Hello, and welcome back to Advice Session. A series here on Anything Goes where you send in
your current dilemmas or anything that you want advice on, and I give you my unprofessional
advice. And then you take the advice with a grain of salt. And then we are both happy.
And today's topic is getting out of your own way. Because wow, we can really be our own worst
enemies sometimes, huh? I'm my own worst enemy all the time. Sometimes I'm my harshest critic,
just shitting on everything that I do. Sometimes I'm my biggest hater,
just unfairly shitting on myself. Not shitting on myself literally, but metaphorically. I do not
often shit on myself. Okay, so let's be clear. But also, sometimes I'm my own worst enemy
in sneakier ways, like allowing myself to self-sabotage, or convincing myself that my
bad toxic ideas are good ideas, or not standing up for myself, or allowing myself to
harbor limiting beliefs. You know, there are so many different ways that we can be our own worst
enemy. And I think to be human is to be at times our own worst enemy. It's something that we all
deal with. Let's begin. Somebody said, how do I let go of the fear of judgment?
Well, the truth is, judgment is inevitable. We're going to judge people because it's kind of like a
natural human thing to do. And people are going to judge us because again, it's a natural human
thing to do. I did research on this a long time ago, and I forget everything that I learned. But
what I can remember. Okay, so I didn't forget everything I learned. Okay, I remembered one
thing. One thing that I remembered is that it is natural to judge. In a lot of ways, it's a
protective mechanism in our brain. You know, we judge people to figure out if we want to be
friends with them, if we want to talk to them, if they're safe to talk to, if they're going to be a
good match for us when it comes to friendship or dating or whatever. There are so many reasons why
we judge. So I think that's the first thing to get comfortable with is that judgment in all ways,
in all forms, is inevitable. You judging people is inevitable. People judging you is inevitable.
Once you become comfortable with that and sort of accept that as truth, then you can take the next
step. But I think before you come to accept that, it's really hard to, I don't know, let go of the
fear of judgment. Because I think some of the most challenging fears to manage are the fears that
will come true, right? And a lot of our fears are those types of things, things that could possibly
happen to us. And judgment is a great example of that because we will absolutely be judged. In fact,
we're being judged all the time. And not always negatively, but sometimes negatively, you know,
it's different than like a fear of flying on planes, right? The likelihood of something going
wrong on an airplane is actually pretty low, right? If you look up the statistics of it,
it's very low. The likelihood of you being judged is very high. In fact, in order to avoid it,
you'd need to be in your house all the time and never leave. So again, I think the first step is
acceptance, accepting that it will happen. And it might be negative, but that that's okay. And that
no one's going to get hurt. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. It doesn't mean you're a cringe
person. It doesn't mean you're an embarrassing person. It doesn't mean you're a failure. It
doesn't mean any of that necessarily. It's just an inevitable part of being a human being. And
it's an inevitable part of doing things. Anytime you do anything in front of anyone else, you're
at risk of being judged. And I think it can be kind of comforting to think back at all the times
in your life when you have been judged, you survived it. You know what I mean? It's actually
not that bad. It's not that big of a deal. But in the confines of our mind, we can inflate certain
fears irrationally. And I think the fear of judgment is very much that. Now that's not me
saying that your fear of judgment is irrational in a negative way. That's not me sort of putting you
down and saying that's irrational. It's natural. We all do this. I've done this. We've all done
this. In the confines of our mind, we inflate fears and make them bigger than they need to be.
And I think the fear of judgment is absolutely one of those things. Because at the end of the day,
you're not going to die. You're going to be okay. Everyone's okay. And I think for me,
when it comes to my own personal fears, especially with fears that are inflated,
they're made bigger in my brain than they need to be because they're actually not life threatening.
You know, they're not life threatening. They're possible to recover from. It's important for me
to remember that I am inflating them to be scarier than they need to be in my own brain.
So step one is to accept the inevitable. And step two is to look at your fear rationally.
And then I think step three is to practice. The best way to get over a fear is to activate that
fear in yourself in your day to day life. For example, like I recently developed a fear of
flying on planes, which is so weird because I never had that before. And it's bizarre, right?
But you know what I do? I get on a plane as often as I possibly can to try to get over that fear.
And listen, am I over that fear yet? No. But every time I fly on a plane and I prove myself
wrong and I prove to myself like, this is fine. Everything's fine. This is not scary.
It gets a little bit less scary and it takes a lot of time and it takes a lot of courage.
