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[The Science of Personality Change: Insights from Olga Khazan]-[How to be less anxious, with Olga Khazan]

Before Breakfast · B1 · 2025-03-12

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The Science of Personality Change: Can You Really Become a 'Better' You?

In this episode of the Before Breakfast podcast, host Laura Vanderkam interviews Olga Khazan, a staff writer at The Atlantic and author of the book Me But Better. The conversation delves into the scientific feasibility of changing one's personality, exploring whether traits like neuroticism, conscientiousness, and extroversion are fixed or malleable.

The Nature of Personality and the Motivation to Change

Khazan explains that personality is not merely how we appear to others, but also how we "pursue goals" and handle life's challenges. Her own journey began after experiencing a "huge meltdown" over minor setbacks—a bad haircut, poor photos, and traffic. She identifies this tendency toward being overwhelmed as a hallmark of high "neuroticism," which is associated with anxiety and depression. While genetics account for 40% to 60% of our personality, Khazan argues that the remaining portion is shaped by our environment and the systems we implement, allowing for meaningful personal modification.

Strategies for Conscientiousness

For those struggling with organization or follow-through, Khazan notes that you don't necessarily need a "huge shift in mindset" to become more conscientious. Instead, the change often follows the implementation of rigid systems. She cites examples of individuals who succeeded by creating detailed calendars, assigning time slots for tasks, and using note cards for studying. According to Khazan, "the habits come first, and then the conscientiousness kind of follows."

Addressing Anxiety and Neuroticism

Khazan addresses the common desire to reduce temperamentally anxious tendencies. While she acknowledges that antidepressants like Zoloft or Lexapro can reduce neuroticism scores, she emphasizes that mindfulness and meditation practices are scientifically "proven to bring down anxiety and depression." She describes her experience with an intensive MBSR (Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction) class, which involved 45 minutes of daily meditation. While she admits it was "challenging," she saw a decrease in her depression scores. She suggests that even five minutes of deep breathing or a "mindful shower" can serve as a "minimum viable dose" for those unable to commit to longer sessions.

The Benefits of Extraversion

Regarding the introvert-extrovert divide, Khazan highlights research showing that "extroverts are happier," even if they have a restorative need for solitude. She encourages introverts to push themselves into social situations, suggesting that signing up for a class—like the improv class she took—acts as a "commitment device." By prepaying and having others rely on your presence, you overcome the inertia of staying home, ultimately receiving the "mood boost that extroverts feel."

Conclusion: Small Changes and Daily Routines

Khazan concludes that while life stages—such as having a baby—naturally alter one's routine, intentionality remains key. She shares that she now prioritizes social interaction at least once a week and utilizes an evening routine of working out and reading to maintain mental balance. Her philosophy is grounded in the idea that we can adapt our behaviors to better achieve our goals, effectively becoming a "better" version of ourselves through persistent, small-scale lifestyle adjustments.

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