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Them's the breaks when to throw out grammar rules.
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In English, there are certain moments when you get to throw out the rules when it comes to grammar.
Today, learn three of these phrases and get a famous movie reference that you definitely don't wanna miss.
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Hey there, Aubrey, how's it going?
I'm great, Lindsay, what are you up to today?
Oh my gosh, it's a Friday, and I have to go over to FedEx and drop off some papers later, boring.
Oh no, well, them's the breaks.
That's what happens when you're a high powered CEO, Lindsay.
I know, FedEx, oh gosh.
So you guys will notice I use this great phrase, them's the breaks.
That sounds strange to you.
It is definitely incorrect grammar.
This is a native chunk that we use sometimes, especially to emphasize.
I am excited to get into this episode today because this is not the kind of topic you're gonna find on your average podcast, Aubrey.
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Aubrey, let's start with our question from our listener.
Should I go ahead and read it?
Yeah, let's do it. All right, so this person says, hey guys, I'm Costia.
First of all, I wanna say thank you for the work you've done for all English learners around the world.
My level's pretty high, confidence C1, and you definitely played a role in getting there.
So double thank you.
Aubrey, that's amazing.
That is amazing. I love, so glad Costia sent this.
I'm so happy to hear it.
Yeah, it's great. You've taught me many things and out of all the podcasts I've listened to, you're my favorite.
My question to y 'all is why and when people use them before nouns?
I've watched a lot of movies, standups, and they often use them plus noun.
For example, I watch a documentary about them basketball players.
All right, it's a great question.
So thank you to Costia for this question.
Yes, it is a very good question.
If you haven't noticed this yet, I guarantee you will now that we're talking about it because it is pretty common both in the UK and the US in certain regional dialects.
It's very common in informal speech to use this incorrect grammar, right?
You might hear someone say, look at them kids over there.
Taste them cookies, they're delicious.
Oh, or how about them Red Sox?
However, that one might go into a slightly different category at times, right?
This is tricky, right?
It's interesting. So for all of these, correct grammar, of course, would be to say those instead.
Look at those kids, taste those cookies.
But we hear this, it's common in some dialects, and there are also some chunks where whether this is part of your regional dialect or not, you might use these chunks that intentionally break this or use this incorrect grammar.
Yeah, so for Costia's question today, there's kind of two answers.
Number one is that sometimes this is a intentional grammatical mistake in certain, as Aubrey said, certain dialects within the US, certain regions of the US and the UK.
But then in the second part of the episode now, we're gonna talk about the idioms that exist that make this more of a chunk, where even if you're not making that intentional grammar mistake in everyday language, you might still use these chunks, which is fascinating.
Yeah, so we might say these on the podcast.
I grew up hearing my dad say the first one we're going to talk about, and he would not have said, look at them, kids, taste them, cookies, because this was not common in our regional dialect, but he did say them's the breaks a lot, which meant it is what it is.
Whatever outcome to the situation is not maybe what you wanted or expected, but there's nothing you can do about it.
So this is our first idiom chunk, and today's episode is an ode to our dads, both of our dads.
I love that. Because what you get when my dad is in his mid 70s, and I imagine your dad's also in his 70s.
Yeah, and so exposure to another generation, right?
I mean, my dad was born in 1950, and the movies that he watched as a kid could have been made in the 40s or something.
I guess they got TVs in the home in the 50s and the 60s, but exposure to different kinds of culture that we didn't have exposure to as kids.
Our dads, our moms brought us that as kids from another generation.
And you're bringing up an interesting point that in these older films, if a film is about like maybe gangsters in the 20s or like cowboys in the old West, you might hear this grammar, these broken grammar rules more often.
They're either trying to depict maybe the way people spoke at the time or someone from this regional dialect, right?
Or it could even be reality, current reality television from a region where this is common, you know, so people speak this way.
Yeah, super interesting.
So the first chunk is Them's The Breaks.
And it's funny because I had never heard that one, but 100%, it sounds very similar to the next one.
Did we do that example, Aubrey?
Yeah, I'm gonna give an example first.
So imagine you say like, everything is going wrong this week, but I guess Them's The Breaks, right?
Just means like, I guess that's just the way it is, right?
Yeah. And I guess people do say those are the breaks sometimes, but I don't know, just because I grew up with my parents both saying Them's The Breaks.
Yeah. I'm so used to that.
