How to actually hit your goals in 2026 | My First Million

Want to show you something that's honestly changed my life.

Have i showed you this five-year diary?

No okay, so let me explain how this works.

I'm so jealous that i did not invent this journal, so basically, here's how my five-year journal works.

I um.

On every single page it says, like you know, december 1st, and then it has The first year, the second year, the third year, the fourth year, the fifth year.

Oh.

Yes.

I'm interested.

You took this journaling thing from like oh great, the most boring topic ever journaling to.

Oh wait, that's pretty cool.

I kind of want one.

I started doing this in November, like the week of Thanksgiving, actually.

And so you're always getting to last year's entries.

Like a week ago, you mean?

I started doing it a year ago last week.

Oh, last year.

Okay.

I've talked about this three times now.

This is the third time.

This is the first time it's clicking.

But the reason it's been very special this week because I'm getting to my previous year's entries and I purposely did not look ahead to remind myself.

Right.

Do you want to know something?

The biggest takeaway?

I don't change.

Like what do you mean?

Like your habits or what you're doing or how you feel?

I have complained about the same stuff for 10 or 15 years.

And I have previous journals where I look back and I'm like, I've complained about the same things.

Give me an example.

What do you mean?

So, like, is the way that I'm spending time right now, is it even worth it?

Is working on this business even worth it?

Do I want to go all in on creating content or do I want to go all in on being behind the scenes?

Right.

Where should I live?

Basically, I complain about the same things all the time.

Why did I lose my temper today and make myself look stupid?

Why didn't I pause for like 10 seconds and like reflect before I, like you know, snapped at like my wife or a kid or something?

And I think I've concluded a few things.

One, humans don't change actually changes.

Let me rephrase that.

I've concluded that change is unnatural.

Change is not natural.

It's inertia that's natural.

Yeah, right.

Inertia is the default.

And so you can change.

And I actually have changed a lot of big things in my life.

And I was thinking about what causes change.

And I think a good representation of what causes change is in business.

Typically this happens at the 10 million mark.

The difference between 10 million and 100 million year business oftentimes is systems.

So I think it typically comes down to hiring great people and creating great systems.

And the reason why I love business is because it kind of teaches you a little bit about life.

And what I'm learning about my own life is that the moments that I've changed most in my life is when I've had a system.

And a good system.

What it does?

It makes it more predictable by taking away how you feel at the moments.

The way that you feel on any moment should have nothing to do with the actions that you take to get you to the goals that you've set.

So, for example, the times that I've lost the most weight and gotten the most fit is when I had an accountability a nutritionist like holding me accountable, or I had a trainer who I had to see, or I was following a plan.

The times that I've lost, stagnated most of my life, is when I've not had a plan, and I let my feelings on that day dictate what I do during my schedule.

When I have a good company, your salespeople have scripts that they follow.

They have checklists for follow-ups.

They spend the early morning doing outbound, the middle of the morning is doing follow-up emails and it's like a system.

And I just wanted to talk about like, A, do you have this?

And B, we should talk about some of the systems that we've implemented in our lives that have actually made real change.

Because I think the key to living a successful life not just money, but like success defined as getting what you want is creating a system.

I mean, you brought up a pretty amazing topic.

I think you started with The journal, which, again, is just incredible.

The year-over-year journal, which I think is incredible.

It's basically a time machine because you get to see where you were.

And so it forces perspective, which you wouldn't normally get.

The vulnerability of being like, dude, I don't change.

I'm the same complaining mother effer that I've been for the last 10 years.

I think that's really funny and honest.

And then you have the systems thing.

Now, the best quote of this, I think, comes from James Clear, or whoever he got it from, in his book Atomic Habits, which is you know, we don't rise to the level of our goals.

We fall to the level of our systems.

You see this everywhere, everywhere.

I see it in my business.

I see it when I'm coaching basketball.

I see it in my fitness life.

You see it everywhere, which is that you don't become what you want.

You don't become your potential.

That's for sure.

You become what you regularly do.

The old, I think the Aristotle quote, we are what we do repeatedly.

And so what do you do repeatedly?

You do what's autopilot.

You do what's defaulted.

You do what you have on an automated basis and not what's based on how you're feeling in the moment, which is like if it was a graph, it'd be up and down, up and down, up and down, up and down, and so i think you're i mean you're spot on that this is inside the company and outside uh, outside of any of your work stuff.

It's the same thing.

Let me give you an example.

Here's what i wrote about on 12 5 of last year.

I said i'm one text message away from going amish.

I'm so sick of digital distractions.

It's a drug.

And then I wrote I had this other section.

I'm like, when I hang out with all these successful people, I have to remember my roots.

I'm just a punk rock skateboarding redneck from Missouri and I shouldn't get caught up in this fancy stuff or wanting to achieve all this fancy stuff.

That's an example.

And the reason I'm bringing up the digital stuff and being distracted is I wrote about that three weeks ago in this same thing.

Right.

So there's one thing I think that goes underneath that comes before the system, right?

Because you're basically saying, like you need a plan, you need a goal, and then you need a system that's going to get you to the goal reliably right.

A system that if you just follow that, you know sort of the mechanics, the physics of the system leads you to a certain outcome.

And I think that's very true.

But there does seem to be like a couple of things underneath.

That one is the blueprint.

So figuring out what to want, because if you set up your systems towards getting some to get a goal that wasn't the goal, that actually would change the feeling that you want.

Um, you will be perpetually on the hamster wheel.

This happens a lot in business, right?

We get a promotion and then you immediately are like uh, still feel kind of the same stressed, anxious version of myself.

So, you know, I just need a little more and that'll be the solution.

Right.

So like figuring out the right thing to want, because then it says cool, let me build my systems in that direction.

And I think that's a very uncomfortable place to be is figuring out what you actually want in life, because it sounds like it should be so simple.

That's the hardest part, right?

You can't optimize for a goal without a goal.

And we spend most of our time worrying about the optimization.

Yeah.

Or like you know the goal, like did you pick a goal that's actually going to get you again?

Like You never want the thing.

You want the feeling you think the thing is going to get you, right?

You don't want to have the fancy watch or the car.

You don't want to have the promotion.

You don't want to have that relationship.

You want the feeling you think you'll have if you were in a great relationship.

You want the feeling you think you'll have if your team wins the game.

You want the feeling you think you'll have if you are driving that car instead of this piece of junk, right?

And so it's the feeling that you're chasing.

And if you're not very good at understanding your own feelings and practicing having the feelings that you want, you're not just going to have them when the thing happens.

We just adapt too quickly.

And your base nature, your emotional home is too strong.

So when you say I'm complaining about the same things, I would guess that it's not that you're literally complaining about the same things.

It's that you're having the same feelings about something variety of problem.

Uh, you know some, some same genre of problem, but it's the same.

The feeling is almost identical.

Yeah, exactly.

So what do you think you should do about that?

I think a few things.

I think that the way that i'm feeling now correct me if i'm wrong.

Do you feel this exact same way, or have you had the same issue?

I've had the same issue.

I don't know what you're feeling right now, but yeah, i mean like this this this this um uh, i don't change fast enough or i'm not coaching myself fast enough and i'm not adapting.

I think, more often than not, The listener and you and me, we don't need to be taught new stuff.

We just need to be reminded of the same thing that we already know.

I think that we don't give enough credit to reminders.

So let me give you an example.

I read or when I'm not when I have a newborn, I read a book a week.

Probably I read a lot.

I love reading.

It's great.

So I get so much joy out of it.

Now, there's been so many times that I've read a book.

And it'll be on like something, a president or something.

And then you ask me a year later, I really just can't remember much about that president.

I can't tell you about the thing.

And I think that a lot of times we go too wide and we consume too much stuff versus the same thing over and over and over again, to master and be reminded of the same thing over and over and over again.

And so, like another example could be when you're training an employee on like a sales process, i think the majority of the time you have to repeat yourself like seven eight nine, ten times in a sales meeting.

So you have to do it like if you have like a daily stale stand up.

You have to have phrases that people can remember constantly, because i don't think they need to be taught what to do, i just think they need to be reminded constantly.

