In the last episode, we discussed how sometimes I can be a little bit of a hater, okay?
And I say a little bit of a hater because unlike most haters, I don't seem like a hater.
I don't spread hatred.
I don't put people down.
In fact, I tend to do the complete opposite.
I'm very supportive and kind and nonjudgmental and loving.
To the naked eye, I'm a bundle of love.
but in private I can be a little bit of a hater.
Okay? And I've always sort of been that way.
Like I've always found weirdly a sense of joy in novelty in hating on things.
I've always sort of loved gossip.
Like there's just something about me that enjoys hatred.
It kind of reminds me of my relationship to nicotine.
For whatever reason, I just like nicotine.
Some people I know couldn't care less about it.
They smoke a vape, you know, smoke a cigarette, whatever, and they just never get hooked, and they just never like it, and nicotine never works for them, and they just never get addicted, and it just never happens.
I'm the opposite. For whatever reason, I've always loved it.
Okay. Does it ultimately impact me negatively?
Yes. Because having nicotine in my system makes me anxious and paranoid and it makes me dissociate.
It has a bunch of negative effects.
But in the short term, I love it.
I absolutely love it.
The way that it releases chemicals in my brain, I just absolutely love it.
And I'm prone to being addicted to it.
I feel the same way about being a hater.
Like there's just something about me that enjoys it.
And again, like it could be much worse.
Right. There are people who are haters, chronic haters who spread hate and who have a negative impact on the world.
And I really don't think that I am that.
I think I'm really good at controlling it and keeping it contained.
You know, my hater only really comes out within the privacy of my own mind and my closest friends and family.
You know, I keep it really close to the chest.
So me being a hater isn't like a worldly problem, okay?
I'm not hurting people.
I mean, maybe occasionally something gets out, like, I don't know, but like for the most part, it's really just something that impacts me.
I am the one who is ultimately being harmed by this.
In the moment, it feels fun.
I love, you know, listening to a new album that just came out, right?
Like a musical artist drops an album.
I love listening to it and fucking hating on it.
There's something fun about that.
Again, in private, but there's something fun about it.
I love when someone slightly wrongs me, and they just become my fucking enemy in private.
This person is just now my enemy.
There's something about that that I find fun.
However, it's fully against my morals and values.
Being a hater is fully against my morals and values.
I do not think it's okay.
I know it's bad, and it just happens to be something that I I am particularly prone to, which means I have to pay extra attention to the side of my brain that can quickly fall into a hater sort of rhythm.
Because I feel like our true colors and our weaknesses come out in challenging times, right?
And so for me, when everything is good in my life, it's easy for me to not be a hater.
I don't really have to check in on it.
I'm just not a hater.
But when some challenges arise, sometimes I start to become a little bit of a hater again.
I'm constantly keeping this side of myself in check, right?
And, you know, recently I discovered that I had fallen back into my hater mentality.
I just have slowly but surely gotten back to a point where I just seem to hate everything.
And for me, being a hater doesn't necessarily mean hating on people all the time, right?
I mean, there's definitely certain people that end up getting caught up in my phase of hatred, but it's like everything.
It's not just big things or specific people.
It's everything. I just become a hater.
I see everything through a hateful lens, significant and insignificant.
So I had an idea, an idea to help retrain my brain, hopefully.
Is it going to work?
I don't know. But here's my idea.
Maybe I could find some value in doing a little exercise every once in a while, A little exercise that consists of finding things that I hate unfairly, unnecessarily, irrationally, and then finding something nice to say about that thing in an attempt to sort of help to retrain my thought patterns.
Is it going to work?
Maybe, maybe not, but I thought it'd be a fun activity.
Now, listen, I feel like this activity only really works or makes sense when trying to find the positive in something that truly does not deserve to be hated.
Because there are certain things that actually deserve to be hated, right?
Like violence, injustice, hypocrisy.
You know what I mean?
Like there are things that do deserve to be hated.
I'm not going to try to find the positive in those things today.
I think it's valid and rational to hate those things.
I'm talking about like the things that I hate that like it's a waste of my energy to hate these things.
I don't know, this might be pointless.
Okay. We'll see. We'll see at the end of this if it had a positive impact on my brain or not.
And if it had a positive impact, then you can steal this exercise and do it when you're being a hater.
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I hate purses that are too small to fit your phone.
I see one of these at a store or being carried by a beautiful, beautiful person and I feel my skin start to get a little bit hot.
I really struggle to not be overwhelmed by how ridiculous the concept of a mini little purse is.
It drives me nuts. Okay.
The whole point of a bag is that you bring it with you to carry your stuff.
Now it's the 21st century baby.
And you know, we all have all the time, cell phones.
If you're carrying a little bag that can't even fit your phone, What the fuck is it there for?
And I'm seeing these designer brands come out with these teeny tiny little mini bags and it doesn't even hold a phone.
What the fuck is going on?
Now, I don't want to see any of you go back and find a photo of me carrying a super mini bag, okay?
Because if I've ever carried a super mini bag, it was against my will.
I was going to an event with a brand and they were like, hey, can you carry this bag?
And I was like, is there one that's bigger?
And the answer was no.
That is the only time.
I can't even remember if I've ever carried like a little mini bag that doesn't hold.
I know I have. I know I have because it was a huge trend and it's still a huge trend.
And so I've definitely to an event or something had to carry a really mini bag because that's what, you know, that's what product the brand wanted me to be holding when photos were being taken.
Right. There are sometimes moments when this type of stuff happens.
Um, I can guarantee that every single time I've ever had to carry a super mini bag.
I've also had another bag that was actually holding my stuff and it was being held, you know, off camera or whatever.
I just think it's ridiculous.
Okay. And it's, and it's a huge pet peeve of mine and it drives me crazy.
And I would go as far as to say that I hate mini purses hate, but now that I've let that out, let's try to find something nice to say.
for one I do love many things I actually do you know whenever I see a little video on YouTube shorts although I'm trying not to watch YouTube shorts as much anymore but when I see a little video on YouTube shorts of one of those mini kitchen cooking videos if you don't know what I'm talking about someone has this little mini kitchen okay that they like light little candles underneath the like little stove.
And they have like little water tanks or something.
