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this. Hello everybody and welcome back to the psychology of your 20s, the podcast where we talk through some of the big life changes and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology.
Hello everybody, welcome back to the show, welcome back to the podcast. new listeners, old listeners, wherever you are in the world.
It is so great to have you here back for another episode as we of course break down the psychology of our 20s.
It has been a beautiful week for me.
I am back from my mother -daughter trip to Fiji.
I feel refreshed. I feel really motivated.
I feel good. I literally had the best time with my mom.
She is so much fun.
So I feel feel like I'm back right in time to dive into work like I had enough time away to feel excited about coming back and you know speaking of work, work is actually the subject of today's episode specifically the signs that you may not be aware of or may be ignoring that your career is not right for you.
Not just not right for you, but deeply dissatisfying, deeply unfulfilling, deeply unrewarding and perhaps you just haven't even realized it yet.
These are specifically signs that I wish someone had told me when I was feeling pretty low about my previous job and I was trying so hard to make it work and now I can acknowledge that all those things I was was feeling were actually indicative that this career was just not right for me when I look back I wish I had made a change earlier I wish that my decision paralysis and fear of the unknown hadn't kept me in unhappy places for longer than I needed to be in them and so I'm taking some of that wisdom some of the things that I learned as well as some of the tips and some of the psychology to
really help you guys figure out whether what you're experiencing right now is just a bad week or a deeper dissatisfaction with what you are doing.
But more importantly, the kind of warning signs that you are becoming stagnant or stuck when you know that you are not happy.
Basically, how do we make a change in our career and in our lives and have the bravery and and the courage to try something new before we feel further weighed down by time and money and the education and the years that we've invested into a job or a profession that, you know, simply isn't right for us.
Work is really important.
Doing something you care about doesn't have to be aspirational, even in this current job market.
And I want to really share how you can choose something that feels more aligned without feeling boxed in by this very notorious and incorrect idea of a dream job.
I also want to talk about when you know it's really time to quit, even if maybe you don't have anything else lined up.
And also some of the surprising ways that hating your job shows up in all other dimensions of your life that you may may or may not be ignoring.
So if you have doubts lingering as to whether what you're doing now is really what you want to do for the rest of your life or something that you actually care about, these five signs will definitely give you some clarity and give you some of the answers that you are probably looking for.
So without further ado, whether you are in your 20s or maybe even beyond, let's get it into the signs that the career you're in right now is maybe not the one for you stay with us if you have listened to the podcast for a while you will probably know this but it is my deep belief that when it comes to finding the right career the right pathway the right job for you there isn't one there is not a perfect job there is no such thing as a dream job that comes with no flaws, no downsides, no bad days, no occasional sense of emptiness and that's coming from someone who for all intents and purposes has the best
job that they could ask for in their life right now.
There are still things that I would change and I know that in 10 -20 years I probably won't think the same about my job that I do now because because dream jobs evolve.
Our purpose evolves.
Our idea of work -life balance is constantly being changed and being challenged.
That doesn't necessarily mean though that there isn't some careers out there that simply fit better.
But I do want to give that caveat at the beginning that if you are here to figure out what your dream job is, I'm sorry, I don't even believe in that concept, but hopefully I can bring you closer to finding a job that is maybe almost there for you.
Another Another thing I believe is that it's never too late to change, to shift gears, to essentially decide that you want something different.
And at the point that you realize that your major, your job, your career isn't for you, no matter how far you have gone down the wrong road, turn back.
That is a very famous Turkish proverb that I think more of us ought to live by, not just in our professional lives, but in relationships, in love, in anything.
Careers in particular though, you know, a lot feels at stake for a couple of reasons.
There's a couple of reasons why we know we're on the wrong path and we don't turn around.
The first one being that, you know, our jobs, they allow us to live and they allow us to exist in a world that is ruled by currency and money.
Jobs pay our bills.
So simply leaving without having anything else lined up, I don't know about you, I've never had that luxury.
Secondly, you may have a lot of time, energy, resources tied up in your career.
Say you're becoming a doctor or a psychologist or a trades person.
That typically means a lot of study, a lot of hours learning a skill, sometimes a lot of student loans, a lot of money invested.
You can really feel like you're not going to get that time back.
You're not going to get that money back.
You're letting yourself down.
You're letting your family down.
