ask in vitality, what would genuinely change my lived experience this year?
Or in connection, what would deepen my sense of belonging and connectedness and aliveness?
Or in contribution, what is calling to be created or offered?
And If it helps, you don't have to start with a quote goal here.
Just start with a curiosity or a longing.
And longings often sound like, I want to feel stronger.
I want to feel less anxious.
I want to feel closer to someone.
I want to stop living like all my days or a holding pattern or whatever.
I want to make a thing I keep thinking about making.
I want to step into the next chapter of my work.
Now, once you have a few candidates here, when you're sort of like start on the level of longings, we're going to run them through three filters.
Filters that really integrate everything from the first three episodes.
Filter number one, the clean slate.
Ask yourself, what did the last year look Teach me about what I actually need.
I'll share it again.
What did the last year...
Teach me about what I actually need.
So maybe last year taught you you need more rest and less grind, or you need to treat your body with care instead of punishment, or you need to stop pretending that a relationship is fine when it isn't.
Maybe it taught you you need to stop burying your creative work under someday, or you need more boundaries or more community.
Let last year inform this year, not as shame, but as intelligence.
So let's talk about filter number two, and this is the unresolution filter.
So ask yourself, can I imagine getting there through experiments and iteration, not rigid perfection.
I'll share it again.
Can I imagine getting there through experiments and iteration, not rigid perfection?
Because if your goal requires you to be perfect for 365 days straight, it's not a goal.
It's a fantasy and a trap.
If your goal can be approached through small experiments, weekly check-ins, course corrections, then you're in the right territory.
And finally, filter number three.
And again, these are all coming from the last three episodes.
And it's the enoughness filter.
So the question you want to ask, is this goal rooted in love, meeting and alignment?
Or is it secretly a bid for worthiness?
Again, Is this goal rooted in love, meaning, and alignment, or is it secretly a bid for worthiness?
This is a big one.
Because goals that are fueled by something like oh, I'll finally be enough when I achieve dot dot dot, they actually tend to create anxiety and brittleness and self-attack.
Goals fueled by this matters to me.
It makes me feel more alive.
It aligns with who I am.
Those goals are more sustainable and they tend to just feel better along the way, not just at the finish line.
Okay, now practice.
If you're able, pause and write down one goal that one line.
And if you want examples to prompt you, here are a few.
We'll break it up by the buckets to make it easier for you.
So here's some vitality bucket focused examples.
By October, I want to run a 10K.
Another one.
This year, I want to build consistent strength, two short sessions a week.
Here's another one.
I want to reclaim sleep as a non-negotiable foundation, or maybe...
I want to reduce my baseline anxiety by building nervous system regulation into my days.
That was something that I focused on myself last year.
Here is some potential connection bucket examples for you.
Maybe it's I want to repair or deepen one key relationship, or I want to build one new meaningful relationship or friendship.
Or I want to feel less alone.
So I'm joining a community where I see the same people regularly, or I want to bring more play and presence into my family life.
Let's talk about potential contribution bucket examples here.
So some of these might be things like, I want to write the first draft of my book by December.
By the way, that happens to be a personal one for me.
Um, Another might be.
I want to launch a small meaningful project or offer, and you can fill in the details of what that is.
Or I want to shift my work so it's more aligned with my values or my sparkotype.
Or I want to create consistently music, art, writing without needing it to be perfect.
So choose one, run it through those filters, and then write it down.
And again, you can kind of just listen along now.
If something just immediately pops out, by all means, write it down now.
If you want to just listen and join in this while I'm sharing ideas, that's fine too.
And you can just click on that link in the show notes to grab your PDF afterwards and take your time and write it all down.
The prompts will all be in there too.
So choose one, write it down and then take one simple breath, because this is where we begin building.
This is where the heartbeat of success scaffolding really kicks in.
And we'll be right back after a word from our sponsors.
So let's talk more about this.
Success scaffolding is the structure that supports your goal when life gets real.
I call it the seven P's, like the letter P, And what I want to keep in mind is you don't need to build a perfect scaffold.
You need to build a functional one.
