This is the All Ears English podcast episode twenty four twenty two.
Don't be loathe to speak English.
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Hey there Aubrey, what's shaking?
Not much, how are you Lindsay?
Feeling great today, but I have a key question for you today, you ready?
Yeah, let's hear it.
So Aubrey in your daily life or just maybe right now in this moment, is there anything you are loath to do?
You know, I am loath to swim with my kids right now.
Our pool is still ice cold, in my opinion.
It's way too cold and they are ready to swim.
They're getting in and they're like, Mom, come swim with me.
And it's way too cold for me, so I make excuses and I'm like, I'll just dip my toes in.
It's crazy, so I am really low to get in that cold swimming pool.
It's funny how we lose our nerve as we get older.
It becomes harder and harder to get into swimming pools or cold lakes or the ocean.
When we're kids, we just run in like woo!
We didn't mind at all, I know.
Maybe our nerve endings are less sensitive when we're younger, I don't know, or we just don't care.
We just don't care.
I don't know. We don't think about it.
I don't know. We think a lot as adults, don't we?
Yeah, for sure. Well, this is interesting.
This word Loathe came up in a recent episode.
Stay to the end and we'll share which one it is in case you missed it, but I realized when proofreading the transcripts that it is spelled differently if it's an adjective or a verb.
That's a really good insight.
So I noticed like the misspelling and I was like, but usually I thought it did end with an E.
So this is interesting, we're going to share this today.
This is a common error by native speakers as well, so not something you really need to stress about, but if you can make this improvement, there will be times where people are impressed.
If it's an email or a written memo or something especially at work and you spell this correctly, you're doing better than probably 80 % of native English speakers.
Oh, for sure. And I think even beyond just spelling it correctly, just using it is going put you probably in the top 25 % of native speakers, I think.
I don't think this is an average word. I think this is an above average word to use Aubrey, don't you think?
Yes, it's an impressive word. We're going to go into both the verb and the adjective.
And we're also going to share a few more interesting ways to share this because connection isn't just about things you have in common and things you like.
We also connect about things we loathe, things we dread, things we hate.
So, this is interesting too.
You need to also have this vocab.
Yeah. And it doesn't mean that you're a negative person if you're always connecting – there can be very positive connection around something you don't want to do, especially if you share that in common with someone else.
That can be a true connection moment as well, right?
Yes, for sure. We also want to give a shout out.
There was a comment on YouTube from Rehaman from India.
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Could you please call out my name in your next podcast?
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Okay. Yes. Awesome Alright, let's dive in with this interesting vocabulary So, when we use the adjective loathe, it's always in this chunk loathe to, loathe to do something.
And this means to intensely dislike or hate something.
So, like at the top of the episode, I'm loathe to swim in our pool.
Or you might say, I'm loathe to go through haunted houses.
I really don't like them, this is true for me.
I don't like jump scares.
I don't want to be like, that's not fun.
Do you like haunted houses?
We feel the same way.
I love opposite word. I love going on ghost tours, yeah you could be on the sidewalk and you're safe and it's happening in that house.
It's not happening to you.
It's very different when you're in a haunted house and things are jumping out at you.
Right. I think this is from – my brother would do this when I was young, he would jump out from behind a door and grab you and scream and so I really hate that now.
I'm like please, don't jump scare.
Yeah, no jump scare.
I love it. But what's interesting is loath this way as an adjective is spelled without an E.
It's just L -O -A -T -H.
Loath to do something.
So, that's tricky. What's another example of using it this way?
So, someone's habits, right?
They're nocturnal. How awake are they?
What are their habits?
He has always been loath to get up early, okay?
Yes. He's just a nighttime person, not a morning person.
Exactly, right. And like Lindsay said, this is a little less common, but it is impressive.
It's impressive vocabulary.
You will hear it. You definitely can use it.
But, the spelling's a little tricky because there's no E there.
What about when there is an E, Lindsay?
This is when it's a verb in the sentence.
Yes. To be honest, this is a good review for me too.
Right? Remembering where the E goes.
So, if you put an E at the end in this case, right?
L -O -A -T -H -E and that becomes a verb.
Okay? Exactly. So, for example, I loathe driving in snowy weather and I think native speakers tend to know, you punch that loathe too.
I agree. It almost seems strange because it's like intense hatred or dread so it would be strange to be like, I loathe driving in snowy weather.
Yeah. Like I said, I loathe the driving in snowy weather.
And it's also one of those kind of full mouth words.
You need everything happening.
So we really indulge in saying that word. I agree, absolutely.
Or maybe she loathes doing homework.