Like, I don't even know how it all works, but they have all these mini little things that power this mini little kitchen.
And they cook little meals in this little kitchen with their, their big fingers are in there cooking in this mini little kitchen.
And I'm obsessed. I love that, okay?
When I was a kid, my favorite toy was any sort of mini doll, Polly Pocket, mini doll houses with, you know, mini little beds and mini little closets with mini little clothes and mini little pillows.
I love mini, okay? I am one of those people who finds joy in a mini thing.
I think things that are mini are cuter than things that are normal size.
In fact, I was at this little trendy gift shop in Eagle Rock, a very trendy shopping area in Los Angeles.
And I made my way into the kids section and I stumbled across this little brand that makes these little like matchboxes, cigar boxes, little functional boxes filled with little mini mice in little outfits.
And I bought two of them.
Okay. I bought this little cigar box that has like a little mini bed inside with two little mini mice in pajamas.
I bought this other little box that has, um, you can open it.
And then like there's a little tiny mouse that has like a little tiny surfboard.
Okay. And you can like strap its little feet into the surfboard and lean it against the box and it sort of stands up.
I bought that for my dad.
I don't even know if he's gonna want it, but I bought it for him because he's a surfer.
Is he even gonna like that?
I don't know, but I thought it was too cute.
I had to buy it because it's mini and it's so cute.
Okay, I love many things.
And a mini purse is technically a mini thing.
So in that way, I actually do think it's cute, okay?
Function aside, I think mini bags are kind of cute.
Another thing that I think is kind of nice about the mini bag is that it can be a bit humorous.
It can be sort of a conversation starter.
When you're carrying this tiny little mini bag, it is a bit ridiculous.
Everyone knows that you can't put anything in there.
And so there's actually something sort of camp about that.
Like, I'm literally carrying this little bag around and nothing fits in it.
I can at max fit like a vape and a lipstick in there.
There's something kind of funny about that, which I think could be sort of a beautiful conversation starter.
I actually fuck with that.
I love humor and fashion.
And last but not least, maybe there are some nights when you don't want to bring your phone and you just want to bring a little lipstick and a little vape.
And that's when you bring the mini bag out.
You know, maybe there is a function for some people.
For me, I never feel safe leaving the house without my phone.
But if you do, and that's how you disconnect sometimes in bringing the mini bag forces you to leave the phone at home and disconnect, you know what?
That's beautiful. I hope that there's someone out there that where that happens, you know, I really hope so.
Oh, you know, also, I think it could be kind of fun to like clip a mini bag onto a larger bag that could kind of look cool or be kind of funny.
In fact, I've actually sort of done that.
I'm now remembering an event that I went to where they were like, hey, can you bring this tiny little mini bag?
And I was like, yes, but only if I can bring the exact same bag in a larger size as well.
So I'm holding both at once.
And they were like, sure.
And I thought it was like, I don't know, silly.
Okay, so see, there's something positive about a mini little bag.
Let's move on to mushrooms.
I despise mushrooms, okay, for two main reasons.
Number one, the texture.
Bouncy, chewy, gummy, light, weird, what the fuck, like, mushrooms in my mouth, it's wrong.
It feels wrong. There's something about how, like, light and bouncy it is.
It's just, it's so unnerving to me.
So that's number one.
Number two, I hate the way a mushroom looks.
Flip that thing over, see those little lines, those little fibers underneath the top of the mushroom?
Disgusting. There's something about that texture, just the way it looks, disgusting.
You know, and I think that I'm particularly hateful towards mushrooms because I grew up a vegetarian and at every single restaurant, it feels like the vegetarian option contains mushrooms.
And it makes sense really because mushrooms are sort of a meaty kind of vegetable, you know, they have like an umami sort of flavor.
Um, they're less vegetal, more umami, which is more reminiscent of say meat, right?
Um, they're hearty in some ways.
I don't even really know because I've never eaten them, but I've heard that they're sort of heartier and, you know, restaurants love to just grill up a portobello mushroom and put it in between two buns and call it a veggie burger.
I mean, you know, restaurants just love to do that.
And so I guess maybe for me, the hatred stems from just like a pure dislike combined with constantly having it be my main option, you know?
Less so now. I feel like when I was growing up, you know, mushroom was sort of the main meat alternative, but food technology has advanced to things far more palatable.
There are a lot of fake meats on the market these days.
And so restaurants aren't really relying as much on mushrooms.
But like in the early 2000s, there was mushrooms everywhere.
It was like get out of my face.
But now I have to say something nice about them.
Well, for starters, I will say that mushrooms are really cute.
Okay. If I'm like walking through the forest, which happens sometimes, and I see a mushroom, I'm delighted.
Like when I'm looking at a mushroom from the top and I can't see the creepy fibers that are underneath, mushrooms are super cute.
And they also remind me of being a child and being obsessed with fairies who of course live in the forest and live under mushrooms.
I don't know. I see a mushroom and I think maybe there's a little fairy living in that mushroom.
and that makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside.
So in that way, I love mushrooms.
Actually, I even have some outdoor decor that are mushrooms.
I have these sort of stone mushrooms in my backyard and I love them.
I think that they're precious.
And when it comes to mushrooms being a food, I actually kind of love the way mushrooms smell.
Like if I'm walking past a restaurant that's cooking mushrooms or a house that's cooking mushrooms, I know that smell and it's delightful.
It is a delightful smell.
Honestly, I think the smell of cooking mushrooms is one of my favorite like savory smells.
It's kind of unbelievable.
So you know what? Maybe mushrooms aren't so bad after all, but I am not going to eat them ever.
Okay, moving on. I hate neon colors.
I just hate them. I think that they're hideous.
Like there's not much to say about it.
Right. I just don't like neon colors.
I think that ninety nine out of a hundred times neon colors are hideous and I don't want to look at them like clothes, cars, like plants.
like I'm never going to choose an item that's neon.
I'm always going to choose the non neon option.
Okay. If I'm buying clothes, I'm almost never going to buy something that's neon.
Probably never. I have nothing in my closet right now.
That's neon. If I'm picking out the color for a car, let's say I wanted to get something weird, right?
Like let's say I was going to go get my car wrapped, full LA style, like get a wrap.
I'm never going to choose a neon color.