So think sturdy enough, not some architectural masterpiece where everything has to be in place.
So Let's take a little bit of time now to walk through the elements of success scaffolding, the seven Ps.
And we'll start with P number one.
And that's a shorthand for picture.
And it's all about what success looks and feels like.
So the picture element is about creating a clear, embodied vision of success not just the outcome, but the lived experience.
Because your brain doesn't get inspired by a spreadsheet.
Maybe some of yours do get inspired by that.
Mine does not.
And from what I've experienced, most people do not.
Our brains get inspired by a felt sense of what this would mean to us.
So let's make it concrete.
So, for example, if your goal is a 10K, Your picture might include the morning of the race, pinning the bib to your shirt, the sound of your shoes on pavement.
The moment you realize, oh, I'm doing it.
Crossing the finish line and feeling strong and proud and also the quieter win.
Being the kind of person who trained, who showed up, who followed through.
Another example if your goal is say, maybe strength training, your picture might include being able to carry groceries without feeling like you've entered a CrossFit competition you did not consent to, or feeling stable in your body.
Maybe your back just hurts less.
Maybe you stand taller.
Maybe you feel more capable.
If your goal is say, writing a book, the picture element here might include a steady rhythm, two writing blocks a week, the feeling of flow, watching chapters accumulate, literally picturing that in your mind's eye.
The moment you type those letters E and D on a draft.
By the way, I'm thinking about every book I've ever written and I've never actually typed those on the end, but maybe I should do that just to consummate the manuscript.
And also the real life version, right?
Writing that fits into your actual life, not writing that requires you to live like a monk with no email.
So maybe, if your goal is repairing a relationship, your picture might include something like One honest conversation that doesn't end in defensiveness, or a felt sense of warmth, laughing again, feeling safe enough to say what's true, or even clarity, knowing what's possible and what isn't.
You want to see and feel and taste and smell and sense all of these things, right?
We're making this multi-sensory, this picture here.
It's like more of a movie than a photograph even.
And if your goal is career shift, your picture might include waking up without dread and that feeling, feeling like your values and your work aren't at war, having more energy left at the end of the day, being excited, not just busy.
Right?
A practice cue for all of this.
If you're able write one sentence starting with it's, fill in the date I did it and my life feels like and then fill that in.
Now add one more line, and the best part is, dot, dot, dot, fill that in.
That second line often reveals what you really want.
So pause, write, or just imagine it or think about it a little bit.
And you can always go back, grab that PDF and fill this in in your own time.
We're going to move on to the second P in success scaffolding here.
So we've painted a really clear multi-sensory picture of the thing and the way that it makes us feel, both when we achieve it and along the way.
The second P is purpose.
Purpose is, it's the why that survives friction.
Because friction will show up.
That's not pessimism.
That's Tuesday.
Purpose is what keeps you moving when motivation fades.
And that can be anywhere from a few seconds to a few days to a few months.
Let's distinguish between surface purpose here and a deeper purpose.
So surface purpose often sounds like I should, it's time, I'm behind, everyone else is doing it.
Deep purpose sounds like I want to feel more alive.
I want to show up for the people I love.
I want to reclaim myself.
I want to create something that feels true.
So examples might include something like if your goal is, let's say, running or fitness, deep purpose might be some version of I want to feel strong in my body again, or I want energy that lasts past 2 pm, or I want to be able to do life without my body feeling like a fragile negotiation.
If your goal is maybe connection-oriented, deep purpose might be.
I'm tired of feeling alone in a room full of people.
Or I just want to stop performing and start relating.
Or I want one relationship that just feels like home.
Or maybe, if your one big goal is more contribution oriented, a deep purpose might be something like I want to stop deferring my creative work to some mythical future.
Or maybe something like I want to offer what I know in a way that genuinely helps, or I want my days to feel like they really matter to me.
Here's the year of enough time here.
If your purpose is something like so I can finally be enough, or some very if it boils down to that pause.
Because what that does is it turns your goal into a treadmill.
Instead, shift purpose towards aliveness, values, meaning, contribution.
So a practice cue here, finish the sentence.
