In this episode of Before Breakfast, host Laura Vandercam advocates for a lifestyle that extends beyond the dual pressures of professional obligations and family responsibilities. Drawing a parallel to the way parents encourage children to participate in diverse extracurriculars, Vandercam argues that adults, too, require a sense of balance to make life feel "more full and interesting."
Just as children are often "nudged to participate in a variety of activities"—such as musical, physical, or civic pursuits—adults should adopt a similar framework. Vandercam shares her own personal commitment to this philosophy, noting that she balances her professional life and parenting duties by running, training, and singing in two choirs. This intentional diversification prevents life from becoming a repetitive cycle of "only working and driving kids around."
One of the primary pillars of a well-rounded life is physical health. Vandercam asserts that "physical activity isn't really optional." She reframes the common misconception that exercise is a time-consuming burden, stating, "Exercise doesn't take time. It makes time." By emphasizing that one does not need an hour at the gym daily, she suggests that small, 10-minute bursts of movement—such as brisk walks or morning bodyweight exercises—can significantly boost energy levels. This strategy turns physical activity into an energy-generating tool rather than a schedule-draining chore.
For those who feel overwhelmed by their schedules, Vandercam encourages a critical look at how evenings are spent. She notes that, based on her review of many "time logs," it is rare for individuals to spend all seven evenings of the week engaged in "high-quality activities with their families." Even for the busiest adults, there is likely space to carve out one night a week for "something creative or musical or civic-minded" that is entirely separate from work and caretaking duties. Whether it is quilting or another hobby, reclaiming these hours is vital for personal fulfillment.
If a recurring commitment feels too daunting, Vandercam suggests starting with "one-off activities." These low-pressure engagements, such as a single Saturday volunteering event or a one-time "pottery-making class," serve as a gateway to a more balanced life.
These sporadic experiences offer two key benefits:
Ultimately, the goal of being well-rounded is to make life feel more fun and meaningful. Even if one cannot maintain a strictly regimented schedule of activities, incorporating a few diverse pursuits throughout the year can transform one's outlook. By shifting the focus from mere survival to active living, adults can reclaim their time and cultivate a more vibrant, well-rounded existence.