So i think reminders are important.

I also think that um a system of accountability.

So when you hire employees for your business, or at least when i do, I'm like oh, I don't want to do that.

I could just do this on my own.

But I've noticed that when I hire employees for my company, I then feel like well, now I have to keep feeding this system, because now I'm held accountable.

And it's very painful, but I get significantly better results.

And so when I back myself into a corner where I must perform and otherwise I'm going to let others down, that's when I get the best results.

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Back to the episode.

Have I told you what I've been doing lately?

I texted you something this morning.

So it's 1215 at 1155.

When I log in, I got this text from Sean.

And it was this really good like Instagram reel, but it wasn't on Instagram.

And it was Sean telling the story about how he has quit being a business person is now fully focused on coaching a basketball team.

Is that right?

So here's the story of how I stepped down as CEO in my companies and I'm now a unpaid high school assistant basketball coach.

This is a decision I've made.

They were high school kids.

These guys look like they had beards.

They're high school kids.

So I love basketball, as you know.

One thing you probably don't know is that growing up, I didn't watch cartoons.

So you know how you're like.

You'll mention like Dolly Parton and I couldn't tell you who she is.

Or you'll be like yeah, you know that Elvis song.

I'm like, no, I don't really know.

Well, that's also true if you ask me about Sesame Street or Rugrats.

As a kid, I never watched cartoons.

What did you watch?

World Series of Poker?

I watched two movies on loop.

Home Alone, great movie.

And I watched Mighty Ducks 2, specifically, D2.

And, um, These things you do as a kid, they sort of imprint on you, right?

And so this idea in the movie Mighty Ducks, Gordon Bombay, he's this hotshot lawyer who actually gets in a DUI but gets assigned this community service thing where he ends up coaching this hockey team.

He pulls up and do his limo in New York City or some city and he's coaching the street kids that somehow also play hockey.

Exactly.

The business guy who grew up playing hockey but has given it up now has to go back into the world of sport and he ends up being the coach to this shitty, uh ragtag group of kids, these underdogs.

And then they, you know, they go on a run and they sort of make it to the top and he, you know finds, you know, his love, his passion.

He realizes like, oh my god, like this fills his cup.

So i watched that movie a lot of times And I had always said I don't know if I'd ever told you this, but I had said, like you know, like bucket list item, my retirement plan was to go coach a high school basketball team, at least for a year.

And I tried convincing my brother-in-law, I was like, Hey, what if we got like an AAU team?

Can we do that?

And I've been kind of like poking around, like, is there a way to do this?

I think it would be really good for the soul.

And um the opportunity presented itself about a month ago, where um I hired a coach a big on coaches.

I hired a coach to train me in basketball, just as like a workout.

And so this guy used to train NBA players before the draft, things like that.

And so I worked with him for like, you know, over the summer.

Did you get better?

Of course you get better.

You practice, you get better.

Systems.

I showed up two or three times a week.

We practiced the same things every time, the fundamentals, and guess what?

You get better.

Was it good exercise or did it hurt you?

Oh, dude, it was great exercise.

You're drenched with sweat, which I would never get in the weight room type of thing.

Same.

I'm envious of that.

It's like your full body, right?

Because you can't make a move without rotation.

And you're doing lateral movements and stuff.

Yeah, things you wouldn't do in a stationary machine or barbell.

So, He tells me, he's like, hey, I don't think I'll be able to coach you anymore.

I got this job.

School starts in a week.

I'm the head basketball coach at this high school.

It's like small division five high school.

I didn't know the divisions go to five, right?

D1, D2, D3, all the way D5.

So five is small.

Five is very small.

And so I was like, okay.

And I was like, so you need an assistant?

I just said it jokingly.

And he's like, yeah, actually, like I don't have any, like there's no staff.

So yeah, I'm a first time coach.

I would love assistant.

So I told him, I was like, dude, I'd love to show up maybe once a week.

And I just thought this would be something I would do just the way I do everything.

Half ass, baby.

I thought that I would make a fun commitment in the moment and then sort of back away over time.

Things that I've done many times with many cool ideas in my life.

But this year, I'm trying to be a different guy, right?

I said, I'm gonna play the piano.

And guess what?

I sit there and I practice scales and I play the piano four times a week and I'm getting good at it and I'm doing the boring things and I'm sticking with it.

I'm not giving up.

And so I did the same thing with this.

I was like, I'm gonna show up.

And dude, when I tell you that this is the most fun thing I've ever done in my life, I am not lying.

This is incredible.

So now I'm going, I'm spending like 15 hours a week doing this.

I'm basically going to practice four days a week.

I commute, which I would, you know me, I would never commute.

It's like, I didn't even know you had a driver's license.

It's a 30, 40 minute drive.

I am basically coaching these kids from, you know, the beginning of the season tryouts.

We just had our first game last night.

Uh, first like official game.

And the video I showed you was our first preseason game.

We got smashed by 30.

And then four days later, we had our first real game, and we actually just won.

We won by 30 last night.

And we did a Gatorade dump on the coach because it was his first win.

And here I am, this assistant basketball coach.

You know in the office when Dwight's like, I'm assistant regional manager.

They're like, no, no, you're assistant to the regional manager.

That's what I am.

I'm assistant to the head coach is really the more accurate way of saying this.

And I'm so emotionally invested in the entire process.

You would not believe like me.

I'm so invested in these kids.

I'm so invested in getting them better, day by day, system by system, habit by habit.

I'm breaking down game film of, like you know, other high school teams that we're gonna play.

I'm sending clips.

I'm we have a kid who who was struggling in school and got kicked off the team and i'm helping him with his math homework, trying to get him back on the team, like i am so in.

It's not even funny.

So are you?

I don't know much about sports um, or at least basketball.

I don't know much about basketball.

Can you tell a player to make minor changes and it actually impacts the game?

Or is it just like if you're seven foot tall, you're going to win?

Well, this is why I brought this up.

So you were talking about repetition, reminders, habits, systems.

Well, sports are, of course, the great teacher of life.

It's this little petri dish.

It's like a simulation of life, right?

You as an individual, you working with a team, you going up against competition, you facing defeat regularly and you getting to go to practice and then seeing if that translates into the real world, right.

And there have been so many things where we would tell the kids something and then the first scrimmage would happen and we would just get our butt kicked.

And it's like, we told them this.

That's the exact thing we've been telling them.

And then we had to take a step back as coaches and be like oh, that's because the job is to drill this 50 times.

We did one of 50.

And our perspective was wrong, which is that, oh, I'll tell them once and then they'll get it.

And then they'll just do it live in action when the moment happens.

Like, no, you won't.

You will default.

Inertia, baby, you will default to the thing that you already do, the old you.

And so now, as coaches, we're basically giving this mindset of like, all right, if this matters, there's only like you can only tell them two or three things that matter.

You can't give them 15 things to change at once.

So like pick one to three things.

And then, let's be honest, we're going to need to say this 50 times with the same level of enthusiasm.

And we're not going to get discouraged if it doesn't happen at number 42 because it takes 50.

And that's like the mindset as a coach.

But it's the same thing in your own life, which is like you seek progress, not perfection.

And reminders matter a hell of a lot more than some new strategy, some new play, some new thing that nobody's ever done before.

You want that.

You want some new answer because you're like, maybe I was just missing the thing.

And actually, no, it's because I didn't internalize the thing.

The answer that was already on my plate.

Right.

And that reminders, like you said, are extremely undervalued, to the point where not only are reminders undervalued, they're sort of discriminated against.

Reminders are like, you know, the minority class of self-help.

Right.

Because when you tell somebody something that they already know, what's their reaction?

It's not like, oh, that's helpful.

I know.

I know that right, it's defensive, it's like that's that clearly can't be important because i already know it.

And it's like no no, it's coming back up again because it's that important.

Dude, this is is a.

This is hilarious, this has happened.

Uh, i don't know if the listener can tell this.

This has happened so many times where you and i come with the same exact thing, not even realizing it.

If if you're an entrepreneur listening to this, you are going to be nodding your head.