I for sure say it to my kids too.
Them's The Breaks. Okay, well there you go.
They used up all their screen time or they ate all their Halloween candy.
I'll be like Them's The Breaks.
Like that's what you get.
Right, it's kind of related to tough break, right?
Or lucky break. It's the same meaning, the break, right?
If something is going well or tough break exactly, right?
Just the outcome will say break.
Right, exactly. I love that.
And then the second one comes from what my dad used to say, right?
He used to say Them's The Rules, right?
So it's kind of funny how when you're in a more authoritative position, let's say he was setting the rule, maybe he went into another character too, to use this phrase, to make it easier to set standards and rules for his kids, right?
For sure, right? And there is emphasis here.
If he just said, well, those are the rules or because I said so, there's not quite the playfulness and the emphasis as this expression, we're like Them's The Rules.
That is totally it.
So my dad was always pretty playful, like a fun guy.
He used to joke around, but he also had to get his kids to bed and up for school in the morning.
And so that makes sense in the context of what he was doing.
To say something like Them's The Rules, meaning you have to do this, right?
Yeah, and I might say this one too, right?
Or I feel like I did hear my dad as well say this.
So I think it's pretty common.
I think you guys are going to start hearing it on TV movies.
These are chunks that are pretty common.
You can use them if you want.
You don't have to, but it's not incorrect to break the grammar rules for these chunks, they're idiomatic, right?
You could say those are the rules or those are the breaks, or you can say them this way with this incorrect grammar.
Exactly. And again, if you want to just listen for them in movies and just understand it, that is totally fine.
If for whatever reason you don't feel comfortable using it, you don't have to.
But the next one I actually think is so fun.
Number three. It is so fun.
This one is How You Like Them Apples or How Do You Like Them Apples.
And this is said when something unexpected or maybe ironic happens.
Yes. And there's a famous scene from a movie that has this, right?
I love this. I love this expression because we're not only getting a movie reference, but we're getting a phrase, right?
How you like them apples.
So it's from Goodwill Hunting.
It's the scene I just watched rewatched Goodwill Hunting.
It's so good. I watched it with my 16 year old not lying.
It's so good. It's so good.
It's the scene where, you know, there was a guy, the guys were in the bar and in Harvard over in Cambridge and this supposedly smart guy was trying to flirt with a cute girl.
And he was trying to impress her by basically plagiarizing, you know, everything he had ever read.
And then Goodwill Hunting, who's, he's a good, or will he's a genius, right?
He comes in and he's, oh, you're just plagiarizing this guy.
And what about this?
And what about this?
And the guy steps down, he gets the girl's number.
He sees him later in Dunkin Donuts and he sticks his hand on the glass and says, how do you like them apples?
No, he said, he's like, I got her number.
How you like them apples?
Yeah. He goes, you like apples?
You like apples? How you like them apples?
That's right. And of course he says, do you like apples?
Yes. How do you like them apples?
He does it with his Southie accent and you can only do it with a Southie accent, right?
But you can use this.
You can use this. If you can insert this, I've heard people actually insert this into anecdotes and it's super fun, right?
Absolutely. Let's do a little mini role play to show how this could come up in a conversation.
I'll start us. Okay.
I didn't study for the exam at all and I got a 95.
What? I studied for weeks and got a 75.
How do you like them apples?
I'm not doing a Southie accent.
You don't have to do a Southie accent.
But right? You're saying this to me like this, like this is ironic.
This is unfair. I'm like, how do you like them apples?
Yes, I love it. I love it.
So just very classic, right?
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Okay, so Aubrey, let's go into a role play here.
So you are arriving at a print shop and I'm locking the door, meaning I'm closing the shop.
Is that what's happening?
You're like closing the shop and leaving right as I get there.
Okay, here we go. Oh, sorry.
We're closed. Oh, you close at five.
Well, them's the breaks.
I should have gotten here earlier.
We used to stay open later, but didn't have enough business to justify it.
Oh, I almost came this afternoon, but I was sure you'd be open until five.
How do you like them apples?
That's what I get for procrastinating.
All right, so here's something I would do, probably I'm a bit of a procrastinator.
Oh yeah. I leave everything for the last minute.
I get that, I get that.
It's hard to stay on top of everything all the time, right?
Because things are always coming in, things you have to do.
That's the thing, like something else gets priorities, so you're pushing it.
You just end up having to push some things back for sure.