Okay, if I'm landscaping my garden, I'm never going to choose flowers that bloom neon.
I hate neon. However, there is one occasion when I think neon colors are unmatched, and that is in highlighter pens.
Can you imagine if highlighter pens weren't neon?
It would just be wrong.
It wouldn't highlight.
It wouldn't serve a purpose.
When it comes to highlighting things on a page, there is nothing better for that than a neon color.
I feel like my slight affection for neon colors in this application, okay, in pen form on paper, my affection for the highlighter pen comes from when I was in high school.
And sometimes for tests, we'd be able to make a little note card that had like, I don't know, let's say it was a math test.
We were allowed to write down like formulas or notes that would help us on the test, but they had to fit on a tiny little note card.
So you only had that space.
And I would spend literally hours and hours and hours writing teeny tiny little notes so that I could fit every single note that I made the entire semester onto that little tiny note card.
And in order to clarify when a note started and ended or whatever, in order to help make the little note card more readable, of course, I had to use a highlighter pen.
And it absolutely made the little study card 10 times more readable and effective.
And I don't know, I loved having highlighters at school.
I would go through them very quickly.
I loved them. So maybe I don't hate neon colors after all.
Next, I have a tendency to hate people who have rejected me.
And I know that's normal.
Being rejected doesn't feel good.
And I think it stings the most, not because this person is no longer going to be in our lives anymore because they've rejected us, but because them rejecting us proves our suspicion about ourselves that we suck and that sucks.
Do you know what I mean?
That's I think what the worst part about rejection is.
And so if you're in a place in your life where you kind of hate yourself and then someone rejects you and confirms that suspicion, it's hard not to hate that person because that's a very negative experience.
And so when I'm at a low point and I'm in hater mode, I really hate people who reject me.
But you know what? There are some beautiful things that come from being rejected.
Number one, sometimes someone rejecting you removes someone from your life that wasn't really supposed to be in your life anyway.
You don't want people in your life who don't want to be in your life.
So if someone rejects you and then exits your life, they kind of did you a favor in a way.
And now you can focus your energy on finding people who do want to be in your life.
And that's a positive thing.
I also think sometimes rejection can force you to analyze yourself, your shortcomings, and ultimately grow as a result.
I think that's beautiful.
I think that's beautiful.
And you know, in retrospect, when I look at all the times I've been rejected in one way or another, I have no sort of regrets.
Not that it was up to me.
Usually we regret our own choices.
But in a way, you can sort of regret being rejected because you can regret maybe what you did to get rejected, or you can regret not working harder to prevent getting rejected, I don't feel that at all.
There is not one instance in my life where I've been rejected and it hasn't ended up being exactly what was supposed to happen.
Like it always sort of seems meant to be, at least in my experience.
Maybe I'm lucky, but yeah.
So I don't need to hate those who have rejected me, even though, you know, it was a bit maybe of a hit to the ego.
I think it all is actually ultimately positive in the end next i hate loud persistent noises okay when i'm cooking in the kitchen and i have to turn the fan on because whatever i'm cooking is like creating a lot of smoke or whatever probably because i'm burning it probably because i'm not that good of a cook i'm actually i'm not that bad but i'm not that good either you know uh the sound of the kitchen fan being on.
Wow. Wow. I fucking hate that.
When you're on the airplane and it's super loud on the airplane, it's like making that rumbling sound, you know, loud, persistent noises.
I absolutely hate, but you know what?
When I reflect on all of the times that I have to hear loud, persistent noises, it's always worth it with the kitchen fan.
I enjoy cooking. I really love cooking and I don't like smoking up my kitchen and breathing in all that, you know, all the cooking fumes.
And once I'm done cooking, I can turn it off.
You know, it's kind of loud and chaotic for a bit while it's on.
But then when it's time to eat, it's off and the food is delicious and everything is good.
And I ultimately was happy to have cooked myself a meal.
OK, when I'm on the airplane, it's loud.
It's persistent. But it's a privilege and a joy to travel.
And I'm always grateful to do that.
Which actually leads me to the next thing I hate, which is flying on planes.
I totally developed a fear of flying.
And it has truly caused me to form a hatred for air travel.
I hate everything about the experience.
I'm so scared. Every little bit of turbulence every little sound that the plane makes everything causes me immense anxiety and i just fucking hate the experience i hate the loud you know the loud noises i hate oh i just i there's not really anything i like about it um i don't like watching movies so like you know a lot of people are like oh well i love flying on a plane because it's the time when i get to catch up on movies.
I hate movies. There's nothing about it that I like.
The food sucks. There's nothing about it that I like.
Even if I was a billionaire, okay, and I could afford to fly on a private jet, I would hate that too.
I really hate flying on planes.
But also, it is a privilege and a joy to travel.
I do absolutely love traveling.
I'm kind of not in a phase right now where I'm enjoying traveling.
I haven't traveled in a few months, for a while there, I was traveling on like a monthly basis, constantly on a plane.
I needed a break psychologically because of my fear of flying and my hatred of flying, but also just, I don't know, like it's hard on the body.
And so I just kind of decided to take the last few months off of traveling and I'm absolutely loving it.
But traveling is ultimately an incredible thing and I'm grateful to be able to do it.
I just mentioned that I hate movies.
So let's discuss that next.
I have always had a really hard time sitting down and watching a movie.
I think mainly because there's a lot of risk in it for me.
Okay? There's a risk of turning it on and absolutely hating it.
But then feeling like, maybe it'll get better.
I should stick it out till the end.
And there's a risk that it never gets better.
And I just wasted two hours of my life.
So there's a risk that I might be wasting my time.
I also like don't love sitting down and watching something like I'd so much rather during my waking hours do something active.
Like I'd rather go on a walk, you know, And I already sit a lot in my day -to -day life.
I work sitting. I don't want to sit anymore.
So seeing a movie is not appealing to me in that way.
I also kind of feel afraid of the movie theater for some reason.
There's something about it that really frightens me.
I feel like I'm in this room with a bunch of strangers.
It's dark. It feels dangerous to me.
And I know that that's irrational, but that's another thing I sort of hate about movies or at least the movie theater specifically.
and just in general, I've always preferred nonfiction.
I love documentaries.
I love YouTube. I love real stuff.