This goal matters because it helps me become more fill in the blank in my life, right?
This goal matters because it helps me become more fill in the blank in my life.
And then ask once more, why does that matter?
And then go until it lands in your body.
So keep asking yourself, why does that matter?
Why does that matter?
Why does that matter?
Until it becomes an embodied answer, until you feel it viscerally in your bones.
For me...
I have a very physical reaction when I know that I've gotten to the truest version of why it matters to me.
So keep asking the question, and why does this matter?
Or why is that important?
Why is that important?
Until I get to a place where I answer something that is so true and so deep and so real that I literally feel it in my body.
I get a physical reaction to it.
So go until it lands in your body.
Now that brings us to the third P here, and that's a plan.
This is about making it human and not heroic.
And this is where a lot of goals quietly go to die.
Not because people don't plan, but because they plan like they're not going to have a bad week or minute or month or day.
A good plan is it's realistic, it's chunked, and it's adaptable.
So here's the simplest way to do it.
Step one, if you can find a baseline plan.
So if it's something that's been done many times by other people, See if you can avoid reinventing the wheel.
Borrow the wheel instead.
So, if it's running, there are literally thousands of couch to 10K plans or even marathon plans, things like that.
If it's writing, there are plans like write 500 words a day or two deep work sessions a week.
If it's relationship repair, there are frameworks like weekly check-ins, therapy or coaching support, structured conversation practices.
If it's a career shift plans might include informational interviews, portfolio building, skill development, applying in ways weekly networking targets.
So if we can start out with a pre-developed, vetted and tested sort of model of a plan that we know has worked for a wide range of people, that's a great way to begin.
But don't stop there.
And this is where a lot of people fail, because they just take that plan and accept it, as this is the plan I'm going to follow.
And they don't realize that every plan, even if it's been vetted and proven to work with a lot of other people, needs to be customized and tailored to your unique life.
So step two here is to customize the plan.
Whether it's something that has been handed to you or you've kind of come up with yourself, customize it to your life.
So ask yourself, when do I actually have time?
When do I have energy?
And what will I realistically protect?
So example here, fantasy plan.
I will write every morning at 5 a.m.
Here's the real plan.
I'll write Tuesday and Thursday from 730 to 815 and Saturday morning for 60 minutes, because that actually fits my life.
Here's a fantasy plan version.
I'll work out six days a week.
Here's the real plan for most people.
I'm going to do two strength sessions plus one walk that I already do.
Fantasy plan version here.
I'll have deep meaningful conversations spontaneously.
Real plan version of it.
Sunday night check-in, 30 minutes, phones away, right?
So we want to take that model plan, whether we developed it ourselves or we found something that had been developed, that feels sensible, and we want to adapt it to the realities of our own life, our lived experience.
Great.
Now, once we make it much more adaptable, step three is to chunk it into milestones.
Now milestones, they keep you from feeling like you're always at the bottom of the mountain.
So if you're writing a book, milestone one might be to build an outline.
Milestone two, to write the first three chapters.
Milestone three, the first draft complete.
If you're training for a 10K, maybe milestone one is just consistent movement three times a week.
Milestone two, running three miles.
Milestone three, run five miles.
If it's a career shift, let's say, maybe milestone one is something like clarified direction.
Milestone two might be to build proof of a skill.
Milestone three might be to have conversations and submit applications, right?
So it's all about saying I'm taking the bigger thing and I'm chunking it down into doable micro steps, that I know I can focus on one step and then the next and the next, rather than just focusing on the big end state, which often shuts people down.
That brings us to step number four.
And this is about identifying obstacles and workarounds.
And this is so important.
I want you to ask yourself in advance, what will potentially or even likely get in the way?
And then equally, if not more important, what will I do if and when that happens?
Pre-planning not just to expect obstacles to arrive, but then pre-planning how you will respond in advance makes it so much more likely that you will actually get through those moments of adversity and challenge and obstacles, because you already know what to do when they happen.
Examples of this, if the weather is bad, I do an indoor option.
If I miss a session, I don't double punish.
I return next scheduled time.