But actively activating your fear and not running away from your fear is crucial. And so when it
comes to the fear of judgment, do the things that you're afraid of being judged for and let yourself
be judged and then prove to yourself that you don't care about judgment, that you're confident
in what you're doing and that you're going to do it anyway, and that judgment just rolls off your
back. But the only way you can prove that to yourself that you have that ability is by doing
it not just once, but over and over again. So wear that risky outfit, send that risky text.
I sound so Pinterest quotey today. I feel like very walking Pinterest quote today.
So excuse that, but send that risky text, wear that risky outfit, stand up for yourself in front
of your friends, do these things and see what happens. And the worst case scenario is that
you do get judged and that it is in a negative way, but you're going to be okay. And there is so
much to look forward to in your life in the future when you no longer fear judgment. You're
going to be more confident in yourself. You're going to be more independent in a lot of ways.
You know, like not relying on other people, other people's opinions, big risks, reap big
rewards a lot of times, you know, like in order to win big, you have to risk big. And so there's
going to be a lot of benefit that you can't even imagine now that comes with pushing through the
fear of judgment. There's a lot to look forward to and life becomes richer and better and more
exciting and more full of reward when you're not afraid of judgment. So get excited about the
future. Next, somebody said, how to take the pressure off of yourself to perform well.
I do think to a certain extent, you know, it's important to do your best, right? And I think
to set the standard for yourself, like I'm going to do my best is healthy and great,
but striving to do your best is very different than striving to perform well because sometimes
performing well means doing more than is your best. You know what I mean? Like torturing yourself
in an unhealthy way to perform well is not doing your best. Doing your best is working as hard as
you possibly can in pushing yourself as much as you possibly can within reason, you know?
So I think when someone's in a moment where they're stressed and anxious and overworked,
trying to perform well, it's important for that person to remember that doing your best is enough.
And that doesn't always mean succeeding in the eyes of others. That doesn't always mean getting
an A plus on every test. That doesn't always mean getting promoted at your job on the timeline that
you wanted to or that people expect of you. And that's okay. That's not a failure. As long as
you're doing your best, that's something to be proud of. So I think the most important thing is
to shift your mindset a bit, you know? Instead of striving to perform well, strive to do your best.
And it's really challenging because many of us are overachievers and our ego and identity is
tied up in performing well. And in order to set the new standard and say, I'm just going to try
to do my best and wherever I land is where I land is challenging. Because again, when your identity
and self-esteem and ego is all tied up in your performance, it can be really foundationally
rattling to make your new goal to do your best and then potentially fall a bit shorter than you
are used to. But that's when you need to consider how important your quality of life is.
When you're stressing about performing well, instead of just being okay with doing your best,
your quality of life is destroyed. I mean, that is a one-way ticket to a stressed out,
burnt out life. And also, our ego and self-esteem should never be tied up in our performance.
It should be tied up in our work ethic, which has nothing to do with the end result.
Our work ethic is just how we get our shit done. Somebody can have incredible work ethic
and fail all the time. In fact, there are many people who have incredible work ethic
who fail all the time. Work ethic is where your ego should lie or not even your ego,
but let's say your self-esteem should lie. The type of person that you are is where your
self-esteem should lie. Those are the most important things. How you actually perform?
Listen, it feels great to perform well. And we should strive to perform well as often as we can,
but never if it's only achieved in a toxic way. We should strive to do our best and perform well
when that just falls into place. So I think the key is to shift the mindset. I already said that
best. And then work on building your self-esteem in other areas. The type of person that you are,
the type of friend you are, the type of child that you are to your parents, the type of sibling that
you are to your siblings, the type of partner that you are to your romantic loved one.
Work on that. Find your self-esteem in that. Find your self-esteem in your work ethic. Are you proud
of your work ethic? Even if you fail, who cares? But are you proud of the way that you dedicate
yourself to what you do while still maintaining a quality of life? Those are the things that your
self-esteem should lie in. And when you set your self-esteem free from your performance,
you'll find that your sense of self is far more solid because it lies in something that you can
control. You can't always control your performance. You know what I mean? Yeah, you can, but I don't
know how you treat people and how you work. You can control the outcome of your work, how your
performance is. You can't control that really. All you can control is how hard you work on it,
but you can't control how well the ultimate performance is. Do you know what I mean?
Anyway, somebody said, how to ensure your living life to the fullest.
I think the first thing to remind yourself is there's kind of no such thing as living life to
the fullest. What does that even mean to you? What does that mean to anyone? It's very broad.