That's just always what I've been drawn to.
I just kind of hate movies, to be honest.
But the funny thing about it is that I don't actually hate movies.
I just tend to hate the idea of sitting down for a movie for a few hours.
Like, I dread it. I don't want to do it.
If I get invited to go see a movie with somebody, I'm like, oh my God, I need to come up with an excuse.
But then when I actually allow myself to experience it, I always like it.
But I hate the idea of it.
The idea of it to me is like my nightmare.
But it always ends up being great.
And I end up seeing movies that I really like.
And even if I see a movie that I hate, there's actually joy in that as well.
Like there's something fun about it.
In fact, it's fun because I get to hate on it.
And we all know that that's something I like to do.
I don't know. I always end up actually liking the movie.
Like I always end up liking the experience.
Okay, moving on. I hate thong underwear.
I absolutely hate a thong and I wore them for years.
So don't tell me like, Emma, well, you just never got used to it.
Like you get used to it.
I got used to it. Okay.
I wore a thong for many years and I got sick of it because it's truly uncomfortable.
And it's also kind of disgusting.
Like I don't need something up my asshole.
I'm good on that. Like in all capacities, I don't ever need something up my ass like that ever.
It's just not my style.
Okay. I hate the sensation, but also I find that like thongs are super, they do have a tendency to like really just like ride up and like get lodged in there in a way that to me, it's just like, it's so uncomfortable and I feel like it's not healthy for your holes to be suffocated by a thong.
Whereas like other underwears that are maybe a bit, uh, they're, not like a thong.
So they don't really like, they don't as easily like get sucked up into your holes.
Those feel healthier for the holes.
I'm the queen of a seamless like little boy short underwear because again, I don't wear thongs anymore.
I refuse. Majority of the reason why we wear a thong is because, you know, I mean, I guess maybe some of us wear it because it's like hot and we're like feeling ourselves.
But I think a lot of times it's because there's no underwear lines.
Right. I just got to a point where I was like, this is so uncomfortable.
I can't do it anymore.
I don't even care. I need to figure out something else.
What's the alternative?
This can't be the only underwear line list option.
You know what? It kind of is.
It kind of is. And that is what I will say about a thong.
It absolutely serves a purpose.
You know, if you don't want underwear lines at all, if you want it to be smooth, smooth, smooth on the butt, you got to wear a thong.
It's the only option.
I have probably the best pair of seamless underwear on the market.
I think I've tried so many.
And even then, sometimes it'll get a little bit bunchy and you'll see the underwear lines, you know, like it's just, it is what it is.
And that's the risk that I take, but I have to put some respect on the thong.
It's either a thong or no underwear.
That's as close as you're going to get.
Um, and I've done both for multiple years at a time.
Yes. I've done, I've done thong and commando.
Okay. And I've actually brought that up in another episode recently.
The fact that I was a commando gal for a while, and I'm just wondering why I keep bringing it up.
No one really needs to know that, but I was, um, and, and the truth is, is that, you know, pants and dresses and skirts and all this, it's so nice when you're wearing a thong, but my God, it's too uncomfortable for me and I'm never wearing them again.
Moving on. I hate blush.
I really don't like blush.
I just, when it comes to makeup, it's one of those things that I just never really liked.
But more recently, I've grown to dislike it more because it's super trendy.
I feel like it's been a huge makeup trend over the last few years to like wear a fuck ton of blush.
Now, let me be clear.
I am not saying I hate blush on other people.
I don't give a fuck what makeup other people do.
Like, it really... That I don't hate.
I don't hate it on other people.
But I hate it on me.
Hate it on me. But I guess that's the positive thing about it, is that I don't hate it on other people.
In fact, I think it can look quite beautiful on other people.
But as it's becoming more popular, I'm more aware of how much I don't like it on myself.
Because every time I see it on somebody else, I'm like, oof, I couldn't I couldn't and I wouldn't.
And so, you know, I'm just more aware of it.
But yeah, you know what?
It looks incredible on some people.
And that's, like, awesome.
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I mentioned this earlier, but we're finally coming around to it.
I absolutely hate delays, changes in plan, minor inconveniences that get in the way of getting something done.
I absolutely hate these things.
To me, I love efficiency.
I love writing down a schedule for the day and just getting every single thing done.
I hate wasted time.
There's nothing I hate more than wasted time.
I'm so anal about time optimization that it's definitely toxic.
It's definitely a flaw.
But that leads me to hate minor inconveniences, delays, changes of plans.
These things get in the way of my time optimization.
They prevent productivity.
All these things that I'm sort of obsessed with in a toxic way.
And to me, you know, these things are, are, can be catastrophic.
Like I have a tendency to, when I'm in a hateful mood, run into some sort of delay, change of plans, minor inconvenience, et cetera, and just fucking lose it.
Like that is often the straw that breaks the camel's back for me.
If I were to try to find the silver lining, number one, these things are never that big of a deal.
Okay. I tend to overreact about them.
The nature of these things, they're frustrating, maybe.
They're again, inconvenient, sure, but they're not a catastrophe.
Also sometimes, not to get spiritual, but sometimes these types of things happen to change our course and it ends up being meant to be.
You know, sometimes we're just not meant to complete a task when we wanted to.
Sometimes we're not meant to go to dinner with our friends that night.
We're meant to do something else.
Sometimes your tire will go flat because for some reason you weren't supposed to leave for the road trip you were going to go on that day.
Like sometimes this stuff just happens for a reason.
And I think when we welcome minor inconveniences, delays, changes in plans, we're able to find that silver lining.
We're able to be like, oh, you know what?
Maybe this wasn't meant to be today.
And I'm actually pretty good about that when I'm in a good state of mind.
But when I'm in a hater state of mind, this type of shit really fucking sends me.
It sends me. But you know what?
It can be a beautiful thing and it can just be meant to be.
Moving on. I hate room temperature water, which sounds so fucking bratty.
Like, I only like water with ice.
But can I be honest?
I really, really don't like the taste of room temperature water.
It makes me nauseous.
And I really, really love a crisp, ice cold water.
And I really, really don't like drinking water without ice in it.
To me, it's gross. And to me, I hate it.
And one of my pet peeves is when I'm at a restaurant and they don't bring me ice with my water.
