Are you ready for this?
It's a conversational podcast style fluency practice.
We're going to continue the topic that we covered in the last two lessons.
This is part three of this little mini-series.
Let's do this.
Let's practice speaking English.
Repeat after me.
Can I ask you something?
Of course.
What's on your mind?
What's on your mind?
What are you thinking about?
Whose opinions really matter to you?
Who do you value for their opinions?
For me, it's definitely the people who genuinely care about me, genuinely care about me.
Say that.
My close friends and family.
They're the ones who love and support me no matter what.
No matter what.
What does that mean, no matter what?
Regardless of the circumstances.
Unconditionally.
Unconditionally, no matter what.
Exactly.
Sometimes it feels like we put too much stock in.
We put too much stock in.
What is that?
Put too much stock in.
We place too much importance on.
We place too much importance on what strangers or those who barely, hardly know us think.
So we place too much importance on what others think.
We put too much stock in what strangers think.
You got that?
All right.
That's so true.
Honestly, it can be exhausting.
Why should someone who hardly knows me, barely knows me, have such a big impact on my emotions.
That's a solid point.
That's a solid point.
Just think about it.
If we only focused on the opinions of those who truly understand us and want the best for us, wouldn't that make us feel lighter and happier?
Maybe.
Absolutely.
It's like a huge weight would be lifted.
It feels as though a heavy burden has been removed.
So I just rephrase that.
It's like a huge weight would be lifted.
It feels as though a heavy burden has been removed.
And you know what?
Most people are usually too caught up in their own lives to even notice us.
Caught up in.
When you're caught up in something, you're absorbed into it.
So they're too absorbed in their own lives.
They're too caught up.
That's all they think about.
Most people are usually too caught up in their own lives to even notice us.
I'm going to say that again.
Most people are usually too caught up in their own lives to even notice us.
You say it.
So true.
People tend to be wrapped up in their own concerns, not ours.
They're wrapped up in their own concerns.
People often become preoccupied with their own issues.
Wrapped up in their own concerns, preoccupied with their own issues.
So, instead of stressing over what others think, instead of worrying about what others think, instead of stressing over what others think, why not shift our attention?
Shift our attention, change our focus.
I'm going to say that again.
So instead of stressing over what others think, why not shift our attention?
You say it.
Ask yourself, how can I help someone today?
How can I add value to others?
That's a good thing to be asking yourself.
How can I add value?
How can I contribute?
When we concentrate on being kind or helpful, we stop worrying about others and what people might think.
It's a win-win situation.
It's a win-win situation.
You win, I win, we both win.
It's beneficial for everyone involved.
If something is beneficial for everyone involved, it's a win-win situation.
Exactly.
And you know what could help even more?
You know what?
I'm going to say this sentence.
And you know what could help even more?
Building confidence in ourselves.
Exactly.
And you know what could help even more?
Building confidence in ourselves.
Oh, absolutely.
Confidence comes from within.
Confidence comes from within.
True confidence originates internally, not from how others perceive us.
So rather than depending on others' perceptions, I complicated it.
I took an easy sentence and gave you a difficult one.
It grows from understanding and accepting who we are.
Yes, there are simple ways to boost that confidence.
For instance, keep a journal of your small victories every day.
That's a good idea.
Keep a journal of your small victories every day.
It's amazing to look back and see how much progress you've made.
You have made.
See how much progress you've made.
Yeah, it's amazing to look back.
Look back at your journal and you can see all those small victories.
Also, spend time doing things you love.
It reminds you that your happiness doesn't hinge on others' approval.
A hinge, a door has a hinge.
It's the part that moves, a door hinge.
But this hinge on is a phrasal verb that means depend on.
So your happiness doesn't depend on, hinge on, other people's approval.
Other people's approval, other's approval.
Okay, I'm going to say that again.
You can say it with me if you like.
Also, spend time doing things you love.
It reminds you that your happiness doesn't hinge on other's approval.
Another helpful tip is to set boundaries.
Another helpful tip is to set boundaries.
To set boundaries is to create clear rules about what you will do and what you will not do, what you will accept or not accept.
That's better.
I accept this.
I do not accept this.
This is my line.
It's a clear boundary.
If someone demands too much of you, it's perfectly okay to say no.
It's perfectly okay.
That means no problem.
It's okay to say no.
It's perfectly okay to say no.
For sure, saying no doesn't mean you're selfish or rude.
It simply shows you value your own time and energy.
Okay, I'm going to say that again.
For sure, saying no doesn't mean you're selfish or rude.