So I think the first thing to try to figure out is what does it mean to you to live life to the
fullest? What are experiences that you want to have in your life that are a priority for you?
Because for some people, living life to the fullest means traveling the world. To some people,
living life to the fullest means succeeding in their career. To some people, living life to the
fullest means having a family one day. It's very different for everyone. For some people,
it's a combination of a billion different things. It's so different for everyone,
and it can be really easy to get caught up in comparing your life to other people
and saying to yourself, well, they're living their life to the fullest because they're traveling the
world, and I'm not. So that means I'm not living my life to the fullest. Well, that might not be
what living life to the fullest means to you. So I think determining what you want to experience
in your life and what your ultimate goals are in life is one of the most important things you can
do when feeling stressed about living life to the fullest. Really talk to yourself and avoid all
bias as much as you can to determine what you want to do in your life. What are things that you
really want to do? And then from there, take the steps necessary to get closer to having those
experiences. I would say that that is what living life to the fullest is. It is working towards and
then ultimately arriving to your ultimate goals in life. So for me, for example, I want to have
a family one day. There are certain things career-wise that I want to do, maybe certain things I want
to create, I guess. And there are certain things I like to do, like certain hobbies that I really
enjoy and stuff. And so at all times, I'm working towards all those different ultimate goals, like
getting better at the hobbies that I enjoy, working towards finding a partner so that one
day I can have a family, working towards my career goals. And because I have all these things that
I'm working towards, all the things that happen on the journey to accomplishing those goals is
incredibly fulfilling. There's challenges, there's moments of hard work and hardship and all of this.
But I think when you have goals and you have a vision for what you want to experience in your
life and accomplish in your life, the journey working towards accomplishing that, experiencing
that is living life to the fullest in a lot of ways. But I think more broadly about having life
experiences and making memories and stuff like that, I do think that another key element of living
life to the fullest, and this might be controversial, so I don't know, but this is my opinion, is
finding good people and finding good people and doing fun things with them.
I do think that that is a really important element of living life to the fullest in a way,
is constantly striving to have good people around you that you can do fun things with. Because I
think living life to the fullest is a combination of having fun and making dumb ass memories in
balance with working towards accomplishing your ultimate goals, working towards experiencing your
dream experiences. That balance is, I think, living life to the fullest. And listen, again, it's so
subjective what that even means, what it means to you. I also think it's important to lower your
expectations and, or not even maybe lower them, but to create healthy open-minded expectations
about what living life to the fullest means to you. You don't need to go to the moon and date
your celebrity crush and party every night and go to the Bahamas every month to live life to the
fullest. Living life to the fullest could look far more mundane, but I think if you have good
people around and you have goals that you're striving towards, the path that those two things
will put you on will inevitably allow you to live life to the fullest. But don't worry if you're
lost right now and you're like, God, I don't even have a group of friends and I don't even know what
I want to do in the future. That's all a part of the journey as well. Most people aren't just born
with a perfect group of friends and a clear idea for the future. That stuff takes time
and it evolves and it changes. And there are times when you're goalless and you're friendless
and you're like, ah, fuck, but like a year ago I had goals and I had friends and now I'm confused
again. You'll go through cycles in your life, but I think striving to have goals and striving to
have people in your life who mean something to you, who are good to you is always good to have.
And then in moments when you do have goals that are clear and you do have those friends
and those people around you who are important to you, then you're living life to the fullest, I
guess. Somebody said, how to stop feeling bad about being behind on all things, relationships,
friendships, party experience, hangouts, et cetera. I'm scared I'm never going to be in a relationship.
And then somebody else said, I'm scared I'm never going to be in a relationship. I'm 20 and I'm
panicking about it. So I'm discussing these two at once because they're sort of similar.
I cannot stress this enough. We're all on our own journey. We're all on our own timeline.
And no one timeline is better or more right than the other. If you lose your virginity
at 40 years old, who cares? Yeah, maybe socially people are like, what? You haven't had sex yet?