But how many times have you Come up with a brilliant idea and gone to your company and in all hands, it says this is what we are doing now.

And it is new and it is different.

So many times, right?

And I've come to the conclusion that a company can basically only do one new project per, maybe per quarter, but it could be every six months.

And when I say project, I mean something relatively small.

For us, we had never advertised before.

Now we're starting to advertise.

It's like, just do meta.

Just do meta and get really good at that.

And you think, well, we should advertise a meta on LinkedIn.

We should advertise, we should buy podcast ads.

We should do this.

We should do that.

It's like, no, no, no, just that one thing.

And let's really master it.

And it's going to take six months.

And so it's kind of funny that you're, you're hearing that, like, I don't know about basketball, but what, what are you telling them to do?

Just that one thing, or you said three things.

What are those three things?

Okay.

These are a little bit nerdy basketball things, but here's one, something called playing off two feet.

So the way that, how do I explain this?

If it's not like, okay.

When you play basketball normally and you go, you're just playing by yourself, there's no defense.

You're like, oh, I'll go do a layup.

So you run in and you jump usually off one foot and you go shoot a layup.

And that's great when there's nobody there.

When there's defense, that's a lot harder to do because it's not only other people in the way, but when you jump off one, when you just run and jump off one foot, you commit to like that path being the only thing you can go do.

And so what we have is a lot of undersized guys, right?

Like our point guard is like, I don't know, five, seven or something like that, right?

We don't have like six, four athletes that are just going to be dunking and finishing at the rim across the board on our team.

We have like, I think one guy who can dunk pretty much.

And so we um uh, we had to teach them that there's this other way of playing.

Looks a little less sexy uh, but it's really effective, which is when you get into the paint and you're amongst the giants and the crowd and You come to what's called a jump stop.

So you just land on both feet and now you have options.

You can pass, you can pivot, you can shoot, you can step through, you can do.

You can do a bunch of things, but you're more under control.

It's almost like a slower way to play.

And it's not what you practice when it's not what you do when there's no defense there.

When there's no defense there, you just kind of naturally will go do this.

But guess what?

In the real game, there's always defense there.

So we're going to do things.

We're going to practice like what happens in the game.

And we're going to do things that match our athleticism.

And this is a habit that you guys don't have.

And so we're going to like drill this not once, not twice, but every single day.

You're going to get reps at doing this and you're going to hear us say the same phrase playoff to playoff to playoff to.

You're going to hear that till you hear it in your dreams, right?

So that'll be like, let's say, one of the core principles, that it's like that's a change we need to make right.

Because change requires that level of like repetition, right to do a new, new behavior.

You're gonna say it until someone hears it in their dreams.

That's what we have to.

That's exactly what i'm meaning about reminders you have.

Yeah, it's like that's so funny.

Number two is what and, by the way, the actual test is you say it till you hear them saying it to each other.

Once you, once they're saying it to each other, your job as the coach has, like you know, you have successfully incepted the idea into them.

This happens also as a ceo right, like whether it's habits and how we do meetings or whatever, or it's like what matters.

What are the priorities?

You know, you've done it well when they're saying it to each other.

I used to do this test with companies, like if I would invest in them or they were running into trouble, and they'd be like yeah we're, you know, we're trying to do X, and almost always in there the little magic trick you can always pull is you take, you know.

Let's say they have a.

It doesn't matter how many people it could be, like just their top five executives, or it could be, you know, 15 people at their company.

You say Hey everybody, I would like you to write down the top three priorities of the company, what actually matters right now.

And then you look at the CEO and you see the CEO start to realize like oh shit, we are not on the same page.

Like I have not done a good job.

They don't even forget doing it.

They don't even know what we're supposed to be doing.

I have not even successfully communicated the priorities, because everybody what they'll do is basically they will focus on their problems, my little problems in my part of the world.

Or recency.

What's the most recent fire that somebody put on my plate?

And like, that's just the thing I'm thinking about.

I kind of forgot about all the other shit we talked about at that, at that all hands, or at that meeting or at that offsite or whatever the thing was where we made our plans.

And so this is the same thing.

And whether it's a team or it's a sports team or it's a company.

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I heard this story about um NASA.

In the 1960s, before we went to the moon, they had this amazing leader and they're telling the story about how they knew he was amazing.

And this one reporter sees a janitor, uh, mopping the floor at the NASA center.

And he goes, sir, what are you doing here?

And he goes, I'm helping us get to the moon.

And that was like the best story ever because like they all knew the mission.

Like we all are playing a part in getting us to the moon.

Right.

By the way, this is like such funny things that happen.

Like uh, one kid like came to practice like 10 minutes late and we're like dude, you can't be late.

And he was like, um, He's like, sorry, I was at work.

And then we look at his hands.

His hands were covered in grease.

He's a mechanic, I guess.

He's like, our point guard's like a mechanic.

And then he comes to practice.

And this other guy.

Wait, in high school?

Yeah, they have jobs.

Is his name Vinny?

Dude, our best player's named Vinny, yes.

Fucking A, man.

Vinny's amazing.

So anyways, there's all these little things where you're like, oh.

You forgot what it's like to be, first of all, like a teenager.

But secondly you forgot like how much of the basic habits have to be installed in somebody that will serve them not just here, but also like whatever they do, right.

Because most of our guys are not going to be in the NBA, right?

None of them.

So it's how do I teach you something that's useful today for you on this team, so we win and have fun, but that's like a master skill that's going to serve you in the future, right.

I'm not, I'm not doing my Gordon Bombay if I don't actually do both for them.

Do you think how much percentage of a difference will um?

So let's just say you're hypothetically, let's say your team is a five out of 10, just average.

Yeah.

Good coaching.

What do you think that would change?

I think it.

I think good coaching can take a five out of 10 team to an eight, which is great, which is dramatic.

Yeah.

I think in my leadership position in my career, I think I've only been average and I've seen great.

And I've particularly loved reading military books like about Navy SEALs and stuff like that.

And I think I get good examples of what a good leader looks like.

And I think the difference with all else being equal, like I've read...

Like I think Jocko has this story about, he's got this book.

I forget what.

It's called something leadership.

And he talks about the story about how they would during buds or, like you know, the week where you become a SEAL, they have like six different groups of like eight guys carrying the rafts on their back and they have to race and they assign leaders and all they do is they change the leaders after each race.

And what they notice is that the leader is determined, determines whether the boat wins or not, not the other seven guys lifting the boat.

Right.

And when I heard that example, I was like I'm not that leader at this moment and I have to become one, because I think the difference is not.

I think it's more than from a five to an eight.

I think it's potentially like almost a 10.

I just think that leadership is so important.

And it's just so challenging because it's one of these things where, if you're like you and I, you think oh, I'm charismatic.

I'm probably already good.

I don't need to learn.

I can convince people to do stuff.

Or I'm an idea guy.

My ideas are good.

That's just not the case.

Just like basketball, it's a skill.

Learning how to get teams to operate effectively, it's a skill.

And I'm learning all of this in real time.

And it's been very challenging.

I'll give you an example that I took from the pod.

So I think you were on here and you were talking about company values.

You're like, oh, at Hampton, we're trying to come up with our values.

And you were saying like, here's what I think they're going to be.

And then I was kind of pushing back like, you know, I kind of expected it to be like this.

And you were like, yes, OK, let me.

And you were you were working through it.

So right after I got off the pod.

I drive over to, I grab my whistle and my clipboard and I drive over to basketball practice.

And when we get there, I was like, hey, it's the start of our season.

So I'm telling Danny, our coach I was like hey, I think we should install like the kind of two or three things that we hang our hat on.

What are we all about?

And in sport, they call this like your team's identity, right?

So there was like all these famous teams that had a real identity.

So it'd be like the bad boy Pistons.

It was in the name.

You already knew they were tough, they were mean, they had a nasty streak and you could not push them around.

Right, they would push you around.

They were the bad boy pistons.

Uh, in the modern day there's like um, heat culture is a big one, so the miami heat are known to be this team.

Where they do they, they hold the standard almost like military.