It simply shows you value your own time and energy.
Another great step is to focus on actions rather than thoughts.
Do what you love without letting worries about others' opinions hold you back.
Always remind yourself, I can't please everyone, and that's perfectly fine.
Because it really is, because it really is perfectly fine.
I can't please everyone and that's perfectly fine.
Say that.
At the end of the day, we can't control how others think, but we can control our reactions.
Oh, this is such an important thing.
Let's say it again.
At the end of the day, we can't control how others think, but we can control our reactions.
Let's say that again.
At the end of the day, we can't control how others think, but we can control our reactions.
Living life on our own terms is the greatest gift we can give ourselves.
So, here's a challenge for everyone.
Today, take a small step toward doing something you enjoy without worrying about anyone else's opinion.
That's a challenge for you today.
Today, I want you to take a small step toward doing something you enjoy without worrying about anyone else's opinion.
Don't worry about anyone else's opinion.
Maybe it's dancing in your room.
Wearing that outfit you love or saying no to something you don't want to do.
I don't want to do that.
I'm going to go to my room and I'm going to dance and I'm going to wear that outfit I love.
That was a crazy image I just painted in my mind.
Maybe it's dancing in your room, wearing that outfit you love or saying no to something you don't want to do.
And remember, every little step counts.
Every little step counts.
You deserve to live a life that brings you joy.
And that's it.
That is the conversation.
It's like let's do this like a podcast and me and you, you and I, we are the announcers giving up like a presentation and we'll just go back and forth from each slide, each screen that pops up.
First i'll say it, then you say it it's, there's no colors, so just the next screen.
You say i'll say a screen, you say a screen.
That's how we'll do it.
Okay, here we go.
I'll go first.
Can i ask you something?
Whose opinions really matter to you?
They're the ones who love and support me, no matter what.
Now, that should have been you.
I know, it's a little weird.
Just roll with it, baby.
You're the next one.
Ready?
Go.
Hmm.
Yes, yes, yes, yes.
That's so true.
Honestly, it can be exhausting.
Why should someone who hardly knows me have such a big impact on my emotions?
Just think about it.
If we only focused on the opinions of those who truly understand us and want the best for us, wouldn't that make us feel lighter and happier?
So true.
People tend to be wrapped up in their own concerns, not ours.
Ask yourself, how can I help someone today?
How can I add value to others?
Exactly.
And you know what?
You know what could help even more?
Building confidence in ourselves.
Yes, there are simple ways to boost that confidence.
Also, spend time doing things you love.
It reminds you that your happiness doesn't hinge on others' approval.
For sure, saying no doesn't mean you're selfish or rude.
It simply shows you value your own time and energy.
Always remind yourself, I can't please everyone and that's perfectly fine because it really is.
Living life on your own terms is the greatest gift we can give ourselves.
Maybe it's dancing in your room, wearing that outfit you love or saying no to something you don't want to do.
Yes.
Way to go.
All right.
Let's try that again.
Let's switch roles.
I know it's not perfect, but it's fun.
It's good English speaking practice, right?
Don't worry about the speed.
Try to say it with as much emotion and feeling as you can, okay?
All right.
I'll give you plenty of time to say it.
Go.
Of course.
What's on your mind?
Hmm.
For me, it's definitely the people who genuinely care about me.
My close friends and family.
I should have said that, huh?
Exactly.
Sometimes it feels like we put too much stock in what strangers or those who barely know us think.
That's a solid point.
Absolutely.
It's like a huge weight would be lifted.
And you know what?
Most people are usually too caught up in their own lives to even notice us.
So instead of stressing over what others think, why not shift our attention?
When we concentrate on being kind or helpful, we stop worrying about appearances and what people might think.
It's a win-win situation.
Absolutely.
Confidence comes from within, not from how others perceive us.
It grows from understanding and accepting who we are.
For instance, keep a journal of your small victories every day.
It's amazing to look back and see how much progress you've made.
Another helpful tip is to set boundaries.
If someone demands too much of you, it's perfectly okay to say no.
Another great step is to focus on actions rather than thoughts.
Do what you love without letting worries about others' opinions hold you back.
At the end of the day, we can't control how others think, but we can control our reactions.
So here's a challenge for everyone.
Today, take a small step toward doing something you enjoy without worrying about anyone else's opinion.
And remember, every little step counts.
You deserve to live a life that brings you joy.
Boom.
Good workout.
All right, good English speaking practice today.
Keep moving forward one step at a time.
Join me in the next one, and we will continue practicing speaking English.
I'll see you in the next one.