I don't know. But who cares? It doesn't matter. Your journey is your own. And to compare your
journey to other people's is to take away the joy from your own journey. You're going to do
things when they feel right for you. You're going to get in a relationship when you're ready. And
when that person comes around, you're going to find deep friendships when those friendships
present themselves to you in your life. You're going to have party experience when it feels
right for you. You're going to hang out with people more. All these things will happen
eventually. I just think that we're under the impression that we have to have these experiences
by a certain age or else we're underdeveloped or something's wrong with us. No, that's like a
societal norm that has been sort of presented to us from a young age. Like, hey, this is the
blueprint. This is what happens at this age and this is what happens at this age and this is what
happens. And there's some truth to it in some ways, because a lot of people have those certain
experiences at those certain ages. But it's impossible for every single human being on the
planet to follow the same trajectory. For whatever reason, your timeline is just a little bit
different. But that doesn't mean that you're not going to experience incredible relationships,
romantic relationships. That doesn't mean that you're not going to experience incredible
friendship. That doesn't mean that you're not going to have a lot of fun hangouts or party
experiences in your future. It just means it's happening at a slightly different time. That's
all. And there's nothing wrong with that. For whatever reason, that's just the cards that you
were dealt. But it's not a bad hand of cards. It's just a different hand of cards. That's all.
And if you can remove the negative emotions around it, if you can take the pressure off of yourself
to experience certain things at certain times in your life, then you can truly just enjoy the
moment that you're in. There's something really beautiful about not having been in a relationship
yet. There's something so exciting coming soon for you. You're going to experience something
so beautiful, potentially painful, but so beautiful. Same thing with friendship. You're
grateful for the friendships that you experience in the future because you've not really found
a meaningful group of people yet. Do you see what I mean? All of these things are going to happen
for you. And instead of being like, oh, I'm stressed out that they didn't happen yet,
just be excited to experience them in the future because you absolutely will.
And another thing too is that I think the older you get, the wiser you get. And when you do have
these experiences, you do fall in love. You do get into a group of friends. You do start
going to parties. You're going to be so much wiser going into those mature activities,
the older you are, and you're less likely to make fucked up mistakes. In a lot of ways,
being farther down the timeline is actually kind of a positive thing. I think it is a positive thing
because you're entering into these situations that most people enter into when they're far
younger and far more immature and far more naive. And there's a lot of challenge that comes with
that. Are there some benefits to that too? Sure. But there's challenges with that as well.
Be grateful for where you're at. Look forward to the future and try to find beauty in the situation
that you're in. Next, somebody said, how to get things done with no motivation.
It's tough, but there are a few ways that I trick myself into getting shit done when I have no
motivation. I think one way is to reward yourself, almost like a dog. If you want to teach a dog how
to sit, you got to give them a treat after. They're not going to just sit for you whenever you ask
unless they get a treat after. Now, I feel like our brains, when we're not motivated,
is similar to a dog. We don't have the motivation to do shit unless we get a treat at the end.
When I'm having a really hard time motivating, a lot of times I'll figure out a treat to give
myself. If I get X, Y, and Z done today, at the end of the day, I'm going to go get frozen yogurt.
Or at the end of the day, I'm going to go get a drink with my friends.
Or at the end of the day, I'm going to go watch my favorite show for two hours. Or at the end of
the day, I'm going to order myself something fun online. Don't do that all the time, but maybe you've
been wanting something for a month. If you're really having a hard time motivating, being like,
if I get all this done today, maybe I'll go and order that thing. Don't become addicted to doing
that though. That's not healthy. But giving yourself a little treat at the end of it. There's
little treats. But when we're really struggling, it can be really helpful. For example, recently,
I've been really getting a lot done because I just have a lot of stuff that I have to do.
It's very easy to get burnt out and run out of motivation. What I've been doing to keep myself
excited is making really fun plans for the weekend. Like, oh, I'm going to go see a movie
at the movie theater. Even though I don't really like doing that, but people that I love like to
do that, so I will do it with them. But I don't actually like it. But at least it's something fun
that's going out, doing something. I'll go to flea markets and go vintage shopping. I'll
find a cute wine bar and make a plan to go sit at this wine bar for four hours and just drink wine
with a loved one or a friend or whoever. Making plans that make me excited for the weekend,
that just really helps me get through the week. So I think rewards, rewarding yourself,
is really important. But I also think it's important to try to be organized. It's 50 times
harder to motivate when I don't even really know what I should be doing. Do you know what I'm saying?