And that's what causes us to stay in places that we don't belong simply because of basically the sunk cost effect.
We also, of course, it's not just an investment investment of time, energy, money.
It's an investment of our identity.
What we choose to do for a living, what we hope to do for a living, forms a large and significant part of who we see ourselves as.
You know, what's one of the first things that people ask you?
What do you do for work?
What are you studying?
It just goes to show how much occupational identity is one of the ways that we are really pigeonholed and that we pigeonhole ourselves and you know pigeonholes may feel very small and restrictive they can also feel very safe and very comfortable so deciding to walk away from whatever you're studying whatever you're doing and explore other things especially if you don't know what else you want to try it can feel like voluntarily choosing to step off a ledge into a large bottomless pit.
But being in the wrong place, it doesn't get easier.
Your tolerance for it just improves.
Until, you know, one day you're in your 60s and you're looking back at your life and you're realizing how truly young you were, how much time you actually really did have ahead of you if you'd just taken the risk and walked away way a little bit sooner from the thing that you knew deep down you didn't love.
So to avoid that regret, to give ourselves that opportunity, let's discuss these five signs that you are probably in the wrong career.
Sign one, you feel emotionally numb, you dread what you're doing and it's a feeling that goes way beyond boredom.
If you dread every Monday, you feel your mood completely shift the moment you walk into work you completely detach you don't care if you're fired you don't care if your work is good you don't care if the assignment is late you just have no desire to commit or succeed in what you're doing this is probably the wrong career for you yes a job isn't always going to put a fire in your belly every single day but if this is what you're going to spend the large majority of your life doing almost 90 ,000 hours of your life according to some estimates.
You want to feel something.
Pride, accomplishment, that you're helping people, whatever it is, even on hard days, you want to feel something.
You don't want to feel nothing and you most certainly don't want to feel just plain anxiety.
The Sunday scaries are another indicator of this.
Sunday scaries, it's a common term, you've most likely heard of it, but if not, it essentially refers to the anxiety or dread that many people experience on a Sunday evening as the weekend ends and the work week begins.
And it has a scientific explanation.
Sunday Scaries, it's essentially emotional forecasting or anticipatory dread.
You're looking at the week ahead and almost feeling empathy for your future self and what you'll will know they have to endure and kind of almost borrowing their unhappiness so that you feel terrible right now and the more you experience this and endure this the more you start to become quite numb.
Once you get into work or back to school or to your internship or whatever instead of feeling all that anxiety you were feeling on Sunday you actually end up shutting off.
You go through the motions.
All of this is a way to kind of mentally compartmentalize rather than really acknowledging like, wow, I really hate this.
Because realizing that you really hate this means that you probably have to do something about it and you just might not feel ready for that.
So this can also be highly indicative of something else called emotional blunting, where you basically become numb to what is going on around you.
It's typically associated with certain medications such as antidepressants, but it can also have an environmental origin like a workplace or a job that you really hate or you feel absolutely nothing positive towards.
Now, if this gets worse, this can also develop into something that psychologists call anhedonia.
So a lack of interest, a lack of enjoyment, a lack of pleasure in what you're experiencing.
almost like people describe it like looking at your life and feeling like there is a tinge of gray over everything and in this context the context of our jobs and our careers it often stems from being in an environment where your core values and your interests are being forced to be put away and you may not even realize how emotionally flat you've become until the weekend or until you're on holiday or until you're working on a side project and suddenly like you come alive again it's like this is where you really feel like yourself this kind of chronic disconnection throughout the work week or whenever
you're studying or whenever you're engaged in the thing that isn't right for you this is your mind and your body communicating and essentially saying this is this is not fitting the bill for what makes us happy and because we can't acknowledge how unhappy we are, we're not going to feel anything.
This is intrinsically linked to the second sign that you are in the wrong career, which is that your identity and what you are doing for work feel entirely out of sync.
A 2016 study from the Journal of Vocational Behavior, it essentially found that career satisfaction is incredibly linked to something called identity alignment.
How much your job reflects who you are.
The more identity alignment you have, the happier you are going to be doing what you're doing.
There was a poll a couple of years ago, maybe even like a decade ago, that found almost 55 % of Americans derive a really large part of their identity from their job.
And I think as our time spent in the office and working increases significantly year by year, I can only imagine that that identity investment has really increased.