If I'm just exhausted, I do the smallest possible version.
Now here's the on-resolution integration from our earlier episode.
Your plan is a set of experiments.
Functionally, it's a set of small experiments, right?
Every little step that you take is an experiment to see, will this move me closer to the goal?
And how does it make me feel?
And you're gathering data.
So you build in review and adjustment here.
So rather than planning the whole year right now, you might answer this question.
What are two to three actions that I can realistically experiment with over the next two weeks?
What are two to three actions I can realistically experiment with over the next two weeks?
Write them down.
Two weeks for a And then you do the next two weeks and then the next two weeks.
If a longer window feels good and doable and motivating to you, you can extend it longer.
If you want to make a little bit shorter, that's fine.
The goal here... is it's all about adaptability, right?
Chunking to change the psychology to make it feel like everything is doable in small steps, and adaptability to make sure that whatever plan you say yes to actually fits the life that you're living, anticipates potential internal and external obstacles, and tells you what to do if and when they happen.
And that brings us to the fourth P. And this is possibility.
This is about cultivating belief.
So you don't need to believe that you can do this for the whole year.
You need enough belief to take the next step.
Possibility is about building a case for this is doable.
And here's where the whole clean slate concept matters too.
Your past isn't just a list of mistakes.
It's also a list of survivals and a list of, quote, thrivals.
Possibility can come from evidence from your own life, evidence from others and evidence from proven paths.
So examples here.
If you're thinking I can't do this, ask yourself have you ever done something genuinely hard?
It feels like a similar level of hard before, even if it's not the same domain.
Doesn't matter.
Maybe you've raised kids, moved across the country, built a career, recovered from a heartbreak, gotten through illness, rebuilt after loss, created something from nothing.
That all counts.
And you can also borrow belief from others like you.
So ask yourself or tell yourself well, people with my schedule and my sort of similar level of resources and skill have done this too.
Or people with similar constraints to me have done this too.
So practice cue here.
Write three lines.
One, a hard thing I've done is, and then fill in that blank.
Two, a strength that I have that helps is, fill in that blank.
And then three, a resource I can access.
And, by the way, resource.
It can be an external resource, like actual, like money, or whatever it may be.
It can be an internal resource, right?
A resource I can access is fill in that blank.
That is your possibility file.
The more that we actually think about these things, the more we acknowledge that I've done hard things in the past or things that are equal levels of challenge in the past.
Even if it's completely unrelated, it shows that you're capable of doing these things.
If you can look at other people who've done similar things, this can also be incredibly helpful in showing you.
Somebody else with a similar life to me similar resources, similar constraints, similar skills has done something very similar to the thing I want to do.
That tells you Well, then maybe I can do it too, right?
So then you can really dive into this and say, all right, I have enough belief and possibility to just crack the door open.
And then what happens is, over time, over time, as you start to take your own action, your own micro wins serve as proof.
Your own small, small bits of progress serve as proof that that you in fact are capable of making this big, bold thing happen.
And that becomes its own driver of belief that builds, and builds, and builds as you move closer to the thing.
And that brings us to P number five.
And this is people.
This is about building your quote success team.
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So most big goals, they aren't actually individual achievements.
Even if you feel like it's related just to you, they're social achievements.
Even the goal that looks solo.
Writing training, creating goes better with support, because sometimes you don't need advice.
You need someone to say, yep, that was really hard.
And And you're still in this.
So there are key roles that I found to be incredibly helpful to have supporting you along the way.
So let's name those roles with examples.
The first one is what I call co-strivers.
And this is someone who's doing something similar.
So a writing buddy, a walking partner, a friend who's also job searching, right?
They're not necessarily working on the same goal with you, but they're working on their own version of it.
They're striving for their own version of it alongside you.
Knowing that you have them walking there with you can be incredibly powerful, and you can also end up supporting them by doing this.
The second role is what I call champions.
And these are generally your cheerleaders, the people who encourage you.
This can be a partner, a friend, a sibling.
It's not necessarily about giving strategy.
It's really more about cheering you on.
So when you hit an obstacle, when you're tired or low energy, one day they're the people that say you shared what you want to do here.