So, for example, they're the only, i think they're the only, nba team that that does this, where you get tested on weight and body fat every single week And you're either fined or you don't get to play if you are not keeping your – like it doesn't matter who you are.

If you're the star player, like you can't just coast by on your talent.

And so they demand – and they demand it from day one.

So it's like by the time you show up to training camp, you need to already be in shape.

You don't come to training camp to get in shape.

And that's just a known thing that that's their standard.

And so it doesn't matter what it was like where you played before.

When you go there, you already know what they're all about.

You've heard the stories.

And so you got to buy in or you're going to be out.

It's one way or the other.

And so we so we so we go there and our first day we do it all wrong.

We're like, OK, what do we you know, it's all about playing hard.

So effort, effort is going to be one of our things.

So we tell them that at the beginning.

We tell them three values.

Effort's the first one.

Then we had two others.

All right.

So you get to the end of practice.

Coach had to leave.

The athletic director wanted to talk to him.

So he's like, Coach Sean, we'll finish up the practice.

And I'm like, me?

That's me.

Wait, I'm Coach Sean.

I don't know what to do here.

Okay, let me go ahead and help these guys out.

So, as we're finishing up, I just huddle them up and I'm like, all right, how did we do today on those?

We started the practice saying, we're going to be, this is our team identity, these three words.

And I was like, who can give them to me?

Couldn't, they couldn't even remember, right?

They got one of the three.

So they got effort as the only one of the three that they remembered.

And they were like, they wanted to remember.

They just couldn't remember.

So this is like to your, to your thing about repetition and reminder, right?

Like it's super important.

So then I was like, so how'd we do on effort?

And they were like you know, some guy was like you know, kind of like a nod, with a shrug, like a pretty good, another guy just took us, had no, with no explanation.

Uh, you know.

Another guy was like yeah, it was good effort.

And then i was like oh, remember what i was telling sam, which is like facebook's value was move fast and break things.

It wasn't just like um, it wasn't just like speed, which everybody could be like yeah, we're moving fast.

It's like no no, no.

Are you moving fast?

Like, are you moving so fast you're breaking things?

Because if you're not, then you're not even playing at our speed.

So what's yours?

So I was like, oh, if we just said the word is effort, then like some effort's fine, I guess. pretty good efforts fine like wait guys what is it is it pretty good effort whatever and there's one kid on the team who always beats everybody in the sprints he's not the most talented kid but he's he plays the hardest and then whenever we make them run he always finishes first his name's max and i was like oh perfect i go all right we have a new standard it's called max effort and i was like if you're not playing as hard but like it's like a pun right but i was like if you're not playing as hard as max It's not effort.

That's not that's not what we do.

We play with max effort.

And so that's the only one of the three that stuck, because it was like a campaign slogan and it like worked.

You know, it's like it is actually a bar you could pass fail, whereas most of the other values were like yeah, like we want to be really competitive.

It's like, all right, we were kind of there's no pass fail.

You can't test it.

Versus everybody knows, did I actually go at max effort today or not?

It's like a very simple pass fail.

And so taking these things from business and trying to apply it here has been very, very interesting.

Yeah, I think that we too often think about marketing to customers when we should be marketing to ourselves and our teams and our families.

So this sounds eye rolly, but my wife and i are like should we have values for our family?

Like what, what should we?

Because we're we're at the age now where our children are just now old enough, where we're able to form traditions yeah, and we're like what traditions should we have?

You know, what do we like, want to teach them.

And so i joke with my daughter where we do daily affirmations, i say um, repeat after me i'm bold, i'm tough and i won't conform to anyone.

That's like.

That's like her daily affirmations, because clearly i care about, like you know, that type of stuff.

But we had to sit down and we're like all right well, what collectively should we care about so we can teach our kids?

And also like what traditions can we have?

And i was thinking, i was like well, i have these things.

I have what i call my four f's family fitness finance, fun and that's like the categories that i value or i weigh myself on.

I need to have that for my family and I need to have that for other parts of myself.

So if I'm being a weak leader, I need to come up with a cool phrase that I can remind myself in times of like.

I want to revert back to you know old me in order to create change.

This whole episode is about change.

Uh, and I think that something, these cute phrases, I'm telling you, I just dismissed them by calling them cute phrases.

I'm trying to make myself feel better here, but they, they work, they work, they work so much.

Um, At Hampton, we have this thing called the three Cs, commitment, candor, and confidentiality.

And so we have to repeat it.

We have found roughly six times to our customer for them to understand and remember the three Cs.

And so it all has to be in a memorable format.

So I was kind of studying this last night.

So I was like, how do you actually do it?

Because you said that, right?

They need to be memorable.

All right, Sam, tell me how you make a memorable, right?

So it's like, you kind of like...

It should be a couple of frameworks, right?

Like, but like, I'm not an expert on that.

I don't think you're an expert on that.

And we actually care about this and we should be good at this.

We're like actually pretty good at writing and pretty good at talking.

It's kind of what we do for a living.

And even we aren't like that far ahead.

Okay.

So who is great at this?

Who's, who's in what group of people is amazing at this?

I don't know.

Marketers, marketers.

So the people who come up with specifically slogans, right?

Yeah.

Um, another one that's like, where, where is it?

Life or death?

Where do you have to be great at military or police, military and politics?

You got to get elected.

Right.

And so make America great again.

Right.

Okay.

That's a.

That's a thing that if he repeated it a thousand times, but it was enough to stick, it was polarizing.

It was interesting.

It was repeatable.

It was like something you can get behind.

So I was studying this last night and there's this um phrase called uh, I don't even know how you pronounce this.

Chiasmus.

C-H-I-A-M-U-S.

All right, so here's an example of one.

Sam, if I said the following phrase, if I said ask not what your country can do for you, what would you say next?

Ask what you can do for your country.

Exactly.

And that's a chiasmus.

It's basically a sentence structure that is an earworm.

I don't even know when that when was that said, when was that phrase said?

It was said like, you know, 50 years ago or something like that.

JFK said it in like 1963, I think.

Yeah, exactly.

So this is, you know, more than 50 years ago.

And yet off the tip of our tongue, me and you can can say this phrase that was said before, like 20 years before we were alive.

That's how powerful that phrase is, okay?

And so what is that structure?

And it's basically this, like, if you break down the sentence, they say it's A, B, B, A structure.

So the first part is about asking, right?

So ask not what your and then it's your country can do for you.

That's the B, Then the B, you know.

Then you switch the order and basically it's ask what you can do for your country, right?

So you're going to switch the sentence structure.

And there's these two like Overall structures is like a, you know, a BBA, and then there's like a, a sorry, there's a BBA, and then there's like a BAB or a BBA.

And so it's like there's two structures that you could use.

And so what you start to do is you start to find two phrases that individually are valid.

Okay.

So, for example, I don't know if you've seen that um podcast clip that goes viral, where people where it's just people are like, Oh my God, I hate podcasts.

Or there's that girl trying to be motivational.

And she says, don't, she's like, don't love your job, job, your love.

Oh yeah.

And the, uh, blood hair lady.

And everyone's just like, ah, it's like the ultimate grown.

And the reason why that chiasmus doesn't work is because job, your love doesn't make any sense.

Right.

Um, And so you have to find two individual statements that make sense, like asking what your country can do for you and what you could do for your country.

Both are individually valid.

Then you structure it this way and it becomes incredibly memorable.

And if you go look at that JFK speech, there's like...

Three of them, that he does have that same structure in that one speech.

If you go, break that speech down.

Yeah, here's another one.

Let us never negotiate out of fear, but let us never fear to negotiate.

Exactly, chiasmus.

And these sound beautiful.

They're very satisfying to the mind.

And when you understand how the mind works, you see that the mind loves order.

It loves structure.

If you look at how, why is a face a beautiful face?

Symmetry, right?

The more perfect the symmetry of the face, the more beautiful the face to people.

Another example of this, the game Tetris.

Why is the game Tetris so addictive?

Why are games like Candy Crush and Tetris so addictive?

Because they actually tap into this part of your brain that's almost this cleaning instinct.

There's a mess, and then you put one block in the right place, and it evaporates the mess.

