Welcome to English as a Second Language podcast, number 47, Teamwork.
This is English as a Second Language podcast, episode 47.
I'm your host, Dr Jeff McQuillan, coming to you from the Center for Educational Development in beautiful Los Angeles, California.
In this episode, we're going to discuss getting along with people, whether at work or at school.
Let's get started.
So does that sound okay with you?
What?
Oh, I'm sorry.
I didn't hear what you said.
Oh, it's this guy I know from this class I'm taking.
His name is Richard.
I think I've mentioned him before.
Yeah, sure.
The guy you're working on a project with, right?
Yeah, that's him.
The four of us are supposed to be working as a team on this project.
And I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with him.
What do you mean?
Well, he doesn't know how to express his opinion without putting other people down.
And he always has to be right.
He sounds a little immature.
Yeah, I think it's partly that.
He doesn't know how to be diplomatic with people.
He doesn't know how?
I don't know, but I do know that sometimes he really gets the better of me.
Are the other people in your group feeling the same way?
Yeah, in fact, they're fed up with him.
I keep having to run interference when our discussions get too heated.
Actually, I feel really sorry for the guy.
He doesn't seem to have too many friends, and he always seems so unhappy.
Well, I think you're helping just by putting up with him.
Thanks for trying to make me feel better.
Okay, now what were you saying?
Our dialogue begins with me saying to Lucy...
So, does that sound okay with you?
The expression to sound S-O-U-N-D.
Okay with someone, or to someone means does it seem like a good idea?
Do you think this is acceptable?
Does it sound okay?
Lucy says, what?
Oh, I'm sorry.
I didn't hear what you said.
Lucy, of course, is not paying attention to what I am saying.
This happens all the time.
I say, you seem preoccupied today.
What's up?
To be preoccupied means P-R-E-O-C-C-U-P-I-E-D, means to be distracted, not to be focused on what you are doing.
Thinking about something else instead of what you should be thinking about.
That's being preoccupied.
The word occupied means to be busy.
To be preoccupied means to be busy in your mind thinking of lots of different things.
Too busy to focus on what you should be doing.
Jeff then says, and that's me, what's up?
Meaning, what's going on?
Lucy says, oh, it's this guy I know from this class I'm taking.
Now we learn that Lucy is a student and she's thinking about a guy a man in this case, from her class that she is taking, that she is studying in.
She says, his name is Richard.
I think I've mentioned him before.
I say, yeah, sure, the guy you're working on a project with, right?
The person that you are working on some sort of project for the class with.
Lucy says, yeah, that's him.
The four of us are supposed to be working as a team on this project.
And I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with him.
So there are four people in this group that are supposed to be working on a project together, perhaps writing a paper, writing an essay or something similar.
She says that she's having a lot of trouble dealing with Richard.
To deal with someone is a phrasal verb meaning to handle someone, to manage someone, to be able to get along with and work with someone or some problem.
We will sometimes say, I need to deal with this problem right now.
That means I need to work on this problem, manage it, solve it.
I then say to Lucy, what do you mean?
What are you trying to tell me, Lucy?
Lucy says, well, he doesn't know how to express his opinion without putting other people down.
To put other people down means, Or to put down other people means to criticize them, to insult them by talking as though they weren't as good as you.
When you put someone down, you are saying they are not as good as you.
You are saying something mean or critical about that person.
Don't confuse this with putting down an animal.
To put down an animal means to kill the animal.
We're not talking about killing anyone here.
Not yet.
Lucy says that Richard always has to be right.
Someone who always has to be right, always has to be person who is correct in any situation or any discussion.
So if you are married or have a girlfriend, for example, you learn very quickly that your wife or girlfriend is always right.
If you don't learn that quickly, you won't have a wife or a girlfriend for a very long time.
Well, back to the story.
I say that Richard sounds a little immature.
To be immature, I M M A T U R E, is to be not mature.
To be mature means to be grown up, to be an adult, to act responsibly like an adult, like a person who is older.
To be immature means to act like a child, not to do things that you would expect from someone over the age of 18 or 21.
Lucy says, yeah, I think it's partly that.
That's part of the reason.