You shared why it matters to me today.
I understand why it's important and I believe that you can do this.
You can do this, right?
These are your champions, your cheerleaders.
The third role that can be incredibly helpful, important is what I call accountants.
And these are not people who do your books or do your taxes at the end of the year.
I'm talking about people where they're there for accountability and they're there for regular, often scheduled check-ins, right where they'll say some version of hey, you shared what you wanted to do, you shared why it mattered to you and what your plan was, and asked me to basically show up for you on a regular basis and check in with you to help just make sure that you're actually doing the things that you said you're doing.
So I'm going to ask you, hey, did you do the thing you said you'd do?
It's a gentle form of accountability, which is not judgment or shame-based accountability.
It's coming from somebody who genuinely wants you to rise and wants to see you flourish and do the thing that matters so deeply to you, right.
So you want people who are generally bought in on that level, not people who secretly are looking for you to maybe stumble or fail.
Schadenfreude is real, right?
So that brings us to the next role, and that is mentors, somebody who has been there genuinely.
This could be a coach, it could be a teacher, it could be a colleague ahead of you.
Oftentimes it is somebody who has achieved some version of the thing that you're looking to achieve, or accomplish that thing.
But it doesn't always have to be.
Sometimes it's just people who have played a meaningful role in helping enough other people and studying enough other people through a similar process that they have a lot of wisdom to share along the way.
So these are people who have great wisdom about how to help get you to this place.
And they can share that wisdom along the way with you.
And that brings us to community.
And this is generally groups of people.
And it could be as small as two or three people.
It can be as large as a larger running club with 50 or 100 people.
A running club, a writing group, a professional community, a volunteer cohort.
And the idea here is that they provide a sense of belonging.
We're all in this together as you're doing it.
And that brings us to the final of the six roles that can be incredibly helpful.
And that is challengers.
And this is actually a role that I first heard about from Adam Grant a number of years ago.
He was telling me about how, when he was writing books, he would take a small number of people who i believe i think he was telling me it was oftentimes colleagues or postdocs, sort of like in this program and he'll give them pieces of manuscripts and tell them just have at it like, what did i get right?
What did i get wrong?
Basically, challenge the ideas that i'm presenting, challenge the plan that i'm presenting, challenge the assumptions that i'm making or the conclusions that i'm coming to, Not because you want to tear them down and show them how wrong I am or how impossible this is, but because you want to refine them.
You want to optimize them.
You want to improve them and make them better so that everyone benefits.
And this thing actually really does become possible and helps the greatest amount of people possible, starting with you.
So challenges are people who raise the bar.
They say, I know you can do this.
And they also challenge what you're sharing with them, not in the name of shooting you down, but in the name of helping you refine and optimize to increase the chance of you actually succeeding at a higher level.
So practice cue here might be pick one role that you feel like you most need right now, right?
Of those six roles.
So remember, the six roles are co-drivers, right?
People who are doing something similar alongside you.
The energy there is often, believe it or not commiseration, which can be incredibly bonding, weirdly.
Champions, the energy there is cheerleaders.
Accountants, the energy there is accountability.
Mentors, the energy there is wisdom.
Community, the energy there is belonging.
Challengers, the energy there is refinement and optimization.
So pick one role that you feel like you kind of most need right now.
Maybe it's the thing that of those six different roles you least feel.
And then see if you can pick one person.
Craft a simple ask.
Something like, hey, I'm working on something that really matters to me this year.
Would you be willing to support me by and then kind of insert whatever the behavior is for that role?
And then just say it would mean a lot.
Again, I'm working on something that really matters to me this year.
If you want, you can be more detailed and say here's what it is, here's my plan and here's what I'm committing to doing on a regular basis.
Would you be willing to support me by and then, whatever the role or the behavior appropriate to the role is, insert that there.
It would mean a lot.
And yes, this is the part where many of us would just rather reorganize a kitchen drawer than send the text or the email or have the quick call or conversation, because this is where it gets really real and other people get invited into this and they know what you're actually doing.
If that's you, welcome.