If you value helping others and your job is denying insurance claims, you will experience deep cognitive dissonance because you don't have identity alignment.
If you love nature and you love being outdoors and you work a desk job with no windows, same issue.
If you really value intellectualism and being cognitively stimulated, but you work a job that is very routine and process -based with not much room for creativity, again, you have a disalignment.
A disalignment in your identity is the same as a disalignment in your body.
it feels pretty terrible and you can tell that something is wrong this is very similar to a concept called self -concept clarity so self -concept clarity is basically our ability to tell what's going to make us happy and our ability to know what would make us satisfied so if you find yourself saying things like this just really doesn't feel like me like i hate who this makes me.
I don't recognize who I am at work.
I feel like someone else.
That's not trivial.
That is indicative that your self -concept clarity is coming into play and is communicating with you and telling you like, this isn't who we are.
This isn't who we want to be.
If you're not living your life in line with who you think you are, you know, who are you then?
Like if our life and the kind of person we are is defined by our actions and our and our actions and our time and where we work and all these other things is saying the opposite and representing the opposite of who we are we are going to be very unhappy and your body and the rest of your sense of self will respond to that we know through research that this dissatisfaction becomes very tangible it becomes very felt in your body in your mind in your bones in your muscles in order to discover what the the alternative would be, you know, what would actually make us happier?
What would my so -called dream job be that isn't this?
We really need to then focus on values because if we're living or having a career that is creating disalignment, the only way to bring back alignment is to really, really reaffirm what we care about and then find ways to seek that out through work.
This question that someone asked me once, I think is a really great way to do that.
if you're struggling with what you really want to do in your life you just know it's not this I think this question will help basically if your whole identity all your memories everything about your life had been erased about who you were as a person had been erased what are the five values that you have right now that you would choose to come back first it's basically a different way of of asking, who do you see yourself as like at your core?
What are the five things that you think represent you the most?
And is it that far -fetched that you can't ask for your work to reflect that?
If that feels like a stretch from where you are now, if those five things are not reflected in your work at all, imagine then going forward and living another 30, 40 years where your values unaligned.
The reason I think this exercise works so well for people who are like unsure of what they want to do is it's not asking you to identify your dream job as an alternative.
Like I was having this discussion with my friend on a walk this morning and she was like, I don't know what my dream job is.
And I was like, well, you probably don't have one.
You probably will never figure out what it is.
If you search for that your entire life, you'll probably be unhappy.
But what you can Can do is figure out a kind of broad range of things that you would feel really fulfilled doing.
You know, and that's what this allows you to do.
It's asking you to identify your values, which can then be expressed in different ways through different careers, not just one thing.
For example, if one of the values that you would want back is, let's say, vulnerability.
Vulnerability as a core value could mean that you could be a counselor.
You could also be a matchmaker.
You could be a hospice nurse.
You could be a rehab director.
Many options, not one dream job, but all rooted in what you value.
It's really, really important that you have that in your work.
It's worth mentioning as well what happens when we derive too much identity from work because that can really result in something equally kind of scary.
It's called enmeshment where you and your job are just never separate.
Your success at work determines your worth everywhere else.
Your interests all work.
You can hear people getting sick of you talking about work.
Everything you think about, work.
I will admit, I fell into this trap when I first started doing my podcast full -time.
And then Mantra as well, you know, I love both of those podcasts so much and it was, they are such a reflection of who I am and so much time goes into making them good and successful.
And when I first started, there was so much at stake, like I quit my full -time job, like Like there wasn't much room for me to think about anything else.
And also because this podcast, the one you're listening to, like this used to be a hobby, right?
And then this was the place I went to kind of not think about work.
And then suddenly it was my job and nothing filled its place.
I didn't have any sense of balance in my life.
My entire identity was this.
And oh my gosh, was I completely uninteresting, especially to myself.
Like I was bored of myself.
self I was exhausted all the small setbacks felt enormous because there was so much being balanced on the back of my career so you can take it too far I think it's our reminder as well to it's okay to want to be your values to be reflected in work but you also have to be bigger than work me and my boyfriend have this rule before we talk about work when we get home we have to talk about something else a podcast the gym a story we heard something like we're excited about something in the news it's really important for us because both of us are deeply invested in what we do for a living I like to
visualize it as a five -finger test for whether you have balance if you hold up five fingers if work is one of your fingers you have to have four things to fill the other fingers you have to have a hobby you have to have an interest you have to have have friends you have to have four other things you really care about and if you cannot assign each of your fingers something else in your life that feels as important as work like that is a warning and that is a sign to rethink where your energy is being directed to like your identity is a series of buckets work is just one bucket we want to have other things
that we value and other things that we care about like literally do it right now hold up five fingers if work is one and what are the others?