She says, he doesn't know how to be diplomatic with people.
To be diplomatic D-I-P-L-O-M-A-T-I-C means to be polite, to be nice, to be sensitive, to be able to talk to people in a way that everyone is happy, in a way that doesn't anger anyone.
That's to be diplomatic.
The adjective comes from the noun diplomat, who is a person who goes usually to another country representing his or her own country.
An ambassador would be an example of a diplomat.
Well, unfortunately, Richard is not very diplomatic, according to Lucy.
I say he doesn't know how or he doesn't want to.
What I'm saying here is that Is it the case that Richard doesn't know how to be diplomatic, or that he knows how, but he doesn't want to be diplomatic?
Lucy says, I don't know, but I do know that sometimes he really gets the better of me.
To get the better, B-E-T-T-E-R, of someone is means to defeat them, to win against them.
That would be to get the better of someone.
A situation could get the better of you.
This heat is getting the better of me.
It's making me tired and hot and angry.
Well, not angry.
Sometimes heat makes people angry, though.
At least it doesn't help.
Cold can also make people angry.
I continue by saying, well, he sounds pretty hard to get along with.
I'm saying that Richard appears to be a person who is difficult to get along with, to be friends with, to work with.
I then ask, are the other people in your group feeling the same way?
Do they have the same opinion?
Lucy says, yeah, which is an informal way of saying yes.
In fact, they're fed up with him.
To be fed F-E-D up with someone is a phrasal verb meaning to be tired of someone, to be bothered or annoyed by a person or a situation.
You don't want to tolerate it anymore.
You can't take it anymore, we might say.
Lucy says the other people in her group are fed up with Richard.
She says To run interference means to try to prevent people from fighting, to calm people down who are arguing about something, especially people who may be difficult to deal with.
When we say a discussion gets heated h-e-a-t-e-d, we mean it becomes intense, it becomes an argument with strong emotions that people begin to express.
Maybe people are yelling at each other, shouting at each other.
Lucy says, actually, I feel really sorry for the guy.
To feel sorry for someone is means to feel upset for someone because of the situation that person is in.
If I feel sorry for you, I am empathetic.
I am thinking about you and understanding that you are going through a difficult situation.
Lucy says, Richard doesn't seem to have too many friends, that is, very many friends.
I say, well, I think you're helping just by putting up with him.
To put up with someone or some situation means to tolerate, to accept someone, a situation, even though you're not very happy about it.
At the end of the dialogue, Lucy then thanks me.
She says, thanks for trying to make me feel better.
Okay, now what were you saying?
She's asking me to repeat what I was saying to her at the beginning of the dialogue.
Now let's listen to the dialogue, this time at a normal speed.
So, does that sound okay with you?
What?
Oh, I'm sorry.
I didn't hear what you said.
You seem preoccupied today.
What's up?
Oh, it's this guy I know from this class I'm taking.
His name is Richard.
I think I've mentioned him before.
Yeah, sure.
The guy you're working on a project with, right?
Yeah, that's him.
The four of us are supposed to be working as a team on this project and I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with him.
What do you mean?
Well, he doesn't know how to express his opinion without putting other people down, and he always has to be right.
He sounds a little immature.
Yeah, I think it's partly that.
He doesn't know how to be diplomatic with people.
He doesn't know how or he doesn't want to?
I don't know, but I do know that sometimes he really gets the better of me.
Well, he sounds pretty hard to get along with.
Are the other people in your group feeling the same way?
Yeah, in fact, they're fed up with him.
I keep having to run interference when our discussions get too heated.
Actually, I feel really sorry for the guy.
He doesn't seem to have too many friends and he always seems so unhappy.
Well, I think you're helping just by putting up with him.
Thanks for trying to make me feel better.
Okay, now what were you saying?
Thanks to our great script writer, Dr. Lucy Say, for all of her hard work.
And thanks to you for listening.
From Los Angeles, California, I'm Jeff McQuillan.
Come back and listen to us again here on ESL Podcasts.
English as a Second Language podcast is written and produced by Dr Lucy Say, hosted by Dr Jeff McQuillan.
This podcast is copyright 2006.