You are among friends.
It is uncomfortable.
It's vulnerable.
But this one message, this one outreach can create a huge shift in the way that you feel, in the support that you feel and in your likelihood of making this thing that really matters to you happen.
And that brings us to the sixth of seven Ps.
And this is what I call practices.
And these are just simple daily practices that keep you steady.
These are the daily or weekly rituals.
They kind of stabilize you along the way.
They're not, quote, extra.
They are foundational.
And they're also where the first three episodes quietly live.
Because when you wobble, practices help you come back without shame, right?
The clean slate concept.
Adjust without quitting, the unresolution concept.
And remember, you're already enough.
The year of enough concept.
So here are a few practices that maybe you can choose from just to get you started.
You can pick one, whatever feels good to you.
Practice number one, a weekly review ritual.
Same time each week, take 10 minutes and some questions that you might ask.
What worked?
What didn't?
What did I learn?
What do I adjust?
What, when will I acknowledge?
Again, these are all in the PDF that you can download for free.
So you can Think about them now or just take your time and really review them later.
Practice number two to think about, the two-minute return.
When you're about to blow off the habit or the exercise that you said that you wanted to do because it would lead you towards a goal, Do two minutes two minutes of writing, two minutes of walking, two minutes of stretching.
This keeps identity alive.
I'm the kind of person who returns, right?
We used to call this.
Years ago, I owned a yoga studio in Hell's Kitchen in New York and we trained a lot of teachers.
And what we found was very early on in training teachers.
They'd be so into the educational process that they would actually start to lose their own personal yoga practice.
So we instituted what we call the MDRs, minimum daily requirements.
We said, look, we get that you are in an immersive educational experience right now.
And it's really easy to start focusing outward on everything else while you're learning your own practice and then teaching and doing other things.
You've got to keep your own practice.
So the MDR was basically say okay, here are three minutes or three poses that you commit to doing every single day because you've got to help keep the practice of your own life alive.
It's central to your success in doing the bigger thing that you want to do.
Another practice you might explore, one good moment.
This is from the year of enough, right?
What was one moment today that felt like enough?
This cleans the fuel line so that you're not doing the goal from a place of lack.
And it's super helpful.
Now, you might also expand this into a set of daily practices.
Things like, for me, meditation and breath work.
Critically important.
I start every morning with those two things and I have for many, many, many years now.
And they keep me incredibly grounded, especially when things get challenging.
Life gets challenging.
When I start questioning myself.
These practices bring me back to a place of foundational ease and steadiness and equanimity.
So I find them to be just incredibly, incredibly valuable to me.
So think about practices like that.
Maybe yours is literally two minutes of meditation, or two minutes of breath work, or a two minute walk down the block and back.
Here's a practice cue.
Choose one practice that you can commit to for two weeks and now write it down.
And that is brings us to the final P here, P number seven in our success scaffolding.
And that is the idea of a pledge.
It's committing to a relationship, not perfection.
Pledge is the moment you say, I'm in.
Not I will never falter, but when I falter, which I always will, I'll return.
A pledge is just, it's a statement of commitment that is both firm and kind.
So here's a bit of a template for your pledge for your big, bold goal for this year.
I pledge to move in the direction of... insert whatever the thing is for you.
By experimenting with.
Insert whatever behaviors you're going to say yes to for the next, and then insert whatever the timeframe is.
I'm doing this because, and then insert the answer to your purpose question.
Share here why it matters.
And then say, I'll review weekly without judgment on, and just insert the date.
So you have specificity here.
And when I wobble, I will return with kindness and compassion.
Let me give you some filled in examples of this just so it really lands for you.
Here's an example of a vitality-based pledge.
I pledge to move in the direction of strength and energy by experimenting with two 20-minute strength sessions a week for the next two weeks.
I'm doing this because I want to feel more capable in my body and more present in my life.
I'll review weekly without judgment on Sunday evenings.
And when I wobble, I will return with kindness and compassion.
Here's an example of a contribution-based pledge.
I pledge to move in the direction of finishing my first draft by experimenting with writing two times a week for the next two weeks.