What else might you need in your life to feel like your identity is reflected in what you do but it's not everything?
So those are our first two signs.
We're going to take a short break here but when we return, I have three final indicators that maybe what you're doing right now is not exactly right for you.
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Here it is. You think more about your quitting story than your five -year plan in this career, in this company, in this industry.
Everyone loves a good quitting story.
I remember when I worked at a steak restaurant back in uni, it was so horrific.
Every single day I would walk in to the start of my shift and I think this is the day I'm gonna do it.
Like I just need one reason to push me over the edge and I will quit.
it I will do it knowing that I wouldn't because I needed the job and then you know COVID came along and stole my epic quitting story for me but the fact that I was thinking about quitting constantly at work indicated a much deeper unhappiness quitting for you it may be becoming a fixation an obsessive interest that you cannot stop circling and that won't stop dominating the new cycle of your brain.
You fantasize about burning your life to the ground, crashing out, disappearing, just not coming in one day, moving to Costa Rica, whatever it is.
That is all you can think about.
It brings you joy to think about it.
Being invested in the fantasy more than reality is indicative that this isn't right for you.
You know, daydreaming, it isn't always bad.
It can actually be a really creative coping mechanism.
But if you're constantly escaping into the idea of doing something else, being someone else professionally, that's not just your imagination.
That is cognitive separation.
That is escapism at work.
It has another name as well, maladaptive daydreaming.
If you've listened to the whole episode that we did on this, you will know what I'm talking about.
But maladaptive daydreaming is essentially where you feel detached from reality because you're spending too much time in the fantasy of what could be.
and it does mean that you end up neglecting real life responsibilities real life relationships work relationships deadlines all those kinds of things in those instances where you're obsessing over the idea of quitting i'm gonna be completely honest with you it's probably not going to get better it's probably time to start searching for a better job it's like what they say about a relationship right like once you get once you have seriously considered breaking up or once you have gotten the ick over somebody like you're not there's you're not going back from that like no matter how long you hold
on for afterwards once you have seriously quit a relationship or quit a job in your mind it's never going to be the same it might not be quitting your imagining as well like it might be something else like fantasizing about a different job fantasizing about your next holiday day the next time you switch off that's going to become unhealthy and it can actually end up you know you can end up sabotaging your current career and sabotaging where you're currently at the thing is as much as you hate your job right now you do want to get another one and that means having good references and having positive
working relationships it is something I wish Wish I had learned earlier in my 20s.
Don't burn bridges based on momentary feelings.
You never know when you'll need that bridge later on.
So instead, try and keep at least one foot in your day -to -day and maybe participate in a little bit of quiet quitting.
But think about the future here.
Don't just completely like neglect your job.
Think about it smart and don't, please don't.
Just let yourself think that this is how everyone feels about work.
It's not. You don't have to feel this way.
You know, the best part of your day should not be the 30 minutes at lunch where you fantasize about how nice it would be to never go back in.
You're allowed to want more.
You are allowed to seek more for yourself.
So use this fantasy as motivation so that you don't find yourself stagnant.
You don't find yourself thinking, well, everyone feels this way.
Like, I'll just put up with it.
But speaking of everyone, here is the fourth sign.
And I rarely hear people talk about this when it comes to knowing a career isn't right for you.
Quite simply, if there is no one that you admire in your industry, this industry is not right for you.
No role model, no colleagues you want to be, no person, you know, 10 years down the line whose life you think looks really great.
no vision of a life you want that contains your job no examples of it it's not right for you not having this admiration is often indicative of not having aspiration or inspiration for what you're doing essentially meaning that your heart isn't in it it also means you probably don't see yourself here long term enough to think aspirationally about what your life could become and to seek out those examples as blueprints and motivators because you are motivated.
When you think about a good life, when you think about a life that you want for yourself, those dreams might not contain this career.
What is that saying to you?