And again, I know I sound like a brat.
I sound like a total fucking brat, but that's just how I feel.
But you know what? I will say, if you need to get water down the gullet fast, if you need to drink water fast, if you're dehydrated and you just want it, well, if you're dehydrated, you shouldn't drink water fast.
I've done that before and like almost thrown up.
But if you want to chug water for some reason, room temperature water, you can guzzle.
Ice water, you have to sip.
You do. And it sometimes hurts the teeth.
It's hard to guzzle, you know, I mean, it's delicious.
In fact, it's like making me crave it.
I have my Stanley cup over here.
Let me just have a sip of my water.
Oh, it's absolutely ice cold.
I'm actually drinking some sparkling water with some apple cider vinegar in it.
It's so sour today.
Really put a lot of vinegar in there.
I feel like my teeth are just like corroding from every sip that I drink because of how much vinegar is in there.
But I couldn't chug that if I tried.
I mean, the vinegar and the carbonation doesn't help either, but it's so cold.
You can really just chug room temperature water.
And for that reason, I actually think that it's quite beautiful.
Okay, next. I'm not trying to be petty here.
I'm not trying to pick a fight.
I'm not a big fan of Starbucks.
Okay, I'm not going to say I hate Starbucks.
Okay, that's a little bit extreme.
Because I don't think I hate Starbucks.
I did in the past, but I think more recently I've tried to change my mindset and I don't hate Starbucks anymore, but I don't love it.
Right. And I'm somebody who's really into coffee.
So, you know, understandably so I'm critical of, of these massive coffee chains because I'm like, this is a product that I really love.
I guess I'm just extra judgmental.
Listen, here's why perhaps I dislike Starbucks, okay?
I think the plain coffee, right?
Like getting like a classic latte with almond milk or getting like a classic matcha, you know, they're simple drinks.
They're classic espresso drinks that don't have a bunch of syrup and don't have a bunch of sugar and don't have a bunch of whipped cream and don't have a bunch of, you know, cookie crumble shavings.
It's not great. It's not super high quality.
do I blame them? Not necessarily, they're in mass, like they're massive.
And when things are that large, like when you scale your business to that size, like understandably, you know, the quality is just not going to be as good.
You know what else I don't like about Starbucks?
I don't like the decor, the aesthetic.
I really, I don't love it.
I feel like Starbucks used to have sort of a charming, like kind of hipstery, cutesy sort of aesthetic.
And it feels very corporate and very like kind of beige to me.
I don't know. Like I get it.
Okay. I get it. Starbucks.
Don't. I'm about to say something.
I'm about to find something nice to say about you.
So don't like, don't hurt me.
Okay. Or my coffee company.
Luckily for you guys, Starbucks, my coffee company is not a threat to you.
Okay. I'm not on your coattails.
So y 'all don't need to worry about me.
All right. We have one cafe.
We're in grocery stores, but we're not impeding on your shelf space.
So we're good. But you know what I fucking love about Starbucks?
A few things, actually.
I came up with a few things.
Number one, the fucking egg white bites.
I absolutely love and adore the Starbucks egg white bites.
Okay. Egg white, red pepper, yum.
I've tried to make them at home.
Could never even get close.
Okay. Want to know why?
Because Starbucks does it right.
And no one will ever compete.
Whoever developed that recipe, I hope that they're fucking retired and living in the Bahamas now, okay?
They should never work another day in their life.
People who create good things should then retire and live their life in peace, okay?
So I really hope whoever developed the recipe for the Starbucks egg white bites, I really hope that you're relaxing and I hope that you're living in a house in the Bahamas and I hope that you don't have internet and I hope that you're disconnected And I hope that every day is a fucking joy for you because my God, you deserve it because you have done a public service.
Okay. Every time I'm in the middle of nowhere, which happens more than you'd expect.
Okay. I'm on a road trip.
I'm traveling. I'm at the airport.
I'm, you know, whatever.
I'm in the middle of like Los Angeles and I'm not familiar with the area.
And I have no, there's always a Starbucks and there's always egg white bites.
I know that whenever I'm hungry, I can find a fucking Starbucks and get the goddamn egg white bites and be full and have protein.
I love the egg white bites and I love that I can get them whenever I want.
They're always there.
I get two orders. So that means four egg bites in total.
And I get three sriracha packets and I eat my little egg bites with my little sriracha and it's just good.
It's just good. When it comes to fast food in a pinch, that's what I'm going to get.
It feels healthy enough.
I don't feel like shit after I eat it.
It's just, it's great.
Thank you, Starbucks.
If you need help redesigning all of your cafes, just call me.
Like, I know that I also have a coffee company, but for the love of God, you know, I love this stuff, so give me a call.
My rate is very expensive though.
I'm just kidding. Okay.
Moving on. I absolutely hate sitting in an appointment for a long time.
There are so many different types of treatments that are popular these days.
Hair, nails, eyelashes, eyebrows, waxing, laser, infinite appointments.
And there's nothing I hate more than an appointment that is like four hours long.
And let me tell you, I find myself sitting in some long appointments.
Okay? Mainly, for me personally, my hair and my nails.
Those are the two things that I love having done so much that I'm willing to sit through a really long appointment.
But there's nothing I fucking hate more.
Okay? Sitting in a long appointment.
For some reason, I always get gas in a long appointment.
I'm like sitting still and my stomach always ends up hurting after like hour three.
My stomach's just killing me.
I like need to fart.
Can't because I'm stuck sitting and also there's people around.
My tailbone and back always hurt during a long appointment.
My legs are asleep.
I get up. I'm like wobbling around.
I always start to feel sick after sitting in a long appointment for a long time.
It's just horrible.
Like whenever I go to get my hair bleached, it takes so long and it's just like exhausting.
It's so exhausting and I absolutely hate it.
And same thing with getting nails done.
Like I actually think it's fun to get like complex, you know, nails done.
There's obviously like standard nail designs, like just getting like a classic nail done with like, you know, a simple color, or you can do something more complex. You can get nail art, you could get like unique shapes, you could get, you know, your nail beds cleaned really well.
And that sometimes adds like an hour or two.
Like there's a lot of different things that you can add to your nail appointment that will add time.
I would love to do those things.