Right? This has, it can't be something that you just sort of don't like a little bit.
It really has to be a pretty intense feeling.
Love it. Love it. All right, Aubrey.
Where to now? What else do we need to know?
Yeah. So just the main thing is that these are pronounced exactly the same.
So when you're speaking, you don't have to worry about this at all.
It's like effect and effect that we've talked about recently.
Yes. Doesn't matter when you're speaking, but they are spelled differently.
So when you're writing, if you see the word loathe, you need to take a second, is this being used as an an adjective or a verb, and the big pro tip here is if it's loathe to, loathe to do something, that's when there's no E because that's an adjective.
Hmm, really good to know.
So if we're taking the IELTS exam for example, or if we're just writing a business email, we need to know… or even a text message to a friend.
We need to know the difference here, okay?
Absolutely. But let's share some other interesting options because if you're talking about being upset about something or angry or something you dread or hate doing, there are so many interesting ways to say this, right?
Yes, yes. I really like the word, abhor.
This is actually even stronger than loathe, if you can believe it, because loathe is pretty strong.
But if you say you abhor something, that's like the most intense dislike that you can get.
Oh, okay. So for example, I abhor small spaces.
I'm definitely claustrophobic.
Are you claustrophobic, Aubrey?
Do you mind being in an elevator?
I'm not really, I don't think so.
What about you? No, I don't think so.
I had an apartment in New York, so—or Tokyo, too.
Right. If ever you lived in New York, you can't be claustrophobic.
You're basically living in a closet.
Yeah, for sure. But if I had to be in an elevator for hours and hours, then I might start getting claustrophobic.
I can imagine the length of time definitely would affect that.
Yeah, because your mind would start running, right?
That's the key. Absolutely.
Yes, right. Okay, what's another— Or maybe—this is about Michelle— Michelle.
She pours olives. She doesn't even like the smell of them.
I know. I think – That Michelle doesn't love olives.
I love them so much. I'm sure a lot of our listeners love – I mean it's a Mediterranean food.
I love olives. I can't imagine a life without olives or olive oil.
I know. I mean, I eat so much olive oil.
I have a feeling Michelle does eat olive oil.
I think it's just the taste of like actual olives – a bowl of green and Kalamata olives but, oh, she is missing out.
I love them so much. Totally.
So Aam Hor is a good one.
And then Disdain is good.
Yeah. This is a noun, right?
This is tricky it exists as a noun and a verb so let's go over the noun first So this is the feeling that something isn't worthy of respect or consideration So maybe like she looked at him with disdain.
So this is a noun here, right?
It's the it's what she's using to look that her expression has disdain in it is Dane Like not giving the person a chance very closed -minded very negative, right?
Absolutely, or he's always treated her with disdain It's a strange word. Yes.
Yeah. It is kind of a strange word. And it also exists as a verb.
They are spelled the same, luckily, unlike loath.
So, this is like, if you treat someone like they're not worthy of respect, you can use this as a verb.
So, the main way I've seen this is if you disdain to answer questions.
Okay. Cause this is very rare in English that we use this as a verb.
When I saw this in the dictionary, there's a verb and a noun, I had to think I'm like, I don't hear that very often.
So maybe if someone say like, I disdained to answer the questions or present and this is like because you dislike the questions or maybe if it were like on a crime show, be like, but this is definitely a connotation of you are not answering them because you disagree with them.
Something like that, right?
You don't respect the questions for whatever reason.
Yeah. I mean the courtroom idea I know in a courtroom well at least on courtroom dramas, we hear the word sustained a lot, a different word, but maybe in a similar family sort of thing.
I don't know. Good point.
Good point. Now, this is really interesting too, to think about some of these we use more often in the past tense, right?
We wouldn't really use abhor in the past tense.
We're like I abhorred that film.
I loathed that restaurant, not really, right?
Instead, we usually use these in the present because they're such strong feelings.
It's more like this is something I always will always abhor or loathe because it's hard to hate something that strongly that just happened once like one trip to a restaurant or something, right?
I see what you're saying.
So it's almost like a state of being, this feeling, almost like state of being.
Yes, exactly. That's how strong it is, right?
If it's something we don't like, we probably would say like, oh, I've really hated that.
I absolutely detested it.
Or I would say, I couldn't stand it, meaning it's like, I really didn't like it.
Yes, I love that. That's a really important point.
So, it's the things that we really hate and we've always hated.
We just don't identify with those things.
We're using abhor or loathe.
Whereas, it's a single experience or a movie or a meal, lighter things like hate.
I mean, hate is not light, but like, we don't get that passionate about like an individual experience, right?