It creates order out of disorder, and the brain loves that.

It just wants to do it again and again and again.

This is the basis of the game design of Candy Crush and Tetris.

And so, you know, the brain likes what it likes.

And so, if you want to, you know, deciding to change your brain, which is this, like you know, multi-thousand years of evolution is very hard.

But just changing the structure of how you speak so that you tap into what the brain likes and give it what it wants, so that it does become memorable, it does become sticky and it has an effect, is obviously the much better way to go.

This is pretty profound.

This is very fascinating.

What did you read to learn this?

When you said last night, you said last night you said you're curious about this.

Well, I started asking different questions.

So I started asking you know, I think I even said it earlier which is like, whose life depends on this?

So anytime I want to get good at something, I try to figure out who for this is a nice to have for me.

Who is it a must have for?

So let's say you want to lose weight.

You would go look at the bodybuilders training for a bodybuilding competition.

If you want to know the logical extremes of how you get the maximum muscle and the lowest body fat, go watch what they do.

Yeah.

Whose next meal is dependent on getting this right?

Exactly.

So, for example, right now I'm writing the book and I told Diego yesterday who's helping me.

I go.

You know, we're doing this process where I write in the morning and then I do a bit of a show and tell with them and I kind of show them what I'm doing and then I get feedback.

But I'm like, the problem with our feedback is I want you to like it.

So I want to show it to you.

But I also want your honest feedback because I want to make this better.

You're trying to be polite and not my feelings, because you see that I tried very hard this morning, but you're also trying to help me make it better.

And those two things are at odds with each other.

And I was like, so I was like, we don't even know how to give feedback in this way.

That's like, look, I need to be able to share so that I can get this better.

But I don't need my emotions to swing based on, yay, they liked it.

I did a good job.

Oh, they didn't like it.

I did a bad job.

It's like, that's so lame and a waste of energy.

And on your end.

I don't need you having one part of your head saying, how do I say this?

The right way?

Because I want to be nice and supportive versus like, hey, how can I tell you what I'm feeling?

Or, you know, for giving feedback.

So it's like this art of giving feedback on art, on something that's subjective, and I was like I don't know how to do this.

And you don't know how to do this.

Who, who definitely has already solved this problem because it's a must have for them.

So I was like, oh, let's text like a couple of people who are comedians.

Cause like, I was like, I think comedians have to figure out like, oh, is this funny or not?

And once I've heard the joke, once I've written the joke and looked at it 20 times, it's not funny to me anymore.

I can't even tell I'm too lost in the sauce.

And so I was like, how do they do it?

How do musicians do this?

How do they play a song?

And I was like, is this a good song?

I can't tell.

I kind of liked it, but now I've heard it 10 times and I can't tell anymore if this is any good.

How do they get feedback?

What was that answer?

Well, this is a new thing.

I got to go find the people to go learn from the people for whom this is a must-have.

That's actually First of all.

I keep talking to the listener today, but there's two or three takeaways.

The question of whose life depends on this, that's a great question.

And I'm very curious, actually.

I want to know the answer because I create a little bit for a living.

I want to know how you know if something's hitting.

If I had to guess for a comedian, they would probably just say I perform it in small audiences and I suffer the pain of bombing.

Right.

Yeah.

Then that might be it for them.

And it's like, oh, cool.

So what's my version of open mic with 20 people and testing if it bombs?

Can I do that in my world?

Is there a way I could set that up?

Okay.

Maybe if it's not that, how do musicians do this?

And you sort of start to figure out, well, how do they do that?

How do they get feedback?

What's the language there?

Pixar, I think, wrote this book, Creativity Inc, which is very.

They talk about the brain trust that they have, of how they show kind of like not even a movie but like a single scene, and how they created a dynamic of trust.

There's actually a great story of when Disney bought Pixar and Pixar had been making hit after hit after hit and Disney Animation had been just bombing for years.

And so they put the Pixar guys in charge and they were like great, we'll merge these two companies and then we'll just start making hits like Pixar.

Didn't they just want to fire all the Disney people, though?

No, no, no.

I think what he did at the beginning, the main guy Ed Catmull they were like oh, what a perfect A-B test.

What a perfect randomized control test here.

So what they did was they didn't blend the teams together.

They didn't move them together.

So what they did was they kept the team separate.

And then what he did was he basically took the Pixar method and he went and he taught it to the Disney folks.

And he's basically like if we just took our process but not our people, could we make those same people who have been failing succeed?

Kind of to your question earlier of like, how big of a lever is leadership is coaching?

Like, can it take a five and turn it into a 10?

And they actually started creating hits once he taught them the process of doing this.

And for them, I think trust was like the underlying thing, which is like um, if you don't have trust, you're not going to share your work at the right times, you're not going to be give real candid feedback, you're not going to receive candid feedback in the right way because you distrust what's going on.

You think your project's going to get killed if it's bad, or you think this guy's going to come steal your thunder if uh, you know, if you let him and get collaborate on it right, you have all these fears that are basically a lack of trust.

And once they installed their sort of like trust process, disney animation started making hits too.

Well, and I think one of the other points from that book was he was like we have hit makers.

It was like we got like these two or three people who are just typically more.

They're more right, more often than other people.

We listen to them.

He did like a pretty fun, funny thing about that.

We should.

OK, so for MFM, we've done like a handful of challenges like the MFM fitness thing.

We should do like a give back thing, because tell me about.

I haven't really given my time to give to others, which I don't know if you consider coaching.

Is it like you rescued a dog, but you say the dog rescued you?

Is it that type of thing?

That's so funny.

You thought that you were going to go and do it for these kids.

To be perfectly clear, my choice was selfish.

I wanted to do it.

I thought it would be fun, and it is very fun, and I do want to do it.

So it's not like this burden I'm carrying.

At the same time i had recently, like in the last two years, i'd given some money to charity and felt nothing like so maybe i did some good in the world.

It's hard to know.

You know you give the money and it just goes in a black box mostly.

And then you know, hopefully something good, hopefully someone's life got changed from that in some positive direction.

But i don't know and i didn't feel anything.

So i didn't want to like triple down on that.

And my trainer has this great thing he says basically he always talks about he's like oh man, He's like our economy, our economy.

And I was like, why do you talk so much about the economy?

Like Jim Cramer?

Like, what are you, what are you talking about over here?

Okay.

You know, Powell, you know, what are you talking about?

The interest rates of the economy?

What are you, what are you talking about?

And he's like, no, he's like us.

He's like me and you and my other clients.

And which is because he trains my mom.

And then my mom, then they refer to another person.

He's like it's all like a web right.

And so he was like i'm just talking about like our local economy, like he's like i want that little economy to thrive local, not like i don't care what's going on in the macro, i want the local to thrive.

That's what i can affect.

And if that's thriving like that actually like improves the lives of these people that i can see feel, touch.

And if everybody was just doing that in their local little bubble, then then the big picture would take care of itself.

Right, i was like okay, fair enough.

And he even like went further, like again, like they sort of cute thing.

Like he was.

Like I was like so if the normal economy measures GDP, gross domestic, gross domestic product?

I was like what's the?

How do you know if your economy is doing well?

He's like, he's basically, he's like, baby smiles per hour, baby smiles per hour.

He's like, he's like, I just want everybody to be smiling.

He's like if I made you laugh and then you carry that vibe into the house, with your wife next and with your kids, and then they carried that into school.

He's like, that's how it works.

Like, if you're making people smile by laughing, Whether it's your mood, it's doing something for them.

It's thinking of them.

It's having an experience together that has this carry on effect.

They take that smile into the next interaction.

That's how it spreads.

So I started actually like buying into this.

I was like, it is about your local economy.

It is about smiles per hour.

And so I was like, what do I do?

That is a kind of give back.

But not the way I did it last year, where I put money in some black box into some multinational nonprofit and then it just disappeared.

And I don't know what happened.

I didn't feel anything.

I don't know what happened.

And so the idea of going to a local high school, taking an unpaid job and just contributing my time, my talent, my effort and affecting a group of 12 guys that sounds small but it feels very big.