Like I'd love to like, you know, maybe get a more sort of complex sort of manicure in some way.
I'm not like the biggest nail art girl.
I prefer more maybe subtle nail art, but like a little bit of it is kind of fun and I think can be timeless and cool and versatile, but it just takes too long.
And I don't want to sit at the nail salon, you know, once a month for like four hours getting my nails done.
Like I can't handle it, but the result, the result is so rewarding.
Like in the case for me, I absolutely love having my nails done.
I absolutely love having fun hair that I enjoy styling.
And a lot of times that requires a long hair appointment.
Again, right now my hair is bleach blonde and very short.
I have to go in once a month to get it re -bleached, to get it cut short again.
It's a very high maintenance hairstyle, but sometimes that's sort of the sacrifice you have to make.
A little bit to torture sitting in a chair for fucking four or five hours for the sake of self -expression, for the sake of self -care.
And for the rest of the month, when my hair and nails are done, I feel a little bit more beautiful.
I feel a little bit more cool.
I have a little bit more fun styling clothes because my hair and my nails match the outfit.
You know what? In that way, it is worth it.
And maybe I'll start getting more complex nails done, but I don't know, maybe not.
Okay, moving on. I hate the talking stage of romantic relationships.
You know, the phase when you're overthinking every single little thing that you say to the person, you're nervous every time you hang out with them, you're not really showing your full personality because you're too scared and you don't even know how, and they're not showing their full personality and it's a little bit tense and it's a little bit uncomfortable.
Like you don't really know how to read the other person.
So you're constantly like worried that maybe you did something wrong or that they like don't like you anymore.
You don't know if they're taking it seriously.
You don't know if they like want this to be something that lasts long or short.
And it's just a mess the talking stage i fucking no i absolutely hate it it's miserable for me um i really don't like like some people love it like really find it exciting and fun and exhilarating and whatever you know like the physical chemistry is more explosive because it's new and exciting i personally don't like it there's nothing worse than when you've been talking to somebody a little you've not had any like physical, you've not been sort of romantic with them yet.
And you're like, oh my God, now there's all this buildup.
Like when's it going to happen?
And then you like start to get in your head and you're really nervous about it.
And then it happens and it's either really good and you click really well, or it's like, Ooh, that was actually not as great as I wanted it to be.
And the whole thing is like so high stress and you can't get anything done in your life because you're focusing on this person.
It's like all consuming.
I hate it. You know, I do always sort of look back at it fondly.
In the moment, I despise it.
But when I look back, it's always one of the most beautiful romantic times of a relationship.
When I look back at all of my exes, every single one, the beginning was the most special.
And then it got progressively less special.
I don't know. Like when it comes to remembering my exes, the fondest memory I have with every single one is the beginning stage when it was new and it was exciting.
And I think the goal, at least for me, is to eventually be with somebody where the fondest memories go beyond that beginning stage that is sort of magical, but also horrible.
It's actually horrible in the moment, but it is sort of magical.
You know what I'm saying?
I don't know. Yeah, that's my goal.
My goal is to have good memories with somebody that happen after that phase.
I don't want the sort of sweet memories to end, but that is sort of the positive silver lining of that uncomfortable time is that for whatever reason, it's a fond memory, even though in the moment it's so stressful it's so overwhelming it's so all -consuming it's like exhausting but it is kind of a sweet memory whistle while you from disney on march 21st the magical tale snow white snow white snow white that started it all i believe you're looking for me arrives in theaters magic mirror on the wall Experience the Disney classic.
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Next, I just absolutely hate itchy wool sweaters.
I cannot stand the feeling of itchy clothing.
I mean, I guess I could just say itchy clothing in general, but especially itchy like wool sweaters.
the feeling of itchy wool it's actually shocking to me that they even make clothing that's itchy anymore like it makes sense to me that like i don't know a hundred years ago there wasn't as many options and like clothes were just itchy you know that was just sort of the way it was have we not evolved past that point okay i have wool sweaters that are not itchy i know it's possible in fact i'm wearing a beanie right now as i'm recording this um because it's a little chilly in my house.
So I'm wearing a little beanie cause it feels kind of warm and good, but I've been wearing the beanie for a few hours and it's getting so itchy on my head and I want to take it off, but my hair is going to look terrible and I'm just, I don't want to, but my head is just, I'm itching.
Oh my God. My head is itchy.
Oh my God. My head is absolutely itchy.
Yeah, I hate the itch But I will say though I don't know why this is Itchy sweaters are always the cutest Itchy beanies are always the cutest Like, you know, the chunkiest, cutest Most, like, luxurious looking knit Is always the itchiest I don't know why it is I can't tell you how many times I've been shopping in store And just, like, looking around Looking around, looking around and I see a beautiful sweater.
I'm like, wow, that is the most beautiful sweater I've ever seen.
It has like this incredible texture.
It has little things poking out of it, like little pieces of fabric.
It just is so beautiful.
Everything about it, texture, color, blah, blah, blah.
It looks luxurious.
It looks high quality.
I walk up, too itchy, too itchy.
I can't tell you how many times I've seen a scarf and I'm like, oh my goodness, this scarf.
I mean, this is just an incredible scarf.
It's the most incredible I've ever seen.
the bright color, the dynamic texture.
Let me try that thing on.
Try it on too itchy.
Can't do it. I feel like my sweater collection would be so top notch if I wasn't as uncomfortable in an itchy sweater.
Now it's one thing to have a physical aversion to something.
I hate how itchy wool sweaters feel.
I think a lot of people probably do.
That's fair, right?
That's a fair, rational thing to not like.
But I think for me, it's sort of irrational.
I hate itchy sweaters.
And I think what makes me hate itchy wool sweaters is the fact that every single time I see a sweater that I really like, I go up and I touch it.
And there's a 99 % chance that it's going to be itchy and unwearable.
And that's just such a shame to me and makes me wonder, how have we not figured out a way to eliminate the itch permanently?
Why are we still selling clothing that's itchy?
I hate that. That is something that I hate.
It makes me angry. But again, you know what?
They are beautiful garments, and the silver lining is that other people wear them who don't mind the itch, and I can enjoy it on them.
I'll enjoy them on other people.
Moving on, I hate when people aren't self -sufficient.
What's a good example?