Our brains are naturally drawn to admiration and sometimes jealousy for those doing better than us in an area where we ourselves want to thrive because A, we are naturally comparative creatures and B, comparison basically indicates desire, passion and what we want.
It's why if you wanna figure out what kind of life you wanna have, you have to ask yourself, who am I jealous of?
It's very revealing.
And if the answer is, well, no one in the space that I'm in, you should probably be in a different space.
And obviously I'm not condoning jealousy as a motivator.
I'm just saying that jealousy is a really, because it is such a deeply felt emotion, it's quite revealing of what you really want.
Also, you know, we so often learn and stay motivated through observation and modeling, but also through vicarious victory and celebration, you know, seeing what others achieve and feeling like we could do that ourselves.
That's a huge part of aspirational psychology.
psychology, having role models, having someone that you look up to.
And if you don't have that, like you're missing out on a big part of how you stay motivated in a career, how you advance, how you seek more for yourself in this industry.
Let's talk about this dimension though, which is having someone you admire in a space that you would never want to make money from doing.
So Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders.
And you know, you're never going to be a Dallas Cowboy cheerleader.
Like what if your heroes are classically trained musicians and you've never picked up an instrument in your life?
What happens when you admire someone as a hobbyist of the thing that they have made a career as?
Does that make sense?
Like you view it as a hobby, they view it as a career.
What happens then? Well, that's complicated, but I think I'm personally a firm believer that That your job doesn't have to be the thing that you love most in the world.
So just because you have a hero in a certain field, like a musician or an actor or, I don't know, a tech guru, that doesn't mean that you need to suddenly quit your job and pursue what they're doing.
As long as you know that you're going to be okay in the future with not giving it a shot.
If you are viewing this person as a personal hero and as someone that you aspire to be, are you going to regret not trying to do something similar like that's a question you have to answer for yourself it is also completely okay to just admire them and feel motivated by their character from afar as long as you are okay with that fact and you will be okay in the future with not giving your passion a shot professionally that's totally your prerogative But again, if you genuinely cannot think of one person in your industry or in your profession that you think is cool, there is probably something
better out there. Maybe your hero may not be an accountant.
Maybe they will not be a professional pharmacist, but there should be at least one person, a colleague, a professor, someone else you're in college with, someone you think has a cool life, a life that you can see yourself emulating.
so we are down to our final sign our final one and it's one you may have already guessed it's burnout it's sickness it's feeling physically and mentally unwell if your body is giving you the signals if your body is getting sicker easier burnt out easier irritated more this career is probably not in alignment with who you are we often think that career decisions are are purely intellectual and rational, but your body keeps the score.
I feel like everyone's heard that phrase, your body keeps the score.
And not just when it comes to trauma, chronic stomach aches, fatigue, headaches, Sunday scaries, you know, a really severe anxiety.
These are not normal.
These should not be dismissed.
These are not just parts of being an adult, you also cannot just outthink them or outwork them or continue with this idea that it will get better, it will get better, it will get better.
These symptoms are often rooted in very deep psychological occupational stress.
Your nervous system is probably in a prolonged state of low level discomfort and distress and this is ricocheting into all these other areas of of your body into tension, into a suppressed immune system, even if you're still, you know, clocking in every morning, even if you feel like you can get through it, if your body is telling you no, listen to it.
And also, another reminder, you're not being dramatic.
Even if people have it tougher, even if people work harder than you, even if you feel like you don't deserve to be stressed, I'm going to tell you, that's actually not your choice.
I'm sorry, it's not your choice.
Like, you can't think, you can't think in a way of like, I can escape this by telling myself that I don't deserve to feel this way.
Like, your body is not something that you can control with your mind.
Like, you can't just tell it to be well if it's in an environment that is making it sick.
So it's something you really need to pay attention to.
Scientific studies have shown us that occupational dissatisfaction takes a toll on your body.
For starters, one study found that you sleep less, you get sick more often, you're more likely to report chronic stress.
One of the most shocking studies on this was actually recent, and it analyzed data from over 6 ,000 participants in the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth and found that job -related dissatisfaction experienced in your 20s and 30s can lead to overall health issues just 10 to 20 years down the line, with the real cumulative effect of unhappiness in your job really starting to show up in our health around 40.
The researchers, they examined the participants job satisfaction from 25 to 39, and then compared that with data around their health after they turned 40.