If I write out a clear plan of what I need to do every single day to get shit done and beyond
schedule, it's just more digestible and it's easier to motivate because you break it down and
you see it for what it is and it becomes less overwhelming and it's easy to motivate to do
small tasks that are broken down than it is to motivate to do one large task. So I think
breaking it down, scheduling it out, that just makes you realize, okay, you know what? I can do
this. You're not just looking at the finished project that you need to have done. You're like,
okay, no, no, no. To get this done, I have to do this and I have to do that and I have to do this
and that. And you know what? If I spread it out over three days, it's only a few things a day
that I actually have to do. And I think that's really helpful, sort of breaking it down. But
last but not least, I do think that when it comes to dealing with lack of motivation, I also think
too, you have to have some discipline to get up and actually get started. Once you get started,
it's a lot easier to, you know, objects in motion stay in motion, right? Once we're in motion,
once we're working, it's easy to stick to it, right? It's easy to keep working. When you're
sedentary, you're laying down, it's very hard to get up and go and do shit. So the hardest part
is getting up and starting. That is the hardest part. And if you can remind yourself of that
and say, I know this is about to be the hardest part, things are going to get easier from here.
Once I get up and start getting shit done, it'll get easier and easier. I just have to get up and
start. Set a timer for five minutes. Say, okay, in five minutes, I'm going to start. Enjoy that
five minutes and then just fucking get going. Somebody said, how to handle the feeling of guilt.
My greatest advice for this is to take the situation that you have guilt about and try
to find and extract all of the lessons that you could possibly learn from that mistake.
Get out a notebook, write it all down. Talk about it with your loved one. Talk about it
with your therapist. Do whatever you need to do. But, well, I guess your therapist would probably
just tell you what to do. So yeah, maybe just talk to the therapist. But if you don't have a therapist,
take this mistake and allow it to make you a better person and work hard at doing that.
I think, at least for me, guilt stems from a mistake that I made that I've not grown from
a lot of times. Or I've not grown from enough, maybe. It really helps to prove to yourself
that you have learned your lesson and that it is never going to happen again.
And I think why that helps with guilt is because you can replace guilt with this feeling of,
it sucks that that happened. I do feel terrible. I have remorse about it, but
it has made me a better person. And for that, I'm grateful. I also think when it comes to guilt,
it also really helps to just continue. If there's somebody that you need to apologize. In most
scenarios, when we feel guilty, we've wronged someone for the most part. Continue to say
you're sorry. Continue to communicate with the person that you've wronged as much as you can.
I guess that is not always possible, but if it is, don't hold that in. Express your apology
as much and as impactfully as you can. Obviously, it's not like you want to be calling somebody
up every day and saying, I just want to say I'm sorry again. That, I think, can become
a bit odd. But I think don't hold in your apology. Sometimes we do that. We're like,
we get nervous about apologizing or admitting our wrongs. Don't do that. Don't hold it in.
If possible, keep an ongoing dialogue about the mistake that was made.
And even at times it can make sense to ask the person who you've wronged what they think that
you can do better. Involve them in your process of becoming a better person through the mistake.
Again, only if it makes sense. And last but not least, I think you need to practice forgiving
yourself too. I think we can experience guilt even when we've apologized profusely and we've
improved and learned from the mistake. We can still find ourselves feeling guilt.
And I think that that is when we don't know how to forgive ourselves. And forgiving yourself
requires self-love. And that's something that is really challenging to acquire.
But I think it's really beneficial to figure out an effective way to forgive yourself. Whether
that's doing a journal entry. Why do I forgive myself for what I did? And you can write down,
well, because I learned a lesson and I'm better for it. I've learned so much and I'm never going
to do this again. And when I made this mistake, it was because I was naive and I didn't understand
the consequences and I just had no idea. Or I was going through a really tough time and it was just
something that I'm not proud of and I know it was wrong. Write down why you forgive yourself.
I think a good exercise could be if someone did what you did to you, why would you forgive them?
And write that down. Or talk about that with a loved one or whatever. Or a slightly different
idea would be ask yourself, if someone made the mistake that I made, what would I want
to see them change? Almost take yourself out of it for a second. And I think that can really help
you come to terms with things and ultimately forgive yourself. Somebody said, I overthink so
much. Is it possible to stop? I don't know if it's possible to stop. I don't know because I am
quite the overthinker and I have not ever stopped. But I do think that there are things that help
with overthinking. I think, number one, talking to other people. Overthinking is the worst
when done alone, when it's in the confines of your own mind. Speaking it out loud,
speaking it to other people, getting other people's perspectives can really help soothe
the overthinking. When it's just spiraling and spinning and sputtering around your brain,
there's nothing to slow it down. But when you speak the thing that you're overthinking out loud,
you almost set it free from your brain. It's almost like now you can hold it in your hands.
And then you can hand it over to the person that you're talking to and let them hold it in their
hands. You can get it under control. Another thing that really helps me is staying busy.