Let's say your friend's car breaks down and they call you and they're like, hey, dude, my car broke down.
What do I do? It's like, I don't know.
Google it. You don't need to call me and ask me what to do.
You can Google it. Or let's say you're really good at something or really into something like let's say like let's say I'm really into skincare right and then one of my friends is like oh my god like I've been really wanting to get into skincare what products do you use and you're like oh yeah fuck yeah let me send you all these products so you send all the links and then you know they're like oh oh well how do I use them and then you explain and then like a week later they're like oh wait I've been thinking about this product and they send a photo of it they're like do you know anything about this one
you're like no and then they're like oh well can you let me know if it's any good?
Okay. At that point, you need to just start doing your own research.
Do you get what I'm saying?
Like there's certain people who they're just their personality is, they just don't do things on their own.
They don't, they like, I am very sparing about when I ask people for advice or for help, I wait until it's kind of an emergency or like this person, I I've Googled it.
I've tried to use my resources.
I really just need help from a person.
And then I go and I get help.
But there's certain people that just want everyone else to help them through the world.
And that is something that I hate because, you know, I try to be sparing and intentional about how I use other people's time.
And I would hope that people would do the same for me.
And so when they are not self -sufficient and just start like realize, oh, this person like, you know, knows how to figure shit out.
Like, I'm just going to start going to this person.
And it's like, no, I'm self -sufficient because I just know how to fucking Google something.
Or like, I'll watch a tutorial, I'll figure something out, you know?
And I'm not even the most self -sufficient person.
Like there are people in my life who are way more self -sufficient than me, but like I'm self -sufficient enough and self -aware enough where like, I don't abuse it.
And there's just certain people who do.
And that's something that really bothers me.
However, number one, these people aren't bad people.
Okay, so let's be loving, Emma.
Let's be loving. These people aren't bad people, okay?
They're not trying to be inconsiderate.
They're not evil. Just for whatever reason, they're not self -sufficient, okay?
Everyone has flaws.
I have shortcomings, and so I should be accepting of others because this is not the worst possible trait that someone could have.
This isn't that harmful, you know what I mean?
So that's sort of, you know, maybe something nice to say.
What else? You know, helping people feels good.
Maybe another silver lining is that people who are not self -sufficient need help and helping people feels good.
Maybe, I don't know.
Okay, next, I really hate loud cars.
I hate when people drive through the street and they just absolutely with their car and it happens all the time in Los Angeles And it's often so loud and startling that like I will jump and I fucking hate it.
Okay, I just think it's obnoxious.
I think it's unnecessary and I don't get it.
But you know what? I'd like to believe that when the car makes the loud sound like that, it does make the driver of the car happy.
If you know what, I'm going to choose to believe that it brings the driver so much joy that their day is made every time they with the car really loud.
If it brings somebody else joy, then I'll try to find joy in that myself.
Okay. Yeah. Maybe moving forward, when I hear that sound, I can say, you know what?
The person driving that car is having fun.
Yeah. That feels nice.
I think that's something nice.
That's nice. Moving on, I hate high heels.
I do think that there's something wrong with the anatomy of my foot.
Like I think my arch is too high on my foot.
I physically can't wear high heels without being unable to walk within an hour, blisters, back pain, foot pain.
So listen, do I kind of hate high heels for a rational reason?
Yes. But I even see other people wearing them and I'm like, oh my God, why are you wearing those?
It's so uncomfortable.
Take those off. What are we doing?
You're out to dinner.
Take them off. Why are you hurting yourself?
I hate them because I've experienced so much pain from them that now I just hate them every time I see them.
Whereas with blush, right?
Like I see blush on other people and I'm like, you do you.
But I see high heels on other people and I'm like, why are we doing this?
What if we all collectively took them off?
You know, they're so uncomfortable.
They also are kind of chuggy, but like I kind of think a high heel is a little bit chuggy, like a fucking stiletto.
To me, it's a little chuggy.
It feels kind of like, I don't know.
There's something about it that's a little chuggy to me, like a little kitten heel.
Cute, you know? I don't know.
A full -on heel, there's something about it.
It just makes me cringe a little bit.
From an aesthetic standpoint, I don't think it really looks that ...
The shoe itself is kind of ...
It's hard to style it in a way that is, to me, not chuggy.
Have I done it? Absolutely.
But do you want to know why I've done it?
Because the one high heel silver lining that i can think of is that sometimes it's just what an outfit needs to make the leg look good a high heel can really change the entire silhouette of an entire outfit so it does serve a purpose sometimes but i do ultimately hate them and my stylist jared knows every time he puts me in a high heel that i'm going to complain about it every single like little red carpet event i go to the heel gets a little bit shorter because he's like i just can't hear emma complain anymore um okay let's move on okay this is gonna be controversial and I just can't wait for somebody
to cancel me for this or something but I have a hard time see I'm being so gentle and like and like media -strained I have a really hard time with when um certain people copy me now I don't care about being copied for the most part you know especially because I'm on the internet and if like somebody sees something that I do and is like, oh, I want to do that.
And you know, they're a consumer of my content.
I'm like, that's great.
Copy me all you want.
But there are certain times when I hate when people copy me.
I'm going to be honest.
Okay. I'm not saying it's right.
I'm not saying that, you know, this is morally fair, but I'm just being honest that this is something that I hate.
I hate when, you know, perhaps a peer copies me.
I can have a really hard time with that.
I also have a hard time with when a friend copies me a lot.
Like it's one thing, listen, I copy my friends.
Okay. When you're around somebody enough, you just start to absorb their personality traits.
It's inevitable. But there's a difference between that and like intentional copying to a point where it's like, oh my God, I don't have anything of my own anymore.
There's nothing that's just mine left because I'm being copied so much.
Um, and I know it sounds petty and rude and like whatever but I've always kind of had a hard time with it and I think it's because I feel like it's detracting from me like if I do something that feels like a personal expression of myself and then someone else who's sort of close to me or is maybe even a peer who's maybe like in the same sort of space as me career -wise or whatever like copies me directly.
I'm like, come on, man.
Like let's all, we can all kind of do something similar, but like, let's all kind of do our own thing.
Because to me, I feel like threatens my feeling of individuality and which, which, again, is that like, is that wrong?