The other thing, solving world hunger felt, sounded very big, but felt very small.

Like there was no feeling.

And so I don't know.

I don't know if this is the right direction or wrong, but that's the one I've gone.

I don't, I'm not charitable.

I want to be, but I'm like a little bit, I'm like, I don't know how to be.

I don't want to just write a check to someone and not feel anything.

I want to be selfish.

I want to get value out of this, just like a feeling.

And so I talked to, do you know who Mike Beckham is?

He started Simple Modern.

Yeah, the- hugely successful water bottle company.

So he told me all the numbers and he told me I could share it.

So he's worth 200 million because the company does something like 200 million a year in revenue and does 50 million a year in profit.

His net worth because he owns half of it and then with the multiple he goes I'm probably worth.

This was last year.

I talked to him.

So he said, I'm worth probably $200 million, or he said $190.

And he said I have about I think he said 3 or 4 million to my name, but I pull 5 million out of the business every year and I take 1 million of it and I give away 4 million.

If you guys Google Mike Beckham, Sam Parr, you'll see a post I wrote about it.

So I think there's a chance I got the number slightly wrong.

But basically, he said, I take something like $5 million and I give the rest away.

My family spends $25,000 a month, so we take enough for us to spend minus taxes.

I give you know four million or four and a half billion dollars.

I give it away, and I was like that's insane man Why do you do that?

He's like well, It's not generous to do this when I die, because that's not hard for me.

Like it should be like some type of like Challenge, like this should feel like I should feel a little bit of pain.

But then he said something really great.

He said The more that I give, the less loud the greedy voice in my head becomes.

So he's like i feel this, like greediness in my this voice in my head that says make more money, buy more stuff, do this, but the more that i give, that becomes a whisper, because i feel what it's like to give away this money and it feels significantly better than the acquire a bigger home or another car.

He was like i drive a 30 000 crv Because I know that if I bought a 90000 car, that's 60000 less that I can give to people.

And it makes me feel good to do that.

And so the whole point of him telling me this was he wanted to get me to give now versus when you're old or dead.

And I thought that that was very inspirational.

It wasn't that inspirational because I haven't done it yet.

More admirable than inspirational.

Yeah.

It inspired me like, you know, like the Rocky movie.

Like, you know, I should get into boxing one day.

Totally.

But I did think it was really awesome.

This is for the folks out there who have a business that does at least $3 million a year in revenue.

Because around this point, that's when you're able to look up after being heads down for years building your company, and you realize two things.

One, you've done something great, two, you look around and you realize, I am all alone.

I've outrun my peers, which means you're now making $10 million decisions alone by yourself.

And that is when mediocrity can creep in.

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You know, I've read this a few times on Twitter, where somebody will say Oh, I started either micro dosing or I started taking, like you know, Ozambic or whatever.

Hey, I've done all those things.

You can just ask me.

Okay.

So maybe you had this too, but they talk about food noise, which was not a phrase I'd ever heard before.

I don't know if that was, is that common?

But like they basically said the biggest change is not the weight loss.

It's the, I don't have food noise.

Basically this like Part of my brain, this chatter in my brain about the next meal or about should I have this, or wanting this.

Let me give you an example.

Is this real?

Yes.

So like I have an addictive personality and I had addiction stuff before.

And tell me if you've ever experienced this.

You get a piece of dessert, like a cake or something.

You eat half of it.

You put the rest in the refrigerator.

And then you go lay in bed.

You lay in bed and you're like, but it's still there.

And it's uneaten food.

I think the fork that I use might still be in the sink.

I could probably just use that.

I'll just go off and get a little bit of bite.

So you get it in bed and you eat one little bite and you put it back, and then I will do this Seven times until it's gone.

And then it goes away.

And I say to myself this, I say, shit, well, I already did this.

I might as well eat this entire sleeve of Oreo cookies.

Right.

And before you notice, you've done a thousand or fifteen hundred calories of like binge eating.

But it's all based on one urge.

That is the food voice.

And when you take GLP ones, not only does that voice get dimmed, other addictions get dimmed.

I noticed i bit my nails less.

I noticed i wasn't craving like it used to be, where i would smell like beer.

If i walked by like a brewery i'd be like let's, let's go like see what's up, not anymore what is up.

When you go see what's up, the secret is you should not go see what's up, but like you smell the hops and you're like oh, that's nice right uh, but yeah so yeah, it definitely turns it down.

So i wanted to ask you about this.

On the loudness of the money voice, of the more voice in your head.

Because a few podcasts ago we did an episode.

I think the front half of it was about something sort of silly, but the back half of it was us talking like we kind of mostly did today.

It's just like, what's hard for us in life?

What's some of the wisdom that kind of helps?

And just sort of like, I don't know, trying to figure shit out, out loud, right?

In front of a bunch of other people, a bunch of other strangers, which is a little bit uncomfortable, but you do it.

And in that I mentioned this thing that had come up and I had a lot of friends who were basically like they have all the success and then they go start another company.

And it's like did they stress out, lose some hair, gain some weight and try to build another company.

Well, you said the best phrase ever, too.

Yeah, this is the phrase that a lot of people DM me afterwards, which is like you've already earned the last dollar you will ever spend.

So why are you trading good hours for bad dollars now?

And that's something that I had thought of for myself and when I saw others.

But like, you know, that doesn't mean I'm like immune to it either.

Right.

Like I still I'm in the same boat.

I think I have it to a lesser degree in the same way that, like that food chatter you were talking about.

Like I got that.

That guy's got a megaphone in my head.

Whereas I think for other people, it's, you know, a little bit more like a whisper.

And so.

I want to do two things.

I want to ask you about the voice in your head.

And then I want to tell you about a Chad GPT coaching conversation I had about money.

I kind of want to read you what it said to me a little bit.

But, but first I want to ask you you know you, you are also in that boat where I believe you have earned the last dollar you'll ever.

You'll ever spend.

You're a pretty frugal guy in general, like you're not like Mike Tyson buying tigers.

You had a great exit with the hustle.

And you have earned the last dollar you'll ever spend.

But here you are starting more companies, maybe making some investments.

And every day you wake up and you take your life, energy and you go to an office with other people and you do this.

And you can always talk about how you like working and the mission.

I'm not saying it's bad.

That's not what I mean.

I guess what I mean is, how do you think about money and wanting more?

Are you honest with yourself that you do want more?

And then how do you square that circle of like?

But I don't actually need more, because I have already earned the last dollar I've ever spent.

Or do you not think that's true?

So I just want to hear how you, what's that chatter in your head?

How loud is it?

And what does it say?

I think, okay, so nothing is all or nothing.

There's a priority of lists.

So the number one priority for me is like, I just don't know what to do.

Like, I don't know how to spend time.

And when I spend time sitting around, I feel like I'm missing out or I feel like I'm not contributing.

And that feels bad.

And yet, when I spend all the time working, some days I have bad days and I'm like, what am I doing?

I should be doing this other thing.

So that exists.

But then the one right below that is...

I'm not good enough and I have to, and my self-worth is directly correlated to the success of the thing that I'm working on.

My self-worth is my net worth, basically, right?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

You could say that.

And so that's probably through years of trauma and believing something, but it's hard to break.

And then the last thing is more money does feel good.

Yeah, it definitely feels good.

And what I have to do, I do math all the time where I'm like, I don't need more.

Everything that I want, I have.

But I can't break that.

I guess if you wanted to be a therapist or a psychologist, you would say the reason you don't want to change is because you don't want to.

You like how it feels.

Do you like how it feels?

I love when things go well at my company.

I do feel on top of the world.

The problem with building companies is you typically only feel like that 10% of the time.

You know, like things are bad most of the time.

Ineffective way to get that feeling.

Yeah.

So I say I don't gamble.

I don't do drugs and alcohol.

And instead, this is like a dopamine slot machine.

Yeah.

Okay.

So it's like, do you like being addicted to gambling?

You say no.

But when you win it's so amazing that it makes you.

But at least it's not heroin, is what you kind of just said.

Yeah.

And then I also justify it by saying and this is a bad justification and I'll prove it to you but you say I want to.