It's always just, I'll do it tomorrow, I'll do it tomorrow.
Yep, so let's go through this.
I first said, oh no, you close at five.
Well them's the breaks.
I'm just kind of saying like too bad, sort of my bad luck, my bad fortune.
Yes, exactly. And you're kind of saying that to yourself in a way, right?
Right, then slowly, like it is what it is.
There's nothing to be done about it, right?
It's interesting how they're, I almost, how else would we say this, Lindsey?
I feel like them's the breaks.
It's like the perfect way to summarize like kind of the bummer feeling and the kind of like, oh, well, like I'm still being kind of laid back about it.
I'm not like begging them to keep the place open.
I'm just like, oh, that's how it is.
Yeah, that's how it is.
Maybe something like that.
Or that's how it goes.
Or it happens. Often I say it happens.
Oh yeah, I was like, oh, it happens.
Right? Or oh, bummer.
Yeah, there are some other things we say, but I like this one.
Them's the breaks. Yeah, it's a nice, I mean, these phrases have unique meaning.
Each of them, right?
It's hard to replicate certain meanings and feelings, right?
So then I said, let's see, you said, I almost came up - I kind of wish we had added here if I had said like, oh, is there any way you could keep it open for a few minutes and you'd be like, sorry, I'm not, like them's the rules.
Them's the rules, yeah.
I mean, you could have said that them's the rules.
Like it's not up to me, right?
You'd be kind of saying like, that's the rule is, I close it at five.
I don't have an option here.
100%. Although I feel like, well, for them's the rules, I guess with a store owner, I don't know if - That'd be like too informal.
It feels in purpose because your dad said it.
It feels for me. Your dad said it to you very casually.
Yeah, it feels like something that, you need to know the person well in a way.
Yeah, that's a good point.
Because I'm not saying them's the breaks to them.
I'm kind of saying it to myself.
Under your breath. Because these are like we were saying playful, like really friendly expressions.
So it probably would be kind of strange to say that to a stranger.
You say it to a friend, right?
Nope, them's the rules.
To the FedEx later.
And if she said it to be like interesting.
Yeah, maybe like you're driving there with a friend and you asked to drive their car and they're like, no way, I'm the only one that drives this car.
Them's the rules. That's perfect.
Yes, 100%. And then of course we brought in the apples, which we love.
You said I almost came this afternoon, but I was sure you'd be open until five.
How do you like them apples, right?
So you're just kind of saying, you know, well, bad luck.
Yep, exactly. Oh man, go figure is another way to say that.
Of course, you know, of course I would come late, whatever.
Yes. And by the way, if you guys are in the mood after this episode to hear a true Boston accent, you can go back to aldersenglish .com and I interviewed my roommate at the time in Cambridge who I think she was actually from Southie or somewhere in South Boston.
So she brings you a genuine Southie accent.
Just type in Boston right on the search bar and she should come up.
It was a long time ago, but it's a great accent.
That's such a fun accent.
Or go watch Goodwill Hunting.
Yes. Ben Affleck and Matt Damon have a great Southie accents in that movie.
Great movie. It's a great movie.
So Aubrey, where should our listeners go as we finish up today?
Yeah, so we just did a great grammar episode.
If you're in the mood for some more grammar, 2310, just scroll up to last week.
Do not miss these English grammar tips.
And we answered a really good question about how to use not.
Sometimes it's a little tricky.
Yes, 100%. What's the takeaway?
So for today, we're not saying this needs to be in your vocabulary, but we're not saying we shouldn't use it either.
Right, Aubrey? Yeah, this is one of those where we're not saying make this change immediately, use this vocab.
You wanna know what they mean.
You wanna be aware you're going to hear this and why so that you understand what's creating these because it is just breaking a grammar rule.
So like why? There is a reason that we're doing it.
We're not just making mistakes, right?
It's very much adapted into some regional dialects but if you didn't grow up using that regional dialect, then it might feel strange to you.
It might sound strange if you use these mistakes but there are these chunks that you could add if you want.
Yeah, this is where we can really bring life into our English.
We can have fun. You know, language can be reminiscent of other times in our lives, right?
So see if you can bring it in if you want to and if not, just listen up for it, right?
Good stuff. Absolutely, so fun.
Don't forget to hit follow on All Ears English, Aubrey.
I'll see you next time.
All right? Awesome.
See you next time. Take care, bye.
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