And what they discovered was that people who were unhappier in their jobs early in their careers were more prone to illnesses, particularly mental health problems, but also sleep problems and excessive worry and excessive stress.
And this was when they were controlling for all these other variables, including income, including education levels, including where someone lived.
This isn't just about your happiness.
This is about your health.
And that's something that we don't value enough until we don't have it.
Trust me, like then your entire perspective changes.
This is also about having a life and having experiences that don't feel feel burdened by a job that you feel trapped by.
I want to quickly play you guys this clip from my other podcast, Mantra, because I think I put it so well there, like I'm not even going to bother repeating myself.
I think I put it perfectly.
This is from my episode on I make rest a priority in my life.
I think it really applies to this episode.
I'm going to play the clip right now.
There is nothing more valuable than just getting to sit with your experiences sometimes times and just allowing yourself to have a freaking nap.
Like to have a nap, to have some downtime, to take a day off.
You know, at the end of your life, I know it sounds so cliche.
Everyone says you're going to look back at your life and what are you going to remember?
You're going to remember the times when you didn't take a day off, when you worked too hard, when you missed important milestones, important events.
Or are you going to remember the day that you played hooky and, And you went and got ice cream with your parents.
Or you're going to remember the days when you said, I'm not going to let this stress me out anymore and went to dinner with your friends, even though you didn't meet your deadline or even though you felt this urge to keep working.
That's a clip from my full episode, which is available on my other podcast, Mantra, titled I Make Rest a Priority in My Life.
And on that, we really talk about why work is more than just pushing yourself and it's more than just productivity.
in fact life is more than just productivity and I think that's a real great place to finish and a real final reminder if your entire life is dictated by a job you hate and by a career you don't see a future in such that it drowns out all the other parts of your life and it has you ignoring small joys and it has you just like sick with worry and unable to do the fun things that's a that's going going to have an impact and the sooner that you can start searching for an alternative start just questioning if there is something else out there you would enjoy more the better like the more your future
self is going to start thanking you sooner like the better off you will be the time to change is now and that's at any age by the way whatever age you are it's still now now.
But speaking to all my 20 somethings, you know, starting again, going back saying this degree isn't right for me.
I don't want to do this anymore.
I'm going to choose to be a beginner.
That is not shameful.
That does not make me a failure.
I think that that is an incredible act of bravery.
Choosing to start again, choosing to acknowledge that this wasn't right.
You didn't make a mistake.
You just didn't have all the information yet is so courageous.
Like that That makes you a major success in my eyes.
Like those are the kinds of people I really admire and the stories I really seek out.
Like those are people who are not afraid to start over and who are not afraid of being a beginner and saying, I was wrong about what I wanted and now I'm just going to see and I'm going to explore.
You have so much time and that time will be more valuable when you spend it doing something aligned with what you care about.
out. And when you spend it doing something that really puts a fire in your belly or that gives you a sense of being or a mission or just a sense of accomplishment, whatever name you want to give it, having a job and having a career that you feel proud to have is really great for your mental health firstly.
It's also really great for your physical health and it's really great for the enjoyment that you want to get out of life.
So I hope that this episode has provided you with some clarity and with some answers if you have made it this far you guys know that if you make it to the end of the episode you get a secret message from me that i invite you to leave a comment on if you've made it this far leave a comment down below what was your first job my first job was making smoothies at a place called boost juice if you are australian you will know the boost juice law but speaking of careers speaking of careers that maybe weren't right for us what was your first job but anyways I hope that this has yeah again caused you
to question caused you to reflect caused you just to think about it you don't have to make any choices now you don't have to go out and quit your job tomorrow this is just a nice way for you to consider what else is out there for you and maybe confirm some things you already know about a deeper dissatisfaction with the career you've chosen that doesn't make you a failure doesn't mean you've made a mistake just means that now you have more information to make a better choice for yourself so as we wrap up this episode make sure you give that full episode on mantra a listen i'll leave a link in the description make
sure that you are following me on instagram at that psychology podcast if you want to share feedback questions episode suggestions we're always on the hunt we're always on the lookout send me a dm over there make sure you're following along so that you always know when new episodes are coming out and leave us a five -star review if you feel called to do so it does really help the show grow and yeah reach cool new people like yourselves but until next time stay safe be kind be gentle with yourself especially if you are dealing with some career dissatisfaction a lot of people are you are not alone
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