Maybe, but it's something that I've always hated.
It's always really bothered me and made me angry and I've always hated it.
And I think too, there's part of me that's like, oh my God, if somebody gets praise for something that they like directly ripped from me, that kind of bums me out.
But then that's also it's like, Emma, you don't need any more praise.
You fucking like narcissistic freak like chill out.
Listen, I'm not saying it's right.
I'm just saying it's the way it is.
I don't like being copied by certain people.
There are certain people that trigger me when they copy me.
Okay. However, this is actually really a sweet thing and I should be a bit more graceful, okay?
Number one, it's the highest form of flattery when somebody copies you.
Highest form of flattery, they must love it, right?
It's a compliment. It doesn't feel like a compliment because I sort of feel like, oh my God, I've been ripped off, but it ultimately is a compliment.
it. But also the truth is no one can really fully copy anyone else unless you like fully like let's say you are an artist and you painted a painting and then somebody literally screenshots it and starts selling prints of it like that's different.
But copying in the way that I'm saying like making a podcast episode with this exact same title and basically making the exact same episode but you know, maybe there's a few differences, but it's pretty much exactly the same.
That person's rendition is always going to be a little bit different.
Okay. Let's say I start wearing a lot of black and white stripes.
And then one of my friends starts wearing a lot of black and white stripes.
And then I, you know, get a new car and then they get the exact same car.
And then I start saying a certain like phrase.
And then my friends start saying the certain phrase and then, and it starts to build up.
Yeah. They're technically, you know, kind of copying me in a way, but also the beauty of us as individual people is that even when we copy each other, we never fully can copy each other because we're all unique.
You know what I'm saying?
So there kind of is no such thing.
There actually is no threat there, but you know, you can feel sort of threatened in a way by that or frustrated or ripped off, but it's actually not.
And you know what? That's sort of beautiful.
So next, I hate being spoken to when I'm in a quiet mood.
Like some days I just want to go to hot yoga, go to the grocery store and not talk to anybody.
And sometimes people talk to me and I really, really hate it.
And I feel kind of bad because I'm like, Emma, you're evil.
You know, why don't you want like, come on, be a human being, get yourself in the mood.
But when I'm not in the mood to talk and people talk to me, it's really I really hate it I absolutely hate it because there just are sometimes when I don't have the energy and I don't I don't I just don't have it in me but you want to know what it's actually a beautiful thing anytime a stranger talks to you why because number one for whatever reason you felt inviting to them and that is such a wonderful compliment also community and connection with other human beings is so important.
Honestly, probably the most important when one is feeling like a hater.
So perhaps sweet conversation could change a hater's perspective.
I think there's something kind of beautiful about that.
Next, I hate oversleeping.
It really ruins my day.
Okay? Like if I oversleep, the rest of the day for me is ruined.
I'm out of whack. I'm not motivated.
I feel like there's not enough time in the rest of the day to get anything done.
When I'm in a hateful place, oversleeping will literally ruin my day immediately.
Waking up, it's 9 .30 a .m.
I've overslept. My day is ruined.
Now I hate my life for the rest of the day.
But you know what the truth is?
Number one, you can always turn around a late start.
Oversleeping is not the end.
It's not the end of the day.
The day is not ruined.
That is not true. So that's one positive thing.
Another positive thing is that sometimes your body just needs it, you're exhausted, and you're actually going to be more productive for the rest of the day because you overslept and you're well -rested.
And I guess, last but not least, there's always tomorrow.
Wake up early tomorrow.
You know, this is just one day.
Try again tomorrow.
And last but not least, I hate when people are overly nice.
It really fucking pisses me off.
Like I have a really hard time with people who are almost like sickly sweet, you know, like positive to a point where it's like, oh my God, are you even like being a real, are you even a real human being?
Like, do you even mean any of this?
Like, how is this even possible?
Like, is it even possible to be this positive?
Seems a little bit too good to be true to me.
To me, somebody who's like really positive, overly nice is lying, is faking, is hiding something.
But you wanna know what?
These types of people are harmless.
And they're actually, their impact on the world is probably very positive.
These are not harmful people.
These are not the people to hate.
but for whatever reason I'm more bothered by people who are overly positive overly nice because there's just something about it that to me feels sinister and and I just hate it but it's not fair because they're not doing anything wrong and they're probably happier than I am maybe not okay I'm done that was me trying to say something nice about things that I hate.
I do not feel like this activity changed my life.
I can't even say that this activity changed my perspective.
Okay. So am I going to recommend this exercise to you?
No. Actually, you know what?
It, it, it was kind of a positive exercise.
I think it would actually be fun to do this with someone else.
Like maybe if you are going to do this, do this with one of your hater friends.
If you're a hater, it's fun because you get to sort of vent about what you hate, which is really kind of cathartic for us haters.
But then you counteract it with something positive.
And I don't know, we'll see in the following days whether or not this exercise sort of got me into the routine of finding the positive in things that I dislike.
I actually think that there's a chance that it might.
Can I guarantee it?
No, I can't. but I hope it does.
That would be great.
So maybe give it a try.
If you don't, that's fine.
That's all for today's episode.
You know what? It was one of the stupidest ones I've ever made.
Actually, Emma, stop.
I'm trying to stop you.
See, that was hateful.
That was hateful. That was me hating on myself.
Okay? No, it was not one of the stupidest ones I've ever made.
Perhaps it was experimental.
You know, I've never made an episode like this before.
I came up with my own exercise to help with one of my issues.
So it was experimental, but it was not stupid.
Experimenting is good.
Anyway, I need to make myself a little matcha or something.
I'm getting the afternoon sleepies.
It's 1 .30 PM. I'm feeling afternoon sleepies and I need a little matcha.
Okay. I think that'd be good for me.
So I'm going to go make that.
But thank you all for listening and hanging out as always.
It's a pleasure. I truly adore and love you all.
And when we hang out, it's fun.
So come hang out on Thursdays and Sundays, new episodes on Thursdays and Sundays.
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And that's all I have for today.
I love you all. I appreciate you all.
And I don't hate you, I promise.
I actually am kind of feeling less like a hater already.
So maybe this is really good.
Maybe things are looking up.
All right, I'll talk to you later.
Bye.