I'm doing this because I want to express what's been just living inside me and creating something meaningful.
I'll review weekly on Friday mornings and when I wobble, I will return with kindness and compassion.
Here is an example of a connection-based pledge.
I pledge to move in the direction of deeper connection by experimenting with a weekly Sunday night check-in conversation for the next two weeks.
I'm doing this because I want my relationships to feel like home, not a performance.
I will review weekly on Monday mornings and when I wobble, I'll return with kindness and compassion.
And your final practice cue here, write your pledge.
One paragraph doesn't have to be poetic.
It just has to be real.
The question sometimes comes up here.
Should I keep my pledge private?
Should I share it?
Should I post it online?
The answer is I would write it initially just for you thinking to yourself I'm going to keep this private because that helps us really be as honest as we can.
When we're doing the thing, when we're actually writing the pledge, when we start to think we're writing this and immediately we say I'm going to write this to share with others, it can tend to start to get performative.
So really when you're writing it think that I'm just doing this for me.
Nobody will ever see this.
That helps you stay true and honest.
Now, once you've written it, if you feel like you know I think it would actually be helpful for me if I share this with somebody who knows me closely or with a dear friend, or I just put it up on the fridge in the apartment or the house and you feel like that would genuinely be helpful and not just performative or not be so vulnerable it would shut you down or subject you to judgment or attack then by all means do that.
Be really careful about how widely you share something like this.
Some people feel great posting it on social media.
Other people, it'll be incredibly destructive to do that.
Because remember, as soon as you post it somewhere where a lot of people who you have no relationship with, who have no genuine interest in supporting you and a positive life, we'll see it and be fully enabled to respond to it, sometimes in ways that are destructive or negative to you.
So think about that seriously and think about what feels most true and most right to you.
So that brings us to our final integration here.
Before we close, I wanna name something that's important.
At some point, life will happen.
You will get sick travel, have an unexpectedly hard week, have a child or parent.
Need you hit a work crunch, feel discouraged, lose motivation, question everything.
That is not failure.
That's called being alive.
This is where the scaffolding, success scaffolding matters most.
And here's how the first three episodes protect you when you wobble.
The clean slate says, don't exile yourself.
Harvest the data, get curious.
Instead of I blew it, you say, what happened here?
What do I need?
What do I adjust?
The unresolution says, adjust the experiment.
Instead of the plan is broken, you say what's a smaller version that fits this week and the reality of my life in this moment?
And the year of enough says, your worth is not on the line.
Instead of I fail, therefore I am a failure or I'm not great.
You say, look, I'm still enough.
And I'm still in relationship with this goal.
It's just challenging right now.
This is the difference between a goal that collapses and a goal that evolves.
And if you take nothing else from today, take this.
Your weekly review is the keystone because it keeps you in the conversation.
So here's a simple weekly review you can do in 10 minutes, same day, same time.
Ask these five questions.
One, what worked?
Two, what didn't?
Three, what did I learn?
Four, what do I adjust?
And What win am I willing to acknowledge?
And yes, I said acknowledge, not minimize, not dismiss, not immediately raise the bar, just acknowledge.
Because that's how you build a year that feels not only good and yummy and nourishing and soulful, but also sustainable.
Okay, so here's your one next step.
Not everything, just one.
Notice how we keep bringing it down to small doable things.
Before you leave this episode, or if you want to download that PDF and then fill it out on your own time.
Do one of these things.
Write your pledge, put a 10-minute weekly review on your calendar or Send one message to one person inviting them into your success scaffolding.
One.
Because this isn't about a dramatic overhaul.
It's about building a simple, doable structure that makes meaningful change livable.
You don't need a clean slate.
You don't need perfect resolutions.
You don't need to earn your worth.
You just need a structure that supports what matters and built by the person you already are.
This isn't about becoming someone else.
It's about making it possible to keep showing up as you are.
So thanks for walking through this four-part journey with me.
I am so glad you're here and I will see you in our next episode.
Thank you so much for having me.
Thank you so much for having me.
Until next time, I'm Jonathan Fields, signing off for Good Life Project.