I'll go ahead and do the work for you.

You say to yourself you say well, I don't want my kids to just see me sitting around, and I want them to see me working really hard.

And I want to set a good example.

But then they probably would rather be with you.

They want to see me.

Yeah.

And and I don't I think I do good.

Like I go to the office from nine to four, nine to five.

But then I also say I'm doing this for them.

And it's like.

What is this?

What is this for them?

How does that make sense?

They don't need anything physical.

What do they need that I can't give them already?

Right.

Yeah, is 50 hour weeks the most effective way to just give them the general principle that you should work hard at things.

That might not be the most efficient route to that answer.

Okay, so I wrote down three things.

I wrote down imagination, which I think is the first part.

The first one you said, which is, I don't know what else.

I kind of don't know what else to do.

I want to do something and I don't want to do nothing.

Therefore, I do this thing.

And I think about that a lot.

I think that Suli came on the podcast a while back and And he said something where he goes Sully, being your good buddy, who is presumably worth hundreds of millions of dollars, is one of the more successful entrepreneurs we know.

Correct, he's my, he's my great friend, but he's also the guy who i respect and trust the most when it comes to entrepreneurship and like kind of business, like strategy yeah, and i've met a lot of people wealthier than him, but he consistently is the highest signal, best judgment person and, like you know just the way he way he approaches in a tax business.

He's just like like such a winner.

Okay, so he came on the pod and he goes.

I used to think I was limited by some lack of resource.

Like, maybe I didn't have a skill I needed.

I needed to learn how to code.

Maybe I didn't have enough money.

Maybe I didn't have enough time.

Like, basically, he's like, I always just thought, you know, I didn't have the network.

I didn't know people.

Like, I just assumed I lacked some resource.

And he goes, now I realize that all I ever lacked was basically imagination.

He's like I.

The thing I lacked the most was even figuring out what to want, what the possibilities were of what I could do and how I might be able to go do those things.

That sounds kind of like hand wavy, I guess, but the more smart people I've met and And it's almost like the bigger that side of your brain gets where it's like I am analytical.

I am good at making plans and then executing them and operating.

And like the better you are at that, the less I've noticed they're disproportionately bad at imagination.

And so for example, it's like, You know, kind of don't know what else to do with my hands.

It's kind of what you said.

There's a lot of things.

There's actually a ton of things, right?

Like the stupid example I gave earlier and this wouldn't be the right thing for you, but it was the right thing for me which is like well, what if you, instead of going and chasing down the next investment, or starting another company?

And I got a bunch of deals and I got a bunch of ideas.

Like the right thing.

The thing that was fulfilling was hey, what if you took four months, one season and you just coached a high school basketball team?

That was actually the right answer for me, which totally out of left field doesn't even make sense.

It wouldn't be the right answer for other people, but it's the thing that like totally fills my cup in a way that Another business that was successful would never do.

Yeah, but I think that you're not, or maybe you are, but it's way harder than you think, or not than you think.

But figurative you, I think like that imagination game is quite challenging.

Like, for example, if you said you have a billion dollars today, what do you want to do?

I'm like, I don't have an answer.

We might get flamed in the comments here.

All we're talking about is this, I call it second mountain problems, but whatever.

I was thinking about the, I was like, why do I want all these employees?

So we're moving to a new office down the street and we just signed this lease.

It's a million dollar lease.

So over three years, it's going to be a million dollars.

And we're building out this office, whatever.

It's a lot of money.

I've never done this before.

And I was like, why am I doing this?

And I was like, I just I think maybe I'm lying to myself again.

I was like, I care about capabilities.

So what I hate is that you have an idea.

So, like how often do you have an idea for like a small project and you're like oh, now I got to go get the people and I got to like train the people.

I don't think they're going to be any good all the time.

Yeah.

And I was listening to Ari Emanuel talk and he was like we have this thing and this thing and this thing.

And I was like, how cool is it? that your company and you have all these capabilities.

You have an idea.

You say, wouldn't it be cool if this existed in the world?

And it's not just a business idea.

For him, I think he cares about the show.

He's like wouldn't it feel awesome if at the UFC we did blank, or we bought all these tennis tournaments and we offered food at a discount?

I don't know.

And I love the idea of having lots and lots of capabilities.

And I think that's why business building is fun.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah, I have that right now.

Actually I forgot to say this, but one of the things I've been talking about for a while on here but have not executed right.

Like the walk hasn't matched the talk is.

I had this realization that video is the language of the internet.

It's like if the internet was a country and it would be the most important country in the world.

It'd be more powerful of a country than America.

So it's like a place where you live and you spend time.

I think the internet is that.

People live and spend a lot of time online.

And then you say, all right, well, do you speak the native tongue?

Because if you don't, you know if you come to America but you don't speak English, you're putting yourself at a pretty massive disadvantage.

And I believe that video is the language of the Internet.

It's how people communicate online, whether it's long form, like this on YouTube, or short form, which is growing, growing more and more popular across.

You know YouTube shorts reels TikToks, etc.

It is the way people communicate information.

And if you don't have the capability to communicate and tell your story or connect with others that way, you know you're just not speaking the important language of the important country.

In fact, like it doesn't really matter where you were born or what you were doing or how hard you worked.

Pretty much.

If you were born anywhere in the world, the best decision you can make for your like life quality and upward mobility was to move to America and learn English.

Even if that meant starting at the bottom, even if that meant being uncomfortable, like in the long term, it was short-term pain.

But in the long term, that was the best thing you could do.

There was no amount of hard work you could do in Somalia that was going to make up for that one decision.

Dude, is this the most charismatic and epic way just to say you're going to start posting on Instagram?

Yeah.

I'm going to start posting on Instagram.

Did I not just sell your ass on the fact that I'm posting on Instagram?

Dude, imagine your wife at the dinner table telling this story.

Listen, years ago, our grandparents lived in India.

The best thing they could have done is learning English.

Now, here we are today, the year 2025.

Sean, are you going to start posting on Instagram?

Yeah, exactly.

In fact, I'm going to start specifically just posting a story series about the coaching thing I'm doing.

So basically, day one, basically every week, I'm just going to post a thing that I sent you.

Dude, that was a good video.

Do you get inspired by Marshall?

No, not Marshall.

There's actually these young guys who are doing this.

They're.

There's this format where Airbnb, the Airbnb guy fire and the bar guy his name, I think, is Rajan.

I don't, I don't know exactly what his first name is.

His handle is something, but they're building like a luxury Airbnb in Virginia.

There's a guy who's bought an old bowling alley and he's rehabbing it.

It's basically like yo, I'm doing a project for shits and giggles and like I want to make it happen.

And I'm kind of new to this or I don't have it all figured out, but I'm going to share as I go.

And I just like the format and I think it's fun.

And I want to do it specifically on something that's not business.

Like.

It's very hard for me to get motivated to be like, and now I'm going to give you business guru content.

And even if I like business, it's just very hard for me to sit in front of the camera and do talking head content about business, or about myself, or about, you know, some new SaaS company.

But I was like, this one I would want to follow.

So I'm going to make this content.

And so I'm going to make a coach account.

It's going to be like Coach Sean or Coach P.

I'll put the link in the Instagram or in the comments of this, or I'll put it on the screen.

But I want people to follow it, because I'm going to post videos on here and I think they'll be great.

That's so funny.

I've been doing the Instagram thing.

It's pretty fun because you start trying to It's basically because we're the old guys now.

It's sort of like when people wanted to start newsletters or something and it was like dude, you're writing way too tight.

You got to be a little loosey-goosey.

I've done the same thing on Instagram where I start talking to the camera and I get official.

You're going to have fun.

It's very intimidating.

You got to pop those two buttons down.

Dude, it's so intimidating.

If you go to my thing, I do all of our videos now where I'm holding a spatula as a microphone, because we had to have fun and loosen up.

So Gen Z of you yeah, and it totally has a million dollar manhattan office.

Hey, fellow kids yeah exactly, it's so funny that you say that your content is pretty good, though the problem with it though uh, you know, the problem with all social media like being like i'm gonna try to like, post good short form content is it's basically saying i'm gonna go to the bar and not get drunk because i'm.