So, these words, this is what's important to pay attention to here is these words really signify a passionate dislike.
It is strange if you use them.
We don't even really use them jokingly to talk about how much we dislike something.
I guess you could, you'd be like, oh, I love spinach, and you're just joking, right?
But for the most part, it's for things that you really hate, feel very strongly about.
All right, good to know.
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Okay Aubrey we are back from break.
Let's do a role play for today.
Here we are discussing the foods that we dislike.
Okay I'll start us out.
I'm not usually picky but I absolutely Really, I love eel rolls at a sushi place.
Eel sauce is delicious.
Yeah. It's not for me.
I am loathed to even think about eating eel.
What about you? Are there any foods that you can't stand?
Yeah. I've always had dazdain for masago.
Oh, that's fish eggs, right?
Yeah. I don't know what it is, but I loathe it.
Okay, nice. So, whatever it is.
that you like really dislike certain foods and we would use, you know, Abhor, Loathe, whatever.
But if you just mean to say, like, I don't really like that very much, we wouldn't use these bigger, stronger words.
I think a lot of people have issues around texture, right?
The texture of things, even some people don't like the texture of eggs, but sort of fish eggs, the texture, I think people probably struggle with.
That's why, I like eel but I know someone who does it and I think it's a texture thing.
Yeah, no, eel is great.
When I lived in Japan for my last meal there, my friends, my Japanese friends took me to an eel restaurant, a place like in the mountains that specialized just in eel.
It was amazing. Yeah, it was awesome.
I do love eel sauce.
This is me. I think it's so tasty.
Yes. It's a little bit sweeter on some rolls.
Oh, so delicious. Yes, exactly.
Let's go through this.
So, again, you said, I'm usually not picky, but I absolutely abhor eel.
It's kind of a weird word too because we are kind of pronouncing the H, aren't we Yes, we do have to, right?
You hit that H kind of hard. Abhor.
And this is another one where you have to like hit the word hard. You have to emphasize it, just like loathe.
It's a little strange.
You're like, I really abhor that.
No. Yeah. The intonation needs to be powerful because the emotion, the passion about the dislike is powerful.
The word implies that.
Yeah. We don't want to have that flat affect, right.
We want to make sure we're putting life into our words here.
What else, Aubrey? Yeah, and then I said, oh, it's not for me.
I'm loathe to even think about eating eels.
So, this is where it's an adjective, I'm describing myself as loathe to think about something.
Mmm, very interesting construction, too.
Yes, it would be written without the e there, right?
Okay, no e there. Good.
And then I said, hmm, yeah, I've always had disdain for Masago.
Mmm. Yes, and I'm always and this is an interesting thing to say, like disdain, because it does often imply more of like a lack of respect.
This would be sort of joking even, to say this about food.
Be like, oh, I have such disdain for masago.
Like, I would probably laugh at that.
I'd be like, that's really funny because it usually does imply more like, you are critical of something.
You disrespect something.
Right. For bigger things than just food, like food is just a taste.
That's all it is. it's sort of one -dimensional, right, but for example, like political parties or certain ways of thinking would be more common for disdain, right?
Yeah, that's where you would use it more literally, right?
This is kind of more joking, but yeah, you could say you have disdain for a certain political candidate or people who agree with a certain policy.
That would be more because it's more of a lack of respect for that.
For sure. And then the last thing that was said was, yeah, I don't know what it is, but I loathe it, right?
Nice. So that used to mean like I really hate it.
And this is because it's a verb.
This would be spelled with an E, L -O -A -T -H -E.
Alright, good high level episode for our listeners today, the B2C1 level.
I love it. Yes, absolutely.
We want to make sure that you don't miss the episode that inspired this and 2402, right here on All There's English, should you call someone cheap in English?
Where we said sometimes people are loathe to spend money.
So, use it as an adjective there so it wouldn't have an E.
Yes, and the connection piece here, guys, for today is it's not always—it doesn't have to be about these positive, amazing things that you're connecting over—you can build just as strong of a connection over things that you loathe and have disdain for, okay?
Absolutely. Yes, right?
I feel like that would even bond you closer with someone if you are sort of willing to admit these more negative things.
I don't love everything, right?
The people I'm close to, I want to build a stronger connection with.
I'm going to admit the things that I really abhor.
Especially if itís very, like, most people love this thing, but you actually have disdain for it, right?
Thatís a hot take, yes.
Yeah, a hot take, yes, exactly.
That could build a really strong sense of trust and connections right there.
So thatís what weíre going for.
Alright, good stuff Aubrey.
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