Welcome to English as a Second Language Podcast, number 144.
Who pays?
This is English as a Second Language Podcast, episode 144.
I'm your host, Dr Jeff McQuillan, coming to you from the Center for Educational Development in beautiful Los Angeles, California.
This podcast is about who should pay for a dinner with a man and a woman.
Let's go.
Hey, Sally.
Can I run something by you?
Sure.
What's up?
Well, a friend of a friend wanted some help with her taxes and we agreed that we would talk about it over dinner.
At the end of the night, when the check came, she expected me to pay.
It was really awkward.
It wasn't a date and I was doing her a favor.
Am I crazy or was she taking advantage of me?
It definitely sounds like she took advantage of your generosity.
If she was asking a favor, she should have paid, no question.
The thing is...
I thought she was really pretty, and I wanted to ask her out after I met her, but now I'm not sure.
Well, I think that unless you asked her out, you shouldn't have to pay for her.
And these days, a lot of people go Dutch, even if one person asks the other.
Based on what happened the other night, I'd stay away from this woman.
That is, unless you don't mind being her sugar daddy.
Yeah, right.
I'm too broke to be anybody's sugar daddy, even if I wanted to.
I think you're right.
That will be the last I see of her.
In this podcast we have a man asking a woman's advice about about the issue of who should pay when a man and a woman go out to dinner.
The dialogue begins with David saying, Can I run something by you?
To run something by someone means usually to tell them and to ask for their opinion.
And so you're giving someone an idea or giving them some information and asking them to give you their opinion about it.
So David says, hey Sally, can I run something by you?
And Sally says, sure, what's up?
Meaning, what is it that you want to talk about?
David says that a friend of a friend not his friend, but a friend of his friends had wanted some help with her taxes.
Here.
When someone says I will help you with your taxes T-A-X-E-S, that means they will help you prepare the paperwork or the forms that you have to send in to the government.
Taxes, of course, is money you pay the government.
In the United States we have income tax, a federal national income tax, and you have to send in information every year, by April 15th, of how much money you made last year, how many, how much taxes you paid already, and then you have to send any additional tax that you 0 the government.
Well, David is going to help this woman prepare her taxes and they decided to talk about it over dinner.
When we say over dinner or over lunch or over some meal, we mean while we are eating dinner or right after we eat dinner.
So if someone says, let's talk about it over lunch, they mean let's go to lunch and there we can talk about it.
Well, at the end of the night, David says when the bill or the check came, the woman expected David to pay.
David said it was really awkward.
To be awkward, A-W-K-W-A-R-D, means that it was strange, it was odd.
Awkward is when neither person feels very comfortable.
And no one knows quite what to do.
So, for example, if you were talking to a woman that you were romantically interested in and her husband came up and started talking to her, that might be a little awkward for you.
So it's sometimes the same as embarrassing, but not always.
It just means an uncomfortable situation.
David says that the dinner that he was having wasn't a date.
A date of course.
D-A-T-E is when a man and a woman go out, or you go out with someone you are romantically interested in.
Have dinner, a movie, and so forth.
Well, David says that he was doing her a favor.
And to do someone a favor means that you are helping them.
You are doing something nice for them.
David says, am I crazy or was she taking advantage of me?
That expression, am I crazy, means am I wrong?
Isn't this obvious that I am right and the other person is wrong?
Am I crazy or was she taking advantage of me?
To take advantage of someone means that, for example, I ask you to come over to my house to help me fix something in my house, fix my computer.
And when you're there, you say yes.
And then I say oh, and can you fix my brother's computer, my sister's computer and my uncle's computer?
Well, you are taking advantage of that person, meaning you're asking them to do something much more than what they said.
They were being nice to you, and then you treat them in a not very nice or not very considerate way.
So to take advantage of someone is a negative thing.
Well, Sally says that it definitely sounds like the woman took advantage of his generosity.
Generosity means, of course, to be generous means to give other people your time or your money or things.
That is to be generous, to be nice.
Sally says that she, the woman at the dinner, should have paid.
No question.
We say no question.
We mean there is no doubt.
This is absolutely certain that this is correct.
No question.
David then says, the thing is, I thought she was really pretty.
That is a very common expression.
The thing is to tell someone that you are about to tell them something important or something interesting.
It's another way of saying, what I am about to say is very important.
Well, David says that he thought the woman was very pretty.
And he wanted to ask her out after he met her.
To ask someone out means, you probably know, to ask them to go with you on a romantic date.
Sally then says that unless David asked the woman out, he should not have had to pay for her.
She then goes on to say that a lot of people go Dutch.
To go Dutch, capital D-U-T-C-H, means that everyone pays for themselves.
So when two people go out to dinner and they decide to go Dutch, that means each person will pay for their own meal.
Dutch as an adjective means from the Netherlands, the country in Europe, and Europe.
Probably not a very nice thing to say about people from the Netherlands, but it's an expression we use in English.
To go Dutch means that everyone pays for themselves.
To invite someone would mean that you paid.
You would pay for them, but to go Dutch, you pay for yourself.
Well, Sally says to David that he should stay away from this woman, meaning he should not be with or try to go out with this woman.
That is, she says, unless you don't mind being her sugar daddy.
Unless you don't mind, meaning if it doesn't bother you, being her sugar daddy that's kind of a funny expression sugar s u g a r daddy d a d d y like a father to be a sugar daddy means that you are a man who pays for everything that uh a woman wants and uh Again, it's sort of the idea that she is taking advantage of you.
If you are romantically interested in each other.
To be a sugar daddy would be to pay for all of her bills, all of her food and so forth.
It's a negative term, however.
Sally here uses it as a joke, and David says in response...
He says, yeah, right.
That expression, yeah, right, or yeah, right, means I disagree.
That's not true.
You would think it would mean I agree, but it actually means the opposite, when you say it with that particular intonation, that particular tone.
Yeah, right means I don't believe you.
That's not something that I agree with.
David says that he's too broke to be anybody's sugar daddy.
To be broke, B-R-O-K-E, means not to have any money.
I'm broke.
I don't have any money.
That's true.
Not just in the story.
Well, David then says that the dinner he had with this woman will be the last I see of her.
The last, L-A-S-T, means I won't be seeing her again.
Now let's listen to the dialogue at a native rate of speech.
Hey Sally, can I run something by you?
Sure, what's up?
Well, a friend of a friend wanted some help with her taxes and we agreed that we would talk about it over dinner.
At the end of the night, when the check came, she expected me to pay.
It was really awkward.
It wasn't a date and I was doing her a favor.
Am I crazy or was she taking advantage of me?
It definitely sounds like she took advantage of your generosity.
She was asking you a favor.
She should have paid.
No question.
The thing is, I thought she was really pretty and I wanted to ask her out after I met her.
But now I'm not sure.
Well, I think that unless you asked her out, you shouldn't have to pay for her.
And these days, a lot of people go Dutch, even if one person asks out the other.
Based on what happened the other night, I'd stay away from this woman.
That is, unless you don't mind being her sugar daddy.
Yeah, right.
I'm too broke to be anybody's sugar daddy, even if I wanted to.
I think you're right.
That will be the last I see of her.
Our very own Dr. Lucy Say wrote today's very interesting script.
Remember to visit our website at eslpodcom for more information and for the script of today's podcast.
From Los Angeles, I'm Jeff McQuillan.
Thanks for listening.
We'll see you next time on ESL Podcasts.
English as a Second Language podcast is written and produced by Dr Lucy Say, hosted by Dr Jeff McQuillan.
This podcast is copyright 2006.