It's so easy for your mind to get wrapped up in the vortex of like, how many likes, how many views to decade.

Is that good?

Is that bad?

And so easy.

I don't even know physically if, even knowing that, like you know, I don't know if it's physically possible to go in and not want that.

So I could easily see myself aborting that you know that process six months from now, even though in this case, it's like i'm doing it for just this basketball season, which is just three months, and it's only content about this random side quest that i'm on.

Um, it's not like you know.

Here's my personal ig.

I'm gonna create short-form content every day, but let me tell you something i've been telling myself and it's been helping so much.

So a few things.

One the algorithm is so good right now on meta that the right people see the right stuff, like i'm pretty sure that The camera knows what I'm wearing and what my background looks like, what I look like.

I posted a skateboarding video.

It knows that I'm doing a skateboarding thing.

It shows it to the right people somehow.

I don't know how it does it.

And the second thing is that I have noticed I've only been doing this for a handful of weeks now and I'm going to be doing a lot more but people text me when something hits and I.

That is so much more cool than the number of likes or the comments on the thing.

It's just those texts.

And the cool thing is, once you have a business which in this case, you're actually probably not going to be doing it for a business you don't need that many people to watch it.

Like I'm seeing it's, it's changing our cup.

Like we're getting customers.

I've made a lot of money off of it already in a very short amount of time with a very few views.

I think my most popular thing is getting like 70 or 80,000 views.

That's not a lot for Instagram and the right people is are are shown the right stuff and you don't need that much to make it cool.

There is something weird about like instagram right now and i know that, like any 21 year old, listening to this is like yeah duh duh, uh.

But as like, if you are above 30 or whatever and you grew up with this stuff, the i've never posted on instagram up until recently.

The algorithm is way different than what i used to think it was.

That's cool.

Yeah, it makes a ton of sense.

I think you're doing a good job.

I think the spatula trick is a good trick.

I like that.

Everybody's got to have a shtick.

That's yours.

You're the spatula guy.

Great.

That's where we thought we'd land in life.

I mean, write that in my diary.

I mean, have you ever had the thought, like, what did your grandfather do?

Dude, when I think about my grandfather, I think if I was him right now I'd have, like you know, 18 confirmed kills under my belt in World War II.

Here I am with a fucking spatula.

My grandfather literally worked in an ammunitions factory in India.

Yeah.

Okay, so that's my grandfather.

His idea of what work is...

And you're talking to a microphone with a sheep on it that says, sorry, I'm late.

My shirt literally says, sorry, I'm late.

I was dilly-dallying.

That's what I wore to work today.

Dude, and your grandpa lost three fingers before the age of 28.

I was like, Ari, is this shirt too wrinkly right before the bottom?

And she's like, I think it fits what it says.

It's like, oh, yeah, yeah, that's true.

So, but just this is a kind of mind-bending thing, right?

My grandpa was a sheriff.

He was a cop.

Okay, so a job that, like, you can buy an action figure for.

Yeah.

Right?

Yeah.

Like soldiers policemen, like you know, a factory worker, construction doing a real thing that, like the world critically needs.

That's hard and completely unglamorous.

And then I think about, okay, his son.

What did his son do?

My dad.

And it's like, he sat in a cubicle, like an office.

Yeah.

Like not a factory.

It's like, well, what does he do?

It's like, well, he types on this computer mostly.

And he like wears a suit, not like a construction.

He wears this like fancy suit for some reason.

And he will sometimes fly on an airplane to go meet with somebody, shake their hand, talk to them for a while, come back home and do them.

So he does these like business meetings.

Okay.

That's what I grew up.

And that's my.

So to my grandfather what my dad did kind of looked and seemed like a little bit of a joke.

And now my dad looks at me.

And he's like, you're wearing a shirt with a sheep on.

It says, I'm dilly dallying.

You're talking to your friend on this tiny screen.

You're podcasting to who, what, what is a podcast?

Do you make?

You can make like I'll still go to family gatherings and they'll be like so how do?

How do you earn money though?

And I'm like, I don't know.

How do I explain this?

Ads?

And they're like, but where and how?

I'm like, have I told you about HubSpot?

So my uncle has a CRM.

I don't know why.

But to them what we do, which is like yeah, you're talking with a spatula to a cell phone to strangers so that they can join, so that 01 of them We'll go spend 10 grand joining your membership community.

You know, like it's like, what is this?

And then you think about like what your kids are going to do.

It's going to be completely unrecognizable.

Work is going to be unrecognizable from one generation to the next is what I'm realizing.

I feel like such a fucking pussy doing it.

Our kids are just going to be like live streamers, right?

You know that girl who was like, as comments were coming in, she'd be like, woohoo, cowboy.

Every time WCowboy had a gift.

It's like, that's what our kids are going to do.

Something that seems even worse.

Or it's going to be like, yeah, I'm an AI therapist.

It's like, what do you mean?

It's like, well, I talk to AIs to make them feel better.

It's like, what?

What is that?

That's a job.

I think about your mom all the time.

Well inappropriate well, it could go either way.

I think about your mom coming to america all the time because i think about how, because the way you told the story was really good and i like i saw myself in her situation of like not having a lot, being on a plane for the first time coming to america.

We didn't speak anything, you just dropped off in berkeley, i think it was, and like you're, like what do i do?

And like i, i I felt a little, not even close, but sort of like that when I moved to San Francisco, but on a much smaller scale.

And I think about her all the time, and I think about immigrants and stuff like that who come here with nothing and I'm like and I'm complaining about this.

I'm complaining that my apartment that's already huge isn't big enough and I want more and I'm sad about it and I'm going to pay a therapist money where they can hear me complain about this.

What?

The idea of a therapist is like someone you pay money to and complain to.

It's so funny.

I just think about that.

I'm like, how ridiculous is this?

Sacagawea carried her three-month-old kid across America for two years.

For two years, she carried that kid in a piece of leather.

Yeah, but the car into place only had forward-facing car seats.

And I need four strollers?

She carried him in a leather sack without diapers. i think about that all the time i think about this stuff like on a regular basis how soft are we it's so funny because you know what's that famous uh like ernst shackleford like you know the journey will be hard people will die like that job posting what's that famous thing yeah so ernest shackleton honestly the greatest book i've ever read i think i said his first name like he's a like ernie from sesame street and then i called him shackleford what's his name shackleton is his name right or shackleford but whatever he's just like the hardest dude of all time the book Endurance probably honestly might be the top three books I've read of all time.

The story is basically in the early 1900s, when he was just in like a ship.

Without you know, power sails around to the bottom of the Arctic or Antarctica.

I forget which one.

The ship gets like so deep into the cold that the lake or the water, the ocean freezes around it.

And he walks for three months to get to like the tip of Brazil.

So here's the job ad.

No one died.

Men wanted for hazardous journey small wages, bitter cold, long months of complete darkness, constant danger, safe return, doubtful honor and recognition in event of success.

Ernest Shackleton for Burlington Street.

That's the job posting.

Dude, such a good book.

Our job posting.

Wanted.

Cardboard box cutter.

Lots of Amazon packages.

It's getting a little bit unwieldy.

In the laundry room.

Take off your shoes when you enter, please.

Bring own box cutter.

Don't have tools softer than cream cheese.

Man, i'm so soft, i pride myself in trying to be hard and it is.

There is no pride there.

It's like why do i smell like chives?

Oh, softer than cream cheese, baby.

That's ridiculous.

All right, so we started off talking about uh, dear diary Dude, the softest entry, the softest entry.

Softest entry, softest exit you'll find in podcasting history.

That's the episode.

That's the pod.

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The Architecture of Change: Why Systems Outperform Willpower

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Designing Memorable Frameworks

Reframing Success and "Local Economies"

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The Architecture of Change: Why Systems Outperform Willpower

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Systems Over Goals: The Atomic Habits Approach

Designing Memorable Frameworks

Reframing Success and "Local Economies"

Conclusion: From "Cream Cheese" to Commitment

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