I overthink way more when I'm bored. Listen, sometimes boredom is amazing,
but only when you're in a good headspace. Sometimes boredom is not helpful and it's
better to almost, in a way, distract yourself. And ideally, you're distracting yourself with
something that is positive, like a hobby or getting back to work, working extra hard,
hanging out with friends, going out to dinner with your parents.
Keeping a busy schedule is so helpful for overthinkers because you don't have time to
overthink. And the truth is overthinking is rarely helpful. So to distract yourself from it
is a positive thing. There are certain thoughts that are painful that are beneficial. I would
argue that overthinking is not one. So if you can keep yourself busy, it can help you break the
cycle of overthinking because you're distracted. You don't even have the time to overthink. You
have stuff to do. So that's kind of what I do. And last but not least with overthinking,
I think building a healthier relationship with your own thoughts can really help. Finding
different ways to express yourself and express your anxieties and your fears and all the things
that you're overthinking in a way that helps to resolve them is really helpful. Some people love
journaling. Some people love meditating. Some people like talking to a therapist. Some people
like making plans and organizing things and whatever. Whatever that is for you, I think
becoming comfortable with your thoughts and finding a useful way to organize them in a way
is very helpful. And again, people find that in many different formats, journaling,
meditating, therapy, et cetera. There's so many options. So I think finding your own method is
key. But take control and figure out what helps to alleviate the overthinking that you can
integrate into your day-to-day life to try to avoid as much overthinking as possible.
All right. Next, somebody said, how to not be a people pleaser and have an actual,
consistent personality, LOL. I think that this just takes practice. In any moment when you catch
yourself not being yourself or not standing true to your beliefs, try with all of your might,
take every ounce of courage that you have in your body to fight against the urge to be a people
pleaser, to just fit in and see what happens to be yourself. Just see what happens. Now,
the first time is obviously going to be the scariest. The second time is going to be the
second scariest, but then the third time will be the third scariest and then the hundredth time
will be the hundredth scariest. And the next thing you know, it's not scary to you anymore
to just be you because you've been practicing it for months or for years or for, you know what I
mean? But it takes practice. And I think it's a matter of catching yourself in the act and
correcting it, you know, and doing that over and over and over again until it becomes automatic.
Somebody said, how does one force themselves out of their comfort zone? I really struggle with that.
I think it can be really nice to make one small goal at a time. Like, let's say your goal is I
want to get out of my comfort zone once a week for the next year. Okay. You make that your goal.
Maybe you make that your new year's resolution. Okay. Now you have a goal. I want to get out of
my comfort zone actively. I want to actively make a choice to get out of my comfort zone
once a week for the next year. Okay. Well, now at the beginning of every week, make it a ritual
to come up with some sort of new way that you can get out of your comfort zone. So let's say week
one is I'm going to wear a really bold outfit this week that I would normally be afraid of wearing.
Then the next week is I'm going to say hi to a coworker that I've never said hi to before.
Then the third week is I'm going to go to an art class, even though I'm kind of embarrassed
because I don't feel like I'm a good artist. The next week, I'm going to cook a recipe I've
never cooked before. Like every week you can come up with one thing. It's not that hard.
I think the key is to have some sort of structure because if you don't have structure, it can be
very hard. If you don't have a clear goal, it can be really hard to hold yourself accountable.
If you're somebody who really struggles with getting out of your comfort zone,
it might make sense to take a more structured approach like this. But tweak it and make it
make sense for you and your lifestyle. But I think setting clear goals is very helpful.
Last but not least, somebody says, I'm really scared to move out of my hometown.
How do I gain courage to just do it? As much as there is to fear about moving out of your hometown,
I would argue there's even more to look forward to. I mean, the new people that you'll experience,
the new restaurants, the new foods, the new landscape, the feeling of independence that
you'll experience, the maturing that you'll experience, there's so much to look forward to.
I think if you can shift your mindset and stop focusing on all the fears and shift that towards
excitement about the great things that are going to come from this, I think that is key for building
courage, is building excitement. Try to build excitement. But also, always remember that there
are so many people who have done what you're about to do. And that always makes me feel better.
Whenever I'm really afraid to do something, I'm like, wait a minute, so many people have done this.
I can do it. You're going to be okay. And you're far more self-sufficient than you think.
Turn into a positive, exciting thing, because that's what it should be.
Anyway, that is all I have for today. I hope that you all enjoyed this.
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